5 Powerful Methods To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Regret Losing You

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Bliss

August 24, 2015 at 8:46 pm

Hey Chris
been in a relationship with this guy for 9 months, he asked for a break while i was in hospital, i asked him if he still loves me he said he doesn’t know he doesnt’t wanna lie, i asked if the break meant a break up he said its all up to me, i’m sooo hurt because i went to hospital because of him and then he does this, i got tempted to text him the nxt day after the break telling him how sorry i am for being the way that i am he ddnt reply, since then i’ve been on the NC rule its day , its been 4 days nw, do you think he’ll ever want me back or regret loosing me? please help 🙁 m sooo hurt

Chris Seiter

August 25, 2015 at 5:43 pm

Why did you go to the hospital because of him?

Catherine

August 19, 2015 at 1:09 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me four days ago. He left me pregnant and alone. His family is threatening to kick him out and trying to force conversation between the two of us. They constantly contact me and I keep telling them to stop and let it run its course. If it is over it is over. I need to find my feet. But they keep pressing it. I have begun taking action on moving on with myself.. Trying to make myself feel better about who I am. I want to feel beautiful and lately I have gotten lazy. No makeup, no hair styling, nothing. I blamed it on pregnancy, but that wasn’t the entire case. . . I fell back into the routine of what my ex husband of nine years had. I realise that I don’t want my ex of nine years back, but the routine felt easier than making anymore effort to the man I could actually see a future with. I already had him. How could I possibly lose him at all was my thoughts. But he told his brother it is because everything stopped. Took a hault when he really needed me to prove that I was interested and he was still worth tyr effort like it was in thr beginning. After I left my husband I was strong. I did my makeup and hair just to sit in the house. I always used terms like a woman should look beautiful just in case. And it was really me. I joked, laughed, tried new things, took risks. I was successful even with money. But then I got with him and my strong will fell. I became nothing to keep. I am afraid there is no repair for what I have done. I haven’t contacted him for two days even though he texted me he wanted to talk in a few days about it all. He broke up with me over text message. We lived together for almost a year. The first day of our break up I packed all his things for him and sent him out the door. I wasn’t hostile or crazy about it but his family is. Plus we work in the same building. He is a lunch cook for tge employees. My question is how do I use the no contact rule when it is unavoidable where I work. And my other question is how to I make his family see sense in what they are doing. I want them to stop but they are only thinking of the child not us rebuilding a solid relationship. Help please I am going nuts.
A

August 19, 2015 at 11:45 am

Hi Chris! I’m enjoying your insight but have a bit of a unique situation. We have been broken up for a month…did not go no contact bc we ended on the best terms possible and wanted to remain friends, plus we lived together for years, have a phone contract together etc and have had about 1 hows lIke phone call a week and occasionail texts mostly about house keeping type things. I have been doing a lot of reflections and self improvement during this time rather than sulking and have decided that I’d like to give our relationship another shot. The thING is 30 day NC is impossible because when we broke up we decided to both still go to the sporting events that we have tickets for (starts in about 3.5 weeks) together. I could manage 21 day no contact (except for any housekeeping stuff which I could keep brief) but then the texting calling phase would be way to quick. So what would you recommend for an accelerated time frame for nc, texting, and calling so I can fit in all in appropriately within 3.5 weeks? Thanks for your advice!

A

August 20, 2015 at 5:19 am

So does that mean that the no contact part is much more important than the texting and calling part? Instead of following the texting/calling formula to the letter after doing the 21 days should I just send one or two funny or reminiscent/complimentary texts in the week leading up to when I see him? Or follow your texting/calling plan up untIL I see him (which would make for one text interaction a day)? …which seems like it might be counterintuitive to go from zero to sixty so to speak. I wish I could follow your plan exactly and in the right time length bc I’m sure it would yield the best results, but in my situation it’s just not feasable.
Chris Seiter

August 19, 2015 at 7:06 pm

If you do 21 days no contact you will have to do strict no contact.

Sarah

August 17, 2015 at 2:32 pm

Hello Chris,
I discovered your website recently because my ex broke up with me in a very hard way: we spent a week end together, it wasn’t that good, with a lots of ups and downs… and when I went back home we exchanged 3 or 4 text messages and then no answer from him! I decided not to write back because I’m always the one who make the first move…. Two weeks later, after no contact I went to the beach, few hours later he cam to… I acted like I don’t know him, then after few minutes whileI was sitting with our common friends, he came and said Hi to me, like nothing is happening like I’m his “buddy”.
So later that day I went talking to him and I asked him “why he came to say hello since he didn’t talk to me for two weeks?” and he was like “I should go now, it’s not time to talk about all that, I’ll text you later” and of course, he didn’t texts me it’s been a week now… I’m into the NC rule, but I assume that when he came and talk to me it means something no? Should I wait for him or that means that I don’t mean anything to him, I’m just like of his guy friends..?! Thank you for your advices!
Sally

August 17, 2015 at 7:28 am

Chris,

My boyfriend of a year an half have been broken up for about 2 weeks now, and I have been using the no contact rule for about a week. The reason he wanted to break up with me was because he said we where fighting way too much and he just wants to go out and have fun with his friend, also he is planning to go to Thailand in the next year, and does not want a girlfriend when he goes. He has tried contacting me saying “hey” I did not reply, a few hours later he sent “to good for me”. I’m not sure what to think or do. Please help!
Javelin

August 17, 2015 at 6:15 am

Hi Chris,

I used to be in a relationship for 8yrs.. then found out that my bf cheated on me for 2yrs with the same girl.. i was expecting that he will fix our relationship but instead he broke up with me and also to that girl as he said he wants to focus first in himself.. i let him go because he’s begging me to let him go.. we keep texting for a month and see each other twice a week.. he keeps calling me “baby” so assumed that he still loves me.. but i asked him several times if he still loves me but then he keeps saying that he doesn’t love me anymore since i want him to win back.. then i realized and told him that we need to stop it since it’s nonsense at all.. and then he told me that “we can still continue our communication and not end to this but if this is your decision and for yourself.. go on..” what should i do Chris? I still love him but i don’t like that kind of set-up what we so called “bestfriend”. Thanks! 🙂

Javelin

August 17, 2015 at 10:12 pm

Thank you Chris.. I will keep your advice and continue reading your books.. do you think Chris he doesn’t love me anymore? For 8yrs he can easily say that to me..
Chris Seiter

August 17, 2015 at 10:47 pm

I don’t know if he still loves you but the best way to find out is to follow the ex boyfriend recovery pro. You will find out for sure in time. Just remember is usually takes 3-6 months to get your ex back, can’t expect it to happen right away. 🙂
Chris Seiter

August 17, 2015 at 8:09 pm

Try no contact, dont be friends with him if you want more.

Amy

August 16, 2015 at 1:56 am

Hi Chris, I’ve been doing the no contact rule for exactly a week now. My ex and I were in a long distance relationship for the past three months. I went to visit him in Florida last weekend and he broke up with me before I left. I move back to Florida in two months so I think he’s plan is to be on a break until I’m back in town. I have every intention of completing my 30 days no contact. However, it is my birthday next weekend, so I’m pretty sure he’s going to contact me via text. Should I respond to this birthday text or ignore it? He’s a stubborn guy and I really want him to feel the pain of my vanishing from his life overnight.
Melanie

August 15, 2015 at 5:46 am

Hey Chris, thanks so much for your articles. They actually give me hope when everyone tells me to give up! 🙂
My boyfriend of almost a year broke up with me a few days ago. I have a couple questions. 1. Since he broke up with me b/c he lost feelings, is it possible that they would come back? 2. Would I follow your advice here to make him regain his feelings for me? And 3. We go to school together so would I just do no contact until school starts? (August 25.) thanks again!

Melanie

August 20, 2015 at 3:19 am

Thanks! I’ll let you know how things go 🙂
Melanie

August 18, 2015 at 5:31 pm

Thanks so much! I’ll give it a try ? is there a way to make him jealous without seeming like too much of a flirt towards other guys?
Chris Seiter

August 19, 2015 at 1:24 am

Yep put up a photo on facebook with a guy friend that he doesn’t know. It will make him wonder.
Chris Seiter

August 17, 2015 at 11:04 pm

Hey Melanie, I’m glad they are helping you! 1. Yes it is possible. 2. Yep, use this and look at a few more guides 3. You should do no contact for 30 days. When your at school do limited contact and use a little jealously to get him to be re attracted to you.

Melanie

August 14, 2015 at 10:35 pm

My ex boyfriend (we dated for a year) just told me a few days ago that he had lost all feelings for me. I–I’m proud to say–haven’t contacted him since. 🙂 although I cried in front of him he doesn’t know the pain I’m in right now which I guess is good! So I have three questions. 1. is it possible for him to regain feelings for me? And I also go to school with him starting the 25th, so it’ll be impossible not to talk to him (my school is tiny.) 2. do you suggest I just do the no contact rule until school? And 3. How do I get him to regret his decision if I see him everyday?
Thanks again for your wonderful articles and advice. They actually give me hope when everyone else says to just forget him and move on! 🙂
Jackie

August 14, 2015 at 1:42 am

Hi Chris,
I purchased and read your ebook. I think you have many great ideas. Unfortunately, my breakup was very messy and I committed many of the “deadly sins” in the first month. We were together for about 1.5 years and lived together. We broke up a few times but the final was in February. For the most part, I’ve heard very little from him which has been very painful as I thought we were quite serious. He’s only texted me about money and some lease stuff. He did agree to have coffee with me a few months back and he was nice (previously he was SO angry) but aloof and told me to “take care” OUCH when we parted ways. He has ignored almost all texts since our coffee (I have been spacing them out so not being a gnat). I’ve taken the time to learn what I could have done differently, focus on working out and I’ve even been on dates. I am not as emotional and feel like I’m a more confident head space. I do think he thought I was an UG at some point as he said I was the total package and I’m really the only girl he’s ever committed to. However, I am thinking I need to give up because I’m not getting any signs this guy misses me and he hasn’t responded to my past 3 texts (spaced out since June). I was supposedly his first love and he called me “the love of his life” and took me on an amazing trip for our anniversary in October. He said our year+ together was the best of his life, but at the end, we were fighting a lot. We have mutual friends and it doesn’t sound like he’s even told them much about why we broke up, nor does it seem like he’s asked about me. He is very stubborn and has a temper so I don’t know if that’s playing a part. After how many non responses/length of time since the breakup should you realize that he’s moved on and you have to as well?

Jackie

September 14, 2015 at 9:39 pm

Thanks again for the response and congrats on the new baby! It has been 7 months since the actual break up (probably 6 months since our last emotional/negative correspondence) but you think he needs more time? I’m starting to lose hope…
Jackie

August 26, 2015 at 2:00 pm

Hi Chris,
I don’t think he was upset when he made the take care comment. It was over 3 months after the breakup and we had a cordial meeting. Were my texts okay in your opinion? I thought they were pretty good and didn’t get any responses.
Chris Seiter

September 1, 2015 at 9:08 pm

Yeah he may just need some more time.
Jackie

August 14, 2015 at 3:48 pm

Thanks for the quick response! I know you’re very busy. The first text was a playful question about sports (we watched a lot of sports together) and there was a big tournament on at the time. The second one was telling him I watched the second movie in a series he introduced me (we watched the first together) and that I loved it. The third one was a link to a funny story. I just feel like maybe saying “take care” the last time he saw me was a pretty clear message that he was over me.
Chris Seiter

August 25, 2015 at 9:32 pm

Ah people say things that they don’t mean when they are upset. Don’t read into it.
Chris Seiter

August 14, 2015 at 4:08 am

What did your texts say? It’s really up to you, how long you want to wait. I’d recommend moving on without moving on. If that makes any sense. So go on dates if you find someone great if not try him again in the future.

CJ

August 13, 2015 at 3:11 pm

Thanks Chris. Your writings are always so empowering.

Ex of 9 months and I broke up 4 days ago. It’ll be his birthday in one week. Should I just send a happy bday text? If I don’t, I don’t want him to think I’m cold or that our relationship meant very little to me. What do you think Chris?

Chris Seiter

August 13, 2015 at 5:53 pm

No do not text him on his birthday. https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-no-contact-rule/

Isabella Do

August 12, 2015 at 2:05 am

Hi Chris,

Your website is so insightful, thank you. I did the NC thing and my ex texted me to see how I was..then we started talking again..he seemed very regretful but was sussing me out to see how I felt as he has a very big ego. He admitted he realised a lot and “doesn’t know how he can face my family” cause the damage is done etc.. I played it cool and said what’s done is done don’t beat yourself up over it etc we’re better as friends. We’ve spoken here and there and the daydream messages turned a bit sexual. We ended up sleeping with eachother and have been friendly messaging daily since. Was I too available? what should I do now keep playing cool? thanks Chris

Chris Seiter

August 19, 2015 at 3:21 pm

I would say you probably moved to fast. You shouldn’t sleep with him without a commitment. Otherwise you will be stuck in the FWB stage. I think your playing it to cool. You should never tell him you want to be just friends if that isn’t your intentions.

melissa

August 10, 2015 at 2:40 pm

My ex and I are coming up on the 30 day no contact, and I actually have to see him this upcoming weekend. How do I handle this? Also, if he broke up with me, why would it have to be me who initiates contact? I guess I’m having difficulty understanding that part.
Jules

August 10, 2015 at 1:24 am

Hi Chris,

My boyfriend and I broke up near the end of June and I contacted him a week later but have not done any of the incessant texting or calling since then so am well past the NC period. I now feel stuck though I don’t know how to reopen lines of communication and am worried that if I am the one to contact first it will show weakness and will make him think I still want him, which I believe would hinder my cause, especially because he has been all over new girls. My situation is unique because we go to college together so I will see him for sure in two weeks. He has not tried to contact me at all. A little confused as to how to proceed here and could use some advice. Thanks
divya

August 5, 2015 at 10:57 am

Hi Chris,
I and my boyfriend were in relationship for around 2 years….it started up very well but something happened what i had actually not done but he still thinks that it was my fault and also he feels that i’m cheating him i.e i am in more than one relationship actually every time we fight is this reason—- and one more stuff i was always available to him might be this was the reason …… this was my first relationship but still he doesn’t believes me …… though he already had a girlfriend who ditched him —so he might be thinking that i’m also the same(he has also said this many a times) the worst thing about my case is that he verbally abuses me and i just keep on crying all day……every time we had a fight i was the one to apologize whether it was his mistake or mine…… last night i felt very bad because we were not talking from almost a week so i just wanted to hear his voice so i called him and my no. was blocked so i called his mom he hanged up…. after sometime say about an hour he made a call ….as i was out my patience i again started crying…. still even after a week( i texted and called him during this period he too replied me) he didn’t stop blaming me and later on he warned me that if i don’t stop calling him he would call my dad and say and he actually called but it was my mother who picked up the call —he actually said the same things that i shouldn’t disturb him because it irritates him so today morning i returned him his sim card –as asked by him ….. i know that i had not made a mistake and i’m very truthful but i want to make him realize this…. so should i think of getting him back???? or should i just move on ????? the way he verbally abuses me is very worst but still i really love him a lot and i don’t find a way of living without him basically i want him back anyway and love me as i do
Kimberly

August 4, 2015 at 10:59 pm

Just yesterday my boyfriend of 4 months broke up with me. He said he wasn’t feeling the same for me anymore like he did in the beginning of the relationship. See, I was his first real serious relationship, and he was mine. We were both eachothers first love as well. He told me that he no longer felt love anymore and that he couldn’t continue the relationship because he felt he was leading me on. I am devastated because I still love him and it’s like once he broke up with me I began loving him 10x more than I did before. I want him back more than anything. I ended up caving in and contacting him a couple hours after the break up. I was very mature and said I didn’t want to end on bad teems. I told him I wanted to be friends at least because I can’t imagine him not in my life. He agreed completely and already told me he missed talking to me; however, he said we should take some time before we begin talking again. I am having an extremely hard time and I don’t think I can do it and wait any longer. We talked everyday since Feburay this year and it’s just too much of a drastic change. I want to get him back and all this information makes me feel hopeful and better about the situation. I do believe he still loves me deep down, I was his first. I believe that if j do it right, we can get back together again. The thing is, I am to overly sensative and I just need to talk to him and want him back now. I know that’s not the way to do it but if I could have the encouragement maybe I can. I am worried though because if I wait 30 days for the no contact rule, what if by then he has already moved on and accepted that we won’t be back together again. Please help, this is too emotionally damaging for me.
Ashley

August 1, 2015 at 10:45 pm

So. If I’ve already had one psychotic ” I’m going to call you 32 times until you don’t pick up.” Kind of day. Is it too late?

Chris Seiter

August 8, 2015 at 8:10 pm

Haha don’t worry to much about that, you can’t go back in time now. You’ll just have to do everything correctly moving forward. Have you tried no contact yet?

Stacy

July 30, 2015 at 11:31 pm

Hi Chris,

I had a sort of relationship going on with my primary school crush. Infact, we were each others crush. My family then moved and we lost touch. Ten years later, got hold of each other again and hooked up a few times. I didn’t see it as serious at the time as he had to go on sport tours often and was not really a fan of using a mobile phone. Because he just made me feel unimportant at the time, I hooked up with another guy as I figured that my crush wasn’t really that into me. So now, it’s 10 years later again and we once again started talking and have met up a few times too. He had told me many things on chat about 3 months ago. Begging me to give him another chance. Called, video called, texted. ..everything. I was hesitant at first bit after about a month, I gave in coz I realised that I love him and was in love with him. When I told him I feel the same as he has told me he loved me and have always been in love with me, he changed. One moment he is lovey dovey and the next he is cold. Then I give him the same treatment and then wants to know why I am ignoring him but he does that to me. Is he trying this available/ unavailable thing with me I wonder..and if so, what do I do? I’ve seen him a week ago, he was nice and the next day texted me first and chatted. Before, since may, he would visit me then the next day or for a few days just not talk to me at all. Thing thatw also confusing is that he told me he loves me / in love too but when I try talk about us, he just shuts down then starts talking nicely again after a day or two. He also kept throwing in my face that he couldn’t believe I just dropped him those years ago for another guy and he was madly in love with me. He doesn’t realise how he made me feel that time either and he told me that I will make a fool of him again? Is he confused? Is he trying to take revenge?
A

July 26, 2015 at 6:37 am

Hey Chris,

I was dating a guy for three ish years, on and off. We were essentially in a relationship but both too stubborn after all that time to say we wanted it to be official.

About 18 months ago he got a girlfriend and I was devastated. It hit me really hard and he knew it, not in a nasty way but I made it clear. We stayed friends and he was always there if I needed a shoulder to cry on, but only if it was something relating to work/ family etc.

Friends doesn’t really work for us. He cheated on his girlfriend with me and made it very clear he still wanted me at least physically whenever we met up (friends only) and via text when his girfriend wasn’t checking his phone.

He had just spit up with his girlfriend (as she found messages from me on his phone and let’s just say was not best pleased). I think I was the first person he called to tell about the break up and we have talked constantly and seen each other a few times since. My friends of course are concerned about my feelings and have planted ideas in my head.

Despite being confident for the last 6 months that I would never go back there, started dating a few guys, being happy generally, now he is in my life I think I want him back? But I don’t know whether he wants me back or just needs someone to fill the void of his ex?

He had way too many chances the first 100 times round, but we have both changed a lot in the last year. I don’t know whether to give it a try?
Jade

July 25, 2015 at 5:41 am

Hi Chris,

I am confused as hell. I’m in a situation where I bet no one will ever want to be in. My ex boyfriend and I broke up about 5 months ago and we are still talking to each other after agreeing to be friends with him. Trust me, we did the NC for about 2 1/2 months and it worked cause he contacted me and asked to hang out. He was being sweet and all like when we were still dating and told me he missed me. From then on, we continued to hang out with each other, we were happy to be friends again and he told me I’m the person he’s most comfortable with. Until I found out that he’s actually talking to another girl whom he doubts to get into a relationship with. Now, I believed everything he said to me. When I asked him if he likes that girl, he’d say no. He always calls me, day and/or night. He asks to hang out, I just know and feel how comfortable he is with me. We’re too close that I started to think maybe he still has feelings for me. My biggest mistake was I couldn’t help but get jealous of that girl he talks to. Without even noticing, I asked him a lot of questions many times about what’s going on between him and that girl. And that got him annoyed many times. Another mistake was sleeping over his house. Like few times he picked me up from work and I’d sleep at his house. I know I’ve pissed him off many times about the girl he’s talking to because I have no right to be jealous after all and I kind of acted like one. We’re still talking although I try to distance myself since yesterday. Is there a way I can still make him regret about losing me or did I miss my chance and it’s already too late?

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