5 Powerful Methods To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Regret Losing You

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Diane

May 15, 2015 at 10:46 pm

Not sure if he’s my boyfriend or not right now, mostly due to the fact he wants me to choose between him and my guy friends. Because of this, I haven’t had any contact with him for five days now. He’s a pretty cool guy, but I’m not at all wanting to have to choose and I feel angry he’s asking me to, because of his jealousy and insecurity issues. He contacted me four days in and asked if I made my decision. If I continue to do no contact, is it even going to matter, or will he never change his outlook?
Jessie

May 8, 2015 at 7:51 pm

My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago. I have not been following the NC rule. We have a very tight night group of friends we both are very close to. They have obviously decided not to get involved in the relationship so how do I handle this without causing problems within my friend group? In all honesty I can defiantly stop talking to him outside of us hanging out but I am not sure how I can remove him completely from my life without causing some trouble.

I’ve already made every mistake in the book. I have been asking for him to reconsider, calling him often (he calls me often as well), making plans for just the two of us, weve had sex and im still obsessing over him. He constantly tells me he thinks I’m amazing but when I ask him why he broke up with me he says he’s already moved on emotionally.

It does sound to me he needs to miss me. If I get my act together now, will this plan still work?
Natty

May 6, 2015 at 6:44 pm

Just a “short” recap (theres so many things I didn’t include otherwise it would be way too much) – My ex broke up with me just over a week now. [[Our relationship started off weird as we both met online and were hurt from past relationships (my ex cheated and his ex left him for her ex). From the beginning he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship and I know I should have listened but I really liked him so I went after what I wanted and I ended up getting it over a year later. Almost 3 years later….here we are…. ended up falling in love but both still had things to work on in life and know that we needed to change our situations that made us that way (him financial and me insecurity). I met his family and a couple of his friends and I truly love him unconditionally as he did teach me so much and made me grow and is such a tender caring person]]….…..The reason he gave me was exactly what you talked about – (he said I was too emotionally high maintenance (I am very insecure) aka I was needy and too much for him to handle at times especially since he was going through a tough time in his life with job situation and didn’t want to handle the relationship stress as well. The first few days were a nightmare, crying, needing him, depressed, not sleeping but surprisingly after those few horrible days I came to my senses and realized that I needed to get it together (after reading online and writing and keeping myself busy) I am now taking the break up quite well still thinking that one day we could have a chance to get together again. I have accepted the break up and know that what we had is over and acknowledge that there could be someone else out there for me. I still have up and down thoughts and I know that could change in 30 + days but I am taking the advice you have put on this page very seriously. I know that I need to change first and am working towards that and he needs to make a change as well and who knows if we both change we might not want each other, but right now I know what I want. We ended on good terms, we never called each other names and the breaking point was my fault (I did something uncalled for, not cheating but I pushed his hand away when he went to touch me because I was jealous of a certain situation) I think back now and what I had and lost was partly my mistake (although in order to have a future he needed to get his things in order financially too) but I truly still love him and still have thoughts of being with him one day again and starting fresh to have a better life together. I fully trust him and I haven’t trusted anyone like that ever before and he made my heart melt and cry tears of joy with some things he used to do for me. The moments we had alone was like a movie, he sometimes did things that every girl would dream for. (leave little notes on my windshield, get my favorite plant or treat, come over late after work when he had to work early and was tired –the little things that made me love him)
After we broke up he texted me the next day to make sure I was okay because I begged him not to leave the day of(he said it was really hard knowing he had to do that as we took a 2 week “break” a month before and he said if we had another issue or fight that it would be the end of us and then this was it). He also texted me the third day to see if I went to work and make sure I was okay. I texted him goodnight that same day and he responded with a good night and then I thought I was doing good with the No Contact and I caved a couple days ago and texted him just a friendly text saying hope he was doing ok and he texted back saying kind of same thing and that he was going to check up on me but he thought he should wait, we ended up saying we missed each other and good night. Now I am back to NC. I know that I have to do this and that in order to see if I am over him and get stronger to change myself, even if we don’t end up together I need to be happy for my next relationships. I have been reading online so much and trying to keep myself busy and improve myself for the better, I am going to the gym and training for a marathon, I am working, I am going to vegas with some girls in a few weeks and I am trying to be the best version of me. However there is still the thought in the back of my head that I still WANT (not need) a future with him. Now I know that its only into the 2nd week but even though things could change do you think I still have a chance. I know we have our whole life ahead of us but if he changed too and still loved me would love conquer and allow us to continue to grow together as I hoped for. I have made a list and I want to kind of make him regret it because he was in really good shape and I want to work towards getting in the best shape of my life and showing him that I can be the best version and hoping he would realize that I really am the ONE. I know that things could change and he said he cared about me enough as a person that he wants me as a friend but I said I couldn’t do it. I am back to NC and will continue to grow. What do you think about this? Do you say go for it again after I have worked on myself? I am at the point in my life where after my change I see myself wanting a family and settling down and I know he would be a wonderful father and life partner (as long as he changed his situation as well). Thanks and this page is so inspiring and although the truth hurts I am really glad to hear it crystal clear !
Lucy

May 6, 2015 at 9:26 am

My ex and I had a really bad break up. It was stupid- he said we fought too much when really, we only fought like 3 times in an 8 month long period. The problem was that every time we would fight, he would consider breaking up with me. The fights were always something stupid, and I wouldn’t yell, but he would, and he’d ignore me for a week afterwards. We were best friends. He tried breaking up over the phone with me, in which I told him off and said after all I’ve done for him I deserve better than that kind of break up, and he said he wanted me back, so we got back together. Two weeks later I was a bit distant because I was feeling sick, and so he took it personally, and broke up with me- we got into a heated argument. He said I blamed him a lot, which really isn’t the truth- I did in the last fight, but in every fight he’d yell at me. We go to the same school and we have all mutual friends and we have classes together so it was hard not to see him. I hit a depression down the road, and it was very bad so maybe he doesn’t regret it AS much but I believe maybe he’s starting to. I’ve been dressing up nicer, and playing instruments with success, and being kind to everyone, and making new friends. He often looks at me when I do these kinds of things that are successful. We haven’t talked in 4 months, and rather he excludes me from my friends and ignores me. I stupidly contacted him a week after our break up saying that I didn’t think we could be friends for a while, and said that I wanted to talk about what had happened, which he agreed with both, and then never replied. It’s getting to a point where he’s isolating me from my friends. My friends made a stupid joke about how far we went, and he got mad at me for “kissing and telling”, but he doesn’t know why I had to tell them, which wasn’t for that reason at all. He tells our friends that he doesn’t respect how I dealt with the break up (that I ranted to them)m and wants nothing to do with me. I want him to regret it, and I miss him and I want him back and all, but I also want to stop the whole ignoring/uncivilness. I was thinking of talking to him in person about stopping to be uncivil, considering we’re going to have to work together soon because we are in the same concert band and stuff, and we are going to be the only few that play our certain instrument. I don’t know if this will not allow for him to miss me or to regret anything, but he says he doesn’t miss me now, so I have no idea what to do. The no-contact period has been four months and he apparently lost respect for me or something or is still mad. He used to be a lot angrier, and I have no idea what to do.

Lucy

May 6, 2015 at 9:36 am

My friends say he probably took me for granted, as I surprised him often with little notes in his instrument case, and always was thoughtful and surprised him with coffee or for his birthday, I also surprised him and planned this big party. He broke up with me right before my birthday, and when I came to apologize to him (which I shouldn’t have done, I wrote him the message after I came up to him to apologize how things went) and he didn’t even ask about how I was doing, it was all about him, and when he found out I hadn’t been doing my coursework he laughed and said it wasn’t like me to do that. I’m sorry that these are just small chunks, but I realize I keep forgetting to add on more.
Lucy

May 6, 2015 at 9:30 am

The last fight was over a video game too and plans, which I didn’t even start.
Lucy

May 6, 2015 at 9:30 am

I should also clarify our last fight was really about him not being able to let go of any of the last fights. My friends say he has a crush on someone, but it’s kind of hard to believe considering he doesn’t spend any time with any other girl, or make an effort really to text anyone else, and just hangs out with his guy friends, so he wouldn’t really have the time or place to have a crush on anyone.

Nells

May 6, 2015 at 12:30 am

I also need some advice! My ex broke up with me after 10years and with 2 kids and left me for another woman who he says he’s never felt the feelings he has for her. Mind you we’ve been together since 16 years old and now 26 he basically told me he wasn’t in love with me anymore. he loves me because I am the mother of his kids but he doesnt have those feelings for me anymore. Total heartbreak! I Love him so much and had the idea of forever with him and being a family like we had always planned. But my confusion is if he really fell out of love with me and he truly found “the one”. I Gave him my all and he told me himself that he doesn’t deserve me and that I should be happy with someone who will give me the love I deserve. Really after 10 years thats what he had to say? He left me for a woman who doesnt work, has 3 kids and only goes to the gym. I’m not in bad shape but I am not a body builder shape like she is. I cant have a no contact rule with him especially with kids involved. So my situation is a little more complicated. I Have tried to avoid seeing him so he can see the kids when I’m not home and ill be at work. Text is very minimal. But I feel like he has no regrets on his decision and he acts like this woman is his whole world. What can I do to try and see if he could ever regret his decision?
Catherine

May 5, 2015 at 8:02 pm

Hi Chris
I like this guy..but he just acts like he doesn’t care about anyone or anything…including me. Last year he was different..he was really nice and funny and we were really good friends but then I messed everything up. I didn’t talk to him at all for about a year and we’ve just now started talking again. Only he’s changed..I get one word responses a lot and sometimes we talk all day but most of the time he doesn’t even read my message and it bothers me so much. I’ve liked him for a year and a half now and I’ve tried everything to get over him but nothing’s working. I keep thinking if I could just find a way for him to like me that I could get over it and move on but I don’t know what to do. I just hurt so much and he doesn’t even care but I can’t control my feelings (I am a freshman in high school) so I’m asking you, what should I do?
Mimi990

April 30, 2015 at 9:15 pm

My ex cheated on me. Was it a one night stand or more? I don’t know. She really likes him. She broke up with her boyfriend. I followed no contact. He called me after a few weeks and asked me to call him sometimes. I have been on and off in touch with him. The last time we talked he asked if things could go back the way it was. We were not very serious yet but I truly loved him. I don’t know if I should trust him. They are still in touch. I don’t understand. And I don’t want to be hurt again.
Karen

April 30, 2015 at 4:35 pm

Hi Chris, I was wondering with the No Contact rule, Do you just stop talking to them and Ignore them or should you say that will not be speaking with them? My fiance broke up with me saying he that even though he loves me very much, that love is not enough. He said its is the hardest decision to let me go. If he loves me for real why would he not want to try to work things out?
Lourdes

April 29, 2015 at 8:25 pm

Hello chris, may you email me when you can? Thank you
Autumn Rose

April 27, 2015 at 4:19 pm

Before the breakup we had been dating for 8 months and living together for 3 months. I had a deep sadness when I moved out that things wouldn’t be the same. I was always there for him but he stopped doing the little things to make me happy when he let me live with him. (Side note: we were also living with his dad, which made it hard for me to let my guard down and fully be myself, thier place was really small). Anyways sure enough our communication got weak until it fully died. Two months after I moved out he broke up with me. I’m a week away from 30 days of no contact. My problem is before I moved out I left my old cellphone at his place and work documents on his computer that I need to save on a USB. We haven’t seen each other in almost 3 months and we haven’t talked in almost 1. How do I go about contacting him after NC if I have to get my things back? I’m pretty sure he forgot I even left those things behind this will catch him by total suprise, not sure if that’s a good thing or really bad as far as my second chance goes? Should I even mention picking up my things right away?
Kaylee

April 26, 2015 at 6:14 pm

Chris,
How do I get my guy back after he ended things because of two factors: 1) He is a working single dad who is currently trying to get his son on the weekends. He wants to put all of his effort into his son and being a good father and does not want to be with anybody for a long time, and has mentioned this throughout the course of seeing me the past 7 months. 2) Me blowing up his phone all the time and being clingy. It became a cycle and this time was the last straw. I felt I wasn’t getting enough attention and it fueled my neediness. During the breakup conversation he told me he did love me “to an extent”, whatever that means, and that he does care about me. But he mentioned not being a good fit for each other, and that this was a mistake, but also mentioned it may not be permanent. He said he can’t handle doing both. Is there any hope for this situation? What do I do? I’m head over heels..the last time I tried texting him was 5 days ago, and we haven’t spoken in a week now. What do I do?
Megan

April 20, 2015 at 2:01 pm

Just really needing some advice on my current situation. I am 23 years old and honestly have a good head on my shoulders. I started talking to this 26 year old man once in a while. I met him through a mutual friend who ended up moving out of state. The guy and I would text every now and then and he would ask me constantly to go for dinner or do something. I blew him off a couple times just because I thought he was out of my league. I finally gave it a chance after a couple weeks and dinner was actually really fun. So from there we started going on more dates and things started going really fast. I was basically staying at his place all the time and he cleared out the closet so I could put my things in there. (this was like the first month, also met his family already) Anyways, he has a son but decided to tell me 3-4 weeks later he had 2 other children as well. I was shocked but decided to help rather than judge because I have come from a mixed family. Our relationship was overall really good just once in a while stupid fights about our insecurities. So about 4 months into our relationship I hit a bump in my life. My grandfather was in the hospital, my mom and I do not get a long and I was facing depression. I decided to end things because I felt I was just a weight and he already has 3 children. I did not want anyore stress on him, I just felt it needed to be done. After a couple days I felt total regret. So I texted him really expressing what was going on and I apologized. He would not give me the time of day and every chance he could just would talk down to me. It has been about 3 weeks since we split and I have heard nothing from him. I guess I am lost because I just hit something bad in my life and he was not there for me. Is it time to fully let go? I mean come on he has too be moved on.

Megan

April 20, 2015 at 2:28 pm

Chris I really need your help and advice

Sally

April 18, 2015 at 8:53 pm

Hello Chris
long time i didn’t come to your site but now i really need your advice
Ive met a guy online last week,and we started talking non stop about everything we only could
I am 19 he is 26 it was a non stop chat and i was very very sweet and carrying
its ve been a while i wasn’t like that with guys because i felt this sweet heart everytime hurts me
so we talked a lot and he is from the type that has a lot of girls in his life but he is a”mean” guy while with me he was so perfect
we spoke about everything
all secrets all things
it never happen to me before
we fought few times and because he was hurt by girls before and he easily becomes angry he blocked me few times and those 2 times i spoke back to him and we figured things out
last time he blocked me i told him ok its ur life and then he talked to me again and told that he is so sorry and he wants to change
However,yesterday he ignored me all day and then at night he didn’t speak with me (even when he spoke it was a 1 word thing)
he is a leo,a very selfish zodiac and i am a cancer
so i told him whats going on i need to know tell me now,i went so hysterical
he told me that “we are friends not enemies,ok?” and then when i kept asking him whats wrong he told me “i am with my x” (i know he was lying)
so i sent him a voice note w i cried that he really hurt me he told me he has a headache now and he can’t help and please stop making him feel guilty
he always told me that i nag a lot,however i really don’t nag just i am a very very carrying person

today we didn’t talk all day long at all,and i posted a picture on snapchat,and right after he saw it he posted a black picture with a caption “YOU LOOK BEAUTIFUL ” (i am 100% it was for me because he never ever posts pictures)

i don’t know what to do
i want him to talk to me i want things to work out
but how?
how should i act?

please help me

Chris Seiter

April 20, 2015 at 9:15 pm

A black picture?

Like a pitch balck picture?

Julia

April 16, 2015 at 4:18 pm

Hey Chris

Firstly, great article. Secondly, I’d be curious what goes through a man’s mind in more details. Also, what do you think when things are left a bit open-ended…as in there are unanswered questions on both side and it’s really more “taking time apart” than an actual open and shut “we’re done”. I feel like he’s left the door wide open and I’m not sure what to make of it.
Emily

April 13, 2015 at 4:32 pm

He said he was in love with me last week, he even bought me flowers and made me dinner. However, after being away for the weekend, he said that while he still loves me and that I’m his best friend, he’s not in love anymore. I’ve had a very difficult year and I know that I’ve been a bit clingy, but we talked about it and thought we were okay. He said he felt bad about being relieved not to see me on Friday. He’s graduating in a few weeks, and I know that it’s made his nervous and confused. He’s going to grad school an hour away from where I live. What do I do? He said he needs me in his life, but in a different way. How do the romantic feelings go away in an instant? This just happened yesterday, and I plan not to talk to him for at least 7-10 days. I need him in my life and I can’t lose him. Please help

Emily

April 13, 2015 at 4:34 pm

Also, I want to add that we’ve been together a year and a half, and I’m the only girlfriend his parents like, and he used to have daydreams of us getting married. I think he’s scared of long-distance because the first girl he loved burned him that way before.

Aislinn

April 11, 2015 at 5:03 pm

Hi. About two months ago, my boyfriend of 1 year, 3 months and 6 days broke up with me because I was breaking promises and lying to him. And previously, I had been unfaithful. Now, he has a new girlfriend and it just absolutely kills me to see him with her. I constantly see them together, kissing, hugging, him holding her, and making out. I have never wanted anyone this badly before. I could really use the help on getting him back. I truly believe that he is “the one” for me. Please help.
~Aislinn
kay

April 3, 2015 at 7:17 pm

hey my situation.. ive just come out of a relationship a couple of weeks ago.. right now i am confused and hurt and finding it difficult.. i need advice. We were together 1year and half weve had our fall outs but always made up within the same day and overcome it, weve been through quite a bit in the time together but we stuck together he never failed once to contact me throught each day always was there for me he was a good man to me and i loved him and he said he loved me . he went out of his way for me his actions told me everything he treated me good and i was happy and content i was loyal and tried my hardest throught the realationship. a lil over a month before our breakup.. he started being distant and he wasnt spending as much time with me and constantly making excuses when i tried to see him, he didnt seem to miss me as he usually did and it started to hurt me. anyway i never said anythin as i wanted to trust him. but i did question if he was being unfaithful.. a few days before our breakup he lied he told me he was going away to visit his cousin in london on a weekend but was seen out in a club in our home city. there was no need to lie about going out because since weve been together this is something he does ofen and i am ok with that. i have never had a problem with this as we always had our time with friends to enjoy ourselfs so it made me question why did he feel he had to lie? there was no need so i confronted him and his reaction told me everything. he just wasnt botherd that he lied and tried to turn things on me and said he doesnt need to tell me what hes doing. i told him i have no isue with what hes doing i just dont understand why lie and not just say im going out .. at that moment the man standing infront of me i didnt recognize he had never said /done these things before and it hurt me. i was in tears as i couldnt prove he was being unfaithful but knew deep down so i asked him and of course he denied it. so i asked him what he wanted does he even want to be with me and he said he does but cant handle the arguments and feels wed be better off as friends. so basically he finished with me he said it all.. his actions the lies and lack of sympathy. i broke down and wallkef away crying he never called/tx that evening and then the next night he text me saying( i hope your ok) i just replied (you to)it was obvs i was not and i did not want any of this. its been two weeks nrly and im hurting i miss him. i havnt contacted him althou i have wanted to but somhow i dont think it would help. i havnt heard anything from him either . i just need some advice.. will nc help or am i fooling myself? i cant beleive this has happend i dont know how he could throw away our relationship he did alot and i wont put him down but this has really knoked me and i dont understand whats goin on in his mind. any advice i would appreciate right now . thanks
Michele

April 1, 2015 at 3:38 am

The ex and I broke up a week or two ago, but we’re both attending an event/party with mutual friends in a few weeks, there’s only 6 of us going and we don’t know anyone else at the party so I assume we’re all sticking together the entire night (it’s also an open bar, so we are all going to PARTY). I’m doing the NC rule but it won’t be 30 days by the time we see each other at the event. I don’t want to win him back at the moment, but I do want him to feel regretful/missed out. What should I say to him and how nonchalant should I be around him?

admin

April 2, 2015 at 11:33 pm

Haha well maybe you can get lost and meet a new guy and use some jealousy to your advantage.

ty

March 31, 2015 at 1:07 pm

me and my boyfriend didnt break up… but we are on a ‘break’ bc i became too needy and he wants me to grow more independent so we can be stronger together. we both agreed not to see other ppl but of course its hard to trust. anyway, the break started about 2 weeks ago. i have been ignoring him since. he caved in &’texted me letting me know details about a doctors appointment he had went to, this was only after one week of NC. he also said he loves me. i was taking hours to reply to him bc i was at work, and each time i did he replied within the minute lol he was waiting for it. i also waited 10 xtra minutes to respond with ‘i love you too’ at the end. but that was the end of that. he said he’ll talk to me soon & i have restarted NC. its been five days since that happened. i guess what i want to ask is that.. do you think there is still hope? my friends always say they see him out with his friends/family. it seems like hes doing ok without me. but am i handeling this properly? by waiting for him to come to me? its just hard to have patience : hope this pays off:
nicole

March 31, 2015 at 3:48 am

My boyfriend and I have been dating 8 months. We have gotten along great and he was always saying how easy our relationship i . Well we have recently gotten into a few fights over misread text messages. He is very hard to read in a text message and I lashed out a few times over them. This last time he said he had it and we were done. I asked him to give me another chance and he said not right no . I have no idea what this means. If I don’t contact him will he really start contacting again?

nicole

March 31, 2015 at 3:50 am

Not right now**

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