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Maria
September 23, 2013 at 1:21 pm
I broke up with his beginning of Aug13 cause he wouldn’t commit and he said he was confused. There have been some attempts of communication on his side but then when I tried to call him, he would ignore my calls. On 7 September I went into NC mode, he sent me a text “Hi, how are you” two days later to which I did not reply. On day 10 of NC exactly he called in the morning I did not reply. He called in the evening and accidentally I did not notice the number I picked up. I was driving and music was loud in the car. There was total silence at this end. After few hellos I hung up. I did not call back and neither did he. Did I do the right thing? Have not attempted to call him or text him since.
admin
September 24, 2013 at 2:40 am
Yes you are doing the right thing.
Maria
September 24, 2013 at 12:11 pm
Today is SEptember 24, he sent me a msg “Hello baby I miss you!!!!”. It is day 17 of NC. I will not respond and continue NC.
admin
September 25, 2013 at 12:50 am
Sweet!
Maria
October 1, 2013 at 10:48 am
Yes, I know I have to continue like this, my fear is that he will never call respond or talk to me again.
admin
October 2, 2013 at 12:25 am
It is a legitimate fear but it is a fear you need to extinguish.
Anyways, you are going to message him yourself eventually so you two will talk again. The probability of that is actually really high.
Maria
September 30, 2013 at 1:52 pm
Yesterday was day 22 and I’ve been on the verge of calling/texting. It hurts so much but I am continuing like this. No more messages from him. Do you think he’ll call/text again if I keep this position? I am very emotional right now.
admin
October 1, 2013 at 2:31 am
Hang on YOU CAN DO IT!!
I know it is so hard. You will be contacting him after NC so it shouldn’t matter as much if he reaches out or not.
Simone
September 23, 2013 at 12:47 pm
We’ve been dating for 10 months and he broke up with me about a month ago, and in this month, I tried begging and pleading and I also tried NC for a day or two but it was too hard so I stopped. We gave it one more try but it didn’t work out because he didn’t want it anymore. So he said it was better to be just friends for now and i told him there can’t be a for now because I wasn’t waiting anymore and I didn’t want to be friends. He said ok. and I started NC. Did i go too far by saying I didn’t want to be friends and i wasn’t going to wait for him? Should i tell him that I actually do want to be friends? Please help me! idk what to do 🙁
admin
September 24, 2013 at 2:37 am
Yea well complete a full 30 day NC period.
Also, grab Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO if you want a more complete gameplan laid out for you.
Maria
September 23, 2013 at 2:30 am
Hi,
So me and my ex dated for a 3 months but before that we were “talking” for another 3. So we were a thing for a total of 6 moths. He was head over heels for me but I dumped him. He begged for me back but i turned him down the we had no contact for 2 months. Once school started again I realized how much I missed him now we are dating again but I was wondering is it ok to say I love you? considering we had a previous relationship or is it still too early?
admin
September 24, 2013 at 2:14 am
Hey, if you are feeling it don’t let me stop you haha.
Anastasiya
September 23, 2013 at 1:04 am
Hello, I wanted to ask for some advice. Today my boyfriend and I broke up. It was mutual and reason is that after having dated for 5 months, I was able to develop feelings for him and I confessed to him 3 months in. I’ve dated two other guys for longer periods of time but was never able to feel love until this guy. He is really sincere, trustworthy and am amazing person, he said he wishes he could say he loves me too but that would just be unfair. We decide that we will break up and hopefully that will let him figure out his feelings, problem is he is very consumed by his job and that might be the issue. He says it’s nothing to do with me and he has told me that no one has ever treated him as good as me. So as I was saying we broke up in hopes of giving him time to understand his feeling fr and see if he loves me too. We both cried while we were breaking up. Please give me some advice. Should I try and get over him or keep hope that we can still be together? I love him very much and I don’t think there is a better person for me out there, please tell me what to do? Anastasiya
admin
September 24, 2013 at 2:09 am
Well the first thing you are going to want to do is enter into a NC period if you haven’t already.
SYEDA
September 21, 2013 at 6:21 pm
HI,
ACTUally my fiance broke up with me due to respect issues..didnt read your advice earlier!!tried v.hard to explain him but he is being v stubborn &askd me to get over..in my anger i deleted him frm facebook he was postng his smiling & enjoying pics then his family returned the engagement ring….i want him back!!any advice??? his brother also unfriend me but my sister still is there face bk friend we live in different countries so no chance of ignoring him,making jealous etc..hw can i say that i still miss him ..look i cant txt him& we r not frinds on fb nw..&hw can i knw bout his feelings ???nearly 2 months hav gone nw
admin
September 21, 2013 at 11:36 pm
So you can’t text him? Do you have his phone number or not?
annie
September 22, 2013 at 2:41 pm
yes i hav..i tried calling him then only(around 2 weeks after the argument)..he didnt receive any of the calls..i feel he may be missng me definitely…but hw to resolve this??
Melli
September 21, 2013 at 2:51 pm
Hello I would like to ask for some advise on my break up matter after reading this page I wondered if these terms of making him miss me will be the same.
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months, we have known each other for years before we actually started dating and when we got together it was for the both of us the best thing ever.
The situation now is that everything was working perfect, we had an amazing relationship but because of his job there was at times not much time we could spend together because he had to go away at times for a few weeks, which didn’t bother me because I knew this is what’s it’s going to be like, but still we were happy, we never really fought maybe just little bickers here and there but nothing major.
He’s just found out that he’s leaving the country to go and work abroad for 2 years and we both knew that I was making plans to move to that place too but he now broke up with me and told me that he still loves me but he don’t think it will work out because he will be working a lot and will never have much time and he don’t want to hurt me further down the line.
Will there still be a chance if I give him the chance to realise what he’s missing?
admin
September 21, 2013 at 11:25 pm
Yes, but you shouldn’t only read this page. I would read this entire site if I was you. That will give you a good gameplan!
P.S. if that isn’t enough simply grab my E-Book and that will give you everything you could ever need.
lia
September 21, 2013 at 6:11 am
my ex keeps coming close to me as in he would come inside the room where i am in. he’ll try to make conversatiom with the person i am talking to. but ive noticed that
recently he has also ststarted to flirt with my friend infront of me and she kinda enjoys it. ours was a mutual breakup.. i ws the one to start it but than just after a week i wanted him.back but he said he just wanted to be friends . and now he does all this. he also tells his friends that he hates me.
admin
September 21, 2013 at 11:18 pm
Wait, are you saying your ex comes into a room and ignores you right in front of your face?
Samantha
September 21, 2013 at 12:58 am
So I was seeing a guy for about 4-5 months. He was my best friend before we dated, I ended up dumping him. I got mad and just ended it..it’s been about two months now and for a while things were pretty ugly. He has a new girlfriend now but, wants to be my friend, I said no at first but now I want to be friends. Soo do I say we can be friends then do NC? Or stick with NC now? Sorry this is so long.
admin
September 21, 2013 at 11:11 pm
This isn’t long at all haha.
I think you just do NC now.
Samantha
September 22, 2013 at 1:43 am
I deleted his number out of my phone so I can’t call him haha
Thanks
admin
September 22, 2013 at 10:47 pm
Haha well, did you write it down somewhere so you won
‘t forget it wehn the time comes to contact him?
tanya
September 20, 2013 at 8:14 pm
I think the admin response to all these serious questions are utterly rediculous! especially the ones w the immature haha at the end. You say you respond to each question personally…but give the same response to all..and just try to plug your e-book. Just another lame money making site.
admin
September 21, 2013 at 10:48 pm
I am sorry you feel that way Tanya.
While I understand you think I am fake and all that is there anything that I can personally help you with? Do you need any advice with your ex?
ashleigh
September 19, 2013 at 11:45 pm
my boyfriend broke up with me the day after we were together a year.he was my first real boyfriend and i was his first real girlfriend..we did everything together and he was my bestfriend. its been almost three weeks now and still hurts when i see him at school or driving down the road. i try to act like i dont notice him but i can see him look at me through the corner of his eyes. i have been hanging out with my friends more to try to get him off of my mind and whenever he walks by me he laughs really hard for no reason. i see him walking with other girls and i try to pay no attention, but as soon as i turn around he is powerwalking behind me. i havent talked to him for almost two weeks now, and his mama told me she would still love for me to come over and see her but i would feel really uncomfortable even if he wasnt there. i really just wish though he would give me a sign if he still cares or loves me. :/
admin
September 20, 2013 at 9:04 pm
To me it just sounds like he doesn’t know what to do or how to handle the situation. Usually that means he still has feelings for you….
ashleigh
September 25, 2013 at 10:18 pm
what should i do?? i feel like nothing is going to work if i try..
ashleigh
September 19, 2013 at 11:49 pm
he told me he just wasnt happy and he is never coming back so i dont need to try. now is all he does is hang out with his friends and drink.
Shelly B
September 19, 2013 at 5:10 pm
I have a question. How can I increase the chance that I will get back with my ex in the future? The reason I ask is because my live-in boyfriend broke up with me about two weeks ago, and while I see his decision as a good thing, I want there to be a window of opportunity for us to get back together in the future. Long story short, my boyfriend and I dated for 2 years and our relationship was heading towards marriage. The idea of settling down with me now and forever scared my boyfriend, and when he brought it to my attention, I too got scared. We had a good relationship (no lying, no cheating, had fun together, had great sex, etc.) but we both have things we want to do before getting married and we can’t do those things while we’re still in a relationship. I’m not saying that my boyfriend and I WILL DEFINITELY get back together in the future, I welcome the idea of marrying someone else if the opportunity arrises, but I don’t want to ruin any chance of rekindling things with him later on in life IF I SO CHOOSE. How do I keep him as an option without him thinking I am always available? We still live together while I look for an apartment, and when I do move I plan on implementing the no contact rule, getting into shape, working towards my personal goals, dating, and having an awesome social life so I’ll appear more desirable (to him and other men) but he still keeps talking to me and making plans with me like we are going to go straight from boyfriend and girlfriend to bestfriends and/or friends-with-benefits if I want and that’s not happening. I know that he will never miss me or see me as something great he let stupidly get away if he talks to me and sees me all the time, so how do I start the NC phase of my plan? I can’t implement the no contact rule now because we still live together, and I can’t do it right after moving out because he is helping me pay for my new place, move, and paint and I don’t want him to think I just used him for the help he offered me. Is it okay to tell him after I move out that I need some time and space or does that defeat the purpose of the NC rule altoghether? I’m afraid he’ll think something happened to me if I stop calling him cold turkey. I could see him popping up at my place or calling the police thinking something bad happened to me if one minute I’m around and the next I’m M.I.A. What do you think? Lay it on me? I plan on getting him back later if I want to and I don’t want to mess this up.
Thanks,
Shelly B.
admin
September 20, 2013 at 7:09 pm
Wow, that is a lot of questions.
Ok, I can’t answer them all because I am super busy BUT if you pick up my E-Book pretty much all of them will be answered.
Though, as for living with him I think it is ok to kick him out for space (unless it will be like throwing him out in the street and he will have nowhere else to go.)
Tarisai
September 19, 2013 at 11:03 am
I was married to my ex 6yrs ago. He left for London and a few months later we lost contact, actually he stopped taking my calls and kind of just disappeared so that in the end i was forced to file for a divorce on the grounds of abandonment. In between the divorce and this year he’s sent me texts on the phone, via face book or called on and off. On all occasions he’s indicated that he’s still in love with me and regrets us losing each other coz of the distance. We are now both married (I with two kids and him 1). Two weeks out of the blues I saw a note at my work from him stating that he had come to see me and requesting me to call him on a local number. I then realised he was around and called him. That very day he asked to see me and we met for drinks and dinner. The chemistry was still very distinct and I found myself falling for him again. He then asked me to arrange to go spend the next night with me as he really wanted quality time before he returned to London the next week. He also told me that he was having serious problems with his wife who had cheated and was probably going to divorce her. He was hoping we oould finally be together forever if I agreed to take him back. Like a fool I believed him and arranged to be with him the next night. He took me out for kareoki, clubbing and then to a hotel where we made luv. We spent the next morning and afternoon together, got an hiv test coz he said he wanted to have kids as soon as we started a life together. That went well then we took flowers to my brother’s grave who passed away during our separation. Thereafter he took me home. I called him later and we spoke briefly. The next day however he was no longer taking my calls same for the next 4 until he returned to London ( a factor which I only discovered from his cousin who took him to the airport a week later). I have not made any other contact with him since niether has he. I am so hurt coz I thought he was real and my dream was finally coming true. I am confused was the sex bad, was he jus using me to get over his ex or wat? I jus don’t get it but desperately need your help to help me get over this before I lose it. Thanks in advance.
admin
September 20, 2013 at 6:54 pm
Have you read this: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-get-your-ex-husband-back/
Michelle
September 19, 2013 at 5:29 am
My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 5 months. It has been 3 months and a half now since we broke up. I believe the reason we broke up was because I hurt him. I cheated on him, he forgave me and in the last month we were together an ex of mine started to text me and he didn’t like it. Now he claims the reason we broke up was because I wasn’t the right girl for him I didn’t know how to cook like his mom I wasn’t old fashion like his parents raised him. I felt that was a lie because he knew and loved me for who I was from the start and I feel the real reason was because I hurt him. Now I feel he cared and loved me and I still love him and care for him I just chose the wrong decisions. I wasn’t happy with myself at the time so I couldn’t be happy with him and I. I apologized to him, wrote him a love letter, pretty much begged him back within the first month we broke up, but simply didn’t work and pretty much drifted us apart even more. It has been a month now since I last talked to him. In this time of our break up I decided to fix things of myself for the better, change old habits,and start a new me for myself and for him. I still want him back but don’t know what to do next?
admin
September 19, 2013 at 7:12 pm
I want to point you to my E-Book if you want all the details.
Other than that what articles have you read on this site?
Lisa
September 18, 2013 at 6:23 pm
This article gives great advice…however… i might need further help with this. I have been with my ex for 7 years, lived together for 4 years. We are high school sweet hearts. I was his first everything, first love, first sexual partner, everything. He was obsessed with me for the first 6 years. I mean like wanting to be with me every minute of the day, bringing me home surprises all the time, kissing and hugging me constantly, calling and texting me all day long. We had the perfect relationship… all 6 great years not one break up. On my birthday, november of 2012, he had asked me to marry him, ofcourse i said yes. Little be hold, that may have been a mistake. This past year has been a year from hell. He worked as a bouncer at a night club, he started getting into serious drugs behind my back, and his mood was very weird at times. Over this past year he has left me 3 letters telling me he wants me to move out because he needs to get help and that he is screwed up. I would read them, then he would call me telling me to not read the note and that he is sorry. He would come home with flowers and a card begging me to forgive him and that his head is screwed up (probably from the drugs he was doing behind my back). I did end up forgiving him because i love this guy, he is my fiance, and i was planning on marrying him. We went about our summer, went on vaca, planned our wedding and had a great time… the last month or so he started getting crazy about drugs… i knew he smoked weed but he had to be on something more… he would spend all our rent money with nothing to show… he also told me he had suicidal thoughts and tried selling everything we owned including our gps, tv, even the dr dre headphones i got him. He stopped sleeping and started loosing a ton of weight, he got extremely skinny also. There was no doubt that he wasnt on a more serious drug. I woke up one morning to him being up all night telling me he is unhappy and that i need to give him back his ring and leave… which i did. During that week the neighbor called me saying he had some sort of episode where his parents came to our apartment and moved him out and now are drug testing him every week. I found this out from my neighbor… not from him. He hasnt even told me yet what has happened to him… this happened 3 weeks ago. I have tried texting him, reaching out to him asking what happened and all he kept saying is he is unhappy with me and our relationship? he wont tell me the truth. His parents recently divorced and that is what has been hard on him… his dad started to neglect him for his new family and my ex just kept it all inside and i swear this could be the main reason why he turned to drugs, not because of me. I have been the only one here for him throughout all these years, supporting him mentally and physically. I blocked him on fb… but he has been putting up statuses every 3 hours saying how happy he is? How happy can you be making no money, living in your moms basement, all alone, trying to get off of drugs? is he trying to get a reaction out of me? i think he thought i would turn into a psycho ex begging for him back… which i havent. i have only texted him twice out of not seeing him for 3 weeks asking why he is unhappy in our relationship… he gave no specific reasons as to why… just because the communication was off…? I feel like he is too ashamed or guilty to face me and tell me the truth so he is finding the easy way out to just end this great relationship… i mean common, i was planning a wedding for god sake! i sent the deposits in the mail. I thought i really was going to be with him forever. How do i get him to come to terms that i was the positive influence in his life? i know right now, him trying to be off drugs, he needs to focus on himself… but when will he realize what a mistake he has made and how can i make him realize this? Why is he putting up fb statuses every minute saying how happy he is and how you only live once and to just do what makes you happy? i made him at one point before he turned to drugs. What should i do?
admin
September 19, 2013 at 2:12 am
That is a lot of questions.
I think he needs to deal with his drug problem.
Have you gone NC?
Lisa
September 19, 2013 at 12:10 pm
Yes I have. We have been broken up for 2-3 weeks and i only talked to him twice during this time trying to get answers as to what really happened but he just wont tell me. So i gave up… I haven’t talked to him in 3 days and don’t plan on to.
admin
September 20, 2013 at 6:56 pm
Ok well, first things first. I would grab the E-Book if I was you b/c it can expalin everything a lot better than I can.
Secondly, You should try out the NC rule. Which means 30 days NC.
Rachael
September 18, 2013 at 5:10 pm
Hi. So my boyfriend and I have broken up a lot, and it seems like it’s always when we have a stupid argument we always throw I’m done into the equation and then a few days later we are back together. Well about two months ago we broke up for a month but ended up getting back together somehow. So that being said, two days ago my boyfriend made me mad and I said that I was done, then he contacted me yesterday trying to defend why he said what he said and so on. And I was just like I just wanna be single. Then today I realized it isn’t what I wanted and he is who I want and he basically said that he’s over the bullshit and how we are just different, then said we need some time apart for a bit and reevaluate our lives. What do you think I should do, aside from just the NC Rule? And do you think he will come back even if I use the NC Rule?
admin
September 19, 2013 at 2:05 am
The NC rule can definitely improve your chances!
Rachael
September 23, 2013 at 6:42 pm
Okay now we have broken up but it was me. I got fed up with him over the weekend and lately I felt like my feelings were demisinishing. So I told him he was single a few hours later he asked why we were broken up and I said so we both can live without the bs and stuff and he said that’s probably for the best. But I want him to realize he can’t handle us not being together. He’s told me before that he gets so upset when we break up but I really need your help. I feel like the no contact rule will make him forget about me?
admin
September 24, 2013 at 2:55 am
It won’t in fact it will probably have the opposite effect.
Kelly
September 18, 2013 at 9:49 am
Just rolled across this and figured it would be worth getting an opinon from someone outside of the situation!I hope you can give me some advice!!
I’ll give you a brief run down…
So my boyfriends ex cheated on him and left him, we’ve been super great friends for a while and we ended up getting together about a week after. Yes, I know it was soon, but he said it felt like they’d been broke up for a couple of months already cause she’d been working away. So they were supposed to take a trip this summer, to a place they’d been before, but obviously cause they broke up, they didnt go. My boyfriend still wanted to take the trip so he went with a group of friends instead – only I couldnt go becuase of work commitmenmts. Basically, my boyfriend came back from the trip and immediately broke up with me. He said he needs space as the trip had given him chance to think and head is in a mess, he doesnt know where he is in life or what he wants (which is so unlike him). I said Id give him space and made it clear I have strong feelings for him and dont want us to break up – I’m giving it a couple of weeks and will try to limit contact/do no contact, but I just dont know how to play this??? I definitely want us to get back together, I adore him and I know that he feels the same way about me too, but, aghhhhh help????!!
admin
September 19, 2013 at 1:55 am
Alright, I will tell you the main problem with my site. The subject matter is complex and a small little comment can’t answer everything you need answered.
So, I am going to give you some reference material:
1. https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back/
2. https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-definitive-guide-to-making-your-ex-boyfriend-love-you-again/
Read those (top to bottom) also, if you really want a step by step plan I recommend nabbing my E-Book.
AltheaG
September 18, 2013 at 7:49 am
My ex and I hooked up after 13 years after I got divorced last year. My ex-boyfriend left me for another woman. He really hurt me and I struggled to forgive him. I was happy to see him again after so many years and was surprised to learn that he still loves me. He told me that I am his life, that he can’t live without me and that he wants a future with me. We have a 13 yr old daughter together and he says that he wants to be with us, but he is insecure about my ex-husbands’ presence in my life.I cannot cut all ties with my ex-husband as we have a five year old daughter. My-ex boyfriend is the love of my life and he makes me very happy. We have no contact and I don’t enquire about his whereabouts. He ignores our daughter as he is angry with me for not cutting ties with my ex-husband. I miss hmy ex-boyfriend so much it hurts. I need closure because this uncertainty is killing me, I am willing to move on and never look back, but I know he loves me. I need to speak to him, but he refuses to talk to me. Please give me some advice.
admin
September 19, 2013 at 1:48 am
Have you thrown him in NC land yet?
JJ
September 18, 2013 at 3:57 am
My ex boyfriend and I broke up 4 years ago. We were together for 2 and a half years, I was 20 when we started dating and he was 25. I’ve heard from him all through out the past 4 years. He constantly tells me he misses me and will say he loves me. I’m completely over him and want nothing more to be his friend. I was very close to his family and he was very close to mine. I’ve actually known him since I was about 3 and he was friends with my older brother so we have a lot of history. We broke up because I always caught him in lies, he cheated, and there was a lack of trust. About a year after we broke up I found out he was with someone else even thought he would still text me he missed me and thought about me all the time and bla bla bla. He had knocked her up and they had a baby together. Still after the baby he texted me and would try to meet with me. This continued on and off for years. He would even try to turn things sexual. I did meet him a few times when he begged me and said he needed someone to talk to about his current situation and wanted to see me and just hug me. Finally last year I got sick of all the bullshit and blocked his #. I found out he was in a bad car accident and unblocked his # and of course he texted me. He told me all he could think about was me when he was in the hospital and how he missed and loved me. I finally said enough is enough and said I couldn’t talk to him anymore. He’s 31, has a 2 yro daughter with his new GF who also has a 17 yro daughter and 2 other young daughters from a previous marriage. I, however, own my own house, have a great career, and can afford what I need on my own. I also love to travel and try to go on vacation whenever I can.. which he also always texts me about and how he misses them. It’s been almost a year and he began texting me again since it was my birthday recently. He again tells me he loves and misses me and always reminisces about the great times. I asked if he was going to have anymore kids or planned on getting married and he said no and said between him and I, he wasn’t happy in his relationship, it had a lot of issues and wished he could be single. He just bought a house with his new family and I just found out they’re married. Not sure when that happened but if its true he straight lied to me. The appalling part is he’s been trying to get me to see him again. He wants to take me to dinner and get drinks. I know where he would lead that to and won’t do it. He already said he would get a hotel room. I try to tell him I’m only here as a friend but he pushes the issue. I feel such a close bond to him that obviously it is hard for me to cut ties with him. After he got into his car accident I was devastated because I don’t know what I would do if anything happened to him. I know we have a special connection but I could never cross that line. To be honest I’m too good for that. However, finding out he’s now most likely married really hurt knowing he lied right to me about it and tells me he loves me, misses me, and is unhappy with his current relationship. It really sickens me. But then I think this is his Karma and he’s getting what he deserves with how he treated me and how he’s going behind his “wife’s” back. He’s now stuck in a relationship he wish he wasn’t. Obviously, there’s a lot more to the story but this is it in a nutshell. My closest friends who know he still texts me and know what’s been going on tell me he’s still in love with me. I don’t believe that to be the case. I believe he does want to have sex because there’s probably a lack of that in his relationship and now has not 1 but 4 kids. I also think he likes the attention and emotional relationship he gets from me. I don’t think it’s anymore than that. In the last 4 years I only had 1 other serious relationship but ended it because the feelings were lost. Other than that I dated but have never felt the connection I felt like I developed with him. I’m not sure where to go from here? Just block him? Confront him? Advice on what to say? And what is his deal??
admin
September 19, 2013 at 1:40 am
I always usually recommend the NC rule in these situations.
Felicia
September 17, 2013 at 9:15 pm
My boyfriend called for a break last Wednesday due to our arguing . We still text and talk. I delay my responses to him and I don’t tell him my plans. Should I cutoff all communication since he asked for the break? Play hard to get ? He says it is not a breakup but a break. What is the best approach to get him out of the break ?
admin
September 18, 2013 at 3:16 am
Cut off all communication. NC rule him!
Stacie
September 17, 2013 at 6:04 pm
My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me because his xwife and sons keep telling him that I am calling them and harassing them. I have never called them, EVER! I have provided my cell phone records as well as offered to get the police involved. Nothing has stopped them from lying to him and sadly he decided to break up with me and believe them. I would love to do the no contact thing now that I have read it, bacause shamefully I have blown up his phone with texts begging to believe me, to come back etc. VERY EMBARASSING!! But the one issue is that we work together. So can this no contact thing work? And is it too late to start since we have been broke up for the past two months (the 1st month he was still coming over and we were trying to work things out) But the past month he has been calling me crazy, and saying how much he hates me and he cant believe he wasted the past 3 years of his life with someone like me, since he is believing the lies. Any advice for me??
admin
September 18, 2013 at 3:13 am
Sounds to me like THEY are crazy.
You can still do a variation of NC. It is called limited contact.
Stacie
September 18, 2013 at 7:49 pm
Yes, at this moment I truly believe they all are!!
I guess I just need to clarify how to do limited contact. Do I just ignore him completely at work and stick to the no contact (email, text etc. )for 30 days? I may have to talk to him for work reasons, but those will be few.
admin
September 19, 2013 at 2:17 am
Essentially yes, LC is the same as NC except when you have to talk to him for work related reasons you do so.