40 thoughts on “My Ex Told Me They Aren’t Ready For A Relationship”

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   Ally

   November 15, 2019 at 12:57 am

   9 month relationship and ex randomly one day tells me he is worried about the future and if I’m “the one.” He says he has never felt this way about someone or been this serious with someone. The entire relationship was great and never had a doubt in my mind that he was feeling this way. He had nothing bad to say at the break up except that he had this feeling of uncertainty of the future and also if he needed more time to himself before the relationship. Break up was very mature and ever since I have been in no contact for 11 days. What to do next/any hope? Or give up?

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   EBR Team Member: Shaunna

   November 18, 2019 at 8:16 pm

   Hi Ally, well done on getting this far, but keep to 30 days and work on yourself in that time so that you are living your life and appear to be the ungettable girl that you can be and then he will realise hes missed out on some amazing times with you and that should draw him back in. Posting to social media about the amazing things you are doing for him to sit on the outside looking in will help you

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   em

   November 14, 2019 at 12:08 am

   3 year relationship…. I think ex fell out of love maybe 2/3 months before he actually had courage to end it. He told me he no longer felt the same and I think it was because we had got into routine / nagging etc .

   I am 22 days into no contact but to be honest I am not hopeful. If someone fell out of love surely they will not care about fear of loss? Also they will genuinely date rather than rebound?

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   Chris Seiter

   November 14, 2019 at 4:23 pm

   I think maybe your ex has a bit of the grass is greener syndrome. So, the fear of loss might not come in for a little while.