Legitimate Reasons You Should Get Back With Your Ex- Ex Boyfriend Recovery

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Dani

February 22, 2015 at 8:07 am

I am really stuck.

I dated this man for 1 year and we broke up over 2 years ago. He was the love of my life. We broke up as we fought all the time about stupid stuff, and was ready to move in with him but he said yes to start with and then changed him mind 1 week before I was due to move in.

He emailed me a few days ago and is saying that he regrets that we broke up, and he wants to give it another go.

The only problem is he lives in Christchurch and I live in Auckland. We did have a lot of fun together but towards the end we were nasty to each other. My friends hate him for what he did to me, as I had to go on anti-depressants for 6 months because he broke my heart.

I don’t know what to do. I didn’t think much about him and now he emailed me all these feelings are coming flooding back.

Any advice??

Lisa

February 26, 2015 at 11:34 am

Hi Dani!
My situation exactly. Now very important, please listen closely. Do not jump into this. My ex left me for another woman then came back 2 years later and I took him back without that much effort from his side. All it took was some pleading, saying he was an idiot and bang! I was back in his bed 2 hours later. I loved him very much even after 2 years. What followed was a year full of agony as he didn’t have to make an effort any more. I played it cool for a while but 6 months later realised he was just giving me enough to keep me interested. I was constantly waiting by the phone. We started fighting. I suggested we moved in together and he said yes, then changed his mind, which I couldn’t forgive. Two weeks ago he dumped me again and I’m totally devastated. Mostly because I allowed him to treat me like that after everything he had done to me in the past. So my advice give it a go but take things very slowly. Don’t go visit him,let him come to see you, don’t sleep with him right away. Don’t be afraid to say you want to take your time. It will only make him respect you more. Good luck! I hope you work things out.
admin

February 22, 2015 at 5:30 pm

Yes, do you have any other means to communicate other than just an email?

Belle

February 21, 2015 at 8:19 am

I met dis guy wen I was in high skul… he’s a twin nd we fell in love. though m a class above im,, we so had dis connection. it was lyk we were meant 2 b. d sme lyks, dislyks. we both used glasses, if sumtin was rong wit any of us, we’d know b4 we even saw each oda. but suddenly dis gal cam btwn us nd we broke up. we stopped talking 4 abt 3 months nd not too long ago he broke up wit her. he said he realized dat he wanted 2 b wit me all dis while. he felt happier wit me nd he was sorry he eva hurt me. I love im too nd I don’t care wat ppl say. I want im bak but of recent he just seems 2 b avoiding me… I dunno wat 2 do.. pls I nid help. nd can u pls inbox me at my email…

admin

February 22, 2015 at 4:48 pm

Hi Belle,

Is it ok if I just answer you here?

Sydney

February 17, 2015 at 7:59 am

So my boyfriend and I dated for 11 months straight, never once fought, never broke up, we were perfect. We shared so many interests, had the same friends, and we were just absolutely perfect for each other. But I broke up with him after 11 months because i started to feel less and less attracted to him and in all honesty, the whole time we dated, I wasn’t actually sure if I loved him, but he told me he loved me. We’ve been apart for a little over two months now and I miss him more than anything, and these last two moths have helped me realize that I really truly do love him and I need him. I cant stop thinking about him and I crave his presence. I wasn’t sure if I loved him before but I know now and I’m just not sure what to do about it. I feel like an emotional wreck without him. He’s my other half. I just really messed up.

admin

February 17, 2015 at 1:08 pm

He is probably hurt that you weren’t sure.

I know that would hurt me.

Have you attempted to do NC yet?

minnie

February 16, 2015 at 10:36 pm

He is 22, I’m 20, were dating for pretty much 2 months, going out a bit longer, known each other since October, he was the one to start the flirting right when we’ve met.

He left me now. He said it was too much for him (I became very needy lately and i admit it, i apologized and promised to change it) especially last week and that he doesn’t want anything now. I asked him if he can give us another chance and he said no. Twice. Then we were talking more, holding hands, hugging, he kissed my forehead few times but he didn’t want to kiss my lips…. Though I apologized, promised to change the behavior he didn’t like and I asked him if he will think about it again and he shaked his head for yes. I told him that I know I was too much especially last week but that I took everything out on him after shit practices etc. he said also that it doesn’t mean we can’t go out again and i asked if that means starting from the beginning. Then he said “yeees and then I three weeks it’s gonna be the same… You gonna come at mine…” I promised not to. And I laughed that its impossible as I’ll be out of the country in 3 weeks. We laughed. I told him that it probably doesn’t help me but I just love him and I know he has feelings for me too. Before getting on bus I asked him if he’ll text me. He said yes. I asked him before why is that so easy for him and he answered that “it is not”. I saw his eyes and he was very sad I could tell.

He doesn’t use his phone often, he doesn’t like it and I was texting pretty much all the time, i wanted him to be available all the time, and he couldn’t have done it. I was surprising him at his place… like crazy. I admit.

Do you think n/c could work in this case? Is there any way I could get him back? I do love this guy and I believe he has feeling too. We were super happy all the time, no fight whatsoever. He was the one to tell me how much he missed me when we didnt see each other, he was the one to tell me how much he likes me and he told his friends about me. I know i did overwhelm him though. I really need help. I’m not crying, living without him now, living my life but i do want him back and i think he could be the one.

Thank you

admin

February 17, 2015 at 12:34 pm

I think NC can work in this case.

Go ahead and give it a try.
minnie

February 18, 2015 at 2:01 pm

Thank you Chris,

I have a feeling we will get back together but I’m moving on for now anyways. Focusing on myself now. I only regret asking some of my friends for help, they do not support me at all, they just said he is an asshole (and i know he is not!) they don’t even know him… I just want him to get in touch with me and miss me as i do. It was too good to leave it the way it is now. My friends just told me he basically agreed to think about it again and told me that we can meet again just to get rid of me. well, he still has not texted me even he said he will but in my mind if he wanted to get rid of me he would of just continued saying that. I know I am probably overthinking but I don’t text him nor I am in any contact with him anyways. I am not even tempted to text him to be honest, obviously sometimes in the morning i would love to tell him i miss him but I don’t do it. I hope his feelings were real (even though we were not together for long, but we were super happy all the time and he admitted it while we were talking that night) and he will get back to me.

Thank you again,
I will stay in touch 🙂

ishita

February 15, 2015 at 9:06 pm

He like hnging out wd frnds n stop talking wd me dat much.our rationshp is so close.i m stoping mking calls more..he dnt want brkup but i feel he is cheating…je is nt ready to gv me p.w of his fb n not unblokng me he dnt want to meet more.he is saying to gv some time…i love hm i want him back …pls hlp me
ishita

February 15, 2015 at 9:02 pm

Hii..i m ishita…i love a boy very bdly.he also lvd me .till december.but suddenly he want space.we were talking day n night before but now he dnt want to talk he is saying dat he dnt like talking on phn.he got iritated now if i cqlling mny times.i had cut my hnds but it dsnt care…..earlier he care for me but now it cant happen…he gv excue n want to cut my phn..earlier in one n half year eelationship he never like this.earlier he hv prblm with my fb n watsapp dat y i m onlin for no reasn.but now he dnt intrstd in me.he is saying dat i dnt want to use phnes..i m beghing pleadin but hbut he is not changing.he dnt want brkup but he only want dat i dnt call n msg him continuously.three four days before i hd his fb p.w but suddenly hes dmore hnging p.w n blokd me frm hhanis acnt.he iss saying dat he lv me but he love m
Lyn

February 11, 2015 at 8:34 pm

My ex bf got tired of our relationship as there are always miscommunications and it Always lead to quarrels. He is always trying his way to salvage the situation such as talking to me about it and finding a solution to it but it doesn’t work at all.
We broke up because of that.
Initially he said he wanted to break up but after much persuading, I managed to convince him to take a month of cool off period but I know that he still want to break up so I decided to let him go.
He says he still love me but he have to let me go because he is really very tired of this relationship..
Do you think we have a chance back again?

admin

February 16, 2015 at 9:51 pm

So, you two are technically still together?

Evelyne

February 8, 2015 at 5:27 pm

Hey,
first of all I would like to apologize for my English, it’s not my mother-language.

I would really appreciate some insight on my problem.

I and my boyfriend were together for 7 months, we knew each other from before and were very good friends. He always liked me and I didn’t see that.
Shortly after we got together, he had to leave back to his country, so we started 4 months of very long distance relationship and we had to completely rely on skype and facebook. He told me he loved me before he left and I told him it back.
After that 4 months he got job, well not really closed, but better than before, to me. We were 5 hours by bus apart. We saw each other twice a month and I was fine with that, he didn’t seem to have problem with that either. Everything seems okay, he even told his best friend that I was a girl that he would married.
3 months ago, out of nowhere, he started ignoring me, didn’t reply how he used to and got distanced. I didn’t know what was wrong or what I did. After a week, he broke up with me…over the text. He didn’t really explain why he did that but since than I was trying my best to forget my feelings for him.
We messaged couple of times during Christmas, just small talks and few of my (definitely NOT proud of that) drunk texts.
This weekend I saw him for the first time after our break-up. I thought I will just give him his stuff, get explanation and leave. We were talking for 2 hours. He told me that the reason he broke up with me was because he got irritated by my texts, he said that he didn’t know why but he just didn’t feel like talking to me. I asked him why he just didn’t tell me that we could discuss it, communicated and he said he acted impulsively and really didn’t think. After that he told me that breaking up with me was the biggest mistake of his life. He told me he love me and that if I am willing to take him back, he will happily get back together.

My problem is that I am scared to try to fix distance relationship, because I am not sure if I can trust him not to do this again and in this kind of relationship, you completely rely on texts, I had to learn how to recognize his mood from them and how to express my feelings and mood through them.
Also, before I thought I will move to him after I will finish my school this year, now I don’t think I’d do that, definitely not this July.

Thanks for any reply 🙂

admin

February 9, 2015 at 4:42 pm

Have you read the long distance article?
Evelyne

February 10, 2015 at 9:03 pm

I’ve just read it. The thing is that you more advice how to get your exboyfriend back then how to maintain it after break-up, but thank you anyway. Acording to the article, I should be cut for the LDR (except of sex-phone, I am better at sexting, but it’s probably because of our mother-language is different – his is english, mine is not). For that “sex thing”…as a guy, do you think that 2 weeks without sex is too long?
I know you are not “fan” of LDR, but if you love someone you can help yourself, right? 🙂
admin

February 11, 2015 at 1:58 pm

Are you serious…

Two weeks is nothing…

Sarah Cook

February 5, 2015 at 2:40 am

I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and we love each other and have always been great for each other. But he and I just found out that 5 months ago he cheated on me with another girl when he was blacked out. He did everything in his power to try to fix it he went and talked to the other girl to find out what happened and he has been so depressed and so have I. He and i were perfect together and always making each other happy. I know he cheated but is it wrong to get back together if we both still love each other?

admin

February 5, 2015 at 3:35 pm

Blacked out cheating?

Do you believe him?

Del

February 4, 2015 at 3:56 pm

Hi, It’s difficult situation . I’m confuse and I need an advice who been through same shoe. Here it goes my ex and I been together for almost 10 yrs . And bad event or so we say cheated , fell out love, depression .. I don’t know … So we broke up 2 yrs now, haven’t seen him for a year and come out from nowhere he just text and email that he is moving on the same town as I am. As I feel kinda bad for him because I’m getting married soon with a man who truly loves me. I don’t know what is the message that ex trying to deliver. He shows up in the place where I work. I’m confuse need help..

admin

February 5, 2015 at 3:04 pm

Your new guy…

Do you love him?

Liz

February 3, 2015 at 12:44 am

Hi. My story is this. I met my now ex-boyf in April of 2014. We both felt an instant soul connection. He said I love you to me first, though I felt it and said it back. The time we spent together was awesome. Then he had to deal with a court situation which was very stressful, he lost his job(not his fault), got a new one, and everything was seemingly okay, but a little after his birthday (Aug 12) I began to notice changes in his personality. It got worse and worse, we were fighting constantly, and his perception of reality seemed distorted. He was disorganized mentally, and was flipping out over absolutely nothing. In the beginning of September, it got to the point where it was out of control. Sometimes. Sometimes he would be his old self, happy as a clam and sweet and loving. Then he would suddenly change. This culminated in September when he became obsessed with his brother, and ultimately went and threatened him at his job. A week later, he wasn’t sleeping and he flipped out on me for no reason. I was so mentally exhausted that I had my Mom come to mediate a conversation with him. We talked things through and even settled them to some degree, and then ten minutes later it was as if he hadn’t had that conversation, and he started up again. My Mom had it. She threw him out, and then he REALLY flipped out, breaking chairs, crying, brandishing scissors…that’s when my Mom called the police, he left the house, and they went to find him. Turns out his brother had called the police, earlier in the year had gotten an order of protection and so my ex went to jail for having violated that. We never broke up. I found out while he was in jail from one of his best friends that he has Schizophrenia and Bipolar disorder, which he had been too ashamed to tell me. (Well he told me about the Bipolar, but the Schizophrenia had been left out. He said he feared I would leave him over it.) He also lied about alot, but mostly stuff he thought I would judge him negatively for.) He hurt me alot, but I realize now it was all his Schizophrenia/Bipolar. The part that hurt the most was after he got out of jail, he told me he didn’t love me anymore. That’s when my heart truly broke.
He has done this before, where he is fine for a while bc he takes his meds, and then he goes off them, starts drinking, and eventually stress gets to him and he has an episode. But while in jail, he got back on meds, and has continued to take them until kind of recently.
So he contacted me recently, and we talked through alot of our feelings, what happened, how it affected me, how much he hurt me. He is in his right mind now, and seems to fully understand what happened. He’s also much more stable, living in a good situation, with a new and less stressful job.
He says he still loves me. He says I make him feel whole. I feel the same way. I still love him, truly. And he’s promised to take his meds everyday because I said I can’t take the chance of all that happening again. I am scared, mostly. He said he was not at all ready for the kind of love I showed him before, and when he said he didn’t love me anymore it was because he was scared. He says he won’t hurt me like that again. Some days I feel like it would be bad to try again. Some days I just want to be next to him and love him. But my parents are very much opposed to it, because they saw what he did to me. They were actually witnesses, and of course, don’t want that happening to me. I have dated since him, no one special. There is something between us that just isn’t there with anyone else. I realize people don’t change that fast, and entering a relationship with that kind of history is dangerous. My family and friends don’t support it. But the heart wants what the heart wants. I’ve never loved anyone so much, or so deeply.

I have seen him on Saturday, and we did have sex. I saw him last night too, and we talked more, had sex again. But I know doing the same thing over and expecting a different result is madness, so if I were to try a relationship with him again it would have to be much different. What are your thoughts, recommendations? How would I broach the subject with my parents/friends? Am I insane? I know I’m not, but I don’t want to make the wrong choice here. I truly believe if he stays on his meds and we don’t try to move in together for a long while, then it could work…maybe…

admin

February 3, 2015 at 1:27 pm

Ok, you need to stop sleeping with your ex… Seriously.

I also wrote an article about the parents thing.

devanielle

February 1, 2015 at 1:28 pm

I broke up with my ex like 10 years ago and last week he sent me a message about he loved me and he wants to have a family and marry me. I still have feelings for him but not as deep as when we were together. Now he’s is totally different. But the problem is he lives in a different country than me. Should I believe him???

admin

February 2, 2015 at 2:10 pm

You are broken up and he sent that message to you?

karly

January 31, 2015 at 4:49 am

So my boyfriend and I broke up about a week ago. Neither of us wanted it. We just felt we could use a bit of time apart because we are (were) long distance and spent every chance we got together between his work and my schooling we hardly had free time so we took a break which ended up breaking up and I feel like I want to get back together more than he does but I’m not sure bc we talked more on the phone during our break up than ever when we were together and laughed more too. Is it a good idea to get back together or stay like we are?

admin

January 31, 2015 at 4:02 pm

How far of a distance were you from each other.
karly

January 31, 2015 at 9:58 pm

About an hour and a half drive and neither of us drive.

Jess

December 16, 2014 at 3:30 am

If my exboyfriend and I were happy for most of the relationship and we both want the same things out of life (two reasons for giving the relationship another try), is it worth getting back together and forgiving him for cheating?
Amber Williams

December 11, 2014 at 11:16 pm

I broke up with the sweetest man in the world two years ago. I swear since we’ve met I think about him every single day. We met online and instantly got on webcam to make sure the other was real & it was truely a love at first sight situation. It was beautiful, we were introducing ourselves but distracted by the others beauty (yes he is beautiful too) to the point where he kept apologizing because we would stop talking and just stare into each others eyes for minutes at a time. We would completely zone out if it & even on the phone I felt like he was genuine about his feelings towards me. He was literally everything I prayed for: tall (6’4, I’m 5’11 & it’s difficult running into attractive taller guys) funny (perfect cause I’m the goofiest person ever) handsome (I mean GORGEOUS) Well kept (gets a haircut once a week). Stayed fit & was in the military like my dad. We are both just as ambitious as the other and seen each other as “a power couple” the same favorite foods! Wanting to take the same vacations & wanted the same amount of kids & in the same order! We always talked about having a lavish place & inviting our friends over all the time. Encouraging each other to achieve our goals & he even wanted to marry me. He was crazy about me like I was crazy about him. Only problem was distance. He stays 16 hours away. So since we couldn’t see each other face to face I would love to be on webcam & he eventually got tired of it. My feelings would be hurt (& yes oh so petty but I was 19 years old then & I’m not the friend with all the boyfriends) he started to ignore me when I explained that I really just miss him when he’s at work & how he used to call me like at least 4 times a day on his breaks at work. I would go the whole day without hearing from him until later like 9pm. I didn’t assume he was cheating, just felt a little uneasy about it like is he losing interest?? Am I boring? I wish I was there, I’m much more fun in person because I’m a touchy feely cuddly person. This pattern continued & so I asked him did he want to breakup? He told me no but still wouldn’t speak to me, it really hurt my feelings because I’m not used to being ignored. So several days later I sent him a text saying that I’ve tried & you aren’t cooperating so we’re done. Though I really wanted to be with him! I just wanted to get his attention. We made up but not enough to get back together and we would keep intouch here & there. My heart sank when a few months later he got a girlfriend. When they were separated he would catch up with me & the feelings would return every time. We tell each other I love you & I miss you & I would see him in my dreams. I just knew he was the one. & now, even when I’ve had several other lovers, none compare to the feelings we had for each other. He’s single now but I probably ruined my chances a month ago when I went off in my feelings about how he doesn’t care for actually finding a wife for good reasons, now he’s focusing on the easy girls & I’m like really?? I didn’t apologize for it because I already look like a fool. He didn’t even reply. But we were online & I was obviously snooping on his page because I unfollowed him a long time ago & he knows this. I’m sure he thinks I’m desperate & weak without him but that’s certainly NOT the case. It may be too late. Unless he see’s me in person, then I know he’d fall for me again like he used to on webcam. I think of him when I don’t want to, help??

admin

December 15, 2014 at 5:28 am

When was the last time you talked to him?

Ariana

September 4, 2014 at 9:45 pm

I broke up with my ex a few months ago. It was a rash decision and I have regretted it everyday. I have told him time after time how sorry I am and that if I could rewind time I would take it back. I was under a lot of stress due to my dad dying and failing at school. Furthermore, I was out of state for school and felt very alone. I am a strong independent person but at the time I really needed extra support and he wasnt providing that for me. The 7 months I was away at school he never came to visit me. The big problem of being strong is that I tried to downplay how I was feeling and also didnt know how to explain that I had how I was feeling(I dont know how to communicate about negative issues). He is extremely hurt that I broke up with him and has been punishing me ever since. A week after I broke up with him I said I made a mistake and begged him to give me another chance. He said he cant jump back into a relationship with me because he is still shocked I broke up with him and is worried that I will do it again in the future. We have been talking more recently and he is entertaining the idea of us getting back together but it has to be at his pace. I want to do everything but at the same time I cant be waiting around hoping he texts me/calls me/wants to see me. Help!! I am seriously going crazy I cant function this is driving me bonkers.
Momo

August 5, 2014 at 2:35 pm

My boyfriend and I had been dating somewhat long distance for over 2 years when we broke up. I actually dumped him. Sadly I had pushed him away before so he told me to think about it because this would be the last time. I told him I didn’t want to think and I wanted to be done. Suddenly two days later I realized I made a HUGE mistake and started talking to him. We talked for three weeks, me begging pleading crying the works, and him saying he was done and couldn’t be with me anymore. I even asked if he had slept with someone else, he said he didn’t want to talk about it, but I pushed him and it turns out in the second week of the break up he had. He finally agreed to see me for closure on the third weekend of the break up. It was terrible and had no closure of course. There were HUGE mixed emotions from him. Saying he loved me over and over, kissing, telling me he’d miss me. Even that a part of him did want us to work out but that he couldn’t see the future. I begged and pleaded…he pushed back..it was terrible. He even ended up spending the night with me. The next morning he finally agreed that we would talk in 40 days, no promises for anything, but that he would talk to me then. I told him I would work very hard in those 40 days to get myself back and prove to him I deserved him back. A hug relief and maybe made me a little hopeful. He dropped me at my car, told me he loved me, and even said he hated to think it would be the last time he would see me. He started to offer a meet-up date but I told him that wouldn’t be good. He thanked me for being strong when he was weak. I drove home and started to feel so miserable I ended up calling him. We actually had a really nice talk and he admitted he felt lucky to have someone so willing to work for him and so in love with him. I hung up and felt good. Then panic set in because I started to wonder if he would get in a relationship in the next 40 days. I called him…again…and asked him to promise me not to. He got upset saying it wasn’t fair to make all these demands when he had already given me so much (true) and that he didn’t want to keep giving in. But he promised anyways and even said I love you first at the end of the call. I’m scared now for the 40 day mark. I feel like if I text him then he’ll just think I’m still pining over him and won’t be open to restarting the relationship. But if I don’t text him, is that me dishonoring the kindness he showed me? Is this even counting as no contact because we did agree to talk? He even promised that no matter what on that day he would answer and talk to me. I don’t know if it’s good he is giving in so much or bad. Should I even text him that day or wait a little longer?

admin

August 6, 2014 at 2:37 pm

What made you realize you had made a huge mistake?

C.M.

July 22, 2014 at 2:34 am

I tried commenting but it wouldn’t let me comment – no matter if I typed the captcha correctly!

I hope you can help me here, as you have helped so many people on this site! Thank you in advance.

We just dated for 6 months. I am in my late 20s, he is in early 30s, and we did agree to date to get married. He broke up with me saying that he didn’t see a future with me anymore and that I was a great girl and he hoped that I would find a great guy. His mom didn’t really like me, which he really respects his mom’s opinion. Up till the breakup, we did have arguments but he never expressed any REAL disdain, I believe he held it all in and exploded like a bomb at the end.

Anyway, 2 weeks after the breakup, he texted me saying that he was wrong and I was right – that he should have gave me a chance when I asked him to (now, a month ago). He didn’t ask me to get back with me though.

But I didn’t respond to him right away, I replied a week later saying that with the words like “I forgive you and that we are humans and we make mistakes, and like you said, that we are “great friends. :-)” Then, he didn’t reply back. I figured he reached out to me, and that was his way of saying sorry, and that he is moving on by implying that he should have gave me a chance. 🙁

However, a few days I regretted saying that we were “great friends” and I texted him directly, asking if he wanted to get back together and he didn’t answer. 1 week went by and no response. Out of hopelessness and sadness, I signed up for a dating site to see what kind of guys were out there, to “get my mind away from him, not necessarily to date.” Then, by accident – I saw him on the dating site! Out of anger and hopelessness, I deleted all contact with him (Facebook, chat devices, unfriended him, etc). I figured that he has already moved on.

Now, it is 1.5 weeks later, and I feel that my chances with “getting back with him to work things out” is very slim. I guess he may be dating someone else now, not sure anymore but should I still give this a dying chance and do the NC rule?

Thank you for your help!

admin

July 22, 2014 at 2:44 pm

Your comment went through it just had to be moderated.

How fast did he find someone new after the breakup?
C.M.

July 22, 2014 at 9:48 pm

Sorry I thought it didn’t! I decided to text him out of the blue, like you said -If we ended in bad terms text him a text of wishing him well before going through the NC stage.

I did and he immediately texted me back and made small talk, talking about how glad he was to hear from me and bits of his life. He didnt mention anything about my text gnat behavior of wanting to get back togwther. Afterwards I didn’t text him back.

I am not sure If he is dating anyone as I saw that he had the dating profile not too long ago. I didn’t realize he had the dating profile up for almost the entire time we were dating, unless he deactivated it and just activated it recently.

What are your thoughts? Thank you!
admin

July 24, 2014 at 2:34 pm

So, he had his dating profile live online the entire time you were dating.
C.M.

July 31, 2014 at 2:17 am

I’m not sure if he was using it actively but yes he did have it. I don’t think he cheated on me when we were official, but before being official, he could have been using it, but lied to me about online dating.

I haven’t texted him for a week now. I ended the text last week with an event that we both wanted to go while we were dating. 4 days later, he texts me saying that we should go one day. 5 days later, I haven’t texted him back, and he hasn’t texted me.

From a guy’s perspective, what do you think he means by that?
admin

August 4, 2014 at 2:14 pm

I think you are doing really well.

Sophia

June 17, 2014 at 6:21 am

Hello. I’m in a tough situation and would love to hear your input. My ex and I were together for 11 months before we “Really” broke up the first time 3 months ago (we broke up a few times before but would get back together on the same day). We got back in touch 2 months ago and a couple of weeks later he told me he wants me back if we could work on a few issues because our personalities clash. I was considering it and when I decided to give it another try because I think he’s a good guy, he told me he went back to drinking a week before. The thing is, I am against drinking, and I let him know this when we first met and he agreed with me and said he’s always been wanting to stop and that it is against is beliefs too. He said he stopped once before, but peer pressure is difficult. I kept trying to make sure he wasn’t doing it for me only and he assured me that he’s doing it for himself. And he stopped drinking during the time we were together. Now that I agreed to work on things to get back together, his said my belief changed and if you want us to get back together you have to accept that.

The thing is, values and principles are important to me, and I tried to compromise on a few things but drinking is a no-no for me. He seems to change his values often and “re-discover” himself a lot. I don’t know if I should give it a try or not.

admin

June 17, 2014 at 9:23 pm

Why ids drinking a big no no for you?

Ms Sunshine

June 9, 2014 at 10:42 am

Hi Chris,
My ex-boyfriend has been divorced 2 years with 2 kids. I know of his situation and perfectly understands it and I have been supportive of his responsibility to his kids. We’ve been in an LDR for 5 months and met personally while on our 2nd month. I broke up with him through enail because it seems he can’t tell me straight initially that he’s not IN love with me anymore. He then responded with an embedded reply that he’s got lots on his mind and that his boys are his priority.
I love him and I think it was a rash decision on my part to send the break up email even though i sensed he will eventually do it.
How do I get him back? Please help me.
Thank you!

admin

June 9, 2014 at 3:27 pm

I don’t think you were wrong to question him if he couldn’t answer a simple question,

Do you love me or not?

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