7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

5,888 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”

Areeba

October 24, 2017 at 8:53 am

Hey. My boyfriend broke up with me twenty days back because we had been fighting since a month and I self harmed. I’ve tried talking to him and asking him to get back. He says he is ready to be friends. He has been talking this old crush of his as well. I really love him and want him back. Please help me out

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 24, 2017 at 6:07 pm

Hi Areeba,

Get a therapist for yourself and check this one:
You Desperately Begged For Him Back And Failed… I’m Here To Fix That

YU

October 17, 2017 at 1:19 am

Thanks god that make me find your website.
I’m struggling with my boyfriend. I have been together for 8 months. We had fight and always get back together in one day.
One day, I have feeling that he use dating apps. I asked him he said It was long time ago. He forgot to delete them.

I saw notification on his phone. My bad, I looked on it and saw that he is using them. I confronted with him. He’s mad that I wne through his phone. He brought my stuff back but not all of them. I don’t know his intention. He said he needs time and space. he wants to talk with me again but he needs time for now. he asked me to respect him.

Normally when we fight, He blocked me everywhere ( Number,Facebook, Snapchat etc.) But this time he said he won’t. He updated his snapchat to show where he is but not post anything. He checked my snap that I posted.

I sent him msg on facebook and snap. He opened but no respond.

Do I still have chance to get back with him?
I have so many things that I want to make up for him.

Please give me advice.
Thank you in advance

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 17, 2017 at 8:03 pm

Hi YU,

Do you want to try the no contact rule?

Skyler

October 12, 2017 at 11:18 pm

My case is a little different. About 2 months ago a guy that delivers to my place of business every day approached me and wanted to start a side thing (friends with benefits) with me after we got to know each other over a long period of time and we had a connection to each other that was undeniable. He knew my relationship wasnt a good one anymore and he wasnt happy in his either. He initiated everything and i honestly would have never even considered anything like it had he not approached me. We started seeing each other and he started texted me things like youll fall in love with me and if i was your man ill cherish and thinga like that. The last time we saw each other was a little over a week ago and he was saying the same thing and was talking future tense about our arrangement. He told me that day that his work situation was about to change and he wouldnt be delivering anymore. He talked more about me falling in love with him and i told him that our arrangement was about hooking up since i didnt want him to think that i already had feelings for him and he was warning me not to. The next day he texted me and told me it was the last time we were going to see each other and said since he wasnt going to have time with his new work schedule and there wasnt no point in continuing it. He said he still wanted to talk to me as a friend and would check in on me every now and then. I ended up texting him later to let him know that i did in fact have feelings for him and that i was going to miss him but i understood and he never replied. We arent friends on facebook so i went to add him since he said he still wanted to be friends and saw that he was jobless. I sent him a message and called him out on it and essentially told him i didnt appreicate being lied to and he couldve just told me he wanted to end it. He texted me back and said it was all fun and he enjoyed it and proceeded to tell him off and that i didnt appreciate getting played by him. He said he didnt and he called it off because he wasn’t going to be able to see me everyday anymore and that he wanted to keep me as a friend because i was a great person. I told him just because he didnt see me everyday didnt mean we still couldnt have seen each other but id accept it and let him go and if he wanted to stay friends i was good with it and that i valued his friendship. He replied with we will talk about it. I didnt and havent replied. I dont really know what to do about this and i dont see him anymore and we arent connected on fb… first what happened? I was giving him what his gf wasnt and he was talking about keeping it going the last day we saw each other and bam see ya the next.. and what do i do to get him back if thats what i decide i want to do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 13, 2017 at 6:20 pm

Hi Skyler,

Check this one:
EBR 006: How To Turn Friends With Benefits Into A Relationship

Allie

October 8, 2017 at 10:06 pm

I got a wild hair up me today and deactivated my Facebook without saying anything. We broke up 5 days ago (he dumped me) and we’ve been in touch the past few days here and there but I’d like to start nc and didn’t think that’d happen with having Facebook since we’re amicable and he’ll still tag me in stuff, etc. and Facebook was making me obsess too much. I figure I’ll reactivate it in 3-4 weeks. Is this a mistake? We’re still friend on instagram and Snapchat so he’ll see if I post things there. I have yet to see if he’ll text me about deleting Facebook since he probably hasn’t noticed it yet. I’m guessing he’ll contact me when he figures it out.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 10, 2017 at 11:36 am

Hi allie,

Make it after two weeks, and continue posting in Instagram but not just stories.. Make it the posts that stays

Laia Ruiz Llopart

October 8, 2017 at 4:06 pm

I am writing to you since I think I have a exceptional case for you… It is a combination of many things you explained in the book so here i explain you my situation.

My ex boyfriend and I were together for 5 years and a half. From the 5th month of the relationship it was a long distance relation since I was studying abroad, but somehow we managed to see each other every 1 or 2 months maximum and of course all the vacations we spent all the time together. This summer we had a conversation that this was going to be our last year as a long distance relationship and that we would look for a common place to live together but we still had this year to go and this time he was the one living for three months to USA. (We are both from Spain and I am studying in Belgium). When he went there we were missing each other a lot and since we didn’t want to be three months without each other he bought me a ticket to visit him this november.
Two weeks after he bought the ticket I started to feel him a bit rare, he was not writing to me as much as he did and he was enthusiastic on doing skypes, he had always more important things to do. (During this 5 years and a half we texted each other everyday and we did skype everyday).
At one point I decided to ask him what was going on and he was just replying that he was in a kind of a bubble, and after three days I said to him that we could not continue like this and on that day in the Skype he started to tell me that he was feeling that our ways were not going to the same direction and that he loves studying in USA and that he wants to stay there at least 3 more years. I got very frustrated and I become very nervous because he was saying that he was not sure if he wanted to be with me. I pushed him quite a lot and I asked few times if there was another girl in his life, he answered no many times but he finally said the truth that he was starting to feel something special for this girl he just met 2 weeks ago while he was having the doubts about where was going our long relationship. So at the end he said finally that he did not want to be with me anymore. I hang up the phone and after 5 minutes I was begging him about this decision and i asked him to think about it, but he suddenly said he was completely sure about his decision. I asked him not to close the relationship via skype, because I though he might be confused for the long distance and that he likes his new life in USA so we finally decided he will come to Belgium to see me and find out if he is making a mistake, but he will come after he comes back from USA, so this will happen on middle/end of november. (he has no flights yet).
In any case during this begging that lasted almost two weeks (I did contact 0 for three days but since we decided to talk about the flights again I had to broke the 0 contact), in any case during this two weeks I discovered that he is already dating his new girlfriend. It looks a very serious relationship…they are sleeping together everyday and they already have plenty of photos on google photos (which i was sharing with my ex boyfriend and that’s why I got to see the pictures).
So we had our last conversation via skype about the flights and I told him I saw the pictures and that I was not believing that he already forgot everything we had and so on, he said to me that he still loved me and that he was missing me during this three days 0 contact and that the relation had no future plans but that they were sleeping together every night. After this we said he was going to come at the end of november and I said him I needed sometime and that I would contact him when I was prepared to do it. So we ended the conversation in a good way and he said to me: Take care.
My surprise was that two days after the conversation he had blocked me everywhere: facebook, whatsapp, instagram… So I went in panic and I called him like 3 or four times and I texted him on normal text asking why did he do that, I never got a reply… Now it has been 3 days since I discovered he blocked me and we have 0 contact.

What do you think about the situation? Can i get my ex boyfriend back?
I read your book and it is very nice but I think my situation is quite special…
I hope you can take some minutes to read this and answer me!

Thank you,

Laia

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 9, 2017 at 12:20 am

Hi Lala,

Check this one:
EBR 015: How To Get A Long Distance Boyfriend Back If He Has A New Girlfriend

Betty

October 6, 2017 at 12:53 pm

Hi there,
On sep 12, 2017. Someone told a guy I was seeing for 9months to stay away from me. I suspected my ex. But he swore on our son name he wasn’t the one who threaten my current guy. We were having a nice smooth relationship since we both act like mature people with less fights. On 13,sep a day after he was threaten, he asked me for a space to process what happen and how he felt when he was threaten. I as a lady I didn’t take it cool since I expected him to put a little fight for us, so I throw some words a bit. But I still gave him the space he needed. 14 days later I asked but he still need more time. And I was like F that shit I can’t give you more than that. I had not done anything wrong to you and I don’t deserve this so I ended things between us. I apologize for bringing him heart ace since I didn’t mean to hurt him and I respect him so much that if he want to break than I give him that. He I’m in pain now I had not contacted him for 4 days. What does all this means, he said he is not okay with break up but yet he is not ready for us to be together so I should be patient.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 8, 2017 at 9:19 pm

Hi Betty,

So he wants you to wait while he goes do something else in his life? How active are you currently in improving yourself and in posting? Whatever he heard, after that, it looks like he wants to string you along..

Amrkt

October 5, 2017 at 4:31 am

What happens if you and your ex don’t have social media? There isn’t any way to make them jealous or allow them to see you’re living life is there? That’s confusing for me. I miss him and will start the no contact rule but just wanted to ask about the next part. Thanks.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 5, 2017 at 8:37 am

Hi Amrkt,

That means you have to open a social media account…preferrably where the posts dont dissappear after 24 hours..

Monika

October 4, 2017 at 10:11 pm

I am not sure I am leaving this in the correct place but I have a question. What if my ex un friended me from facebook how do I accomplish the second and third steps? Please help I am broken and willing to listen to any advice.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 5, 2017 at 8:24 am

Hi Monika,

Check this one:
EBR 048: My Ex Boyfriend Unfriended Me On Facebook…. What Does It Mean?

Abby

September 29, 2017 at 7:29 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me because I was agitating for marriage. We actually have had many previous break ups but now it’s final.He says I don’t love him not understanding that I’m more of a low key person and he’s promised himself to never get back together. He’s a great guy and I miss him. I’ve practically begged although with some dignity and now he’s no longer picking my calls. He seems to have moved on and he lives in a different state too. I don’t know if the no contact will work because I’ve used it many times before and it worked on him but this time he’s not budging. I need advice on what to do. Thanks

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 30, 2017 at 7:45 pm

Hi Abby,
Check this one:
You Desperately Begged For Him Back And Failed… I’m Here To Fix That

Winnie

September 29, 2017 at 6:58 am

Helow
My problem is I break up with my bf last week in 25thseptember i was so sturrborn and my plroblem was wanting him to change into the way i want to share his things with me my intention wasnt bad for him but its to learn and grow old together but i was wrong because alot of blaming makea him get tired of me and end up break up with me,i told him we can still change things and make it better and forget about the past and begging him for that but he said he tired and i ask him do yu love me ? He said yes i do but i cant be in this relationship and i accept to break up wth him ,but deepdown am still inlove with m dearly,next day i txt him ask him whrn he’s back i want to bring his things nd he said you can keep it and i told him naah i dont neef material things to remainds me about him because i wont move on i will stuck and he ask m do u want to move on i told him no but i dont have choice he ask again why? I told him you left me,yu dont want be in a relationship wth m ,whats should i do? He said its not like i dont love yuo i do so much but i hate feeling bad because i guess i fail to make you happy and when you complain in me how i behave to yoh ,i told him oky now i know whats was my mistake and i learn to respect whats people feel and their desicion i get it . Its oky ,since that day he didnt respond my text or chek on me and am confuced because in 1st october its his birthday should i wish him and keep quity o i shouldnt ,Also should i live him forever o pray for him to came back to me,whats should i do ??
Help please

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 30, 2017 at 6:30 pm

Hi Winnie,

If you’re doing the no contact rule, you shouldn’t greet him

Confused

September 24, 2017 at 9:53 pm

Hi, I was dating a man for over a year. He treated me like a girlfriend in all ways, invested in me, introduced me to his friends, recently asked to introduce me to his parents, cooked for me, and took me out a lot. We spent almost everyday together – initiated by him. He’s in debt from many years of school and told me he has a fear of committment and has fears of not being a good provider. This came up when we the relationship talk came up recently. I told him he is not wrong but we are not on the same page and that he can contact me only if he wants more. I walked away. He kept contacting me for a week and couldn’t believe I walked away. He said ‘I know this is on goodbye’. 2 weeks after he asked to help me with moving. I said thank you but I’m good. He called the next day and I didn’t pick up. He msged and said he really missed me. I waited until 30 days no contact was over and said I didn’t respond because he said he would only contact me if he was ready for a relationship and his message was just to say he missed me and to help me move. He apologized and said he was sorry and that he missed me. I didn’t respond. A month later he messaged me to say good luck with everything at work and he knows that I will do well. I said thank you and hope he is well. He said that he has a lot on his plate. I said I’m sure you’ll figure it out, but I cannot respond to these temp checks because it’s too hard, but that he knows where to find me if he wants more.

He responded and said, ‘Thank you. And point taken. Hugs’.

Was what I said wrong? How do I respond in the future if he reaches out again?

Thanks so much for your response.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 28, 2017 at 8:00 pm

Hi COnfused,

if you’re trying to get him back, since you’re nc is over, you have to start rebuilding rapport.. So, don’t say things that are like ultimatums.. but just to remind you, he still didn’t change his mind about not committing, so you have to think about your own values too. You have to observe him later on while you’re building rapport if he changes his mind, because if not, move on.

Kate

September 23, 2017 at 11:12 pm

Why is it if I do not have much contact with my ex as suggested and like I’m okay it seems to make it worse? For example he will not contact me bc he says it makes him feel I don’t care. Also comments from him like “if you’re dating then I’m not even going to try.” He was the one that moved out and hasn’t shown actions toward rectifying it yet either. What is the deal with that?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 24, 2017 at 7:59 pm

Hi Kate,

you mean he says he will not contact you because you’re not initiating nor replying? That’s normal. He’s still used to talking to you, and it’s his way of getting the power back if you replied after him saying that.

Shannon

September 23, 2017 at 10:58 pm

I have a question to ask about me and my ex boyfriend. So, it’s been a week now since me and my boyfriend broke up because he started dating this other girl while me and him was together. I wonder what should I do. I really want my ex boyfriend back but I don’t know if he going to come back to me or not. I have a class with him but he won’t talk to me he will look at me but that’s all he feel like he didn’t do anything wrong.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 24, 2017 at 7:57 pm

Hi Shannon,

check this one:
He Cheated On You And You Want Him Back… What Do You Do?

Lucinda Mccarthy

September 23, 2017 at 3:45 am

Me and my ex met through work. We worked on different departments so we wasn’t always seeing and being in each other’s way. I can honestly say it was the perfect relationship. So I thought.we spent any spare moment with each other. But this didn’t stop us from having our own lives. I done what I wanted to do and so did he. With no problems. We respected each other, we were both loyal, we can chill out ect. No stress or nothing. He called me his best friend. The stuff I told him I never trusted nobody else with, including ex boyfriends and family/friends. We didn’t have arguments in our relationship. We had a couple of disagreements but was quickly sorted out. But I was at Manchester when the bomb went off. It messed with my head and I probs wasn’t the best girlfriend. I didn’t treat him badly but didn’t consider his feelings when I was feeling so low. I put to much pressure on him and I only realised till it was to late. He was great, he let me stay at his for over a week (his parents get funny if I stay to long, rented house and looks as if they got another lodger) he really was great and looked after me. He even took a loan out! Bought me a pandora braclet. Then we had 2 horrible arguments over work. Was really stupid. After the 2nd argument he was comming round mine to sort it out. We had a lovely day. He bought bbq food, drinks and I cooked it out the back and we both had a lovely day in the sun. We made love and I thought we can sort this and move on. Thinking the dreaded talk about the argument was comming up. We were going to head into town to pick up dessert so I was having a quick tidy up and he looked upset, I asked what was wrong and he said i just feel a bit down. I hugged him and quickly finished off tidying. I asked him again what was wrong and he said he said he couldn’t do this anymore. He didn’t want the relationship anymore. He generally seemed upset about it. He said he wanted to quit smoking and couldn’t do it whilst in a relationship. He did say at one point ‘i can’t expect you to wait’ but I never questioned him about it. I asked again after through text when wasn’t he feeling the relationship and he said from a month previous (just after Manchester) he said it all was to much for him and he didn’t no what to do. I stupidly begged him back but he wouldn’t have none of it. We talk a few times a week, only if I message him first. We’ve met up a couple of times to pick bits off each other ect. The last time (2 weeks ago) he walked me back to my friends flat. Non stop talking. But he refused to come up (I was home alone) i just don’t no what to do. I don’t want to tell him how I feel again cause I no he will knock me back. I need a different strategy. He said he still cares about me. He’s in a band and I try and share, like the band’s posts etc so try and support and show I care about him. What can I do? I’m at a loose end. And I’m so madly in love with him and miss him so much! Thank you for reading x

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 27, 2017 at 8:56 pm

Hi Lucinda,

do you want to try the no contact rule?

Heartbroken

September 12, 2017 at 2:12 pm

My boyfriend of 5 months broke up with me just under 2 weeks ago. For a few days after I was begging him to take me back, saying we could work through it (basically the day before we had had a small argument about how He finds me clingy and I said I could change that, I was only clingy because he asked me to be months ago), and he said for the last month of the relationship he sometimes found me annoying and sometimes he loved me and sometimes he was unsure.

My main concern is that he has confused his feelings for me with stress, as he is doing full weeks at university currently, and he is always tired. When we were together we would try to see each other every 2 weeks due to distance, but at this point we hadn’t seen each other in exactly 3 weeks.

It has now been 11 days since our breakup, and has been 3 days since I last contacted him. I am still madly in love with him and am trying so hard at the no contact rule. Do you think he will want me back? I have noticed that he has unfollowed me on instagram but we are still friends on facebook and snapchat. Please help!

Heartbroken

September 15, 2017 at 6:58 am

I feel like clinginess isn’t really the right term, though. He would always text me in the morning when he woke up, he would message me throughout the day, I only wanted to talk on the phone a couple of nights a week (only when we hadn’t seen each other in a while). I tried showing him that his uni can come first, and he was friends with girls and I was fine with that, I was fine with him going out to parties. I just feel like he was stressed and I want advice on getting him back
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 15, 2017 at 5:38 pm

If it was just stress, doing nc, having your own life, not begging again and following the advice above still works
Heartbroken

September 12, 2017 at 2:16 pm

Sorry, another note is that the night before he ended things, when we had our argument, we talked on the phone for an our and resolved everything and said we were excited to see each other in 2 days and we will work things out. We said we still love each other and still want to be together. Then the night after he broke up with me (he broke up with me over text!!!) he said he no longer loves me. Is he lying about his feelings or was he really lying before he broke it off?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 14, 2017 at 9:05 pm

Hi Heartbroken,

If it has been 11 days..he probably meant the break up..Check this one:
Stage 5 Clinger – Getting A Boyfriend Back If You Were Too Clingy

Esther

September 12, 2017 at 1:55 pm

Hi!

I have been my boyfriend for 1.5 years and recently he initiated a break up with me and I felt devastated over it. He just suddenly sat me down and told me he couldn’t continue on with the relationship as he feels that the communication barrier between us was too high. He was always happy while out together with me but at night, he will think about the flaws in our relationship and it made him feel unhappy and suffocated. He never mentioned about this matter before since he looked happy and didn’t complain about anything in the relationship. However, I did notice that he doesn’t plan dates, replies to my texts as fast as he did before and we didn’t have much topics to talk about for the past few months before the breakup. He’s the kind of person to hold his thoughts to himself until someone presses him for it.
We barely contacted each other for 2 weeks (short message about non-relationship stuffs) following the breakup until one day, I asked him out to an amusement park with me. He kept close to me until he couldn’t take it and initiated physical contact. We were happy in the 2 days spent together before I left and thought all was fine. He reached out to get me back but was afraid of giving me false hopes as he’s still unsure of his feelings. However, within the next week that we talked, he came to a conclusion that he doesn’t love me anymore, am excited to talk to me or even thought of me in the day. He doesn’t feel happy enough after spending the day at the amusement park as the thoughts of unhappiness in the relationship came back to haunt him when I left. He doesn’t see a future with me in it and doesn’t want me back anymore. He will still keep a look out for me and care for me even if not romantically or just as a friend as I was a huge part of his life and didn’t want to pretend I never existed.
It crushed me badly this time round too and I tried to not contact him at all. I will only send him snapchat(not personal snaps) and that’s about it. It has been 5 days since the second break up but so far, he replied to my snap for a bit (he talks the same way as before while we were together with our private lingo) and also challenged me to a phone game. What does it mean? Does he really just see me as a friend and not anymore beyond that or he’s just around to check if I am healing from the breakup? Please advise me 🙁

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 14, 2017 at 8:59 pm

Hi Esther,

It looks like he fell out of love with you.. Check this one:
Why Do Men Fall Out Of Love With You

Confused

September 3, 2017 at 11:25 am

My boyfriend of 1.5 years officially said we should take a break off one another less than 24 hours ago. The period is indefinite. It could be a month, 3 months, 6 months or never. I have my own fair share of anxiety and abandonment issues, but this is NOT why I want him back. And he did say I’m improving.

Honestly, I got pretty confused by his actions because his body language and the stuff he says tells me that he still loves me (even though his mouth says its the past tense). Either ways, I told him to touch his heart and ask himself if he really doesn’t love me because he seems pretty confused in my opinion.

When he came to meet me to tell me that it’s not working for him, he still hugged and kissed me. And it just felt like any other normal date, physically and emotionally wise. Apart from the “time off” talk, nothing was quite different…?

After the whole ordeal, we went for a meal together and he looked super sad the whole time. Before that he started crying at the slideshow that I’d have done for him, and before that he cried because I cried. I just asked him, “Erm… are you okay?” And to that he replied; “I’ll only be as okay as you are.” He said he’d miss me and think of me when he goes home.

The next time we’ll meet is when we go for a party together. Honestly, I have no idea how to show him that he still has feelings for me? And he agreed to take time out for me at least once in every 2 weeks as well… At first it was like once a month, then he changed it to like once every 1-2 weeks

But I do plan on getting him back because what we had was definitely not perfect but wonderful. And he’s a really wonderful person that I really, really love. And if we do work on our own individual issues and come together? I think we would have fitted better.

But honestly, am I like reading too much into him? Or does he really still love me, just that he doesn’t know?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 7, 2017 at 6:42 pm

HI Confused,

how are you now? Are you in no contact period?

Joni

August 19, 2017 at 9:52 pm

Hi Chris I have followed all your steps to the T!
I have gone on 10 GREAT dates with my ex and last weekend we went to a concert and I met some of his friends. Things we’re finally looking up and we finally were clicking again!

Long story short we both had too much to drink and the topic of an old ex of his came up… I absolutely lost it with him. I yelled at him on our walk to the car and most of his friends saw it all go down. I went absolutely insane on him. I am NOT PROUD of it. AT ALL.

I apologized shortly after and told him that I made a decision in my mind to have a good night for the rest of the evening. We danced and laughed and even made fun of my complete meltdown the next morning.

DID I COMPLETELY RUIN THINGS WITH HIM?
I don’t know what do to. I joked that I owed him a thank you drink for putting up with me next week and he said sounds good. But I haven’t heard from him since (2 days) This is completely out of my character I am a very laid back chick and Im worried that his friends will think/tell him that I am crazy and not worth getting back with.

Should I let him come to me? I am worried that his friends think Im absolutely crazy. We had made SO much progress.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 22, 2017 at 6:57 pm

how long have you been building rapport?

Angela

August 19, 2017 at 3:34 pm

Hey Chris,

I am having trouble implementing the no contact rule. My ex moved out of our apartment and left a note saying he wanted to break up. He did come back later to talk about things but stated that he felt it was something he needed to do. Unfortunately we have shared assets and we had to talk the days following the break up. I finally couldn’t handle seeing him and told him I wasn’t trying to be difficult or unreasonable but I needed to be away from him and didn’t want to to see him or talk to him for awhile. That same day I got messages from him asking about how to pay a bill online ( we have a shared account for bills and we also have our own seperate ones), then telling me he paid the bills, then later asking asking to pick things up ( we had agreed earlier that he can call back in a week as I was going to be busy with work and was out of town) I finally cave and asked him to call when he had time so we could discuss a good day… He was very persistent on coming on a day when I specifically told him I didn’t want to see him for awhile. He finally back down after I told him I really needed this time for me .. he hasn’t bothered me for the last few days but he did text to say he would call me on his day off… Is it ok to talk to an ex regarding these things during no contact… We lived together so there were a lot of things we shared.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 22, 2017 at 6:41 pm

yup, just only make it about that.

Maria

August 15, 2017 at 12:00 pm

Hello! My name is Maria and i’ve dated my ex boyfriend for 10 months. We broke up about a month and a half ago. I failed the no contact rule after 10 days and then I started it again.
He texted me after 2 weeks after i failed the NC and we talked for an hour. He asked me if i want my cat back and then he seemed kind of interested in what I have been doing (he asked about some major events in my life). Last week was his birthday and i wished him all the best and we talked to each other for 3 hours. I tried to shut the conversation twice but he wanted it to continue. He told me he applied to a new job and that he wanted to get his driver license (one of the reasons our relationship ended was the fact that I told him that he is wasting his time on meaningless activities and don’t want him to be a loser. I know, I screwed up).
After 2 days I contacted him again because he posted something on his Facebook profile and it reminded me of something that we shared together. That day he told me that he didn’t eat anything that we used to eat together since “that moment” (he couldn’t/wouldn’t say “break up”).
He didn’t delete our pictures on Facebook even though he deleted some pictures with other persons. He also responds positively whenever we talk. At the same time, he has always stated that he wouldn’t get back together with any ex girl friend.
I really love him and I want him back but I think that he might be over me or he is trying to get over me. I don’t know what to do because I don’t want to be pushy and needy but I’m afraid I’ll lose him. I know I failed the NC but I couldn’t stop talking to him. What should I do now? Repeat the NC? What if he is over me by time I will have finished the NC? Is he just polite when we are talking (I contacted him three times since the breakup and he contacted me once)? Is there any chance we will get back together? Please, help us.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 16, 2017 at 10:39 am

Hi Maria

check this one:
Your Worst Nightmares During The No Contact Rule

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