In today’s guide I’m going to show you exactly what to do if your ex boyfriend blocked you on everything.
In fact, these are the same strategies used by our clients to successfully get unblocked by their exes,
If you stick around until the end of this complete guide you’re going to learn,
- Why exes block you and what it means
- Why you need to understand the difference between a soft block and a hard block
- What our success stories can teach you about getting unblocked
- What specifically is working for our clients to get unblocked
- If no contact can work if you’ve been blocked
- Our step by step game plan for what to do if you’ve been blocked
- The biggest mistakes people make when they’ve been blocked
Let’s dive in!
What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Take the quizWhy Do Exes Block You And What It Means?
There are two big questions that we are going to be answering in this section.
Why exes block you
What it means if your ex blocks you
Let’s tackle the easy one first.
Understanding Why Exes Block You
The key to understanding why exes block you lies in understanding the nature of anxious and avoidant attachments.
If you aren’t familiar we estimate that the vast majority of our clients come to us with anxious attachment styles where their exes typically have avoidant attachment styles.
The intricate nature in which these attachment styles interact often will lead to a deeper understanding of why exes block one another.
According to Truer Love,
The first thing you need to understand is that Avoidant types have a tendency to romanticize past lovers or idealize yet-to-be-found future lovers, as both concepts keep true vulnerability at a safe distance. (https://www.truerlove.com/journal/why-avoidant-people-ghost-and-4-signs-to-help-you-see-it-coming)
Having this basic information about avoidant attachment styles will help you understand the cycle that ultimately causes them to block you after a breakup.
Here’s the cycle:
- They pursue someone with an anxious style aggressively.
- The anxious person reciprocates
- Cracks begin to form as the avoidant realizes this person might be too much.
- The anxious person begins to worry that the avoidant person is pulling away and digs in further by exhibiting anxious types of behavior.
- The avoidant person freaks out and often retreats inwardly by being silent because their independence is being threatened
- The anxious person craves re-assurance that things are ok.
- The avoidant person can’t take it anymore and leaves
- They then ultimately block the anxious person wanting to keep that person at a distance.
The cause and effect is important to understand here since it usually explains 90% of situations I encounter where one person has been blocked.
Let’s move on and talk about what it means when you’ve been blocked.
Taking An Honest look At What It Means To Be Blocked
I’m not going to lie to you.
Tactically being blocked is just about one of the worst situations you can be in.
I’ve never encountered a “success story” where someone has successfully gotten an ex back without speaking to them.
At some point attraction needs to be rebuilt and it seems that being blocked completely prevents that from happening.
It’s natural for clients to panic if they find themselves in this position.
What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Take the quizLuckily, for the past ten years we’ve been doing extensive research on what being blocked looks like and one of the biggest insights that we’ve found is that by simply doing nothing you give yourself the best chance of getting unblocked.
For some odd reason exes have a tendency to block you and then unblock you at a later date.
For most this will be great news but we are dealing with a lot of anxiety here and telling an extremely anxious person to take something on faith is a little difficult.
Understanding The Difference Between A Hard Block And A Soft Block
Believe it or not but there are two types of categories that being blocked can be divided into.
- The Soft Block
- The Hard Block
It always shocks me how many people fail to understand which of these categories they fall into.
Here’s a quick rundown of what each of these mean.
The Soft Block = A situation where your ex has blocked you ALMOST everywhere.
To date, these are the most common ways people communicate with their exes.
- Texting
- Phone Calls
- Facebook Messanger
- Snapchat
- Tinder
And I’m probably forgetting a big “social media platform” but I think you get the picture.
“The soft block” assumes that your ex has blocked you on almost every single platform but they’ve left one small way of getting in contact.
I’d estimate that close to 80% of the clients I work with fall into this category.
The second category is a little more difficult to deal with.
The Hard Block: Takes a situation where your ex has blocked you EVERYWHERE
Scary, right?
But perhaps nothing is as frightening as what I’d like to talk to you about next.
False Positives With Soft Blocks
If you didn’t already know, all of the clients I work with get access to a special private support group.
(They get extra goodies essentially. )
To date, there are a little over 6,000 members in the group.
Each has gone through a breakup and are there to support you throughout your journey.
Anyways, a few weeks ago I stumbled across this really interesting comment from one of my members,
Essentially what she was saying is that she was curious how the iPhone handled “blocked messages.”
So, she had a friend block her and then she proceeded to send a message to her friend to see how the message behaved.
Predictably, her friend didn’t receive the message.
What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Take the quizUnpredictably, her iPhone considered the message “delivered.”
You might be familiar with this language here when you send successful messages.
Turns out you can’t rely on this 100% of the time.
So, how are you supposed to determine if your ex has blocked you via text message.
Honestly, my best piece of advice here is to combine two concepts.
- Time
- Responsiveness
If a lot of time goes by with your ex not being responsive at all then it is probably a clear indicator that you are blocked.
What is a good time frame to go on?
Honestly, it depends on a lot of factors.
I’d say trust your gut.
What Success Stories Can Teach Us About Being Blocked
Above I mentioned that I have this special support group for my clients.
Perhaps one of the biggest assets of having a group like that is I get to communicate with people using my program all at once.
I also get to see a lot of success stories.
So, in preparation for this article I decided to look through the group in the last year for success stories when it came to getting unblocked.
My only goal was to determine if I could find any kind of consistency or through line I could use to teach you.
In all, I was able to find seven unblocking success stories.
Unblocking Success Story #1
Lesson Learned = Her ex admitted to unblocking her from time to time to check on her. This might indicate that exes seem to put up a “cool” front so that they look fine on the outside when they aren’t on the inside.
Unblocking Success Story #2:
What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Take the quizLesson Learned= Be patient apparently.
Unblocking Success Story #3:
Lesson Learned= This particular person has something really interesting to say. Her ex blocked her on Facebook but that didn’t stop her from going out and having a good time. Upon our advice she posted the pictures on Facebook and a week later she gets unblocked.
This would seem to indicate that even if you are blocked your ex still pays attention to your photos.
Unblocking Success Story #4:
Lesson Learned: This person did something interesting. She determined that she was blocked pretty much everywhere except email. So, if you were paying attention above you’d notice that she would be categorized as a “soft block”
After a few months of communicating through email unblocking became natural.
Unblocking Success Story #5:
Lesson Learned: This one was inconclusive because she didn’t provide enough data.
Unblocking Success Story #6:
Lesson Learned: Again, this one isn’t conclusive from an “unblocking” standpoint but she did have something interesting to say from her historical experience when it came to dating.
In her experience exes tend to block you because they are “lashing out.”
She also seems to imply that getting an ex to unblock you is simply a matter of riding it out.
Unblocking Success Story #7:
Lesson Learned: This woman seems to come down on the side of patience. She states that it is usually only a matter of time before you are unblocked.
What Is Working For Our Clients To Get Unblocked
If you are anything like me then you are probably a fiend for connivence and want all of what I just jotted down in one simple place for you to glance at.
Consider this to be your “unblocking” cheat sheet.
- Exes have admitted to “unblocking” you temporarily to see what you are up to
- They will pay attention to you on Facebook even when they have you blocked
- Posting pictures of you going out and having a good time is a good idea
- If you are in a “soft block” make sure you use your other means of communication
- One of the primary reasons exes will block you is because they are “lashing out”
- Patience seemed to be important
- If you go long enough without doing anything “crazy” your ex can unblock you
I’d like to add on to this by telling a story.
The Brilliant Tactic One Of My Clients Used To Get Unblocked
I can’t take credit for this particular tactic even though I’d like to.
For this one I’ll have to nod to my client and thank her for letting me recommend it to you.
Here’s the background.
My client was in a situation where she was in a “partial block.”
She was able to communicate with her ex via text messages but she was blocked completely on Facebook.
Unsure of how to start a conversation with him on how to get him to “unblock her” she decided to do something brilliant.
Her ex was a big fan of the Miami Dolphins.
For those of you overseas that is a football team.
Anyways, Let’s consider her ex a Miami Dolphins super fan.
She happened to be at one of the games and took a bunch of pictures with friends.
Naturally she posted the photos on Facebook and was sure that he’d love to see them. She was literally about to send the pictures manually over text message when she got an idea.
She sent him this text,
This subtly confronted the “blocking” issue and since he was such a super fan he was forced to unblock her to see the pictures.
You see, the brilliant part of this strategy doesn’t lie in the execution but the carrot.
The only reason this worked for her was because she tempted her ex with something she knew he was passionate about.
This wouldn’t have worked if she tried to entice him with ballerina pictures.
The greater the carrot the greater the chances of being unblocked become.
Can No Contact Work If You’ve Been Blocked
If you’re familiar with “our process” then you’re probably familiar with our fondness for the no contact rule.
So, what is it?
Well, our official definition defines it as,
A period of time where you cut off all conceivable communication with an ex after a breakup. The intent of this tactic should NOT be used to make your ex miss you but instead should be used to rebuild your own life so that you outgrow your ex. By doing this, the no contact rule can have the added benefit of making an ex miss you
There’s an implication within that definition that at some point your ex will learn that you’re ignoring them which seems kind of difficult to occur if they’re blocking you, right?
Well, this section is going to exclusively look at if the no contact rule can still be effective if you’ve been blocked.
Now, what I’m about to say is going to sound incredibly cliche but it’s actually completely backed up by our success stories.
The point of the no contact rule should not be about “making an ex miss you.” Rather, it should be about outgrowing your ex so you are more secure with the breakup.
Cliche, right?
So, in that sense the no contact rule can work for you but that’s not what you really want to know is it?
No, what you want to know is if your ex can miss you during the no contact rule if they don’t even know you’re using it on them.
Remember above when I talked about this intricate dance that is done between anxious and avoidant attachment styles.
I made a statement that has been proven true time and time again about avoidant attachment styles.
“The first thing you need to understand is that Avoidant types have a tendency to romanticize past lovers or idealize yet-to-be-found future lovers, as both concepts keep true vulnerability at a safe distance.”
We’ve even backed this up by learning about “when” avoidant attachment styles begin to miss you.
Hint Hint: It happens after they think you’ve completely moved on because they feel safe to tap into nostalgic reverie then.
Here’s the point I’m getting at.
An ex who blocks you is exhibiting avoidant behavior and eventually a time will come where they will begin to think back on your time together fondly.
It technically doesn’t matter if you use a no contact rule or not.
This will happen no matter what.
Now, there isn’t a guarantee they are going to unblock you when this happens because we want to be realistic about this.
What a no contact rule can do for you is give you that extra benefit of ensuring your mindset is right.
But enough chit chat let’s get to the good stuff.
Exactly What To Do If Your Ex Blocks You
There are four big steps I’d like you to implement if you find yourself in a situation where you’ve been blocked.
- Remember, Most Exes Will Unblock You Without You Doing Anything
- Implement A No Contact Rule
- Utilize Social Media To Its Fullest
- If You Are In A Soft Block Contact Your Ex After No Contact
Let’s start from the top.
Most Exes Unblock You Without You Doing Anything
Well over 70% of our clients who were blocked by their exes ended up getting unblocked without them having to do anything.
So, technically your first step is to understand that statistics are on your side if you are simply patient and don’t overreact.
We think the reason this occurs is two-fold.
Firstly, an exes decision to block you is an impulsive one and usually due to a fear of overdone anxious behaviors.
Secondly, most exes tend to exhibit avoidant behaviors and we know from studying avoidant exes that after enough time goes by they begin to romanticize their past relationships. Usually when this happens they want to unblock their exes to see what they are up to.
Understand that the odds are in your favor by simply doing nothing but being patient.
Implement A No Contact Rule
We need to stop viewing the no contact rule as this be all, end all reverse psychology concept that can make an ex miss you.
Yes, it can do those things but if that’s all you are looking for from it you’re missing the entire point.
The point of no contact should be to outgrow your ex so that by the time you are complete with your timeframe you aren’t even sure if you want your ex back anymore.
This gives you such an edge because when you contact your ex they’ll sense something is different about you.
Utilize Social Media To It’s Fullest
Most of the success stories we interviewed who got unblocked by their exes admitted to the fact that their exes would often unblock them briefly on social media to see what they were up to.
Combining this with the fact that we know close to 90% of people Facebook stalk after a breakup it’s a pretty good bet that your ex is paying attention to what you’re up to even when you don’t think they are.
One of the biggest mistakes I see people make after a breakup occurs when they completely give up on posting through social media because they don’t think their exes are paying attention.
They are.
So, make sure you are posting on social media.
If you want to learn what you should be posting definitely check out this post.
If You Are In A Soft Block Contact Your Ex After No Contact
Being in a soft block implies that you are blocked on social media but still have access to your exes phone.
Or
Your ex blocked your phone number but you still have access to them on social media.
If you are in a situation like this we still recommend you reach out via the unblocked area after no contact.
Why?
Well, we know from studying exes behavior during no contact that most of them actually won’t reach out.
Over 60% of them to be exact.
This means that even if your ex is having the nostalgic reverie that we want them to have there is no guarantee that they will act on it.
Unblocking you may be as far as they go because the truth is they LOVE wanting you and they want that feeling to last.
So, in a case where you are in a soft block and they don’t unblock you it’s advisable for you to reach out via the means that you are unblocked on.
The end goal shouldn’t be to try to convince them to come back. Rather, it should just be to have a short enjoyable conversation.
Hopefully if things go well then unblocking you in the areas where you are blocked becomes natural.
Of course, there’s one scenario I haven’t really talked about.
What To Do If Your Ex Doesn’t Unblock You
What happens if you follow all of the steps I mentioned above but you are in a hard block and your ex hasn’t unblocked you.
What should you do?
There are really only three options for you.
- Wait
- Speed Up The Nostalgia
- The Hail Mary
Option One: Wait
Most people grow impatient when they’ve been blocked. Not only is it incredibly hurtful but it’s annoying to be ignored.
Sometimes all you need to do is wait a little bit longer.
We are noticing that most of our clients end up being blocked for 1-4 months after a breakup.
This is a LOONNNGGG time.
So, if it hasn’t been four months yet then you need to just remain patient.
Option Two: Speed Up The Nostalgia
Remember, people with avoidant attachments won’t begin to truly miss you until they think there is no chance that a reunion can happen.
Only then will their nostalgia kick in.
So, one of the best ways to speed up the nostalgia is to begin going on dates with other people.
Post about it on social media.
Remember, less is more.
We don’t want you posting a picture where you’re making out with the date but it’s ok to post a picture with other people or putting yourself in environments where you can be potentially hit on.
Option Three: The Hail Mary
If you’ve tried everything above and you are still blocked then it has likely been 4+ months without hearing from them at all.
You’ve been on dates with other people.
Your social media game is on fire.
If all that has occurred and you are still in a hard block then there’s one more thing that you can try but I actually wouldn’t advise it.
It’s incredibly controversial and I haven’t actually seen it work.
(Not the greatest endorsement)
You can buy a new phone, change your phone number and send a mass text out to your contacts list letting them know you’ve changed your number and this is your new one.
Make something up about your old phone being shattered.
Again, I’ve never seen this actually work before. Most of our clients get unblocked before they reach this point.
Hard blocks are rare as well.
Nevertheless, this is the Hail Mary. The one action you take if you’re not expecting to get a response.
Me personally, I don’t think an ex is worth changing a number for.
But that’s me.
Emily Guzman
August 26, 2024 at 8:50 pm
My ex has me blocked on everything. We’ve been together almost 2 and half years I love him but he said the reason he left me was because of work and he doesn’t want to be in a relationship rn but we’ve been separated before for the same reason and have gotten back together but never have I been hard blocked. Will he unblock me?
Eva L
May 26, 2024 at 8:59 pm
My LDR ex broke up with me all of a sudden and blocked me. A week later he unblocked me and we stayed in regular contact that got better and better the last two weeks.
Yet there was a girl he seemed interested in and when I asked he denied it, yes she is interesting but not in a romantic way.
Fast forward three days ago he was our with his friends, they asked him why he is still in contact with me. The day after he was suddenly cold and distant and meanwhile being online, didn’t talk with me or snapped. I sensed STH was off and a day after I draw a border and said ok dunno what’s going but snapping at me not ok. Suddenly I got blocked again. I am super confused I was working on myself being more confident. I saw now that this girl gave heart emojis to photo of him and now I wonder if he blocked me out of a sudden because of her? What should I do?
Mary Melissa Assan
April 15, 2023 at 5:27 pm
My ex has blocked me on everything for three months but doesnt want to unblock can i go and talk to him about it face to face.is it ok.
Coach Shaunna Nicol
April 18, 2023 at 4:39 pm
Hi Mary, I would say that you should not really show up at his door / class / work. If you bumped into him randomly you can say hello politely but you do not engage in a conversation about getting back together. You need to let your ex see that you are not wanting to give him a hard time or try to get him back (for now)
Lindsay Croshau
December 26, 2022 at 12:56 am
Around 2 months ago my ex and I broke up from each other and I begged and pleaded for her to come back, but she was certain on her decision. I didn’t respect the breakup and reached out to her multiple times eventually leading to a full block around a month back.
I tried regretfully tried asking her to talk and unblock me on an alternative number a week later and was ignored and blocked there too. All of her friends began to block me on Instagram. I have no idea what to do. I’ve been trying to move on, but it hurts knowing that she did that
Eva
October 31, 2022 at 9:01 am
Hello,
im a woman and my girlfiend broke up with almost 5 months ago.. she said i was being clingy and too much for her and emotionally was not feeling it too much..we were together 3 months and all was awsome but after getting back to work she started distancing her self and things were not the same.. at somepoint i was depressed cause of work and shee seemed to didnt care at all…she deleted me from everything after 3 weeks she broke up with me and i dont understand why..she deleted me not blocked,even deleted me form games we used to play together with some friends,, she blamed me for everything.. anyway i know im not supposed to want her back like everyone is saying but i ant move on i cant stop thinking of her i think im going crazy. i begged after she broke up with me and then i just didnt bother her again.. I JUST WANT HER BACK..IS THERE ANYTHING I CAN DO?? I DONT KNOW I F SHE MOVED ON OR EVEN IF SHE EVER THINK OF ME. PLEASE HELP ME
Demi
August 12, 2022 at 7:42 pm
Hi,
Me ex and I have been together 10 months. He came out of another relationship when we first met. He struggles with his mental health but doesn’t admit it much. We have an on off relationship and he is very hot headed and impulsive. He finds it easy to cut people off including his mum for 11 years. We split 4 weeks ago because I went to meet a friend (a guy) for dinner. Even though I invited my ex, he said it was inappropriate. He blocked me for a week on WhatsApp so I called him and we eventually got back together. Since then it’s been great. I was going on a trip last week so the night before we went on a date to watch the sunset, he said he knows I’m the one and wants to have children and get married to me and he’s never been so sure of someone. That night, he saw I followed someone back (another guy) on instagram. There was nothing in it, just someone who is in my field of work. He went crazy and it’s the nastiest he’s been. Told me to never contact him again. He blocked me on WhatsApp and it’s been 9 days. I did accidentally call him 2 days ago but he didn’t answer and there’s been no acknowledgement since. He doesn’t have a proper instagram account, more for being nosey which I never minded. He blocked me on there too after 6 days of breaking up. I’m hurting. I deactivated my social media because I kept checking if he unblocked me and he hadn’t. He’s my best friend and I love him and just want him to see how much I care for him and want my future to be with him. I’m trying for 30 days no contact but will he ever unblock me and be with me?
Coach Shaunna Nicol
September 5, 2022 at 6:42 pm
Hi Demi, so firstly you need to follow a 45 day NC as you have been blocked. Following this, I would suggest that you re consider what you want in a partner as someone who is so insecure that they end your relationship because you followed someone on social media is never going to be a happy and healthy relationship. He needs to do a lot of self work before he can be in a serious relationship.
Lila
August 6, 2022 at 9:30 am
So I was waiting for him to decide to commit to me more. For a long time, almost 2 years. His work is in the way and we cant meet a lot. So he just didnt respond to my questions about our relationship. He still had feelings for me, but avoided the topic. So one night i got mad and i texted him Its over i cant do this anymore and i need to erase him out of my life. I blocked him. But i cooled down and saw he blocked me too. I asked through another phone to forgive me i didnt mean it but he only texted me he cant do this shit anymore and asked me not to text him and he doesnt want to be with me or any other girl. And blocked me again.
So i didnt text anymore and i am blocked.
Will he ever come back? I feel there is no hope.
Brian
July 4, 2022 at 1:59 am
Hi, my ex girlfriend had me blocked on everything apart from Facebook messenger. I left her on read as the conversation was dry, it seemed like she didn’t want me bothering her..so I started the no contact rule from there. A few days before day 30 of no contact, I changed my profile picture to a different selfie and uploaded a photo of me in the gym..I then noticed my ex blocked me a day later, so I now have no contact with her..what does this mean? What should I do? I attempted to text her but I think she may possibly have my number blocked. I’m thinking of calling her tomorrow from a landline to see if I can have a talk with her.
Coach Shaunna Nicol
July 24, 2022 at 9:03 pm
If you are blocked then you need to complete a 45 day NC do not call her landline
Amy
May 17, 2022 at 2:35 pm
Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me around 3 weeks ago. It started off with an argument (I wouldn’t go for a drink with him and his friends) and he gave me an ultimatum to meet him somewhere otherwise we were finished. He swore down on his dads life if I didn’t come he’d never talk to me again. I did not go because I felt emotionally blackmailed and disrespected that he gave our 10 relationship an ultimatum. The same day he blocked me on everything (phone number, WhatsApp all social media). I thought he was mad that I didn’t meet him so I gave him space to cool down assuming he would unblock me and apologise. A week goes by and I still hadn’t heard anything but someone told me he said we’d broken up. I was shocked so went round to his house. He didn’t want to talk about the argument and just said we are too different people and he doesn’t see us being together long term anymore. I agree we are different but more int he aspects of he likes going out every weekend and drinking and I don’t. I was really shocked at this and it hurt, this is a person who I was moving out with at the end of the year. He said he still loves me etc. I started to message his work phone the following day hoping we could sort things out cause I know how much we adore each other but he told me he needs time and space and we need to move on with our lives. He said if things change we will know in a few months. I haven’t contacted him not for 2 weeks (I can’t anyway as he’s blocked me!) I don’t know what to do, I am devastated.
Sylvia Lilly
April 9, 2022 at 1:51 am
My ex and I have been together off and on for two years. He has ghosted me, gaslighted and all the rest. But, I have always taken him back. I can’t explain why I don’t understand why myself. I got the love bombing and the “I love you I want us forever I’m sorry”. We were always great when we were together in person but when we weren’t he would gradually pull away and when I’d ask what was wrong he’d eventually pick a fight and blame me for things that he felt I did wrong and he’d ghost me. We were doing really well and again he began to not message back break dates and then quit contact. I messaged him and he said he was out with friends and I was disturbing he was rude and disrespectful and even accused me of stalking him . I waited until the next day and responded I was tired and hurt and told him I didn’t know why I accepted his treatment and didn’t know what his purpose was for doing so I told him I finally saw what he really was and how little he cared for me if he ever cared. His response was once again no response. A day later he blocked me from everything. This was after attempts of no contact and him coming back. Not sure if he’s done for good or is just using this as a way to hurt me. Don’t think it matters either way. I’m writing this only in hopes that if someone has gone through something similar that maybe they can help me see that him blocking me is probably the best thing because hopefully By knowing I have no way to be in touch that I can finally find my best me again. Best of luck all.
Sandy
February 21, 2022 at 3:11 pm
You guys…I want to write my experience hoping other women read this. My ex broke up with me 6 months ago saying he needed time/space. I never once reached out to him after his request for space. I was in A LOT of pain, but I went into therapy and my therapist helped me to really focus on myself in very healthy ways. I decided to start traveling alone and push myself to do things outside of my comfort zone and I also decided to focus on a new hobby…photography, so I could get better photos of my travels. Two months after the break up while I was on a hiking trip in Maine, my ex started commenting on my IG posts of my trip (I “liked” his comments but I didn’t reply to them) and then… he blocked me on all social media. That’s what led me to come across this article. I felt confused and set back emotionally, it was extremely painful. I wasn’t reaching out so it’s not like he had to block me because I was bothering him. It was a set back in my healing for sure. Anyway, I still never tried reaching out and I did not react in any way and went back to focusing on myself. I give a lot of credit to my therapist who kept me focused. My therapist got me into mindfulness to keep myself in the present. I am an online reseller and I threw myself into working on that and my sales were better than ever, I made enough money to take a trip out west. In Utah, I hiked one of the most dangerous trails in the US (again traveling and hiking alone) then I went to the Grand Canyon. I posted one of my Grand Canyon photos on IG and the park reached out asking to use my photo in their marketing material! I was literally on top of the world traveling alone, I have never felt so capable or independent…and I wasn’t relying on someone else making me happy, it was all me doing it. I remember taking in a beautiful view in Utah and being in tears but this time it was happy tears. I kept thinking if my ex had never dumped me, and never blocked me, I probably wouldn’t be experiencing these amazing things. By this time (5 months after break up) I felt almost completely over my ex. Then… he reached out. He sent a long message that he missed me, couldn’t stop thinking about me, wished we were still a couple, etc. We ended up back together and he told me the reason he blocked me was because he saw my posts traveling and I seemed happier without him. He said it was “physically painful” to see that. He also admitted he still looked after blocking. Even though we are back together, I still want to keep my focus on my own life, and I’m going on another solo trip next week. Who knows maybe we will end up breaking up again…but the thing is, now I know I will be totally fine if we do. So the reason I wanted to write is: I know it’s extremely painful but if you can find a passion to focus on, and focus on professional and personal goals, your ex will become a distant memory, you will create your own happiness, and most likely he will reach out again (but by that time you might not care!)
Cara
October 17, 2021 at 1:57 pm
My ex blocked me because he thinks I lied to him about where I was last weekend, he was driving around looking for me as I was walking home but failed to tell me so I was unaware, on top of that my phone battery was dying so I could hardly communicate with him where I was. My friend happened to be driving past and picked me up and dropped me home, my ex said he waited outside my house and I was lying. He then got angry and said that we were done and he didn’t want me in his life, blocked me on WhatsApp and so I can’t call him, he hasn’t blocked me on my work phone though, he has no social media at all. I text him from my work phone and he replied but then said if I kept texting he would also block that number too. I haven’t contact him since then. This is the first argument we have had. I noticed on his WhatsApp picture he put a picture up of a girl and the girl on her own for literally 5 minutes and then changed it back to him.
Ria
August 25, 2021 at 9:33 am
It was on a 6yrs relationship from school. He lost feelings on me one year back and he was waiting for a break up so badly. He broke up after a one month long fight also acted so mean and blocked me everywhere. Though he has feelings on me he is so stubborn with his decision and is trying hard to move on. I’m totally depressed and I don’t know what to do. I miss him badly. I want him back.
Athena
August 25, 2021 at 8:22 am
Hello, my ex blocked me a month ago and i tried my best to be patient, because I remembered he told me before, that if something happens like this where he blocks me out of nowhere he’ll come back, i just have wait for 2 weeks, but within those 2 weeks his sister texted me, me and her r not that close because my ex never told her about me and him r dating, she was asking how i am which is suspicious because i was thinking why did his sister reach out now were not that close, in my head i was thinking it might be him. But i dont know there were many doubts . And then august 13 the day were me and him are supposed to celebrate our monthsary i got sad and that i texted him on my other accnt saying that i still care for him and that if he wants to come back ill continue my love if not its fine but i wish him happiness and good health, but still no reply and got blocked from my other accnt. I was confused idk anymore because it was my first time being blocked my someone. And 2 weeks past and im still waiting patiently . But then i heard to one of my friends that he was spreading to people that were done. Idk if i got my answer, my closure? But i wanted to accept it already that were done but something is making me hesitant. I know deeply i still love him, but idk if he still does or if he still miss me. And if we are done i wanted my closure because i really hate the feeling of hatred its not helping me to move on.
Carol
June 5, 2021 at 6:59 pm
My ex and I broke up 4months ago we have been talking on and off I was trying so hard to save the relationship but he didnt want to know anything it wasnt a bad breakup but then he went and blocked me of everything 2months ago and I really don’t know what to do anymore I miss been able to talk to him and just want him back in my life so much
San
February 9, 2021 at 9:45 am
Hello, so my ex and I broke up and he blocked me after 2 weeks he unblocked me and textes me « I have unblocked you lol » so I replied with « it’s good you are back to your senses « and he blocked me again. I got angry and sent him an email telling him never to unblock me and that’s he is so childish and that I hate him. It’s been two weeks and he hasn’t unblocked me. I feel hurt
Andrea
January 7, 2021 at 3:25 am
I need help so me and my ex broke up a week ago and we deleted each other from social media. Only 3 days later he adds me back social media and messages me that he misses me and loves me he regrets kicking me out and not wanting to talk to me when I wanted to talk and we talked for two days of us talking about what went wrong with our relationship and wanted to get back together and we were happy that we were talking again but he wanted long distance because his family didn’t want us to get back together and wouldn’t help him if we were to but I didn’t want to be kept a secret and a few months later he would bring me back home. The thing is I didn’t want to kept a secret we were high school sweethearts and been together for a little over 4 1/2 years and i wanted to come back home but his only answer to that is idk I just don’t know what I want but I gave you a choice and I didn’t want to wait so long for him. The thing with his family now they don’t like me he lied that I cheated I admit I am in the wrong one night on Christmas Eve I blacked out from drinking and I was comforting a aunts boyfriend because he was crying and so I was rubbing his back to comfort him and I never knew he kissed me on the cheek and was playing with my hair and my ex knows I hate my hair being played with but the thing is my ex didn’t do anything he just watched and let his family hate me knowing I didn’t know what was going on with my surroundings he was giving up on me and so on New Year’s Eve we got into a argument which was about I forgot to say give a hug and say hi to uncle(his dad) but I said hi to everyone else and they left to the store and he had to argue with me in front of his cousins telling me I’m so wrong for doing that so we went back home so I can be by myself home so he can cool off with his family and in the heat of the moment I told him I’m done with his family and our relationship you never defend me or anything you let them step all over me while I’m crying driving home and he was telling me he didn’t want me to go and wanted to think about our relationship and I agreed to and we kissed on New Year’s Eve and I told him I’d see him tomorrow after I got off work and a few hours later he texts me I’m a liar and I cheated on him and it doesn’t help he’s drinking and his family was feeding him lies about me and they don’t really like me. So I decided to tell him I’m going to leave for the weekend and I’ll come back on Sunday he didn’t believe all he did was throw my money, took my phone and Apple Watch, and tried taking my debit card which I’m stiff expected to get my paycheck soon, and he told me to leave and your not coming back and he told me we should break up and I left with my mom 3 hours away to let him cool down. Now fast forward now today he wanted me to come home and was going to tell his aunt to tell her what he wants which was me coming back home but I never got a text for 20 minutes and he texts me that he doesn’t know what he wants and I should move on from me and he went back to long distance and I told him I want to come home and all he tells me we should just be friends or even friends with benefits he just wants what best for us and he tells me he’s sorry that he texted me he just felt bad for me and next thing he blocks me from everything to forgive himself out like idk what happened to him he told me he loved and miss me being with him Nd than after his phone call with his aunt he turns on me to keep his family happy and I decided to block him as well to keep space and I know it’s a lot to read I need help he loves/misses me and regrets what Happened but now he just changed his mind all of a sudden
Febe
January 6, 2021 at 11:01 am
Hi,
I would like to tell a little about my story.
So my ‘boyfriend’ and i were 6 years together. It all started when i was 11 years old. He wanted to be more than best friends.. I didn’t want to risk losing our friendship so we didn’t move in on it.. We stayed best friends.. Once i was 14 years old i realized we both love each other way to much to not become a couple.. So we kissed.. When i was 18 years old we moved in together. We had financial troubles and he got in a depression.
Now we moved to a smaller town and he went tried taking medication for his depression. I tried to take care of him.. I’m 20 years old now and we both love each other so much…
But he broke up with me. He thinks i’ll be happier without him and he needs to find himself again.. He stopped taking the medication and doesn’t even get out of bed now..
We are broken up for a little more than a month now. He sais he misses me and it hurts way to much to see or talk to me… He had to block me on social media to try and move on…
I don’t understand why we just can’t be together as we love each other so much…
I’m following the NC and it isn’t hard because ofc i’m blocked on fb and instagram, i don’t know about my number but i want to give him space.. So yeah i can feel we’ll meet again but for now i guess i need to let him go.
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
January 6, 2021 at 9:07 pm
Hi Febe, so it is normal for childhood sweethearts to hit a rough patch and come together again this usually happens as you both grow up different stages, you just need to understand that you need to do what is going to help you right now and that is going to be spending time with your friends, family and enjoying your life. He needs this time to feel like himself again, maybe even see who he is as an young adult. There is always a chance you can get back together, but for now stick with your No contact work on yourself in that time and reach out after 45 days, if you want to.
Emmie
October 8, 2020 at 6:41 pm
Hello,
Literally my ex blocked on on venmo (?) and unfriended me on snapchat after six months of no contact. I had recently venmoed a guy I’d been casually dating and that’s the only thing I could think might cause this. Does this mean he was watching my venmo? I don’t understand why he did this when he still follows me on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter. Any chance you guys know what’s going on?
Thanks!
Emmie
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
October 21, 2020 at 7:48 pm
Hi Emmie I would say that if he noticed an interaction with you and another man then yes there is a chance this is why he did it, but he would likely do the same if he seen you on another media. It is clearly and emotional reaction to the thought of you being with another guy
Tabitha Coetzee
June 30, 2020 at 9:03 pm
Hey Chris and team
What if it is after 2 months of no contact, then there was a reason to initiate contact, but even if you gave the option he could reblock you on WhatsApp again, you didn’t give him reason to and had a polite conversation then got reblock Ed and only unblocked when you had reached out via other avenues to try and ask a question.. And now I’m at the point I just said I was there for him and wrote a nice message and promised to leave him be and hoped we both could heal and arrive at the point where we could talk like friends again. Currently my profile picture is not even a picture of me.