5 Powerful Methods To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Regret Losing You

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Milly H

February 27, 2015 at 4:29 pm

Hi Chris,
This is my situation. I dated my ex for 5 years. It was amazing but all went wrong a year ago when we started to talk about having a baby. This was in our plan for the future but we slowly began to fall apart because of stress in our lives. He started to get cold feet because of disagreements.
So, I broke up with him for a reaction. We lived separately and he tried for a few weeks. We met up a lot and talked. Never about the bad times. To be honest my expectations were high and I was constantly over analyzing so he decided that he was never coming back.
That was 5 months ago. In all that time he would never give me an explanation or talk about the past. He called me all of the time, messaged me, went for dinners, lunches, dates. We slept together twice in the 1st weeks. That was a few months ago. He still pays for everything at home and never tried to tie any loose ends. He has his own house elsewhere. As you can imagine because of this I believed that there was still a chance. Maybe he was in denial? I even tried to sell our property and he got angry. This was his way out. Why didn’t he take it?
Now I am left to pick up the pieces of all of the things that hold us together.
I read your site, did the no contact for 30+ days after 3 months. In that time he slept with another woman.
My questions are. What do I do now ? I had to insist on him seeing me because he would not talk about separating anything. He does not see a future with me. It ended on good terms. He even thanked me for being so amazing ??? I have my self respect plus I read your guide. He messaged me again after 3 days to see how I am coping. I didn’t reply. Why does he do this? I gave him the freedom that he so wanted to ‘find himself’. Why does he need the contact? That’s what I find hard. What should I do ? No contact again but for a few months ? Cut him off completely ? He did say that he was impressed at how I was doing lately.
I would like to think that I can get him back but it needs to be from his side at this stage as I have been through enough. I am following all of the steps on being an UG. Have I lost him ?
Help !!
Janet

February 27, 2015 at 12:13 am

I had a relationship with a guy, who we were both Inlove I really believe we were. We even made our daughter with so much effort. We would’ve been together two years, but three days before our anniversary I caught him cheating by his history location on his phone and when I confronted him and he said he been seeing this girl for 4 weeks and he wasn’t kidding. He said he never loved me and it was lust, if that were true he wouldn’t have stuck around for so long and keep telling me he loved me even before I confronted him Now he’s with her and it’s been 3 weeks since our break up. . He acts so angry and hasn’t contacted me. Idk if he’s Inlove with this girl who’s totally opposite of me and why did he chose her over me and I really wish he would regret it, but it doesn’t seem like it. Now we are working on child support and visitations and I wish it was just a dream. I don’t want to believe he doesn’t love me, but it seems like it. . When we spoke it was awkward and then he could still laugh with me. He looked up on google, how to tell if you love her, and is doing all these sweet things for her. It’s like he forgot we were ever engaged, all the sweet things things he said, and how much we struggled together when we had nothing. Now I’m heartbroken and so devastated Idk what my future will bring, I thought he was the one for me, but now idk if it’s ever bound for him to ever regret it and tell me he was wrong. Everyone says he will regret it, but it doesn’t seem like it. He hadn’t called, texted and spoken. If we did it was mainly about our daughter. . He lives in the town as me while she is in Alabama which is an hour away. .
michele t.

February 24, 2015 at 7:31 am

Chris, how can I make the 30 day no contact rule work when my ex – boyfriend picks up my daughter one day a week from school and brings her home for me as I’m unable to pick her up immediately after school as I’m just getting out of my last college class that particular day and on my way home. I also drive his spare car Mon. – Fri as my car currently in the shop. So, I feel like I have to at least text him to confirm pick up of my child and what time he’ll be picking up his car on Friday. I would love to try the 30 day no contact, but under the circumstances, I don’t think that’s going to work. What alternative ideas might you have pertaining to the no contact rule??

admin

February 24, 2015 at 9:49 pm

I am literally writing an article about that right now!

Can you wait til friday?
michele t.

February 27, 2015 at 4:49 am

I’ll look forward to your article, can you email me an attachment?
admin

March 1, 2015 at 6:40 pm

The article is out!

1111

February 22, 2015 at 6:08 pm

Hi chris

Do you think a guy who loved his girl for 6 years and hurt her a loooot and left her for unknown reasons and did not apologize or try to show that he is sorry for doing this to her … will feel eventually guilty ? Or he feels guilty each day ?

admin

February 23, 2015 at 9:16 pm

He gave no reason for the breakup at all?
1111

February 23, 2015 at 10:05 pm

No he did not specify a reason at all i begged him he said he does not want to talk about it anymore… but we used to fight a lot lately about some trust issues and he pushed me away the last 2 weeks before we broke up.
Iam so sure its not about another girl nor about his family or anything like that. ..
But isn’t it weird for a man to leave like this ??
Will he feel guilty ??

Sarah

February 22, 2015 at 1:33 pm

Hi Chris. I came across to this site and I’ve seen a lot of brilliant reviews from some ladies who needed your help like me out there. Here’s goes ny relationship that I just got off last week. I wish you can help me to solve this problem.

My ex bf and I had dated each other for one year. I still recalled that I was so detached and distant and cold at times because I didn’t want to intensify my devotion to my relationship as I had a pretty bad experience before I met my ex bf. I’m always the ungettable girl because I was so protective towards myself so I won’t fall to hard throughout the whole relationship. I was always the one who was not opened up to him. I knew he was very into to me at he first place.

During our time together we were doin long distance relationship so that it has lead to a major communication problem between us. I knew this problem has already existed but we never truly talk out the things that we wanted for each other openly.

We just ended our long distance relationship recently. I’m always the one who travel and stay over his place just to spend time with as he has a lot of work to do. I’m always a understanding gf so I have to compromise in some circumstances as he is under much pressure for his work. I know he had already tried hard to satisfy my expectation and he is certainly a nice guy.

During last week we had a small fight and this has triggered him to break up with him. He told me he love me but he don’t love me enough to hold me back this time. He said we are not compatible at the first place and he claimed that my thinking and his are different as I’m still studying and he has already start working. At last he wants a break up with me as he is tired of everything. I guess he just undergoing a lot pressure from his career and he needs some space to clear his head out.

I know I can’t force him back to want me again so I never text or call him after the break up. Should I send him a text to wish him all the best to his future and tell him I’m not holding back to him anymore ? I’m not expecting a reply from him if I send him right now. I just want make a closure of relationship to tell him that I’ll be fine. Or should I just do the NC rule ? Can I do the NC rule right after I send the text ? I’m confused.

Sarah

February 22, 2015 at 1:37 pm

I want him back obviously because I knew I had already fell in love with him right after the break up.

Scarlett

February 21, 2015 at 6:09 pm

My ex boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago. We had a positive two and a half year relationship. He has been bombarded with stress from his job and In the last few months it’s only gotten harder on him. I tried my best to support him and be there for him, for he was constantly talking about everything that was stressing him out. It got to a point where he was snapping at me, getting mad at my responses, annoyed with me, and I felt like there wasn’t a right thing I could say. Now, this made me feel really stressed but I wanted to stick by his side. He’s important to me and because I didn’t see this as normal behavior, I didn’t want to leave him during this rough time. Anyway, he got me beautiful things for Valentine’s day and we actually got into an argument that weekend too. It’s always stemmed from him being stressed and talking about his issues and me not saying or doing the right thing. Anyway, we talked it through but it was a little off the rest of the weekend. Then a few days past, I left him alone, and then he contacted me and broke up with me because of the arguments and “me picking fights with him”. I am heartbroken. I can’t help but feel like I did my best and didn’t want to ever make his life more stressful, but he is seeing things differently. We have always been each other’s supporters and able to be there for one another, and it’s like he gave up the one thing he could control because everything else feels out of control for him right now. I haven’t tried to contact me, nor has he, but I feel like our last conversation isn’t the final one. I deeply care for him, we make each other laugh, and had a good relationship overall. I am devastated. Any advice helps

admin

February 22, 2015 at 5:10 pm

Have you attempted NC yet?

yesno

February 21, 2015 at 1:04 am

Hi chris
A quick questions:
. Do you believe the guy who say i love her enough to leave her ( the perfect girl he would ever have in his life ) because i hurt her and she deserves better than me ?

admin

February 22, 2015 at 4:28 pm

I don’t believe a guy who says that…

Ava Gims

February 20, 2015 at 5:34 pm

Just broke up with the individual I was with last weekend, his birthday is early March. It certainly won’t have been 30 days by that point of time according to the “no contact rule”. Do I wish him a happy birthday? By not wishing him a happy birthday am I causing even more problems and spitefulness in the future therefore further ruining any chance to rekindle? If I do wish him a happy birthday, how should I do so? Text? FB?

admin

February 20, 2015 at 11:59 pm

Nope, no happy birthday text.

dan123

February 17, 2015 at 4:43 pm

We broke up me and my bf of 6 years over a reason i still dont know it for now its been 3 momth and refused to tell me the reason . Our relation is perfect we adore each other and few weeks before he broke up with me he inttoduced me officially to his family and he said he is going to take an official step on the summer befor his parents leave the country. But i used to male a lot of problems for him over stuff that i shouldn’t and i lost my mind many timrs and i disrespected him but we always used to find a way to make things up. So it was his birthday i made for him a nice surprise the day after we had a fight and he broke up with me and he did not want to face me so i decided to go to his place and face him. He was angry so he did not want to say the reason , first he said its because of me my personality wont change ….. i did not give up i refused to end the relation over this thing i knw i shouldn’t follow him or nagg but i couldn’t so he stafted making things to make me jealous and gate him at the same time and when i did not do any reaction he started callimg me and saying did you forgot about me …and stuff like that i was so happy that he is following me again but he did not want us back.he stop ralkimg to me after a while i made a step to make him jealous and it worked and he talked to me like 7 days everyminute but still did want to talk about our relation ! Nor the reason y he left me he said he is not going to tell me and its nt about cheating nor another girl not even his parents oh and he is 23 years and iam 22 … so i was like if you want to cilonsider me like one of ur frnds i dnt want you to talk to me again. He said ur diffrent! 6 years were not a game for me ! And u was a part of my family… so the next day i made fight woth him over something so he stoped talking to me sayimg that i reminded him of how i used to handle things. And he is not thinking about the future for now … i didn’t follow him its been 2 weeks we haven’t talk to each other .. i dont knw the reason ! And yesterday i posted a picture of me on instagram he got mad he blocked me i dont knw why he is acting so or why he does not want us we’ve benn on a relation since school and we were perfect and now he is going out with frnds i dont know them … please give me some advises

admin

February 18, 2015 at 9:25 pm

He may have blocked you for a lot of different reasons.

You can learn more here:

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/what-to-do-if-your-ex-boyfriend-blocks-you/
dan123

February 17, 2015 at 4:50 pm

And before he left me one day we were talking and he said he loves me and he will leave me never… but now the last time we talked its 2 weeks ago he did not try to contact me or even show me that he cares about me or anything at all… yesterday he just blocked me on instagram but he did not on the phome nor on any application .. and when we broke up he started acting like * the man that hurt and does not care about my feelings or if one day i will forgive him for wht he did or not… i dont know what are my chances of getting back

Regina Filange (friends)

February 16, 2015 at 10:15 pm

I want to organise a catch up with my ex boyfriend of 2 weeks to try and regain some chemistry. We had a long distant relationship(ish) of one year so only could see each other once a week and I think if he sees me in person he will think about things a bit more. Is this a good idea? How long do you think I should wait? There was no argument to the breakup, my parents told me to have the upper hand but he initialised it and it was the result of me saying he hasnt made much effort recently. i’ve been no contact till now with a couple responses to texts hes sent recently which he’s been replying enthusiastically too, but maybe too friendly. I intend to continue no contact. I just want him back, can i save it?
cam12345

February 16, 2015 at 3:56 pm

My boyfriend of 8 months recently broke up with me because he said he needed time to be single and couldn’t be in anything serious at the time. He also said he could tell I was falling in love with him (which I was) and he felt that I was taking the relationship more seriously than he was. This was in early January. The initial breakup pretty much came out of nowhere one morning so I asked that we meet up the following week to talk things out. He agreed to this and told me that he just wanted to be a, “robot,” and not have to worry about his or anyone else’s feelings or expectations. When he left, he asked for a hug and so we exchanged a long one and he kissed the top of my head. I noticed him sitting in his car after outside of my house with his head in his hands and he tweeted, “I have no idea what I’m doing.” Since then, we have had no contact, other than me texting him a few days after that last meeting to congratulate him on getting a new job he had really wanted when we were together. The conversation was nice and friendly as he asked how I was doing. I lied and said I was good. He told me he was better with the new job but still very unhappy and confused about me and the rest of his life. The conversation ended with me saying that he made me really happy and I thought I did the same for him and to let me know if he figures things out. It’s been about a month since this time and I have unfollowed him from all social media (except Facebook). He still follows me and I have noticed that he watches all of my snapchat stories. From my friends, I have also learned that he was in contact and hanging out frequently with his crazy, toxic ex. They dated for about 4 years when she broke up with him because she wanted to be single. This devastated him and left him in a year-long depression which he described to me as being awful. To further the pain, they still remained in contact but she used him for sex, making it seem like they were getting back together all along. This continued until the opportunity of us was proposed. After about two months of us talking, she contacted him and found out he was with me and was furious. She basically wanted him back because he was with someone else. She showed up at his apartment one night, crying and begging for him back but he said no. Things were fine with us until the end of November when she texted him saying she had some of his W2 tax forms for him to pick up. He told me he was going and I didn’t have anything to worry about. But then their meeting turned into 45 minutes of talking and apologizing, which was where our relationship began going downhill. On Christmas Eve, he seemed off until he opened up to me telling me that she had been haunting him for the last couple of weeks. He told me about how scared he was to feel vulnerable again and was terrified to fall in love again because he thought love was what he felt with his ex. He described that as toxic and all-consuming, something that made you do horrible things. He told me that I was a great girlfriend and he felt like I deserved someone who could be a better boyfriend. I told him that he made me so happy. We stayed together because he told me he wanted to try and make things work. Two weeks later, he broke up with me. The thing is that things were better than ever during that time between Christmas Eve and the day we broke up. After our second meeting after the break up, I saw his car at his ex girlfriend’s house and a picture of her with him at his graduation was posted on Facebook a few weeks later. A month hadn’t even passed since we broke up and he told me our break up didn’t have anything to do with her. Since then, I have looked at his twitter and seen things he tweeted about not letting the same flame burn you twice and so on. I think he just got scared of falling in love again and ran away. what are your thoughts/how do I make him regret this?
Victoria

February 16, 2015 at 1:28 pm

hi Chris, am really in a bad state, he broke up with me on Val’s day, because I complained he didn’t reply val message, he got angry about it and broke up, I really think I caused d break up because in out relationship I did a lot of callings and messages and I think he got tired about it, he said to me that he is tired, and I kept on calling and calling him and also messaging him and I think that was a great mistake I made, he soon said he still likes me as a friend and I should not hate him, and I said I don’t hate him, and he called me his best friend but I want nothing like a best friend if not his girl friend, I really want him back, and am really confused on how to go about it, pls I really need your help, my situation really seems complicated than the help up there, I really need more of your help on my kinda situation. I’ll be so grateful if u help, thank u
Lisa

February 16, 2015 at 4:13 am

When I had drinks with my ex we were chatting and I was asking him about the highlight of his year etc. After talking about our year etc, he responded by saying ‘Right, now lets get serious’ (or something to that affect). He asked me ‘What is your biggest regret?’. I just want some thoughts on his question and what it meant?
Alexis

February 14, 2015 at 12:45 pm

Hey, I’m Alexis. Me and my guy have been together on & off for three years now. In the beginning, everything was amazing. But things quickly went south. We went from having fun 24/7 but as time progressed, I turned into the pyscho girlfriend. I checked his phone whenever I could, I constantly accused him of cheating on me, I texted everyday all day & I would instantly get mad at him if he didn’t text back quick enough, I posted about him all over social networks and would get mad at him of he didn’t do the same. He didn’t hesitate to call me out & tell me that I was slowly losing him. He doesn’t think I’m fun anymore, it seems as if I annoy him 24/7, I’m always on his back, I get mad over the littlest thing and if he doesn’t do thingsbmy way, when we argue, I play the blame game and try to make him seem like the bad guy. I swear I’m not the girlfriend from hell. Over time, I just allowed my insecurities and jealousy get the best of me. My family doesn’t see his point of view and just automatically feel as if he’s just a jerk who doesn’t deserve me. But I see now where I went wrong. He broke up with me a few days ago and instead of giving him the space he asked for, I only texted and called even more. Crazy, because he said that if I changed my ways, he’d love to get back with me. He thinks I’ve lost myself because of our relationship. Even after we talked about that, I still tried to force him to get back with me. He thinks I treat him like a servant instead of a boyfriend and I can see why. I love this man and I don’t wanna lose him forever. I wanna be the fun, loving, strong and confident woman I once was when we first got together. That’s what he misses about me and I’m not gonna lie, I do, too. Help? Signed, A Grade-A-Clinger
LC

February 12, 2015 at 1:41 pm

Hi there, my boyfriend of almost 3 years broke up with me last saturday (feb 7th). He said that he was too young to be in a serious relationship (we are both 22) and that he wasn’t ready to be serious and at the moment couldn’t see a future with us. When I asked him whether he still loved me, he said that wasn’t the point and that he had made his decision. He then went on to become very upset and said he “wasnt okay”. We never argued, and were best friends. We see each other every 2/3 weeks as he works away, but it has always been like that and we have always been great. No problems at all! We even survived a year apart on different continents! Obviously this is completely heartbreaking as it literally came out of no-where (he said he had been thinking about it for 2 weeks)…is there a way I can win him back or is it his final decision? I haven’t spoken to him at all since…very hard after talking every day non-stop for about 5 years! 🙁 is this relationship saveable?!
T

February 11, 2015 at 11:56 pm

What about snapchat and the no contact rule? My ex can see if I view private snaps he sends me (not often) or watch his story on the main page (frequent updates)? If you use the app frequently it’s common to watch everyone’s story. I’m not sure where to balance – it seems too cold to watch not at all. They’re available for a 24 hour window. Watch some, never respond?

admin

February 16, 2015 at 9:59 pm

I wouldn’t view anything he sends then…

Jennifer

February 10, 2015 at 9:00 pm

So, my ex broke up with me on Super Bowl Sunday. We were supposed to spend time together before the game and he was running late – a common problem. If this was the first time, I guess I would not have been so upset. But I had put a lot of effort into the afternoon. Let me note, things have been rocky lately. I know he feels I have changed from the confident woman I once was to one that is dependent on him. Part of the problem is that in the last two years we have been together – I have only met one friend and have not been introduced to his family as his girlfriend. I always accepted that he is compartmentalized and has emotional issues, but as of late it has become too much. So we have been fighting. I can say I do not believe there is another woman. We travel out of the country together, etc. and travel with our kids. But it has been a pressure and caused me to act in a way I don’t like and that he doesn’t like. Super Bowl sunday, he blew up and flew out of the house screaming that it was over and to never call him again. He said a lot of mean things, acted like a child and was clearly angry. I texted him the next day to apologize and the day after a business text related to his son – something I had to tell him. Other than that I have not contacted, but neither has he. We talked every day and spent a fair amount of time together and I don’t understand how after two years you can literally run out on someone like that? I was a truly dedicated girlfriend doing so much for him and his son. I am hoping he will regret his decision and recognize life without me is not so good. But how long will that take? I am doing NC but am scared he has just made up his mind that while there was a lot of good, he doesn’t want the complexities and aggravations. How do you know if 30 days is the right amount of NC for your own situation?

admin

February 11, 2015 at 1:53 pm

Ouch…

I really do think NC is perfect for this situation. You said part of the problem is you lost your confidence… This is a way of getting it back.

Christine

February 10, 2015 at 1:05 pm

Hi this article has helped me get through this morning. I was with a 37 year old man for six nonths. I asked him how he felt about me. He say he was enjoying getting to know me and was v v v fond of me. Anyway after a few days he broke it off over the phone. He was caring and said he didn’t have the same feelings and he didn’t want to hurt me. So we broke up. I said I needed to heal and nice on. That night he text @ hope you are blocked. I didn’t reply….. Question is…. If he never contacts me? How will no contact work?

admin

February 10, 2015 at 4:22 pm

You contact him after NC.

Ann

February 7, 2015 at 10:38 pm

Hey,i feel like this is one of the best sites i have ever seen and thank you for doing it :)so, in my case, he said he needed more time to figure things out which was really weird and out of blue, but, my birthday is coming up and he asked me to take the present that he has for me right after we broke up and i am in NC right now, so should i talk to him when he calls? or should i ignore him if he textes me?

admin

February 9, 2015 at 3:44 pm

You are welcome Ann.

It’s going to get even better. I am launching a Podcast soon to help even more people.

Unfortunately if you are in a strict NC you can’t break it for anything.

Josephine

February 7, 2015 at 12:37 pm

Okay I’m in a completely different boat then what your use to dealing with as am I. My boyfriend and I have been dating for four months and he broke up with me but the thing he didn’t realize is that on the 23 of this month we payed for our tickets to go to military ball and I bought my dress and shit and so he said we should pretend that we are still dating till the next day and I agreed and then I came up with a plan that during that time I will do anything possible to make him wish by the 24 that I would stay and hopefully I’m over him by then and I hope I am I just don’t know what I should do or not do during this time period I mean I have 16 days to do this and I want him back but now that I look back he treated me like crap and I honestly didn’t deserve to be treated like that but I want him to feel the pain I felt yesterday and today

admin

February 9, 2015 at 4:03 pm

I see, well maybe you can do a mini nc for like a week.

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