My Ex Told Me He Loves Me (But He Still Won't Commit)- How Can I Make Him?

198 thoughts on “My Ex Boyfriend Told Me He Loves Me But Won’t Commit”

W

October 8, 2017 at 3:45 pm

Hi Amor, so i went to meet my ex boyfriend today and we have a long talk abt our relationship. He told me he actually still loves me but some things couldnt be changed. I asked him that some things couldnt be changed does he mean by the way i talk couldnt be changed? He said yes. He once told me the kind of main reason abt our break up was because he dislike the way i talk and he told me a thousand times alr but im still acting the same. So he thinks that i couldnt change. I told him quite alot abt my perspective towards relationship and i told him that it’s not easy for two people to fall in love so since we’re still in love after 4 months of break up why not try and solve the problem tgt with me. He kept quiet. He then told me he doesnt want to be in a relationship for now, he say it’s not the right timing, he is not ready yet. He say he wouldnt consider a relationship for now but maybe both of us take it slow, maybe after some time. I asked him if he means take things slow is because if we sudd get back tgt like this it’s abit weird as in we broke up for quite some time alr, and it needs to have a process before getting back . And he said yes. He said he likes going out with his friends more now and he feel like he have to commit time to me if we get back tgt now, he’s not ready. i asked him if he actually wanted to get back tgt but just not the right timing for now because it needs a process and he said yes again. He said we could go hang out , go play sports tgt, text, and i can even go over his place if i want to(but not that often). I asked him if we could go on a date first for now and slowly slowy dating more often like a process before getting tgt and he actually agreed to do so. He promised me that he’ll try hard during this process since he actually wanted to get back tgt but just not the right timing unlike the last time let things and feelings follow the flow. I actually asked him to promise me. He told me he will but he couldnt promise me abt the timing because he couldnt predict the future but he’ll try. He told me he is kinda tired for a relationship for now and wanted to chill and rest but he couldnt promise me how ling would he wanna rest. He said it’s all abt the timing. He told me we could text each other as he dont mind texting. But i told him his reply was kinda cold he said it’s because he dont really know how should he text me. Like in what way should he text me. Hmm, what should i do? Is it still a good sign? And we’re on the right track? Is there actually hope?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 8, 2017 at 8:59 pm

Hi W,

When your ex is being distant, don’t ask for a date.. That means there’s not enough rapport… But since you already talked, it’s clear that he has or is moving on and he can see you’re chasing him.. So, it’s either you do one last nc of 45 days, slowly rebuild rapport after it while you continue having your own life or just move on..

If you’re doing nc, approach it like he had moved on. That way you’re not going to ask or demand for time or to take you back.. You’re going to try to make him attracted to you, like you would do to a stranger that you’re interested with…

Sasha

September 27, 2017 at 5:56 am

Hi there! I was wondering if I could get an opinion on something. Long story short, my ex and I have been separated for less than 2 months (NC for about a month). His reason was a buildup of family pressure (they cause drama) with what I suspect is loss of emotional connection. He told me in a conversation he still loves me but doesn’t know what he wants, although our future goals aligned perfectly and he said he doesn’t want me to disappear. Thinking on it, the emotional bond was a bit slack recently, but didn’t think to the breakup point. Should I let him decide what he wants by no contact? Or is there a better chance he’ll change his mind if we rebuild the emotional bond? Thank you for your wisdom!!

Sasha

September 29, 2017 at 9:08 pm

Sorry I should have rephrased that. The initial NC went well after the breakup. I meant that if there’s a better chance he’d change his mind if I give him space (do another NC) to let him think or if there’s greater success in rebuilding an emotional connection? Thanks again!
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 30, 2017 at 7:59 pm

Ah.. Continue building rapport instead but don’t be too available… Continue being active in your life too
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 28, 2017 at 10:58 pm

Hi Sasha,

Sorry, I’m confused. He knows you’re in no contact? Or you mean you’re hoping he would change his mind while you’re in nc?

kate

September 14, 2017 at 7:26 am

Hi Everyone. So its been nearly 5months ive done NC weve built rapport weve met up then it went wrong then NC again for 2 weeks he reached out we built rapport we talked openly about how we still feel we were both out at the same party the other day he got really drunk told my friend he still loves me but isnt sure it would work told a mutual friend he regrets leaving told someone else were both close to he loves me regrets leaving but doesnt know what he wants. we spoke everyday since he even came round mine to help me fix something then when messaging after he left the convo got flirty then he went weird and ignored me then i see this other girl hes talking to he told her she was hot etc. i feel like his head is a mess and hes dragging mine that way too. why is he being like it? is there truth in that he loves me or am i being side lined incase things with this other girl dont work. what do i do

kate

September 17, 2017 at 7:32 am

we both said we still love each other & he had a meltdown & cried to people about how much he loves me & regrets leaving but doesnt know what he wants. hes been talking to this girl for about a month so hes still made interactions with me said these things and even come to help fix things for me. hes said before he shouldnt still feel like this after so long apart. weve only had sex once which was before the 2nd NC.
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 20, 2017 at 10:37 am

then you have to be strong and set your value by showing what you allow in your life. If he said he loves, still stays with the other girl, once you allow him to see you and do couple things with you, he’ll get comfortable and will not change the situation anymore. It’s different if you’re just friendly but he knows that he will lose you to another guy if he doesn’t make things right, or just plain lose you because he knows you’re not going to spend time with guys who don’t value you.
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 15, 2017 at 4:28 pm

If I were you, I would move on.. First, correct me if I’m wrong, you told him your feelings after the 2nd nc, but he still didn’t get back with you. Second, after him knowing that, he still went out with other girls..After this 2nd nc, did he wanted to have sex with you?

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 9, 2017 at 11:45 am

Oh yeah..then that means it isnt
Jane

August 1, 2017 at 10:28 pm

What if he said I love you during the relationship, during the breakup, and after the breakup? Just curious.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 3, 2017 at 6:21 pm

Hi Jane,

So it’s like the situation above? Even though he said I love you, if he’s the one who broke up with you, bottomline is, you’re broken up.

Amy

July 25, 2017 at 11:25 am

He is posting lots of lovey dovey stuff on his WhatsApp statuses! What does it mean? I have been in nc for 20 days now!

Amy

September 29, 2017 at 7:22 am

So I should just wait it out and what about the fight we had? I think I have pushed him even further now! Have I ruined it all?
Amy

September 29, 2017 at 7:18 am

Will waiting this fight out resolve it?
Have I ruined everything?
Just tell me this!
Amy

September 29, 2017 at 7:16 am

He got angry at me out of nowhere and told me to not disturb him and we had a mini spat and he is the most stubborn guy possible!
Have I ruined everything?
Just tell me this!
Amy

September 28, 2017 at 5:14 pm

Please reply fast
We were well into building rapport but one day he responded very negatively out of the blue and I got angry and retaliated and he backed down that time!
After a while I replied to one of his post and he just told me to not disturb him please and I don’t know what to do now?
Please help make sense of all this? I haven’t texted him after that although I retaliated by telling him to Go to hell to which he didn’t reply at all!
What am I supposed to do after that?
I get really angry and jealous when I see his posts which are extremely romantically inclined! That’s what really got me mad!
Please reply fast!
I don’t know what to do!
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 28, 2017 at 11:19 pm

if he’s being distant; nagging him, being angry and fighting with him will push him further away. Waiting it out and being active in your own life is the better option and what you should do now..
Amy

September 27, 2017 at 9:35 pm

Hey Amor
Everything was going great! He is still posting lots of lovey dovey stuff on his Whatsapp status! I replied on one of it and he just told me please don’t disturb me and a little while ago he replied to one of my texts by saying OK and I laughed and he became rude by saying what’s there to laugh and I got angry and told him that I don’t appreciate this attitude he said take it easy and it was a question!
And he uploads these things on Whatsapp that really bothers me as if he is referring to someone and it is super romantic and it really makes me angry and today I lightly commented and he just said don’t disturb me! What is this?
What’s going on here? What should I do?
Amy

September 20, 2017 at 3:42 pm

Maybe he assumes that I am waiting for him because of my convincing him before the NC of 45 days! Even if I act like I don’t care he knows that I like him and will do a lot for him because of my previous performance! What do u think I should do to reverse his thinking?
Its all because of how I acted before the NC when he came for the first time after our breakup!
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 25, 2017 at 9:20 pm

You gave to go out with other people..do little jealousy moves like posting with a group of people who are mix girls and boys.. Better if it’s with the new people you met in your activities
Amy

September 20, 2017 at 3:34 pm

Amor
Thank you so much for replying!
Whenever he says that, I act neutral and don’t say much!
I don’t gnat or anything at all!
Although he knows that I want him back, I don’t talk regarding that!
That day I was kidding and told him I like him and he told me he likes me too seriously and I just laughed it off! I do have my activities in which I am busy! I don’t know how to show him that someone can snatch me away?
He compliments me on my personality too like the way he used to before! I lightly flirt with him and he does too!
One day we talk so much and so good and then he vanishes for some days and that’s what bothers me alot!
I do act neutral with him!
Amy

September 15, 2017 at 8:27 pm

Amor
We will be talking about something else and out of nowhere, he will say something like in a regretful way that how it’s too late!
We talk in a normal way and he responds positively too and sends me lots of emojis in his texts but always the winky emojis and he kind of knows that I want him but he doesn’t say anything, just sometimes says that let’s see what happens and how I got so late in understanding him!
I don’t know whats going on and thankfully he is single and that day I was just teasing him and he misunderstood it by saying that he is single but I didn’t say anything much!
When he came back he explicitly told me that he has feelings for me and missed me alot that’s why he texted me which according to him is very out of character for him but he did say that we have a very long way to go! Should I be worried?
Even when I just say hey, he always replies sometimes late and sometimes very fast! And sometimes he just ignores me for days!
And we talk daily again! But just texts!
How does my situation seem? Will it work out?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 20, 2017 at 10:06 am

if he likes you that’s a good sign what do you say when he says you have a long way to go?And does it look like you’re just waiting for him? Set the tone of the relationship by just aggreeing/ or being neutral about it when he says that but living life like if he doesn’t act fast, somebody else is going to have snatch you..
Amy

September 14, 2017 at 8:22 pm

He gets distant and then becomes sweet again! I don’t know what he is trying to to do!
Like he wished me birthday right on time today and even told me that he specifically texted me for this purpose and I said ok and thanks alot!
The other thing he does alot is tell me that it’s too late indirectly with lots of winks and that really makes me angry but I don’t express it!
What does he mean? He is all over the place!
He keeps telling me this and this is worrying me! That I am too late and indirectly!
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 15, 2017 at 4:58 pm

When does he say that?
Amy

September 11, 2017 at 9:01 pm

Amor
We had great conversations this past week like I said in the previous comments and now he is no initiating conversations or replying on time and has vanished and he does these things alot! It’s like a cycle!
Should I call him out on this behavior! It makes me angry and frustrated when he backs off like this!
What should I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 14, 2017 at 12:21 pm

Nope, do your own thing..lay low in initiating
Amy

September 10, 2017 at 8:45 am

Amor
He is making me mad, really!
He havent texted me in 4 days and when i texted him he replied after an hour and when i replied after awhile, he is nowhere to be seen again! We had such conversations going and now this again!
Its a cycle of being close and distant!
I wish there wont be anything to worry about!
Amy

September 4, 2017 at 9:08 pm

He isn’t friend zoning me right?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 7, 2017 at 8:22 pm

nope, you’re on a good path of building up rapport.
Amy

September 4, 2017 at 9:04 pm

By nonchalant, I mean calm and collected and maybe a tad bit sarcastic!
He talks to me now and is very light hearted and sweet and I am initiating conversations while the past days he was initiating and sending me songs and talking all sexual! He was teasing me and today he even played an online game with me for quite awhile! That day I talked to him alot and he remained with me for a long while! Before the NC, he was uninterested, nowadays he teases me, is fun to talk to and is talkative with me, sometimes sends me songs!
That day he was trying to make me jealous by sending me pictures of female models he likes on Instagram! I acted like I didn’t care one way or another!
What is he trying to do?
Should I send him songs too? As he uses it to initiate conversations!
And the songs lyrics are highly romantic!
Thank you for replying always!
Amy

September 1, 2017 at 8:08 am

Amor
So we text back and forth!
He sent me romantic songs again and then steered conversation into sexual waters but I remained nonchalant.
Then he tried to make me jealous by talking about some models he likes on social media but I still remained calm although I got very very angry!
We talk little every day now!
What is he trying to do?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 3, 2017 at 7:49 pm

by non chalant, does that mean you seem uninterested? If yes, you have to be careful with that. He has to think that you’re fun to talk with but is not affected with things like him dating other girls or other jealousy topic. It’s hard to say why, because in your previous post you said he is uninterested.. so, you have to let more time to pass to observe
Amy

August 26, 2017 at 8:46 pm

How are my chances now?
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 27, 2017 at 1:48 pm

it either means your topic is not interesting for him, you reply too slow and the conversation already died or both. You have to start a new routine and to keep the conversation going over time for your chances to rise.
Amy

August 26, 2017 at 8:43 pm

Amor,
Why does he do it? Its been two days already that my text is delivered and he isn’t replying and he have just said hey to me so I replied hello to him on the next day! And now he isn’t talking to me! All of this is so confusing!
And he sent me a song too and when i wanted to talk about it he taunted me in a way that I don’t know him etc!
Please do some clarification
Amy

August 26, 2017 at 8:50 am

Armor
I replied on the next day and he haven’t even marked it seen and hasn’t replied obviously!
What should I do? Text him again or wait for his text?
Sometimes he is very into the conversation and sometimes acts as if he couldn’t be bothered
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 26, 2017 at 12:59 pm

wait for it and when he does, reply within 30 minutes or less.
Amy

August 23, 2017 at 9:13 pm

Today he texted me as in initiated conversation but it was after 12 so i decided it better to text tomorrow!
Is it good progress right?
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 24, 2017 at 11:02 pm

yup it’s good that he texted you.
Amy

August 23, 2017 at 9:10 pm

Is it good that he texts me? Today he texted me but after 12 so I didn’t reply!
What do u think?
Amy

August 21, 2017 at 4:26 pm

Armor
I talked to him and ended the conversation first, the next day he sent me a song and when I replied after lots of hours, he haven’t replied to me until now
What is he doing?
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 22, 2017 at 9:52 pm

maybe because the conversation has died already when you have replied and your reply doesn’t need a reply..
Amy

August 13, 2017 at 9:29 pm

My NC is about to end! Should my first text be related to his picture or should I completely ignore it?
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 14, 2017 at 8:21 pm

Check this one:
How To Properly Start A Conversation With Your Ex After No Contact
Amy

August 6, 2017 at 7:45 am

He sent me his picture on messenger and I just don’t get how it could be an accident because it asks u several times to check !
Thank you for responding as always
Amy

August 3, 2017 at 3:28 pm

Amor,
He uploaded those pictures to WhatsApp first and then send one of those pictures to me after half an hour!
Is it a good thing or not?
Another thing, I uploaded stuff to my WhatsApp and he viewed them all and used to not view them before!
Is it good ?
I am still in NC and haven’t replied or texted him at all!
Is it more likely that he sent me the picture by mistake or intentionally?
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 5, 2017 at 7:24 pm

Hmm.. It might be an accident.. But it’s still looking good because he views your uploads
Amy

July 30, 2017 at 4:16 pm

today he send me one of his pictures directly! Could it be that he sent it by mistake? He send me only one!
He upload several pictures to his WhatsApp statuses!
What is he up to?
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 31, 2017 at 3:33 pm

Maybe.. If he did it again then that can be his way of checking if you are going to reply
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 25, 2017 at 11:33 am

The more important thing is if you are posting.. Watching his posts is not going to help you..

Emily

July 9, 2017 at 2:31 am

My ex and I broke up about 6 weeks ago. We split after an insignificant fight. The catalyst to an unbearably stressful few months. Earlier in the year he was relocated due to a new job, he asked me to move to be with him and once I got a job I did. 6
Months of living together before he was relocated BACK to where we moved from. We finally made the hard decision to move back. ‘his job entails working 80+ hours a week, completing weeks of training and exams and learning medical procedures. Upon arrival tonthe new job he was greeted with 4 teammates quitting within a month. He was/is under immense stress. During this time we had an argument and he broke it off. Seemingly out of the blue. Since then we went through several weeks of not contacting each other at all. Then we had interactions via text/FaceTime. Mostly flirtatious in nature. He helped me move back to our current city 2 weeks ago and we spent the night together, laughed, joked, and connected. In the past 2 weeks we have been communicating daily (mostly by me initiating) however, when I pushed him on his being just a consequence of the stress and are we going to make this through?… he told me it “wasn’t happening” and I had to just focus on myself. He said he loves me but isn’t even thinking about relationships right now or in the future he’s just working. I’m confused and frustrated. I don’t know if I shouldn’t just stick this out with him (even though he has explicitly told me he doesn’t want nor need my help) or if I think really is over. It doesn’t FELL over. It feels like he’s just stressed and need some to do this alone. I dont know where to go from here.

emily

July 10, 2017 at 11:54 am

That’s what I had planned to do. I’m currently on day 2. I plan to move back (we had lived together in another town about 3 hours away from our hometown…but moved back to our hometown because he was relocated for work) away in August. I’m nervous the timeline of my move is impacting my decisions and thoughts. We’ve done long distance before, but I’m concerned if I’m not in the same physical location as him it may be easier for us to just forget about each other (and by us I mean HIM)
Emily

July 9, 2017 at 2:33 am

Oh, and he also said that I was a distraction and that he has been happier since he only has to worry about himself now.
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 9, 2017 at 7:38 pm

Do you want to do the no contact period and then the advice above?

jesse

July 3, 2017 at 1:56 pm

hi.

I just did 30 days NC and contacted him yesterday. He called me and asked a lot of questions. He said he loves me and wants to hate me but cant.I ask him if its a goodbye and he said we wont go back together and he s working out his body. He is confusing since he said he cannot predict the future and wont block me because he wants to see me improving myself and make friends with me, we hung up saying I LOVE YOU. but he said we shoud not contact everyday and be the best versio ourselves.

what should i do next then
and should i apologize since the reak u was about my issues. we broke up once too.
we are LDR

THANKS

jesse

July 7, 2017 at 11:57 am

hi. i did 30 days and after that he responded positively and curious about my life. we talked so well and reconnected but after few days he said hes wants time for himself and wants me back but scared of getting hurt again. He is even willing to talk to my specialist . shOULd i go to his country and meet him.
WE ARE 3 YEARS ldr and very committed.

what should i do next. im planning on visiting him and get my things from him …or give him time to think again. than kyouuu
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 9, 2017 at 5:06 pm

The nc is supposed to help you improve and be more rational..so, you can slowly rebuild rapport.. Sending an emotional message as an initial contact, (unless you really need to) is not a good start.. You’re supposed to treat it as a restart..most of the time apologizing means, doing nc after it so you can both move on from it..

If you weren’t active in improving yourself and in posting in social media sites where posts last, restart nc and do that first.. If you did, just do two weeks nc, continue those activities and avoid emotional conversations after..dont rush things
Jesse

July 7, 2017 at 8:43 am

I did 30 days Nc and after that i git positive response he was calling me right after but i picked up . Until 35th day he confessed he loves me still and wants to get back but are too afraid so he needs time. He even wants to talk to my psychologist thru skype. Im thinking of going to his country to get my things next week. Should i go Nc or get my things? Should i apologize . I never did it. Tmor should i give him time he needs?
Jesse

July 7, 2017 at 6:16 am

I did 30 days Nc. Reach out to him the next 3 days. It was a positive response and he calls me and opens up to me about how he loves me but wants more time. Now after 34 days or so he wants to be alone to think and told me he will let me know if hes ready to cooperate with my psychologist since he wants the best for me. You see i dont know if i should still use NC but he ask some time.
Jesse

July 7, 2017 at 5:59 am

No i did not tell him im doing NC. I said i was focusing on improving myself but he ask a lot if i have a new boyfriend or if i developed feelings. Then he said he wants me back but afraid to because we night have the same problem. We are 3 years almost LDR. he visits me i visit him. We broke up last year because of some issues and now we did again.

What will i do since we had a great talk on the phone and now he said he wants time to rethink . He said he needs to find happiness in hinself since the break up hurts his worth.

He wants to give me my stuff and im planning on meeting him to get it for a coffee. He said hes not sure. Should i go to his country? Or should i ask apology in text? He seems so vulnerable to me. He loves me still. Whats the next step after 30 days NC .? We reconnect but he wants time again.

Thank you amore
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 5, 2017 at 4:04 pm

Hi Jesse,

How long was the relationship? How many times have you done nc and did you tell him you’re doing nc?

Amy

June 29, 2017 at 11:50 am

And another thing he replies so late and he says that he will text me and then he doesn’t when he wants to get out of the conversation nowadays! What should I do! It seems like all my progress has deteriorated and I am back on square one and oi have already bared my soul and heart to him so he knows everything now!

Amy

September 29, 2017 at 7:32 am

Amor
I had a mini spat with him already and now he won’t be talking to me as he already told me not to disturb him and I think I have already pushed him away!
Have I ruined it already?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 30, 2017 at 6:39 pm

It did affect your chances.. Check this one:
My Ex Boyfriend Wants Nothing To Do With Me
Amy

July 25, 2017 at 5:37 pm

I don’t have time for socializing, even because of exams! I would try to mute his posts so that I won’t see them but what does he mean? Does it mean that he has another girl in his life? Or that he has already forgotten about me and moved on?
I will try to post
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 25, 2017 at 6:38 pm

it’s ok if you can’t socialize.. even the post of you studying or making fun art of your coffee while you’re studying will do for now.. and it doesn’t matter if he’s referring to other girls or not in his posts, because you can’t control that. What matters is you. Will he be curious about you through your posts? Will he think you have your own life now and not like the same before? Ungettable girls don’t mind the other grils, because they themselves are the threat. They bring the competition to the table.
Amy

July 24, 2017 at 3:57 pm

Hello Amor
I have been really busy with studies so posting has become difficult!
My ex uploads pictures and random sayings and quotations on his status on WhatsApp
Today, I was checking out my WhatsApp and I saw a random thing he posted which said
“She was beautifully out of place. Sometimes I believe she intended to be. Like the moon during the day”
It has completely confused me and I wonder what he means!
Could u help please! I have been in NC for 20 days now
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 25, 2017 at 11:33 am

The more important thing is if you are posting.. Watching his posts is not going to help you..
Amy

July 9, 2017 at 7:29 pm

Amor
Do I really have a chance?
I have started exercising and am going abroad for studies soon!
Is that good progress towards becoming ungettable girl!
Before I started NC, he used to way he will call and then wouldn’t! It hurt so much!
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 9, 2017 at 7:46 pm

Honestly your chances are low because of rushing things.. It’s either you do it right this time to raise your chances or to move on..yup, that’s a very good progress
Amy

July 8, 2017 at 10:07 pm

Isn’t 45 days too much? I have done NC for 4 months right after our breakup and then I broke it to wish him birthday with no idea of getting back together with him and then went right back into NC and then he broke it and texted me after a month and then again after a week and then constant contact in which he said he wanted to give out relationship another try because he still has feelings for me and then I ruined things slowly and slowly that now he is completely Distant!
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 9, 2017 at 4:55 pm

So you can have a chance for a restart.. And to do everything right this time, instead of trying to put back the broken pieces together desperately and hastily..
Amy

July 3, 2017 at 1:32 pm

He isn’t much of a social media person! And we aren’t added with each other on social media so the posting thing is out of the question!
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 4, 2017 at 5:30 pm

You have to do thay..it’s your indirect way of showing you are improving and have your own life..he’ll get curious about you at some point so you have to make your posts public on social media sites where posts lasts
EBR Team Member: Amor

June 30, 2017 at 2:50 pm

Hmm what about your actvities? Are you still busy in other things? Have you still been posting?

Marion

June 25, 2017 at 7:11 pm

Hello, I want your opinion.
I want to date my crush again but the olny problem is that he’s hooked up with me before. So I would say mystery and excitement is gone. But I think he still likes me and he still flirt with me.
Any suggestion what should I do or how to increase the possibilities to be with him?

Thanks.

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 29, 2017 at 6:22 am

Bond with him..just dont sleep with him again

Cara

June 18, 2017 at 4:32 pm

Excellent, detailed article about what he’s thinking and why. Thank you EBR!
Amyy

June 16, 2017 at 8:57 pm

Chris,
I have really really screwed up bad.
Everything was going well for weeks. He contacted me after 5months of NC and wanted to give out relationship a second chance. Then some weeks in, he started going hot and cold and it made me so frustrated that I gave him Ultimatums and tried to convince him to stay and he said okay but I don’t feel like he is trying much. Please reply! What should I do! We talk regularly now. Should I apply the NC again?

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 18, 2017 at 7:14 pm

why not try the advice above?

Amy

June 16, 2017 at 8:19 pm

Chris,
I have really really screwed up bad.
Everything was going well for weeks. He contacted me after 5months of NC and wanted to give out relationship a second chance. Then some weeks in, he started going hot and cold and it made me so frustrated that I gave him Ultimatums and tried to convince him to stay and he said okay but I don’t feel like he is trying much. Please reply! What should I do! We talk regularly now. Should I apply the NC again? Please helppppppp!

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 18, 2017 at 7:14 pm

why not try the advice above?

Amy

June 16, 2017 at 8:09 pm

Chris,
I have really really screwed up bad.
Everything was going well for weeks. He contacted me after 5months of NC and wanted to give out relationship a second chance. Then some weeks in, he started going hot and cold and it made me so frustrated that I gave him Ultimatums and tried to convince him to stay and he said okay but I don’t feel like he is trying much. Please reply! What should I do! We talk regularly now. Should I apply the NC again?

Amy

June 29, 2017 at 11:43 am

Amor
Things are getting worse and worse! When he said he would try again, he used to say I love you in return to me, used to send me good mornings and call me too then after 3 days , I was talking about one of my male friends and he just stopped the conversation by saying that he will talk to me later! I sensed that he was getting distant so I also got distant for some 5 days when I texted him again several times he said he wasn’t available because he was going home which is in another country and then he wished me as it was our holidays and other than that he hasn’t talked to me himself! He replies very late and wants to get out of conversation fast and from the last several days, he says he will call and text when he is free and then doesn’t! What should I do now! He already knows about my feelings! Should I do no contact now again? I feel if I did no contact he wouldn’t even talk to me again, afterwards!
Please help!
EBR Team Member: Amor

June 18, 2017 at 7:14 pm

why not try the advice above?

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