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Zara
February 5, 2015 at 7:51 pm
Hello, I could really need some advice on my situation..
My ex boyfriend are both in our mid-twenties, and had been together for almost three years, before he suddenly ended it. We did have a little more fights at the end, than we used to, but it was mostly about stupid things and nothing serious. He said that he was feeling pressured and that he had too much going on in his life, that he needed to focus on and that he couldn’t take the fighting anymore. We were both crying and he told me, that he still loved me a lot. I was very hurt and mad at him, but for some reason couldn’t show it, because I could see he was hurt too.
Than after about a month, we decided to meet up. We didn’t do the NC-rule, I texted him a few times, asking him to meet, so we could finish talking.
When we met at his place, we talked for hours, about our relationship and how we had been. We had fun and talked and laughed, but I also started crying, when he told me, he just wanted to be friends. He really wants to be friends, because I am the only person he can open up to. After a while things got back to normal and we ended up small talking again, he also told me some personal things, he hasn’t told anyone before, then when I was leaving, we kissed for one second. I got really confused.
After a few weeks, we met up at his place again. We didn’t do the NC-rule, we had casually texted a few times.
This time, I told him I wanted things to go back to the way they were before and that I missed him. He told me, that he missed me too, but right now he just wants to be alone and he is not interesting in dating anyone. I got really upset and mad at him and I now realize, I must have seen desperate at that point. But he kept saying, that a part of him still wants to be with me, but that this is for the best and that it isn’t the right time. We ended up having intimate contact, until he stopped it and said it was wrong, as we are not going to get back together. So i just went home after that
We are both very stubborn and he also has a lot of pride and doesn’t like to show emotions.
A few days later, he was going out of the country, to visit his family in Turkey. He asked me if I wanted to take him to the airport, so I did.
He is still at his family, coming home in a few days, so I haven’t spoken with him since. His birthday is the day after he comes home. Should I text him that day? Or what should I do? Will he eventually come back, if I just leave him alone?
admin
February 6, 2015 at 2:07 pm
If you are in the NC rule then no… you can’t contact him.
Zara
February 6, 2015 at 8:04 pm
Thank you for your answer. Well I haven’t started NC yet, would it work if I did now?
Abhisha
February 5, 2015 at 1:08 pm
how can I make my ex boyfriend regret, for those things what he done to me,he cheat on me,and now they are together with the girl, then he choose that girl over me (they are same nationality) and im from other country we stay together almost two years,On this situation he don’t even think about me those trials we have been trought for almost a years that we past together,then in one snap of eyes he leave me then he told to me that was the big mistake that he done to his life,But his not willing to make it right all the mistake what he done.then he still choosing the other girl than me.Do you think he will fell regret one day? because this guy he know how much I love him, I done everything for him,thats why its really hard for me to move on because he is my everything.I want that he will fell regret one day then he will come to me, do you think karma will come to them?
Amanda
February 5, 2015 at 9:09 am
Let’s just say my name is Amanda. My ex boyfriend were dating for about 2 months and we moved pretty fast in my opinion. But during our relationship is was mainly on me because I was going through something. Regardless we were opposites that click. And out of nowhere one day he just leaves saying that I didn’t care enough and he cared soooooo much. Things like that and before I agreed on dating him I knew he was a player and etc but we eventually got back together after like a week or two apart. So for about 3-4 weeks we were kind like best friends and with benefits and we made it official this Monday 2/2/15 that we would try again but today 2/4 we ended things or he did. He was like I’m a guy and in the beginning I wanted us but now I just want sex. I’m just really confuse because we been through a lot even though it was only 2 months he cried and it’s just a big ball of mess and stress. Any advice I’m so lost…
admin
February 5, 2015 at 3:46 pm
Hi Amanda..
NO more friends with benefits. That never works out.
Have you started NC on him?
Jade
February 3, 2015 at 8:01 pm
I’d really appreciate some advice, over the last 3 years I have become good friends with one of my colleagues. We chatted outside work and had some really random and deep conversations. We do share a lot in common and seemed to have bonded really well. He is 13 years my senior and therefore I never thought he would return my feelings let alone act upon them.
He is quite a shy and reserved guy so he didn’t admit his feelings for me until a few months ago. He said to me ‘please don’t laugh at this but I do really like you’. About a month later he asked me to go to the Movies with him – which we did. Nearly every weekend after that we would go for dinner, to the cinema or for drinks. He asked me to help him with his Christmas shopping and we also exchanged gifts (he initiated the idea). However a couple of months in he became very hot and cold, he would initiate a conversation about how happy he was or how long he had feelings for me (he said he has been attracted to me since we started getting to know each other) – I would respond positively and then he would disappear for days. He did tell his family about me however I never met them.
Altogether we were only dating for around 3 months however we obviously have known each other a lot longer.
About 2 weeks ago I said I needed consistency and respect and that wasn’t happening. I advised him that I felt we had known each other long enough to not have to play games and we should be honest with each other – if we couldn’t get it together then we needed to make that decision – I went a bit mad and left a few missed calls on his phone and a few texts telling him how much he meant to me. He responded telling me I was a beautiful person and he wanted the best for me however he felt that I deserved better than him and that getting involved with him would ruin my quality of life.
I advised him I respected his decision however I am capable of making my own decisions. This happened two weeks ago and I told him I didn’t feel I could go forward as friends, he said he wouldn’t contact me again if that was what I wanted. However he messaged me at work through the week asking how I was, I responded on a work basis asking if I could assist with something. We have had a few occasions where we have had to work together – all has been very civil however I have not communicated with him on a personal basis in a week.
Do you think that there is a possibility he was confused or maybe I freaked him out and he will get his head straight and come back? Should I initiate NC and how should I act towards him in work?
admin
February 4, 2015 at 2:07 pm
I have a good article I am writing coming up at the end of this week that I think would be really helpful for you.
Dawn
February 2, 2015 at 10:03 pm
Hi Chris I was with my ex for 8 months and it was great we live two hours apart and he was in a relationship for 20 years with two children he has also been separated for over two years before we met I got a little tipsy over the new year and said a few things to him which upset him so he ended things I made no contact for over two weeks but today I did text and he replied back he wS really nice but nothing about getting back with me two weeks ago we were saying we loved each other he has done this before and we sorted things out I know no kne else is involved because he is best friends with my best friends husband I could do with some advice please thank you
admin
February 3, 2015 at 1:14 pm
Hmm…
What things did you say?
Dawn
February 3, 2015 at 6:46 pm
Well I said he would rather be with his family than me which was stupid but my friend hadnt helped the matter by saying things to put me off him, I have two children of my own the youngest being three so it wasn’t easy for me to start a new relationship, I know he got scared he told me and he is a really nice person and is big on trust in a relationship same as me but we are not teenagers im 40 he’s 44 I have noticed if he gets upset with anything he shuts off until he’s ready to talk.
Julia
February 2, 2015 at 7:48 pm
Hello, lets Say my name is Julia i won’t say my real name, im way scared somehow he sees this, but i got in college the last August, i met a boy he was in all my classes, then we became closer and closer till a point when i felt a way needy, but so does he. We were always together at college, we used to text everyday, and sometimes i was the one who started the conversations, we were friends, like during the whole semester (4 months) and in our third date we kissed, he told me he couldn’t live without me and he loved me, then we went out like a couple of times, and somehow all of a sudden, he stop texting me or calling me or anything, so i sent him a text like
Hi how are you? and he didn’t reply, then the next day i told him to put a class together with me and he said !i dont think so i can barely handle 6 subjects¡ then i texted him, yeah same, how are you? and then he sent me a text telling me he’d thought things and he guesses the best for us is not to be into a relationship, and it was not because he didn’t like me , or in a bad way he was sorry because that was not the best moment to tell me that, but he couldn’t keep this feeling anymore, so he told me he was sorry but right now he was in a very complicated situation and hed rather leave it, im sorry.
And in that moment i was totally in shock obviously i didn’t know what to answer, so i ended up not replying, now its been l50 days with no contact, since december 2014 im still going to college and its hard cause everything reminds me of us, i hope u can help me to get thru this,
admin
February 3, 2015 at 1:07 pm
No problem!
150 days NC… That is a lot.
Has anyone tried reaching out at all?
Imani Jackson
January 29, 2015 at 4:44 pm
Hi Chris, My name is Imani & I dated a guy on and off for about 3/4 years. We lost contact for about a year and a half and somehow found our way back to each other. His occupation is very time consuming and creates a great distance between us because we are living in different states, but that only seems to have intensified my feelings for him. When he contacted me he basically poured his heart out explaining to me that he knows he messed up and was going to get it right. This was February 2014. Since then we have not progressed very much, however i can tell that he is very timid when i am around him. Our conversations are not very detailed, we keep it very vague. This has been going on for a while, it seems as if we both are running from the situation. I have never told him how I feel about him and vice versa, but when we are around each other you can literally feel the intensity. It’s almost like fire. We are very affectionate but he’s not very aggressive (never has been) i’m much more aggressive than him. There is no doubt about us caring for one another, but i’m not sure why the relationship is stagnant. I try to bounce off of him because i don’t want him to feel that i am desperate to be with him, however I can see where i have occasionally shown wayyyyy too much and it has left him very distant and “Comfortable”. I really love him and pray to marry him someday, But i don’t know how to switch this into him pursuing me more and assuring me that i’m not feeling this way alone.
admin
January 30, 2015 at 3:43 pm
Have you tried any of the NC rule or any of the advice recommended on the site?
Imani Jackson
January 30, 2015 at 4:36 pm
I am currently starting the NC
admin
January 31, 2015 at 3:19 pm
Good!
Imani Jackson
January 30, 2015 at 4:39 pm
Today is the 3rd day Lolololol
-(it’s a start)
Sophie
January 28, 2015 at 11:56 pm
Hey Chris!
I’m a huge fan of your website, and used it to get my ex bf back last year. It totally worked, but then I realized I could do way better lol. Anyway, I met a great guy 5 months ago.Two weeks ago, he dumped me out of the blue and said he wasn’t into it anymore. You’d be proud- I handled the breakup like a champ lol. I told him I respected his decision, and gave him a peck on the cheek and wished him well. When I saw him, he was sure but slightly nervous but when I left his apartment, he looked kind of confused and unsure lol. I of course went into NC immediately cuz I’ve self respect lol. Why do you think he dumped me (I think it’s cold feet bc we were talking about more future/serious stuff), and what are my chances?
admin
January 29, 2015 at 2:54 pm
So your the fan!
No just kiding.
I think the commitment/deeper commitment scared him a little bit.
Sophie
January 29, 2015 at 6:35 pm
Yeah, I’m the crazy fan lol. I totally agree with what you said cuz nothing big/bad happened between us. Do you think I have a good chance of getting someone like that back if I’m MIA (cuz of NC)?
admin
January 30, 2015 at 3:51 pm
I think your situation is a lot more manageable than others so I am feeling confident about that.
Sophie
January 30, 2015 at 5:30 pm
Awesome! Thanks for giving me the motivation to stay in NC 🙂
admin
January 31, 2015 at 3:26 pm
Your welcome
Ivette
January 28, 2015 at 8:53 pm
Hi Chris.
I need some sound advice.
My boyfriend and I broke up during a big fight. He and I are both upset with my living conditions. I live with older siblings who always ask me for money, never clean, and don’t help me pay rent. He said I have no backbone for allowing this behavior but Ive explained to him I cant control them and I have tried to communicate with them on these issues. Theyre not very responsible people.
We argued about this and he also ended up saying he wont be coming over anymore because of it.
I got upset and accused him of abandoning me and it escalated to him telling me to “get the fuck away” from him and it hurt me so much the way he was pushing me away. I felt like a fool so I dumped him and stormed off. I ignored him for a day, he called me three times that same day and once the next and a text to ask if I was okay.
When I finally called him back he acted disinterested and cold and when I asked him about us he said that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore and our future is up in the air. He said my environment needs to change and so does my anger. We have broken up before but this is the only time its been dead serious. He said he invested a year and some months and he’s tired of everything that comes with a relationship with me. He said I’m a great girl and that he loves me even if I dont believe him.
I never replied as I have decided to do NC with him.
We have been friends 4 years and together for a year and 4 months. I treated him like a king besides our arguments and our relationship was kind and caring.
But now I guess he cant stand to be together anymore.
I’m 23 and he is 25. He lost his job 6 months into the relationship and has been very stressed and not as attentive. I think him losing his job had a major effect on our communication, as he is the type who defines himself as a man by having a job. I tried my best to support him in any way and still we ended up in a bad spot. He’s a good guy and I pushed him away, as well as external forces did. What should I do?
Is there hope Using the no contact method?
admin
January 29, 2015 at 2:46 pm
Well, I am with him on one thing. You probably do need to not give them money.
Of course, its a silly reason to break up.
Definitely go into NC on him.
Crisko
January 27, 2015 at 11:33 pm
I have been seeing a guy for two months. It has been a little complicated since I met him at a party and was initially supposed to be set up with his best friend. His “best friend” has been jealous ever since and speaking to us individually on how we shouldn’t be together. Telling me that the guy Im seeing is a player, and then telling his own best friend “how much I really like him”. That being said, on my end due to a long relationship with an ex and being scarred and having reservations I was insecure and pressured him a little too much and became a little clingy. When I say clingy I can say with shame that I did a 3:1 ratio of texting. I can openly admit that and know that had an obvious effect. We had a conversation where I told him I didn’t want to pressure him into a relationship, especially so early into dating and wanted to take our time. The conversation ended well and he left on vacation with his “best friend”. Now the problem is while on vacation his “best friend” threw a fit with him several times and advised him not to toy with my emotions making it seem that I was much more invested than he was. The guy Im dating came back a week later and told me how he thought maybe it was best to take sex out of the equation. When I told him I didn’t see how that was necessary he retorted that he really cares about me, and even if he’s tremendously sexually attracted to me, he wants to be respectful- and on top of it doesn’t want others to think he’s not treating me with respect. The fact is, I know this guy likes me. I know by me being needy I have pushed him into making that decision, and I know that his friend also had some influence. I think doing the NC will show him my worth again since his choice to not have sex anymore really doesn’t seem to carry much weight. He seems to want to be responsible and respectful with me but at the same time confused with how he feels about me. What do you think I should do?
admin
January 28, 2015 at 4:30 pm
I think you definitely should do NC. That will definitely show you his worth.
Alex
January 25, 2015 at 2:44 am
Hi Chris,
My boyfriend of 6 years dumped me 11 days ago and I’m a mess. We have been together through 4 states, constant money troubles and recently him over coming alcoholism (11 months sober). Two years ago his drinking got so bad I was scared and called the police, things got out of control and he was arrested for domestic violence. I tried to drop all charges and get him free but the record remains. This past year we moved to be with his family and starting over. My x wanted to be a cop or in the services and got rejected from everything. I thought things were great because of his sobriety but right after his last rejection he dumped me immediately and out of the blue. I know he has been struggling with confidence issues and living with his religious family the past year has paid its toll on us. I did NC and he came back to our house 3 days later trying to stay strong but then said he will always love me and sees us ultimately together but needs to see if he can forgive me and be strong on his own. I did NC again and within a day he was angry about it and got in a car accident and showed up a day later cold and annoyed with me. At first he told me I had to move out and separate bills but now he is putting it off. He said this break up is for now so I flew back to Pa (from CA) and am staying with my family until I feel ready to go back and face this. The night before I left he asked to take me on a final date before I went to PA and it was
so perfect- he was all over me and then would step back and talk about us moving on with our lives. He took me to the airport and told me to not make any plans just enjoy myself. He has initiated all contact to check in (videos of funny things, asking about our dog, chores at the house). I am afraid if I ignore him he will get angry and annoyed. I am still in PA and so depressed to go back to our house and begin my new life. The contact has been limited but nothing endearing or hopeful. I don’t know how to navigate this! I filed the expunge records and it made him happy but not enough. I am so confused we have an engagement ring on our dresser for when he got a job and up to that phone call things were hard but so much love between us. How do I make him regret this, how much more can I show I am sorry? If he is done I really need to get back and get out but for now I’m just giving space. Help?
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:38 pm
This guy seems unstable. I don’t really think this guy is great for you.
I mean, domestic violence is very serious.
Alex
January 29, 2015 at 4:08 am
He did not hurt me or attempt to he was wrongly charged because he told them he grabbed my Hand to get the phone. I dropped everything but the state charged him anyway and we are having trouble gettinf it lifted. He can not get a job now because of it and it’s been years and he is very depressed.
admin
January 29, 2015 at 3:08 pm
I see the predicament…
Febe
January 24, 2015 at 7:24 pm
I need your help. I dated my ex for almost 3 months and we broke up. He was in a 3 year long term relationship before me and he also dated before he met me. When we broke up he said he couldn’t commit because of his long term but after we beoke up we still talked everyday and hungout like nothing happened. He started going on dates a few weeks ago and he found this girl that he really likes. They have just started dating each other and he said he really likes her. What do i do? They have only been together officailly for 5 days. When he told me i made all the major mistakes by begging and constantly texting him.i unfriended him on facebook and i tried to friend him again but he had blocked him. When i asked him why he blocked me he said if i cant make up my mind about being friends with him he will make the decision for me. He changed his mind and said we could be friends. We havent talked since then. I want him back. Is there any chance of him leaving his new gf? And would the no contact rule work for me? Do you have any suggestions? He often said that he felt like he didn’t deserve me so i an so confused. Please help me!
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:32 pm
I think the NC can be effective.
He can leave his new girlfriend if a certain amount of things happen. Ideally you are looking for a grass is greener type situation where he realizes that its not greener on the other side.
Jennifer
January 24, 2015 at 1:42 pm
Hello
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:17 pm
Hi!
Jennifer
January 24, 2015 at 1:39 pm
We were together for almost 8 months. It was a very sweet loving relationship. The kind of relationship where you talk about absolutely everything with each other. Even the most embarrassing stuff and most of the embarrassing incidents are with each other only. My boyfriend broke up with me because of family issues. He was not stable at that time. And wanted to be alone. He made it clear at that time that his family will never accept me and its better to call it quits. I was so broken. He was doing everything in his power to make me hate him. And whenever we talked after that i always ended up blaming him. After half a month or so, he said “i had enough of your blaming. I was hoping that you’d wait patiently and understand my situation but instead, when you knew that my family was all over me because of lots of stuff, you never left a chance to blame me.” Even after that, after giving him space, we started talking normally. But I think I made a mistake, asking him this new year to mend things and start over and he started the blame game. He brought up every mistake i ever made in the relationship. EVERYTHING. He said ‘I will never get back with you and that I’m very sure about’. He was so mean at that very moment. I was so hurt. After a few weeks, he apologized. He said “I was angry on you that night. I was high so everything came out the wrong way.” I don:t know why but his apology sounded more like a closure than an effort to make everything right. What should i do? Is there any hope left?
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:20 pm
He sounds immature about that a bit…
I mean, he was high?
Jennifer
February 1, 2015 at 7:31 am
Yeah. That particular night. He’s not regular per se. Anyways, What do you suggest? Shall I try getting him back? Or is it no worth?
Esra
January 24, 2015 at 12:21 am
I broke up with my bf(together 5.5 years)last Saturday. In December, we never seen each other because he get a new job and wanted to go company’s gathering and wanted to make more friends there. Then he started to talk to the admins and exchanging the numbers. Last Saturday, first time we have seen each other after 1.5 months, we exchanged the clothes and talked in the car. I had to ask him to see if he can show me his messages. I felt something over there and saw this message saying to this girl: hi, remember we met at the bar. An hour later he is texting and asking how the movie was. He killed me right there. Because during December month, even though we had issues, I haven’t hang out with guys and he told me he didn’t hang out with girls either. So he told me he just met with this female coworker at the bar and had to make a contact.
I broke up with him right there because he hurt me so much. I don’t know what to do.
admin
January 26, 2015 at 2:41 pm
Because he met with a female coworker at a bar?
Did he he claim that he was just meeting her there for work or was it a social thing?
Monica
January 23, 2015 at 5:48 am
Regarding the NC time period. I broke up with a guy three weeks ago. We were together for nine months. I don’t have a problem with waiting 30 days; I’m patient. Do you think going longer than 30 days is even more effective? If I wait too long to contact him will it alter the effectiveness of the 30 day period you talked about? I just don’t want him to forget about me or totally move on.
admin
January 23, 2015 at 4:37 pm
No, 30 days is max in my opinion.
Shay
January 23, 2015 at 4:57 am
Hey Chris,
My ex boyfriend dumped me a month ago after being with me for 1.8 years. He used all the littlest mistakes I’ve done in the relationship as a reason to break up. However, I never cheated on him, or never intentionally hurt him. I was the best I was to him and devoted myself completely to him. It was a beautiful relationship and we were far more than just close. Towards the days of the break up, he scolded my parents, called them bad parents and insulted them over the phone. He also disgraced me. Even then, I still wanted him because my life was absolutely nothing without him. I was beaten up by my parents because of him but it didn’t matter to me Because I would go through he’ll and back just to be with him. A week later, however, he broke up with me mercilessly saying I hurt him too much. He kept listing all the little mistakes I’ve done and said goodbye, while I thanked him for showing the brighter sides of life and that someone should do the same for him someday. He never thanked me. I stopped begging for him, because it crossed limits. He saw my wrong without glancing back at all the good I’ve done, that any girl has never done for him before. I cut off contact and ignored him. But recently, I saw him insulting me on instagram and Facebook calling me a Bitch and a whore when I did absolutely nothing unfaithful to him. I posted something alike, like a payback. How do I make him feel bad? He played with my feelings and now he’s insulting me. And I really need to move on. Please help!
admin
January 23, 2015 at 4:29 pm
What were the mistakes?
Shay
January 25, 2015 at 4:11 pm
He would never listen to me when we fought. He scolds me till he’s done and hangs up. So, I spoke to one of my distant exes (Someone I dated only for a month and never met) who’s a good friend of mine now. He helped cheer me up. If not for him, I don’t know what I would’ve done to myself. The next day, I told my guy about the whole thing. That I spoke to an ex (that he also knew), and he helped cheer me up.
Another mistake he saw was, when I was offered to act in a music video for a good pay. I was supposed to act like the artist’s girlfriend. This artist told me that there might be kissing scenes and also a pretend sex scene. I tried to negotiate with him, and tell him that im not okay with these scenes as I’m having a boyfriend also, but he wouldn’t make a change. So I decided with my parents, that I would go meet him with them in person to try and cancel out the scenes. I told my guy beforehand and he was quite okay. But, the next day, he read the conversation on facebook and immediately broke up with me saying he didn’t want to be with a girl like me.
Another one, was when a guy was admiring me and talking dirty to me, while I didn’t defend myself like I should have because I was mentally out after a fight I had with my guy.
These were the mistakes he saw.
But I never cheated. He scolded my parents in filth when they tried to explain that it was all a misunderstanding, and I even had to get beaten up bad because of him.
He insults me on social apps now, and it hurts because I never did anything that bad to him.
Shay
January 23, 2015 at 4:58 am
Hell* and back
Rami
January 22, 2015 at 1:07 pm
Hi Chris! I am in a long distance relationship
for 1,5 year. He left me about 2weeks ago. He said he want silence, i am needy and doesn’t love me anymore. It is my fault! I was desperate to marry
and wanted baby! But I need you to know that we were together for 3 years ,
10 years ago. and now he came looking for me! I love him. He is the one! I was needy,cligny…,everything men hates. maybe , because down deep i couldn not forgive him for 10 years ago . what can i do? thanks.
Kelsey
January 22, 2015 at 9:54 am
Hey Chris,
I’m twenty, and my boyfriend broke up with me yesterday. He always told me that I was and , (the latter pertained more while in bed.. but that’s beside the point). Then he texts me, ‘So, I don’t think I want to be in a relationship any more.’ Due to the fact that I’ve been able to feel this coming on for some time now, I responded, “I can’t say that I’m surprised. I appreciate your honesty, rather than stringing it along. I hope that we can still be friends.” He replies, “I wouldn’t expect anything less! :)” Of course, he just ended our relationship.. and I’m not one to beat a dead horse. If he’s done, than that’s that. I’m not going to beg and plead him to take me back, because frankly.. I’m not so pathetic or desperate.
I would however like for him to realize how good he had it. I treated that man like a king, and he always seemed to appreciate it, but because he’d rather have the freedom to sleep with whomever he chooses and skip town every other month.. he decides that I’m not worth it. This alone isn’t the worst case scenario, I suppose.. The text he sent me immediately after I asked if we could still be friends was just, annoying, for lack of a better word. “So, are we just going to be friends who have sex sometimes or just friends haha” My response of course, was, “Sorry to be blunt, but f**k no. I have more self respect than that.” I received a short, “Okay, that works.” I know that it is the ‘norm’ for a lot of girls my age, and also both younger and older, but this is not the case for me, and he should know better – hence my harsh reaction. In any case, I’ve made my peace with all of that bull shit. It’s not going to help me to cry into a pillow and wish things were different. I am a woman of action.
So, my question is.. How do I get him to regret ending it? Not in the hopes of getting this guy back.. but because I think he will deserve to miss me.
admin
January 22, 2015 at 5:11 pm
Woman of action!
I like it!!!!!
Ignoring him, using some facebook jealousy tactics, flirting and kind of teasing him a bit should do the trick.
Tonya Jane
January 22, 2015 at 4:11 am
Hi Chris-
My ex boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up with me 7 months ago, (LDR) the longest we didn’t talk after our breakup was 5 days. There have been several times we talked about getting back together but then he would change his mine. I wanted to. I never wanted to break up to begin with. We’ve been through ALOT together. Recently he decided we should not talk anymore. I feel like he broke up with me all over again. He says I’m perfect and when I say i don’t feel like “I’m enough” he says I am, he just isn’t ready for that kind of commitment yet and we kind of argue about stupid stuff too much. I think he really doesn’t want to talk this time and doesn’t see a future with me and Im sad. I think he is going to move on and find better. I just want him back. what do you suggest I do?
admin
January 22, 2015 at 5:05 pm
Have you seen my long distance relationship page?
Tonya Jane
January 23, 2015 at 5:43 pm
Yea…. I haven’t talked to him since monday and he texted me and I didn’t respond. And then the next day he text me again saying “lose all my information, I’m dead serious, don’t bother texting me back, bye” then he deleted me and blocked me online. What do you suggest is best?