I Want My Ex Boyfriend Back But He Doesn't Want Me- Change His Mind

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Shelly

March 29, 2020 at 3:46 am

Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago after being together for 6 months. We ended up fighting ally in the last two months because he wasn’t showing any interest. He also said he lost attraction for me and would often compare me to other girls he sees. He also said that he doesn’t feel the same way anymore. I was clingy before and would text him a lot but after the breakup I realized this was unhealthy and I’ve been trying to change. I really miss him, especially after one week of NC. We set a two week period of NC and we’ll go from there. He doesn’t seem miserable at all. I’m at a loss as to what I should do.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 29, 2020 at 9:36 pm

Hi Shelly NC should be 30 days so that you can have time apart plus you do not want to have an agreed amount of time that you do not speak so that he realises that you are not chasing him

M

March 25, 2020 at 2:42 am

Hello,

My boyfriend and I dated for 6 months. I was emotionally unstable at around month 4 due to triggers from last relationships. My ex has had very bad past relationships which have left him with confused feelings and a hurt ego. I have now been diagnosed with boarderline personality disorder. It has been 3 months since our break and I have completed the 30 day NC today. I am happy without him and I do not depend on him to be the best I can be or for my happiness. However, I would still like him in my life as I am now on medication and have sought the help I need. He told me he did not want a relationship yet has kissed me since the break (before no contact). He was the one who suggested NC. Now that I have competed NC, I do not know what to do. I want to reach out, yet I worry that because of him suggesting NC my agency would decrease by me reaching out to him. I have worked on being the UG and have taken good care of myself. I don’t know if I should reach out now or later.

Any info you can provide will be of help,

Thanks.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 29, 2020 at 11:29 pm

Hi M, when you have been in a 30 day No Contact you can then move on to the texting phase. Good for you taking good care of yourself, and keep doing the Ungettable work going forward while you work up the value ladder

Sophie

March 24, 2020 at 5:12 am

Hi

My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago, and since then I’ve done everything wrong. I’ve attempted no contact repeatedly but never gotten further than a week, I’ve been clingy, and I’ve pushed him away further and further. We had an argument yesterday, resulting in him blocking me on twitter and removing me as a friend on discord. He said he couldn’t trust me, that I was irresponsible and unpredictable, and that he didn’t love me anymore. I apologised and said that I respect that he doesn’t want me in his life anymore, and we left things there. I’m now going to do no contact, but after my repeated failures, and after pushing him away so much, is there even a chance that he’ll ever want me back? I feel like I may have made the situation broken beyond repair.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 31, 2020 at 1:20 am

Hi Sophie, there is a chance but you are going to have to learn to be patient and understand that this process is going to take time. I would focus on your Holy Trinity and make sure you are learning to control your emotions so you do not reach out to him, and that you know what not to act impulsively within this program.

Rose

March 21, 2020 at 10:54 am

Hi,
I just broke up with the guy I’ve been dating for 1.5 years. We were doing long distance, only 3 hours but we both had very full lives so didn’t get to see each other often. It was great right up until the last month when he started to pull away. He became very distant, we were barely getting to talk and when we did I always seemed to be the one initiating conversations. He also stopped being affectionate and sweet over text, turns out this was because he was having doubts. He initiated the break up because it wasn’t working as he just didn’t have the time or energy to commit to a relationship. He was so busy with work and uni and family committments that he barely got anytime to himself so I ended up feeling like a chore as all he wanted to do was rest and recharge. He just had too much on his plate and had to prioritise these other more important things in his life, to which I was supportive and understanding of. I didn’t want it to end so tried coming up with ways we could do things to make it easier on him but in the end he was right and it was cleaner to just end things and I saw it would also give me the best chance of getting him back rather than letting things get messy and complicated between us. He gave me the option of being friends or cutting it clean, he wanted to just cut things off but left the decision to me in case it made it easier for me remaining friends. We were both sad but I guess it ended as well as it could. Just before we broke up I found myself in a position where I was closer to him so would be able to make the effort to see him more, I was so excited as I thought our relationship could finally progress. He said that even that wouldn’t make things better, he just didn’t want to be in any relationship fullstop as he would constantly worry that he wasn’t giving enough and he doesn’t want anything extra on his plate right now. I told him I want to try things again when he’s ready but he said he doesn’t think he sees a future. I think he was just being careful and trying not to get my hopes up as he said he didn’t want to do that and he also didn’t want me to wait around. He reminisced over a few things we shared and it really made it feel like this was it for him but then I also know he still has feelings for me. I really think things could work between us and I really want him in my life. We ended on I’d let him know if I wanted to keep talking just as friends or not at all, since then I’ve started no contact. I just worry that this program won’t work for me as he doesn’t want a relationship at all and the fact that we ended on good terms. What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 29, 2020 at 11:44 am

Hi Rose, the program can definitely work for you as long as you follow advice and apply it to yourself so that you can show your ex what he is missing. Someone who does not want to be in a relationship is talking about the NOW. One thing is certain in our lives and that is change, he is going to eventually want to be in a relationship again and if you are working on yourself in that time to be “Ungettable” he is going to want to be with someone like you because you are the best person he is going to have in his life and no one else is going to compare to you

Galena Vasileva

March 17, 2020 at 9:57 pm

Hi,
We were together for 2 years, living together all this time. It was going absolutely great. My ex recently broke up with me. Just 5 days ago and i am still struggling to find out if he might want something again or not. He has been texting ocasionally to see how i am doing or about our flat as we need to move out now. For a long time, he was going through some personal stuff and he never felt like doing anything not only with me. Because of that i tried fixing everything with good and bad. The last few weeks he had been fighting because i was so annoyed that he didnt put the effort even if i told him something was bothering me. Lately, he was all the time with his phone or watching TV. Procrastinating and avoiding every problem that came our way (including problems in his personal life, because of those problems he got into a kind of depression and lost himself) He stopped putting effort mainly emotionally. We had an incredible connection and love before. When we were breaking up he told me he loves me more than anything, but he is not in love in the same way and because of that he doesnt feel like putting the effort and he doesnt want me to be miserable. He told me he needed some space and time so i gave him a week when i was out of our flat. When i came back he told me that for now he wants to be alone but he Is quite confused and is not sure about it. We are both devastated, as we were absolutely sure we were going to grow old together. I am currently packing my stuff from the flat, as we have put our 2 months notice… it is possible to get back together even if we actually sell the flat? I have done nothing obsessive or desperate after the break up. Gave him proper space and still doing it. Following everything i read online, including after finishing packing tomorrow, will try no contact for a month. He is very stubborn, though.. and he was always afraid of change.. so the fact that he seems kind of sure about this worries me. I know we are meant to be together, i am just not sure how to remind him that…i was always giving and doing everything for him, including that when he couldnt give his 50% i gave a bit more from myself. I have given him the world, but the nagging (that was really necesaary to get him out of his comfort zone) i think pushed him away. Or maybe i am just blaming myself at this point, as it doesnt make sense for me. We have almost everything in common… we were like married already.. i feel like tgiving him space and no contact will make him realize he is really losing me (as i have always been there despite all the bad stuff, i think he thought i would never leave, and i was a bit clingy sometimes, always explaining myself talking or texting, but never in an possessive or obsessive way)….we were closer between each other than with our families…. even though we got along perfect with both families, as we live abroad and were alone in the UK, we qere each other’s rock and support…

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 29, 2020 at 10:01 pm

Hi Galena, it is a difficult time for you and I can imagine more so if your family live in a different country. Give your ex some space and allow him to miss you. Work on your Holy Trinity and focus on yourself for sometime. While I understand many people like to try and fix things for their partner, you need to remember that he is an adult and needs to do things for himself, including improving his mental health and his life. You can not mother him, that is when the “love” changes for you

Jaqueline

March 16, 2020 at 8:53 pm

Hey there,
I have been acting like a real emotional drain with my boyfriend of 1 year and 9 months. The past few months I’ve been really needy and clingy but in an unattractive way and am sure that I came off as controlling as well. Not really sure what I am going through, but it’s been coming out as projections onto people around me and unfortunately he was one of those people.
We have a long-distance relationship although his parents live five minutes up the road and he’s only 2.5 hours away. We would go maybe a week or two without seeing each other max.
I would get into this pattern where I got needy/clingy every time we’d be apart for a while and it just, as he said, “steadily got worse.”
Well, he broke up with me last week and is telling me he doesn’t feel the same anymore and he thinks it’s for the best.
I’m just curious because I want to make it work and Know that we can, I at least now that I can be different – what should I do?
We’ve texted back and forth a bit since then and yesterday is when he sent me the
“I don’t feel the same way anymore” text….
I haven’t responded.
Thanks

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 18, 2020 at 3:16 am

Hey Jaqueline you need to start with a no contact and make sure that you work on yourself in that time. And then reach out with a text that Chris suggests to get conversation started again where you re attraction your ex and work up the value chain

Lisa

March 11, 2020 at 3:29 pm

Hi 🙂 not sure if my previous comment posted. I don’t see it so long story short. My bf and I live together. Our relationship used to be fun loving exciting and filled with respect trust etc.. sure we had disagreements but nowhere like we are now. He broke my trust (porn use he was addicted) after that I felt HORRIBLE about myself it took away trust it made me insecure it caused so much issues.. we have fought for months because of how it’s made me feel and at first he begged to fight through this he craved us being together etc. but with each fight he withdrew more and more and more. It’s been two months since I’ve heard “I love you” he claims he’s not in love with me anymore and doesn’t want this relationship anymore. I asked him what’s one thing he hates about me and us (relationship) and it was “the fighting/conflicts that’s it” he’s told me before that w every fight he cares less and loses interest and he feels he’s gotten to his point of no return. We’ve still been fighting. Hasn’t been a week of no fighting yet. However I feel I am now healing from the pain so I don’t think fighting would be happening as much as it did, and I know as I get better it wouldn’t be a factor (fighting) can he get his feelings back is there a good chance when the fighting stops (since the only reason he doesn’t want me or us anymore is due to the fighting?) and what can I do to show him the chance and pull him back in?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 18, 2020 at 3:30 am

Hey Lisa, so you need to start with a No contact and give you both some time apart some space form the negative emotions you’ve been carrying and the words that were said. After the NC is complete you can then reach out with a friend text to try and rebuild your connection

Lacy

March 11, 2020 at 3:20 pm

My boyfriend and I live together, trust was abused several months back and I struggled getting past it he was willing to fight for us knowing he messed up (not physical cheating) but porn that he lied about. He claims he’s past it and hasn’t done it for almost 3 months now.. however we fought about every other day for months since trust was broken. Before trust was broken we had fun we were happy unbelievably loving. He wanted to make this work so much but he said with every fight he withdrew more and now he doesn’t want me. I asked him what he didn’t like about me + the relationship and he said just the fighting. Now he’s not in love with me and he’s not interested in the relationship and it’s strictly because the fighting hasn’t stopped. I am now moving past the pain and getting over it but I don’t know if it’s too late for him to get his feelings back and want us as much as he did before the constant fighting. Can it happen? And what should I do?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 12, 2020 at 2:04 pm

Hi Lacy yes it can happen but it does mean you have to complete a No Contact and work on your emotional control so that if you do speak in the future you make sure that you do not argue or bicker at all in the future. It takes a short amount of time for those negative memories to fade and before you know it, you can reach out with a text that Chris suggest and start showing your ex that you are more positive and less argumentative than you were the first time around

Savanna

March 10, 2020 at 12:39 pm

Hi,
Me and my ex broke up just about a week ago he said he didn’t wanna be with me anymore but then he said that he just needs time. so I said alright come back in a few weeks and tell me how you feel. but he’s texting me saying he needed his belongings back that I have and I told him I thought you were gonna tell me how you feel in a few weeks and he reply’s to me saying “my feelings won’t change” then at the end of that convo he says “just give me time to gain my patience back” and I’m so confused does he wanna be with me or not he’s breaking me down then giving me a little hope and i don’t know what to do.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 18, 2020 at 12:22 am

Hi Savanna, so if you want your ex back you need to make your ex think that you are moving on. They know they can have you back if they wanted you this gives them power to move on without thinking about you. Complete a no contact where you spend some time working on yourself, posting ungettable posts and showing him you are living life and being social with your friends. Maybe some subtle hints that you could be dating someone to make your ex worry that you are moving on

Amelia

March 9, 2020 at 8:28 am

Hi,
My ex and I were together for about 7 months. We were going well. So I thought.
School had just started back as we are both in college and the pressure was starting to mount. He is in a town band and has that as well as school.
He said that he didn’t love me as much as he used to and that he couldn’t be with me romantically anymore.
He said that I message too much when he has things he needs to do and that I am so persistent in everything.
The day we broke up I cried in his arms for at least 45 minutes during lunch break. He said he was sorry, about a billion times. I couldn’t understand why he didn’t want to be with me anymore if he still had feelings for me.
I know that he has a busy life and I wanted to support him in his choice to move onto uni.

I tried the begging and crying and everything. It has just turned him away.
We still talk but it just isn’t the same.
Bland and not heartfelt.

What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 12, 2020 at 11:35 pm

Hi Amelia, so you need to start a No Contact now where you are not getting in touch with your ex 45 days Work on your emotional control and make sure that you understand the process fully before you start reaching out to your ex again

Jayla

March 7, 2020 at 5:17 am

Me and my ex dated for 4 years and people always got in my head about him like that he didn’t deserve me and all that.One day I found out another girl kissed him…I was furious even though from what I understand it wasn’t his fault.I ended up breaking up with him last year after I found out, I felt fine until just recently.Now someone else likes me but now I feel like I’m missing my ex and can only see myself with him.I have been feeling this way for a few weeks now.Im not sure if my ex still has feeling for me but I’m not so sure what I should do to find out.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 9, 2020 at 9:59 pm

Hi Jayla you are able to reach out to your ex and see what sort of response you get from him when you do. And see where the conversation goes from there. You can also casual date for the time being with the new guy to see if you like him better

Caitcecelia

March 5, 2020 at 3:23 am

I recently broke up with my boyfriend, our relationship was good for a while, but he struggled to show any affection and Only put in effort when he felt like it which became an issue, we held on and tried to fix things for a while but ended up ending things. I was a very supportive girlfriend and never pushed or put any pressure on him. he suffers a lot with bad mental health and told me that having me around helped but has now decided he’s so much happier and that this is “the happiest he’s felt in a while” and he doesn’t think our relationship was good for him. I know that this is temporary and I’m worried he’s just going to suffer in silence. I still love him and care very much and want him to come back but I don’t know how to get him back when he’s acting so cold

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 17, 2020 at 11:31 pm

Hey C so if he is struggling with things mentally then being alone could make him feel better in managing his emotions as he does not need to consider anyone else in his decisions. If you want your ex back then go into a No contact and reach out after 30 days but make sure you are trying to have friendly conversations with your ex, do not get emotional, do not appear to be wanting him back.

Sharma

March 3, 2020 at 7:50 pm

Me and my ex recently broke.. thecreason was I lied to him about something which had a valid reason..but he didnt trust me..I told him truth one day at that he felt like I cheated him.i assured him that I didnt mean to lie but I did just because I had reasons.. I gave him every proof..I tried my best to make him understand to believe me that I was not wrong.but he didnt even listen me for once nor he trusted my all proofs.nd he said he would have forgiven me if I would just asked for a sorry .though I ask for it several times but he didn’t notice .he is stuck up on his decision that he dont want to be with me.. I tried it he still didnt understand and said he dont want me….
He said he still replies to my text so that i have no topic left and then I should not text him anymore..
Is it over chris?what should i do?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 10, 2020 at 11:04 pm

Hi Sharma, as you cheated you need to read the articles about how to rebuild that trust and understand that you need to complete a 30 day no contact where you then focus on yourself for that time and give your ex some space to get over the fact that you cheated. Read as many articles that you can that apply to your situation so that you understand how ERP process works

Jasmine

March 3, 2020 at 2:21 am

My ex and I were together for 3 months, but we had an amazing connection and connected very well. After 2 months he suddenly said he thinks we should see other people but still see each other, became distant etc. He then stated that he would hurt me because he had other things going on like going through his divorce. I begged, pleaded, etc before doing 21 days NC. He was steadily rebuilding communication as a friend only, but then one night last week we got to talking about the breakup and I went to his house to discuss it unannounced. Now he is completely avoidant. I now understand that he broke up with me because I didn’t respect his boundaries and he has trust issues but mostly because I didn’t respect his boundaries. I have definitely made things worse by going to his place last week as this isn’t the first time I’ve felt the need to make him hear me! I realize it’s a toxic behavior and am trying to change it but is it too late? I keep texting but he’s very cold and distant and other times doesn’t respond at all. He sent a message yesterday explaining that he’s just not ready for a relationship which isn’t the case because he’s been seeing other women. I don’t know how to rebuild attraction or if I can at this point.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 7, 2020 at 10:11 am

Hi Jasmine, check out this video for how to re build attraction. But if your ex is dating other woman that does not mean he is looking for a relationship it just shows that he is spending time with people, more likely to distract himself from the emotions that he will be going through from the break up himself. Even though he wanted it he will still be feeling negative emotions.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-X_nS1Nxcx0

Mary

March 2, 2020 at 4:25 pm

Hi 🙂
When i got friend with my bf ,he was really interested in me and loved me, it lasts just for 3 months,after that he said that he has a problem that cannot be with me anymore,ofcourse sometimes i pushed him too much, after that breakup we got backtogether but he told me that we are just friends and I won’t be with you for whole life,i think he is depressed, how can I get him back again… it is 1 year that we know eachother 🙂
He said that he feels suffocated:( thanks in advance ❤️

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 2, 2020 at 10:40 pm

Hi Mary, it sounds as if your ex needs space from you so allow that time. Work on yourself and follow a No Contact for 45 days working on your emotional control and make sure that you do not beg him to be with you again

Kate

February 23, 2020 at 1:20 pm

Hi,
My ex loves playing music, but I am not much of a musician. There is a pub he likes to go out with his friends. We enjoy playing video games together. He likes when I cook for him. What he absolutely needs is his time alone, not just from me but from everyone. I have been nagging and complaining about that. He took me back twice, could not stop. I love time alone too, I was just taking it personal (I know). Now that I am consulting and whiling to trust him, respect both our need for space, he does not believe me.
Opeyemi

February 23, 2020 at 9:16 am

Hi my boyfriend of about four years broke up with me a month ago, for this four years he breaks up with me like every year saying his not sure his in love with me for different reason ever time he brings a reason why i ask him to stay try to change them, this year he asked for two weeks space out of the blues we talk we just dont see because we are in the same school we didnt fight nothing during the break I was sad because i missed him and he was always asking me what was wrong but I kept saying nothing because I didnt want to make it look like I didnt want to make it look like I didnt want to give him space but after the space I still felt he was distant I got angry one night and blocked him he tried calling me several times then he called me with another number he got angry that he has been asking me what was wrong and now I’m blocking him, well that lead to him breaking up again saying he thinks his with me out of pity after the break he kept calling me I taught there was hope but basically he said he misses me because of the things I do for him and those are wrong reasons to miss someone and that we should move on.. cried and stuff I told him we should be friends but that for now I have to get over him..we havent spoken in a week but I miss him and I want him back

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 3, 2020 at 9:50 pm

Hey Opeyemi, make sure that you stick to the No Contact and apply the information from the articles to your situation. Read about No Contact, being Ungettable and what to do at the start of your texting phase

Tabitha

February 13, 2020 at 2:56 am

Hi so before i ask what i wanna know / opinion, I need to give a quick as possible overview of the situation (knowing it’s way deeper than just mentioned here).

I was dating a chef for almost 8 months and we had an awesome and open (could talk about anything and be ourselves) relationship. He broke up woth me mostly due to work pressures and at the time I was away with research and both were going through hard times and there was lack of communication frim his side and way too much communication from mine. Overall we did consider a break for other reasons too but always believed we’d stay the best of friends. However when he decided to just be friends it came at a bad time for me while i was away and well..i ended up over texting cause didnt understand his situations as well adn ended up pushing him several times further away without realising it,even if there was pusbing from his side too with ignoring etc. We saw each other few times after that and then i went to my family over december holidays and we had a semi falling ojt but he dropped me off at airport and well did say we would be able to talk about anything again yes and go back to that but basically relationship was over but friendship possible was the message..i did realise how i acted wrongly…he had blocked me for a week once also due to my behaviour in October. Well they had a hectic season in December and even if both his family and I were all getting pushed aside, i only rheard from him once and would always share and ask how he is and send encouragement cause I genuinely loved him and cared. Well it reached a point he blocked me again around Christmas
. After soul searching and all I reached out via another phone and apologised also for things and then he responded to me and unblocked me. However i had this plan potentially of when i was back that we would be able to speak and resolve and ammend all things.. from my side i had been severly hurt over and over again (not goung into details for sake of space) but was willing to move forward as friends at least so could be there and we have that great side of our relationship. However my apology was met with a long message on how although he accepts it and all he has had long thinking and that we would not work and also not even as friends (even if to me this did not make sense) but he was grateful for meeting me and looked forward to seeing me again to give me stuff i had left with him and he said sorry and thanked me for all the ways i had meant something to him and helped him grow as a person etc…and mentioned one day in the future he hopes we could go for a coffee and laugh about everything and also asked me to leave him alone. I responded to this as complete as i could kindly, showing i do care, things are different and also hoping we could restart a friendship sometime etc. I left him alone only letting gim know when i was back in his town after a week, got ignored, and then 10 days later was driving back from another place past where his family stay and asked if could meet up etc and then he said not then but we eventually set a date,but because it was very busy at his work i felt bad and rather wanted it to be when he felt better to do it but he was very adamant that he wanted it then and then done and dusted and that there was “nothing left to talk about” and only have normal conversarion even if there were things i wants him to know…i ended up making the mistake of feeling sorry for them and bringing him energy cooldrink i had that he drank and coffee the day before the meet up and letting him know..about which he wasnt happy and gave my stuff then and so everything was rushed and he made it clear he thinks it would just go back to his idea of how it was at the end last year and how he had moved on and how he was over everything and i had already completed my purpose in his life..but he did listen to what i said and appreciated when i said im always there for him and he can talk to me anytime..we hugged and greeted and well…i was fine but i fell apart all over again during that week. A couple days later was supposed to be our 1 year anniversary afterall…so after that i just sent him a video of us hugging taken by a friend with a caption suited to a specific conversation we had once, but which was cause i just wanted him tonknow i wanted to just sit and hold him when things get tough,no more words…..i didnt want to disrespect his wish but i let that send…a week later i lost my license,freaked out and asked him if he remembered anything about it last time i used it and he was there cause i couldnt remember another time…however it was unnecessary and then he bkocked me again.

So now after this very long backstory…i just wanted to know ..there are lots of things i wished i could share..i even watch the same anime he does now caus I also like it now..and lots of other stuff we would have normally been able to share…and i cant..and he doesnt fully understand i think how i really feel..

But i want to know, I know i need to give him space and no contact…but is it possible i could have pushed him to a point nothig would help…? Would it help if he saw me with other friends say at a pub playing pool without giving him any attention? Should I just steer clear of him? I am on good terms with his family and saw his grandparents recently and will see his parents soon also cause never got to greet them..but he is in a mind of his own doesnt even have many or any peoppe he really considers close trustworthy friends aside from me and a mutual friend we had..and now he doesnt want me anymore…and i really really miss him..even after all this time i just want my best friend back..even if he isnt ready for a romantic relationship..i just want our friendship back and his mind to change..

Thanks for the time!

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

February 22, 2020 at 10:57 pm

Hey Tabitha so I can’t really tell you if you have pushed him too far, but I can tell you that No Contact for 45 days is going to be your best chance of seeing if he is going to be more open to talking to you in the future.

Sydni

February 3, 2020 at 9:43 pm

Hey,
Me and my boyfriend were together for one year we had ups and downs but he is my best friend. My Ex boyfriend Has seemed to enjoy his freedom and never contacts me first yet sometimes he has dropped by to say hello and hang out. How do I make him stop taking me for granted overall before I leave him for good!

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

February 4, 2020 at 10:08 pm

Hey Sydni, stop allowing your ex to pop around and hang out with you when he feels like it!! You need to initiate a no contact and stick to it for at least 30 days where you do not reply to him if he reaches out!! Start dating casually and make sure you are showing your ex that you are willing to move on if your ex is not going to give you what you want

Ashlyn

January 31, 2020 at 4:05 am

My ex and I were together almost 3 years. This is the second time we’ve broken up. Last year he broke up with me because he thought I was too good for him. This time he is saying he doesn’t feel the same way he felt when we first started dating. I told him it’s normal for that to happen and we just need to work on it. But he doesn’t want to. He still wants us to be friends(he thinks of me as his best friend) and he’ll tell me that I’m special. He also says he doesn’t know what the future holds and we could get back together but he “doesn’t think that far into the future”. I know he’s dating around but it’s nothing serious but it still hurts. I really love him and would do anything to get back together with him. We already have a lot in common on likes and dislikes. So what should I do?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 31, 2020 at 11:39 pm

Hey Ashlyn start the program and make sure you follow the advice given here!

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