I Want My Ex Back But He Wont Even Talk To Me

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Amanda

November 29, 2019 at 7:25 pm

A little back story.. my ex boyfriend and I were together almost 2 years. What started out as long distance for almost 7 months, changed when he moved to my state for a few months. His job offered him an offer to great to pass up to come back and I supported the decision. We continued long distance for for a few more months, then came the decision for me move to his state 2.5 hours away to take our relationship to the next level, long term commitment. Ive now been her 6 months, and it has been damn near perfect. The past 2 months have been challenging as life became more real. His stress level at work has increased which overflowed to home. He became distant and shut off to me, his health issues (Crohns among others) have exacerbated, he is down all the time. Ive tried to be supportive, it pushes him away. Ive tried stepping back, it pushes him away. Ive been my normal happy, flirtacious, laughing, joking self with him.. nothing. Ive questioned what is wrong with me, how can I make you so happy but yet be shut out. It caused friction and disagreements, then I feel Im walking on eggshells to not trigger anything. So, two weeks ago, I took a girls trip with my girlfriends from back home. Very little communication due to one, the location in the mountains, and two, he rarely responded. Which I thought may do us some goox, a few days apart. When I came home I was so excited to see him, and he just seemed as distant. Irritated even. The next day after work we had dinner, everything just seemed off. He kissed me the next morning and we told each other we loved each other like always when I walk him to the door every morning. That evening we rode around talking (just something we always enjoyed doing), and he basically said I love you and I dont want you to go, but this isnt working and I dont know how to fix it. He said it may be him, it may be me, or both if us. He said the very thing that he wants (us) is the very thing that scares him. And that maybe we should just stay together through the holidays, which I said I couldnt pretend knowing we were over. That night I packed a small bag and stayed at a friends house to give him a little space. We didnt talk at all. I texted him the following afternoon and just simply said I love you, he responded back with I love you. He said that has never been in question. I went back to the house after work and he was across the street at him mom’s so I called him and told him I was home. He said get what you need, but I dont want to see you or talk to you. I got my clothes and went on. On Friday we spoke and he basically repeated everything that he originally said. Tuesday, we texted, and he said we needed to make arrangements to move my things. I asked what worked best for him, and he said he didnt know. Since then he changed his FB picture and page to say separated, not single, which is just confusing. Im visiting my son and DIL for Thanksgiving, and I checked myself in to the Army base where he is stationed, and yesterday the ex liked that post. His family is shocked. Our friends are shocked. Im devastated and feel like Ive been hit out of nowhere. Another back story, he married his high school sweetheart who after 13 years cheated on him and divorced him. It was really messy to the point where they continue to not communicate. He said from all he went through with her that he doesnt know if he could ever truly be happy, and maybe he is just permanently ruined. I do know he still loves me very much, he has told everyone this since he called it quits. I just dont know what to do. Do I continue to give him space? Do I move on? I don’t want him to feel I gave up on him. Do I go back to my state? Stay here? How long do I wait? I don’t feel I would get anywhere with him if we discussed it, as shut down as he is. I feel it will push him further away. He has all the symptoms of depression, and his doctor picked up on it, but he refuses medication. He has even mentioned that he is so stressed it would be easy for him to just put a gun in his mouth. I’m lost and torn on what to do. Help please!!

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 4, 2019 at 7:38 pm

Hey Amanda, so it sounds as if your ex needs the head space to deal with their emotions, as much as it is hard to accept at times people need to just be alone so start and stick to a no contact, where you do not reply or reach out to him for for minimum 30 days and hope that he seeks professional help to deal with his emotions if he is feeling that low. So follow the program and stick with it working your way through the stages

alicia

November 26, 2019 at 11:05 pm

my boyfriend n i were dating for 9 months n he finally broke it off on saturday morning. we hung out on friday everything was perfect then boom he leaves and then ghosts me, i called his dad about it and told him everything, yesterday he ghosted me all day, i only saw him after school when my mom came to get me n i feel hurt bc i just need closure, i heard a lot of rumours about him yesterday n apparently he feels like im gonna yell at him n force him into the relationship when its not my intention. we agreed to talk today n at lunch i see him and hes laughing, running and looking like hes having so much fun and thats when i started to break inside, i didnt say anything to him but why is he ignoring me after he hurt me ? n now its to the point where i dont even wanna try to talk to him n i jus get so tempted to n now idk what to do ‍♀️

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 1, 2019 at 12:06 am

Hi Alicia, it sounds as if you are of school age? It is hard to get a guy to be open to having those sort of conversations at a younger age. They dont really tend to mature in that way for a while. Just know if he has ended things with you it has nothing to do with you its about him. Rise above the things he says and show him how indifferent you are to not seeing each other anymore

Stephanie

November 25, 2019 at 7:24 pm

My boyfriend of 7 mnths everything was perfect barely fought but I did see how he would hold alot in by the look on his face, we kinda rushed in and lived together and i have 3 teenagers that are not his, he dont have kids when we was together we would chill talk and love eachother more, he did find a texted of my best friend talking stuff about him and I did eliminate her from my life blocked her and did no longer talk to her so one day she shows up to our appointment, he got upset felt like I betrayed him I did ask her to leave but his whole vibe changed I asked him what was wrong to please talk about it, he started getting dressed to leave and I would let him go, I even pushed him because I got mad over how he was acting and I should have did that because that caused the break up now he wont talk to me my son texted him yesterday that he missed him I havent talked to him sense friday it was not about the relationship, I miss him so much, i just want my best friend back it’s been 2 weeks but i have been calling him and texting him, he does respond but I’m starting to get the hint to leave him alone because I want him back.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 26, 2019 at 8:03 pm

Hi Stephanie, as you said yourself you need to leave him alone, you need to go into a no contact now. And considering how badly the break up sounds I suggest 45 days no contact and ask your son not to reach out to him again either. If he wants a break up and space allow him to have that.

Janna

November 21, 2019 at 10:49 am

Hi Chris ,

I cheated on my boyfriend of 6 months . We were madly in love . He was absolutely infatuated with me . His friends , family my friends and family
Both could see how much he absolutely adored me and I felt the same back . I cheated on the last two months of our relationship . With an ex who meant a lot to me . Come to find out he doesn’t mean anything anymore . The man I cheated on was the real deal . A good man with a good head on his shoulders . He’s young Tho. 21 and I’m 29.
He’s never been hurt like this before . At first he wouldn’t talk to me when it happened then a few weeks past and he came back like nothing bad happened . He still kept space . Sleeeping over every other night . One night he was out at a bar with his friends and didn’t answer me for three hours. I freaked out for scared he apologized and said it wouldn’t happen . He stayed with me two more days after that then went home again and spent time with friends . We talked all night we were
Good . I got drunk and called him names and said mean things . After that he wanted burning to do with me . He broke up with me said he loved me but could never be with me . I begged and begged and cried and tried so hard to get him back . He got further away and stopped responding . So finally I started NC within the first two weeks of it the only contact I by accidentally did was send him two songs on Snapchat since he still has me on there .
He opened the first one and the second still hasn’t been open it’s ben 7 days since then.

He claimed to have put a spy camera in my room and has proof I cheated . I found the camera . My father was upset and kept trying to get it from him . He then said he didn’t ever figure out how to use it so there never was one he said it out of anger . I was still in no contact but my dad was contacting him . Finally he contacted me to reassure me there was no tape and he just wanted to be done with all of this. I said I know I want him to be happy I know he’s trying to forget me I’m trying to respect that and I’m sorry it ended this way . He responded with “ me too and I’m sorry I said those things . I mentioned I hope one day when he’s ready we don’t have to be strangers and I cared about him a lot . He said he cared about me a lot too and always has . I resosonded with I hope he continues to be the amazing guy he is and finds the happiness he deserves . He said nothing . So now it’s day 2 of NC . Do I have a chance of getting him back if I do fully 30 day NC and then send a letter at the end ? He’s a hopeless romantic I think he would like the letter.
Or do you think the strong crazy intense love he has for me is fading and maybe was never real ?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 24, 2019 at 6:26 pm

Hey Janna, so if you complete the no contact full you are going to give yourself your best chance of getting him back but it sounds like the relationship had become toxic so you may need to do a 45 day no contact to give him the chance to get over all the negative he has gone through, including the hurt of you cheating on him. Read up articles that Chris has done about cheating and what to do when you break up and use that to help yourself in this situation

Perso

November 19, 2019 at 5:29 am

Hello,

So I got into a fight with my boyfriend over something not even that important. We have been dating for 3 months. He was really head over heels, was texting me everyday and we were seeing each other almost everyday. He was married previously and his ex wife left him. She told him she just doesnt love him anymore.

Everything we get into a small arguments he always assume that I am breaking up with me which is not true. Last week we got a small argument and he took it personal. He asked me to go see him because he is not feeling well and he needs to talk to me. I went to see him and it turned out into a fight. At some point we were able to calm down and find some peace but then we opened the subject again and it turned out bad. I need a time off so I went to the bathroom and started to cry. When I got out from the bathroom I was really exhausted, feeling sick and dizzy at this point I just wanted to go and rest up. So I put my jacket on and was about to leave and thats when he said ” i just want to make sure, are you leaving because we are over” ? So out of frustration I told him ” I cant believe you are even asking that, but yea sure we are”. I walked out and felt really terrible. After 5 minutes I went back in, but he was furious. He didnt even let me hug him or anything. He just told me it doesnt work that way I cant just tell him its over and walk away and come back. He told me to leave. I tried to calm him down but he sais listen if ur not leaving I am the one leaving. So he left … then I went back home. That same night he had deleted me of fb, blocked me on instagram and whatsapp. 3 days later he unblocks me and send me a message on whatsapp saying that I am really good person but we dont know how to communicate with each other. That he loves me a lot and he doesnt think that will ever change and its better we move on. He also said that once and ex is an ex she doesnt exist anymore. I was truly hurt and I triee having a conversation with him that turned out into an other fight because we were both still upset. Knowing that the day before the breakup he also told me its over on whatsapp and then he deleted the message. He thought I didnt see it but I did. I told him in real life you cant delete what you say so why is it ok for him to say it and remove it but me who came back right after its not ok?

A couple of days ago I sent him a message saying that I appologize for hurting his feeling by walking away. And im not ready to give up. But if he already did I hope he can accept my appology so I can move on with a clean heart. He never responded. Yesterday I saw he looked at my stories on whatsapp but no other communication. I decided to go into the no contact rule. Its been now 8 days since the break up but 4 days no contact.

He was really involved into my life and with my family. He was really deeply in love with me but really insecure. Now I am just really suprised how hes been acting so cold.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 23, 2019 at 11:02 pm

Complete your NC and then reach out to your ex as a friend and do not bring up the relationship. Try to have a positive and short conversation the first time around, and then build up gradually to reattract them

Nancy

November 17, 2019 at 9:19 pm

My ex and I dated for 3 years and just recently broke up with me as he said he was no longer happy in the relationship and stressed out. We met up after a month of being apart and I told him how I wanted to work things out he said he wasn’t ready yet and then started to make out with me. He has become very distant since then and keeps giving me mixed signals. Says he wants to keep in touch but not too often. We had planned to get engaged this year and had gone ring shopping and now I feel so distant from him. Tried the NC and didn’t make it till the 30 days.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 23, 2019 at 11:42 am

Hi Nancy you need to complete a full NC and work on yourself in that time, making sure that you have that time apart to let him miss you and forget any negative feelings he had towards you. During this time you need to work on becoming Ungettable so that you can re attract your ex when you start talking to him agian

Lauren

November 14, 2019 at 8:06 pm

My boyfriend of a year and a half and I broke up about a month and half ago. We were like best friends but we were just always fighting and didn’t want to keep needing each other for our individual happiness. So we decided to break up and then maybe one day get back together. While broken up I still saw him every few days because we go to school together and we still talked as friends because that’s what we were the whole time we were dating anyway. Except last weekend I kissed a boy we used to go to school with. I immediately felt so bad about it the next day and I decided I had to be honest and tell him before he found out some other way. He got so mad he blocked me on everything and hasn’t said a word to me since. I sent dozens of messages and calls apologizing but he never said a word. I want him back. I know it’s a long shot though because he knows how to hold a grudge. I know I made a mistake but we were broken up and it didn’t mean anything? I just don’t know what to do to feel less guilty and make things right between us.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 14, 2019 at 11:52 pm

Hi Lauren, so he will eventually calm down he is more than likely hurt that you appear to have moved on. So you need to give him some space and look up the Limited NC while you are in school together the rest of the time you stay in normal NC. Do some work on yourself in the mean time ( look up ungettable girl on this website)

Ale

November 9, 2019 at 9:00 pm

First off before I go off and tell my story. I love Aaron so much. We have so much in common. We play the same games, watch the same things, our birthdays are two days apart. I feel awful not being with him. Here is my story: 11 months gone
So I guess this boy was my first love. I love my ex boyfriend very much. We are both 20 years old but we’re raised by strict parents but in different ways. My parents being protective and his mom being controlling. I love Aaron more than anything and I have done some regrettable things like being obsessive. So on sept 19 Aaron and I had our first fight after being together for 9 months. We don’t even remember what it’s about. However his family and friends misunderstood the situation and in his words “ganged up” on him got in his head saying he was changing and didn’t need to be with me because I was bad for him. Now from my point of view I have done my best for Aaron when he got with me his grades improved, he was happier, etc. And I made a lot of sacrifices for Aaron like moving closer to him. Now his mom scared him so much out of our relationship, because she threatened to stop paying for his college and phone (which she hasn’t told him but they use his student loans to pay for everything). Me and him were rocky for the two weeks after that. But ultimately we decided to stay together but where his friends and family didn’t know. Occasionally I would urge him to tell people or I couldn’t stay with him because I felt like I wasn’t good enough for him to stand up for me. Well he went to tell his mom last Saturday and she completely shut him down and told him she didn’t want to talk. The next day he came over we watched my favorite movie and had an amazing day Sunday. Confessing how we truely love each other and never want to separate. On Monday I kind of fell apart because he promised to tell his best friend about us which he did that night after I had gotten upset. His best friend was supportive and very understanding. But Tuesday morning his best friend told Aarons mom because he was concerned which I understand. I showed up on campus to comfort him and took him over to my place to comfort him more to which he really just wanted to go home so I gave up and started driving him home. When I walked him up to his door he hugged me kissed me and told me he was never going to leave me. When I got home he had gotten off the phone with his mom, who immediately turned his cell phone service off so I couldn’t talk to him. I contacted him through Snapchat and I could hear the hurt in his voice. He wouldn’t be hurting if he didn’t love me, right? Sadly his mom pretended to be him and contacted our university and filed a no contact form through title ix coordinator which means I’m not supposed to contact him. I have proof of him saying he didn’t contact the title ix coordinator. Which I had to go to that meeting yesterday but I’ll get to that later. I have proof of him saying he loves me and never wants to leave me. But he is gone now. He locks up when his mom becomes this toxic manipulative person. I understand it’s what he is used to and how he was raised which is why he locks up and just lets her run his life, he is so used to it. However Tuesday night the title ix no contact order went through which meant neither of us could contact one another. On Wednesday morning I asked him if we could meet and talk in person and we were going to until his sister showed up and escorted him to where he was going. That same day his mom showed up to our university and took him back home to Georgia. Although there was a no contact order put out I continued trying to contact him and be there for him. I know it’s wrong but I logged into his stuff and unblocked myself to try to talk to him. Because he was the one that said hey I have to block you on snapchat but my email is open. I logged in to his email to see if he is reading them. He isn’t reading them but he also isn’t deleting them. It turned out he was just reporting me every-time I emailed him. So I tried talking to the best friend he told, who he reads my messages through group me but didnt reply and just sent my messages to the title ix coordinator. Aaron’s actions aren’t justifiable but he is used to his mom running his life and I think she doesn’t like me because I was teaching him to grow up. In the meeting I went to yesterday it turned out Aarons family was in that meeting with him, which is why he couldn’t tell the lady that he didn’t do it. One of our mutual friends told me Aaron said I was making that stuff up about his mom and I was crazy. Is he saying this to just protect himself while he is at his parents house? All I feel is sadness that my sweet baby is gone. I just wanna save Aaron from this crazy family dynamic he is in. I know there isn’t much I can do but I’ll accept any advice. I love this man and I know I need to give him time but it’s hard talking to someone everyday for 11 months then just not talking at all. All I wanna do is apologize and hold him and tell him everything will be okay. I know now i should have never talked about his mom in front of him, forced him to tell people when he wasn’t ready, and I should have never gave him ultimatums. I regret a lot but right now he is being really mean to me by calling me crazy and stuff that hurts so much. I want him to see that I’m sorry because I really am. I feel like he is the one but I have no patience.
Kiarra

November 7, 2019 at 6:36 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me because he said he is not interested in our relationship anymore that he doesnt think he is in the right place. He said he still love me and care for me but he still broke up with me. I love him so much that i really dont know what to do. Now he is not even talking to me. I dont know what i will do. Weve been together for a year now . We argue for small things about his feelings but were able to fix that. But he just have this thinking that im not enough for him. That he is looking for something different. I dont know how i can get him back .. pls help

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 8, 2019 at 4:57 pm

Hi Kiarra so go to find some Ungettable girl posts, and learn about self worth. You are MORE THAN ENOUGH, and the fact he said that to you is awful. He is not better than you nor you better than he. So working on yourself and doing a No Contact in the mean time is essential here. Focusing on you your life and your friends.

Justin

October 24, 2019 at 9:05 pm

So I’m a guy talking about my ex girlfriend of 1 year. We had a arguement and we decided we needed some time apart it I asked for some things ha the next day and she gave me almost everything she said her parents packed most of it. But we were so in live she was just telling me 4 days ago that she wants to work it out just doesn’t know what she wants to now I asked her dad if she was done he said yes. But she will not tell me she is done she has infriended me on social media but still has pictures of us but I ask her to tell me if she is done and she will not reply I have tried to say things just to get her to reply and she won’t say anything.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 24, 2019 at 9:57 pm

Hey Justin give her some space with NC and let her calm down and in the mean time you focus on yourself for 30 days and be in a better place when you reach out again. Unfriending is pretty common after a break up so dont over think that one

Aimee

October 24, 2019 at 12:40 pm

I have followed your advice to finally do no contact, it is day 17 today. I am just so scared he isn’t going to contact me as I’m still blocked and he has a new girlfriend who he got with straight away (for months he was seeing me behind her back and unblocking and messaging me) I last saw him 17 days ago we had a massive fight as he didnt want to see or talk to me as I have begged him all year, he hugged me and said he will be in touch when hes ready to talk on his terms. I have wrote a letter I am tempted to send, or shall I wait till day 30? I cant let go I know he is my soulmate 🙁

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 24, 2019 at 8:42 pm

Hi Aimee, so first its great you’re doing the NC and that letter you wrote – does not need to be sent to him. I believe that writing it out helps YOU get over what youve been feeling but sending it to him is just going to tell him youre walking away and are done it is something we recommend doing as a LAST LAST attempt and you’re only starting your process here. So focus on posting Ungettable Girl things on social media (he will be looking) and working on getting yourself over what went wrong and the break up and focus on being a happy person again then reach out through text with a hook message, also read as much as you can of the articles that apply to you they are really helpful tools to guide you through the process

Anonymous

October 22, 2019 at 10:41 am

My ex broke up with me in August. Immediately after, it seemed like he wanted to try and work things out, but he definitely wasn’t ready to get back together. I went back and forth with whether or not I would be ok with slowing things down and going with the flow, and I would verbalize this to him. One week I was ok with it, the next week I wasn’t. He got tired of the back and forth and now he doesn’t want to deal with me at all anymore. Before he would always text me back and let me talk about my feelings regarding the breakup, he would be very responsive and understanding. He was putting forth effort and initiating dates and even trips with me, but he would never say let’s get back together. I think I could have won him over if I had just gone with the flow but I didn’t and now I think I’ve pushed him away completely.
Catherine

October 17, 2019 at 6:38 pm

Hi my ex broke up with me on Monday night.. he’s told me not to text him which I’ve done only because I don’t want to ruin any slim chance of us getting back together (possibly) I don’t want to make him anymore angry than he was when he finished things with me.. I’m finding it very hard not to pick up the phone and say hi.. we used to chat on WhatsApp And he told me on Monday night to block him but I told him I wouldn’t do it then he said to me maybe he should do it but he didn’t block me either.. I believe he still has feelings for me I believe he may eventually want to come back to me.. he’s been online as I’ve seen him which makes me confused as I don’t know what this means am I stupid for even thinking there’s a chance we’ll get back together.. I’m afraid that If I don’t contact him that he’ll think I don’t care and he’ll think I’ve moved on which couldn’t be further from the truth.. he’s the love of my life, he’s the 1st man I ever fell in love with and that’s why this hurts so bad I really really need advice on what to do on how to win him back and to cope with missing him so much

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 20, 2019 at 9:33 pm

Hi Catherine, he isnt going to forget you or think that you dont care if you take some time to do NC it is actually going to give him a chance to miss you. Use social media to show youre out doing things and living your life thats going to have much more of an effect on him than sitting at home crying because he expects that of you

Rachel

October 11, 2019 at 2:25 pm

My ex and I broke up about 2 weeks ago. We have been dating since December of last year. We literally had THE PERFECT relationship and never fought about anything and both said we have never been so in love, our connection is just so strong. Everything was perfect. He was struggling with something though. He was struggling with my past because he asked how many people I have slept with and he thought it was too many even though his number was the same. I have never cheated, was fully honest. He even said he knows it shouldn’t bother him and he’s a hypocrite but his mind doesn’t work normally and he needs to get himself better and love himself because he’s been distracting himself with girls and relationships. He says he loves me so much he just doesn’t understand what to do other than time apart. We aren’t calling it a break but we both hope that one day it’s something that won’t bother him anymore. He says he doesn’t want to string me along and make me “wait” for him. We saw each other on my birthday a few days ago and we cried the whole time pretty much and he felt terrible and sad. We just started no contact yesterday. He said “I love you and now we shouldn’t be talking”. We have been in a long distance relationship (6 hours apart) and I am moving back to my hometown which is 10 minutes from him in November. I am hoping we can try again but he says we can’t until he is fully healed. What do you recommend I do next? Is there hope?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 11, 2019 at 8:04 pm

Hi Rachel, so stick with your NC for 30 days while you are broken up! And as for his reasons to end things its really unfair to punish you for something that has happened before you had a relationship! There may be hope, but HE NEEDS to grow up. At this point I suggest not to post any images of you and other guys online etc for the short term basis as he may assume the wrong things. But when you reach out after your NC you need to re attract him and see if he is over the issue of your number of past lovers. If he isn’t then you need to decide if something like that is worth your time.

Anastasia

October 9, 2019 at 9:52 pm

Hi, please Help. Over two weeks ago I have stupidly lost the love of my life. I know for a fact that this needed to happen in order to start appreciating each other more. We have been going out for nearly two years, we planned our future together. Everyone knew us as the “power couple”, everything was perfect until he decided to drop out of uni in order to start a different course in a different city. The last few months before he moved, I started overthinking everything. I wasn’t focusing on enjoying the time while being with him, instead I was just being negative over the long distance. So this month, he invited me to his new place and I just couldn’t be happy for him due to me just constantly thinking how much I will miss him. In the last few months we have been constantly getting jealous over both of us being friends with the opposite sex. He hated the fact, his best mate spoke to me because he thought he liked me so he nearly broke up with me when he found out his mate called me for like a minute to talk about his metal health. I have also become super jealous but it was different because I didn’t know any of the girls he has met in the new city. I broke up with him unintentionally because he gave out a number to some girl from his course. However, I immediately took it back and said I don’t want to break up. This is where he started crying and said that he thinks we should break up because he needs to find himself and he doesn’t know how to cope with out jealousy. It has now been two weeks since the break up, he is not talking to me at all (since about a week ago, but it was very blunt). He unfollowed me on social media but still has two of our pictures up on his instagram. I have been such a mess since the break up, and everyone around me is so shocked because we were the perfect couple. We have never ever had a break or break up, our relationship was beautiful but quite intense as we did everything together. I love him so much, and I know he loves me as well but I just don’t know how to get him back. I have realised over the last two weeks all the things I have been doing wrong (such as both of us having our instagrams, locations etc). It is weird because I feel like I trust him more now then i ever did. I want him to know that I would never get jealous again, I just want to give this another chance. I will never focus on the negatives again only the positives. I can’t imagine my life without him. We are made for each other and I truly believe it. I have not reached out to him since a week ago, and I’m not planning to for another 2 weeks. I have lost a fair amount of weight during this break up, I also started pole dancing and I am going to the gym. I want to reach out to him in 2 weeks to see how he is doing and ask him if he could bring my things as he has friends here as well. Do you think, I’m doing the right thing? We have never spent a day without speaking for the last two days so this is really hard for me. I hope he doesn’t forget about me and still loves me <3

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 9, 2019 at 10:26 pm

Hi Anastasia, hes not going to forget you, you do however need to do a 30 day No Contact before you start talking to him again

Isa

October 7, 2019 at 7:49 pm

So my bf broke up with me about 2 weeks ago now… he decided to end things Bc he moved to college which was 3 hours away from me and the distance was causing us to fight and it was taking away from his study time… after the break up we went 3 days without talk till he got a college care package I sent him the day before the break up… after he got the package we started talking about everyday again and everything seemed to be chill but I could tell he was extremely stressed with school. We haven’t seen each other since our anniversary which as a month and half ago so even after the break up he was still planning on coming down for my bday which is this week.. but I’m afraid everything is ruined now Bc we had a fight yesterday Bc he brought up coming down to see me but he didn’t want things to be awkward if we go somewhere nice since he planned to take me to this really nice pool but now Bc of the break up he wanted to talk so we could clear things up before we went on a big step like that… I took it the wrong way and thought he doesn’t wanna take me Bc he feels awkward being around me which I was confused about since we where together a year and plan to get back together once we have our life’s together… so now today I texted him asking if we could talk and he told me he needs his space and to respect it… but he was supposed to be coming down this Thursday and now I don’t know what to do Bc when we broke up it was a phone call since he’s 3 hours away so like I was hoping to see him to just talk to him in person about everything but now I’m worried I messed everything up and that he’s not gonna talk or come down to see me… what should I do?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 9, 2019 at 11:08 pm

Hey Isa, if you want your ex back you need to complete a 30 day NC to start this process and read as much of the materials you can that apply to your situation. Don’t reach out when hes home if you’re still doing a NC

Christina

September 20, 2019 at 5:02 pm

My boyfriend and I broke up last week. I was very rash and broke up with him over a text message. After a couple days- I reached out- heard nothing. I really regret this decision. After reading this article I am going to go into NO CONTACT mode for a while. I am hurting- and I think it would be healthy for me to focus on work/exercise. He is NOT blocked on my phone or social media- so the communication lines are open. I am hoping that both of us can work through this after some time has passed- but I might have hurt him too badly. I do miss him a lot- but this article has taught me to focus on myself during this time. Today, I am a mess and going to watch ROM-COMS and eat fast food. Tomorrow it’s back to my regular schedule.
Marie

September 19, 2019 at 9:20 am

me and my ex just broke up the other day. he broke up with me simply because he thought i was cheating on him. i just got out of the gym and i started calling him through facetime and this dude at the gym (that he’s jealous of) started talking to me out of nowhere! and my ex saw that. so my ex thought that i love going to the gym because of that guy.. he thought i’m always with that guy at the gym. also, he thinks i fuck other guys too, which i’m not. i just think it’s a really bad timing for the both of us. a lot of bad things had happened to us.. not to mention, we’re in a long-distance relationship. so i tried calling him but he’s not picking up, he replies to me every once in a while but he’s still mad and he’s really convinced that i’m cheating on him.. i don’t know what to do, i am so sad.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

September 19, 2019 at 5:14 pm

Hi Marie, if you want to prove you’re not cheating you are going to have to create some distance between you and the other guy. Give your ex some space and let him calm down because right now begging and pleading is just going to do more damage.

Ciara Behan

August 30, 2019 at 10:09 am

Myself and my ex broke up 3 weeks ago after being together for nearly 2 and a half years. We had been arguing as an old male school friend was liking all my posts on Facebook and my now ex wasnt happy about it and wanted me to delete all males on my Facebook page. I refused as I didnt think it was necessary so we argued about it and it just got out of hand and we both finished with each other. We have both since blocked each others numbers etc and havent spoken in just over a week.. I was and am still completely shocked over how it all happened so fast because we were planning on moving in together. We both have a child each from previous relationships and he was great to my child. He were having a few issues the past couple of months as we have had a lot of stuff thrown at us and I feel it all got to much for us and we took it out on each other but the past few weeks before we broke up with were getting on great and getting back to the way we use to be up until the argument that led to the break up. I had tried to contact him to try talk about things but he is very stubborn and hates talking about his feelings so he would rather ignore the situations. It is killing me not to contact him because I do believe that we could make things work and be together. I dont know what I am suppose to o as I am not ready to move on from him but also how can I try and get the relationship to work out if he has my number blocked. I have since unblocked his number and he knows this. I have also deleted my social media accounts as I know that I will end up contacting him on them. He wont block me on social media which I find weird as he blocked my number. I have never felt like this about anyone else before. He is a great person and even if we dont sort things out my opinion wont change on that.
Crystal Marsh

August 24, 2019 at 3:05 pm

I was dating this guy for about 4-5 months, but he would never make it official (we had a serious talk about it a few times) and he just said he wasn’t there yet. A couple weeks ago I was drinking and tried to kiss another guy (nothing ended up happening), but I didn’t tell the guy I was dating about it. Last week he ended up finding out and caught me in a lie and decided to end things with me because he thinks lying is part of my character and that I’ll do it again. I have never lied or cheated in past relationships so since he ended things a week ago I’ve been trying to dig deep to understand why I lied or even tried to kiss another guy when I liked him so much and saw a future with him. I feel like I have been feeling insecure or not confident in his feelings for me and the rollercoaster of emotions of wondering why he won’t commit to me when he says he has strong feelings for me. I feel like living in that grey area with him and kind of feeling not good enough or unwanted played into me making mistakes. We haven’t talked since he ended things a week ago and I haven’t tried to reach out even though I really want to. I know lying is never ok and I want to show him I can be trusted. I really want him to give me another chance and since I’m in the wrong do I need to break no contact and reach out first?

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