56 thoughts on “Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You”

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   Tarryn

   December 16, 2019 at 2:49 pm

   Hi. My boyfriend and I broke up about 2 weeks ago. During this time of the break up we had to attend a wedding and he still did certain things he did when we were together but on and off. After 1 day of ignoring him he came and spoke to me like a good friend did. I got a glimpse of hope and started contacting him more. However yesterday he told me to just leave him alone, has blocked me and told me that he doesn’t want me back now and only will in possibly a few years. He has now pulled the no contact rule on me. Please give me some advice on what to do. I don’t know what to do.

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   EBR Team Member: Shaunna

   December 16, 2019 at 11:36 pm

   Hi Tarryn so you need to use this no contact period to focus on yourself, getting over the break up and reading as much as you can on this website to help you become “ungettable” your ex will eventually unblock you and see how amazing you are doing

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   Jenny

   December 15, 2019 at 12:47 am

   Hi,
   I broke up with my boyfriend back 2 months ago and then we briefly rekindled things about a month later, but then the same fight happened again. I was the one to break up with him, but I feel now that I was pressured into it and made a rash decision, because my friends were very against the relationship. I have since realized that I am willing to do the work to get him back and fight for the relationship. As of about a week ago, he started posting pics of a new girl. It has been about 2 weeks since I have spoken to him. I worry that I am going to lose my chance about getting him back, because of this new girl being in the picture. What should my next step be in getting him back?

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   EBR Team Member: Shaunna

   December 15, 2019 at 9:37 pm

   Hi Jenny starting with a No contact and then reaching out as a friend and starting the being there method. Make sure you read as much as you can on this website that applies to your situation

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   K s cooley

   December 13, 2019 at 3:34 pm

   Was together 3yrs. Past few weeks he started slowly distancing from me, but if I asked him if he wanted to go our separate ways he would assure me he didnt. So 3 nights ago we had a small argument texting each other he then text he was done for me to leave him alone. I have text him a few times he doesnt respond. But I see he looks at them. In the past he would block me from all contact, so far he hasnt this time. Is there any hope he come back?

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   EBR Team Member: Shaunna

   December 15, 2019 at 8:55 pm

   Hi KSC so by the sounds of things hes just distanced himself from arguments and fall outs. Following a No Contact for 30 days and allowing that time to pass for him to decide what he wants himself and reach out in a friendly way not mentioning the relationship and just seeing what if any response you get.

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   Milla

   December 13, 2019 at 1:31 am

   Hi, i am Milla and we broke with my bf 2.5 months ago. We did not loose contact, he talked to me 3..4 times a week. Recently we spoke longer and he gave me terrible mixed signals-he didnt want to meet in my place for his vacation around Christmas, but the moment i asked him would he want to meet me at all, the answer was “Where you may come?”… Than asked is he liking me(he has passive agression often) he said “No i do not, and after me not outbursting, he started to say i like parts of you.. Than he started to say what he likes in me…turned out 2 hours. Than we continued talking and he finally addmitted, he is not mentally ready for seeing me “withought expectations”. Than we talked for two more hours, and he turned out flirty, asking for sex… I turned out flirty also, but thats all. As a whole we spent 6 hours on the pfone in a really good conversation. I want him back,but he has deep introversion and he opens up hard. In our relationship i have always initiated the contact – he just cant, because is terribly introverted, he is even able not to talk to his parents weeks. How is good to continue? No contact is not apllying as we are typing often. Sometmes if i ask him smt for us he says”i cant say yes or no, let it happen “. He cant be a friend with me, but still is around and typing often, sometimes talking for hours. I would like to reunite, loving him for who he is-shy, gentle, clever. So i wander hoe to proceed. He is 34,me 33

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   EBR Team Member: Shaunna

   December 15, 2019 at 8:50 pm

   Hi Milla, you need to do no contact, saying it does not apply is not how this works. Doing no contact you do not reach out you do not reply to him no matter what. For a minimum of 30 days. It doesnt matter what you used to do. NO Contact is just that, NO CONTACT. If you want to get him back and follow this process you have to start by doing no contact

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   Dawn

   December 11, 2019 at 2:36 am

   My ex boyfriend and I dated for 11 months and we were each other’s first sexually. We took lots of trips together texted and hung out a lot then, he got a little controlling and at times distant. We started having arguments around our 10th month a lot and he didn’t want space and on our last weekend trip with his family he was very distant and not speaking to me much so, later that week I decided I needed to walk away from the relationship for a little to reflect and hoped he would do the same; turns out he’s been texting some girl he met a month before and claimed she was just a friend. He tries to get me back for a few days after the breakup and I told him I needed time. Now he’s texting and seeing this girl and I want him back but, he said he didn’t want me back now. What should I do? We had invested a lot into each other and we had a lot of great times and first together and I don’t want to loose him for good. He hasn’t contacted me in almost 2 weeks.

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   EBR Team Member: Shaunna

   December 15, 2019 at 5:44 pm

   Hi Dawn the description of your relationship does not sound like a healthy one so I would consider if it is wise to try get someone back who was controlling and then punishing you with silence and distance. If he has moved on right now he is going to be focus on the “new” relationship but that is why you need to do 45 days no contact where he has enough time to become over the honeymoon phase. If you want to get your ex back then you need to work on yourself to a point where you are strong emotionally. But by the sounds of things you were right to walk away

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   Jai

   December 8, 2019 at 1:23 pm

   So we were dating from last 3 yrs & everything was pretty amazing for 2 yrs & than we started fighting a little but used to patch up quickly & maybe we both made a fault there of not solving the issue just fcsd on cmng back.In Nov18 we fought & we broke up Till thn I became comfortable with the rltnshp & thought she will never leave me & stopped putting efforts in small things,stopped appreciating her efforts.After this brkup she told me that there will be no relationship now but we kept talking & kept flirting back & forth & the chats and calls were as usual.She accptd that she is trying to move on but can’t & we kept talking like couples for 5 mnths but We never tlkd about rslvng the issue & i didn’t put effort bcuz I thought we just fought because there were many issue & there is nothing to be rslvd.Those 4-5 months were weird ,we were not in a relationship but it felt like we are in one atleast to me.Than in June 2019 I shouted on her for something and it hurted her real bad & I instantly knew that i made a mistake, I was ashamed of it and I apologized to her.I thought at that point now it’s all over.I initiated the talking again after few days we talked like friends & in the initial time she was stiff in rplyg at the pace but after 2 mnths there was some change & she opened a little bit & started talking on phone & chat more frequently,I made sure I treated her as a nice friend through out this period.In November I apologized again for my mistakes & asked her to come back & she told me that The break-up hpnd 1 yr ago & those 4-5 months I was like that cuz i couldn’t control my emotions but now it’s too late & I see you just as a friend. It shocked me & I gave it a thought I tried again after few days & it failed again she told me it makes no sense talking about these things and you should move on I can get into relationship but not with you.( Still she used to talk about my posts and activities to her friend.)Now I realise my mistake of taking her granted & it’s too late and I regret what I did.Will she get her feelings back in future (4-5 months) if I really change myself & than talk. Do girls get re attracted after such thing ?( I have not contacted her from past 5-6days , I am working on myself and thinking of contacting after 1-2 month,She follows me on social media) Ps- I can still talk to her when I want we are on talking terms.

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   EBR Team Member: Shaunna

   December 9, 2019 at 5:38 pm

   Hey Jai, it sounds like a good idea to work on yourself for some time, but if you want to get your ex back I do suggest not going longer than 66 days of speaking to them as this can make it difficult if you want to get them back

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   Clara Cepeda

   December 8, 2019 at 12:13 am

   Me and my ex have been broken up for a month and I didn’t do the no contact rule when I should’ve. I kept reaching out when he said he needed space and he always answered to my messages and later he wanted to be friends. He would always answer to my messages and we would chat but he was stand off ish. I asked him if he sees a future of us getting back together and he said not in the cards but really wants to be friends so I need to figure out where I stand emotionally. I never replied and it’s been a week… I can’t tell if he’s super over it or just emotionally confused of what he wants. Do I become friends with him to eventually get him back ir is this a waste of time ?

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   EBR Team Member: Shaunna

   December 8, 2019 at 10:57 pm

   Hi Clara, have you don ea no contact now? If not then you need to do one! And yes you can attempt to do the being there method to get him back but it is difficult to get an ex back if you put in the friendzone

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   Doreen

   December 6, 2019 at 10:55 am

   Hey my boyfriend broke up with me,it’s now three weeks with no communication, he stares at me and check out my post on Facebook, what does this mean

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   EBR Team Member: Shaunna

   December 6, 2019 at 5:44 pm

   Hi Doreen, you do not mention an age, length of relationship here or reason for breaking up. But normally when an ex is stalking you online and watching you they are not normally dealing with the break up all that well. IF you want to get your ex back you need to continue with no contact and then reach out to him when its been 30 days of no contact

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   Thembi

   December 5, 2019 at 5:48 am

   Hi, I’m Thembi from Katlehong,i would like to know what might be the reason for the abusive boyfriend to tell you that if it happens you leave him in the future and decided to go you must never attempt to communicate with him or send him a message,you must just carry on with your life and forget about about him,it happened we broke up I left
   him,truth must be told I can’t forget him,he is my life…I just couldn’t tolerate his abuse it was too much for me to handle,but I wanted to help him out to go do counseling he never give me that opportunity,he refused and he got more violent and very abusive instead,we had a future together,we suppose to be getting married this month on the 25th December but now everything is a mess,how do I get my ex helped…I love him,i know he deserve the best and he also deserve to be loved not hurt…Pls help me I need your advise.

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   EBR Team Member: Shaunna

   December 6, 2019 at 9:48 pm

   Hi Thembi, sadly we can become dependant on abusive exes, they become an addiction which is what you are feeling at the moment. You need to find that strength inside to tell yourself to let go and not go back there as the situation will never get better. You did the hardest part, leaving. Stick with it and seek professional help to deal with the mental pain you are going to be feeling from your doctor or someone you trust. You should not ever be with someone who is violent to you! Do not marry this man or the abuse will be for the rest of your life! Stay strong and stay away from him! He needs to seek professional help and sort out his ways too but that is not your place to try to help him as it is you he is hurting! I hope you listen to my advice as this is a terrible situation for you!