136 thoughts on “How to Make Your Ex Miss You Without Talking To Him”

1. 

   Sylvia

   January 20, 2018 at 4:33 pm

   Hey Rachel,
   he and i were only together for a month. Broke up Jan2017. We live in different countries at the moment. We were on good talking terms and flirty for a few months after the breakup.

   He’s now been dating someone since last year in May. He said she’s obsessed with him, tracks everything he does online and his phone. She overshares the relationship online WAY more than he posts. It seems more like insecurity and a need to show that “he’s hers” and for validation. He doesnt look happy in pics with her, doesnt lean in to her sometimes even pissed off or upset, but she looks too happy.

   He and I havent communicated in 2 months. Last time we did he said “he cant msg me much because his gf doesnt like when he chats with other girls.” He still likes stuff I post online. I think he still has feelings for me but is hiding them because of his gf, i think he is with her because shes there, only because shes convenient and available. I dont think hes in love with her truly.

   I never chased or text gnatted him.
   I havent contacted or reached out to him in 2 months. Same from him. Would doing a further No Contact period be effective in this case?
   I guess the only thing I havent done during the period is posting on my social media, but Ive never really been a heavy user of social media.

   Also, he has no negativity towards me personally. It was the distance thats the issue.

   I really want to give us another shot, Be it now, or in the future. What would be the best strategy to inplement in my situation?
   -Long distance
   -Broken up over a year
   -Had positive contact for months
   -Has a gf For 8 months: obsessive, dramatic
   -No contact at all for past 2 months
   – a few weeks before we stopped contact he told me and mentioned this also to one of his friends that he was feeling nostalgic about the time he spent with me

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 21, 2018 at 6:35 am

   Hi Sylvia,

   Check this one:
   EBR 015: How To Get A Long Distance Boyfriend Back If He Has A New Girlfriend

2. 

   Carolyn

   January 20, 2018 at 4:24 pm

   Hi,
   I have a problem with my ex, cause I don’t understand his actions. 3 months ago I refused to go on a weekend with him (it was a casual fight about something unimportant that led me to cancell our plans). He was hurt, we were fighting for a few days and we broke up. He blocked me on social media, I didn’t react and after a month he unblocked me and started contacting me. He wasn’t straightforward about his motives, just testing the waters and trying to put all the blame on me or acting jealous asking me about other guys. I tried not to fight back, I was answearing him but rather in a neutral and aloof manner. But now he tells me I am still important to him, he is not begging me but letting me know that he is open to try once again. I didn’t give him any answear because here is a tricky part. I checked his social media and he is flirting with some random girls or he is listening to songs that are realeted to his previous ex. So i don’t know what to think. Is he playing me? Or is he true? I’m totally confused.

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 21, 2018 at 6:52 am

   Hi Carolyn,

   It looks like he’s playing safe.. You handled the past months well but if he’s really serious, he has to make more effort..

3. 

   Sylvia

   January 20, 2018 at 11:10 am

   I left a post on here but i cant find it! Hope it hasnt been deleted.

4. 

   Sylvia

   January 20, 2018 at 11:01 am

   Hey Rachel,
   he and i were only together for a month. Broke up Jan2017. We live in different countries at the moment. We were on good talking terms and flirty for a few months after the breakup.

   He’s now been dating someone since last year in May. He said she’s obsessed with him, tracks everything he does online and his phone. She overshares the relationship online WAY more than he posts. It seems more like insecurity and a need to show that “he’s hers” and for validation. He doesnt look happy in pics with her, doesnt lean in to her sometimes even pissed off or upset, but she looks too happy.

   He and I havent communicated in 2 months. Last time we did he said “he cant msg me much because his gf doesnt like when he chats with other girls.” He still likes stuff I post online. I think he still has feelings for me but is hiding them because of his gf, i think he is with her because shes there, only because shes convenient and available. I dont think hes in love with her truly.

   I never chased or text gnatted him.
   I havent contacted or reached out to him in 2 months. Same from him. Would doing a further No Contact period be effective in this case?
   I guess the only thing I havent done during the period is posting on my social media, but Ive never really been a heavy user of social media.

   Also, he has no negativity towards me personally. It was the distance thats the issue.

   I really want to give us another shot, Be it now, or in the future. What would be the best strategy to inplement in my situation?
   -Long distance
   -Broken up over a year
   -Had positive contact for months
   -Has a gf For 8 months: obsessive, dramatic
   -No contact at all for past 2 months
   – a few weeks before we stopped contact he told me and mentioned this also to one of his friends that he was feeling nostalgic about the time he spent with me

5. 

   Hannah

   January 20, 2018 at 10:22 am

   Hi, so my ex of 2 and a half years broke up with me 3 months ago. I went into NC and he reached out to me telling me he missed me. He said we might be able to get back together but told me he didn’t love me. We started talking for a few weeks and last night he invited me over. I know I shouldn’t have but I slept with him. I told him I loved him and he couldn’t say it back. He said he didn’t know what he wanted with anything and that he’s no good for anyone and that he needs to sort himself out (he’s quite depressed) he was really nice and told me how proud of me he was and that I deserve better. We both decided to give each other some space. I don’t know what to do now, have I blown my chance?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 21, 2018 at 6:17 am

   Hi Hannah,

   Check this one:
   How To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back If You Slept With Him

6. 

   Candice

   January 20, 2018 at 1:53 am

   Hey. So as you said we broke up because he simply wasn’t attracted to me before. I know how he behaves when he’s attracted to someone and I’ve experienced that at the beginning of our relationship. I’ve made the grave mistake of possibly letting myself go and jot having my own life. As a result he left me for another girl and my fear is that as the days go by he’s becoming more taken with her. By the way he cheated on me with her. After we broke up I begged and cried and showed up by his house but he keeps asking me to leave. He doesn’t want me there because he wants to show everyone that he’s made space for his new girl. To be honest I just want him crawling back. I am on 10 days no contact of a total of 45 days. I do feel like it will take more than 45 days to get him back. By that time also he’ll be very invested in this new girl. I’m considering hiring a photographer to take some pictures of me to go on my Facebook. Besides that and working and a new dance class and gym, what can I do to ensure he feels strangely about leaving me…?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 21, 2018 at 5:12 am

   Hi Candice,

   Keep in mind that the nc process is not just during nc.. It’s just the to help you start a new routine.. You have to maintain that routine after nc while slowly building rapport whether you get hin back or not..

7. 

   Sarah

   January 19, 2018 at 1:20 am

   Hi Rachel,

   I previously left a comment on another page but it disappeared so i hope this is not a repeat…

   I dated my ex boyfriend for about 6 months and we broke up because he was caught up with and unforeseen family matter and work. So he basically told me he did not have the emotional space for a relationship and used the its me not you reason as well.

   I did no contact for 30 days and reached out with an initial contact text which he responded pretty fast and positively. He has even initiated a text once and also mentioned casually that we should go check out this restaurant together sometime. He also started on instagram recently and followed me and liked my photo. My profile is public so he could have seen my photos without following me. Why would he do so? I am thinking is he just trying to appear that he is ready to be just friends?

   Generally when i initiate a text, he replies rather positively and i try to keep it interesting and end on a high point as i have read on the texting bible.

   However, now i am afraid he might just be treating me like a friend and i have been friend zoned. I understand for the texting bible that it is ok to initiate texts as long as i keep it interesting and leave on a high note. But should i be initiating more texts? I am afraid now that he might see this as an indication that i have moved on and am ready to just be friends. He did mention when we broke up to continue just being friends… and he is also friends with his ex girlfriend before me (they work in the same company).

   So far i have not initiated any more messages in the past few days… as I do not know what should be my next step. Should i initiate another text or should i wait for him to initiate? I do not want to be friend-zoned 🙁

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 20, 2018 at 2:03 am

   Hi Sarah,

   It’s too early to say you’re friendzoned.. You’re really supposed to start like that and just continue building rapport and attraction.. Don’t be too available so you can avoid being friendzoned.