How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Commit To You- Ex Boyfriend Recovery

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Shannon

February 19, 2014 at 11:31 am

Hello Chris:)
So I followed your no contact rule as best as I could with my ex and I sharing friends. When we saw each other he was always very flirty and generally just doing things he used to at the beginning of our relationship… I ignored these things until one night when we saw a movie and he held my hand. I brought this up with him and long story short he told me he still loves me and wants to be with me, he said he gets jealous with other guys around me and liking me. He also said the reason he broke up with me is because he knows he was making me unhappy and he couldn’t stand doing that too me. He told me that he is very unhappy with who he is, his home life and university etc so pretty much everything. He said that he hates himself and while he would love to be with me he wants to be a better person first. As in he doesn’t want to get back together with the hope that he will be a better person but rather first wants to be the person I want to be with and would be happy with. I didn’t push anything and we didn’t talk for a couple of days. He invited me out about a week or so later and said to invite our friends. On this outing it so happened that people went home and it was just us two… This lead to more mucking around and eventually kissing and hugging etc. Since then we have been talking constantly and we have had a few of these ‘sessions’… he says he wants to be with me but he still says he doesn’t want to start something now and have it ruin something that could possibly work later.
I guess I am confused to whether he is just lonely and wants someone to be with until he finds someone else…or if he is telling the truth and he just really wants to feel better about himself first so he is happy and can in turn make me as happy as he can.
I am following the advice of not making myself too available and I try to end the conversation prematurely (doesn’t always work). Should I continue what we are doing, while trying to make him chase/work for my affection or should I stop it and make him choose? I don’t want my value to go down cause he thinks he can ‘have’ me even though we aren’t in a relationship…
Any help would be appreciated 🙂
Thank you 🙂

admin

February 19, 2014 at 7:28 pm

K ending the conversation prematurely only works when you have him emotionally invested in the conversation. Maybe I could have done a better job of explaining that part.

You have to make him think he has you and then once he gets comfortable pull back a little bit so he is chasing you.
Shannon

February 20, 2014 at 9:58 am

OK so how do I know when I have him emotionally invested ?
admin

February 20, 2014 at 7:32 pm

You will find that the conversation flows more easily and he is very responsive.
Shannon

February 22, 2014 at 2:00 am

Yes he has been doing that.
He told me he wants to be with me but we are taking it slowly so we don’t fall into the same mistakes as before:)

Holly

February 15, 2014 at 2:59 pm

Hey Chris
My ex blows hot and cold. I don’t think he knows what he wants. We went on a break in the summer and he had a fling and he knows it hurts me but he promises me they’re just friends and it was over and I wasnt to worry if they hung out, He had a massive car accident and we got back together. However, he has never gone back to any of his ex’s apart from me.
He wanted some space to see friends as things were too intense so we broke up and I moved out on Sunday and I didn’t initiate contact. Every day this week he has attempted to initiate contact with me and I’ve been cold and not very responsive. However when I ignored him last night, he text me again and started to treat me like his girlfriend again and invited me over for chinese. I felt it a perfect opportunity as he was calm to find out where we stood. So after catching up I asked and he said, lets see how things happen, lets not rush and we need to keep seeing our friends. We ended up having sex and he is still in touch with me.
Whats my next step?
Carly

February 13, 2014 at 8:27 am

Hey Chris,
Thank you for your awesome guide. I tried no contact with my ex and it worked cause were dating again to see if the relationship will work again. The only problem is his roommates gives him beef about talking to me and that’s why he always comes to my place, he lives about an hour away. We get into arguments when we talk about me going over there and getting back together so we agreed to not discuss it. I can tell he is committed and is trying hard and I also completely changed for the better. He says he will never feel the same way again but I tell him yes. I know he’s committed cause he’s always busy but makes time to initiate contact with me and talk on the phone everyday. He says sometimes when were together he’s happy, other times no. What should I do ?

admin

February 14, 2014 at 3:13 am

…. he sounds like he needs to grow a spine and put his roommates in their place.

Help!??

February 13, 2014 at 4:12 am

I have a question on boomerang boyfriends. Ok so my ex has always sorta been a boomerang boyfriend where he breaks up with me and once I live my life he comes back. My question is once a boomerang boyfriend always a boomerang boyfriend??

admin

February 14, 2014 at 3:03 am

No not always but boomerang suggests extreme immaturity.

G

February 12, 2014 at 10:27 pm

Hey Chris,
I just wanted to thank you. I’m on day 19 of NC, and I had some really profound epiphanies about where our relationship went wrong last week. I’ve been dying to tell my ex about them, but I’m trying to stay strong and get thru NC because I don’t want to let you down. Today my thoughts and guilt about where things went wrong were weighing on me, and I sat down and wrote an email to my ex that I think is game changing. I really thought for a minute that I knew it all and should break NC for this. Then I decided to come to your site for a few. I read the thing about your dad negotiating on a car, and how you have to be willing to walk away, and I realized that deep down my motives for sending them email were fast tracking him into getting back together with me, and I knew that I my work wasn’t done. I didn’t send it. I’m going to follow your advice and go at least 30 days.

Thanks again!

admin

February 14, 2014 at 2:53 am

Hey there, you might want to check out my latest guide 🙂

He's hot & cold

February 12, 2014 at 2:10 pm

Hi Chris,

I actually think this is your best guide I have read so far!!! Well done. I enjoy them all and I get a great deal of value out of them but this one really got me thinking and was also, a bit of revision in that it reminded me of some of the strategies I need to master from your other articles.

I have a question for you. How do I get my ex to call me again?

A few months ago he was calling me regularly and even apologising for not calling enough even tho I was more than satisfied with how much he was calling and I mentioned that. We have a 1 year old daughter together so I have just came out of LC and I used the “first contact text” which was basically to say that I found (a product) we both used to love that I used to pamper him (in an emotionally intimate way not sexual way) and that it made me think of him and that actually made me smile.

He wrote back instantly, saying “Yeah righto, I am trying to come back home soon just not sure when.” He never writes back so quickly. I replied to that text and he sent another one back suggesting ways he can come back home to see us. I told him that’s a good idea and then cut it off and ended conversation. Then I text him a funny pic of our daughter and lately he hasn’t e en been responding to them, today he did instantly saying “She’s a funny one.” Which is big for him. Then our convo steared to me texting him about a fun moment I had with our daughter and again he replied instantly. I wrote back but then I got no reply from him.

What do you think is going on here with him? Am I doing things right with your “game plan.”? Is it working on him? Please reply. I know your busy but it would just make me an even more loyal fan 😉

admin

February 12, 2014 at 7:45 pm

Can I ask you something.

Did you ever initiate any calls to him?
He's hot & cold

February 13, 2014 at 11:51 am

Thanks so much for your reply Chris! Yep I am now delivering on my promise & I am an even more dedicated, loyal fan 🙂

He mainly initiated about 98% of the time. There was the odd occasion where I would have to ask if he could call me in regards to our daughter but even then he loved to keep me on the phone.

He tends to only call now to arrange our get togethers. He knows he can take our lil one whenever he likes but he always insists on it being the 3 of us and its always date like outings or long drives and he tends to put a lot of thought into it, choosing places I wanted to go to when we were dating. He even once called our time “family time”

What’s your suggestion on my next move? How do I amp up his connection to me again?
admin

February 14, 2014 at 3:17 am

Well, you could always end conversations on the phone prematurely if he keeps you on.

I suppose it is a good sign that he wants to see you.

Patience is key I think. I hope your looking like the beautiful woman that you are when you see him.
He's hot & cold

February 14, 2014 at 3:38 am

Thanks you but how do I get him to start to call me again? That’s my problem. We are texting more now but it’s mainly me initiating but he responds in seconds now whereas before he wasn’t even responding. I want him to start the intimidating again. How do I do that?

Yes I always look my best when he sees me. I have a great deal of confidence in my looks and have been very lucky that I am in better shape than before I had bub. People often say to me “There’s no way you look like you have even had a kid!” There’s not one mark on my body 🙂 I always make an effort to dress up but not over the top. He absolutely goes wild over me in my work out gear and I was wondering if I should wear my hottest gym gear when I see him next? Thoughts? I used to wear my best gym gear when he first met me as I always love to work out and it’s one of the things that made him so attracted to me.
admin

February 14, 2014 at 6:42 pm

Maybe I should make a guide about that. How to make him call you.
He's hot & cold

February 14, 2014 at 8:48 pm

Yes! Yes! Yes! Please 🙂 You are the man!

If you could write a guide about how to get him to call you again that would be great. See I feel like I almost had him back before he was very flirty and while I feel there are still se feelings he has for me somewhere inside him. I’m needing to get him back to how he was a few months ago. Chasing me and calling me again.

If you could write a guide on how to deal with the hot and cold ex that would be amazing 🙂
admin

February 15, 2014 at 1:44 am

Actually I already wrote one!!!!!

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-make-your-ex-boyfriend-call-you-or-answer-the-phone/
He's hot & cold

February 15, 2014 at 6:28 am

What a great read! It’s funny how I have so easily looked over the simplest yet extremely important thing when interacting with my ex or anyone really – good feelings vs bad feelings.

From now on every interaction I have with him I will leave him with strong good feelings. I will also call this to memory any time I feel tempted to vent about the fact that I wish he was home more to visit his daughter (I never do vent I have control of my emotions but I may mention disappointment which he could associate negatively to me).

So my question now would be, how do I know when to love on to the next text? As in what amount of timeframe is appropriate. I would be grateful if you could write a guide expanding on that for each response your ex could give, ie: positive, neutral and negative.

My ex’s response to my first contact text was neutral but I have not moved on to the “remember when text.”

We have been texting every day or so since my first contact text mainly with me initiating and it’s been texting him pics of our daughter or snapchatting funny pics of her to him which he responds to positively.

Based on our recent conversations when do you think I should make my next move, Chris?

My first contact text – immediate neutral response
2nd contact (a day after) was me sending him a very funny pic of our daughter – immediate very positive response
3rd contact – a snapchat of our daughter (he took a screenshot)
4th contact about 2 days later (now about 4 days ago) me sharing a positive experience with him about our daughter which made him think of happy childhood memories. He responded straight away.
5th contact – me using a text that caught his attention about something his daughter and I did. He responded straight away. I replied but he never responded after that. This was about a day ago.

So what now? Do I back off for a bit. This is where I get confused
He's hot & cold

February 16, 2014 at 7:48 pm

Thanks 🙂 I text him last night following your advice. I sent him “need something to brighten your day? I have something that will.” I was going to send a funny meme that I know he loves but I thought I would try and get him thinking but j got no response.

Where do I go from here? Do you think there is still a chance? He will write back instantly, then nothing! Not sure what to think.
He's hot & cold

February 15, 2014 at 8:35 pm

It sure is! It makes perfect sense 🙂 I LOVE your work!!!!

So back toy question. What’s an appropriate timeframe to send my next text? Am I ready for it based on our last interaction or do you think I need to give him a lil more space?
admin

February 16, 2014 at 6:11 pm

1-3 days. Up to you completely.
admin

February 15, 2014 at 6:22 pm

Isn’t it crazy?

That is literally the key to making someone like you. If a lot of your interactions leave them with good feelings they will be forced to like you.

Help!??

February 10, 2014 at 3:48 am

Hey Chris!
I have an instresting question… Can you get him back after 4 months? We dated for three years and it’s hard to read him. We are in no contact and have been broken up for a little over 4 months now. I read another blog and it said if you don’t hear from your ex it means you can’t get them back is that true?? All I notice from him are stares. He unfollowed me when we broke up but maybe a month ago followed me back on twitter. But that’s it. Do you believe in absence makes the heart grow fonder or wander? Out of sight out of mind?? Do you have a guide written for this or could you explain?

admin

February 10, 2014 at 6:30 pm

Yes here: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-guide-to-getting-him-back-after-a-year-or-more-apart/

Helen

February 9, 2014 at 11:22 pm

Hey Chris,

I posted below about my ex and I but I haven’t been able to receive a response from you and I really need your help! I was wondering if NC is less effective if this is the second time you and your ex broke up. And I want to get a better understanding how what it means when he told me that he couldn’t see a future right now and felt differently about me and hoped to see a future together and still missed and loved me.

There’s so much to decipher and I really need your help! He told me that it wasn’t me or us but it was him and that he needed to figure out what he wanted to do with his life. He’s considering moving back to his hometown which is quite faraway. I haven’t spoken at all to him 5 days now and he hasn’t said a word to me either.

Could I get your input on this? 1) Is NC less effective if this is the second time around 2) What does it mean when he says he can’t see a future with me right now but hoped to, still loves me and missed me. I’ve tried to buy your e-book but had trouble when trying to pay for it…
Annie

February 8, 2014 at 4:34 pm

Hi Chris,

Thank you so so much for your guides and E-book, I finally got my ex back few weeks ago. And thing is going very well right now, think we’re having a mini honey moon period. Thank you again, everything on your guides and Ebook really work and extremely helpful!!!

Ohh I have a question that stuck on my mind, would like to ask for your opinion. Talk about commitment, my bf always says that he loves me so much,bla bla bla and having a very strong connection with me and I really feel the same when we’re together. But he is not ready to public our relationship status (not the one on FB). He said he’s not ready to let his family and friends know that he’s in relationship now.

What do you think about that? As a girl, I always want to tell the world about my bf so it really makes me confuse.

admin

February 8, 2014 at 6:24 pm

Sometimes it takes a while for a guy to be comfortable but personally I think he should man up.
Annie

February 9, 2014 at 4:49 am

hahahahaha thanks Chris, it’s funny… but I dont think I should tell a man to be man up LOL =)))
admin

February 9, 2014 at 4:52 am

Hahahaha tell him your friend Chris told him ;).

NOO I am kidding dont do that haha.
Annie

February 9, 2014 at 8:32 am

I think you should put a “like” button under every comments 😉
admin

February 10, 2014 at 5:26 am

How? I want to do it! I wonder if I can do that.

ananomyus

February 8, 2014 at 12:59 pm

hi cris! My bf thnkx dat hix family wont agree to our marriage….he jxt want ux to be friendx…but i want him….help me out plx

admin

February 8, 2014 at 6:22 pm

Why does he think that his family won’t agree?

Susannah

February 6, 2014 at 7:23 pm

Hey Chris…
You are such a genius! You have really helped me keep my sanity and honestly I don’t know how you read all these painful stories all day so I’m gonna try and sum mine up as short as possible…
my ex split up with me 6 months ago he is 31 and decided that he’d missed out on being single as his relationship before me lasted 8 years (we were together 10 months it was a great relationship)
I did nc right at the start (I am looking good if I may say… Lol and have tried going on other dates but no one compares) and soon after that we had a chat and he said for him something was missing and that he wanted to be on his own so I agreed to be friends…
As time has gone on I hear from him more and more, every few days and we have met up three times in the last few weeks, he is always flirty/touchy but has never tried to kiss me since the breakup, he has also recently joined a dating site!!
I have so many questions but don’t want to push my luck with your time so my main ones are
1. do you think there is any hope to get him back or have I been well and truly friend zoned ?
2. How should I proceed going forward? I have read all of your amazing guides but am unsure of how best to proceed especially with the terror that he may meet someone else on the dating site and I have already done NC… Any advise would be so appreciated!!
Thank you millions in advance

admin

February 7, 2014 at 6:26 pm

1. There is hope but that doesn’t make things easy.
2. Hmm… how well are you advancing the attraction on his end when you talk to him?
Susannah

February 7, 2014 at 11:37 pm

Thanks so much for the reply when there are so many damsels in distress…
The signs looked so good… Texts were flirty and he was bringing up positive memories/complimenting me a lot!
Then Last night during a flirty text conversation I asked him if he is going to admit he still likes me; he said he does but he still doesn’t want a relationship and he has been meaning to bring it up but thinks we shouldn’t speak as much as we have been as it’s obviously more than friends and it’s not fair on me… Even though he initiates most of the communication!!
What the H Chris? I’m so confused now, I feel like all my progress has been shut off in a teeny tiny message and I’ve been dumped all over again! I kept my response light hearted but
Any thoughts on what to do next would be greatly appreciated…? I’m hoping this crazy kid isn’t too hard to crack
Susannah

February 10, 2014 at 9:14 pm

Hi Chris…
I know you’re a very busy man but I reaaaalllllyyy value your opinion… Based on the above situation Do you think go
1.NC or
2. friend zoning HIM would be my best approach
Or
3. Listen to the boy and just give up already coz it’s a lost cause…?
Thank you tonnes in advance for replying to my constant messages 🙂
admin

February 11, 2014 at 12:50 am

Maybe a combinatino of 1 and 2.

Anna

February 6, 2014 at 2:01 pm

Hi chris!

Me and my exboyfriend were together for about one year
and 7 months. He broke up with me for about four months
ago, saying he wasn’t sure if he liked to be in a relationship
anymore. We are both 25, and he told me that he wanted to be
single and meet other girls. I got sad, and unfortunately very
angry and needy, so he did no contact on me for one month.
After that, we talked to each other again and he wanted to see
me, but just for sex. He made clear to me that we will never be
bf and gf again. I got really sad, so we never met. I played the
ungetable girl for one month, and he was really chasing me, asking
me to see him. When he finally got to meet me, we had sex. I was
so stupid. I thought that he maybe had change his mind, and wanted
to be with me again, but he told me that he was just using me for sex.

I told him about my feelings, and I told him that I don’t want him to use
me again. He understood. It has now been one mont sinse we met, and he has been chasing me a lot, almost everyday. He is asking to see me again, but he is telling me that we don’t need to have sex if I don’t want to. I don’t understand him, and I really need help with this. I love him so much and I don’t want to be his friend or bootycall. I want to be his gf.

The problem is: I know that he is really lonely. He don’t got any friends, since it’s hard for him to make close friends, for some reason. And his
family lives in another country. So he just got me and his boring brother.
I’m afraid that he is only chasing me because he feels really lonely. I don’t
want to be his “time-killer” or his backup girl until he meet someone else who can take my place. I have told him this, but he is not listening and he seems to stand by his decision to not be bf and gf again 🙁

I am playing the ungetable girl again. And he is still chasing. What is the next step? :/ sorry for my English. I’m fro m Sweden.

admin

February 6, 2014 at 6:22 pm

Have you been on any dates with him?
Anna

February 6, 2014 at 6:44 pm

No, not a real date. I have only seen him 3 times since we broke up, and that was one month ago. He keeps chasing me and have been asking many times if I want to go to the cinema with him. I really want to see him, but I have always said “no, I’m at work” and yada yada.. I think he only wants to see me because he feels lonely… And I don’t want to be his “time-killer” or friends with benefit. What so you think I should do?
Anna

February 6, 2014 at 6:50 pm

(We broke up four months ago, but it is now one month ago since we met)

jw

February 5, 2014 at 2:45 am

so Chris, iv been wondering this for a while..

how do guys know when wer moving on.. or when we are less interested?? i feel like my guy always knows when im less interested or when he needs to start making an effort cause im moving on..

what makes them feel that and start to go oh damn i need to step up

admin

February 5, 2014 at 6:25 pm

Usually if they see you talking to a bunch of other guys or going on a lot of other dates.

Taylor

February 5, 2014 at 12:51 am

Well I went 36 days no contact. I did not hear from him the entire time. Today I sent my first text and he responded fairly well I think. I did wait an hour before I responded. When he responded he asked me how I had been and after I told him I was going to not respond when he did then he went on to tell me how he was thinking of moving to another state. I was the one to send the last text which I hate. Now I’m not sure how to handle the situation now. What’s your advice?

admin

February 5, 2014 at 6:50 pm

I think it went well actually..

Wait a day or two and send another text.
Taylor

February 6, 2014 at 2:26 pm

He actually responded to the last text I sent but he waited exactly 24 hours to do so. It was very strange since the time stamp was the exact time from the last text. I waited an hour to respond to that and then heard nothing else from him. Should I add two more days to not texting him or if he does respond again today should I wait a day like he did?

bo

February 4, 2014 at 8:16 pm

Your advice works like magic. I did 30 day nc successfully and after a couple weeks he’s been texting me everyday and even asked to come over one night last week. He seems interested and I’m positive he misses me. I’m not sure if getting back together is on his mind. He’s always been a guarded person.

Do you have any advice for what to do between the first and second meet ups? is it ever OK to tell him I want to try again with him?

admin

February 5, 2014 at 6:27 pm

It is but you have to do it when you know he is emotionally feeling the relationship.

Helen

February 4, 2014 at 8:03 pm

Hi Chris,

I unfortunately am no stranger to your website. I was able to get my boyfriend back after he had dated around and realized that he missed the deeper parts of our relationship. Although we had a couple of issues after we had gotten back together, we had worked hard to get through them and I thought we were doing well.

About a week ago, my ex told me that he was starting to feel unsure and less strongly about us. I tried to talk to him about it and then this past weekend we broke up again. He told me that he was beginning to feel unsure about us when he went back to his hometown to celebrate Christmas with his family. His parents offered for him to move back and work for the family business. My ex works as a personal trainer, works many long hours, and is often exhausted. He periodically questions what he should be doing with his life and what his career should be. I recently just started my first job after finishing graduate school and this job is ideal for someone in my position. He said that he was really happy about getting back together and started to feel unsure again.

This past weekend, he said that he couldn’t see a future with me and that he needed to figure out what he wanted to do with his life. Just a couple of weeks ago, he told me that he didn’t want to move back because I was here and he wanted to make it work with me. We both said that we hoped to see a future together, love each other, and didn’t want to lose each other. I know you hear this often but we have been there for each other and our relationship has gone through many tests. I don’t want things to just end this way after I had worked so hard to get it back and I do want to build a future with him. I’m the only girl that he’s gone back to and he’s dated many others before me. I guess I don’t understand that he’s dated others before and after me, something made him come back.

He told me that I did nothing wrong and that is wasn’t us but it was him. What is that supposed to mean? How is it that you love someone, hope to have a future with them but can’t be with them right now. And are my chances infinitely smaller of getting him back because I’ve gotten him back once already? He wants to keep in touch and see me from time to time still.

Your input would be so helpful, I’m so lost. Thanks for your comment and website.

admin

February 5, 2014 at 6:32 pm

Does he seem like the type that is afraid of deeper commitment?
Helen

February 5, 2014 at 7:31 pm

I don’t think so but since the first time we were apart, he has become really indecisive and unsure of his life. I have probably been the most serious girlfriend he has ever had.

He said that he feels differently about me and couldn’t see a future together right now but wanted and hoped to.

Your question really worries me.
Helen

February 5, 2014 at 7:37 pm

Is it much less likely he will come back this time around? The time we were back together was so short and I really do think (and hope) that we could build a future together.

Please tell me that there is hope 🙁
dan

February 7, 2014 at 6:10 pm

Hey Helen, I’ve been in the same situation with my ex since 15 of jan until now. I think guys nowadays are afraid of being committed to a girl, maybe they feel its too early for them, they need to develop themselves more. Maybe they’re afraid of disappoining us cause they know how much we believe in them.. I just wanna know what make them change their mind suddenly.
I hope he comes back.
Sorry for my english
We need your help Cris:)
Helen

February 6, 2014 at 5:42 pm

Hey Chris,

My replies no longer said that they are waiting to be moderated but I’d really appreciate a response if you could give me one.

Thanks for your help.
admin

February 7, 2014 at 6:15 pm

What was your question? I can’t find your old ones?
Helen

February 7, 2014 at 6:33 pm

I wanted to know if it was much less likely he’d come back this time around and get an idea of what he is feeling or thinking.

He said that he misses me and loves me, can’t see a future right now but hopes to. I wanted to know if it’s likely he’ll come around. Thanks for your help Chris, your insight would be really helpful. I hope this isn’t a lost cause. I haven’t heard from him since a couple days ago, this time I”m much better at NC but it’s still hard.

anonymous

February 4, 2014 at 12:00 pm

Its day 10 and i still have not heard frm my ex boyfriend. I’ve done nc a few times. Did 30days nc the first time. I’d usually hear frm him after 2wks of nc max. Should i be worried that i have not heard from him now? 🙁 will nc lost its effect? I’m worried that he has really move on this time.

Anyway i really can’t wait for your new guide!

admin

February 4, 2014 at 5:54 pm

No no no..

Just be patient it is still so early.
anonymous

February 5, 2014 at 7:24 pm

How long would u suggest i do nc this time? 30days again? Should i reach out to him again if he doesn reach out to me?
anonymous

February 8, 2014 at 9:11 am

I broke nc on day 13! 🙁 i texted him saying “hi, you’re been on my mind lately. Wondering how life’s been for you?” He replied saying “hello, oh what happen?” I said “nothing happen, just wanted to know how r u” he said “nothing happen. Still the same old me” i said “anything new in your life?” He said “nope. Hahaha. Nothing. Why? Do u hv a new bf?” 3hrs plus later i replied saying “haha nope.”

What now? I’m not sure if those replies are positive or neutral? Should i go into nc again before starting a new thread of convo? I’m stressing on how to start convo, what to say etc 🙁 help pls?
anonymous

February 8, 2014 at 9:13 am

Anyway why of all things he asked me if i have a new bf? Instead of asking how i am etc. Does that mean anything?
admin

February 8, 2014 at 6:14 pm

It means he has a little jealousy.
anonymous

February 8, 2014 at 12:10 pm

I sent another msg 2hrs later saying “u got a gf?” And 5mins later he replied “nope”

I didn know how to cont the convo frm there so i didn reply him. His replies seem so neutral right? Though he replies very quickly within a few mins; def less than an hour. I took my time to reply though. I take at least an hour to reply him. I dont know what to talk to him abt to get him hooked on a conversation 🙁 help pls chris?

Kazzie

February 4, 2014 at 9:26 am

Hi Chris,

I needed a bit of advice. I was just wondering how long I should leave my ex waiting after sending the ‘do you remember, no i shouldn’t’ re-ignition of feelings text?
My ex took the bait hook line and sinker but your blog just casually suggests that ‘imagine waiting a day for a reply’ would drive him crazy. Is a day how long I should really wait?
Thanks so much your really great blogs, so far it seems to really be working for me. My advice to any girl reading definitely do at least 30 nc its hard but it WILL work!!

admin

February 4, 2014 at 5:48 pm

No I wouldn’t wait for a day I was just saying that to kind of give you an idea. An hour or two should do the trick.
Kazzie

February 5, 2014 at 9:31 am

Thanks so much 🙂 I waited about 12 hours and it worked a treat! I’m just starting to learn/ realise its all about being patient and not being to quick to act. I’m leaning back for a bit. He needs to know my time is precious and he has to earn it, why? Because I see now I’m worth it.

Dina

February 3, 2014 at 7:24 pm

Hello, me and my boyfriend of 3 years are going through a difficult time right now, and a few nights ago we were in the heat of an argument and I said “its over”, and hung up…but I didn’t mean it. Now he turns off his phone and ignores me. I told him that I’m sorry over and over and over again, and that I didn’t mean it…this isn’t the first time it’s happened..and he’s said the same to me before… I understand he’s upset, but I don’t know why he’s ignoring me. What do I do?? Will he come back?? ( I wrote him a letter and I want to put it in the mail…should I? He said that I don’t really love him, but I do!! What can i do to show him i love him? I’m scared that if i keep calling, he’ll be annoyed, and I’m scared that If i don’t call, he won’t love me anymore and his heart will grow away from me. I’ve never cheated on him, he’s never cheated on me…we’ve gone through worse trials than this Is this is for us????

admin

February 4, 2014 at 5:33 pm

Did the two of you argue a lot?

Emily

February 3, 2014 at 1:08 am

Hello Chris ! I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago (after a year of dating). We are still in touch and do stuff together . He is in a ldr with someone else right now while I am near. Lately , after I went on a date with someone else , he has been saying things like how he expected to be better for at least a year , that he wants to be my priority and that he wants to be important to me . We even had a conversation about the way we love each other now and he said he felt bad about me being in love with someone else and things like that he realises that it’s his fault .He told a mutual friend that he doesn’t know if he loves me but he wouldn’t interfere in my life in that way again . I certainly want him back but he doesn’t seem to want to leave his new girlfriend . I pretend to be okay with the break up . Please give me some advice .

admin

February 3, 2014 at 6:06 pm

Have you read any of the material on what to do if he gets a new girl?
Emily

February 3, 2014 at 10:56 pm

I have read everything . What troubles me is his behaviour .
Emily

February 4, 2014 at 1:45 pm

Should I go into NC or no considering we are friends ? And what should I do with his behaviour ?

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