7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

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Jessica

August 9, 2017 at 4:39 pm

Hello, I’m in a very sick situation I ve got really tired and very sick really sick.. I met my ex since a 3 years ago and I felt that’s he is the one that he really complete me I loved him very fast and it was not a rebound we were ok and happy after a year he met a girl and after a while he was honest with me and he said that I love you and I want you in my life but we cannot get married because of our different environments it was really shocked so I left my home and I travel to a new country I found a job and I left everything my family friends and I decid to have my new life and I couldn’t It was harder I couldn’t stop talking to him we met many times he always come to my place traveling spend a week and leave and now he told me that everything is serious in his life with the girl that is suiting his family and environment I ve got shocked I went hospital billion times I got sick I cant eat i cant talk i cant do anything only work home home work so I spoke to him I said I ve tried a year to leave you and you didn’t accept and m really tired I need a very long break you have to accept this I knw maybe when you read you will say I am stupid or I donno but I’m still loving him I’m dying I know her and all details what to do I’m dying

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 10, 2017 at 4:07 pm

Hi Jessica,

are you going to do the no contact rule?

Katie

August 8, 2017 at 1:27 am

My boyfriend and I were dating for 7 months, together every single day (even the days leading up to the breakup. I had no warning signs). Last weekend he took me on a day trip to Carmel, and he dog-sat with me all last week. We got into an argument after we went out with friends and the next day he told me that was the last straw and ended it with me. Point blank no room to budge- ended it. He said that I have become a less positive person than when he first met me and that I was not pulling my weight in the relationship. He did not like that we would bicker in front of his family and ultimately decided to end it because he did not believe that the relationship was benefitting him the way that it used to. It has only been a couple days, but he has since blocked me on all accounts- facebook, instagram, ect. with no explanation. We work at the same healthclub, different locations inside of the club, and go to the same gym (that is where we met). So it will be inevitable to see him. I purchased the No Contact Rule Book and did learn a lot.. But since I am blocked on all social media, I would assume that he blocked my phone number too. Will it still be effective since he blocked me ? I need some help here. Any advice is welcome. Thank you!

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 9, 2017 at 3:06 pm

Hi Katie,

he probably just did that out of emotion. So, continue being active in posting.

Regina

August 3, 2017 at 2:02 am

My ex boyfriend and I did a break with no contact for 21 days from the end of June to July. I was set for his call that evening to talk about the break but instead he emailed me saying that although I was everything he thought he wanted, he had a gut feeling that we didn’t have a future. We agreed to meet to talk further but no more details emerged to help discover where this feeling came from. He didn’t want to try to make things work so we officially broke up. It’s been a couple weeks now but I have texted him a couple times to make arrangements to gather our things from one another. The last time we talked, I set myself up as confidently moving on but willing to talk with him if he contacted me first. He said he would if we could do the friends thing. I’m wondering if I should do another no contact period before doing the texting time period to gain him back? How long? Should I respond to him if he texts me?

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 5, 2017 at 7:01 pm

Hi Regina,

Yup, do at least 30 days.. Nc means no initiating, no replying. Just focusing in improving yourself and being active in posting

Sukhvir

August 2, 2017 at 8:11 pm

hi, so when my ex broke up with me, we were together 7 months was going perfectly, frequently told me how he saw a future with me after University, that he would never leave me etc, then a month later was like oh, i dont know if i want a relationship, i’m not getting the same feelings i did before (it was a very sudden change in attitude). said he wanted to be friends, i said i needed time before that could possibly happen.

so about a week later he messaged me something really trivial about where i work and i kind of flipped because i was still devastated at the time and it just seemed so ignorant and insensitive since he went about the breakup in such a sh*tty way and i replied with a long rant about how i need time and how much he hurt me and its not okay to act like he wasnt a dick and stating i dont want him to contact me again and that if i want to hear from him i will reach out to him. then I came across the NC rule, and didnt contact him for just over 30 day but he didnt contact me either. then he text me saying “i know you dont want to hear from me but i have a chlamydia, i probably got it after you but im just letting you know incase you wanted to get tested” thing is he knows i got tested for sure when we were together and that i was clean but i replied anyway saying thanks but will get tested, so whoever hes got it from he mustve slept with them in the last month and a half after we broke up. then he carried on the conversation asking how i was, i said fine how r u, then when i replied to his last text about what we i was up to in the summer hes read it and ignored it, to be fair there wasn’t really a reply warranted, but now im confused i dont know where to go from here should i restart the no contact then reach out when its over, i will have to pick up my stuff from his place in a month and a weeks time since i am moving back to the city he lives in (i attend university and i am home for the summer) and kept stuff there at the end of the last academic year…i dont really know what the next step is since he ignored my text.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 5, 2017 at 6:44 pm

How much did you improve and how active were you in posting?

Jodie

July 31, 2017 at 10:39 am

I have a really difficult situation. My boyfriend broke up with me last week but his brother died 6 weeks ago and he is grieving. He told me this has forced him to take a long hard look at his life and make changes where he is not happy – and according to him our relationship did not make him happy. Yes we had rows maybe more than most but we had so much thrown at us in the 2 years we were together. We also have a 1 year old son together. He has now blocked me after I tried making him change his mind about us. He said he still loves me but is certain we are over. What do I do? I can’t apply the NC rule because of our child and also because I don’t think it would make him miss me because his mindset isn’t like that of a regular person who had just split up with their other half because because he is racked with grief and is not thinking of anything apart from what he’s going through. This is the hardest situation I have ever been in. Half of me wants to be there as help and support him and the other half of me just wants to walk away and move on.

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 31, 2017 at 5:02 pm

Hi Jodie,

Check this one:
How To Get Your Ex Back When You Have A Child With Them

Ray

July 29, 2017 at 2:06 am

Hi my boyfriend of a year and a half just broke up with me in the last week, a few days before, he asks to meet up out of the blue and tells me he doesn’t know if it’s going to work out (he is attending college but it’s only across town, not long distance) we talked and I was a mess and we decided to try to work it out. Well we were going to meet a few days later to talk it out some more without me being a mess, but he called on the phone and basically said he doesn’t think he will put the effort in. We had a great relationship before this and didn’t fight often so this was really random to me. He contacted me the night of and I sent one reply but he never read it or responded, i have put the NC in effect but I don’t know if it will work, I feel if he didn’t even want to attempt to make it work that there was a problem in the relationship. Probably caused by some insecurities on my part. This is very recent as it happened about a week ago and I have been in NC the entire time but his birthday is in a few days. I would really like to tell him “happy birthday!!” And nothing else even if he responds , as I’m prepared to restart the NC rule from there, I would like to know if I really should tell him that though or just not???

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 31, 2017 at 6:07 am

Hi Ray

He already said he will not invest effort for a relationship with you . Contacting him on his birthday is like reiterating that you’re still there waiting for him and chasing him. If you really want the no contact rule to help you, stick to it and be active in improving yourself and in posting.

Victoria Anne Kent

July 23, 2017 at 2:43 am

Hi can you help. Only been broken up for a few weeks. He took himself out of a relationship on social media due to an argument. So I told him I was done with him I hated him and to never contact me again. Done the no contact rule so far but I have blocked him on social media so he won’t be able to see any thing now and if I do unblock him he’s gonna realise I’ve done it on purpose for him to see.

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 25, 2017 at 5:05 pm

why would he realize that?

S C

July 21, 2017 at 10:26 am

My ex broke up with me about 5 weeks ago.. We were together for 4 years and the last year and a half it was long distance where we saw each other 4 times. Now I saw him post break up I went to him and saw him three times. He acted very differently when I was in the same country. I’m moving back to the same place like he is and he knows it. Now I’m trying to give him space. We still text I initiate more, I guess I need to stop. But when he replies he’s very distant and cold.part of me wants to go no contact but I’m not sure its a good thing in this when I left he held my hand and kissed itvand was being very sweet. Arm around me kinda thing. I’m not sure what to do anymore..

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 25, 2017 at 1:06 pm

Do you want to try the no contact rule?

Mel

July 21, 2017 at 6:42 am

Hi, my ex and I broke up about 3 months ago. I did NC for 28 days, then I messaged him yesterday, trying to sound upbeat and positive, telling him I accepted the breakup, apologising for my initial post-breakup behaviour and said I hope we can remain good friends. It took him 8 hours to reply me, and he didn’t even bother to call me by his name. He just said hey and that he’s open to being friends and we should let the friendship grow naturally. What does this mean? And how should I progress further from then? I ended the first conversation already by telling him it was nice talking to him. 🙁 thanks a lot

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 25, 2017 at 12:16 pm

It means he’s just friendly.. How much did you improve yourself and how active were you in posting during and after nc?

Rana

July 18, 2017 at 8:31 am

Hey Chris and team,
My name is rana we broke up about a month and a half ago because he thought my feelings were stronger we were together for almost 2 years.. Its really hard and i want him back and it isnt for a short while ago that i found you website, attended the webinar and bought the book read it all.. Started imolementing no contact rule since he wanted to stay friends.. My only concern is that he traveled a week with friend to ayia napa and what if he forgot about me during that time and moved on? What makes it so sure that he will miss me? How can i really get him back? Plz help me out i need it.
Thank you ❤

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 18, 2017 at 9:31 pm

Hi Rana,

check this one:
Your Worst Nightmares During The No Contact Rule

Nadia D Teague

July 10, 2017 at 6:48 pm

For the last two years my boyfriend has been chasing a Woman dating other women lying about where he’s at,all the time he’s taking other women out and and did nothing with me.The last six months escalated we argued nonstop because I couldn’t take it anymore.He moved out signed a six month lease he said its been a month and wherever the girl is he is he’s taking her out spending tons of money, one minute he makes love to me says he loves me the next he’s back in the club with her drinking having sex this is after seven years and two children he talks to me badly talks about me to anyone who will listen but the thing is I was a good girlfriend yes I became hard to live with but I mean when u love someone e and things like that go on it makes u crazy.He does not contact me except for the children and even there he is lazy but when he sees me all dressed up to go out he starts getting mean and saying nasty things asking my children what’s going on
What do I do

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 14, 2017 at 9:11 am

Hi Nadia,

Check this one:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

Jen

July 10, 2017 at 12:56 pm

Hi, so my boyfriend of 8 months and I broke up a few days ago. It was pretty bad. At first he was saying he wanted space, but that he’s still in love with me & cares so much about me, but he feels that we need space so I can grow. I’ve been out of the country for the past 6 weeks though, so I was thinking we already have so much space between us …Then the next day I texted him saying how I’m in love with him and we just ended up getting into a full blown argument. He was saying how I’m the reason why our relationship isn’t working, that he just dislikes how I don’t own up to my wrong doings, but I don’t think that’s true about me, and how’s he’s tired of the arguing & he was also saying how he just wasn’t happy and just a lot more. So since I was so upset and tired of the arguing as well I just told him to go find someone that does make him happy. But I definitely didn’t mean that; I want to be that someone that makes him happy. After that I called him once and he didn’t pick up so it’s been 3 days that we haven’t spoken. I’m trying the NC rule ..but Is there a chance I could get him back? What should I do to make our situation better?

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 14, 2017 at 8:18 am

Hi jen,
Be active in improving yourself and be active in posting.. When are you going back from abroad?

Aimee

July 5, 2017 at 5:30 am

Hi there, me and partner went on a break he called it and I moved to my mums. After 4 weeks he decided he wanted me back. We came up with things we wanted each other to work on. I wanted him to work on his communication and to be more motivated around the house and to take pride, as he’s quite slobby. Meanwhile I was working on the things he wanted me to work on, but I felt he wasn’t, I would go around and the house was a mess. He would message me like I done the dishes, like he was after browny points. I decided I would give him a bit of a wake up call by telling him I can’t do this anymore, I can’t live the way he is and he’s made no effort. We have been together 2.5 years and just recently bought a house together. He was mad and said fine we are done, Afew times I got angry messages saying you have screwed me with the house etc as it will have to be sold and he used his kiwi saver and house is in his name and not mine, so I’m able to use my kiwi saver to buy my next house. Then one night after I completed my degree I went out with my friends, I asked a friend to pick me up as he new where I was, meanwhile he didn’t end up picking me up an ex from 11 years ago who is a good friend came to pick me up, but instead he turned up at my house. My ex went out and stated I didn’t live there. I then received Afew messages from him that night asking who that was, he seemed like a real winner, it was the same guy you dropped you home the other night, which it wasn’t! After not replying he then said don’t bring your mate around here or I’ll get them trespassed. He then messaged me in the morning to congradulate me on completing my nursing degree, I thanked him and thanked him on all the support he had given me over the time. Meanwhile there hasn’t been much contact at all, the only contact was from me regarding picking up some more clothes and that I can put something to the mortgage now I’m back working. When I turned up to the house to get my clothes he had made half an effort on the house, he was at rugby when I went there. Now for two days I have heard nothing, and I do want him back but I want him to make an effort around the house, and to just take pride in our home and even his tools. I’m not expecting him to be super clean, as I’m happy to do the cleaning but to know he will pick up after himself especially when I’m not there. I also want him to if he says he’s going to do something then do it, not take weeks/months to do it. What are your thoughts?

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 5, 2017 at 6:25 pm

Hi Aimee,

Check this one:
Do You Have The Same Values As Your Ex? (With Chase Kosterlitz)

Mimi

June 26, 2017 at 9:28 pm

I left a 4year old relationship because she gave me too many troubles. She wasn’t helping me. She lived a life of a gambler. I do more of the providing and all. She wastes money on gambling and never ready to change her ways. So I met this other lady who was ready to take care of me and help me work harder to achieve my dreams too. She was also in a relationship but they later broke up. We became couples and 3month into our relationship she wants to breakup with me. Now she has left me and am all alone. I love her and now am also regretting why I left my 4year relationship. Now I need either of them back. I have cried so hard dis few days begging her but still regretting leaving my 4year relationship. After reading your article I decide to follow your no contact rule to see if I can get her back. But I also wanna be back with my girl of 4years. Now am heart broken and am just going through her Facebook page seeing her with another person makes me jealous. She moved on after I left her for the new person who just broke my heart and I feel so bad for that right now. Now am scared my girlfriend of four years would want me back again. Because she begged and begged and I ignored her. Please what do I do to get her back. And my date of 3months is now back with her ex. Am at the cross road now. Am in d dark. Who should I really be fighting to get back with. Please Chris I need your help.

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 29, 2017 at 5:19 pm

Be independent and love yourself first before entering a relationship.. Learn to live with just yourself only this time..

Jhon

June 24, 2017 at 3:37 am

I tried no contact rule fore over 2 months but she does contact,should I response I probably thing she wants friendship only like before !!

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 24, 2017 at 5:50 pm

if you kept replying, that’s not a no contact period

minh

June 23, 2017 at 4:36 pm

hello! i have just broken up with my bf for 2 weeks. this is all of my fauts, i hurt him, made him shocked, i know he still love me but he doesnt believe me anymore, he said that if we love together again, i still made mistakes again, he said that we are not suitable with each orther, but now i really know what i was wrong, i really want to be beside him again and show him that i am trying and i am changing, we still love each orther but he dont want anymore, he is also having busy time with his career.
and one more difficult thing is that we are flatmate, how can i make no contact rule completely with him

i believe 100% that only he realize and believe that im changing then we will love each orther deep and deeper

please reply me, this is my very hard time !

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 23, 2017 at 9:47 pm

Hi Minh,

are you going to try the no contact rule and the advice above?

Caroline

June 13, 2017 at 9:32 pm

My boyfriend (now ex) broke up with me in the weirdest way. I am on college break but I have been seeing him every other week. I visited him memorial day weekend and we had an absolutely amazing long weekend together. My friends boyfriend was 2 weekends later in his city so we had been making arrangements to see each other at some point while I was there. The entire planning process he was acting excited to see me and sweet. 30 mins before we were supposed to meet he called me and asked if I wanted to meet at a bar near his place, but i didn’t want to. So he said I could just meet him at his place and we could decide once I got there if we wanted to go out. I arrived at his place and he acted super excited to see me, hugging and kissing me upon seeing me. For an entire hour we cuddled on the couch, laughing, joking, kissing, and catching up. He was acting completely normal, not acting distant or awkward. We were even talking about couple stuff (as if he wasn’t about to break up with me in 30 mins). Then all of a sudden he says he doesn’t think we should continue to see each other. It was so random and surprising that I thought he was joking for the first 2 mins. Why he would want to cuddle with me, act relationship-like, and enjoy my company for an entire HOUR if he was planning to break up with me? Why would he act like everything is fine? I am so confused and don’t know what to make of this. Help me understand why he would do this please!

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 14, 2017 at 3:09 pm

when did all this happen and how long were you together?

Claire

June 9, 2017 at 10:36 am

Last 2015, me and my boyfriend broke up after 2 years of relationship. I tried the no contact rule and follow every advice of exboyfriendrecovery and we really got back together! It’s effective. After 6 months of no contact, we got back together when we saw each other. Now we are close to our 4th anniversary unfortunately he broke up with me again because I caught him texting with another girl. I can’t accept the fact that he left his long term girlfriend for a girl he just met. I’m starting my no contact rule again but do you think it’s still effective for the second time around?

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 13, 2017 at 6:29 pm

It depends, commonly, it’s less likely to work the second time around but it’s still better to try than chase

Caila D C

June 8, 2017 at 3:45 pm

I could really use some advice… Is there a way to do that privately?

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 11, 2017 at 3:40 pm

Hi Caila,

if you want you can send an email here
[email protected]

Caila

June 8, 2017 at 11:40 am

I would love to know what kind of advice you could give me… Is there a way to explain my situation privately?

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 11, 2017 at 3:41 pm

Hi Caila,

if you want you can send an email here
[email protected]

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