My Ex Blocked Me On Everything - How Can I Get Unblocked?

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Lea

December 29, 2018 at 1:44 am

My ex is 44 years old.

The bad signs:
He suddenly texted a breakup and blocked me on everything.

I sent him one text from another number, one bouquet, one e-mail (not sure if I’m blocked there) and one letter. In each of these, I did not beg, but I made it clear that I still love him and would do anything to work things out. After that, I went NC.

He is very impulsive and had blocked me before for simply disagreeing with him (but unblocked me later).

He does irrational things when stressed and he was preparing an exam when he suddenly blindsided me with the breakup.

It has been about 30 days since my last attempt to contact him, but 60 days since the breakup.

Good side:

I was his longest relationship at almost five years. The other women barely stayed by his side for a few months.

We rarely argued until near the end. We had a few short, petty arguments due to his stonewalling of important issues and being avoidant. Nothing out of place was ever said and there was no yelling.

We created a lot of good memories and there were FAR more of these than maybe five short petty arguments in the entire relationship.

I stayed with him, even when he made poor financial choices and poor job choices. He is now living in a very bad house and I still love him.

I have no clue how to handle this. My gut says that he broke up under duress and probably hates it, but he also has a very big ego and is unlikely to drop the pride so that we can work on things.

Chris Seiter

December 29, 2018 at 2:07 am

Hi Lea…yep…lots of guys have oversized egos. He may have rushed through the decision making process. Consider a brief No Contact period. Pick up my eBook, “EBR PRO” so you have the best resource to help you going forward!

Pearl Ephraim

December 19, 2018 at 7:16 pm

Hi Chris,

Oh my word I have been on your blog for two days now. EVERY SINGLE article sums me up, my ex blocked me on whatsapp and calls/texts, he doesn’t have any other social media though. He blocked me after I nagged him for breaking up and begging him to give us a chance. He asked for space for a month and I fought it, he told me he did not know how he feels about me and I flipped. I tried NC rule but only lasted 4 days that’s when I contacted him, my birthday is coming up so I asked if he wanted to go on a trip. He didn’t reply to my whatsapp so I called him and he was cold but said he would think about it. Then he said he had to go. Silly me I called him later to see if he is available to talk again, he kept hanging up my calls. I couldn’t help myself I kept calling (before we would always fight and he switched off his phone and decline my calls and he eventually picks up then I asks to see him and we work things out in person and are fine). This time however he got annoyed and blocked me on whatsapp first. Then I kept calling his phone over 50+ times ( I know and I was doing so well with NC I just flipped out that he still didn’t want to talk to me). He eventually answered my call, said I am harassing him then I said I just wanted to say goodnight and he said goodnight. I tried to call this morning and realized he blocked my numbers.

I’m so miserable and dont know what to do. A little history : We were bestfriends for 7years but I kept taking gap years overseas but we always kept in contact. He was always the first person to contact me when I came home and we always had Wednesday night dates. This time I was staying in the country as I had a business opportunity so for the first time we could spend more time together. Things were going great, we went on a vacation December last year and I feel for him on Christmas. He took a little longer to fall and maintained we were friends. He did once say to me before we started dating that he doesnt think he would ever fall inlove with me so that hurt and stuck in my head. Eventually we grew closer celebrated his birthday. I quit my job full time to concentrate on business and things didnt go as planned. I was broke and depressed and he was there for me. He started falling inlove with me and I couldn’t believe it becuase of what he said before (that he wont fall inlove). He also is a bit emotionally cold so I would pick fights with him cos when we fought that’s when he would show his emotions and that he loves me. I would break up with him and he would almost cry, the one time he did and begged me and I took him back. I was very insecure about his ex as they still spoke but he said they were just friends( they dated for 3years and it was his first love). I mostly insecure that she was doing so well in her career and baught a new car while I could barely pay for my car due to the risk of business. I always brought her up in fights that he seems to have loved her more than he loves me and he says no he loves me. I never believed him.

Long story short I told him one day that I was underwhelmed with our relationship and that it wasnt so great. ( truth is,now that we have broken up I realize I was underwhelmed with my life and failure and wanted him to fill my void). That pushed him and he took a secondment to another city for a month. He became cold and distant and barely chatted. I would nag him about chatting. He eventually said we aren’t breaking up but can we go back to the chilled times we were as friends. I said I agree. He kept being distant and we said when he came back we would meet up and talk. He then lied about the date he came back, he said he would come back on Friday but actually came back on Monday but didnt want to see me. I flipped and went to his place. I had a key and he found me there when he came from work. He was so mad I came unannounced(my other mistake I regret so much). He asked for a break possibly to break up but I said no let’s hang out again. We hung out on a Sunday and it was great and I asked if his feelings had changed and he said no. I was so confused because we were having a good time. He said he needed space to think, that my insecurities with his ex and picking fights with him was too much for him and that he doesnt trust me anymore for just coming into his place.

I went home and I was sad. I begged him to think about at least trying to date for 3more months (oh I mentioned when I broke up with him previous times he would beg me and almost always cry. I think that’s why I begged so much because it was something he did and felt I gave him chances he should give me one). Fast forward to the top of the story where I tried no contact for 4days and contacted him, begged and got blocked.

I dont know what to do, I really want him back. The break helped me realized i don’t care about his ex, also I was in a bad space personally and took it out on him and I would do better now , I just want him back. I realized how good he was too me.

What do I do to get him back? I love him and he is my bestfriend. We used to talk about marriage and children and how he says he doesnt even see that. That broke my heart ! :*(. I know the main reason he wanted a breakup was cos of the fights and me always making him feel like he wasnt enough. I sent him an email aswell explaining my side along with not being in a good space and depressed and he knows it. He has not replied.

I’ve read your article of NC but I broke NC, I read your article of being Blocked out block and begging. It’s hard cos I have a combination of all of them Haha so I dont know how win him back.

HEEEEELP!!!!

Chris Seiter

December 20, 2018 at 2:51 am

Hi Pearl… I am glad you are sponging up the content here. If you are looking for a cohesive and sensible plan, that pick up my 485 page eBook as it serves as a sort of Companion Guide. IF you need ongoing support, check out my exclusive Private Facebook Support Group. Also, watch some of the Podcasts if you have not already as there are a lot of answers there too!

Pilar Covington

December 16, 2018 at 6:08 am

How can you get your ex to unblock you during NC?

Chris Seiter

December 16, 2018 at 4:25 pm

Often you ex will unblock you without doing anything. The bigger question is what you should be doing during NC. Lots of elements to the process. Visit my home page for more info on all the resources available to you!

Dee

December 11, 2018 at 6:26 am

HI Chris, Me and my ex-were together for 6 months but he had a child on me with his ex, and it hurt me deeply. I did the no contact rule and it was working because he was missing me but lead up to a few hookups and I wind up being clingy again so I backed off for months. He was often saying I was the one and would say that I was calling a lot. After not speaking with me he was often trying to get me to stay with him and go out on dates with him but I would tell him no because we had just started talking so I started calling him a lot because I felt he was tryna move on so he often block and unblock. He changed his number I am assuming because she wanted him to change and he did too. It has been a couple months now that he had changed his number and he still hasn’t reached out to me. First he told his sister he felt it was best if he didn’t say anything when he told his sister to tell that he was done talking to me and told her to tell me that he told me before so why am I asking again and he didn’t tell me a thing especially when I was on the phone with him before he even got his number change and all of a sudden he decided or say he been decided that he was done talking to me before he even got it changed and me and him both know he didn’t up and decide it before then. I don’t understand how you were talking to me about me staying with you and all of the other things then when I don’t do it the minute you asked, you move someone else in to give you the benefits without a ring and you are saying all these other things now. I said no because I wanted him to respect and value me, and for him to understand I will not lower my standards in moving in with him before I got engaged or married to him and that I am not these other women that he use to and I refuse to just do what he says to please him like the other women he is used to and for me to tolerate what they have by letting him get away with a lot with them. I’m honestly lost in this situation because I thought that if I didn’t give in to what he said, he would value me and it would make him want to be with me or do what it takes to be with me but it’s like its the total opposite with him. It’s like he wants a woman to make it easy for him and do what he says when he says it right then and there. I just don’t understand any of it or his behavior. I don’t know if he wants to be serious with this girl or is he just doing it to get back at me because of the fact that I had disappeared on him once before because he hurt me and he wants me to beg for him back. Its like he is trying to portray as his life is so much better without me to where he had his sister tell me tha he was trying to change and be a better man for her and they had moved in together somewhere else and come to find out they didn’t. The new gf would literally post about him every day and it’s like every since I have moved on, she stopped posting so much. I am have been being very positive about things, but recently his gf put up a picture and he didn’t look so happy and wasn’t smilling at all in the picture, he looked more like he didn’t want to take it. Is he doing all these because he wants the relationship that bad or he just doing it to me because he really doesn’t want me in his life and that’s his way of showing it to me? although he was the one that broke up with me and was doing all of those things, I learned to deal with things and the way he is acting especially with him and his girlfriend and dealing with the possibility of his gf posting him or about him and I just stopped asking his sister about him altogether. I haven’t been asking about him, talking about him, or having no type of contact with him every since may. The couple weeks ago his sister asked me did he ever text me and I just told her no because he really didn’t and I didn’t want to lie and start any drama. I feel like he either told her to ask me about him to see how I would react or asked her about me in some type of way or trying to keep tabs on me to make her ask that especially out of the blue and I thought maybe he told her he was planning on texting me eventually or something. I feel like I’m moving on and accepting thing so I stop talking to his sister about him or his relationships and continue to not have any dealings with him by asking his sister about him in any type of way. If I continue to do no contact and work on myself by not worrying about him, WIll he eventually give me his number to reach out and talk to me or should I just accept that he is really serious about this relationship and really doesn’t want to talk to me anymore?
Han (Ann)

December 4, 2018 at 2:54 pm

Hi Chris!
I’m Han (Ann) from Vietnam, I once told you about my relationship with a Swiss man on your article “Should you ever apologize to your ex boyfriend?” (When, How and If you should apologize your ex boyfriend). I did no contact right after when I sent him an apology text: ”Hi (his name), it’s me , Han from Vietnam. How are you going? I want to be sorry for improper things I said to you during the time you were in Philippines”, straight more than 1 month, no text, no call, but I had to use facebook because of my job’s requirement so basically I think he still saw me online. Since when I quit the job last month, I’ve rarely used facebook and been online. But at the end of November, I sent him a text (the “Feeler Text”) to feel it out and see how he would respond: “Hi, I know we haven’t talked in a while but I was thinking about you recently, and was wondering how you’re doing”, Facebook messenger indicated that he had seen the message but he kept silent, I don’t know if he saw it and ignored it, or he absolutely blocked me on Messenger (I’m not really good at Facebook savvy anyway), but since it’s just a feeler text, so it’s okay to me if he ignored it. As your advice on the article “What to do when the no contact rule doesn’t work”, I stopped texting him and waited for 1 week, and sent him a Memory Text: “Hey, I just got a nightmare and can’t sleep now. Suddenly remember when we talked at first, I got a nightmare and you were with me, felt much much better and thank you a lot. Just let you know. Hope you’re doing okay”. I sent him this message right when I actually got up after a nightmare, I saw him online and decided to reach out to him by the message. Again, Facebook messenger indicated that he had seen it and he kept silent. I read the most recent article on your blog about Partial Block and Full Out Block, I don’t know if I got blocked by him, I use an app named “Who deleted me?” to see if he unfriends or blocks me on Facebook (we comunicated only via Facebook), I see that we’re still friends, so I hope that he just ignores my text simply. I’m applying no contact for next 2 weeks, but I don’t know I should do it or anything else next. In fact, I read some articles on this Blog of yours and see that one of the good things about taking an ex back is posting good photos or sharing good things on social media (Facebook, etc) to show him/her that you’re moving on very well, but… I’m kind of quiet girl so I rarely share anything on social media… So, can you please give me some hints for my problem? Could I continue reach out to him step by step? Or do I have to stop? Please help me.
Thank you.

Yours,
Han

Chris Seiter

December 5, 2018 at 12:26 am

Hi Han! My advice is to dig deep into my 485 page Guide, “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro” as it can help you so much more on tactics and step by step actions than I can here given my time constraints!

Ally

December 3, 2018 at 7:51 pm

My ex broke up with me about 6-7 weeks ago. He’s super indecisive and is diagnosed with bipolar. I’m his first relationship (he’s almost 30), because he was never able to commit to anyone before. He said he didn’t want to be with someone he couldn’t introduce to his parents and see himself marrying. He handles conflict badly. Once we fought before and he broke up with me. I started to leave and he got on his knees and apologized and begged me to stay. We were together for about 8 months, and in the last month started fighting more. He said that he wasn’t sure it was right or if the level of fighting was normal since I was his first relationship, and he felt like he needed to go have other relationships to know if it was right. I told him I understood and that was ok. He then started crying and said he couldn’t bear to lose me. The next day, I met his mother (it had already been scheduled), and the day after, we bought tickets for an international vacation. Two or three days later, we got into another fight and he broke up with me. We talked a little after and he agreed with me that our last month of fighting wasn’t representative of our relationship, but he still didn’t think it would work. I then did No Contact. After, we texted a little, mostly to coordinate on getting my things. Otherwise, I haven’t reached out. He forgot to give me back 1 item, so we were supposed to meet this week. However, he contacted me today and said he was sorry but he just wasn’t ready. I feel like it’s not a bad sign, but I’m upset because I wanted to see him. I’m not sure what to do or what it means to not be ready?

Chris Seiter

December 3, 2018 at 9:21 pm

Hi Ally….not so sure if its a really bad sign…there will be twists and turns

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