384 thoughts on “I Don’t See Us Getting Back Together… What Does It Mean?”

1. 

   Elena

   May 20, 2015 at 9:30 pm

   What is my game plan?

   We broke up a year ago. I moved out 4 months ago. Until then we hooked up every once in a while.
   I am 99% sure he hasn’t been with anyone else until now. He is a good looking successful guy. I am a good looking successful woman.
   We haven’t had much contact until now. Hooked up in the weekend really drunk. He told me he loved me and he is dreaming about me constantly. In the morning he told me ot was a lie.
   We slept together the following night at his place. I noticed he had a framed photo of me on his shelve.
   He isn’t contacting me after.

   Am I right that he is still into me and wants to be with me? While drunk he also told me he wants me to be his girlfriend.

   Now, what should I do to give him confidence to ask me out, have a talk, mive towards a relationship?
   I want him to spend time with me, organize things together, talk to me about his day, aske questions, make plans, all the normal stuff.

   No contact doesn’t work with him. Correct me if I am wrong, but I feel that he thinks that he is not good enough for me and that he will never feel enough (not true!). So if ai drift away he will just leave me be.

   But if I contact then he takes time to answer and it is a real striggle to get him out.

   I have even noticed that his friends eant to get us back together. I have met those guys sometimes and they make very clear hints.

   I really love him and want a life with him. I don’t want to change him in any way. I just want to have a normal relationship.

   What should be my game?

1. 

   Chris Seiter

   May 21, 2015 at 3:42 pm

   He could be saying that “Im not good enough for you” stuff to fish for compliments.

2. 

   Zola009

   May 20, 2015 at 6:16 pm

   Hi Chris!

   I have loved your website from day 1 and must say, love the new look of it too! 🙂 You are amazing at giving ex advice(Not that you need anymore validation, cause you know you are the god of getting back our ex’s..hahaha)
   So, quick question,

   Would you consider it a bad sign, if my ex said that we would never get back together because his family does not approve of us? It has always been a problem from the start.
   Really want to know what you think.

   Thanks!!

1. 

   ZOLA009

   May 25, 2015 at 1:19 pm

   Yes in fact he and his family are a part of the Indian community! ( spot on 🙂 )
   he always stressed that he doesn’t wanna end things but because he doesn’t see it going anywhere cause of his family we must put an end to it 🙁
   What do I do?

   I know ur super busy but thanks for taking the time to reply! 🙂

2. 

   S

   May 21, 2015 at 6:10 pm

   Oh the caste system in India. Main problem why it’s tough having relationships here. My ex and I have the caste problem too. :/ That’s why he finds it difficult to commit to me.

3. 

   Chris Seiter

   June 1, 2015 at 6:10 pm

   Ya that is very difficult.

   I am from the states and took a course about the caste. I also talked to an indian man on a plane about it.

   Its very tough to overcome.

4. 

   Chris Seiter

   May 21, 2015 at 3:39 pm

   The god of getting back an ex…

   I LIKE IT!

   I have a question.

   Is he part of the caste system or located in india?

   Him and his family I mean?

3. 

   Lena

   May 20, 2015 at 6:07 pm

   Chris,
   after completing the NC for 30 days I’ve reached out to the ex. We had a few really good chats, he was very nice, complementing, we even skyped said he missed me but I iniciated all the talking.

   Is it possible he’s just being nice to me when I text and polite enough to answer because he wants to friend zone me?
   I have no way of knowing if he’s in a rebound relationship or if he’s back with his ex or not – we were an LDR..
   Should I keep on instigating the talking?
   If he would be interested in maybe possible getting back togther, wouldn’t he be iniciatng some chats by now?
   Reason for breakup was, he wasn’t ready for commitment. We dated a year.
   How do I know when to stop chatting? He’s being very responsive but doesn’t initiate anything, even after a week of silence from me.

1. 

   Chris Seiter

   May 21, 2015 at 3:37 pm

   Its not impossible but its too early to tell.

   Keep slowly instigating and slowly building attraction. Try to transition from texting to phone calls.