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Sarahll
January 16, 2014 at 6:28 am
OMG!!! Chris I just want to say that you and your articles are AWESOME!!! He skype messages and phone messages me today telling me that he is sorry and he misses me! And I didn’t reply. And he asked me :” you don’t want to talk anymore? ”
Now what do I do? I did NC for 8 days and he called I answered and I started second NC right after, and today is another 8 days. Should I keep ignoring him? But I m afraid too much is gonna back fire on me or he is gonna lose interest and move on. Need help next step help Chris!!!
Ps. He moved to another place right after we broke up so I don’t know if keep doing NC apply in this situation .
admin
January 16, 2014 at 6:07 pm
Well thank you!
Yes I think ignore him for a little while longer.
Stephanie
January 16, 2014 at 4:55 am
Hi Chris,
I have a bit of a conundrum with an ex boyfriend. We broke up a year and a half ago, it was a short relationship, which ended in him ignoring me. He broke up with me, refused to give me valid reason other than a cliche, and went as far to block me from facebook.
Also, I was not a gnat, I didn’t even try to interact with him post break up. Shocking!
This past summer we started talking again, we now live in different states, however I realized that I missed him. I told him I had feelings, he didn’t, I just wanted to alleviate any doubts. So I decided to move on again. He wanted to stay friends, I said no.
However, for the past 6 months since I rejected being friends with him he refuses to accept it. Now it is leaving a really bad aftertaste for me. Funny enough. I really don’t understand why he is behaving this way. Even when I read this, it seems like very contradictory behavior.
admin
January 16, 2014 at 6:02 pm
Wow conundrum!
Big word!
Hahaha remember the guy always wants to chase… you gave him one.
Leahq
January 16, 2014 at 3:10 am
Hi Chris,
I am on day 26 of NC. Initially it seemed impossible, but now that it’s nearing it’s end, I am just so nervous. He never contacted me during this time. Not once. He is stubborn, but I feel like it’s more because he’s just moved on and happy not to hear from me.
I DO want to reach out, I just am so scared he won’t respond. I know you sometimes recommend more than 30 days NC…any reasons why?
admin
January 16, 2014 at 5:58 pm
30 days usually is enough.. 45 days if you really think its required.
anonymous
January 15, 2014 at 3:26 pm
Hi Chris,
I love this post and it really helped me consider a different approach when dealing with my ex. After purchasing you ebook and doing what you recommend I sent my first text to ex after 30 days NC. He replied immediately and we had a long conversation (I know I was supposed to end it quickly, but I wasn’t expecting such positive results and got swept away). We talked that whole day. He even sent me a text saying, “I am sorry for the way things turned out. I know I hurt and I wish I hadn’t just so you know.” I played it cool the whole time, not wanting to seem over eager and desperate. He also let me know that I didn’t do anything wrong, double texted me once, brought up an old memory of us and said how he missed it, but then he tried to get sexual with me. I should have ended the conversation there, but I played along a little, although again I made sure I didn’t seem over eager or desperate. I thought these were all really positive signs. He ended up ending the conversation by saying, “I am going to bed goodnight, was nice to talk again.” The next day I heard nothing from him so I decided to try another text the day after that. I response but this time they were much colder and spaced out. I felt so confused and discouraged. Then two days after that I got a text from him first asking me a simple question. He tried to continue the conversation with me but again he was very cold, so I ended it by not responding to a message that just said “thanks.” I ended sending him another simple text two days later, again the responses were short and distant and it ended with him not answering my last text at all :/ I am very confused now and not sure where to take it from here. I feel a bit fooled by him and that I should have approached the first time I talked to him different, I just got carried away. We go to the same university so I am bound to see him on campus sometime this week. What do you recommend doing? Should I wait until I see him to see if he texts me and then send a text if he doesn’t? Please any suggestions or advice would be helpful! Thank you so much.
anonymous
January 15, 2014 at 4:10 pm
P.S. I really don’t want to give up on him. We always had such an amazing understanding of one another, I just wish he truly missed me like I miss him
Mari
January 15, 2014 at 5:41 am
Hi there Chris,
I urgently need your advise!,I dated this guy about 3 years ago he was crazy about me at the beginning but not me until after I got to spend more time with him I fell in love with him but then he left just as I realized I was feeling that way with him. I started doing all the wrong things like calling him begging him ugh! all those things that now I know were wrong anyhow for the past 3 years we have seen each other on and off, last year he finally came to his senses and wanted to date me but then again I went back to being needy and he left months went by he changed his number I was able to get It texted him and he was surprised yet mad basically we saw each other but he said he was sorry for not feeling the same for me and that we can be friends, I started again texting him a lot and basically he hasn’t answered my texts in months. I have stopped texting him or calling him for a month now please advise me and how to initiate contact again and how to have him open up to me again. thanks & appreciate all the advise you provide on this site! 🙂
admin
January 15, 2014 at 7:25 pm
Well, have you done any NC yet?
Mari
January 17, 2014 at 3:53 am
My last text was around late December, I haven’t texted him since. How long you think I should wait to make contact again?
Thanks again Chris! just liked your new Fb page Im letting all my friends know about your page Its great! =)
Mari
January 22, 2014 at 11:12 pm
Hey Chris waiting for your response I really wanna know your advice for me.
admin
January 24, 2014 at 4:46 am
Hi there,
Sorry if I missed your comment. What’s up. How can I help?
Mari
January 25, 2014 at 10:22 pm
thanks! Its been about now a month since last time I texted this guy I have seen back and forth. so from what I wrote to you before he got mad cause I kind of did something that he got mad at me for Its been almost a month now since I haven’t texted him. I want to contact him through text but cant quiet put my finger on what should I start my first text with.
appreciate your help Chris! 🙂
Michelle
January 15, 2014 at 1:25 am
Chris!
I’m not the type of girl to post on these things, but after reading your site for nearly a month, you are the only guy I can think of to ask….
I dated a guy for FOUR years. Now we aren’t young loves (31 and 34). Long story short a little over a month ago (what a jerk, right? Holidays?!), we had a TERRIBLE break up. One week later he is already dating this girl. NYE he is claiming to “give it a shot” with her and “see where it goes”.
I of course did everything wrong: text gnat, emailed. I even wrote a long nasty message accusing him of cheating, since he was so quick to “move on” with her. He basically called me crazy, and blocked me on facebook. Two weeks ago he changes his “relationship status”.
TODAY he unblocks me… Now my question is… WHY?! If he really wants to move on, and be rid of me so bad, why unblock? Now Chris, you know unblocking is no accident; it’s more than a few clicks. Why two weeks into his new, fun, exciting, grass is greener relationship, is he concerned with facebook?
Now keep in mind, both of our profiles are private. So if he is trying to “creep” on me, he sees nothing but a profile pic. Same goes for him; if he’s trying to rub stuff in my face, I can’t see it anyhow.
Please, an intelligent man’s perspective is appreciated.
admin
January 15, 2014 at 6:50 pm
Hahaha I remember when I wrote this site I thought to myself.
“I want to write something so good that it makes people who never comment, comment.”
He is probably thinking about you a lot so he unblocked you.
Michelle
January 15, 2014 at 8:09 pm
So is he maybe hoping I message him? Cause if so, he’s got another thing coming!
Chris, with this type of behavior ALREADY in his new relationship, do you think he’ll fit the classic 90% fail rate with his rebound (see, told ya I’ve been reading all your articles… AND the guide)?
admin
January 16, 2014 at 5:37 pm
Wow 90% fail rate hahaha you are reading.
Hmm… I think theres a good chance!
Ann
January 14, 2014 at 7:01 pm
Hey. Love your advice! My ex & I met at the gym. We are in classes together. He broke up with me. I have done the NC for a month. We say ‘Hi’ to each other at class & our group still hangs out and we have sat together in a group. He is always very nice & the awkward stage is gone. But he is always making eye contact with me… I guess I am too since I see him looking at me! He has said some things that I would only know about in our group & looks at me while saying it. I can see where we could just be friends too. What would you suggest to see if he is interested in dating me again?
Is a casual touch a good way to test? Just like walking around a piece of equipment at the gym & touch his arm?
Have a great day!!
admin
January 15, 2014 at 6:41 pm
I would just try to make him interesting in dating you again.
Yes a casual touch is a good test.
candice
January 14, 2014 at 6:06 pm
alright, desperate times call for desperate measures, here’s my situation. my ex and i dated for a year, broke up 2 months ago. he broke up with me. I was v good about nc (hadnt come across your website yet at that point, so when he would initiate contact, i would respond, but we never spoke about our relationship.. we ran into each other a handful of times and were friendly but again never acknowledged the relationship or break up). Around Christmas he ” drunkenly” (supposedly) confessed how much he misses me. Again the following day. Again on New years. and again the day after new years was texting me. we decided to meet up the next day. he came to my apt..we caught up, it was all good, he ended up spending the night. we spent most of the next day together as well and he asked if he could see me again for a real date during the day and I said it was up to him. he texted me the next three days, all good. then the third night, I was in between apartments and had no place to stay. he offered me to stay with him. I knew it was a bad idea but had been drinking and of course wanted to go over there so I did, but I ended up getting really weird about it, being super bitchy because I got self conscious and jealous and felt so stupid for being there so I told him I didnt want to be there and I got really standoffish towards him then and in the morning. he was great about it and really understanding but I apologized cause I felt badly. I ran into him later the next day and he acted super weird so I texted him saying thanks again for a place to stay, and sorry for being weird I didn’t mean to be dramatic. he replied saying it’s all good and was nice to cuddle. Haven’t heard from him since. it’s been a week. I’m so mad because I had him in the perfect position two months after the break up and it was all going my way, until I went over to his place and acted so crazy. obviously it was just too soon for something like that, but now I feel ive ruined my 2 mos of hard work and now he’ll never want me again. do you think another 30 days nc will work? or do you think he’s giving up on me at this point? a week and a half ago he really acted like he wanted me back but I know I acted dramatic and turned him off again, but he’s so forgiving normally, I would be surprised if that turns him off forever. I’m thinking of dedicating 30 more days to this effort, working on myself and moving on like you say here, and then if nothing happens I’m assuming it won’t ever… I don’t really have time to waste because he is moving in 4 -7 months for a job. it’s kind of our last chance to rekindle things. I reallly am just curious from a guys perspective if you think he is or could ever be still interested, if I shuold do 30 days nc or how many days, and if I should reply to him if he reaches out to me finally within those days. thanks soooo much, your website has gotten me through a lot these last few weeks!
admin
January 15, 2014 at 6:38 am
I think you should do the 30 days!
candice
January 23, 2014 at 7:23 pm
can you please delete my comment? its v personal and I thought id be able to take it down myself! thanks!
admin
January 24, 2014 at 5:22 am
Where is it? I want to delete it but I can’t find it?
candice
January 16, 2014 at 7:38 am
thank you so much for your response. would you mind taking my comment down now?? Id prefer it not be left up if its no difference to you!
candice
January 17, 2014 at 7:31 am
please?
Jenny
January 14, 2014 at 1:34 pm
My ex and I have been chatting every so often since October. We saw each other for 3 days, the week before last because I was visiting his town. However I feel when I chat with him he seems uninterested and treats me like a friend. He’s only initiated a convo a handful of times. He doesn’t have texting on his phone so I’ve been using an instant messenger to talk with him. I don’t think he would notice if I’m available/not available to chat since he rarely initiates convos and isn’t by his computer all the time. How would I gain his interest? Do I keep initiating convos?
L
January 14, 2014 at 4:55 am
OMG I had to come on here and post this. This isn’t even really a question and I guess I could have just e-mailed this to you but oh well hahaha.
I thought everything between my ex and I was over for good. When I say I did everything wrong, I mean it. I texted him long messages so many times that went unanswered, I called him in the middle of the night, I showed up to his house, I cried, I got angry, I betrayed his trust, I was clingy, desperate, jealous. The only thing I didn’t do was cheat on him, but other than that I basically screwed myself over to the point where I believed we would never make up and get back together.
He said that he wanted nothing to do with me and that he never wanted to be with me again, and that once he makes up his mind that’s it. I did convince him to start talking to me again but it was always me reaching out to him first, and all of his texts were one-worded answers. He said that we were cool, but I didn’t believe it. Things just seemed so awful and hopeless.
BUT then earlier this evening, I was with one of our mutual friends. Out of nowhere, he sends her a text asking if he should ask me out on a date, and then tells her he thinks he knows what he wants. He then calls her and she puts him on speaker phone, him not knowing that I’m right there listening. He says “I want someone who cares about me and loves me for who I am. No one has ever cared about me the way she has. I’ve been thinking a lot about us being separated and the arguments and it’s just not worth it. I want to give it another chance but I’m afraid she won’t take me back, I should have been better to her and I’m worried I don’t have a chance now.”
OH. MY. GOD.
He doesn’t think he has a chance with ME!? The over emotional ex girlfriend who only tells him she loves him way too much and tries too hard to make up with him!? Here I’ve been thinking he’s really not interested at all and that we’ll never be together again, and then I hear him say that he’s probably gonna ask me out on a date sometime later this week and that he wants to give things another chance.
Naturally my brain is going “Don’t get your hopes up, it’s a trap!” but ughhhh I am so happy right now you don’t even know. I actually started crying I couldn’t believe it lol. I’ve been reading your site for months and I’ve been so jealous of the success stories and to now think I might be one of them, nothing matches the way I feel right now. I really don’t know what’s going to happen but I’m hoping for the best!
admin
January 14, 2014 at 5:54 pm
Hahahahahahahhaa good for you!
I can tell you are excited.
Lola
January 15, 2014 at 2:59 am
L, THANKS for sharing your story with us. It is really inspiring, and give the rest of us a hope that sometimes the saying ‘the moment you’re ready to quite is usually the moment right before the miracle happens…’ So we should not give up!:) Please keep us posed!!! And Chris, THANK YOU for the Platform!! Much Love!
anonymous
January 13, 2014 at 8:12 pm
This is my favorite post yet good work (:
admin
January 14, 2014 at 5:31 pm
Really?
anonymous
January 15, 2014 at 3:15 pm
absolutely!
Brittany Williams
January 13, 2014 at 4:04 pm
Hey chris its me again:/ i really need your advice i been doing nc for 3 days now… he texted me twice yesterdaybut nothing to hopeful the second text he said “yo if my son need anything let me know stop being so selfish” then i wake up to a text saying “you going to ignore me, your not going to have a car if you keep ignoring me” i dont know what i should do ? Theirs a long story behind this but the day we broke up i actually signed my honda civic over to his friend and he was originally going to fix his accord this week and give it to me… now look what hes saying he is the stubborn type..please help thank you 🙂
Kim
January 13, 2014 at 6:00 am
Hi, okay so I have a messed up situation. Or at least I think it’s messed up! I have a daughter with this guyI left him. Then while I wasn’t with him I swear I met the guy I truly believed I was going to spend the rest of my life with. He was amazing, I never knew I could be that happy, with ANYONE!! He made me feel like I could fly. Our relationship was so easy, it didn’t feel like either of us had to really try. No matter what he always put a smile on my face, just as I did with him. I still love him, as does he love me. He knows this, he broke up with me after being together 2 months because he was trying to start a company and didn’t feel it was fair he wouldn’t be able to spend as much if not at all any time with me and my daughter. I was devestated,I lost myself. My daughters father moved in and tried to, get me to believe he had changed, which he hasn’t! I was between a rock and a hard place I was trying to live with a guy friend of mine and that didn’t work out, because He wanted more, so I ended up moving back in with my daughters father. I didn’t realize how wrong I could be, I feel like an idiot! I did the no contact rule with my ex, I got so excited when he sent me his first text in a month, I didn’t respond, so he called me instead, 2 days later!! I was In the shower so I decided I would call him. He never answered, but it was exhilarating! He called me again, he said he made a huge mistake ever letting me go, he was wrong and he regretted it. He missed me and my daughter. He was sorry, I was still hurting inside. And I didn’t want to get hurt again so after 2 days of phone calls I felt like I put myself under a shell. I didn’t know what to say. My girl-friend told me I shouldn’t be messing around with him when I was with my daughters father. I started feeling bad about it, so much in fact that I asked her what I should say? And she said it was up to me, she made me feel guilty. So I sent him a text saying that I know my daughters father has hurt me in the past and been unfaithful, but that no matter who I was with I needed to remain faithful to that person, no matter who the person I was in the relationship with, they deserve respect, I’ve never been unfaithful! So we could talk, but not the way that we were. Prior, I sent it And he hasn’t said really 2 words to me since… I know I made the wrong decision. I didn’t make the decision my heart told me to, I listened to what my friend said. After my girlfriend saw first hand what was going on with my daughters father, she even told me I shouldn’t have listened to her…. I realize that if I had continued talking to him it would have escalated and I would be in trouble if my daughters father found out. I also felt that I was scared because he meant so much to me and my daughter that if I took him back and he broke-up with me I would just “die” inside. The relationship I shared with my ex is a relationship I had always dreamed about since I was a little girl. He wasn’t perfect, but he was perfect for me. I may have messed my chance with him again. I hope not. But if you have advice on what I can do to fix this and better my situation, I’d be willing to try anything!!! Just so you know I am going to be moving out on my own. Very soon, I wish it could come sooner than later. But that’s not the case. I have every intention of moving on.
admin
January 13, 2014 at 6:24 pm
So, you want to move on?
Or would you like some advice?
Kim
January 14, 2014 at 5:41 am
I have every intention of moving on from my daughters father and pursuing my ex… How can I get him interested again? Do you think I blew it? I don’t personally think I did. But I wonder what you as an outsider looking in has to say. Advice please!! Thanks so much!!
Chrissie
January 13, 2014 at 4:18 am
Hi Chris,
I hope you can help!
So I was in a relationship for 18 months but he had serious trust issues because of past relationships and his insecurities caused several break ups. I finally had the last straw 3 months ago before I went to University and while I was there he was making all the contact, texting and calling me now and again.
I’ve moved back home now and found out just over a week ago that he’s started seeing an old friend of mine, but after me and him had a heart to heart he ended things with her saying he wanted to be with me. We hung out a couple of times and it was this whole new relationship feeling but then out of the blue he ignores me for 3 days before texting me to say he’s decided to give things another go. with this other girl..
I know any normal person would accept it and move on but I can’t get him out of my head, I’m not entirely sure whether or not it’s just a “wanting what I can’t have” scenario but I’m tempted to try your program, see if he was just messing me around or if he seriously was wanting me back but just felt bad for this other girl?
I’d really appreciate your opinion because I am really stumped 🙁
admin
January 13, 2014 at 6:23 pm
Do you think this is a want what you can’t have?
I am seriously asking you b/c that isn’t the best for you in the long run.
Kim
January 15, 2014 at 6:34 am
Hey Chrissie,
I read your post, and I’ve seriously, been in this position! Not worth the time and effort to “find out”. If he put this other girl first, then he put you on the back burner. That’s disrespectful! Not right of him at all! I’m sorry, you deserve better! Sounds like he’s leading you on in case it doesn’t work with this other girl (Not saying that it’s true, but that’s what usually is the case it seems) But it seems to me if he really did care about you, then he would show you and would come to you. Taking the time to try and “find out” what his motives are, just causes a lot of unecessary heart ache and time wasted, that could be better spent on finding someone that really appreciates you for who you are!!
Rose
January 13, 2014 at 1:16 am
Hi! I’m an avid reader of your page and I learn a lot from you. I just need some light regarding a long time question on my mind. I had a 1 year realationship with this guy until his family went to another country. He said we’d hold on, but after six months of being separated, things went crazy and we parted ways. I’ve already done the 30 day NC. I was the first to contact him though. Things werent pretty much the same of course. But we went on communicating thru this app called Whatsapp, that has a time stamp in it. So we know when was the last time he or I got to see my last log in to our chat. Before, he would see it every now and then. (I was doing the ungettable girl mode, by the way). But now, he was the one doing that, like he would answer my messages after 8-10 hrs! And that’s driving me crazy! What do I do now that he seems to e doing the ungettable man?? Is he less attracted to me? He told me he’d always love me just this new year. And he is always asking if there are guys hitting on me. Please advice me on this.
admin
January 13, 2014 at 6:20 pm
The ungettable man hahahaha.
I think you need to spread out your text messages even more. Try to get him to respond more frequently and sooner.
Emily
January 12, 2014 at 5:12 pm
Sigh hey Chris. I almost lost my cool today. So I see my ex really regularly now and I be as classy as I can (following your advice). We are getting closer and infact tonight he was telling me about his plans and what he’s been upto. I should take this as a positive sign?
Anyway in the process he tells me he’s hanging out with our mutual friend whose close to me as well. I know that there isn’t anything romantic going on. Then he tells me about how great her `assets` are and it threw me off completely. I didn’t say anything or snap I just said alright. And he goes all anyway it’s late I’m off now and he leaves and I’m burning with anger.
Frankly I guess it’s because if it was me out of respect for us I wouldn’t ever talk about that kind of stuff with him so I guess I expected the same.
Is he trying to make me jealous or treating me like a casual friend?
Miss Anonymous
January 12, 2014 at 2:44 pm
Hi Chris! I love reading your articles..I been in no contact with my ex boyfriend for 45 days now because I feel like im not ready to talk to him yet. We been broken up for two months now.We lived together and dated for 4 years.Before I did the no contact he was playing games telling me we will talk when he feels like talking,wanting to know what I was up to and even kissing me on the lips when he came to pick up some of his belongings at my place. SO CONFUSING!After that I went into no contact and its been about 45 days its that too long? I feel like he doesn’t care about me anymore.He hasnt called me during the nc. Do you think I have any chance to get him back.
admin
January 12, 2014 at 6:26 pm
It is a bit on the long side but I think it will be ok.
You do know you can initiate contact right?
Miss Anonymous
January 12, 2014 at 4:45 pm
P.S..He broke up with me because he said he wasnt happy anymore.
Bella
January 12, 2014 at 10:35 am
Hi there!
Here’s my story and I am wondering about NC in my case..
We dated for 5 years and we’ve been broken up for 5 years. He broke it off because he went off to grad school in another state. He said he would find me when he was done. I did 4 months NC initially, I dated others and he continued to call me throughout the years…about every 4-6 months or so and we talked for 3 hours at a time until I would say I had to go. He called me, I never called him. I never understood why he would call, I still don’t. While he was away, he invited me to come out and visit him, but I got nervous and said no. I don’t think I was ready to see him, I was his first love and he was mine. So as of 3 months ago we’ve been in the same state again and I joined this program(Text your Ex back by Michael Fiore, where I found this link I’m on now, being used by the users in the program and recommending it to other users) a bit before to see if it could help rekindle something. I did do NC again before starting the program, but not sure if did anything at this point because the break up has been so long..? So far, it’s been a slow process maybe because we’re not used to being around each other anymore. He invited me out for his b-day and it was just him and I. I hadn’t seen him in person in years and everything was still there. He was a gentlemen and held my hand, was protective of me, kissed my forehead, kissed me, it felt like we were together again. Then we slept together, I know I should have waited. I got the speeches from of all of you already so no more please :). That night he showed me a blanket I had given him, it was my last gift to him when we broke up and he left to go to school. He said he’s taken that blanket with him everywhere he’s moved and that it is the only blanket he uses. I gave that blanket to him 6 years ago. Anyway, after that he’s continued to initiate. I don’t know if the feelings are just intense and he wants to take things slow, or if he just doesn’t feel it anymore. Regardless, since we’ve been in the same state again, this is the most we’ve talked to each other in years. I am seeing this other guy who really likes me, that I think might actually be kind of special for me…but I also wanted to see where things would go with P now that we are in the same state again.
I think I’m here also to find out why he’s called me all these years…
My question is, should I redo a 30 NC with him since it’s been so long since the break up, or do I follow a different approach?
Recent contact HISTORY shortened:
Oct 23: He initiates. I was busy preparing for a show I reply 2 days later
October 25th: I reply to his previous text,
Later on that night: He Initiates Friday at 1:30 am
October 27th Sunday afternoon I reply and we engage in conversation.
Nov 4: I initiate- no response
Nov8: He initiates Friday night at 9pm ( I reply 2 days later, it was a friday night!) a picture of his car
Nov10: I reply to his text Sunday afternoon, a flirtatious conversation
Nov 19th: I initiate flirty attraction text-no response, but he calls two days later. First time he called since I started the program. Well..2nd time.
Nov 20th: He Initiates with a call, we talk for 5 mintues. Then He initiates texts after his call and makes sure I get home safely to my family and to let him know if I need anything. I was driving cross country and it was late while I was driving. He kept tabs on me the entire day drive into the next day. It was really sweet.
Nov 28th: Thanksgiving He initiates we talk. He wanted to make sure I got to my family safe.
Dec 1th: He initiates: we have a conversation.
Dec 8th I Initiate I sent a stupid Confusing text.
Dec 18th: I initiated he replied and started conversation.
Dec 20th: I initiated good news to him and friends, no response but he brings it up on New Years.
Jan 1rst: He initiates A HAPPY NEW YEARS text then he starts conversation with me
Jan 6th: I initiate ATB No response.
Me: I sent a picture of a white horse and carriage while giving the horse a gentle kiss. Text read: “Greetings from Times Square! ☺”
Jan 10th: I initiate ATB No response.
Me: Unpacked some things early this morning. Found that metal lime squeezer you bought for me when I lived in north hollywood. Still one of my favorite gifts. Let me know if you ever need to use it, I just might let you borrow it 🙂
Jan 11th: I invite him out 11pm in NYC. Says he too f*k already to come out. I laugh it off and say have fun
The recent activity with the past three dates above was advised by a friend. I would have rather waited for a proper spacing time. I don’t plan on sending him anything more until he initiates next…
admin
January 12, 2014 at 6:25 pm
Man, I see a lot of chasing on your part… why do you think that is?
Bella
January 13, 2014 at 2:38 am
I’ll stop. This program I was suggested to, said I should try sending these specific type of texts that are supposed to stimulate the memories of the relationship and the connection. So I’ve been sending them. I never felt comfortable with sending them, but I can say that since I started that program we’ve been talking more than usual. I usually don’t chase and don’t feel comfortable doing it. If that is what it boils down to, I’m stopping them.
Thanks for the thoughts.
Michelle
January 12, 2014 at 10:32 am
I pressed send I think
Anyway he is up and down and puts pics of him and ex on his what’s app for a reaction then the other night he was out drunk and said he was with girls but wanted me, I ignored
I sent him a letter the next day asking him to not contact me and explained why I may have done the things I did. I told him to move on and be happy unless he could draw a line under everything, but wouldn’t hold my breath! He sent a messages saying it made him sad wished me luck in my path to happiness and sorry he wasn’t enough!!!
NC now… How do I get him back
Michelle
January 12, 2014 at 10:26 am
My situation is very complex, I made some mistakes in my relationship which he refers to as cheating but I never slept with anyone, I kept things from him because I didn’t wan him to feel insecure or jealous. He says he will never be with me again yet one day he texts and says how desperately miserable he is and how could I have done all these things, he likes to make me feel guilty and puts all blame on me but he played a part in it too.. He has called me terrible names and text abuse through hurt and anger, he has a terrible temper, then he will text and say he misses my smell li