5 Powerful Methods To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Regret Losing You

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Amanda

September 30, 2014 at 2:04 am

Please help! Because of moving out of our house which took a total of 6 weeks to complete with getting my new place and everything I couldn’t implement the 30 day nc period. I have started now. Will it still work even though the break up happens a bit ago or is it a total lost cause? Since cutting contact a week ago my ex has contacted me daily..except the last 2 days…..I Guess im just worried ive Waited too long. ~ Amanda
kristine

September 18, 2014 at 9:02 pm

Help me, I’m being too clingy after he asked me for some time. I was too scared that he might find someone else. I asked him how long should wait, he said he don’t know, maybe one months one week or one year, he said he is tired coz I always say break up every time we argue, now o really want him back. I always msg him he got really irritated and starts to blocked me on Fb, he told me he doesn’t want me to always think abt him and see him and he also don’t want to see my pics with other man or in case new bf. and he also told me its over that his not mine anymore and that I should move on. He said he don’t want to talk abt relationship and that he has so many things to do , he wants to do well with his work and support his sick mom. I asked him if I can just stay but he only replied GOODLUCK… Now he told me if I will talk to him again anything abt relationship or love he will also block me on LINE apps. I’m too scared. I want him back so bad and I asked for chance but he is ignoring him. Maybe he thought I am annoying? This is a long distance relationship BTW. Pls help… U think there’s still a chance?

admin

September 29, 2014 at 12:47 pm

I think you just need to lay back a bit… you are trying to hard… pressing too much.

Ri

September 16, 2014 at 2:12 am

Hi!

So my ex and I broke up well over a year ago, and we had about 5 months of no contact (because I made the decision that we couldn’t be friends as I wasn’t over him). However I did apologize for being an ass to him when we had (small amounts of contact) after a month of no contact after he moved away for school. He was actually pretty understanding about the whole deal, though to me it seemed that he brushed off my apology.

However, I asked him about his one ex girlfriend that cheated on him years ago so I could get some perspective on my most recent now-ex (THAT one cheated on me). And he gave me some honest perspective and a little sympathy for my situation, which I thought was really good of him.

And now, in typical girl fashion, I’m over analyzing the whole thing. What are your thoughts?

Thank you!

admin

September 16, 2014 at 3:27 pm

My first question is do you even want him back?

Leaf

September 13, 2014 at 8:00 am

Hi, so I’m not to sure how to go about this. My boyfriend and I just recently broke up and he keeps giving me mixed emotions. On one hand he will say “I’m in love with you”, “I’m going to come back” and “I’m going to fix myself first before I come back” etc… on the other hand he’s driving his ex girlfriend (not me) from and to school everyday just the two of them and we go to different schools and I’m just really confused.

I want to try the no contact rule, but would it just push him away? I mean if you just stopped talking to someone for a while, out of the blue, wouldnt they just get mad? And I’m afraid if I just stop talking to him, he’ll move on for good and I do want him back. Also, this may sound a bit ridiculous but we are in high school, which already to almost everyone is basically a joke, but if I didn’t care, then I wouldn’t leave this comment you know? So would the no contact rule still apply to us? How would I put it into action without making things really awkward and having him move on? If it doesnt apply, what would be the best way to approach this?
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so stubborn

September 12, 2014 at 6:24 pm

I’ve done the NC. Twice now because the first time we spoke it didn’t go well. Anyway, I started to text him here and there with your advice and he will fluctuate back and forth between being responsive/interested and neutral. I’m getting so frustrated because he has not initiated contact once. Not even once. He has a great poker face. It’s been 3 months since we broke up. We were LDR for about 8 months before we broke up. He had gotten a job that was demanding and said he needed to focus on his career wanted to be independent. He said he still cared about me, seems hard to believe at this point. It still feels so open-ended. We dated for 4.5 years. Any advice you have on the matter would be greatly appreciated, right now I’m feeling like he’ll never reach out, much less care to. If I do keep trying to reach out, how often should I? It seems if I’m the only one putting in the effort, then it’s not really getting anywhere.
Nikki B

September 6, 2014 at 9:28 pm

My ex and I were together for 2 years
In April we began to have issues. Two negative situations occurred in my relationship which I tried to get past. It was very difficult to get past the issue. Long story short he asked for a break. It was difficult to give him a break. I was so afraid to let go I didn’t honor his request. We broke up in July I was beating him over the head talking about our relationship issues all of the time. He finally said i don’t want you and several mean words. However, he would still call me to say hello. The other night he said additional harsh words. I decided not answers his calls any longer. This has been for four days. He has called me everyday except for today. Should I continue to be silent?
BMW

September 5, 2014 at 1:01 am

Hi. I really need some advice. My ex and I were together off and on (mostly on) for nearly 5 years. He’s never told me he loved me. I moved an hour away from my family and friends to be with him, and I started school again. Well, we broke up a year into it and he immediately started dating another girl. I waited a few months before I started seeing someone myself. When he found out, he started making a effort to win me back. But once I came back, it only lasted 6 months before we broke up again and he was immediately with another girl. This one he told he loved, and they were only together 3 months. Then he started contacting me again, we got back together, fast forward a year, same thing happens. Another girl, he tells her he loves her. After they broke up, I had to go get some stuff I’d left at his house, he pressured me into having sex. A week later, he tells me he doesn’t love me, he never has and never will, and he hates me. THEN I found out I was pregnant. When I told him, we started the same thing all over again. Sadly, I miscarried at 10 weeks, but we stayed together and I moved back down to where he was. We were back together for almost two years. I honestly thought his time was different but apparently it’s not. We hardly ever fought, but as soon as a girl he thought was hot left her husband, he broke up with me to start seeing her. I lived with him, and he acted like nothing was going on with anyone else, that it was all my fault we were broken up. But he started staying out all night and lying about where he’d been. He was still trying to sleep with me during this time, but I refused. We’ve only been broken up 10 days. He’s only been seeing this girl for 10 days. He started telling her he loved her after 4 days. I moved out yesterday because she was pressuring him to come to the house. He won’t say anything about telling her he loves her. I honestly don’t know what to do. It hurts me that he’ll say that to other girls but has never said it to me. He has never cheated but he’s disloyal. Whereas I get sick thinking about holding another mans hand, he’s constantly looking for the next best thing. I feel like his back-burner girl and I’m conflicted about even wanting to be back with him. Should I even try to make him regret leaving me for someone else? Or should I just have a permanent NC rule? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
Ashley

September 4, 2014 at 11:24 pm

hi there!
Just posted the comment today. Was wondering if you could not publish that on your website. Thank you! I would still love your advice but shouldn’t have put it up on a public website. Thank you for understanding! <3 Your website and articles are amazing.

admin

September 5, 2014 at 12:34 pm

Where did you post it?

Ashley

September 4, 2014 at 10:22 pm

Hi!

My ex and I got together really fast, and it was very intense. He often brought up marriage and having children. However he was a former drug addict, and relapsed. He disappeared for about 2 months. I tried to stay strong for him and our relationship but broke up with him after finding out he cheated on me with several different girls. And even lived with/got together with one. Now he is sober again and has been randomly following/unfollowing & messaging me on social media. I even changed my number, and he still messaged me. I gave in and called him and confessed my love and now I’m not hearing from him again. Should I go into no contact? Or will it not even phase him?

Ashley

September 6, 2014 at 12:56 am

This was the post I wanted removed but if I could still get some advice that’d be great :)) Thanks so much!!

Melanie

September 4, 2014 at 8:04 pm

My ex and I were in a long distance relationship for a long time. At the beginning of our relationship I was the problem as I had trust issues do to the way my exs friends partied and caused a lot of fights. He was for the most part a great boyfriend during these times. But his frustration of me picking fights made him want to break up eventually and he immediately made out with another girl. He felt guilty for this and tried to win me back. We got back to only be broken up weeks later because he could not handle the responsibility of winning me back again. During this time he was cold with me and treated me like I was nothing. I went NC for 2 weeks and he eventually contacted me once again trying to win me back. We tried to make it work but my trust issues got even worse deep down. But I worked on my previous issues and became much better in the ways he wanted. But ironically the more effort I put in the year, the less he did. I constantly felt unappreciated, and it was as if he hated being in love with me. This caused a lot of fights all the time because I wanted him to be the man I fell in love with but he was just different. So we kept fighting lots because of this and also because he didn’t want to treat me like a partner, he wasn’t ready to handle the responsibilities of a serious relationship especially long distance and with him in graduate school. I got mad at him for a lot of things because he was inconsiderate of my feelings all the time and blamed it on my “emotions.” He never valued what I felt or said. So after our last fight we broke up and he didn’t want to be with me despite my begging him. We stopped talking for a bit but I kept contacting him after a week and asking him to make things work. He finally agreed and because for the summer we were in the same city, we were trying to make it work.. Or so I thought. It was basically all me making an effort. He became much worse than he ever was and treated me like nothing again. He expected me to go along with whatever he wanted and for me to not complain. He would lie to me so he wouldn’t see me and hang out party with his friends. I finally had enough cause I found myself constantly begging to see him, crying to him to not treat me like crap, and to not be this guy that he’s trying to be. This of course would make him act even worse! So after he stood me up one night I finally had enough and texted him ending things. Ever since that night (almost 2 months ago) I’ve heard nothing from him. I haven’t contacted him either. He went back to his grad school city and from social media I can tell he’s doing just fine. I don’t know what to do because I miss the guy he used to be because I believe we used to be so amazing together. I don’t want to be the first to initiate contact because I feel like he did so much to hurt me in the end that he doesn’t deserve it. I’m not even sure, he might’ve even cheated on me during this period but I never knew about it. If it makes a difference he used to be very in love with me and even in the last couple of months he would say we should end things so that he could come back to me when he’s ready.
Sorry this was so long!

admin

September 5, 2014 at 12:27 pm

Have you attempted NC yet?
Melanie

September 5, 2014 at 5:31 pm

Yes for almost 2 months ! He hasn’t contacted me at all during this time and I haven’t either

Alexia

September 4, 2014 at 2:25 am

So long story short. I went on a cruise in July. I cheated on my boyfriend with some guy, but only made out with him. When I came home I didn’t tell him and just acted perfectly normal but I did break up with him because I still thought about the other guy. Obviously I told my close friends, who couldn’t keep their mouth shut (my mistake). He found out about this other guy and texted me saying, “don’t talk to me ever again”. I was fine the first week after the break up but i dont know, one day I just broke down and ever since then I just cant keep my ex off my mind. It’s bad, like I cry myself to sleep every night which sounds pathetic but I’m not going to lie here. So I eventually reached out to him and asked if we could talk, multiple times, which he’s agreed to. So we’ve met up in person and talked things over. In the beginning it wasnt going so well but after a few minutes of talking, we found ourselves smiling and laughing at just normal stuff. I was confused because after all that, he still said he doesnt want to get back together with me. I know he’s still hurt but he admits that he still misses and loves me but I;m just confused as to what this could mean. And I wouldn’t mind doing the “Do not talk” thing but I feel like if i dont communicate with him for a while, either he’ll think I’m done trying and I just dont care anymore or he’ll move on to someone else 🙁 Theres a whole lot more to the story but I don’t want this to be too long. I guess my question is, what can I possibly do from here to get him back??

admin

September 4, 2014 at 12:26 pm

Why cheat on your boyfriend though? You made a mistake. Have you read my guide on how to get him back if you cheated?
Alexia

September 4, 2014 at 4:57 pm

It was kind of in the moment. And as soon as I realized what I had done, I knew it was the biggest mistake of my life. Yes I’ve read all your posts but I’ve tried everything and nothing seems to be working. I literally cannot live without him. Please help

anonymous

September 2, 2014 at 12:18 am

Hi Chris,
Thank you in advance for responding. I’m trying to remain positive about all this! Here we go… I only dated the guy for three months and we broke up a few days ago…most of this was because I had not taken enough time off to recover from my last relationship and so I ended up hurting him by taking out some pent up stuff on him, that had nothing to even do with him. We’ve only talked briefly through messaging (not very in depth) since the break up, in which I affirmed to him that the main reason for our problems was that I came into the relationship unready and unhealed. He said he agreed with me and that it wasn’t that he didn’t care about me or disliked me. His messages were short, but the last thing he said was that he didn’t want me to feel like it was all my fault. I responded that it wasn’t about fault or blame, but just the dynamics, circumstances, and timing….No talking has happened since then (yesterday). He’s also very stubborn and I think he definitely feels victimized. I want to tell him how clearly I see things now, that I can see how my baggage became his, and show him how I can change my negative habits of jealousy, expectations, etc. Of course I know telling him that won’t do anything, but push him away further. Do you think I should enter the NC period for 21 days here on out? He tends to rush things a lot and I imagine his friends will try to hook him up with someone else. I’m really not sure what to do.

admin

September 2, 2014 at 1:55 pm

I absolutely think you should!
anonymous

September 2, 2014 at 3:22 pm

Thank you for the response! I’ve begun the NC period. I’ve even unfollowed him on facebook so I wouldn’t see his activity anymore because I saw that he’s already showing signs of interest/flirting with another girl. Ironically she looks a lot like me. She seems to be his type but it’s only been a few days since we ended it….what are the chances that it’s a rebound and should I even have hope? Thanks again!

Taylor

September 1, 2014 at 3:43 pm

So my boyfriend broke up with me a little over a week ago, but last Friday I found out I was gonna see him at a football game (him and I have the same friend group) I texted him to ask to be civil and he agreed and when I saw him at the game things were going well. During the game though I tried talking to him and he kept trying to get away from me so that night I drunkenly texted him saying I was sorry. Of course no text back. The next day i saw him again and ignored him for the most part but then there was a time
Where it was just him and I so I asked how school was going and he answered then that was it. Then we were getting our bikes and I was by myself and he ce and asked how school was for me and I almost started crying so I asked him to talk. I kinda begged for him
Back and he just kept saying no and I asked if there was a chance in the future and he pretty much said no. He told me
I was being really mature about the breakup and I asked for advice to
Get over this and he just said stoping thinking we’re gonna get back together and time will heal everything. Did I completely
Ruin my chance of him ever wanting me
Back? We dated for 2 and half years and up until the last month he told me how he wanted to marry me in the future. How do feelings change so fast? He’s gotta regret this right? What can I do to make him regret it? Please help
I’m so sad

admin

September 2, 2014 at 1:26 pm

Maybe the idea of marrying scared him… the idea of getting that serious about someone.
taylor

September 3, 2014 at 7:05 pm

he was the one who brought up the idea of marrying i never did. He was always the one who did i just agreed with him when he would say it. I was just telling you that because that’s how he was feeling about me and now he doesnt want anything to do with me and i did absolutely nothing wrong (he told me himself) do you think he will have feelings for me again when i “move on?”

Veronica

September 1, 2014 at 1:24 pm

I am a week into NC. I unfortunately have to contact him about shared bills that he has promised to finish paying. How do I go about that?

admin

September 2, 2014 at 1:21 pm

Just keep it strictly business, about the bills.

eve

August 26, 2014 at 10:04 pm

my story is way different then all of you I’m lesbian so i was dating my girlfriend for a whole year before she move 6 hours away from me before that everything was perfect for whole year maybe little fight but that all then we broke up for 2 months not tex no calling then i found her dad had cancer and i wrote her letter so after that she look for two weeks later but i was seeing someone at that time bigs retreat because it confuse my feels she does not know i start talking to her to see what can happen . so then i got in car crash she was kinda there but when day i was depress i told i need time after a week told i want back she said did not know her feels i was like what you been wanted back now your like no then weeks later i force to tell truth she talking some one i cannot say any but i wish more anything i can get her back every one make mistake i think i deserve an chance the same way i give one . i need edvice its been two weeks no talking it just hurt me her telling me the truth i force her
Christy Evans

August 25, 2014 at 6:49 pm

Where do I begin….I have been talking and texting to this guy who is 23 years younger than me whom I met on Facebook. He and I had a mutual friend. We connected on EVERY level and the chemistry was off the charts…But it ended so badly about a week and a half ago…I told him I wasnt sure about US and I was afraid of being hurt, etc. and BOOM! he blocks and unfriends me on Facebook AND Twitter. I said some very hurtful things after this…and today we had some texting war words again…now everytime I asked to talk to him AFTER he blocked me all he would say is: “I wish you the best lets move past this I am fortunate to have met you….” and today he told me “You are unreal” “after all the text messages etc and how you have treated me since you are not someone I care to be around,,,,I am sorry for you…we are not suitable at all…goodbye..” huh? This was a man totally enthralled with me and talking future (meeting my sons…moving to Atlanta from Memphis to be with me..talking about headhunters about positions here etc..) We connected on every level but I got scared and I hurt him with my words and then we started having text war words going back and forth…I think he is deeply wounded and hurt and I wonder if the NO CONTACT will work and change his mind? I just started the NO CONTACT about 3 hours ago. I left him a final goodbye in response to his text to me telling me we were not suitable…all this is coming from me wishy-washy rejection of him after we met and this man was treating me like a princess, he planned out dates etc. and I just could not believe he was totally deeply in like with me….By the way I am a beautiful intelligent woman and he was so drawn to me and pursued me for two months…the age difference is not the problem….we related so well mentally/physically/emotionally and we had many common interests…the conversation was effortless and there was a chemistry that was so strong it was like a vibration. But I have said so very hurtful words I guess I was trying to push him away….so I said goodbye on a classy note in a voicemail and I am wondering what are my chances of getting this man to change his mind?…..

admin

August 26, 2014 at 1:25 pm

Do you think the age difference got to him?
Christy Evans

August 28, 2014 at 3:04 am

No….that was never the issue I look more like his age(good genetics) we had a vibration unlike I had felt in a long time…This guy pursued me for two months…I dated other men but still talked to him on Facebook..he knew my age…he always said that was not an issue that it was only a number…This guy is deeply wounded because I kept saying I was unsure about my feelings and after we spent a couple of wonderful days together and he had to cut our trip short when his father took ill…he had to travel back to Illinois…Well, I got a princess attitude and pushed him away saying I didn’t feel a connection to him anymore…(NOT TRUE) He immediately texts me back and says OMG I am so disappointed and he didnt understand…I was very harsh and I pushed him away…I then saw he had blocked me on Facebook and Twitter and would not answer any texts….He is hurt hurt hurt…I know this…so we did not break up because there was no passion no attraction no emotional mental connection…we had it all! We had all the ingredients of a great passionate love!!! He is educated and sensitive and we had so much in common it frightened me…I know today he has been looking at my Facebook and his Aunt is still friends with me sooo I am doing the NO CONTACT which is hard for me because I love to engage and talk and PERSUADE….We had every ingredient for a great love and he talked about future stuff and I tell you I got scared….He said he did not like MY distrust of him… And since this is long distance relationship there is no way I will run into him…And in the beginning initially he was texting me and I just stopped answering him and he just did not give up…and then things just took off in July and it was purely magical…No the age is not an issue here..this man knows what he wants….but I got scared I pushed him away…I have dated men younger than him and I understand about this cougar thing but that is not it with him he is crazy for me but right now he is hurt…I can be very verbal and I hope my texts were not too mean for him to come back to me…..Once I sent that text after I knew he had blocked me (but he has not blocked me from his phone) he has been cold and kept saying move past this and keeps wishing me the best but then the last text on Monday was: I had treated him bad afterwords and he said I was not someone he cared to be around! What?!!??? This man was enthralled with me he was enchanted with me and in deep like and he said that he liked me way more than I could ever know…Everything was perfect until he had to go and be with his father and cut our trip short… so I know that I ruined everything and I am hoping that he will stop being stubborn and hurt and come around and miss me…He said I was everything he ever wanted in a woman and that I was the total package:) So I am doing this NO Contact thing which is so difficult for me and I know he was falling in love with me and I was also falling in love with him but I got scared and I told him this and he could not understand why I was reacting this way….This is what brought on this huge misunderstanding…..Not a true breakup just a huge misunderstanding….. Your thoughts…??? Thank you and your website is incredible….:)

Jessica

August 18, 2014 at 7:42 pm

Dear Chris,
My case is a little bit complicated.
But I know that I really want him back.
Short version: we were a beautiful young couple. He was 18 and I was 21. First year was awsome. But next two years I felt unhappy without attention, so… I cheating on him. We continue for the love we had. But 6 months later he cheating on me. And we broke up for 2 months.
Then on this year we decided that our love can safe anything and we tried for another 6 months. I thought we were happy, with problems like everybody but happy.
I was wrong. I don’t know in what moment he stopped loving me.
He said that he didn’t feel ok, so he left me.
I am mad and sad because i gave and he was giving all for this. And now it’s gone.
Last week I heard that he is very happy without me, enjoying his life. And yesterday said to me same thing. I think he is looking for fun. He told me once that this will be a long break. But we will be tigether at the end.
He was continuing call on me and texting me only for say hi nothing more. So i asked him to letting me go. Because this was very painful.
yesterday i talk to him again for tell him that i really miss him.
But now i will cut off any contact.
Please tell me your comments.
I want him back
I think we are meant to be.
Please help me.
What should i do?
Thank you
Best regards

admin

August 19, 2014 at 2:23 pm

Maybe he never got over you cheating (even though he cheated on you later…)
Jessica

August 19, 2014 at 4:54 pm

Yes maybe thats why.
I remember that i was his everything, everybody could noted that he was so in love. After my betrayal he changed 100% with me, with everybody.
So i want you to ask if you think that with your strategy he could consider get back together?
I try to figured out if he realy need time to be apart from me. Or if he dont care and he wants to meet new people.
Please do yoy have an extra advice?
We talked about future but im scared to lose him.
If you lived something like this, obviously being the guy.
What woud you think?
You can see a chance??
admin

August 25, 2014 at 11:18 am

Well, I think its all about trust at this point. I don’t think anyone takes to kindly to betrayal.
Jessica

August 18, 2014 at 7:55 pm

I know that this may sounds unhealthy.
But thats why I need your help.
Maybe he is not a bad person, maybe we are injured.
But i dont know i think there is something more.

JE

August 16, 2014 at 3:29 am

My ex broke up with me because of a family legal financial issue. He was/is afraid of losing his condo/pension all he worked for. The last three words he said to me were I love you. It did not end bad. Two days before he broke up he asked me to marry him. He begged to remain friends on facebook then a month later he unfriended me. We have been in the NC since and that was a month ago. I’ve been working out, dating, etc. I miss him; but am scared to text or contact him.

admin

August 18, 2014 at 12:45 pm

Well, if he asked you to marry him three days before you broke up did you say yes?
JE

August 18, 2014 at 3:04 pm

Yes, and I was willing to move to Texas where he would be transferred in a year and half. I’d be giving up a great career too.

shona

August 16, 2014 at 2:11 am

SO apparently after NC for almost 6 months, my ex told my friend to tell me that ‘he regrets losing me and that he just wants me to know’…

i’m not sure how to react to it… does he want me to contact him? or what? coz he said nothing to me directly…
what do you think? (need a guys perspective)

admin

August 18, 2014 at 12:39 pm

Wait a few days before you contact him and contact him very neutrally.

Maria

August 11, 2014 at 8:13 pm

Hi there,

I am at a loss. I broke things off with my boyfriend of 5 years about 3 months ago because I felt some distance from him. I confronted him about it and he told me nothing was wrong but I couldn’t stop feeling something was off. After a few weeks of confronting him with what I was feeling he did tell me that we were broken and that he wanted us to try to fix whatever was broken. Needless to say, it just didn’t work out that way, one morning I just couldn’t take that weird feeling anymore and told him I couldn’t do it anymore. We lived together, so as I was telling him that I couldn’t help but feel something was not right and he wasn’t telling me what was happening and that I just couldn’t go on like this anymore he just held his hands on his head and stayed quiet the entire time. He did not say a word he just looked to the wall with his hands on his head until I just stopped talking and walked away. That day he moved to his parents and I stayed at the apartment we shared until two months ago when I moved out on my own. To make matters worse, we work together and I have to talk to him everyday by phone and sometimes when he comes in to the office. We do not talk or text after I leave the office and never on weekends. Right after our breakup I tried to get back and told him I still loved him and wanted to work things out but he told me he just wants time to tell and if we are supposed to be together again that it will happen naturally. I don’t know what to do. I miss him terribly and sometimes I think he let me go too easily. Do you think I should just move on? I don’t even know if he loves me still, if it is just pride or he really is just over me.

admin

August 12, 2014 at 12:00 pm

Do you think there was someone else?

There is something hes definitely not telling you.

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