213 thoughts on “Introverted Ex Boyfriends Vs. Extroverted Ex Boyfriends (How To Approach Them)”

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   Rin

   November 5, 2015 at 1:19 am

   Hi Chris,

   Love your website!Thank you so much for the efforts you put in here.I’m truly appreciate how much you gave out for FREE and this introverted Ex is EXTREMELY helpful.My ex is this overthinking little cocoon head due to his lack of relationship experiences and his introverted personality.Currently on NC day 10.Man it is HARD!!!

   We have an upcoming event on our NC day 21.I can’t make it all the way till day 30.Today I went to see a counselor because I felt like my stress level has effected my school.After talking to pro I feel much better.The ultimate goal is be fine to accept either we can or we can not get back together.

   I will combine both of the advice and keep you updated!Wish me luck Chris!!!

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   Rin

   November 25, 2015 at 3:42 pm

   Sorry for getting back to you late,Chris.

   That Friday went very well and we are actually back together since that Friday which was almost 2 weeks ago.I think either of us was ready to let go and he needed time to figure out what he really wants.Although I didn’t go a full 30 days NC,but 3 weeks seemed enough in our case.Both of us are looking forward to this new experience with each other and I will focus more on communication.

   We are celebrating Thanksgiving together since neither of our family are in town.I wish you and your wife a Happy Thanksgiving too.

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   Rin

   November 11, 2015 at 3:48 pm

   Thanks for your reply Chris!We are going to Christmas party at Magic Kingdom this Friday!
   We are both huge Disney fan.I already decided not to talk about anything between us and have lots of fun.
   Kinda want to show him what he missed after all.

3. 

   Chris Seiter

   November 13, 2015 at 12:41 am

   I like Disney too!

   Lion King is my favorite movie from them.

   I hope you guys have a lot of fun. Tell me how it goes.

4. 

   Chris Seiter

   November 11, 2015 at 12:07 am

   Thanks Rin!

   What is the event if you don’t mind me asking?

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   Leah

   November 5, 2015 at 12:14 am

   First of all I would like to say great article!
    My ex boyfriend is both extroverted and introverted (a little more introverted).  He loves talking to people at work and socializing, he is very outgoing. On the other hand he prefers to be at home, is very private, and hates parties and stuff like that. He is also very afraid of getting hurt, (but he also knows that I would never hurt him, as he has said before). I’m going to do with sweet medium and avoid jealousy tactics. 

   So a little background story before my question. My ex and I were never the couple that was on again off again, and we hardly ever faught. We worked very well together and fully trusted one another, people said we were always happy and we were. People were very shocked when we broke up and even I was, typically if we ever had a problem we worked it out together. Things started to change once he dropped out of college, we were doing fine but our communication  started  to get a little worse after. He was the one that dumped me. We then proceeded to get back together (he called me crying and saying that he wanted to make things work) and all was fine. We wrote down a list of all the things that we needed to work on to make our relationship work. It basically came down to more communication and he said that if that was the only thing we need to work on than we were going to be just fine. He then dump me again a few weeks later (a few days before that we were talking about the future and looking at apartments in my college town). He told me not to contact him while he was thinking about things (he also blocked me on Facebook after deleting all of our photos).  I am currently on day 17 of NC, for my own good and because it is what he needs. My question is should I contact him on day 30?  I know that he still loves me but he’s very confused and in vulnerable spot right now. Do you think that 30 days is enough or should I possibly wait for him to contact me? He’s very stubborn, I don’t want to upset him by contacting him before he’s ready.  I would also like to point out that he’s being very indecisive about our relationship he talks about how much he loves me and about the future and then the next moment he’s confused and he doesn’t know how he feels. It is hurtful for me because it was starting to feel like whiplash, because it is back and forth. He’s happy while we’re together, and when we’re apart he over thinks things and starts to have dought, and I don’t know why. I know we are still young at 22, and we have been together for 3 and half years, but I seriously think that we can make this work in the long run. What do you think?

    I know you just published this article so I’d like to point out a small little error. You said your wife was introverted right above her picture but then went on to say that she was extroverted.
   Thanks for the all the amazing advice!

1. 

   Leah

   November 22, 2015 at 5:06 pm

   It has been 35 days of no contact. I sent a great first contact message. Only to find out he not only blocked me Facebook but also from his phone! I dont know what to do. He ended it by saying we shouldn’t talk for a while. Now I find out he blocked my phone. Our would be anniversary is coming up and I was hoping to be able to at least be talking by now. I have this horrid need to go to his apartment and try to talk to him but I dont want to look crazy or desperate. I want to send him an email because I don’t think he blocked that (didn’t block Snapchat or Skype). What do you think please respond. I was thinking about calling the email “I have a confession” and then saying something along the lines of “I know you needed time and maybe you still do. I dont like that you stut me out, but I understand that you needed time. I know you aren’t talking to me right now, but I would really like to talk to you very soon as friends.  You still mean a lot to me and I care about you. I would like to catch up and see how your doing. Just talk. I miss talking to you, even though we have not been talking I still consider you my best friend. You are an amazing person and I don’t want to lose you in my life.” And then say I really need to tell you something, that you need to hear (it would be that I forgive him for walk out. I had told him that I wouldn’t and it made him cry). But would like to tell him that in person. What do you think? Please help me.

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   Leah

   November 13, 2015 at 7:21 am

   I purchased your books, and I am trying to become more of an ungettable girl. I have been working on myself and finally doing things I have been putting off. He told me in conversation after the break up that one of the things that bugged him was that I didn’t have enough convenience. I have been working on getting better but it was very hard at first especially because my convenience dropped after being dumped. We were also eachothers only real friends and that hit hard after the break up so I am trying to make more friends. But also because we were so close as a couple and as friends I think towards the end I started looking clinging when he started to pull away. I think the NC will help with that (on day 25). And if he replies to me after (fingers crossed) I am go to take things slow and apply with what I have learned. He can be very stubborn and he was being very serious when he said to give him space. He even blocked me on Facebook and deleted three years of facebook photos of us. I think that was a overreaction, I did nothing bad to deserve it and neither one of us really get on there anyway, do you think he just to make a point? From what I have told you do think we have a chance?

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   Chris Seiter

   November 11, 2015 at 12:06 am

   Thanks for the compliment.

   Thanks for the error check as well. I am going to fix that now.

   I think 30 days is more than enough. Whats your plan during NC?

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   Jasmine

   November 4, 2015 at 9:35 pm

   Hi Chris,
   Can the no contact rule be used if we weren’t actually in a relationship? My situation was a friends with benefits situation for 4 months he ended up telling me he caught feelings for me and I felt the same way about him. He called me several times a day and we would talk on the phone a lot sometimes for hours. He shared deep personal things with me and really opened up to me and I did the same. I never really asked him if he was seeing anyone else I assumed if he was it wasn’t serious because he spent so much of his time with me so I wasn’t concerned,so I thought. Then just a couple of nights ago I stayed the night with him like I’ve done many times and someone called his phone at 2 in the morning and also texted him. The number wasn’t saved but I’m positive it had to be a woman. I couldn’t read the text message.He didn’t answer, so that morning I was upset so I left without saying bye. He blew my phone up and kept texting me asking what was wrong. I didn’t respond. He finally said “if you don’t want me calling you just say so I’m just trying to make sure your ok and safe”I texted back “I’m fine”. Then he told me to have a nice life and that he didn’t have time for games and that I didn’t have to call or text him anymore. He then deleted me from Facebook. I told him that I had no more time to waste on him and that I was upset he had a woman texting him so late and that I was moving on. He never responded after that and this all happened yesterday so today is my first day of no contact. Will the same rules apply since we weren’t actually a couple? What should I do? I miss him. I’ll even take it a step further and ask if I can get him to commit?

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   Chris Seiter

   November 11, 2015 at 12:03 am

   Hmm…

   It’s not really for that unfortunately.

   A relationship needs to have occurred for the NC to work to it’s greatest extent.