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279 thoughts on “I Want My Ex Boyfriend Back But He Doesn’t Want Me”

  1. CL

    August 24, 2020 at 5:51 pm

    My boyfriend and I dated for 9 months. The last month became strained with pressure of meeting his daughter and letting his ex wife now he was moving on and avoiding drama with her. It became a very sensitive topic and we both unfortunately held each other at arms length and started shutting each other until a fight we both just ended it. I can admit I started the break up talk but of course didn’t want it over but he ran with it and said he did. Now two days later I realize he was serious but don’t want to lose the chance for us to possibly get back together when emotions calm down because even though he says it’s over and move on I think it was more out of anger and frustration. He’s a stubborn southern man. I think my ridiculous offer would golf. He bought me clubs and I haven’t taken lessons yet. He loves golfs and I know he was excited of the idea of playing together. I can focus on me and maybe some golf lessons to get his attention that I am the girl he fell in love with.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      September 6, 2020 at 10:09 am

      Hey CL, make sure you stick with NC through this time but yes showing that you are going golfing without him is a good move along with doing things with your friends showing you are socialising. If you want him back make sure you reach out at the end of your NC period

  2. Jan

    July 29, 2020 at 6:18 pm

    What about that my ex who reply to my text, but not initiate any conversation anymore. I used to be the more shy passive one. And, we hooked also, can’t blame him, I knew our sex was great and he’s into some dirty talk thing, I kind of seduced him. But he doesn’t look like miss me emotionally at all, could he remember the good times later? But we broken up 5 months already. It’s there no chance but to move on. I was not that into work out but I started the routine lately although I have slim body with doing sport. It was when he break up with me, he said our interests are not alike and he has been not too happy in the relationship (I honestly didn’t sense, last meeting before break up was sweet, he even still make some sweet face when hooking up with me now) It’s look like no chances, move on and give up or still wait and try?? I have still way much feeling for him!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      July 31, 2020 at 12:57 pm

      Hi Jan, so you need to stop meeting him and sleeping with him you are making your situation a friends with benefits which is often difficult to get a relationship back from that. You need to follow a NO CONTACT for at least 45 days to make this program work for you. And work on your Holy trinity too

  3. Sabina

    July 13, 2020 at 1:56 am

    Hi
    We were in a long distance relationship for 7years. Several time we fight and get back to each other. But this time nothing works. The issue is why I’m talking with other mens in Fb. I was so angry and when he said it’s over I let him go. We didn’t contact to each other for last 17days. Now I am getting sick day by day. I told him all this but he didn’t believe me. He told me that he doesn’t want me anymore. He can’t trust me. I told him I’ll fix them all but… nothing works help me please I want to marry him.. we promised but now he doesn’t want

  4. Jennifer

    June 18, 2020 at 6:30 pm

    Hi, me and my boyfriend split up just over a week ago now. It’s our second breakup, and he doesn’t seem like he is going to change his mind. We are still friendly and still care for each other, but he said he doesn’t love me in that way anymore. He said he doesn’t want a relationship but we were together for 2 years. I love him so much and I wish there was something I could say to change his mind, but he is keeping himself distracted with things and not really reflecting on what has happened. I told him I was on a dating app and he didn’t want to hear anything about it. I was quite dependent on him as I suffer from mental health issues and he was who I turned to for it. He wanted more space and time which I was always reluctant to because of this, but we’ve gone from living together to being apart. I want him back but I don’t know what I can do.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      June 27, 2020 at 7:06 pm

      Hey Jennifer, if you want to try get your ex back then you need to read and follow the advice given in the articles starting with a No Contact for at least 30 days

  5. Shrushti

    May 28, 2020 at 3:47 pm

    My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago.We had a relationship of more than 3 years.Out of which we were in a long distance relationship for almost 1 year.During that span of time he visited me twice.When we were together we used to live together all the time and like to be together.We had fights earlier but we resolved them all and lived happily. When we got separated he went back home.once we had fight and he told he is not feeling anything for me and broke up.I cried and literally begged infront of him.He returned and visited me.Everything got settled.he loved me like he loved me before. Suddenly I became more possesive for him.Next time we had fight he didn’t tried hard to convince him. Things started to change and he told me he didn’t want to be in this relationship but loves me.
    Please help
    I really love him and does not want to lose him.He says he don’t want to be in relationship but neither he wants to lose me. I really want my relationship to work and succeed.

  6. Laura

    May 20, 2020 at 6:48 pm

    Hi,

    We dated for 6 months and he broke up with me less than a week ago. Things became strained with the pandemic and both of our living situations changed. He called to breakup with me and was crying very hard. He said he loved me very much but had to end it. He seemed hesitant to say why but eventually said he wanted to focus on his health as he was recently diagnosed with a semi-serious, but common medical issue. It was as good of a breakup could have went. No hostility and he said he loved me and I was the greatest woman he ever dated. The following day he sent me a long message using the nickname only he calls me. It was loving but he seemed pretty sure that this was the right call for him. He told me to move on with his blessing. He also said the pandemic had an effect on our relationship as we are both living with family and can’t get time alone. He needed to use this time to work on himself and said it had nothing to do with anything I could’ve done differently. While that sounds nice, if I’m being honest I became very clingy and irritable with the pandemic happening and didn’t respect his wishes for more space. I’m fairly certain that’s the real reason he wanted out. I responded to his text right away in a loving manner but telling him I wasn’t ready to talk. I asked him to consider meeting me in a few weeks but would respect whatever he wanted. He never responded to that text. Since the breakup he has been posting about “change” and how it’s really hard but necessary. Seeing that breaks my heart! I really believe he was my soul mate. How do I better my chances of getting him back?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      June 7, 2020 at 11:25 am

      Hey Laura, I would suggest that you start following the program with No Contact (this also includes social media) and just focusing on your Holy Trinity before reaching out to him in 30 days time.

  7. Ashley

    May 19, 2020 at 8:19 pm

    I broke up with my boyfriend because I thought I was a rebound, when I wasn’t. But he had broken up with me a few weeks prior because of issues we were having. He said “it’s not working” and that I have a temper and I’m too sensitive. But he immediately changed his mind that day after I cried and cried for him back, not a proud moment… that really stuck with me and then the next day I found out he reached out to his ex of 4 years (the one I assumed I was a rebound for) to wish her a happy birthday through her mom..? That was a red flag and it made me feel horrible, this led to the break up a few days ago. But when he didn’t chase after me at all and just agreed And once again stated “it hasn’t been working” I felt even more worthless and heartbroken. I do love him and I believe he loves me. He has been really good to me, but I do overthink and jump to conclusions rather than talking them out. We’ve only been together for 4 months though so I can’t help but think he is done. I know he’s attracted to an active woman, recently I started running with him before all of this. He would make comments about me looking sporty and how it was sexy to him. He also loves his dog, which I do too but I always told him he needed more training and I wasn’t a fan of his drool, and he didn’t like that. So I know that’s another aspect to work on. He loves the beach, like me. He is also obsessed with his motorcycle and has been wanting me to learn how to ride it for awhile but it just hadn’t happened yet. I sent a long text about how I think we can get through this but we both need some time and that I love him. I also said for him to not reply right away and just take some time and that he needs to focus on a job interview this Thursday and that we can talk this weekend maybe? I just hope he comes around and wants to be with me. I can’t imagine him giving up this easily if he really loves me…

  8. Chandni

    May 19, 2020 at 4:55 pm

    My boyfriend and me have been dating for more than one year. But suddenly he wants break up after an argument which we had in the starting of may . I said sorry since it was my mistake but he wants break up . I tried each and everything to make him stay but he gave up nd he said he is not happy with me since I don’t trust him and doubts on him on every girl he talks. I tried everything I said him to give me a last chance nd he even gave me he said that to change myself like in terms of irritating,trust and all. I accepted that but he gave no interest .. hardly he replies and gives me time . Since 18 days I am trying each and everything to make him feel good to make him feel about me that how much I love him but he shows no interest in chatting it’s like he is doing a duty in this tagged relationship . That’s why I faced him directly aftr 18 days and asked him eat he wants but still his reply was to so break up . He said he was testing me that how much I have changed and how much patience I have but when I argued with him after so many days he said that I couldn’t hold my patience and I didn’t change for good . So he again wants to do breakup. I really don’t know what to do . How to change his mind . Please me how to make him feel about me . I really love him he is too negative and thinks I will harm him that’s why he is always rude and stubborn and too much egotistic towards me . Please help me.

  9. Dee

    May 15, 2020 at 12:43 pm

    My ex and I broke up months ago, have not been good for a long time. Recently I been seeing a therapist and adjusting my trust issues and insecurities. We been through a lot and it wasn’t pretty. With the past it was hard not to throw accusations at him and let go of the past, but I’ve built my confidence back and learned about myself with learning to trust him more….he’s a father to my child and we currently live together because we had got a house together we still go about our daily business we really don’t see each other because he works overnight and I work during the day and Saturday’s he works and sleeps in the day. Things have been pretty good not bad these couple weeks we recently had a great Mother’s Day he was reminiscing on when we first met I guess and I question on it but he said he doesn’t want us to be together but that he loves me and for me to get myself better to keep processing and he doesn’t wanna hinder my progress Or get in the way and that he’s purposely distancing himself so things have been pretty good not bad these couple weeks we recently had a great Mother’s Day he was reminiscing on when we first met and I question on it but he doesn’t want us together but that he loves me for me to get myself better to keep processing and he doesn’t wanna hinder my promise I get in the way and that he’s purposely distancing himself. Then he told me if I feel I want to move out that I can or I can stay as long as I want here at the house that he’s not going anywhere and he’s not worried about being with another person right now or ready for relationship any more and he doesn’t want things to be like before because if we argue and it gets like the past I will have to leave the way we used to be is not the way he wants things to be between us he just wants me happy and he doesn’t want things to go back to how they were. He said I love seeing you happy and right now you seem happy with your progress He says he wishes things were different and that he thinks about trying again or it crosses his mind but he knows we are not good together anymore that his feelings changed….it breaks my heart to know my daughter won’t always have daddy around

  10. San

    May 13, 2020 at 6:22 pm

    My boyfriend and I had been dating for more than 2 years and had lots of on and off break ups. But recently I felt that I’m annoying him and he is more distant than usual. I told him I loved him but he didn’t even bother to reply with anything and changed the subject so I asked him (stupid me) if he doesn’t want to be with me anymore and he said “yes, did you just realized that?” … I don’t know what to say and looking back at our relationship, I felt he’s telling me the truth. I love him a lot but he won’t even speak to me and won’t even bother. I’m always the one who loves and cares a lot about him and basically gave him all my attention but he never do that. He won’t even console me when I’m mad at him hé said it’s childish and I shouldn’t expect any consolation from him when I’m mad.

  11. Rachel

    May 3, 2020 at 1:39 am

    Hi. I apologize for the length. So my boyfriend broke up with me yesterday. We were dating for a total of 10 months, 6 without a label, 4 in an official boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Before that we were friends for a year. My feelings are and have always been stronger and more developed than his, while before dating me he was getting over an unrequited love for one of his other friends (he’s over it now). During the 10 months we “broke up” twice before this one. The first was about a month and a half in where he had a day where he didn’t feel particularly affectionate and decided to break it off. The second was because I wanted a committed relationship when he wasn’t ready. After a week long break we continued dating and 2 months later he made the commitment. This time however he seemed to definitely break it off for good. We don’t live together and with social isolation in effect, we were relying on video chat to do fun activities. However recently we’ve been having more bad arguments and issues. Eventually he told me he felt nothing for me since we started social distancing. And that he was never really into our relationship or really in love with me. His feelings never felt as intense as his previous relationships and his crush and he thought it was a bad sign that his feelings for me faded when we switched to being online. And he told me I express myself in ways that he doesn’t typically look for other people (ie. I behave in ways he’s indifferent to and there may be too many indifferent qualities about me compared to the ones he’s attracted to). I asked him what he meant and he said he can’t tell me what they are because he didn’t want to go there and they weren’t bad things, just stuff he was indifferent to and I shouldn’t try to change myself. I’ve initiated a 30 day no contact. I’m already into all of his interests and I’m trying to work on myself but I don’t know what he liked about his exs or crush or how they behaved so I can’t develop their qualities. Is there anything else I could do to improve my chances of getting him to be my boyfriend again?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 9, 2020 at 5:31 pm

      Hey Rachel, I am replying to both your comments in one here.

      Your texting and him being positive is a good thing. What you need to do is test the push and pull theory where you flirt a little and then pull back. There is a great video about this on Youtube for you to watch. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0Jz_FJxi50&t=67s

  12. Ben

    May 2, 2020 at 9:59 am

    My ex and I broke up in January 2020 due to lots of petty fights from insecurities from both sides, since then we have tried NC a few times but both break it and talk, even met up a few times. When the lockdown took place we spoke for an amazing 3 weeks, it was fresh and felt new and amazing, but I got overly jealous when I found out he was talking to another man. He has reassured me he is a friend and i do believe him but from my jealously our fights and bicars became every day again. Last night we had a long phone call where we both say we are so tired of the fights, he doesn’t want a relationship with me or anyone at the moment but all i do is think and I know we have the potential to be so happy together. Should I try the NC rule again? Im worried that i have lost him for good.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 7, 2020 at 8:15 pm

      Hi Ben, I would suggest that you follow a 45 day NC as your conversation was emotional and speaking of getting back together you need a reset. This way you can work on yourself and your insecurities and also work on hiding your emotions when you feel such things as jealousy or envy that he is speaking to another man. He is currently single so he can speak to as many as he wants, your mission is to be the “best” one he realises that no one else measures to you, how you are perfect for him. Read about the Holy Trinity and becoming Ungettable

  13. Helene

    April 28, 2020 at 3:25 pm

    I met my ex 9 months ago. Things were great at first and he seemed very understanding when I explained him that I wasn’t ready for anything serious. He had just broken up a month earlier himself. I have never felt being accepted so fully, treated so nicely or laughed so hard with someone. However I had really bad scars from previous relationships and commitment issues. I didn’t trust myself that I was making the right decision by being with him. I was falling in love with him but I was constantly downplaying him in my head due to my issues.
    Things started to change for worse about six months ago when basically everything that could go wrong in his personal life did and he admitted to me that he is depressed and self-medicating himself with drugs every now and then. He started blaming me for not being there for him and we tried to break up multiple times the following months and be just friends but spiralled back every time. The fights got worse and there were incidents where I didn’t even know I did something wrong. He accused me of cheating on him which I hadn’t. I would walk on eggshells around him because anything I did could annoy him.
    We have now been broken up ”for real” for about a month after The last huge fight, I poured my heart out to him on how much I love him but don’t want this behaviour any longer and he told me he doesn’t want anything to do with me. He blocked me on social media. I did NC for almost three weeks and was working on myself but secretly hoped he would come back with a huge romantic gesture.
    No romantic gesture but he reached out asking if we could talk because time apart made him realise he missed me. I was hesitant and he was being persistent. I had decided I didn’t want him but hoped he would ”prove” that he was serious. Then came two nights ago when I got blackout drunk, called him to hook up but afterwards I completely freaked out and left, I mean I was panicking and irrational. I screwed up the situation, badly.
    Next day he said he was done. And I knew I want to be with him, like we used to in the beginning. We met yesterday and I told him that I don’t want to go back but build our relationship from the scratch again. He said he had had that in mind but after seeing my latest behaviour he is not over me but he is completely over the thought of us. He didn’t show any emotions. He also told me he hasn’t given up the drugs (I thought he had because he told me that’s what he wanted). Afterwards I sent him a long message explaining myself further but no response.
    Is too much damage done? Am I being blind and is this even worth saving? I love him, I really do and wish I could be there to support but don’t know how. Is there anything I can do in my power to get him back but in a healthy relationship?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 6, 2020 at 8:13 pm

      Hi Helene, my honest view on this is that you need to take time apart from any relationships. And work on yourself. Read about the holy trinity that we speak on in this process, where you work on your health, wealth and relationships. Right now you need to focus on your health. Your issues from your previous relationships is going to ruin any future ones unless you deal with the emotional issues you carry. Along with learning about and how to control your emotions. I don’t think the mix of you both is healthy right now, you need a complete 45 days apart of no contact and even then you need to asses where you both are at that time.

  14. Stacey

    April 27, 2020 at 7:35 am

    Hi. Me and my boyfriend had been together 9 and a half years, he dumped me 4 weeks ago as he didn’t love me anymore. Won’t speak to me about it at all, he’s blocked my number. He had moved on to someone he met 3 weeks ago at work (we work together,I will soon be his boss). I have tried no contact and then failed as I found out he had lied about seeing this girl. He is 34 I am 32. The new girl is 25 and the complete opposite to me. I am struggling with how you. Can throw 9 and a half years away for no solid reason and then move on so quickly. He should’ve been proposing this week on my birthday (apparently), and we would’ve moved out this year as we have both just signed new contracts for nights to finally get moved on together. I don’t understand any of it. Please help x

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 2, 2020 at 1:18 pm

      Hi Stacey, it sounds as if your ex is having a grass is greener situation, this is tough as you work together you are going to have to remain porfessional in work and then follow a limited no contact, where you only speak with him in work about work and nothing else. He has most likely blocked you as he is at the moment in the “honeymoon” phase of his relationship with the new woman. The best thing for you to do is work on your Holy Trinity through your no contact which needs to be 45 days. Then you need to start following the being there method – all this information is on this website and in Chris’ videos on YouTube too

  15. Joan

    April 16, 2020 at 3:04 pm

    Hi, me and my boyfriend were together for a couple of weeks but we decided to end it because none of us could help each other. I have borderline personality disorder which makes it hard for me to stay in relationships, but this one hit differently. It was a long distant relationship, but we’d call 11h+ in one day and we’d always be there for each other whenever we had problems. The only problem was the fact that he thought that it was mentally exhausting like a therapist session. Is it possible to him back? We’ve broken up for a couple of days now.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 20, 2020 at 1:33 pm

      Hi Joan, it is possible as your relationship was so short that it didnt have that much time to be a good or bad relationship. What you may find is that you need to complete a 21 day NC before your ex is ready to talk to you again

  16. Sof

    April 14, 2020 at 12:58 pm

    hi, so me and my boyfriend were together for about a year and it was honestly by far I can say the best year of my life. He made me feel like the best part of myself. I’ve never connected with anyone else as much as I’ve connected with him. While we we’re together I met a guy that was fun to be around and I enjoyed his company. I became good friends with and he kissed me and I didn’t stop it from happeningSince then I’ve felt nothing but guilt and regret for doing it so I told my boyfriend that we kissed and he forgave me. Things were good for a little while until he started partying with his friends a lot and not spending as much time with me to the point where I asked the big question. If he even wanted to be with me anymore and if I made him happy. He said he wasn’t even sure anymore. Before I had been a huge liar about stupid thongs that I knew were dumb to lie about so I started making these changes to myself to I could be better for him, no for us. We broke up in October of 2019. Let me tell you that these couple of months have stripped me down entirely and have made me feel a type of sadness I’ve never felt before. Losing him made me feel like I lost the most important person I’ve ever had. He cares for me, he loves me. I know he does. He tells me he doesn’t want a relationship right now and I totally get that he needs that space. But eventually I want to do everything in my being to make things right. To gain his trust back. I know reading this it’s like it’s just a boy but, I’ve convinced myself that this guy is my soulmate. He makes me the happiest ever and I want to be with him. We don’t talk all that much but we’re ok good terms. The last time we talked it was about me wanting to eventually be with him and him saying that I had lost him and that’s just how life is. He tells me he loves me and he misses me still. That he thinks about me sometimes and our memories. I just want to know what I have to do to make this happen again and if there’s a chance that we will be back together. Also if you can tell me with the information I gave how he possibly feels about it.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 23, 2020 at 5:38 pm

      Hey Sof, it sounds as if he lost trust in you even though he said he forgave you it does not mean he forgot what happened with your friend. I would suggest that you go into a 45 day NC and do not break it if you want your ex to wonder whats going on with you. Stay away from posting anything with another guy for sometime as you do not want him to assume you jump from guy to guy as you cheated you need him to feel that you are not the type who can move on that easily. You need to reach out in the texting phase after 45 days having positive short conversations about his interests. You end conversations first and build up their length slowly getting him investing in talking to you. This process can take time, but if he is enjoying his single life at the moment do not mention relationship or settling down when speaking with him

  17. Brianna

    April 9, 2020 at 7:54 pm

    Hi,

    My relationship was fantastic.. except when we had little arguments because we were unsure if the other person loves the other one. I lived with him. When the fights didn’t get resolved he would result to asking me “are we breaking up” and my ego would pack my things. To the point I did leave one day. He bought my boxes. I love him so much.. I uprooted my entire life to move across the country for him. Now he thinks I am the problem and I’m his soulmate but he doesn’t want us anymore. He said “he’s ok with me gone”

    I’m dying. If we could see eye to eye during a silly argument we wouldn’t be here. I can’t do NC because he said he’s going to help me find a place but I feel like dying.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 11, 2020 at 11:09 pm

      Hi Briana, you need to follow a limited no contact

  18. Nicole Mitchell

    April 4, 2020 at 4:28 pm

    A few weeks ago my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. I was planning on moving to the same city as him in a few weeks. We started dating when we were 18 and honestly had the best relationship. We were so close, got along great but we did bicker from time to time about stupid stuff. His reasons were “i’m not ready for the next step” “I need to focus on myself” “I can’t give you the commitment that you want” “i don’t think were meant to be” and “Im not focusing on getting back together right now i’m just focusing on myself”. He keeps saying that this was the hardest thing he had to do because he does love and miss me greatly but he says this is the best thing for us and you can’t change my mind. Since the breakup I have been an absolute wreck. We haven’t talked in about a week and i’m going crazy. I know its probably best if I don’t reach out and do the “no contact” and give him the time and space that he needs to figure things out. He keeps saying that the doors are never shut and anything can happen. Do you have any opinion or advice that you can give me? Like should I take this as a permanent breakup or will he eventually come back to me? I really wanna get back together with him but I honestly don’t know if that will ever happen.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 9, 2020 at 11:16 pm

      Hi Nicole, focusing on yourself for the time being and completing a NC is key if you want him to come back to you. While he is out there “focusing on himself” you need to be working on yourself, the Holy Trinity and showing him what he has missed out on by being the best version of yourself using social media to show you are doing just fine without him in your life right now. It is key that you do not watch his social media while you are doing NC as it can delay your healing process

  19. Bell

    April 4, 2020 at 3:52 pm

    Hi! I was in a non commited relationship with a guy for 2 months, he told me he didn’t want a relationship. When I told him I missed him after not meeting for roughly 2 weeks, he said he liked being with me but didn’t feel the same way. I freaked out a bit and sent him a crying voice message which made him mad and said he feels trapped. That day we talked over the phone and agreed to forget about this, he even apologized as did I. For a few days we talked as we did before but then suddenly he stopped reaching out. I asked him if we were okay, when he replied that he doesnt understood the question, cuz he already said that he feels good in his life right now. Then I replied that I meant if he wanted to talk/meet cuz we didn’t talk much in the last few days. It took one day for him to read the message and one more to reply with I’m sorry I was busy with family and friends, now I have a lot of time to be at home and spend time with them. I just texted a hi. I know it’s a long story, but my question is if I have a chance to get him back. To prove that I don’t want to trap him or be clingy, I just want to go back to as we were before.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 9, 2020 at 10:51 pm

      Hi Bell, the issue with these friends with benefits relationships is someone always ends up getting attached and then getting hurt. So I would suggest that you decide what you want first, if you are happy with friends with benefits understand that it is going to be just that, nothing more. As he stated he did not want it to be more. If you want a relationship with emotional connection etc, then you need to follow the program starting with a NC and then texting phase where you get your ex investing time in talking to you, phone calls, spending time together without getting intimate and increasing the romantic level in your meet ups until you are in a relationship

  20. Valerie

    April 1, 2020 at 5:27 pm

    Hello,

    My ex and I were together for 2 years. We met online and did long distance for 1.5 years until we moved to the same city. He broke up with me in a text after a fight 2 weeks ago when he was having a really bad day. But the next day he wrote to me again told me he was not going to change his mind. He said he still has feelings for me but he thinks it’s the best because I’m too dependant on him and we fight all the time and don’t solve anything. I begged him to take me back and said that we haven’t tried to fix things properly but he still refused, and said it will never work with us although I mean a lot to him. I unfollowed him and blocked him everywhere, except his phone number. Currently we are in quarantine in different countries. I did no contact for 10 days but 3 days ago I was mislead by his mother who told me he still loved me and that i needed to talk to him. He was nice at first but then he started ignoring me and I was confused and started telling him that I thought we should try again and then he told me to respect his decision. I have been texting him a bit these past 3 days, sometimes he answers and sometimes he doesn’t, but he’s not exactly warm. I don’t know what to do. I just want him back. If I do no contact for 30 days, im scared his feelings will be gone, and also I wouldnt be able to say happy birthday.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 9, 2020 at 9:06 pm

      Hi Valerie, if you want to follow this program then I suggest that you do follow the No Contact rules. It is essential part in getting your ex back, and as for the birthday message. It is better to have him wondering why you didnt and get him to think about you, than you message you and have him ignore you

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