5 New Ways To Make Your Ex Regret Losing You

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Belle

February 28, 2018 at 8:08 am

Broke up NYE as he has moved to Australia for a year. We had been together a year and were both very happy and in love and had future plans. We cried endlessly about the breakup. We had never been in this situation before, we were breaking up but there were so many feelings there and no arguments or other reasons to break up, just solely the distance. We were talking everyday , facetiming, calling , texting etc. We were sort of trying to be friends? we were having arguments because we didn’t know how to act with each other. He tried to give me the impression he was moving on because he had ‘no choice’ and act like he didn’t care anymore and was over it. About a week ago, he calls me really angry because i followed a boy on instagram. It was very over the top and dramatic considering he has followed over 50 girls since we broke up. Later on, he regretted all the hurtful things he said as i knew he would and apologised. He kept saying “at least this time it makes it easier for you” he said this 3 times! ‘maybe its for the best as it makes it easier for you’ ‘at least there is a silver lining as it makes things easier for you’ and ‘ except this time it is easier for you’ how does he mean this? i find it so confusing! is it genuine? does it mean that its not easy for him? I have not replied to this text. We have not spoken in a week. This is the longest we have ever not spoken. I know i want him back, but until he comes back, there is no chance. He hasn’t said anything to me and has unfollowed me on everything so he has no sight of me anywhere. I am getting on with my life i have been on dates, exercising. But i always have time to think about him. He is my person and i just want him back. We had a deep connection that i now he felt too. He said i will always have a special place in his heart and he will never forget me, that i am the best relationship and most important person he has ever met and he would not have been able to do this trip without me being in his life
Jasmijn

February 27, 2018 at 10:12 am

My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago by deciding to go on a break because he said he needed space and time to think. We were together for almost 7 months and everything was great until he sat me down and told me that. I tried giving him space (even though we live together in student housing). After a week we spoke again and he said he made a mistake and if we could just forget everything. He wanted sex and I said ok but only if he wasn’t going to change his mind again and he said he wouldn’t. The next day he told me he wasn’t sure anymore. A few days later the exact same thing happened.

I told him we should just break up for real and not date or anything in the meantime and he agreed wholeheartedly which broke my heart. He told me he is not having the same feelings for me he had in the beginning. Tune in to a few days ago when we had sex again a few times as in just sex (I knew what I was getting into). He spend the night in my room and in the morning we had sex again. Later that day (yesterday) he told me he wanted to wait with having sex again for a few days because it felt a lot like getting into another relationship again and he is saying that’s not what he wants (not with me or with anyone because he has adhd and depression and feels like he doesn’t have the space in his head/heart for it). I felt very rejected even though I acted like it didn’t matter to me.

Next monday I am moving out. Should I just implement NC now or start when I moved out. The way he is acting now it just feels like he won’t miss me at all if I go NC and he probably won’t text me since he isn’t a texter. But then again he is used to seeing me everyday since we live in the same house and me being gone is going to be a big difference for both of us. I want to take the time to work on myself and I need the NC period to do that. It just feels like he doesn’t care at all.

What is your take in all of this? I would love some more insight than just fragments of my imagination.
Trish

February 25, 2018 at 6:08 pm

I have been in the texting phase with my ex a few months, even flirting. But suddely is got distant, nice but no flirty (a few days ago he was). I don’t understand, nothing happened. I am afraid he may have met another girl or something. So as I said, today we had a conversation and he was different, nice but…distant. I let him end the conversation and that’s all. Should I do NC? I don’t want to talk more if he is like that, if I push it will be over (well, it seems to be)

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 27, 2018 at 12:55 pm

Hi Trish,
by few months, how many months do you mean? Because it looks like you’re friendzoned.

Monica

February 25, 2018 at 12:53 pm

Hi,
My ex came from a 5 year relationship with a woman he couldn’t have. And they have a child together. When we got together he said he was over her but when she calls and she’s in trouble, he drops everything and goes to her. He said he loves me and he’s really happy when he’s with me but at the end of it all, he still chose to be with her because he cares about them. Is it still possible to get him back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 27, 2018 at 12:29 pm

Hi Monica,

check this one:
EBR 034: Are YOU The Rebound For Your Ex Boyfriend?

Jasmijn

February 25, 2018 at 7:27 am

Hi!

My name is Jasmijn and I am 21 years old. About a month ago my boyfriend said he needed a break. Since then we slept together twice. Before we slept together I asked him if he wasn’t going to change his mind about is getting back together; he said no. Then the next day he wasn’t sure anymore. This happened one more time. Now we have been broken up for a week. We are housemates but I am moving out next week. In the beginning I tried talking to him a lot but I noticed it only pushed him further away (he didn’t want to talk about it he said). So last week I tried having minimal contact and when we do have contact be happy and a little flirty (casually toucing him and stuff). My next move will be to move out in a week and go cold turkey on him for a month. His birthday and mine as well are in that time frame so he will have to notice me not speaking to him.
I have been extra nice and flirty the last few days so that when I move out and go for No Contact there will be a clear difference.

The day he said he wanted a break (up) I cried and told him this is not what I wanted and that we could work on it together. He told me he just doesn’t know what to do anymore with school and spending time with his friends and with me and it just became too much for him. He feels like he is shrinking instead of growing as a person. Truth be told we have been very emerged in each other since we have been living together from the start in this studenthousing but in My opinion giving each other more space would just solve the problem. My ex has ADD and depression so ofcourse he doesn’t see it that way.

Honestly ever since we kinda broke up I have had the feeling he will come back if I go no contact on him or that we will get back together and start a new relationship if I follow Chris’ steps.
What do you think about this situation?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 27, 2018 at 12:14 pm

Hi Jasmijn,

Staying in contact is worse.. Do nc for yourself, not for him and don’t sleep with him again. check this one:
How To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back If You Slept With Him

Morgan

February 24, 2018 at 5:15 pm

My ex broke up with me like the flip of a switch one day. Something must have been building up and he never communicated it to me, because we had been together over 2 years. I was doing so well with not contacting him(other than needing him to get stuff out of our apartment) until last night when I was out with a couple of friends. I saw him at the bar I was at and tried to ignore him until I saw he was hanging out with someone who he always used to talk poorly about our entire relationship. What’s up with that? Is it because he doesn’t have many other single friends?Ontop of that, him and this “friend” were all over these 2 girls, and I couldn’t process how he could do this right in front of me-and in the same week of dumping me! By that point, I got too emotional and left the bar and ended up texting him telling him how I felt about what I just saw. He just completely ignored me, which made me feel even worse. I feel like he’s on his high horse right now and him being all over other females is making me think he’s not ever going to come back. I do not know how to handle this or what to think. He was my world.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 27, 2018 at 11:30 am

Hi Morgan,

Maybe he just has something in common with that friend that he can’t share with you before because he knows you don’t like that person.. Restart nc and be active in improving yourself.

JB

February 23, 2018 at 10:49 pm

So my ex was my boyfriend off and on for two and a half years. He’s in the army so he recently moved right after thanksgiving. I visited him in Europe for Christmas (he paid for my passport to make sure I had it in time). He did my dad a huge favor over Christmas and my dad bought tickets for me to go valentines weekend (a four day weekend for the military not because of Valentine’s Day). We knew he’d be gone in March and then leave for six months in April for a deployment. Well he dumped me end of January (about the same time he dumped me he first time). Commitment issues. Anyway I called two weeks after to let him know that I was still going on this trip and if he wanted to man up to talk to me. Short conversation nothing to involved. No other contact since or before. No other texts or phone calls. No drunk dialing. Nothing. I went to Europe and posted all the positive posts with selfies of new friends I made. Well today (I’ve only been back two days) he finally defriended me. He never did it the first time. He always said it was petty. My gut instinct is that he regrets how the breakup happened (it was pretty bad on HIS end. I asked one question and that was it) I feel like it was hard for him seeing me so happy. I plan to continue my no contact until the 8th ish which is one month from the phone call I made. I just don’t know what to do about Facebook since I have mine on private due to my job. I feel like it would be too obvious to just make things public now. I don’t even know if my gut instinct is right.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 27, 2018 at 10:53 am

Hi Jb,

Do you have an ig account? Make that one public..or just make your fb account public and dont assume what he would think..the more important thing is that he sees your posts..

Rose

February 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm

Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me after 9 months of being together because he was unsure about the relationship. We had a break beforehand due to him feeling as if my dad doesn’t like him and decided to start new beginning of January this year, but he just gave up. He told me he doesn’t love me as much as he used to and it hurt to hear that. I still really love him and it has been 3 weeks since he broke up with me. I’ve implemented no contact, but I just want to know if there’s still a chance? I’m trying to move on but every time I think of him my heart sways, reminding me that I still love him 🙁
Ps – he was my first relationship, first kiss, first everything so it’s even harder to let go.
Hurting

February 22, 2018 at 6:48 am

I dated my now ex – boyfriend for 6 months. Sometimes things were great and sometimes it was clear what he’d done wrong, but somehow he managed to twist things around and blame me. He would usually apologize within a few hours or the next day. However, last week I found evidence of lies , and yet he still insisted he was innocent and turned the blame on me, so later that night I broke up with him. The next day he texted, but I didn’t respond. Three days after that he sent another text asking if I was not speaking to him or avoiding him altogether. I didn’t respond. A couple minutes later he then called and left a voicemail saying he understands that we can’t be together “for whatever reason,” but asked if we can still be friends. He said he’d like me to come over and watch our TV shows together and spend time together. He didn’t even once acknowledge that he did any wrong or apologize, so I didn’t respond. I’m so heartbroken and sad and missing him, but I can’t think of anything nice to say to him since he was messaging other girls behind my back(inappropriate flirtations), and didn’t see anything wrong with it since he claimed he never actually met up with them. I’ve gone NC so that I can heal and work on myself, but I feel mean and immature not responding to his long voicemail of wanting to spend time with me. I feel like I’m hurting too much and still shocked that he lied – and that he hasn’t even apologized, and is acting like he has done nothing wrong…yet still wants me in his life after dumping him – to the point of texting and calling even without me responding. I’m so confused. He went from prince charming to a stranger who claimed stress was making him pull away, drink more, and not prioritize me or the relationship…but that was his defense after I found inappropriate messages to other girls (including his ex)…which is why I dumped him, and why I’ve not responded to any of his attempts to contact me. We talked about his stress before, so that wasnt news. We had already been trying to work through it. Any suggestions?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 26, 2018 at 2:50 pm

There’s nothing wrong with your reaction..that’s normal and better than agreeing to be friends with him right away

larine hadad

February 21, 2018 at 8:53 pm

Hello!

Me and my ex we were together year and 4 months. before 4.5 months we quarreled and stop talking and since that time we didn`t talk. before two weeks I contacted him by sms. I told him that I were in berlin in the same resturant we were there last year, he response and was nice and continue talking but from this point i did all the mistake in the world, i call him and asked him to meet, i sent him a big sms told him that we need to talk after that we need to take decide. First he wanted to meet me and he contact me, but when the meet time come he evaded and ask me if i can meet him tomorrow.
When tomorrow came, he seems confused but he asked me to meet him somewhere and i asked him if he come to pick me and he got nervous, why i expect from him to pick me after what happened and continue talking via Whats up. I begged him to give a chance to our relationship, he told me that he move on and stop loving me and we not suitable and he wanted to meet me just to close circle in a good way. I asked him again to meet me and i asked him if he didn`t miss me. After that he stopped answering me.
In the next day i tell that his behavior is bad and he doesn`t respect me and stopped send him.
After 5 days he sent me sms that explain why he disappeared and he have tests.
He told me he just moved on and maybe we can`t be together because we didn`t fix our problem and bla bla bla. But he respect my opinion and he want to listen to me but he confused what the reason that made me contact him after this time.
I ignored him and send me again at night a question mark and ignored him too.
He sent me this sms last week.
I want to know if there anythings i can do or to move on. And if yes what to do and from where start, when and what to say him.

Thanks

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 25, 2018 at 10:45 pm

Hi Larine,

Check this one:
You Desperately Begged For Him Back And Failed… I’m Here To Fix That

Nikki

February 21, 2018 at 8:02 pm

So I am in a really complicated situation with my Ex Boyfriend. We jumped into a relationship immediately after I got out of a bad relationship. I was depressed and he had liked me for so long that he didn’t care and wanted to help me. We rushed into dating and getting engaged right away. We have broken up 3 times as of now but I am pregnant. The first two times he left he used the reasoning that I was too emotionally unstable and he couldn’t be with me until I got help. I got the help I needed and he came back for about two months. Proposing to me again I asked him multiple times whether he truly wanted this. He claimed this is all he wanted, to be a family with me and this baby. He accompanied me to every doctor appointment and things were going well I thought. On Sunday, Feb 18, 2018, he left again. Saying our relationship had not gotten any better but also said I was progressing a lot. He told me he was depressed and finally took the ring off my finger and left. Since this was the 3rd time hes left, I told him that this was it. No more playing these games. I then asked him if he really wanted our baby to be raised in and out of court and have a very confusing life. He said there was no other way. I let him walk away. I have not reached out since and I am so confused and I need help. He stopped following me on all forms of social media and has not reached out to me. I am too hurt to reach out and I really do not think he will reach out first. He told my mom that he didn’t think we were compatible and that we would never be. What should I do? Should I move on? Should I stop inviting him to all the appointments and just raise this baby on my own until he proves he can be a dad and not run away? The really sucky thing is that my biological father did this to me when I was a baby and I spent the most of my childhood wondering why my dad didn’t love me. He is doing the same thing.If you can give me some advice I would really appreciate it. Everyone in my life hates him now so they cannot be objective.
Is there any chance of getting him back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 25, 2018 at 10:41 pm

Hi Nikki,

Have you read this one:
How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If You Are Pregnant

Yo

February 21, 2018 at 8:51 am

Hi,

My ex and I have been broken up for almost a month. This is our third time breaking up. First time we dated a month and a half, second time we dated 3 months, third time we dated 5 months. We broke up first time because he wanted to get back together with his ex and second time he didn’t want to do long distance from fear of us growing to hate each other. He claims he broke up with me this time because he thought he didn’t deserve me anymore because of what he was doing to me due to how he was treating me and because he didn’t like who he was anymore. He stopped responding to me after I told him a week and a half ago I didn’t want him in my life in any way anymore if he didn’t change. He was very selfish towards the end of our relationship and even though he agreed he was selfish, he showed no remorse about how he treated me because of it. I still love him but I know I have to let him go, but I still want him back. I texted him yesterday because of a scary situation I was in, but he read it and never replied. He is naturally an awkward person but him not replying is deliberate. It’s not because he doesn’t now what to say. He even told me once recently he simply forgot to respond to my message. I don’t think I can get him back even if I tried, but I know a part of me still holds hope because after we broke up he said he thought there was hope for us but not for a while. However, the last time I saw him he gave me a hug and said he’d see me around. I know I need to let him go, because he clearly is no longer is interested in talking to me, or interested in me, but it physically hurts some days.
Viviene

February 21, 2018 at 4:00 am

Okay. My situation has been complicated. Weve been together almost two years now, we lived in together when we broke up he packed all his things and left. He broke up with me officially last October due to third party I have been begging and been on my knees asking for forgiveness he slapped me so I walked away. Two weeks later he shows up at my house because he says he misses me. I’ve been trying to patch things up with him but when he remembers what I did he gets mad and leaves me and I let him. I didn’t want to look desperate anymore. After one week he would contact me or show up at my house unexpectedly this has been happening on and off. And we got a huge fight last Feb 14 because I got mad and he got mad too. We ended up fighting again and crying. He said he never wants to see me again. I chatted him on the 15th and told him I was sorry and that I would wait for him no matter what. He said to leave him alone because he wants to be happy. I don’t know what to do. I admit I was a bit clingy and needy when he came back and I probably ruined my chances of getting him back. Its been 7 days of no contact. I miss him very much. He hasn’t showed up or messaged me like he use to every time he leaves. I’m worried.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 25, 2018 at 3:41 pm

Hi Vivienne,

Check this one:
EBR 020- How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If YOU Cheated

Agnes

February 20, 2018 at 11:29 am

My ex broke up with me 4 months ago. I don’t contact him at all, he is the one who reaches out to me a few times a month. It doesnt lead to knowhere so I started ignoring him. He acts like my no contact is childish. He thinks it is immature, he acts like the relationship and the break up was no big deal and that we should act like normal adults who can talk to each other from time to time. So he is like “dont be childish, stop fighting with me, we should be friends!” and he doesnt understand why I no longer want him in my life, he wants me to feel guilty for being immature kid who ignores him. So frustrating. What is his true mindset?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 23, 2018 at 5:46 pm

Hi Agnes,

If it’s been months, it looks like he wants to friendzone you.. That way he can still do what he’s used to doing with you, talk. He probably enjoyed that while he’s still with you. Continuing being friends means he doesn’t have to get back with you to talk.. Or he wants to be friends with benefits later on..

Radka

February 19, 2018 at 7:17 pm

my ex broke up with me after 11 months, we had a couple of fights during the relationship about him not being able to say I love you. He never heard it from his parents and all his previous relationships ended up pretty bad. He was showing me love tho, he was kind, always there for me and helped me with everything, but it just wasnt enough for me and I wanted him to say that and he couldnt. Our last fight was the same and I told him to leave and he asked me if I am sure and I was very sad and hurt and said I didnt care, but of course I did care. He tried to hug me but I pushed him and he said: ok I am done I cant do this anymore. In that moment I realised I destroyed it. I tried to talk to him and beg and everything but he left. I tried to apologise many times, he came 3 days later to bring me all my stuff and return my keys. We had a long talk full of crying and holding hands and hugging and I asked him if we can try again , but this time slowly and that I wanna earn his respect and love and that I know I did mistakes. He said he would think about it. We met a couple days later and ended up in the bed but afterward he was texting me and it was nice, he even said we could go on dinner and everything. I tried to stay calm but I was getting to emotional again and acting like his gf and he got scared. The day of dinner he said: hi I am sorry and I really dont want you be sad but I cant make it tonight. and I said it was ok and that I would still like to see him soon if possible, he said that we are both going to live at least 60 more years so a couple of days of waiting wont harm and that I cant rush things. I called him and said that he is right and that I really wanna fight for him and that I know he wants to take things slow but that it makes me desperate and that I wanna see him cause I believe that spending some nice time together would help us to feel better (but he wasnt ready yet and I didnt realise that) and he said he doesnt wanna see me or do stuff with me that he is sure about his decision and that it is over and thats it. I tried to call him of course but he never picked up and ignored my messages. I wanna try the NC for next 3o days, cause I believe that without stress and pressure he might finally have a chance to miss me and think about the good stuff. I wasnt perfect but I was a good gf to him, I had my moments and was pressuring him cause I wanted to get something but I gave him a lot of love. I believe he got scared and felt pressured again and just run away. Do you think I could have a chance to get him back? It is really hard to not to talk to him after such a long time of daily contact but I have already deleted his number and wanna give him space rn to calm down. What do you think?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 21, 2018 at 3:25 pm

Hi Radka

have you taken our quiz? Yes do nc but do it more for yourself, not just to give him space.

Alice

February 19, 2018 at 4:10 am

Hi, my ex broke up sth me after a 7-year relationship. We did long distance in the last 3 years or so. He said it’s too painful for him and that he has had a crush on a friend closeby. He also thought I had lost interest in him, but after the breakup I made it clear to him that wasn’t the case and that I wanted to try rebuilding the relationship. He had said yes at first, but then chose to stay broken up because it would be easier for him. He told me to go find someone else to build a strong relationship with. I still want him back. I’ve been doing nc for nearly 3 weeks. But surely if I post anything about my new life, it would send him a signal I have moved on and he’ll be happy about forgetting me?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 20, 2018 at 3:02 pm

Hi Alice,

You already asured him that you didn’t lose interest but he still wanted to stay broken up. That’s because the real reason probably is the other girl.. Now, do you want him to think you’re chasing and just there waiting?

Quel

February 19, 2018 at 2:32 am

Hi. I have the feel that my ex is starting with another girl and he may tell me this week (long story but something is happening and I think that he may be telling me). We broke up several months ago and after NC we have been texting each other and flirting. I want him back but I don’t know what can I do. If he is dating another girl and he tells me, what should I say?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 20, 2018 at 2:50 pm

Hi Quel,
If you’re friends, then just support him.. You’re not together.. He didn’t say he wants to get back with you.. So, it’s either you move on or you just stay friends with him or if you’ve only done nc once, do it again for the last time because right now, it looks like you’re friendzoned

Liza

February 19, 2018 at 2:09 am

It’s been a month. And he unfollowed me in most social media’s because of his gf (she’s insecure) he did let me know that when we broke up, because he said it would be best for us. So how can he see I’m doing fine? 🙁 I have gained some weight since then. I have nothing good to show tbh

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 20, 2018 at 2:47 pm

Hi Liza
It’s not yet late to start improving yourself.. You can still be active in posting just make it public

Jenna

February 17, 2018 at 12:53 am

Hi, I was dating this guy for 3 months. It wasnt anything perfect , but we had a great time. I then had to leave across the country for a job offer, we tried long distance for a few months but it didnt work. Yet we never really broke up officially. We stayed in touch for another two months, he was leading me on saying he’d move, until one day he ignored my New Years message and the follow up. I deleted him from social media. Not sure how to handle this as I would still love to reconnect, but dont want to make the first move.

Thanks!

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 19, 2018 at 1:33 pm

Hi Jenna,

Check this one:
The Complete Guide To Getting An Ex Boyfriend Back In A Long Distance Relationship

Amy

February 16, 2018 at 3:30 pm

Was having distant relationship (3 hour drive from each other). He dumped me quoting the distance was becoming a problem due to work and family pressures. He is working hard in stressful job and trying to get promoted and has to travel around the country (U.K.) but more up north whilst I live in the south. I offered to travel to him but he did not accept. He never lost contact, continued to message and we both obviously missed the physical side. He asked to meet up but then work again interfered. He says he still fancies me, misses me, is confused but doesn’t want to lead me on. I said I needed nc to move on and be said he hoped I find someone really nice and do well in my business. I have deleted him, his photos etc but he has friended me on snapchat. What to do next? I love him and would love to be back with him. I am 21 and he is 32.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 19, 2018 at 12:49 pm

Hi Amy,

check this one:
If You Had a Long Distance Breakup Here Is How You Get Back Together

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