5 Powerful Methods To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Regret Losing You

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Brianna

November 27, 2017 at 7:37 pm

My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 4 years. We also have had a child together. About a couple times before I had the child, he sometimes took breaks, not of his own volition, but he had to. Well, during those breaks…. he cheated. And this last break when he cheated was about two years ago. He was getting high all the time, and he went back to every single one of his exes and had sex, but one ex. Her name was (let’s call her) Emmy. Well he spent the night with her when he was high, and they had been making out. He told me that there was a chance to have sex with her, but told her that he didn’t want to do anything they would regret. Well I guess things didn’t work out too well for them, because she accused him of slashing her tires. He always led me to believe that he didn’t do it, so I have believed him, but you never know. This ex of his…he was also talking to in the beginning of our relationship, I guess, to rekindle the relationship, but I got into the picture. So from then on, it was me and him. Also, throughout all of this, even when my ex spent the night, this girl would tell him that she had feelings for someone else, and that she probably always would. The guy was named David. So honestly, she was always setting herself up because she was infatuated with another guy. My ex boyfriend is DACA, the Dreamers Act that Obama created for the kids brought here by their parents from Mexico. I bring that up, because DACA was sort of mine and my ex’s downfall. He reapplied to DACA too late, so he would be able to stay here. Well for three to four months, it was the most horrible time. He didn’t have a job anymore, because his job was waiting for him to be approved for DACA from the government. He was just watching Avery, and was depressed. Bills were soaring. We were depending on me for all of the money, and thankfully, we were living with my grandmother at the time for help. I was paying his car bill, paying for food, and all of it just from $10.25 an hour salary. And then, shit got worse. I hit the back of his car into my grandmother’s house, and it messed up the back bumper, and his taillight. My grandmother’s husband kicked me out, so then we really had no place to go, but him back to his father, and me and our child back to my parents. The deductible was 1000 dollars. So that made him stress more. ( I have told him that I will pay for it, because it was a problem I created and if he pays for it, I can pay him back everything.) About that time was when shit hit the fan. He started saying he didn’t want to be in our daughter’s life anymore, because he doesn’t think he and I could financially support her. He says that maybe adoption is the best route for her life. Keep in mind, she is already two. She call me mommy and him daddy. Him and I were looking forward to getting an apartment together. We always talked about getting married, and having more children. Because, he does have a good job, a really good one. So we would be able to afford things with both of our incomes. But…. him not having a job from DACA just pulled him down. When he started saying that he didn’t want our child anymore, he started making me think that he didn’t love me anymore. He just changed. I kept thinking that it was only temporary and that he just trying to isolate himself, because he just didn’t want the stress of our daughter and me looming over his head if he gets deported, or if something worse happens. Well I went to see him once we “broke up”, and he was willing to talk. We hugged and I had a glimmer of hope that things would work out, between him and our daughter. Because, if it couldn’t work out with me and him, I just wanted him to be a part-time parent than none at all. Then, I went to see him again. This time, he wasn’t home, and I spoke to his dad. His dad explained that my ex didn’t want to talk about anything. My ex’s name is Randy. Randy has made it clear that he wants to succeed, and he doesn’t think our daughter would be able to help him succeed. He wants everything to be easy, when it’s not. There will always be bills, stress, problems, financial difficulties, because nothing is ever perfect. We’ve always had big goals, and knew we were going to achieve them. He dances, draws, and likes to stream on youtube. He was just a go-getter, as was I. But when I went to go talk to his dad…. I actually went into his room. I shouldn’t have. I deeply regret it, but if I didn’t, I wouldn’t have known anything. He was always keeping his feelings and thoughts to himself. Well I found my journals that I had given to him. I actually opened them and found him talking about the girl Emmy. I broke. I just couldn’t take it. He had wrote in there that he was wondering if Emmy would ever take him back. I also found two drawings of her inside his art collections. So while all of this was happening, he was thinking about this girl who has not thought about him at all, and has told him to move on with me and his daughter (un-needed story). When he got to his place, he found me. I was angry, but was calm. He just looked at me, and went on to say, “The only reason I was with you was because I didn’t want to be alone.” Once again, he destroyed me and I broke. I actually told him that he was obsessed with her, and he will never be happy if he never moves on from her. At that point, I had already known that I was the best he had ever had. I did. I was always there to wipe his tears, hug him when things weren’t going right, giving love and appreciation, and giving him well good sex, which was also going a little scarce, because he was depressed. And when we did, he didn’t last long. And when he would ask for oral, I wasn’t up to it. We both were just stuck. But… I knew that things were going to get better, and that’s what I was holding myself on. I was waiting for his DACA approval. I was positive. And I really tried to keep him positive. Back to the apartment when he said he just didn’t want to be alone, I realized that nothing I could say would make it better, but worse. I realized to walk out his door was a solution that we both needed. I realized it would take time for him to see that this girl he pines after every time that stuff get tough, she would never, ever have done the things I did for him. Ever. I stuck by his side through thick and thin, and he knows, but just wanted to push me away. When I walked out that door, we didn’t text for two days. And then one night, I found a message on facebook from him, telling me what had been going through his head this whole time. He claimed he didn’t want to hurt me, but knew that I deserved the truth. Well we talked and I actually got drunk, and told him how I’ve been improving by exercising and losing some pounds, which is true( when I moved, I had already started exercising, but didn’t let him know), and I am going back to school (college), and have a job already that I moved to my parents. I’m letting him know that I am improving. I told him to message Emmy as well. I told him he needed closure, because maybe that’s why he has never moved on from her. He could never fully accept his feelings that he genuinely loved me, until this girl had finally given him the reason why she had broken things off with him, time after time. He messaged her, and just told me that he fucked up. And that was it. I realized that I was still his friend, because he had no friends. I told him time and time again to speak to other people for advice, but I still don’t think he has, which is probably why he is talking to me still. I want to do the 30 day no contact rule, but then again, I have a child with him that I know he loves, and will want to see again, but I just don’t know if it will help all three of us. Maybe it would, and I’m just too scared, because then it will feel like everything actually happened. Well today, he wanted me to help him with some errands, and I accepted, knowing he has no one else at the time to help. He has asked me to go eat, but I never really gave it a chance. I would rather help him with important things than just sit there with no purpose of even being with him. I just want him to realize that I appreciate him, and love every single one of his flaws, that another ex couldn’t stand. I loved him for him. I guess I was on here to vent, but at the same time, want to ask will this 30 day rule probably help in mine and his situation? I did talk to him about TedTalk relationship advice and what not, and he has asked if it would help me and him. So there is still a chance. I just want to know the right path to take with him to realize that I was worth it, and Emmy will never be. I’m already being proactive fortunately, and his DACA approval came a couple days ago, so honestly maybe time is all me and him need to get out shit together.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 28, 2017 at 3:58 pm

Hi Brianna,

You don’t live together right? Yes, nc rule can help..

Gina F

November 20, 2017 at 9:53 pm

Hi! I know you get so many comments, and believe me we all appreciate your help but I am i desperate need of your help. I was dating my ex for 2.5 years, we both were at fault but he ended up cheating, then left that girl and is in a relationship for the last year with someone else. They practically live together but his family doesn’t like her much. We keep in contact and he consistently says he loves me, and wants to be with me. He seems to call me only when she is not in the area, and when she gets back he tells me he just can’t leave. He’s a genuine guy, my family loves him and isn’t a bad person just inbetween time & her? Now i don’t know if i should keep meeting up with him and slowly have him fall in love with me again or end this once and for all even though i really wouldn’t like too. Thanks for your help!!!!

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 23, 2017 at 12:27 am

Hi Gina,

Check this one:
The Rules For Going On A Date With Your Ex Boyfriend

Eduarda

November 20, 2017 at 3:09 pm

Hi, so me and my ex dated for 2 years and 28 days and then he broke up w me. He said that he keeps hurting me and that he doesnt want to keep hurting me and that he doesn’t know whats wrong with him so he thought it was better to break up. Literally 3 days after the break up he was talkin about girls and tellin them to hit him up and basically being a hoe. 2 weeks after the break up we were texting and then i left him in read cuz i was not going to keep texting him a week after i left him on read he texts me asking how im doing and how am i and i replied saying im great and he said “thats what i like to hear” and i left him on read. And okay weeks after that incident i finalky decided to block him. And he has been blocked for more then 30 days. One thing i forgot to mention is a week after he broke up w me i decided to do this no social media challenge for 6 months. So i wont be back on social media until march of 2018, i was wondering should i just keep him blocked from number untill i get back on social media ? Like yes i do want him to miss me and regret leaving but i dont want to text him after the no contact period. What do you think? Is it still possible for him to miss me even after the six months of being blocked ? And i recently found out he has been going to a lot of parties, and is drinking and smoking, and it makes me upset because how can he move on so fast? We dated for 2 years and we had GREAT times, and we were best friends in the begining.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 22, 2017 at 1:13 am

Hi Eduarda,

If you’re doing the no contact rule, you need to unblock him so he can see your posts because that’s your indirect way of showing your improvements and you need to set a limit on until when you would wait for him to initiate after nc before moving on.

Suzanne

November 17, 2017 at 8:03 pm

Hi! So my boyfriend and i were together for 16 months. It was always rocky. We loved hard but fought harder. He has a lot of issues. He’s from South Carolina and moved to New York for his college GF but I️t didn’t work out and he ended up staying here anyway because his job is good. We break up a lot because he says he thinks we aren’t right for each other but it seems to be mostly whenever there is an important event coming. He pulls away and says he doesn’t know what he wants and we shouldn’t be together. The one time i did No contact he was at my window a week later crying and i took Him right back. I’ve completely lost control and have continuously texted him since yesterday telling him how upset i am. He’s not even responding. I finally Stopped, but now i dont Know what to do

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 18, 2017 at 2:52 am

Hi Suzanne,

check this one:
How To Get An On Again/Off Again Boyfriend Back

beverly l ward

November 9, 2017 at 9:39 am

Hi you speeking of texting to much but what if you did not text call or just plain spend enough time together 17 years together

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 12, 2017 at 8:37 pm

Hi Beverly,

was it because you lived together and see each other most of the time? Then that means, you just have to text him like you how you used to have fun conversations.

Mahi

October 31, 2017 at 1:29 pm

Hello, hope to find you well.
I hope you please respond as soon as you can i am really lost and in need of your help very much!
Me and my ex had been dating for nearly a year and everything was perfect between us. Throughout this year, he had been insisting on me to change specific stuff for my own good such as visiting the doctor, get summer trainings, be more healthy and etc. Unfortunately, i hadn’t been responding to any of his advices due to me being careless and stubborn. When he got to his maximum limit, he decided on us to take a break and that words will never change me thats why he took an action, by taking a month break. We took it and haven’t had contact for couple of weeks then started talking again. Things began to heal somehow until that day when we finally met, he told me he was still inlove with me. Hearing that, i pressed him to get back together to an extent that he got pissed and told me he wanted to fully end our relationship completely, due to my nagging and stubborness (again). After a couple of weeks from that day, i texted him saying that i didn’t want things to completely end between us and that i know he probably doesn’t wanna see me or text me again. He responded saying that he never said he didn’t wanna see me or talk to me again and that we can go out anytime i want,, “as long as you can manage to behave normally and as friends”.. -said him. I responded saying that if that is the thing that will make me not lose him, than i will try my best in that. Before that day we texted by 2 or 3 days, he had met up with my 2 best friends and they had a chat about our situation, he had told them that the reason for this is my irresponsibility and carelessness, but he didn’t deny to them that he was still inlove with me.. Going back our conversation, our chat ended the day i texted him. After 2 days from that day, he sent me a text saying “Morning :D”. I was completely in shock, especially that he knows me too well and he knows 100% that i will never consider him as friends, i expected from him that he would take a long distance with no contact until we get over our feelings but he texted me 2 days right after our last talk ! I responded to each text after hours, not immediately, he was talking so not formal, in other words, trying to joke around and provoke me by joking then suddenly when i responded to the last text he sent, he stopped responding, he didn’t even open the message! The last thing i responded by was 4 days ago. He disappeared and i don’t know why is he doing this. I know I’ve wrote much but thing is i really need your help please, i really love him, haven’t stopped loving him and i want him back more than anything.. could you please help me and advise me in detail what to do and what do you think about the story as a whole. Ps: we were taking everything seriously, he even introduced me to his mom and dad and even family, i did the same with my mom. We used to always talk about our future and he used to do very positive actions indicating how serious he was taking it. Thank you so much for your time, waiting for your response 🙂

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 1, 2017 at 8:40 pm

Hi Mahi,

Do you want to try the no contact rule and do at least 30 days?

Ingrid

October 25, 2017 at 10:58 am

My ex and I met in the military. At first things were beyond great, and we talked about moving in together when our year of service were up, I was his date at his fathers wedding, and he would constantly tell me how I knew too much about him for him to be able to ever let me go, and how we fit to well together. But because of the rules in the military, it was difficult for me to be in an on-and-off relationship, as we weren’t able to act as boyfriend and girlfriend while in service. I therefor got anxious and scared, and I think he got tired of my need of approval. Last saturday (14th of october) he dumped me, saying we had tried for too long, that we work best as friends and that he isn’t the «relationship»-kind of guy (yet), and that he likes being for himself. Six days later, he makes out with another girl.. and was angry when I brought it up with him, stating it was none of my bussiness, and that he owes md nothing.

The problem, though, is that we still have 2 months left of our service.. and that we are on the same team, living in rooms next to one another. And that the girl he chose to make out with is on the same floor.. living down the hall. I still love him and think of him as my soul mate, and the thought of watching him every day, and even worrying about him and the other girl, is killing me. I know we are functioning more than great as civilians, which were the plan all along.. to get together after finishing our service. Somewhere along the way, though, he stared to disagree..

What should I do about the situation? How should I act around him? How am I going to make him want to be with me again?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 28, 2017 at 10:46 pm

Hi Ingrid,
EBR 009: The No Contact Rule If You Work With Your Ex

Alicia

October 25, 2017 at 12:32 am

oh i forgot to add that when i found out he has been dating someone else, I flipped out on him and kinda flipped out on the girl, but i realize now that I shouldn’t have done that, did i ruin my chance at getting my ex back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 28, 2017 at 7:00 pm

Hi Alicia,

Shouldn’t he be the one worried about not getting your trust back because he’s already dating someone else? Or maybe he is being nice to you because he’s afraid you will forbid him from seeing his son because he is already dating someone else

Alicia

October 25, 2017 at 12:29 am

So me and the father of my child broke up 2 months ago, we kinda been arguing on and off in between our break up but i still love him. He keeps telling me he is over me and I recently found out he has been dating someone else. but whenever I have my son, he always asks how he’s doing when he knows its my week with him (but not saying that he shouldn’t ask but its like everyday) and when he has our son for the other week, i do not bother him or text him how our son is, but my ex ends up texting me anyways, telling me what our son did or and saying how much my son misses his mommy. Is he really over me like he says he is?
harshita

October 24, 2017 at 3:52 am

he cares n loves me so much that he is putting me away because he knows that his family won’t be accepting me and he thinks that if we stop everything now itself so than in future we won’t be hurt

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 24, 2017 at 6:02 pm

Check this one:
EBR 054: My Exes Mom Made Him Break Up With Me

harshita

October 24, 2017 at 3:41 am

We both were in a serious relationship from past one year nd we both are passionate about each other nd we both belong to different religion and on 22 august k we had a small fight nd thn he is like k you don’t want to be with me so just tell me nd i was in fun mood so i told him that yaa i don’t wanna be with you nd thn i realized that shit he has taken everything seriously and thn i apologized alott but he is denying to come back and he is blaming me that i dumped him on other hand his mom is a single mother nd my bf told me that according to his mom she won’t accept any girl of other religion so my bf said that if in future if doesn’t accepts you than you will get more hurt so its better to stop everything now itself and its been two months for our break up so yestrdy he called me that m sorry so i disconnected the call as my parents were standing in front of me nd thn i texted him so he ks like you wanna be with me right? So i said yess but i can’t hurt your mom as well because no one has given me the opportunity to hurt someones mom so he is like lets be best friends but i denied saying that we love each other so how come can we only best friend so he said goodbye and I’ll always love you so than my sister said that i should clear the misunderstanding tgat when he called me up i wasnt able to ans as my parents were standing in front of me so i called him nd than he is like you dumped me you’ve hurted me and I apologized alot for it saying that it was a fun thing but I promise I won’t do that again but he is not ready to listen and than my sister talked with him so he said that his family won’t accept me and even I cant adjust in his family
M just freaking confused that how can he do this to me like if he loves me so he has to fight for me nd should not give up
And on other hand he said that he is with someone else but i know him very well and he isnt with someone else and he is saying this so that i get negativity for him nd i forget him thinking that he has a new girlfriend and he cheated me
But for now i don’t know what to do and we both go for same tuitions so we see each others daily so m just confused between ignoring him andn making him feel regret but if i ignore him so thats all what he wants that i move on so he will be happy if i do move on
M just confused
Angel

October 17, 2017 at 8:55 am

I really need some advice. So I just got dumped from a 4 and a half years relationship. It was just too sudden. We were fine, or that’s what I thought. Anyway he broke up with me because he wants to focus on his dream. He told me there is another girl who is in the same university as him (we’re in a different university) who supports him and have a dream. He dont like the fact that I don’t know what I want to do in the future, I just do my best in the moment and I thought there will always a way. He said he likes both of us because we have good traits (which hurts so much, how can he compare me with someone new). He decided to just focus on his dream and dont want to focus on this problem. If this is the case, is it possible he might miss me or feel guilt and wants to get back. We broke up 4 days ago and we still contact each other to talk about our problems. Is it to late to trt no contact rule?
I really really need your help because this is my first major breakup. Btw i never broke up with him before.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 17, 2017 at 9:49 pm

Hi Angel,

It’s not yet too late to start the no contact rule.. Do at least 30 days

Jen

October 13, 2017 at 2:23 pm

Hi,

This is going to be a long one, but I feel like I need opinions and not just family opinions. They tend to be bias. I am going to start from month 7.

My ex and I dated for 2.5 years. Everything was good till our half year mark. We argued constantly and threatened each other about breaking up. However, we always came back together within minutes. After we officially broke up within 21 months of our relationship, we were both really sad and hurt. So I asked him to come back to me, and he agreed. We started dating again quickly after. But things did not change for the better. In fact, things got worse.

We still argued constantly. I often felt like he didn’t love me anymore because he always played games and slept whenever I was around him. Or whenever he was at my place. He wouldn’t help me with anything anymore. So, I felt that he didn’t put effort into our relationship. I always nagged at him about how I felt about him treating me like I was not there. And all his reasons were that I am always busy forgetting he isnt around, and that I take him for granted, or that my chores arent his duties. He doesn’t surprise me anymore with spontaneous dates. He always finds it a hassle when I want to go on dates. And I feel like when we do plan dates, he always finds something I do to make him angry so that the date gets canceled. Thats how I see it.

He started making me pay for all our dates too even though he made more than me. I didnt realize it at first until my siblings asked me why he always makes me pay…or that he never bothers to pay anything for our dates unless I nag him about his turn. Let me be clear: I do not mind paying for his food because I love him. Im not a big fan of the role of bf paying everything too. It just hurt me when I realized how much my ex changed within that breakup. He wouldn’t even pay for my food unless I whine to him about how broke I am…mainly because I end up feeding him. I started to get scared of going out with him because I couldn’t save money at all. All my paychecks were just toward him. I didnt even feel like myself anymore. And when I informed him about the issue, he would say that it isnt true. He always pays. The only times he doesnt is when I ask him on dates. Ironically, he is the one who always wants to eat out. Basically, he says it’s just me, not him.

So he broke up with me again just this August after we returned from our CA trip. My family really disliked the way he treated me. Same issues from before. Right after our trip, he said he didnt want to be with me anymore, and I don’t deserve his reasons or any closure. Me being prideful, I said he didnt deserve me. But I always caved in. I contacted him again and told him I love him. He and I agreed to work things out again except this time with more space.

Little did I know, I was the only one putting effort into us getting back together. I contacted him. Talked to him. And yes, we did sleep a lot together (I really regret that!!!) I felt like he was just having the time of his life. He didnt bother prioritizing me anymore. We both go to the same college, but he always ignored my texts and would reply later. Everytime I tell him how I feel, he just says Im insecure and overthinking things. I finally confessed to him that I feel like Im the only one putting effort into this, and I really did. He didnt contact me at all. He didnt talk to me. He was always out with his cousins and friends. He always had excuses to not be around me unless it is sex and cuddles. Then he finally asked me how I felt about getting back with him. I said I love him still, but I am broken. I don’t know what to do. He said something like this: “Well, I am in a situation where I am just focusing on getting myself together again. Prioritizing school and work are my main things…so if you are still planning on getting back with me, I think you should stop. But we can still be friends because I still love and care about you.” Of course I was really mad…hurt. Confused. I yelled at him and left. Two days later, I called him and asked if we could just go on one last date, and Id leave him alone forever. He refused and told me he doesn’t love me anymore. I was heartbroken.

We have been hanging out for the past two weeks, but thats because we have a class together, and we started off as sharing our textbook. Now I am not mean or anything, so I let him borrow my textbook every Mondays. We had a paper due this week, and he helped me write my paper because I was having a hard time understanding the text. (It was a Christian course, which I am not a Christian, but he is, so he understood it) he was being so friendly to me, I thought he still cared about me and wanted to be with me. I confessed that I still love him and am waiting for his return. Just last night, he said he cares for my well being, but me waiting on him is pretty much a waste of my time. I should really move on because my chances of being with him are slim. And if he does fall for me again, and I move on, then it is his problem. Not mine. I told him I would still be waiting. I called him again and again yesterday. 4 times. i knew I was annoying, but I had to let things off my chest.

I need help. Also, did I just ruin my chances of getting back with him? I want to make him regret breaking up with me, BUT i cant do that no contact rule because we have class together. I considered dropping the course, but I cannot because it is my last course to graduating this Fall. What should I do? Plus, my ex thinks I cannot do anything for myself. But I disagree! The only thing I cant do is drive! He thinks I’m a brat, spoiled, and have a luxurious life, but all I know is I go to school, work, and help my parents with their own businesses. I never had the time to do anything for myself unless I bribe my parents. I’m sheltered as heck.

Help me. :/

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 14, 2017 at 10:31 am

Hi Jen,

You can try the advice on this one:
EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

Pallavi pimple

September 30, 2017 at 9:49 pm

I met him a yr ago and we connected instantly at that POT we were both in toxic relationships, we didn’t speak for a while and then started talking again after our respective breakups. It was amazing. The best relationship we’ve ever had, he was the first guy to make me realise my worth, we NVR had sex bcoz we decided to do it when the time is right. He said he had feelings for me and I confessed the same. When all of a sudden we received a news that his Canada application had been accepted and he had to leave. We had to break up bcoz we always told each other that when he’d go away we’ll end it. But soon after the break up I realised the depth of my feelings. We didn’t talk for about two months even though we txtd once a week after the third month We txtd almost everyday after that.he wud reply quicker and put all the efforts I wanted, he said he’d wait for me and whats meant to be will be and stuff like tha. Please note that ill be moving in the same city in four months and he knows it..the part I didn’t understand is that while he txts and talks and all he changes his statements his and past relationships weren’t good and we suffered a lot and maybe that is how we fell for each other bcoz he was what I wanted and I was the same. if I want to talk he nvr says no he frees his time to talk to me. even tho gets angry sooner. In the end I asked him to define our relationship and he said he doesn’t see us happening anymore coz he’s happy alone.please note again that he’s said this to me before we started dating. We have now said our goodbyes but u see I felt peace with him for the first time in my life. And I know he felt the same. So obviously I want him back but don’t know if the NC rule will work since he says he’s happy alone. This man is a very reserved introvert the ending days he hasn’t treated me well, atleast not like he did Please tell me if I cud ever get him back if I start living my life and let him live his.??

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 30, 2017 at 10:29 pm

Hi Pallavi,

It’s not a guarantee that it will work in any situation, it just helps increase your chances.. Check this one:
Introverted Ex Boyfriends Vs. Extroverted Ex Boyfriends (How To Approach Them)

Sonam

September 25, 2017 at 8:57 am

Hi,
My ex- broke up with me for a month ago after being in a relationship for 17 months. We were very good together and he used to say that he had best time with me and worked better with me than othe exes he ever had. The reason we broke up was because for him marriage and having children in future is the thing he can’t think of. He said he can’t do that not with me and not with other girls as wel. So because of that we broke up in a mutual understanding, but I really love him and miss him. He has also said to me that he cares a lot about me, and and loves he as well but also said that he’s afraid of hurting me if he couldn’t change his mind about marriage and children. Because I would want to get into marriage and start a family with the guy I love in the future. So we have been off and on in contact. We broke up right before my birthday and he said he had birthday gift for me but will give it to me when things are less painful. So it’s been a month we have not seen each other. He has send me text twice after we broke up so did I as wel. Last time I texted him was a week ago. Since that we haven’t talked. He is a person who doesn’t really uses Snapchat etc and when we were together he only checked my Snapchat history. And I noticed it now as well he does check my Snapchat history constantly. We live in a same city and everytime I drive through his place I expect to see him somewhere in the way. I am missing him a lot and keep in seeing him in my dreams. So I really want him but I don’t wanna show him that I am too desperate and too annoying. That’s why I haven’t told him that I really want him back. So what should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 28, 2017 at 8:40 pm

post in social media sites where posts lasts even if he’s not active in it. How much are you improving yourself?

Bee

September 21, 2017 at 4:37 am

Hi me and my boyfriend of 2 years recently broke up he is the kind of person hu wud want to brake up when he is angry and he is the kind of guy who never wants to talk abt his feelings he bottles up everything inside him his actions says smethin else that he does love me but our problem is he has been hurt before so now he says he doesn’t know how to trust anymore coz the woman he has loved before has let him down..problem is we share a child and we stay together how do I go abt solving this problem

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 26, 2017 at 7:24 pm

Hi Bee,

Check this one:
How To Get Your Ex Back When You Have A Child With Them

Vicky

August 23, 2017 at 3:15 am

Hi,
I just recently broke up with my ex boyfriend of two years, about two weeks ago. We were/are still very much in love and love each other deeply, but he have done some things during our relationship that caused insecurity in me at times (no cheating though). But I have been hurt and as he is soon moving out of the country, I didn’t feel that continuing our relationship would be a safe thing for me, when I am already struggling with trusting him fully. There is absolutely no doubt though that we both still love each other and most of all, we both wish it could’ve worked. I know that he want us to continue although we would be long distance for a while, but up until now I have stuck with the breakup – simply because I want him to really acknowledge how he hurt me – only then could he change those ways and things that made me so insecure while being with him.

– I know that time is probably the only thing if it’s ever going to happen. But is there anything I can do nonetheless to make him realize and hopefully implement these changes? I am currently trying the NC rule, but I am very unsure of how long I should really stick to it in this case, as he will be leaving the country to start a new life and job in just 3 weeks from now.. and then, I wont be able to meet or see him in person again. What should I do? I am in such desperation as his departure is getting closer every day.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 24, 2017 at 9:55 pm

HI Vicky,

Have you told him what you feel and what you want?

Tres

August 12, 2017 at 1:24 am

Hi,
I just got back together with my boyfriend that I was in a long distance relationship with about a month ago. But he was being very distant and detached although still telling me he loved me. Then I asked him if it was a possibility that he would ever get back with his baby’s mom and he said yes it is a possibility. She’s in the town that he’s in and I’m not. Anyway he wouldn’t say that we’d be together in the future like we used to talk about. I asked him and He couldn’t promise me that now . So I got upset although I kept it together when I talked to him last. Anyway he would never reassure me that I didn’t have anything to worry about with her . We had that talk on the last conversation and then I cut off contact for a few days. He never even tried to contact me . It really hurts because he says how much he loves me and how beautiful I am inside and out but I don’t want to be a backup plan . So I sent him a text saying obvious that you want to try to work things out with her and that I’m not going to be a backup plan and that I’m not going to do that right now but I also lied and said I was starting to date someone else that I had put on hold for him because I thought we were going to try to work things out . So long story short I told him nicely just please don’t contact me ever again and that I’m with someone new and that I wish him the best . Now I regret that text because I do want to hear from him but I can’t stand all this wishywashi-ness. I don’t know what I should do.Should I just leave it be and let him go or what can I say to him to retract what I’ve said so that in the future I can leave it open for him to contact me ? I’m so confused help

Tres

August 12, 2017 at 1:40 am

I really just said what I said because I was hurt and it seemed like he didn’t care if he pushed me away (but I’m always here for him when he comes back after being gone doing God knows what and I feel he takes me for granted because of that). I just didn’t know what else to do. Is this fixable and how?
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 12, 2017 at 1:44 pm

Hi Tres,

if he said it’s a possibility to go back with his ex, that means you’re a rebound. And if he’s taking you for granted, you should move on.

Tres

August 12, 2017 at 1:22 am

I just got back together with my boyfriend that I was in a long distance relationship with. But he was being very distant and detached although still telling me he loved me. Then I asked him if it was a possibility that he would ever get back with his baby’s mom and he said yes it is a possibility. She’s in the town that he’s in and I’m not. Anyway he wouldn’t say that we’d be together in the future like we used to talk about. I asked him and He couldn’t promise me that now . So I got upset although I kept it together when I talked to him last. Anyway he would never reassure me that I didn’t have anything to worry about with her . We had that talk on the last conversation and then I cut off contact for a few days. He never even tried to contact me . It really hurts because he says how much he loves me and how beautiful I am inside and out but I don’t want to be a backup plan . So I sent him a text saying obvious that you want to try to work things out with her and that I’m not going to be a backup plan and that I’m not going to do that right now but I also lied and said I was starting to date someone else that I had put on hold for him because I thought we were going to try to work things out . So long story short I told him nicely just please don’t contact me ever again and that I’m with someone new and that I wish him the best . Now I regret that text because I do want to hear from him but I can’t stand all this wishywashi-ness. I don’t know what I should do.Should I just leave it be and let him go or what can I say to him to retract what I’ve said so that in the future I can leave it open for him to contact me ? I’m so confused help

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 12, 2017 at 1:44 pm

Hi Tres,

if he said it’s a possibility to go back with his ex, that means you’re a rebound. And if he’s taking you for granted, you should move on.

jessica

August 10, 2017 at 4:08 am

Hello,
My boyfriend and I were dating for 3 years and broke up a couple of days ago after a couple of months of fighting a break up off. His only sibling/best friend passed away last summer after a tragic accident and he’s been struggling since. There wasn’t much fighting on our part except for bickering here and there because of tension brought on from adjusting to a new lifestyle. He said he needed time to develop himself but also didn’t want to break up. It’s evident that after the anniversary of his brother’s death, he realized he didn’t feel how he thought he would feel and it ended up frustrating him. His breaking up with me was an attempt to eliminate any distractions in his life. I am certain that the stress got to him. I feel this way because he began bringing up out-of-the-blue concerns to justify his wanting to end our relationship, like how he fears I can’t have kids because of my PCOS and won’t be able to bear a child and pass on his late brother’s name.
Other than those circumstances, we had a nearly perfect relationship and were always best friends before anything. I took great pride and admiration in our relationship and he did too until all the stress began. We ended on a mutual agreement and as good of terms as we could get, however, the break up is not what I wanted, at all. I just didn’t know what else to do anymore.

I want him to realize it wasn’t necessary but I do fear he will hook up with someone else because he is feeling so lost– I know I can’t do anything, if he does.
Please give me advice on what to do. My birthday is on Friday and we share a dog. I dropped her off at his house today (he lives down the block). I didn’t see him when I was there or talk to him before I went (his family let me in and don’t know about our breakup). Do I reply to him when he wishes me happy birthday? What if he asks to see me? How do I pick up my dog in a few days without seeming cold and like I don’t care about our break up?

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 10, 2017 at 5:02 pm

Hi Jessica,
do you want to try the advice above? If you are, that means you have to either stop sharing the dog for a time or talk about a schedule about that and only meet about that.. That is assuming he still wants to see the dog but if it’s only you that’s trying to include him your dog’s life better to stop that for now.

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