He Told Me To Move On- Does My Ex Really Mean It?

99 thoughts on “My Ex Boyfriend Told Me To Move On… Does He Really Mean It?”

Eve

April 30, 2017 at 8:12 am

Hi Amor!

I did improve alot! Lost 8kg, new clothes, became more social, faked my confidence so much, that I actually started to feel really confident!

I’ve been more active on Facebook than normal, eventough I never post alot during our relationship! However I do know my EX isn’t a big fan of Facebook and can ga days without checking it. I unfollowed him, so I have no idea of he’s posting or online! I did read that atleast 88% of EXES check their EXES Facebook!

Still.. I don’t think he’ll miss me soon. I think he needs more time to miss me?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 30, 2017 at 2:10 pm

extend to 45 days if you want, and then initiate contact.

Jannie moore

April 29, 2017 at 12:49 pm

Was in a 6 months relationship with a 27 y/o repressed English gentleman.

Over all, our relationship was adventurous and less dramatic. Harmonious relationship as what I can call it. I am the first to actually be his closest friend and lover. He tells me his inner thoughts and issues.

It has been couple of weeks since I followed the NO CONTACT rule. He jumped in a plane 3 days after he broke up with me and started a teaching course in Vietnam.

Few days ago, he told a friend of mine he misses me and was planning to email me once the course finishes which was this week. No emails yet.

He really insists to our friends he doesn’t see us getting back. Nor he wants to jump in a relationship at least for awhile. Also he assumes I’m dating again which is not true.

Sometimes I wonder if dumpers do remorse. I’ve always been in long term relationships, at least 2 years. We have only been together for 6 months and I am his longest.

I just saw today from our mutual friend that he recently deleted our photo together in his profile album on Facebook. It does sting a bit but I’m not going to message him about it.

Also when we split up, we sent couple of emails back and forth and he showed interest in keeping the friendship. I did not reply on his last email wanting to wait till I’m over him. I just started NC. it will be our first 30 day NC next week. Should I still send a funny Gif or a friendly hi? Or wait for his email? Or.. Just move on… Thanks

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 30, 2017 at 12:10 pm

he’s friendzoning you, you should the nc immediately..

Kiko

April 28, 2017 at 9:55 pm

Meeting me EX this Friday for a casual meet up. (As friends) Kinda nervous! Have any tips and/or articles for me so I can prepare a little?

I have PRO, but I’m still really nervous!
Thank you!

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 30, 2017 at 11:42 am

check this:
Here’s Exactly What To Wear When You See Your Ex Boyfriend

Charlotte

April 28, 2017 at 9:33 pm

My boyfriend and I started as friends last summer. There was always a lot of flirtation between us, but we were both very serious about finding someone to spend the rest of our lives with. He isn’t a player at all- he’s only had two girlfriends, including me, and he’s only been intimate with two women (girlfriends). He’s very loyal and I’ve never had any reason to question that loyalty. We started dating on New Years and it all started out great but there was always this weird element to our relationship- we wouldn’t talk everyday, and because we started as friends, we were ALWAYS double dating. We hardly ever did things one on one. We spent every weekend together at his house though, and I’d go home on Sunday night or Monday morning for work. I shared with him that I wish we’d spend more time together during the week, and most weeks we just wouldn’t have time. We got into a big fight at the beginning of the month, and he said he didn’t feel like trying anymore, he didn’t see himself falling in love with me, and he thinks it’s best we break up. Then a few hours later he said he didn’t want to do anything rash like break up, he just needed time to think. I told him to take as long as he needed, and I didn’t contact him. Two days later he contacted me and said he was so sorry, he still wants to date, and that he definitely sees himself falling in love with me. We had a great weekend, but we didn’t really discuss the incident. This past weekend, I was at his house and I said could you tell me how you’re feeling, I am still feeling uncomfortable with what happened. He wouldn’t open up, so I dragged it out of him and he finally said that he feels the same way, he doesn’t see things getting better and he doesn’t want to try. He broke up with me that night and it was very late at night, so he told me to stay over and we’ll talk more in the morning. We didn’t do anything intimate that night. The next morning he said he still feels the same way and sees a breakup as the only option, and that we’re better as friends. I was a bit upset and didn’t cry but I was pretty mad. I walked out of his house and he didn’t come after me. He said he didn’t realize he felt this way until he was “forced to think about it” when I dragged it out of him. The next day was my birthday, which we had plans for… he sent me a text saying “I’m so sorry for how everything ended up. I really hope we can be cordial and friends like before. I want to wish you a happy birthday!” And I didn’t respond that day. The next day I read this article and saw that I should be ending things on a positive note before entering NC. So I responded and said “I appreciate the birthday wishes and I look back at our relationship fondly and hold nothing against you. I too want the same things and know everything will be fine eventually. I appreciate the text.” He responded and said “Awesome, I appreciate it too. I feel the same”. I then entered NC right away. All of his siblings and aunts and even his mom has reached out to me saying how confused they are, how this isn’t like him, and how they hope this works out. My questions is whether or not we even stand a chance at getting back together? Because we were friends first, we share the same friend group. All of my friends are his friends. But I plan on doing NC for at least 3 weeks, preferably 30 days if I can help it. Could you please help me with the best way to go about getting him back?

Charlotte

May 24, 2017 at 10:10 pm

Hi Amor, Saturday went really well with my ex and we had a lot of fun together. Nothing physical went on between us and when I would talk to another guy he would get a little jealous and would follow me around a little bit afterward. Me, him, his sister and her bf went out for drinks after the party and he bought me drinks and we sat next to each other just talking and having fun the entire night. I haven’t heard from him since then though. Honestly the way he was acting on Saturday told me that if I just keep focusing on myself and let him come to me I will definitely get him back but I wanted to see what you thought I should do from here. Thanks!
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 27, 2017 at 1:45 pm

that’s a very good sign.. that’s progress..I agree with your plan..are you going to see each other again in person?
Charlotte

May 15, 2017 at 7:14 pm

Thank you Amor! I will cut back. His brother’s girlfriend and I are good friends and she saw him this past weekend and she said that he was watching my stories a few times over and she made a comment saying “oh you must be having a hard time getting over her!” and his other brother laughed and agreed but my ex didn’t say anything. I am seeing him for the first time since the break up (it’ll be 4 weeks) on Saturday at a mutual friend’s graduation party.
Charlotte

May 9, 2017 at 7:59 pm

Thank you Amor. I’m trying to be regular with working out and socializing, and I post it on snapchat and he watches all of my stories on snapchat and likes all my pictures on facebook and instagram. Should I continue with the posting or should I take it easy a bit so he doesn’t know what I’m up to? Thank you
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 11, 2017 at 7:37 pm

it’s better to cut back in snap chat because the posts doesnt last
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 30, 2017 at 7:10 am

last summer, as in 2016? Do at least 30 days nc.. take it slow in building rapport after, don’t rush.. I think he felt you’re going too fast..

Chelly

April 28, 2017 at 5:02 am

Hi! Btw i broke up with my ex 3 months ago. So he contacted me last month and he just asked how i am until he asked me if we can be friends and i agreed. As time goes by, when i was trying to build rapport he’s kinda distant and when he reply its too short that seems like he’s not interested. When we’re not talking i decided to focus on myself. I go out with friends, exercise, focus on myself and even post something nice on instagram because he follows me there. Yesterday, i decided to send a long message the things i wanna tell for the last time. That i still love him and i miss him everyday and hoping he will find someone who truly deserves to be with him and so on. and he replied “It’s gonna be easier for me to move on. SOmewhere inside me i still care about you. I hope you will move on and find the guy you deserve. I still love you and it will stay inside me always” Do you think that he doesn’t want to get back? Or maybe this is not yet the right time for us

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 30, 2017 at 8:27 am

he doesn’t want to.. but it’s good that you improved yourself.. it’s like you tried to do the no contact process, just not the right way.. because instead of slowly building rapport while continuing to improve yourself, you confessed your feelings.

Chelly

April 28, 2017 at 4:56 am

I broke up with my LDR ex 3 months ago. I tried to get him back but he became so distant with me. I tried to build rapport but when he answers its too short and there’s no interest to it. I focused on myself and even working out, going out with friends and focus in my studies. And even post nice pictures on instagram that he can see. So yesterday i sent him a very long message for all the things i want to say that I still love him and i miss him everyday and i’ll never forget our memories together. He answered that “it’s gonna be easier for me to move on. I hope you will move on and find the nice guy you deserve. I hope we can still be friends because you’re the coolest girl i met and fun to be with. I still love you and it will stay inside me always” do you think he doesn’t want to get back anymore?

Chelly

April 30, 2017 at 9:37 am

So what do you think i can do? I’ll just move on or what?
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 30, 2017 at 2:19 pm

either you restart it and do at least 3 weeks and do it the right way or move on..
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 30, 2017 at 8:27 am

he doesn’t want to.. but it’s good that you improved yourself.. it’s like you tried to do the no contact process, just not the right way.. because instead of slowly building rapport while continuing to improve yourself, you confessed your feelings.

Eve

April 27, 2017 at 9:24 am

Hi EBR!

I have a question. I honestly think 1 month on NC won’t work on my boyfriend. (We broke up 3 months ago) I did the 30 days NC, but I don’t think he missed me at all. I think it takes longer for him to miss me. Did the first text, he replyed, but I just don’t think he misses me or really noticed me being ‘out’ of his life, since he’s a really busy guy.

Should I do a longer NC, to give him a chance to miss me more?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 30, 2017 at 8:03 am

how much did you improve during and after nc and were you active in posting?

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