5 Powerful Methods To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Regret Losing You

Ashley

July 20, 2015 at 4:22 am

So i have this ex we’ve known each other since we where kids an his family an i are really close his family just moved here not to long ago. Then he decides to move here with permanently too with his new baby momma i assume they are engaged idk but his family an i are really close i use to come over there all the time before he came ro move down here but now i kind of really don’t want to come over now because i know it will feel awkard to me an i don’t want to make it obvious what should i do to not make it obvious an how do i make it seem like i have moved on i just don’t want to cause any drama or make a scene what should i do??

Alley

July 10, 2015 at 9:58 am

Hi Chris,
email me soon i want you discuss it via email.

Ashley

July 9, 2015 at 5:37 am

What can you do if your boyfriend breaks up with you after 7 years and you still live under the same roof?

C

June 28, 2015 at 4:17 pm

Hi Chris,

I was dating a guy for a month, with whom I had the strongest connection, who then called it off. I think he believed himself to be ready for a commitment but wasn’t. He said – and mostly acted like – he hugely respected me, was attracted to me, and had feelings for me, but things weren’t right timings-wise with his demanding work, he couldn’t see himself committing to me emotionally at the moment as his feelings weren’t as strong as he would want them to be after a month, and he didn’t want to hurt me or himself. He blew hot and cold, sometimes with days between contact yet when we were together he was totally present and engaged. On my side, I went from 0 to 60 far too quickly and made myself too available and put my heart on the line too fast. I think we both expected far too much of ourselves and each other in a very short space of time, due to the intensity of the connection and compatibility. I realised very quickly that his decision was the right one as I have since changed things in my life for the better, have a whole new perspective on the world, and feel fantastic.

NC immediately for over 60 days. He hasn’t gotten in touch either. I saw him last week at an event for the first time in 2 months, we spoke briefly and it went wonderfully – I felt confident, looked great, we had a very friendly chat, I told him about my new company, all round positive experience. I was happy to show him that I harbour no hard feelings. No contact from either side since. Although I have felt great in the time without him, I would like him to be in my life – not to fill a void as I unconsciously wanted previously, but to further enhance an already satisfying and complete life, as he is a wonderful person. I think we’d be great together and I still have strong feelings for him. I’m no longer in a rush like previously and I think I could bring an entirely different and healthy perspective to a new relationship.

I’m now approaching the moment when I think it would be right to reach out and reconnect. His area of business expertise happens to be in a similar area to elements of my new company and I would genuinely value his advice. Do you think I could use this method as a means of initial contact? It would be a genuine business discussion but I think it could work as a means of opening the door to further, non-business interactions. I also no longer have his mobile number so I’d need to get in touch via email or his work phone. What are your thoughts?

Thanks!

terry

June 22, 2015 at 8:31 pm

I broke up with my fiancee. I am 33 and he is 35. We were together for 6 years and the last 2 we were engaged. I was the one that left the house because the last months he was has pressure from his job and also he was telling me that I was putting pressure on him. He didn;t want to talk with me and when I was trying to make conversations he was telling that I was nagging and he was leaving.

The day that I left I was calling him to bring some stuff home.I called him around 3 times and he didn;t pick up the phone and the fourth time that he answered it, when I asked him were are you he started screaming at me, then he came home he broke up my mobile and he continue to scream and telling me now I will see how you are going to call me. He made me really upset and I told him that it is enought and I am leaving. He didn;t do anything and he left from the house. I took some stuff and I left and came to my parent’s house.

That happened on 26th of May. After 5 days he deleted me from fb and put on that he is single. He didn;t try to contact me and I didn;t contact him as well. After 17 days he came at my parent;s garden and he left bags with my clothes and other stuff, and he called my brother to tell him that he left at the garden my stuff.Again he didn’t contact me.
24 days after I left the house and a week after he brought my stuff he contacted me for the fisrt time by a txt in which he was writing next week I will bring you some of your furniture. I didn’t reply to his txt but I called him two days later and he didn’t answer my call. We haven’t talk for 28 days now..What I should do? Do you think that there is any hope?

J

June 21, 2015 at 9:40 pm

Hi chris

Need you advice desperately. I have been seeing this guy on and off for 1.5 years. He was getting over his ex girlfriend which he has a girlfriend with abs i was moving through a divorce. We found each other at a time when we were both likely emotionally a mess. Over the past year and a half we have developed slot of intense emotions. But I have 2 kids and he has 1. What broke us up was the fact that I do not feel he is officially over his ex. So I left and started implenting the NC rule. I asked him to honor the fact that info not want to speak with him. I know right now he is with his ex girlfriend and his son trying to make his relationship work with her as ours did not work out. I have to mention that towards the end I became extremely needy and sad and depressed because I was feeling second best to someone who does not even meet my caliber. She does not even compare to me. I’m just wondering if this is something where the NC rule will apply. I know we deeply love each other. I believe he is just confused and I was putting a lot of pressure on him to figure out his life and what he wants since I am now divorced. I forgot to mention that he and I work together and hat is a very difficult situation to deal with daily. He is my best friend and I miss him badly. We had such a happy relationship and confided in each other our deepest secrets. I’m just not sure where I went wrong other than being insecure and sad over the fact that I was ready for a relationship full of commitment and he was not. Pleas advise. I’m desperate.

Malayah

June 20, 2015 at 1:09 pm

I recently broke up with my boyfriend because he didn’t talk to me very often or make effort to see me as much as he use to. He also is very fond of flirting on social media with other girls knowing I will see it. I before suggested a couple of times that maube we shouldn’t be together and he still was telling me that he loved and wanted to be with me but his actions didn’t line up with his words at all. He was giving me so much of the cold shoulder and purposely (I feel like) flirting with other girls so that I could see it and end it with him…? Most of the times we talked was either about another female or when one of us finally puts our pride to the side and reaches out (usually me). I honestly don’t see or believe he wanted to be with me because who does that to their girlfriend? His friend that I’m very close with talks to me more than he does. The day we broke up about a couple hours before, he put on his Facebook status “I ain’t worried about no female.” When I broke up with him I said “You don’t have to worry about me anymore, even tho you never really was. I’m cool. I wish you the best in all that you do.” He responded with, “if I was never worried, I wouldn’t have wasted my time and talked to you, but ok.” When I caught myself sending long paragraphs pointing out that he never talks to me and that if he wasn’t happy he could’ve left instead of purposely trying to make me upset about other females all he was replying with was “ok.” That was the first time we talked in about 5 days. He will sit on social media acting like he is practically bored out of his mind but not even bother to talk to me. Now that he is single he’s been doing nothing but trying to get attention from other females. In my teenage life of course Instagram is full of relationship bullcrap.. So there’s one post that says “I would mess with you but..” <– as an adult you might not get it but basically it means "I would start talking to you but ___" and whoever likes it (which he did) they will tell you why they don't talk (relationship wise)…i don't know if he's trying to make me jealous or he really is bored. But for you to be fresh out of a relationship just has me confused. Today, I guess some female that he told me was his "friend" was acting like he was upset that she didn't come to see him. I've asked about her before and all I've gotten was that they were cool but her comments on his social media shows a sign of endearment if you ask me..she's always posting about him plus commenting for him to call her under his pictures. My heart is completely broke and I want him back. He was the last person to send a text and I was going to wait to reply. But honestly, I have no idea what to do. I just want him to want me again and put in the effort he was when we first started talking. I don't want him to forget about me and move on. 🙁

Susan

June 16, 2015 at 11:32 am

Hi
I was dating this guy for almost a year, he gave me false promises and he broke up with me….he was stalling the wedding and finally i came to know he was just misusing me. He called me names after we broke up and I hate him so much.

Jen

June 10, 2015 at 11:13 am

I was wondering do these tricks also work after you have been intimate with a guy who was smitten over you, but then you only got to meet again two more times after, then he drifted away, got turned off by your neediness? But despite that remained in contact with you?

I won’t go inopto too much detail but let’s just say that he was really into me at first told me we were lucky to find each other because it is hard to find someone with potential….until my neediness reared it’s ugly head. No anger, no fights, no raising of voice, or anything, but a lot of asking on my part. In other words, he told me, my attachment too soon was too much for him so he doesn’t want to see me anymore but wants to be friends.

I’m calm. It hurt. But I didn’t go crazy after our last talk. I apologized and told him I realized my mistake and was sorry for being inconsiderate and pressuring him and that I understood why he reacted this way towards me. I also told him not to worry (kind of sneaky of me) but I asked for a last kiss and told him that I was relieved to learn that I felt nothing. Then that is that. I left and have not contacted him for 2 days so far. We are FB friends. I’ve been following your advice on how to use social media to get him back.

But I don’t know though if your tactic would work on people who just started dating, had a connection, but perhaps not enough since we just started to allow these strategies to make him regret losing me…I don’t know. Most of what I read here are about long relationships or at least 6 months of dating. Do you know if it works for a short span of dating?

georgia

June 9, 2015 at 10:25 pm

Seeing a guy for a few months and it got pretty serious really fast but he didn’t want a relationship yet because he has alot going on in his life. He ended things because he felt like he needed time to think but I was pressuring him. Said he still wanted to be friends and texted me multiple times about how much he cares about me and how he wants to see me happy. I asked him to stop texting me and plan on doing NC, currently on day three. Will this work given our situation and the fact that I asked him not to contact me?

Amanda

June 7, 2015 at 8:47 pm

Hi
I had a boyfriend for 2 years and we didn’t live together. In November he had to move quickly and I refused to move with him, but I planned to move as soon as full-time work in December finished and I had time to do it calmly, but I didn’t tell him this. Right after I didn’t move, he changed with me. He kept meeting me in December a few times, and in January as he got back from his trip to visit his relatives, he said we had finished and he didn’t care if I had money to move now, was ready, as he decided to break up and start a new life. I got back to Brazil and he is in England. After that he said he wanted to come to Brazil and asked 1 month to think about it, he said he didn’t want anymore. From that moment on, he added many girls to his Facebook. I called him a few days ago, and he says he would love to come and have a trip as long as I know he now has a woman and wants me to have a new life too. He seemed at first very surprised and feeling horrible to listening to my voice, as if he was talking to a monster,but slowly the conversation went alright, and I put lots of laugh and happiness in it and totally ignored when he said about a new girlfriend. He keeps checking my messages on Facebook, but I just want to get him back as my boyfriend and not just a friend as he repeats. Please, help me.

SMJR

June 4, 2015 at 9:06 pm

Hi Chris,

I’m stuck and needing help. Ex BF contacted me after 42 days NC ( 6 and half weeks after breakup) on Facebook IM. Intially message long about how he had replied to me last text ( which I didn’t ask for reply for), his message hadn’t sent via text he said it was prob self serving BS anyway and had deleted. His lame excuse for contact was a $30 voucher I got for his bday for his son and him to do something fun. Anyway he said he was going to use it that weekend and thank you ( still hasn’t ) he also said hope you’re well and said sorry for being a c**t. I decided to reply politely but agreed with his last statement but added in a positive memory to finish. He repied as if he hadn’t read my message properly with a sad face ( I can see why men think they are smarter than women when they are not) anyway he pretty much had one word answers after and I found myself asking the questions about why the answers were short- he said he wasn’t trying to be cryptic and I also said I thought it was weird he was in contact after such a long period of silence to which I got the it was a bout the voucher and he wasn’t trying to be a twat. He then launched into how he’d seen a status on my facebook and then started giving advice on it. Eventually I sent a polite but assertive message back saying thank you, I wouldn’t bother with photos on Facebook as long as his son had fun. I said the originally message should have simply been about that, it was unfair of him to mention he’d written some horrible message to me and bring up past even if he did delete it, said I wasn’t totally comfortable picking up communications as if nothing hadn’t happened after how he left it and that his apology wasn’t good enough. ( mainly because I don’t know if it was genuine or he was feeling guilty and really he should have reflected on why acted how he did) ). That was a week ago and I’ve heard nothing. Personally it was an inexpensive voucher so I wouldn’t have gotten in touch if it was me or simply kept it to voucher not dredging up other stuff. Have I ruined my chances by being assertive and not giving him an easy route back into my life?! what does he want? His reason for splitting was he didn’t see a future but didn’t know why ( was in depressive state), wanted to be friends but I stated no but said wouldn’t deltee him off Facebook! Help I’m stumped and feel if I reach out to him I’ll lose control and be weak.

Alexis

June 3, 2015 at 5:03 am

This is gonna be an awkward situation to talk about and I’m really embarrassed about it. I dated a guy last summer for 7 months. I will call him Gary. I was very much in love with him but it ended badly and wanted no further contact with him, just so I could get thru the pain. I was really close with his best friend Tom, that’s how we met. I knew tom way before I met Gary. tom had feelings for me but he was gong thru his own issues at the time. When Gary and I broke up, I lost touch with Tom. Tom started coming around and we talked a lot and hung out a lot. It became serious. We started dating. He always told me he regretted hooking me up with Gary, cuz he realized how much it bothered him. he helped me thru the pain and I was so happy with Tom. He made me feel safe. He told me he loved me. I started feeling the same way. After awhile, he became hot and cold and feeling guilty. I was told by many people that Gary said he never loved me to begin with, so I didn’t understand why us dating was a problem.tom pushed me away. We didn’t speak for awhile. I was more hurt then I ever felt with Gary. One night I ran into them at a bar and Gary approached me and we talked, it was closure that I needed to help me move on. Tom was upset about it. He sent me a 3am text thinking Gary and I were getting back together and it really wasn’t the case at all. Tom and I started dating again, but he blew me off one night. He has communication issues that not only bothered me, but others as well. I got really upset and told him how I felt about his behavior. He had not contacted me since. Its been almost a month. I ran into him again and I had to pretend he wasn’t there for my sanity and I kept it together, but when I saw him, he seemed upset all night. Gary’s been contacting me a few times, but for both our sakes we were trying to just be friends. I understand they are best friends, and we were gonna tell him, cuz I didn’t think Gary would care since he didn’t wanna get back together. I’m really confused and hurt. I felt that everything Tom ever told me was a lie!!! And that I was played. I really believed him. I don’t know if its cuz of me or Gary. Why he pushed me away a second time. Tom kept telling me he loved me, and he was happy with me too. What went wrong??? I can do the no contact rule, no problem cuz I’m hurt and angry! Its a messed up situation, I know, I just need something to get me thru this!!! Thank you for your time. I really need some advice!!

K

June 2, 2015 at 12:28 pm

I am currently in year 12, the boy i am in love with, is in fact my ex. I lost my virginity to him at a young age, as well as took his. We not only had a relationship of 4 years, but a strong friendship ever since, we also were brought up together since the age of 6, we both our now 17.Our relationship lasted exactly 4 years, looking back at all now. We both agreed we were so young and immature. But he has always told me, i am the girl he wants to marry, the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Recently we became best friends again and for the past year, we have regained connections we never anticipated. To the point of him asking for us again. This was two weeks ago, with in those two weeks, everything was perfect, we were so happy. But i did not want to annoy him, as i did when we first ever dated. Therefore i ignored him for most of this week and instead of him wanting me more. It sadly has resulted in him, completely been done with me.His reasoning behind breaking up with me again was, 1) he is in a busy time of his life and wanted to make me his first priority, however couldn’t due to everything going on in his life 2) something changed in the two weeks we were happy, to me ignoring him and both of us distancing ourselves from one another, he does not know what changed and lastly 3) being the fact he wants me in the future and just does not feel i am for him now . He wants a friendship and has told me he cant lose me. Neither one of us knows what changed, but i cant help but blame myself, as i was only trying to apply the basic principles of ignoring him for his attention. Now we are back to being nothing, i have chosen to walk completely away, in saying that of course i do not want this, but i am just hoping he will regret this decision and fight for me back. I have told him i’ve made the decision to say my last goodbye, was this the right decision? and can you give me any extra guidance in making the right decision, in order to get him back? i don’t particularly want to make him jealous, as my intentions in getting him back, is him seen the pure fact i am a good person and have only been nothing but good to him. As well as not taking me for granted and really making me feel like i deserve. But by telling him i am completely done with him (even tho i really dont want that and are completely inlove with him) will that jeopardize my future with him? or will it help me get him back/regret his decision?

Sara

May 29, 2015 at 1:38 pm

Myself and my boyfriend of 4 years broke up on Saturday basically a week ago tomorrow, I didn’t exactly see it coming, we were out with our college friends Friday night and after we were supposed to meet to go home, he ignored all my calls and I was very far from home, he ignored them for so long I got a taxi home alone and was hysterically upset (the few drinks didn’t help) the next day I didn’t hear from him until the night where I got very little of an apology, it was forced until we met up and I told him I couldn’t deal with being treated with such disrespect anymore, as it’s not the first time he’s treated me like this, the next day I got upset and felt like obviously we’ve been together so long lets work on things and he kept saying no this is for the best I can’t hurt you anymore, such an excuse I feel because he organised a huge night out with all his friends the night after and lied to me about it. I haven’t heard from him since and he left to go away for the summer yesterday. I’m so lost and feel used. My friends all tell me this just hasn’t hit him yet because he’s had planning and packing for his summer of working out of the country to keep his mind focused on something else. But I’m stuck here heartbroken. I sent him a text yesterday to seem like the bigger person and wish him luck and he wished me a good summer and said he was gutted how things ended but it was the right thing to do and he hopes we can talk from time to time. I feel like he’s just saying all this because he wants a free pass when he’s away from me all summer. I’m heartbroken though I do love him and I would love the old him back that never treated me like that but I don’t know if I’d be able for it. I’m struggling right now but I haven’t contacted him other than that one text after we met up.

Paris

May 29, 2015 at 3:54 am

I have a question about the no contact rule. At the moment it is not possible as we live together and we have to ride out our lease on our apartment for another 3 weeks. So we are being friends and still hanging out because we know we still need to live together and get along and in 3 weeks time we need to help each other sort things out with moving out etc. What can I do in this situation?

Prada

May 25, 2015 at 7:44 pm

Hello. Im a 24 years old girl. I was in a relationship with 29 years old guy for 2 years. It was like magic at the beginning . After like 1 year we had several problems. One of them that my parents didn’t like him a lot. The other one was that I insist all the time that if we got engaged we can solve our problems. He wasn’t sure about it.
After 2 years he left me. The reason he gave me was that he lost his feelings for me.
1 week before he broke up with me, he was telling me that he loves me and looked at me like i was magic.
I tried to convince him after the breakup to get another chance. He didn’t want to.
After 1 month of the breakup , I discovered that he is in a relationship with another girl that he knows before. I applied the no contact rule for 30 days. Sent him an text message , positive one and he replied neutrally.
I want him back from this girl. She is a rich beautiful woman.
What should i do ?

Anne

May 25, 2015 at 6:34 am

My ex of three years broke up with me and it was a very messy and prolonged break up where I acted very needy etc. we had talked of marriage but we also fought a lot. A year into our relationship things fell apart and we went on a very short break in which time he slept with another girl. He said at the time he regretted it. I have just found out that following our break up he has been dating her although he says its just been a drink and I’ve blown it out of proportion. She has been keen to brag about it on social media but strangely she has also been looking at my profiles online. I’m worried that by entering NC it will give her the opportunity to strengthen their relationship after all she has been waiting two years. He broke off contact with me a week ago because he said that all we do is argue and he can’t do anything right. So will NC even work in this scenario? There are big issues that need to be resolved on both sides but I do genuinely believe we were happy but it’s got tainted by all the other stuff

girlwithtatoo

May 18, 2015 at 8:11 am

hi ,
My bf broke up with me because his family doesn’t like him to marry anyone outside his religion. He tells me he will do whatever i tell him to do.
But when i asked him why he cant make his parents understand, he says its impossible. i cant ask him to leave his parents coz he will b sad and t would result in a bad relationship and sometimes he might start complaining that i separated him from his family.
He too agree with t and is not sure whether he would b ok leaving his parents for a little while and making them understand about us. what should i do? Am so confused.Help me please.

Julia

May 18, 2015 at 3:05 am

My ex and I had a horrible breakup. We had been together for over two years and he cheated on me for the past year with friends, women he just met or barely knew, and strangers. He’s been lying to me since the beginning and kept lying to me after I found out. He still won’t tell me every time he cheated or what happened saying he forgot. He did things with them before we did things. Once even unprotected and he didn’t even check if she was on birth control (he came in her) and std free till after. He says he still loves me and wants to change and to be together but I can’t trust him at all anymore and dumped him immediately after finding out. I want him to know how much I hurt and the extent of what he lost, is it better to just ignore him or tell him how horrible he is and exactly what he’s done?
He’s finally getting tested this week after I asked him to. I don’t trust him anymore, how do I ask for the results rather than just take his word on it?
He also still has quite a few of my things that I want back, but keeps giving me what I ask for but not all of it. How do I make sure I get all my things?
We also were starting a business together. I don’t want to give up on the business but seeing him disgusts me, although it will not effect any business decisions. Should I just throw it all away and leave him behind forever.

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