7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

5,888 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”

sb13qj

November 6, 2013 at 6:52 pm

hey i just brokeup with my bf last week and we had lots of small breakups and we would talk to each other the next day those time I told him i do t wanna see him again and i stop calling me and he stop calling me as we’ll.dew days ago in uploaded photos with my friends at a club which he knew I’m going from 2 weeks ago .right a day after he post a pic in db of him ina Halloween party which he told me he wasn’t going to one ad sont wanna dress up but he was completely dressed up.i just got so mach mad because he lied to me about not going .i cant say this wasn’t planed until we brokeup because we broke up two days after Halloween and im assuming he must’ve bought the custom ahead and eveything was planed but because we brokeup he upload the pictures to make me jealous .i dont know what to do I’m trying to stay calm ad dot post anything desperate on fb and just to focus on my self at the same time i miss him and i want him to contact me ! what should i do?

admin

November 7, 2013 at 5:22 pm

Right now you are doing the right thing. Obviously NC is a smart thing to do.

Martina

November 6, 2013 at 6:28 pm

Here’s my story I dated this guy for only three months three weeks into it I found out he got back with his ex of 4years but he said he only did it cuz she wouldn’t stop crying and he hope it would change anything between us and it didnt we txted everyday seen each other twice a week he constantly said he missed me and wantd to see me everything was fine until I told him I had feelings then I didn’t hear from him for a week his phone was disconnect I couldn’t contact him then 6 days of not hearing from him he txted me I didn’t asked why he changed him number or anything I just went wit the flow but we didnt talk as often and didnt see each other finally after a week of not seeing each other and hardly text we got together, the next two days he texted me alil so after that I texted him and told him he could just b straight with me if he wantd to end it and he just said stop that which he does wen he doesn’t wanna talk bout something after that he ignored my text for four day which made me text him constantly saying imu I wantu to c him he knows how I feel blah blah blah and he never answered one txt….. Than the next day he texted goodmorning I said goodmorning bak and again I haven’t heard from him in two days so I texted him again and said it’s disrespectful that he’s ignoring me and I can’t constantly b ignore rather u kno I love u r watever though I hope u contact me if u don’t u don’t. It’s been two days since I said that I really miss him and want to text him what should I do?

admin

November 7, 2013 at 5:12 pm

Have you done NC yet?

Paige

November 5, 2013 at 9:42 pm

My ex and I dated for about a month, not long at all I know and we met only a few weeks before we became official. He is an hour away from my college, I met him when visiting my friend. He lives in PA and I live in MN but he is in MN strictly playing for a Junior Hockey League. We broke up about a week and a half ago, in that time I have accidentally sent him a snapchat intended for someone else (he didn’t respond). On Halloween, I received a snap from him that he sent to I’m assuming everyone because my friend got it, I didn’t respond. I sent out a mass snapchat of myself saying “Happy Halloween :)” and he responded just a picture of himself with a mask on, I did not respond. Neither of us have tried to contact each other other than those few snapchats. I have been posting pictures and tweets of Halloween and going out with friends and having a great time to show him I am doing fine without him. I don’t have the ability to “run” into him or see him at all unless I went to visit my friend for a weekend. One other thing, my birthday is this Sunday and if he texts me or tweets at me saying happy birthday, I feel like it would be rude if I did not respond? Especially if I responded to his teammates telling me happy birthday..

What is your opinion on my actions thus far and about the possible birthday text/tweet?

admin

November 6, 2013 at 5:02 pm

I wouldn’t respond. Sometimes you have to be rude!
Paige

November 11, 2013 at 5:24 pm

My birthday was yesterday and I received no acknowledgment from my ex. No happy birthday tweet, text, or writing on my wall on Facebook. At this point I feel like he’s completely forgotten about me or dislikes me for some reason. I thought we left everything on good terms when we broke up two weeks ago. Still neither of us have tried to contact each other besides those snapchats. We broke up two weeks ago from Saturday (the 9th) and haven’t talked in that period of time. How much longer should I do the NC rule? I feel like it’s not doig anything :/
admin

November 11, 2013 at 7:21 pm

You are supposed to be working on yourself during the NC rule that is sooo important.
Paige

November 12, 2013 at 4:36 am

I am trying my best. I am starting to work out more, hanging out with friends, etc. I generally am forgetting about him but the birthday thing got to me.
admin

November 12, 2013 at 7:10 pm

Hey, you are doing just fine then. Its tough but hang in there.
Paige

November 19, 2013 at 12:41 am

We still haven’t talked, next week will be 30 days since we broke up/talked last. I am writing this because a few days ago, one of his friends from home suffered a spinal chord injury and has been in and out of surgery since. The Pittsburgh Penguins twitter account tweeted about the injury so I’m guessing it’s really severe.. It’s all Vinnie has been tweeting about. Please let me know if I should text him saying anything about the situation or continue with no contact until the 30 days is up.
admin

November 19, 2013 at 6:37 pm

Continue with no contact 🙂
Kali

November 21, 2013 at 3:30 am

Sorry to write again, just noticed that he unfollowed me on Twitter.. Not sure why because our breakup was left on good terms and whatnot. He never even unfollowed his ex who cheated on him and started a huge fight with him and I via twitter when we first started dating, he still followed her so I’m not sure why he felt the need to unfollow me seeing as I don’t tweet more than 10 times daily, usually about 5. Anyway, when we were together he said his ex was crazy and cheated on him and they were only together about a month and that he doesn’t talked to her and ignored her, well they’re both going home this weekend to see their mutual friend who was injured and I’m guessing they’re going to see each other because he’s been tweeting at her and retweeting and favoriting her things.. I feel like I may have been a “lesson” to teach her she can’t get away with cheating on him.. I don’t know. Our 30 day NC rule is up on Monday, I don’t know whether to think he used me to teach her a lesson or he unfollowed me to get my attention, I don’t know. Do I proceed with the plan to text him Monday?
admin

November 21, 2013 at 7:10 pm

Maybe both. That is why he unfollowed you.

Yes defintely proceed.
Paige

November 21, 2013 at 3:31 am

Also, that post above was me, my friend made a post the other day via my computer so her info must have been typed in still
admin

November 21, 2013 at 7:04 pm

🙁 Well hopefully you are able to get my responses.

kris

November 5, 2013 at 2:07 pm

My ex and i never talked for almost two months now. I texted him but i was not being desperate and needy. i just asked how he was and i have included him also in my group messages. and he didnt respond to any of my text until now. and he still didnt change his password in facebook but when i looked in the activity log, I found out that he added pretty girls in fb. I think he is finding someone else 🙁 what should i do?

admin

November 5, 2013 at 6:33 pm

Have you used any of the texts I suggest?
kris

November 6, 2013 at 10:56 am

Not yet.

Isabella

November 5, 2013 at 8:05 am

I am in a long distance relationship.So far it has been a very loving and very passionate relationship.In December I was to visit him and stay for a month with him but things changed in one day.He is still saying he is in love with me but cannot let go of the fact that I had a relationship before him.Furthermore he is saying he needs to work out a few things in his mind concerning me.There are a few things he states he doesn’t like about me but I haven’t fully understood what he is complaining about.Talking countless of hours on the phone has not brought me any closer to any kind of resolution.I contact him daily and try to get answers but I only get further confused.One day he begs me and the next day he pushes me away and says he wishes to punish me.Is there any hope to salvage this relationship because I do love him.

admin

November 5, 2013 at 6:21 pm

Have you read my LDR guide?

Monica

November 5, 2013 at 5:28 am

my boyfriend and I just celebrated our 2 year anniversary yesterday and broke up today. We’ve had little break ups here and there that NEVER last, because we only say these things out of anger. And get back right together at the end of the day. The longest we’ve gone without talking during a breakup is 5 days, and he always ends up coming back. Towards the end of this breakup, I felt that he was very distant and not like himself.. and he told me that he no longer wanted this and that it just wouldn’t work out. But because he comes back every time.. I’m hoping he will. Maybe it’s just because he’s my best friend, he was my best friend before we started dating. I really just can’t let him, and all that we’ve been through go. what should i do?

admin

November 5, 2013 at 6:10 pm

Have you ever tried a NC rule?
Monica

November 6, 2013 at 8:14 pm

He texted me yesterday “is it hard for you to be friends?” And I didn’t reply till the next morning. I said “I’ll think about it.” And now I’m planning on NC. But yes I’ve done it before and it has worked. I just don’t know if it will this time because it seems like he really has no interest or care for this relationship
admin

November 7, 2013 at 5:25 pm

I think its worth a try.

Tamara

November 4, 2013 at 9:53 pm

I was (reasonably) successfully on NC for about 2 weeks when he “bumped” into me at a club he knew I would be in. It was obvious he had planned to be there cos I was there. I acted cool and non-chalant, but still had to talk to him casually. Does my NC have to start from scratch from that day?

Also does visiting the Facebook page in an almost stalkerish way count as a no-no?

admin

November 5, 2013 at 5:25 pm

no him bumping into you was not of your doing.
Tamara

November 6, 2013 at 10:52 pm

How about the Facebook visits? I am worried I am overdoing it, but he really is on my mind every day and I have no means of helping my mind relax..
admin

November 7, 2013 at 5:41 pm

As long as you remained disciplined with not reaching out to him you can look at his page all you want.

CookieMonster

November 4, 2013 at 8:50 pm

Thank you for your page and insight. Do you think getting an ex back can be achieved with minimal contact instead of no contact?

My ex and I were only friends for 3 years, with no known attraction to each other. It was towards the latter part of those 3 years I did something (not sure what…I think I got over some family drama and was generally happier) that brought his attention to me. He left his ex gf a good friend of mine for me. At first I didn’t want a relationship because his ex was a good friend of mine, but as we hung out more he sparks a and chemistry were there, and we had very similar views on life the universe and everything.
As we actually considered dating the ex gf finds out we are together and even though their relationship was over she goes psychotic, guilts him when they hang out (they were trying to remain friends) etc etc. after this mess he tells me he wants to be single for awhile. He dated her trough the last 3 years of highshool (we were 20-21 ish) up to that point and realized he didn’t know how to be alone and grow as an individual. I fought it so hard. Why had I just lost a friend for dating her ex for it to be taken away so quickly? I thought this was more than what it was at that time so I didn’t want to let go. I gave him his space for like a week but we made up, went back to dating, and this has been our relationship for 3 years now….off and on. We will be great for 6-8 months then BAM!!!! He doesn’t know what he wants, needs to figure himself out…I’ll give him some space but we get back together. This is the only thing I see wrong with the relationship. We have small fights sure but not over anything I think is incomparable for a long term relationship. This last time he broke up with me 3 weeks ago and I finally just let I happen. It hurts so much to have something I believe in not in my control just now but I still believe, just tired of crying over it. I have not really enacted no contact. He texted me the first 3 days of the breakup talking about this is hard but he feels learning to deal with change is good. I texted the 5th day to remind him to hand off phone bill money (we are on the same contract) to a mutual friend. Then the start of the second week I called him and said I’m supposed to be aloof and making you miss me but my relationship with you even if only ever more as a friend means so much more to me than playing games. I was good and didn’t contact him until he posted something on Facebook about loss and I had to find out what had happened…a father of another mutual friend had passed…..He texted me a few days after that, asking about a show we watched together and if I had seen the latest episode. Then he texted this past Saturday to ask I I wanted to grab some lunch. He picked me up, paid for lunch, held doors, ordered for me. Tiny things. We did not talk abou the relationship, just laughed and talked and had a stress free time.

I feel like all signs point to him missing me and truely just needing to figure out how he feels on his own and without me (realize how much he loves me) and while this contact has helped me transition to it being over, I don’t want to misinterpret anything and be inadvertently lead on. Given that it’s been a pretty smooth breakup, I feel like breaking contact now might do more harm than good, like come off as bitchy or playing games. Could I go minimal contact? Only respond if he texts or calls me? Keep it short? I’ve been going out and it’s been Halloween so I’ve been to parties in my cute costume and he’s seen pics of me looking fabulous while doing my own thing….

I’m rambling….but I can’t explain how much this relationship feels right and I think I’m just looking for some reassurance that I can hold the faith, that chances look good….or some honesty if I just need to move on and maybe he will never know what he wants….

admin

November 5, 2013 at 5:19 pm

Yup it is definitely possible to use MC to get an ex back.

However, it will not be as effective as NC at all.

Lau

November 4, 2013 at 2:40 pm

Hi Chris,

Thank you for your post I found this really helpful. However I feel like I have no will power and find NC so hard.

My story is I have an ex who has been my ex for nearly 2 years now. His been in my life for 3. His my drug and it’s not a healthy one. I have tried NC so many times I even changed my number but he set up a facebook profile and contacted me that way! This person after tells me he doesn’t like me, he uses me and his not in love with me anymore. YET in my deluded head I can’t accept this because when I do what is right and cut him out of my life he ALWAYS comes back and I get so confused thinking he still cares.

I’ve tried everything self help books, therapy, hypnotherapy, the police to get over this guy. I even had a new bf who was everything I wished for who did love and respect me but I messed it up because I went back to my ex. As messed up as this sounds and even after everything his put me through I love him and I still care so much for him. Walking away with respect and dignity I should do but at this moment in time I can’t. I always have this hope that he will change…be the person I that does love me, respects me, doesn’t cheat and our dream we spoke about will come true.

This is my last chance at trying. What do I do to win him back? How can I also do NC?

Thanks

admin

November 4, 2013 at 6:21 pm

Whoa… the police?

Just start NC and stick with it. That seems to be the main problem here.

unhappygirl

November 3, 2013 at 9:02 pm

i broke up with him 3 days ago.we had ups and downs and he was trying to break up with me before but i kept holding on to us, until 3days ago. he was sad but he agreed and said it would be the best for both of us. however i dont agree i really do wanna be with him and im sure we could make it work. but its on him. he would have to make an effort and all the work…thats why i broke up. anyway. unfortunately ive been contacted him since! i called, texted and even went to our apartment today to get my stuff when in reality i just wanted to see him. i started crying and told him i love him and he told me he loved me too.
after that we did talk on the phone this afternoon again, because i called him. i just felt the urge to contact him=(
and again i just texted and called him a few hours ago but no reply:( maybe it was too much for him..
my question now. would that no contact rule still work??? since ive been contacting him all the time:( i mean, he knows for sure i miss him…could i just start now and stop contacting him from now on?? even tho i just texted/called him a few hours ago and actually am still waiting for a call??

admin

November 4, 2013 at 5:14 pm

Sure it would! I would even recommend it.
unhappygirl

November 5, 2013 at 1:02 pm

unfortunately i called him yesterday. actually we talked several times. i started crying and got all emotional. and he said maybe it would be the best if we didnt talk/text everyday so we can both distance ourselves and have a clear head.
i was sad about it but said ok if he says so.
i asked him if he could still imagine being with me:( and he said he doesnt know, at the moment he kinda cant but he doesnt know what will be in the next weeks/months.
why would he say that????? what does he think/mean??
it made me think he just wanna get away from the stress right now, and knows for sure that he will wanna get back with me in a few weeks/months. ?? i know he loves me and misses me. he said its not that he doesnt wanna be iwth me, it just doesnt work:(
in my opinion its up to him, he was the one who made mistakes (e.g. left me alone on my bday)
we had a lot of problems and it was due to his immaturity i would say.
maybe he needs time for himself to feel good again? and to distance himself from the stress?? and to establish his self confidence again?
he still has our photo as profil pic in whatsapp (chat messenger). does that mean he doesnt wanna find closure??? on fb he’s still in a relationship with me. then again hes not a big fb type of guy maybe he just doesnt care about the status.
but all of that makes me hope its not over yet…..
unhappygirl

November 5, 2013 at 1:04 pm

and yes im trying the no contact rule from now on. yesterday should be the last day i contacted him.
admin

November 5, 2013 at 6:31 pm

I think that is the best way to go for sure.

kranchiez

November 3, 2013 at 8:48 pm

hello Chris, i came to your site because iam hurting and hopefully u can advise me what to do. my boyfriend and i have been seeing each other for 6 months. he lives in a town 4hours from mine. i took every opportunity to visit him so that we spend enough time to gether. we would talk every day on skype .a week ago he broke up with me. i asked why and he said he no longer feels the same way anymore. the worst part is that he said this through a text. i am so hurt, he told me to forget about him. but how can i when i love him so much? i asked him if we could start over but he sAis he didnt feel anything. he said iam a good girl. this week marks our birthdays and we had planned to celebrate together. but this seems like it wont happen. i asked him if he could come to my town so we celebrate, and he said he will see what he can do. Chris, i really miss him so much, i have not sent a text since asking him to come to my town for birthday. . i dnt know if he will come cos he never calls or texts me. what should i do? is he even thinking about me anymore?i fought for our relationship but now i dont know what to do. iam afraid if i continue he may hate me. pls advise. thank you so much.

admin

November 4, 2013 at 5:12 pm

Well are you in NC currently?

Tyler

November 3, 2013 at 6:36 pm

So, my boyfriend initiated breakup yesterday. He said he still loves me and wants to be with me so I initiated a one month break. So far, Im doing horrible! And hes doing great. Says he likes being independent and what not. So, I was stupid, and called him, hoping that he would agree that after the break he’d still have feelings. Cause he always changes his mind, well, I pretty much made it worse. Yeah. Cause Im dumb. When he texts me I reply. Plus, we both are going to the same fundraiser later, and I cant miss it cause its for my friend who has cancer. So… Like… Do I stop talking to him from here on out? Work out? Advertise me having fun? Like, Im already at a huge disadvantage… Cause he inititated the breakup, and I answered his texts. How can I playwhatever cards I have left correctly? I was so happy.

admin

November 4, 2013 at 4:53 pm

Are you going to do NC?
Tyler

November 15, 2013 at 4:46 am

Oh! Chris!
I am glad to see a reply.
The situation has changed.
Turns out he cheated on me and dumped me for her.
She wanted to talk, we told each other our sides,
and she broke up with him.
He said we would get back together if they didnt work out.
But we arent. He just wants to be friends.
He says we have no chance of getting back together.
We dated for a year. Right now I have not started NC because I am scared.
I dont think he sees me positively right now. He said hes happy he broke up with me. Im guessing he got bored, his feelings changed, and another girl was in the picture. She and I are sort of friends now. She feels that he still has feelings for me, but he is saying otherwise. What if I start NC and he is happy without me in his life? If I have no chance with him, then I would like to keep him as a friend. I have another post that has more information about my situation, so I will be watching your replies on each. Would greatly appreciate email. Thank you so much, goping for the best.
admin

November 15, 2013 at 7:09 pm

I am so sorry he cheated..

I would def do NC though.

Brylie Stockard

November 3, 2013 at 3:21 pm

so my boyfriend just texted me saying he was done with me, and he loves me but he cant take all this cheating drama anymore. people are lying to.him telling him I was cheating when I never have cheated on a guy in my life! I just dont know what to do

admin

November 3, 2013 at 6:22 pm

Man do these people hate you or something.

Sasha

November 3, 2013 at 1:01 pm

My boyfriend says he adores me,he cares about me and he misses me but he needs time,everything was perfect and we were happy and now he won’t even read my text messages. We have been together 3 months and were in our 30’s with kids so not being naive here. What should I do?

admin

November 3, 2013 at 6:18 pm

Give him time at this point.

mimigrace

November 3, 2013 at 3:45 am

hello good sir,

i just need a little support. my ex and i were together for about a year, and he broke up with me for a couple reasons: 1) i got physical with him when i was drunk (i have since given up drinking, and am seeking therapy); 2) i think, because i gave him the option? i told him i would understand if he didn’t/couldn’t stay with me while i made some important changes. well, he took that option–and i’m MISERABLE. i know he still loves me because he told me he does; he told me he needed his distance, but wasn’t giving up on me…but then he told me he after that has no interest in dating me because of my selfish decisions.

*sigh*

i didn’t start out with no contact because i was out of my damned mind with heartbreak, but i’m doing my best to implicate it now. this is the end of day 1 (it has been ten days since he broke up with me).

this hurts. tell me i’m doing the right thing, that thirty days of misery is worth it if it might bring us back together. (note: he originally told me he wouldn’t even think about getting close again for three months.)

thanks,

mimi

admin

November 3, 2013 at 6:00 pm

You are abosultey doing the right thing! Don’t even think you aren’t

Anonymous

November 2, 2013 at 11:51 pm

So here goes
We were together for 8 years ( 4 year old together and one on the way) We were suppose to move into our new house yeaterday (we have lived together for almost the whole relationship so nothing new) Friday night he told me we need a break and (after me asking him) said he wants to be with his ex who he also has a child with and had gone shopping with earlier that night. So after my long story I guess me question is how can the nc rule or anything apply to a situation with a child?

admin

November 3, 2013 at 5:40 pm

Mid life crisis?

You are going to have to implement a MC rule as evidenced on this page: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/get-your-boyfriend-back-if-you-have-a-child-together/
Anonymous

November 4, 2013 at 11:59 am

He’s 29, not so midlife. I read the link and I’m going to try everything on there and we will see 🙂 Thank you!
admin

November 4, 2013 at 6:16 pm

No problem! And good luck!

Gcav

November 2, 2013 at 10:36 pm

Of course like everyone else I am hoping my ex will miss me. We had a wonderful but short relationship. He’s older and I’m a bit younger but we always had fun. I have trust issues and had a hard time with him being close with one of his close girl friends. After him sleeping at her house one night I was too sketched out that we had a few arguments about it. He said he had lost his emotional connection with me but he wants to be mature about it and be friends. I can’t let myself have false hope and hurt so I say thanks for the offer but I need to heal. It’s been two weeks since the break up. I blocked him from all social networks. He still likes pictures and comments on photos of my moms on her Facebook. My mom decided to write him because they are so close and he loved her. He was actually close with the whole family. But anyways I want to tell him I miss him bc it’s how I feel and I don’t want it to be too late. He has a jar time expressing negative emotions and only believes in law of attraction and positive thinking. He didn’t seem to have a hard time Breaking up with me. He’s a wonderful man, successful, soft spoken and sweet. Nothing went wrong here but him not wanting to deal with the stress of the relationship. He’s a strong minded men. I just don’t know if this guide will work. What do you suggest?

admin

November 3, 2013 at 5:33 pm

I suggest not only sticking to this guide. Read all the other ones on this site. They all kind of work together in a weird way.

bri

November 2, 2013 at 3:39 pm

I did nc for 30 days, then texted him simple how are you doin? He replied within half hour. Then he called the next morning left message. I tested later that day asked a good time to talk, he phoned right then. Good light conversation, then we ended call. The next week he texted me what’s up, we texted briefly, he was hinting he wants to see me, next day I texted to see him. I did see him, he greeted me with kisses and it seemed as if there was NEver a break we ended up having sex. The next week he says he needs space to himself, (he travels) says hes been on everyone else’s schedule and says he will call me next week and he has something at his house I will see next time I’m over… he never called and its next week right now. I’ve done ncer with him before , but he’s never actually said he needed time to himself before. I’m devastated. I jumped the gun. Please why would he mention wanting me to see something at his house if he knows he’s not going to see me again?? Need advise! thanks

admin

November 3, 2013 at 5:04 pm

First off, you should have texted more than a “how you doin?” text.

You also shouldn’t have slept with him.

Go back into NC for a week or two.

Micky

October 31, 2013 at 2:18 pm

Morning Chris,
I just have a quick question. When you do NC, does that include not talking to mutual friends or family? My ex has a 13 yr old niece who I am very close to, I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but my gut is telling me he thinks I am talking to her to get to him.

Micky

November 1, 2013 at 12:51 pm

Thanks Chris, he actually asked his niece if we were talking, she lied( I didn’t promote that) and said no, he said “Well if she texts you, talk to her”. Not sure what that means exactly, but I remain firm in NC, it’s only been a week and the weekend is upon us, and we both hang at the same dance hall, so we shall see.
I’ve been down this road too many times in my life, to allow any man, for any reason to treat me like and option instead of a priority.
admin

November 1, 2013 at 6:56 pm

Means he kind of misses you it looks like hahahaha.
Micky

November 4, 2013 at 1:08 pm

No contact all weekend, at least not in person, he stayed away from the dance hall, but made sure ( through his niece) that I knew he had a date. I’ve been evaluating his nieces FB posts to me and I am not 100% sure it isn’t him posting, or at least feeding her what to post, so I am backing off communication with her and being very selective in what I say. Seems weird to me that A) a 13 yr old is so interested in an adult relationship and B) that a 13 yr old would start a conversation with me, with ” hello beautiful”
No contact gets easier everyday, because I feel like he is playing games with me trying to gain the control..SMH, isn’t that what I’m trying to do..lol
admin

November 4, 2013 at 6:20 pm

Ah the ole NC Rule Duel. Two men enter… one man leaves!
Micky

November 11, 2013 at 7:10 pm

I know NC is the right thing, I’ve read it on your pages repeatedly, but what’s with his behavior
admin

November 12, 2013 at 6:28 pm

What behavior specifically?
Micky

November 12, 2013 at 8:30 pm

Dancing with me, flirting with me, hell, even speaking to me.

Was he showing off the new girl or trying to make me jealous?

Coming to my table instead of going back to his own?

I am confused
admin

November 13, 2013 at 6:34 pm

I am going to vote make you jealous.
Micky

November 4, 2013 at 4:29 pm

As an update, found out he is moving in with his newest gf, after a week of knowing her. Guess NC was effective.
admin

November 4, 2013 at 6:24 pm

WHAT??? A week and already moving in? Thats crazy. Thats actually a good sign though, they will flame out fast I have a feeling.
Micky

November 4, 2013 at 6:34 pm

I suspect her has found himself a sugar momma, I might have actually dodged a bullet on this one. Who knew Texas men could act like that…lol
admin

November 5, 2013 at 4:57 pm

Hey I am from Texas and I don’t act like that. We aren’t all bad.
Micky

November 5, 2013 at 5:05 pm

Maybe your next post needs to be “How to tell a guy off with class”. After what has happened with my ex and reading some other posts, as a dignified woman, I have to ask, why do we want these guy back? Do we really love them so much or is it more about our egos?
Micky

November 11, 2013 at 1:29 pm

OK, I seriously give up on understanding how men think. After 2 weeks of NC, it finally happened, I ran into my ex at the bar, well actually more like he ran into me with his new girlfriend in tow. OK, let me start at the beginning of this very odd night.

While I live in a big city, I hang out at a relatively small country and western bar; this is my haunt, not my ex’s. So, while I wondered if he might show up there at some point, I was never really worried he would. Saturday night was going like pretty much every other Saturday night, a few adult beverages and a lot of dancing. I was actually considering calling it a night and heading home when I first spotted him, with the “new” girl dancing. All my plans of leaving flew out the window, I knew I wasn’t letting him think he had run me out because I was so upset, so I grabbed the closest guy and hit the dance floor, one dance right after another, laughing and having fun.
Here’s where the night goes bizarre and I become totally confused, I am on the dance floor with my partner when I feel my ex’s hand on my shoulder. I look over and here he is bold as brass, with his new gf. He say’s “Hey girl, how ya doing, I was like, I’m good (I hope I was all smiles and not utter confusion) then he winks at me…yes he winks at me. We continue the dance and a few more dance and finally a song that comes on we don’t want to dance to come on so we leave the floor. I am standing at my table talking to the guy I was dancing with when my ex stops in the middle of the dance floor, yells my name , points at me and says “ 1 dance, you and me” then dances off.
Confused yet??? If you are welcome to my world

A short time later, here comes my ex, without a word grabs my hand and out we go to the dance floor. Now, this wasn’t a slow song, it involved a lot of fast two-steppin and swing so the conversation was a bit broken, but he was insistent on explaining to me he hadn’t moved in with this new girl, I just kept telling him, it was just what I had heard. When the dance ended, instead of going back to his table with his GF, his sister, his mom….he came to my table, and continued to explain he wasn’t living with her and had heard that I deleted his phone number, I told him, haven’t heard a word from you in two weeks and you have a new GF, yes I deleted your number. About that time his sister comes over and reminds him he has drinks waiting at his table and he just walks off.
When I got ready to leave, I had to walk by their table and his sister reached out to hug me and tell me bye as did his mom and he says, “you can hug me, she (pointing to his GF) won’t get mad, I said no, I’m good but thanks, THEN he introduces me to his new GF, awkward…absolutely, but I plastered a smile on my face and oozed southern charm. Then his mom, I’m sure sensing the tension said something about how nice I looked and he said “I am looking pretty hot tonight too” then started doing something that looked like a bad twerk or a horse with colic, I just laughed and said, not hot enough to get a dollar in your jeans from me and then I walked out of the bar.
Sunday, his sister calls me and asks if I told him all him stuff she has been telling me, I said absolutely not. She said he was all worked up because I thought he had moved in with this girl and I knew he thought I was bossy.

Is there a question at the end of this novel, you know there is..ready for it??

Here it comes…..

WTF?????????
Am I doing the right thing?

12 days into NC before Saturday
admin

November 11, 2013 at 6:50 pm

In short… yes right now doing NC is the smartest thing.
Micky

November 7, 2013 at 1:02 pm

You’re right ( as always) a more suiting punishment is simply to continue NC, live your life and make them regret losing someone as awesome as you.Karma is a bitch and as the good old Jo Dee Messina song states “Somebody’s gonna give you a lesson in leavin’
Somebody’s gonna give you back what you’ve been givin’

I really enjoy your posts and interaction within the posts, sometimes it just helps to have someone to vent to!!
admin

November 7, 2013 at 6:28 pm

Im not always right. I am just right “most of the time.” 😉
admin

November 6, 2013 at 4:31 pm

You think so? Telling someone off is hard to be classy b/c they are most likely to get angry at you.
Micky

November 4, 2013 at 6:35 pm

*he*
admin

October 31, 2013 at 8:08 pm

Happy Halloween!

No you can talk to mutual friends and family just not him.

ladylibra

October 31, 2013 at 10:46 am

dear admin

I am so frustrated…. I’ve known a man for almost 2.5 years now …
and over the past 6 months he complained of my attitude towards him which frankly he was being picky on me; accusing me of not answering questions properly and he always said I have the ability to manipulate my replies

I have not argued and always showed him the willingness to change (that was probably wrong)

I’ve always been patient with his attitude as he is a tough man and always shown him I never want to lose him

last year he broke up with me after a fight and 3 days later he called back and we reconciled because how much he missed me

this year same month he broke up with me again on October 6th. I didn’t contact him for a week and then I couldn’t help it. I called him a week later and showed my willingness to change and asked him to give our relation a try if he thought its worth it and he did

we remained in contact for another week and he was the one making the calls but he was terrible cold and terrible rude at times until again last Thursday (7 days ago) he broke up again saying I have no feelings for you and lets not talk… although 2 days before that was my birthday and he sent me a happy birthday wish we r together forever !!!

do men say things they don’t mean??? one day this and one day the opposite? he is 43 and I am 38.. I thought that’s mature enough to at least express what u feel not fool ur partner

I was devastated ; yet 2 days later I found a missed call from him which I did not answer him and I did not call back till today

since he left me a missed call; what did he want? was I wrong not to answer his call? is that why he didn’t call back? is it his ego?

if I maintain the no contact is there any chance to get back together or call me again?

his missed call gave me hope and now I am sick of waiting and starring at my phone all day

I miss him like crazy yet hurt from all he said….

I appreciate your reply

thanks so much; ladylibra

admin

October 31, 2013 at 7:52 pm

You can call me Chris hahaha

Yes but you have to follow the advice I lay out in this blog. Really, you need to read EVERYTHING!

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