7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

5,888 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”

Hello kitty

December 10, 2013 at 5:57 am

So my boyfriend and I were together for 9 months and right before our nine months, he said he needed a break. One week no contact. I went away to college on our 5 months and we are 2 and a half hours away from one another but we have been making it work. We have been arguing a lot because of the distance and after the break (which ended up 2 days because he said I just needed today and tomorrow to myself) then he hasn’t contacted me when it was supposed to be over. I called because I had a banquet the next day and needed to know if e was coming and he said he wanted the break to be permanent tht the relationship is no longer healthy and that he is not happy. He said he has broken so many promises to me and held me back from the college experience and it’s just not good anymore and he has just given up. He said he loves me to death but just can’t do it anymore. So now we haven’t been talking for 2 days and he unfollowed me on Instagram and twitter. I caved in today and texted him because he posted a sad Instagram photo and I said that I was proud of him and so were his parents and mine and that he had a great season and that I miss him and am always there for him even if it is just as friends. He read the message and hasn’t responded. What do you think he is thinking? What should I do to get him back?

admin

December 10, 2013 at 7:16 pm

I would start with a full month of no contact.

dimples

December 8, 2013 at 10:33 pm

My bf and I have been together for over a year, and our situation has to do with his lack of communication….when be is in a bad mood he has a tendency to get snappy with me and blow minor things out of proportion….and when trying to TALK abt it he deflects and sometimes points the blame elsewhere except on himself……long story short we’ve had arguments abt it before but this time he pushed me too far and the argument went completely left….we both got extremely angry, some of our words were below the belt and I broke up with him in the midst of a lot of anger….I do love him becuz when its good, its GREAT but when its not……..well u get the picture…… in dispute he’s usually the one to use the “goodbye” tactic……this time its me……becuz I’m really affected by his actions…..I felt like breaking up was my last option….but I really still want him and love him….its been 2 days and I have no intentions of reaching out but I do still want him……please help…..do u think I have a chance of getting him back?

admin

December 9, 2013 at 7:09 pm

I think you have a chance sure.

Brittany

December 8, 2013 at 4:35 am

and another terrible thing.. we had stopped having sex a while back, he felt like i was having sex with someone else but it was because i didnt want to give myself away like that being unsure of how things were.. one day when he came over he actually asked me to have sex & i said yes immediately not thinking & we made passionate love & everything felt like how it was before & it felt great to feel those emotions. But when he pulled back i felt so hurt i said certain things. He had told me that it felt good in the moment but he didnt think it was right to have sex. Im not sure if he has been having sex with anoyone else but i went on a rant after.. he said after that he had been sleep off of our sex we had. He hasnt felt that good and hasnt had sex like that in a min & that he loved me. I took only bad words, thinking he was meaning he had been having sex with other women & mine was just better.. im confused on what to do. I want to do this NC thing & i know i have it in me to do it cause before him i was a magnet to men but now i look desperate to the man i would like to be with.. im nervous i cant take if he says certain things to me. He is the only one i have told some of my deepest secrets & he is a gemini & good with words..

admin

December 8, 2013 at 7:00 pm

Yes. One of the issues I see with women on this site (not saying you just generalizing everything.)

It’s that women tend to be too available for men.

Brittany

December 8, 2013 at 2:36 am

Okay..im 22yrs old & have been thru some of the worst rships u can imagine. Abused in all possible ways. I started to find myself bringing that pain & hurt everywhere i would go. I finally said enough is enough & decided to never settle for anything ever again. I started to focus on myself & men starting flocking around me. It was nice but nobody peaked my interest for something long term & i was tired of going thru guy after guy. Well a yr ago, i met the man i feel is my soulmmate. We first started with instant connection. Looking into each others eyes & both knowing we felt something we never have before. We got together within the first wk & he said he loved me first! Everything was giddy & we were learning each other. But it got rocky after a few months when i started working more. He felt that i put my money before our rship & i didnt care about him. I actually stopped working so much for him! Things calmed down but he started showing me signs that he needed space not long after! i was confused & hurt but i gave him space & focused back more on work. I have trust issues because of my past & at first, even tho i felt a connection, i would push him away ALL the time without realizing it. I would be thinking i was protecting my heart from hurt but i was protecting it from love. Thats when the arguements over EVERY LITTLE THING started. Then one day when we decided to be open & i wanted him to know i trusted him now & took my walls down.. only for him to come clean about still being in contact with two exs & a girl he graduated with. I flipped at first but then appreciated him being honest. We stuck things out but then not long after, we ended up having a BIG arguement about money & i was still upset from learning about his exs so of course thenthings werent the same. He started to pull away & in my mind i thought telling & showing how much i loved him would get him back. It backfired. I chilled & he came around.. as soon as i thought we might be ok, he pulled back AGAIN! I felt like i was on a roller coaster & i tried pleading with him again. Only to get into it & have him tell me he doesnt want me or love me & its someone showing him now how much they want him. I told myself i wouldnt fall back & try to contact. I did good except when he contacted me, i responded quickly. Even just the other day i came to his job & gave him gas money & bought him food even tho he said what he said! idk if its cause he used to me being there & that i will try to come crawling back. & that conversation, i was told he doesnt want to be with me & if i moved on, it would be ok with him. I said i loved him but my heart cant be put on hold anymore. He said dont call or txt him again. I told him this morning i wouldnt. But i remember so many times feeling the emotion when he looked in my eyes & would say he loved me & i know he meant. He cant have lost it for me that fast. I want to get him back but honestly begging is not me & doesnt feel right but with him for some reason im compelled to plead my case. Idk whats wrong with me or him or what to do. Please help.

admin

December 8, 2013 at 6:59 pm

May I ask you a question?

What is your reasoning for wanting him back?

Brigitte

December 8, 2013 at 12:52 am

Okay so my situation is a little different. I’ve been seeing this guy since July and he goes to college states away from where I go to college so we decided not to be exclusive and to just go with it so we could both meet other people. However, then he started texting me every day and we would Skype every week and it seemed like we were dating. I saw him over Thanksgiving break and it was great and made me realize how much I missed him and that I wanted to be exclusive. Once we were both back at our respective schools I asked him where he saw this going and asked if we were just fuck buddies. He responded “Well we are good friends who have sex, so I guess?” so I ended it saying I was looking for something more serious and didn’t want to be attached for a long time so that I could meet other guys. He understood and we agreed to be friends. The thing is, I would SOOO love to date this guy. I know I can’t make a guy want to be exclusive, though. Should I still go with the NC rule and such? We will both be home for a couple of weeks over winter break and he’s asked if I want to hang out, and since we agreed to be friends I said yes.

admin

December 8, 2013 at 6:49 pm

This may be a weird question but I am a little confused. Were you two ever official?

Anny

December 7, 2013 at 12:59 pm

Ok thank you. I started the NC on Thursday. This morning I woke up to a text from him saying “if you showed up I wouldn’t mind though”
I didn’t reply and half hour later he sent “I miss you”

Do you think he’s staying to regret breaking up with me? Cause on Wednesday he said he doesn’t want to talk to me or see me and that of I visit him it won’t change. I also feel bad for not texting back. It’s hard cause I’ve never ignored texts before. I’m afraid that after a while he will think I don’t want him anymore and that he will get over me and move on
Brittani

December 7, 2013 at 9:00 am

well, me and my ex haven’t completely dated, but we were more than just friends for over 3 months. (keeping in mind we had been best friends for over 2 years) The fact that we were interested in each other was completely obvious since we started talking as more than friends, but i wanted to give it more time before officially dating. We stopped talking when i found out he had been talking to two other girls, and even though we weren’t official, it hurt me quite alot. I eventually talked to him since i still wanted our friendship to work. He explained to me that he felt as if i didn’t like him or wasn’t interested in the way i acted. When i thought about it, i noticed ways i could be confusing as to how i felt. So i told him straight up that i liked him so there was no confusion, and i asked him to let me know how he felt knowing how i did. after a couple days of waiting, i assumed he didn’t like me anymore and texted him “i’m glad were friends, let me know if you need anything.” I continued to try being friends for a week or two after that, always texting him first and then he would normally call me to talk. But a friend of mine said to take some time away from him like a “detox” so i’m getting a solid month away from him and our drama. I just don’t know how to go about it, since i only assumed that he didn’t like me. Even if he does still like me, how do i get it back to possibly being more than friends??

admin

December 7, 2013 at 8:10 pm

Have you read any of the major guides on this site about the subject?
brittani

December 8, 2013 at 2:11 am

I haven’t on this site, but i have others. Though, nothing covers what to do when you assume he doesn’t like you. So i don’t know which guides i should be looking at.
admin

December 8, 2013 at 6:56 pm

Hmm… I would start with this one: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-definitive-guide-to-making-your-ex-boyfriend-love-you-again/

But I also might make a guide that covers that.

Poka Pika

December 6, 2013 at 7:59 am

I miss this guy I use to date, we werent official, but we had lots of fun times together. I thought we were awaiting to make it official, you know taking things slow but I guess we wasn’t thinking nearly the samething I was. I wasn’t the only girl he had 🙁 it broke my heart. I told him how I felt about him and he told he I’m just a homie. ( wow I didn’t know homies kissed) anyhow, it hurts having feeling for someone who doesn’t care. So it took me three years but I did it. I cut him off. Changed my phone number, blocked his email and deleted all his contacts. It’s been three months and I’m happy, sad, happy, mad, happy, depressed all at the same time. I’m basically an emotional bipolar mess. My lady emotions are out of control. I want to contact him but I don’t have his info. Thank god I don’t because I know the cause of me talking to him again. But I miss him so much I check his social network daily and I just really wanna jump on him. I don’t want to feel this aay anymore because I know he doesn’t feel the same for me. Sometimes I wonder maybe he might be missing me a little tiny bit. Or I’m probably just lying to myself. Ugh I don’t know.

admin

December 6, 2013 at 8:01 pm

Have you tried any NC yet?

Anny

December 5, 2013 at 6:47 pm

Two days ago, my boyfriend dumped me via text. We were together for almost two years and talked about getting married and all that stuff. By the way he is 28 and I am 20. So he just texted me saying that he realised how much growing up I have to do and that he doesn’t want to be with me anymore and said goodbye. I tried talking to him because I would like to know what happened but he is ignoring me hardcore. Also he still has some stuff in his apartment that belongs to me and I wanted to ask him if I will get my things back or not. The problem is that he is in the military and currently stationed over seas so its not like I could just go drive to his place and confront him face to face. I still have a key to his apartment and he texted me saying its not that hard to change locks. Oh and I already got him his xmas presents, I was gonna mail them out this week. I cant return the items so do you think I should send them to him anyways? its nice gifts, a leather bracelet and necklace from guess. He didnt unfriend me from facebook yet, do you think I should do it? But i am kind of hoping to get back together… I really dont know what to do

admin

December 6, 2013 at 7:05 pm

Well, usually I recommend the no contact rule.

del

December 5, 2013 at 8:52 am

Hi, what are the chances of getting an ex boyfriend back after a year of being broken up? im guessing it might be bit of a different tactic? Thanks

admin

December 5, 2013 at 7:01 pm

I did write a guide over that. You might want to check that out.

taylor

December 5, 2013 at 1:09 am

iv liked this oner guy for three years of my life. and he finally asked me out a couple of weeks ago. he was amazing! even more amazing than what i knew him for as a friend. and i could tell that he really liked me, and he DEFINITELY knew i liked him back. but my parents and my friend were not happy at all. so i told him how upset my parents were, and he seemed concerned for me, but he said that i could always talk to him if i needed to and that he was there for me when i needed him. so we continued to date for like three more weeks. then we broke up.he said that it was because of his dad saying that it was disrespectful towards my parents for us to be dating when my parents didn’t approve. we broke up about five weeks ago and I’m still devastated. i think about him night and day.about wether he really cared or liked me in the first place, or wether the whole “my dad said” thing as all a lie or not. it drives me crazy with pain to see him with his friends and his friends girlfriend and this girl with the three of them. especially when she is wearing his jacket and HER BOYFRIEND IS RIGH NEXT TO HER! i want him back so bad. i just have no idea what to say. i never have to guts to confront him with my feelings anyway. but i feel like he misses me. or like when my friends ask him wether he wold get back together with me and he just shrugs his shoulders or doges the question. it seems like it hurts him to talk about me. and the worst part is i have to sit less than five feet awe from him almost every day. and walk past him as well. i want to run up to him and hug him and never let him go. but i don’t think it will make a difference to him what i feel. I’m so heart broken i have no clue what to do! i want to tell him that i still love him and that he means the world to me, how i loved every second together, and how when he looked at me and held me in his arms it was like nothing els mattered or existed except for us in that very moment! but then apart of me wants to keep me from ever talking to him because I’m afraid if loosing him completely or pushing him away. he said that we are still friends, but sense we broke up we haven’t said a single for to each other. and that kills me because i so desperately want to tell him how i feel. but I’m afraid if i do i will only push him away or the wrong thing will slip out and hurt him. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

~Taylor

admin

December 5, 2013 at 6:30 pm

I know its really tough. How long have you been in NC for a total for?

kelly

December 4, 2013 at 4:03 pm

So my husband of 5 years has left me an filed for a divorce. Its been 48 days an I have tried everything. I have begged an cryed. An nothing.g is.working. he has even changed his number. Although I can’t call him
An beg anymore I have made it a point to have him see me standing outside a family members house with another male. So he blocked his number an called me at 4am. Asking who it was. As much as I wanted to beg him to love Me I was a little more app to be a little
Mean. I ended up hanging up on him. He hasn’t called back. I want him to come home so bad. Did I do the right thing by hanging up on him an acting like I didn’t care. Please help me Im desperate.

admin

December 5, 2013 at 1:23 am

Have you read this: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-get-your-ex-husband-back/

Amy

December 4, 2013 at 6:56 am

Hi, I was just wandering if the NC rule will work if it is initiated 2 weeks after the break up while there has still been a lot of contact? Thanks 🙂

admin

December 5, 2013 at 1:09 am

It can still work yes.

monique

December 3, 2013 at 11:39 pm

my boyfriend broke up with me..all because i had said somethings that was below the belt..I said i was sorry many times but he act like i cheated on him..he wont answer my calls or texts..but just a week ago he love me n need me..i said those things to him because he told me his ex said she was pregnant n i was mad..but i was going to stick with him cuz i love him..we was together 6months so that was before me

admin

December 5, 2013 at 12:56 am

How bad were these things that you said to him?
monique

December 5, 2013 at 5:14 pm

It was REALLY bad..I was upset and i wanted him to hurt like i was…I dont know what to do

vicious crysis

December 3, 2013 at 8:30 pm

I was afraid my email might pop up so I used an alias…but here it goes(my actual email) lol

admin

December 5, 2013 at 12:42 am

Hahah no your email won’t pp up.
vicious crysis

December 3, 2013 at 8:51 pm

Not sure if you were able to read what I previously posted because for some reason it seems to have disappeared. anyways like I said I’ve been on NC for 2 weeks now near 3. I’m worried because when my ex broke up with me it was unexpected. he had his phone off the entire day(said it was dead) and showed up at my house later that night just to break it off. a day later I texted him he said I could call which I did. we talked for about 2 hours he basically said we are never ever a thousand percent sure ever getting back together. I begged and pleaded for him to reconsider, which only drove him further away. He said he still loves me but as a friend(compared me to his guy best friend). He also said he’s still in love with his ex but has no intention of getting back together with her. my brother in-law doesn’t buy it(he’s the one who introduced me to this guy after all and has supposedly known him for 3 years. he said there’s no way he’d ever get back together with her). Thing is we started dating 4 months after their breakup-they were living together/dating for 3 months. my ex and I were only together 1-2 months I know it’s been short but we fell for each other instantly on every level and for some reason no matter what he said that day I still feel like he’s the one for me. so cliché I know…before I learned about NC I tried texting him he responded each time I tried but shortly after our small conversations would start he would stop replying, so I stopped(happened at least 3 times) As of now he hasn’t initiated contact AT ALL, which scares me…I’ve also deactivated my FB since I started NC(not sure if that helps). I know I still have 2 weeks left but I’m terrified at the thought of sending him the wrong text. what should I send him? Thanks for reading 🙂
admin

December 5, 2013 at 12:43 am

That’s bizarre.

Well, I would actaully reactivate Facebook. Unless you think it will hurt you during NC.

vicious crysis

December 3, 2013 at 8:12 pm

I’ve been on NC for about two weeks now. I am a bit worried though only because my ex and I were only together almost 2 months and when he broke up with me he said he never wanted to be with me ever again. I did beg and plead for him to reconsider, which only drove him further away. He said there was no hope for us ever being together EVER again but that he still loves me as a friend(he compared me to his guy best friend). Thing is the break up happened out of nowhere I didn’t see it coming at all, or expect him to say any of the things he said. I figured we were on the same level, but I guess not….Now that I think of it I did have numerous character defects like making him my whole world and being so needy(forgetting about myself in the process). Anyways before I found out about NC he would respond to my texts within minutes but would stop replying shortly after. Now that I’ve discovered NC I have reason to believe he may still have feelings for his ex and that I might’ve been his rebound from the breakup. They were only together 3 months in total but they were living together. We started dating 4 months after their breakup and we both fell pretty hard for one another. Never experienced anything like it in my life…which is the reason why I don’t wish to let him go. he’s a beautiful person and I don’t wish to rebuild what we once had because obviously it didn’t work out. But I do want to start over and get to know each other all over again. I don’t know why but I truly feel like he’s the one for me. As cliché as it sounds and though our time together had been short it’s not something I just throw out for just anyone. he’s something special… With that said for my first text what should I send him? I know I have two weeks left of NC but I’ve been terrified at the thought of sending him the wrong thing only because he hasn’t initiated any contact with me at all, which somewhat scares me. haha. Oh yeah! when I started NC I deactivated my FB account not sure if that helps. But either way Thank you for reading 🙂 hope to hear back from you soon

admin

December 5, 2013 at 12:35 am

Actually I wouldn’t have deactivated facebook but its no big deal in the grand scheme. Have you had a chance to read my male mind during NC guide yet?

Beth

December 3, 2013 at 2:53 pm

My situation might be a little different but I still need advice. I’m 27 , the guy I’m with does things I don’t agree with. Such as he’s involved in liking to associate with people who do illegal activities and he even helps them. I’m more of what you can call a bible thumper. I have asked him over the last 9 months to change and let’s get married. He changes a little briefly. I became pregnant and just miscarried on Thanksgiving at 10 wks. I can’t help but to blame him for all the stress he put on me while I was pregnant. I feel like I’m mourning alone. I just wanted a good life and family with a good man. I do everything he asks. I do everything in the house. This is my house but he does pay bills. I do have two children from previous relationship but he doesn’t really do much with them. This morning we got in a huge fight where broke things and was yelling in front of the kids. Then he stormed out the door for work. I’m sitting on my bed plotting to put all his stuff on the porch and being 120% done this time. He never takes me anywherre , does anything for me. Everything is about him. I’m always to blame. He has belittled me I have no self worth right now. I want to initiate no contact but I don’t know if I can’t stick to it. He’s already texted twice blaming me for the fight this morning which is expected. I havnt said anythng back. Should I

from a previous relationship and he is ok with them but doesn’t really do much with them ta

admin

December 3, 2013 at 8:07 pm

Definitely initiate NC! No doubt at all.

Alley

December 3, 2013 at 10:30 am

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We’ve had a very strong passionate relationship. We had a blowup over a month ago, and we broke up for a week. And one of my ex boyfriend’s took advantage of me during that time. When my boyfriend and I got back together, I told him what happened a month later. And he broke up with me. He felt hurt and betrayed, and it truly was a mistake, because I trusted the wrong guy. The only thing he could seem to say was that he was done. We’ve been broken up for three weeks now and during that time, I’ve called him, trying to fix it. But he doesn’t wanna talk. And he’s a very jealous person, and doesn’t want me to be with anyone else. He answers my calls, and sounds sad when I dont talk to him for a while. Apart of me feels he just needs time, and that I need to leave him alone, and let him miss me. Our 2 year anniversary is in a month:( Could this be the case?

admin

December 3, 2013 at 8:03 pm

I think you are spot on.

Katrina

December 3, 2013 at 9:57 am

Hey, my boyfriend of two and a half years broke up with me two weeks ago because he said that he still loves me but he isn’t in love with me anymore. For the past 3 months we had both been super stressed with exams and everything and couldn’t see each other much or spend time together without studying or worrying about having to study as they were final exams. He said that he was excited to see me when he saw me but sometimes we just ended up in stupid arguments, and that when he was away from me it wasn’t working because I would get stressed and mad at him for silly things and that the bad outweighed the good. He was completely infatuated with me for nearly our whole relationship until the last few months and I’m wondering whether there is a chance of getting him back. I’m in the NC phase now but i don’t know where to go after that. Help me, I want him back so badly- I’m not sure whether to show him I want him back because he is very persistant and sticks to his decisions.

admin

December 3, 2013 at 8:01 pm

Well, have you read any of the big guides on this website.

cali rose

December 2, 2013 at 10:54 am

hey chris, i hope you can help me and give some advice on facebook. my head hurts I really need someone to talk, i already add you and send you a message pls responsed

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