7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

5,888 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”

Michelle

July 17, 2013 at 10:17 pm

Just found your website a few days ago and really appreciate all your suggestions.

My story: met my BF in March 2011. He was enlisted to go into the Army and was scheduled to start basic the end of May. We dated casually, but the morning before he left we both were crying and realized we had some deep feelings.

We decided to give the LDR a shot, and stayed together until last Monday. Fortunately, I live in Houston and he ended up at Ft. Hood, Texas, only 200 miles away. He came to Houston whenever he could, and I saw him for long weekends at least once or twice a month.

He was excellent with contact. We texted every day, most of the time for hours on end. When he was here, he was loving and attentive, and treated me like a prince. We took care of each other.

There were very little issues in the relationship, except for our age difference. I’m 20 years older than he. Despite that, we had much in common. He’s a former Mormon who also spent 2 years in Taiwan, and I think that did a lot for his maturity levels. Never really had any issues in that regard. Just had a great time together.

He came into town July 1 on two-week leave. He spent the first entire week with me. We had a fantastic time. Sex was great, and did our usual stuff. Spent 4th of July with his family and the following Saturday with his Mom and a group of my friends at a local craft brew bar. That evening, during a discussion with his Mom about the house she is about to build and what she’s getting installed, he would tell her about stuff we had in “our apartment” a couple of times. He called my place his home. He made comments like that during our week together. This is all pretty new. We had not discussed actually living together. The only way we really could would to be married so he could live off base and he could receive his housing allowance. We hadn’t gotten to the point of considering that.

I’m very astute and always paid close attention to his behavior. There was no pulling back. Everything was consistent.

The next day, Sunday, he was a little quiet. We had been up late the night before, so I chalked it up to him being tired. I simply asked if he was OK, and he said he was OK.

Monday morning he was to go spend a few days with his mom, as he usually does on his two-week leaves. He was going to help her pack up stuff in anticipation of her move. Before I left for work, he kissed me twice, told me he loved me, and said he would see me on Friday. After a few days at his mom’s, he always comes back to spend the weekend.

Later that afternoon I get a text from him saying we need to talk. Since that sounded ominous, I first asked if it was something to do with the Army. He said no, it had to do with us. I straight out asked him if he was breaking up. I knew something was up because he wasn’t punctuating his sentences with his usual term of affection for me, “Baby”. He responded he was, but I deserved to know why.

I was shocked, but my initial feeling was of relief. Still trying to figure out why that is.

I didn’t respond to him, and left work at 5:00 as normal. At 5:30 I get another text from him wanting to know my whereabouts. He was at my apartment and wanted to talk.

I told him I had nothing to say to him and resumed radio silence. I figured if his mind was made up, I don’t need to know anything else, nor was I going to let him get any edification at my expense.

About another half hour later I get another text saying just so I would not be alarmed he has taken his things from my place, and he left the key with the landlord.

Again, I did not respond.

So that’s it. No word from him since, and I am solidly in NC. I did notice he didn’t get absolutely everything out of here, but I’m not contacting him.

Thoughts?

admin

July 19, 2013 at 1:38 am

Honestly, I think you have a pretty good grasp on what to do. Go through no contact and asses after that.
Michelle

July 19, 2013 at 1:44 pm

Right. No offense, but that’s why I said I was in NC. I was seeking your thoughts into the matter in general. Thank you for your time.
admin

July 19, 2013 at 10:20 pm

Well, there are a number of factors at play here. I don’t care what anyone says but to me, LDR are really really really hard to make work. I wouldn’t do one because I don’t know how to make one work. I think that contributed to the breakup. Do you think he met another girl?
Michelle

July 20, 2013 at 3:47 pm

It’s possible, but not probable. He works pretty long hours, reporting at 5:00 a.m. and sometimes out in the field training until 10:00 or 11:00 at night. He would text throughout the day if he could, and then we talked every night.

If he went out on the weekends we would text throughout the evening as well.

In other words, communication was good and constant. There was nothing shady in his behavior.

He wanted to talk to me and asked twice to do so. I refused because I was angry and hurt. I didn’t want a confrontation or scene. It was enough for me that he just said he wanted to break up. Me refusing to talk to him also gave me some of my power back.
admin

July 21, 2013 at 10:23 pm

Ok, so thats a good thing if there is no girl for sure!

Trisha O.

July 16, 2013 at 3:16 am

We were a good couple, start having problems tried to fix them he just ended things. i didnt start the no contact as i shouldve at first but after two times of texting him i did, i stopped talking to him. But he was very rude he said we’ll never work out i didnt appreciate him and then its both of our faults to its his fault so many different things each time. Anyways, the last time we talked he was very rude and so i start being rude back and ended the conversation. My family ran into him at the store and tried to tell him hi he ignored them. They were shocked because thats not like him at all. He deleted me off every social network site, we live about an hour away from each other so we have different friends and lifestyles. Ive heard he likes someone new and hes also dropped some hints about her on his facebook, Is this a sign that he really doesnt love me anymore?

admin

July 17, 2013 at 6:36 am

To me it looks like the sign of someone who is really angry. What could you have done to make him react this way?
Trisha O.

July 17, 2013 at 8:07 am

Im really not too sure. He said i didnt trust him one night he wanted to go out to a friends summer party but i had always let him out i trusted him i just had a bad feeling about letting him out that night. Anyway he went and he met a girl. He told me, he apologized, i deleted her number from his phone which he agreed on. i was trying to fix it and at first he was too but two weeks later he start focusing more on friends,i could tell he wasnt feeling it anymore as much as it hurt i still tried. we ended on good terms, the first time we talked after that as well, then the second time we talked he just exploded. Weve always had people not agree on our relationship because they like him and he start hanging out with them, thats all i could think of why he would act that way. could people be turning him against me? We were together for a year and 3 mnths he loved me so much everyone knew it you could just see it in the way he would look at me or do things for me i dont understand how all of a sudden he doesnt even care anymore.
admin

July 17, 2013 at 7:27 pm

I don’t think he doesn’t care about you anymore. I think he does I just think he needs time to figure out whatever it is thats going on.
Trisha O.

July 17, 2013 at 8:36 pm

thank you (-:

Angel

July 13, 2013 at 12:51 pm

I have been 8 years with my boyfriend and broke up with him last week as he constantly uses online dating to chat to girls. I have had enough this time and since last week hasn’t contacted him. Do you think this relationship has a chance? I love him but cannot allow other girls in this relationship. He called today but I didnt pick up the phone. I still see his profile active on uniformdating.com! Shall I give him another chance this time on my terms or is he gonna break my heart again. Please help.

admin

July 15, 2013 at 5:51 am

Should you give him another chance?

Honestly, has he ever given you any reason to think he is cheating other than flirting or getting an ego boost from an online dating profile? As I read that I see how bad that is. Something is fishy for sure so I think you wait it out to see what he does and then make your decision.

Alex

July 13, 2013 at 7:24 am

Hello,

I can not find solution for my case after reading all the articles here. My girlfrend refuse to give me her new number but she calls me everyday and we see each other twice a week. She calls me every morning when she gets up but why she doesn’t let me call her.
If she plans to cheat or already cheating, should I use the no contact rule? Or should I let her go because she doesn’t respect me? Please comment

admin

July 15, 2013 at 5:49 am

Hi Alex,

This is a site aimed mostly at women and getting their boyfriends back so the stuff on here won’t work for you. However, in the future I am planning on creating a sister site to this site for men trying to get their girlfriends back.

In all, if she is playing games like that with you I think you spend 2 days straight of not responding to her texts, calls or anything. Cut off communication for a while to regain control in the relationship so you can get her new number.

CC

July 13, 2013 at 4:28 am

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4yrs. We broke up 7 months ago and I’m still in love with him. I think about him everyday and I know that it being 7 months ago I should be moving on by now but it just hard. I just don’t know what to do because its mixed feelings with him; as in I text him but he never answer my text but he will answer my calls sometimes. It will be days that I’m so confuse because he will call me and talk about his problems and we sometimes have other good conversations and then he have those days that he don’t want to be bothered with me. I ask him are we going to get back together and he say that he wants to be friends first and see how its goes and then one day he say that we will never get back together….I just don’t know what to do anymore.

I need your help on what I should do… Thanks.

admin

July 15, 2013 at 5:43 am

I think I see the problem here and it is a real common one.

I am assuming a lot here so I could be completely off base. Your overcrowding your ex. You are texting him too much and acting a little too desperate. To a guy this is like a horrifying thing. You need to give him some space before you attack and you need to slow things down.

LoveJunkie

July 13, 2013 at 2:56 am

Hi.

I have read a frew of your pages and I like the advice that you give. I especially like that you tell the truth from a man’s perspective. My situation is a little different, and it may be a little lengthy. I wonder if I may email you personally for your advice. Let me know.

Thanks,
LoveJunkie

admin

July 13, 2013 at 3:32 am

Sure, just try to keep it as brief as possible.

Nea

July 9, 2013 at 11:37 am

My boyfriend of over a year sudden;y appeared at my house on the 7th of July 2013, and broke up with me. He said he had lost feelings, he wasn’t mature enough for a relationship and that it was nothing i’ve done.
2 days prior he said that he missed hearing my voice, etc. He’s been stressed about work and what not, i did offer comfort and support. But he brushed me off, instead confiding in his older brother that he idolizes. I didn’t think much of it, since he’s always done this.
A few days prior to this he looked at me and nearly cried telling me how much i meant to him, that he would be destroyed if i was no longer in his life.
I have not contacted him at all since the break up. I’m just wondering what happened and what i should do. I read your guide on how to get your ex back, i’m just afraid that he will move on.
Prior to dating he would seek for companionship in multiple women, so he would talk to a lot of girls to not feel lonely.

admin

July 10, 2013 at 2:25 am

Every guy “attempts” to talk to girls because they feel lonely. Trust me hahaha. Well, the chances of you running back and begging for him doesn’t have a high success rate. I say you give the info outlined in the guide a try.

karen

July 9, 2013 at 10:48 am

My Boyfriend broke up with two days ago and I have not contacted him since then. He gave me several reason why he wanted to break up but he couldn’t figure out which reason Was true. The first thing he said was he’s not excited as he was when we first met. I was so hurt and shock with the break up that I told him to leave. I Didn’t want him to see my break down or lose control because the relationship was new. Its now day 2 and I realizes how we pretty much skip over dating and jumped right into a relationship. He’s
a Good man And i Want him back. Should i ask him to meet in a public Place so we can finish The conversation? Mind you, i told him To get out wheb he ws trying to figure out why he wanted to break up. Should I wait and give him Time to miss Me? Should i Call To see if he’s feeling better? He was sick The day we broke up. I don’t know how to handle this. U don’t want to make the wrong move out of lonelyness.

admin

July 10, 2013 at 2:22 am

Hahaha I’m going to go with, give him time to miss you. Check out this page: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-no-contact-rule/

Jamie

July 8, 2013 at 6:58 am

My ex bf and I dated for 2 years. He started dating his other ex about a month or so after we broke up. He still texts me and he wants to hang out with me…
Does that mean anything?

admin

July 9, 2013 at 2:16 am

That means that he wants to have options. I mean, it is good that he contacted you but ideally if you are going to hang out with him make sure it is on your terms and not his.

Beverly

July 7, 2013 at 2:15 pm

My situation is a little different here. I was with my boyfriend for one and a half years. It was always up and down, but there was something there that we kept going back to each other. We were broke up but had a trip planned and decided to go and decidie if it will make us or break us. Well it ended up being a volitle fight and that is a deal breaker for me. If you lay a hand on a woman, it will happen again. He tried so hard to get us back on track after that and I would not budge. Now mind you, this is a guy who tattooed my name on his body, always said he loved me, couldn’t live without me, wanted to get married, would die for me, etc. THEN, he found out that I had used his credit card without asking and he switched off like a light bulb. Suddently it’s we are no good for each other, let’s leave each other alone, good luck. I feel bad on how things ended, especially since he always did things via text rather than in person or at least the phone. My head says it is all wrong, but of course my heart is aching. I’m just curious and would make me feel better to know that he misses me or would want me back. I have played the “no contact” rule for a month and a half so far. Do you think there may be a chance he will get in contact with me?

admin

July 7, 2013 at 5:50 pm

I think there is Beverly. However, if you know him well, and know that he is shy and usually won’t be the one to make a move first then he may be wanting you to desperately contact him.

« Previous 1 … 116 117 118

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

5,888 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”