81 thoughts on “Should I Tell My Ex Boyfriend I Still Have Feelings For Him?”

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   Ida

   December 3, 2017 at 9:00 pm

   Me and my ex broke up almost 6 months ago. We have been very confused about it both of us, since that. We thought it over during the summer but in August he said he doesn’t dare to try again, afraid of not being able to meet my standards. I refused to accept that and did som bad pledging and was needy. Anyhow, we ended up in a kind of exclusive friends-with-benefit situation for a couple of weeks in October. After that I realized how crazy this is and that I needed to reestablish balance. I entered No Contact October 22th. As soon as he realized that I backed off I started contacting me almost every day. He asked me if I was moving on, if I wanted to meet him and a thousand other things. I finished No Contact November 21th and since then we have texted and chatted on Instagram, Snapchat and Facebook. Today we met up for lunch. He obviously had reserved several hours to see me, at least 4-5 hours. I ended it though after 2 hours of lunch. We talked about work and we both were kind of neutral. We had a really good time, but my biggest fear is that he meets med just because he wants to talk about work and that I know much about that. I doubt it though, it would be too weird after all that we’ve been through. It seems none of us want to move on. It seems there is a big interest and curiosity from both parts but how do I know? What to do now, after a nice lunch for two hours? Shall I send him a thank you text or shall I let him contact me? Remember I have been the needy one for MONTHS and now, since I backed off and made distance, he has been the one contacting me regularly. This is a real mess, I don’t know what to do. But I guess he is not over me completely, that would be a weird way showing that. But how do I avoid getting in some friend zone and how do I take it to the next level?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   December 5, 2017 at 1:56 am

   Hi Ida,

   you should do the no contact rule.. check this one:
   EBR 012: How To Get Out Of The “Friend Zone” With Your Ex Boyfriend

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   Amy

   December 3, 2017 at 9:14 am

   My ex broke up with me a month ago. After no contact I was posting and improving myself. I started talking to him last night and it turned sexual. He told me he has feelings for someone else and I told him I still loved him and wanted to try again. He told me to delete his number and said goodbye. He also told me he didn’t love me anymore and that all he can think about is this new girl (she’s from his work but he said he didn’t like her while we were still together) Have I completely ruined my chances? I told him to think about us, I was respectful and didn’t beg. I know I need to go into NC again but I don’t know whether I should move on or if there’s still a chance?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   December 5, 2017 at 1:10 am

   Hi,

   the more you do nc, the less it works.. so, make this your last nc, do 45 days and then take it slow in building rapport after nc and check this one:
   My Boyfriend Says He Wants To Date Me and Another Girl

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   LC

   December 3, 2017 at 5:04 am

   Hey Shannon. So here’s what happened.

   My boyfriend of what would have been 3 years broke up with me out of the blue mid October. He said he was having doubts, but he never discussed them with me. He said that it was my negativity like escalating little situations, calling drivers stupid, etc. So I did no contact, and now it’s a little over 45 Days. I haven’t received any messages from him. So I texted him simple and positive, “Hey! I went hiking yesterday morning. I made it to the bottom, and this view reminded me of you. *insert waterfall and river photo*” I haven’t gotten a response yet. In the meantime, I have been trying to up my FB game by tagging myself everywhere. I updated my profile picture and cover photo. Also, I may be wrong here as the photos I have chosen are solely just me but they were taken by my ex. I’m still posting on Instagram. I took a personal weekend trip to Seattle to have fun and me time. I’ve began seeing a thearpist to help me work on being less negative and more positive. Since the break up, I have noticed that I am different. I have a change in attitude and growing more patient and not pushy. I started exercising, and I chose hiking because my ex loved hiking and I have no intention on running and prefer walking. In January, we have a scheduled trip, but I don’t know if it’s best to go. I want to add that while my ex was breaking up with me he told me that he still wanted me in his life, he still wanted to get to know me, and he asked and begged for me to still consider going on our trip together. I want to take the risk, but I am uncertain if that initial text I sent will do something. Like I don’t know if he will respond or if he’ll tell me to leave him alone. I’m confused with what’s going on with him asking me all this stuff yet breaking up with me. What do you think?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   December 5, 2017 at 1:45 am

   HI LC,

   did you mean you tagged yourself in your photos in his account?

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   Yaqui

   December 3, 2017 at 3:03 am

   My bf and I haven’t been hanging out lately and I decided to approach him about it and told him that if he didn’t like me to just break with me, he responded “I don’t want to break up I really like you” but then he said “to not ruin anything let’s just stay friends” and I have been vey down because I really loved him. I saw a post on his snapchat story that said “it sucks when something you love so much ends up fading away and you just have to let go to end the pain of knowing it doesn’t love you back”. What should I do? I want him back but does he want me back? What should I do?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   December 5, 2017 at 1:37 am

   Hi Yaqui,

   check this one:
   What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Wants To Stay Friends