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58 thoughts on “Signs My Ex Is Over Me For Good”

  1. Jasmine

    October 31, 2019 at 5:10 am

    Hi Chris,
    My ex boyfriend and I broke up 2 months back when I asked him about our plans to get married. I maintained a one month NC post which I reached out to him in person. It wasn’t a good meet and I ended up begging him for us to be together. He said he had no feelings for me and told me he has moved on. I haven’t contacted him again in any way. It’s been a month since this happened but he shows no sign of contacting me in any way. I am even undergoing a therapy session to cope up with this which I had mentioned it to him when we last spoke. Kindly give your suggestions.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 31, 2019 at 10:33 pm

      Hi Jasmine so if you are going through therapy to deal with the situation then focus on that before you reach out to your ex, normally mixing therapy and this process can be hard to cope with emotionally so I do suggest working on yourself until you in a better position to contact your ex again

  2. Hannah

    October 29, 2019 at 4:50 pm

    Does this also works on non-boyfriends, just people you dated? And how to be both NC when they’re guilty of negligence and you broke their trust?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 30, 2019 at 1:09 pm

      Hi Hannah, it can work but you dont have the advantage of a past relationship to play with positive memories with. But you need to take some time apart (NC) and then re attract using the texting phase to build up a stronger bond where you gain his trust again and you and work on becoming more of a priority to him – by not being too available to him but also being the Ungettable girl. Do some reading and get yourself used to how the process works

  3. Anon

    October 26, 2019 at 11:58 pm

    Hi Chris,

    My boyfriend of 8months broke up with me saying he’s had enough of me. I got angry at him for not putting in enough effort for me and he was trying his best to give more time to me. But I lashed out at him another time and it was to his limit. He said he’s tried his best at making things work between us but can never seem to make me happy and has made up his mind that things between us won’t ever work out anymore because he’s at his limit and due to long distance. He say he is no longer happy in this relationship and don’t think he can try any longer to make things work anymore. And when I went mad and started apologising for taking him for granted and calling him non-stop he totally ignored me; to the point that he blocked me on every social platform. I’m so sad and hurt from this and feel very sorry to have pushed him to his limit. I have not been in contact with him for two days after all that. Does he hate me? And is there ever a chance in this situation that we will ever get back together?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 27, 2019 at 3:32 pm

      Hi there, I wouldnt say he hates you I think you are too dependant on him. Read some articles about being Ungettable Girl and make sure you follow the program and complete a full NC

  4. Robin Fay ONeill

    October 26, 2019 at 7:14 pm

    My guy broke up with me two weeks ago on a Saturday morning. We were laughing and sharing ice cream in bed the night before while watching a movie. He even hid the ice cream under the blanket to tease me. He let me feed him spoonfuls.
    The next morning I started rubbing his back. He acted kind of annoyed. I asked him if he was going to be late. He had mentioned he needed to do something in the AM. I got up to get my things together and leave so he could get ready.
    I put my things in the car. When I came back in he was washing dishes. He came over and gave me a hug goodbye. He seemed upset. I asked him if everything was ok and he mumbled it was him. I stood there and waited a minute. I asked what was wrong. He yelled out, saying this is why he can’t be in a relationship.
    I’m so hurt and shocked. He said I was a nice distraction. We dated 10 months. He was always making plans for us. Always taking me places. Always thinking about things we could do. From teaching me card games, taking me to microbreweries, to places out of town for day trips, etc.
    We both have kids. He has 2 teen boys he gets every other week. I have a 22 yr old that lives with me.
    We are both over 50. We never argued. We always laughed and finished each others sentences. Even when we were away during summer trips with his kids and doing stuff out of town, we would get back into the routine of being together.
    Now, he says he has issues, wishes nothing but the best for me, and he can’t see or talk to me right now because there is so much going on.
    I contacted him a couple times by text. He answered a couple time.
    I’m so confused. I want him back but not going to beg. I simply told him how wonderful he was and how much I was going to miss him.
    I asked if he was ever going to see me or talk to me again.
    He dropped a couple of my things off but let them by the door when I wasnt home.
    I am at a loss

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 27, 2019 at 3:37 pm

      Hi Robin, how strange the turn of events but clearly he is hiding something as there is no reason to end things based on your side of the story. I would go into a NC and work on your own life making sure you are happy with yourself and get over the break up and the relationship. By doing this you are showing you know your worth and in time when he has less going on you may find he reaches out to you. But you can reach out in 30 days time as a friend but do not mention the break up or the relationship

  5. Kate

    October 26, 2019 at 8:21 am

    Hi. I’m pregnant 8 months now with my ex. He broke up with me 2 months ago. He has new girl he said “he doesn’t think he don’t love her” but he still is texting me, going on trips with me, hold my hand, hugging during meetings and having sex. He said he loves trips with me etc. He’s asking for help in many cases. Two weeks ago he told me he still hurts because how our relationship ended. He didn’t tell the girl he’s expecting baby (which he’s very happy to have). Honestly, I don’t know how to behave. Sometimes I feel like I’m just useful for him. He changes behaviour – once he’s so good to me, texting whole days, having fun. Other day he’s totally quiet, asking me not to call him. Like when he’s with new girl he doesn’t need me. When I ask if we have chance he always say that no one knows the future. I want him back. Baby delivery is closer and I really need advise what to do in that case… Should I keep this contact with him? Should I ask why he’s ignoring me? I’m struggling about this situation…

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 27, 2019 at 8:39 pm

      Hi Kate so the fact you are 8 months pregnant and you’re almost due I would recommend a limited no contact where you DO NOT SLEEP WITH HIM. Change the dynamics where you explain to him you are not going to be second best to the other woman. You should show yourself more respect than he is giving you by treating you this way. He needs to feel hes going to lose you unless he gets rid of the other woman in his life

  6. Anon Girl

    October 24, 2019 at 11:44 pm

    My ex of 2 years left me 4 months ago, a close family member was ill and the next day he died which blew an argument out of proportion and he ended it with me.
    We’d split up twice last year for a month both times and I really thought we were on the right track to a happy future this time.
    We have a young child together so see each other multiple times a week. I did limited contact for 30 days. Since ending LC I’ve told him twice (over the period of 3 months) that I still have feelings for him. The first time he didnt reply, the second time he replied but was a little hostile. He hasn’t told me he doesn’t have feelings for me anymore but on the other hand he hasn’t told me he does so I don’t really know where I stand. I’m blocked on social media but he hasn’t blocked my phone number as we need to be able to contact each other incase of an emergency with our child.
    When we pick up and drop off our child he doesn’t speak much, and if he does it’s just about our child.
    I’ve done a lot of self improvement in the 4 months we’ve been apart, I’ve tried to move on but I just cant. I love him dearly and want noone but him. I’ve tried going on dates but I just find myself gravitating back to him.
    How can I make him see me in an attractive light again? He is extremely stubborn and very proud so know he wont come begging back, I will have to make the first move which I am happy to do but how can I build attraction when we only see each other for a few minutes a few times a week?
    Thanks in advance

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 27, 2019 at 9:21 pm

      Hi AG so you need to stop telling him you have feelings for him and making it obvious you want him back. He isnt going to chase someone who doesn’t need chasing. Speaking to him civil like and appearing happy and confident is how youre going to get him interested again. This is also while dressing and looking great during picking up and dropping off your child. If he was to ask what your plans are while he has your child I would suggest saying something like “Going for food with a friend” or something similar to make him wonder who the friend is.

  7. Mia Gonzalez

    October 24, 2019 at 2:22 am

    My ex and I have been broken up for about 3 months now. He initiated the break up after an argument one night that blew up way more than it should. During the 3months, I’ve committed the sin of begging and pleading because I couldn’t wrap my head around the fact that someone who deeply loves, cares, and respects me decided to end the relationship & run away versus trying to work on things. Up until now, he STILL says he loves & cares about me but does not want to give me a second chance. He said he was tired from all the arguments during our relationship and was unhappy every time. I’ve asked him if this was a decision he has been thinking about over time but he said it just “came to him” that night we fought & he ended things.

    For the past 3 months, I’ve begged & pleaded. We’ve also went back and forth about giving each other our stuff back. He’s always ignored me when I asked about our things or responded with “I’ll let you know.”

    He’s asked for space countless of times & I’ve failed many times. I am now committing to NC out of respect & love for him but for healing on my part. I’ve read all that I can from this website and am now working towards becoming UG.

    I just can’t help but to think that my gut is telling me he WILL come back because of the fact that he says he STILL loves & cares about me. He still wants us to be apart of each others lives(just wants space until he feels ready to reach out) & is always making excuses for not coming to get or letting me drop off his things.

    Do I still have a pretty good chance of getting my ex back? Thank you.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 24, 2019 at 9:43 pm

      Hey Mia, so the amount of time you’ve spent begging and pleading is going to lower your chances but you can still start your NC and stick with it and give yourself a better chance of getting him back if you follow the advice on this website and actually do the work Chris recommends

  8. Taylor

    October 23, 2019 at 7:14 pm

    My ex recently broke up with me saying that he loves me and this is real but he is scared to commit. His past relationships have been pretty bad so I can see why he is like this. I am on day 5 of no contact and haven’t heard anything from him yet. I am focusing on me by going to the gym daily and meeting new friends. I Post on my story about 2 times this week showing me being happy and out enjoying life. he is the first to watch them. He’s a stubborn commitment phobia. Do I have a chance?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 24, 2019 at 9:05 pm

      Hi Taylor so yes giving you follow the program and have some emotional control and patience… then you are in the right place to give yourself your best chance. Read up through the articles on this website and videos on Chris’ YouTube about stubborn exes and this will help you understand what you need to do.

  9. erin elizabeth

    October 22, 2019 at 6:44 pm

    hi chris-
    i have quite the issue. my ex boyfriend and i broke up (he broke up with me) because he’s graduating college this year and needs to figure out what he wants to do with our life. in our relationship there was a lot of fighting but when it was good it was incredibly good and made it all worth it. we talked about futures together and are still so in love to this day. we broke up about two months ago and we’re stuck in this post relationship relationship cycle for a while, seeing each other and having sex and feeling everything all over again. neither of us wants to see anyone else, but he won’t take me back because he says he doesn’t want to be with anyone right now and won’t for a long time. i’ve started no contact and it’s so difficult but i want to know if i even have a chance of getting him back. he still has feelings and is protective of me, but he knows he can’t give me what i deserve. i can’t shake the feeling that this will somehow all work out and we will be together again, even though he says he won’t ever want that. am i doing the right thing? please help.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 24, 2019 at 9:14 pm

      Hey Erin, so you need to NC him and walk away from him for 30 days working on yourself and let him see you dont need him to be “protective” of you and you are a grown woman who is going to do amazing things with her life with or without him in there. Make sure you read about being Ungettable and how to utilise social media so show this without it being too over the top

  10. Lisa

    October 22, 2019 at 5:39 am

    Greetings, Chris!
    My Ex Bf and I dated a year. We broke up December 13, 2018, due to having an argument which caused me to give him his house key back and storm away…we are 12 years apart in age (I’m older). He contacted me the morning after saying that there should be no pointing fingers at either of us and that he wanted us to have no “bad” feelings between us. After that I tried to text but it was shallow so I stopped. Shortly after, I found out that I was pregnant after the breakup which ended in me miscarrying. I didn’t tell him but a mutual friend did. Which lead to us meeting up and talking. The conversation didn’t go as planned I wanted to reconcile but he appeared uncertain about our future. We agreed to be friends and he even stated that we could go out some time on a date. We started to see each as friends and went out from time to time. I thought we were getting close again but it was not the same. Even though I apparently had been friend zoned we still had times where it appeared to be more. He would text and initiate us getting together then the communication would slow down. We made plans to go on a trip but of course it didn’t happen. Our last encounter was on July 4, 2019. Because we were no longer a couple, I figured he was dating others. At this point, I never got clarity of what we were doing nor did I ask or bring it up (I was just letting the situation flow). A part of me was scared I guess, because I didn’t want to be rejected. I really loved him and still do to this day. When we dated and we would talk about our past relationships, he did mention to me that once a relationship ends with him he never goes back. I should have kept that in mind. But when we reconnected, I thought our situation was different. So on our last day together, he told me he still cared about me but he had been with someone else, but it was not serious. We still communicated up to the later part of July over the phone and texting but it was scarce. Our last day of communication, I texted him. He responded but his responses were shallow and very different. We stopped texting and he was in relationship with someone. My heart was truly broken. I was never big about posting my relationship or personal business on social media and he knew this. He however decided to post his brand new relationship and that is how I found out him totally moving on from me.

  11. Kenneth Nyawach

    October 20, 2019 at 4:52 pm

    My wife with whom we had only stayed for 4 months broke out of my relationship with her.Having tried to retrieve her in vain without wanting to receive my call, she now can at least talk.She left while expecting achild 4 months then.Am very ready to make amends with her but she is not willing.She tells me to remain patient till she delivers.now my worry is she wants financial support from me but not ready to meet me.what is up? What should I do

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 20, 2019 at 10:25 pm

      Hi Kenneth give her a NC and let her have space to miss you

  12. Anon

    October 20, 2019 at 2:48 pm

    Hi Chris,

    My ex dumped me a few months ago and said all of those lines you listed. (It’s not you it’s me, I don’t have feelings for you anymore, I’m going through things, etc.) We talked a few times since then (I reached out once after a month of NC, and then again after another month of NC). He always replied but he seemed disinterested by the end of the conversation and would cut it short. He never started a conversation first, and he seemed super nonchalant and carefree any time we talked. He isn’t big on social media, but he would view all my Snapchat stories up until recently, when he replied to one of my posts and then deleted me the next day. That’s the only time he reached out first after the breakup.

    I texted to ask why he deleted me, but he never responded. His behavior is extremely confusing, and I’m starting to think maybe he’s moving onto another girl. I read another article of yours and I decided to not reach out to him again, and maybe become the best version of myself. Whether I get him back or not, I just want him to be open to conversation because we never had a proper closure. Any time we talked, I was my usual self like how when we were together, but maybe that threw him off. How can I make him want talk to me again?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 20, 2019 at 10:45 pm

      Hey there, you need to reach out with a text that Chris describes as a Hook text that is then going on to talk about one of your exes interests, and go from there sometimes its going to be a little trial and error on what works to get him talking and what wont. Make sure you read articlews about texting and watch some youtube videos too

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