794 thoughts on “Stage 5 Clinger – Getting A Boyfriend Back If You Were Too Clingy”

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   megan

   September 10, 2016 at 12:08 am

   after the break up I went into no contact for 4 days but then texted him asking to talk and asked if he feels differently. that didn’t go well so I’m back on no contact it’s been 4 days. should I message him being positive and mature so he will think positively them start no contact again or just leave it and stay in no contact as it is?

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   Connie K.

   September 13, 2016 at 1:23 am

   Im in almost the same position. He said he didn’t like me anymore because I was too clingy on Saturday. I haven’t talked to him since then. I wrote a letter today saying everything I want to say to him. Not bad, not needy, hinting that it could work but sad at the same time. I am planning on giving him the letter on Friday, September 15. That’s almost 6 days of no contact. I’m going to see how that goes. Maybe you should try that.

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   megan

   September 10, 2016 at 9:53 pm

   we dated a year… we were long distance. In August I stayed with him for two weeks I guess I got a bit mean at times but we talked about it and I had got better and we were good again. I guess also I get needy at times especially on text which I’ve tried to stop and I think breaking up has really helped with that. I wish he would come back so I could prove it to him. Anyways at the end of this summer is when it kind of went down hill. He was worried I wouldn’t feel loved enough and we wouldn’t have time to call and text as much because it’s his senior year and he would be busy with school and sports. I was okay with it, I knew we would make time. We even made a list of things to make it easier.. We were gonna send care packages, FaceTime AT LEAST once a week, etc. Then just last week he said he can’t do it anymore that the distance is too hard and FaceTime isn’t enough, that he didn’t feel connected enough. We have always been good with distance we have always managed it. We didn’t FaceTime as much because we were busy, I did kinda feel he was avoiding calling me like that night he was with him family until 11. Maybe the distance was really hard but we always work it out. Anyways i did the no contact rule for 4 days. I know pathetic. But I read a thing saying how guys are like elastics, after being really close they need to pull away and then they will come back. And we had been together all summer so it made sense. So I messages him and told him and he said no that he just wants to be friends and that he doesn’t feel the same. He said he love me still but not the same way. Which I don’t get. We dated almost a year and he got over me in 4 days which I don’t believe. He said he missed talking to me. I think he might of said he’s over me to push me away more I don’t know but I don’t believe it. I thought he was gonna come back, my friends did too. Now I’m back on no contact and its been 5 days. He hasn’t messaged and niether have I. I kinda think he just needs space and will come back. It can’t be the end. We talked about meeting through college and getting an apartment together after. I never saw us ending and he even cried when he left he said he didn’t wanna go.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 12, 2016 at 10:48 am

   I think it’s because he already started moving on before breaking up with, so for you it seems sudden when for him it’s not. Do 30 days, and just focus in improving yourself.. But keep in mind, for a long distance relationship to work, you have to you have time, money and a plan on when you’ll really be together. You should read this one: The Complete Guide To Getting An Ex Boyfriend Back In A Long Distance Relationship

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 10, 2016 at 5:42 pm

   Hi Megan,

   The shortest we recommend is 21 days.. there are special cases that do just a week but those are most commonly the ones that have already done a long nc before.. why did you break up and how long were together?

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   Jessica

   September 9, 2016 at 11:26 am

   Hey!
   Here’s my situation:

   I dated my ex for 1.6 years and 10 months was long distance which we managed well, once he got back we spent a lot of time together yet he randomly broke up with me because apparently I never listened. The post break up was messy and I was very clingy, yet he’s trying to move on and dosent want to be in contact with me. I tried no contact this week but broke it yesterday and the last time we spoke was an hour ago on the phone, he said afterwards he still needs space. He’s also said he never wants to get back together again but I love him so much. What do I do??

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 10, 2016 at 11:33 am

   Hi Jessica,

   why did you break no contact? Are you going to restart it?

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   Moo Luxe

   September 6, 2016 at 8:29 am

   me and my boyfriend Moo have this a little misunderstanding. He is my boss, he was so controlling and jealous every time i talked to male customers. Even though i explained everything that i am just doing my job. He’ll insists his……..then when i told him not to go to clubs because im hurt he’ll tell me “so , dami pala bawal kahit di bisyo.” (So, I’m not allowed to do a lot of stuff? Even if it’s not a vice?) I am kind of confused? ?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 7, 2016 at 6:49 am

   Hi Moo luxe,

   Sorry I had to add in a translation for other readers too. I hope you understand.

   so in short, he has greater power over you. He’s literally bossy. The power has to be equal. You have to talk to him calmly about this and if he doesnt want that, you have to stand your ground and not allow him to boss you around.. You have to say all of that calmly so that he will listen

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   confused on what to do

   September 6, 2016 at 4:43 am

   Hi,
   I started seeing a guy about 3 and a half months ago who I currently work with and things were great. We hung out almost every day he texted me all the time and the chemistry was amazing. After 2 months he asked me to be his girlfriend, which was his first relationship ever. As our relationship progressed so did my feelings, and his did to at first. He would take all his spare time (which was VERY limited) and spend it with me. However, I became needy and insecure because of his limited time. He often would only have one or two hours to see me and need to leave, and I would get very sad and angry at how little time he had for me. Eventually he started texting me less and spending a little less time with me. The way I reacted was very defensively… I told him “if he doesn’t want to talk to me then not to waste my time.” I was trying to show him I didn’t need him without realizing that I was coming off incredibly needy. The next day after seeing him at work he asked to speak to me, and came over to my house. He told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship, that he obviously didn’t have enough time to give to me and that i needed more attention than he could provide. He told me he was losing the spark he felt, but that he still cared about me. However, before leaving he cried in my arms for 2 hours with me, and then proceeded to cry for 30 more minutes in his car outside of my house before he left. The next day he texted me telling me he couldn’t stop thinking about me, that he cried all night and he thinks he’s acting out of fear and wanted to meet up. We met up and he proceeded to tell me the same things as the night before, essentially breaking up with me twice. We went from a peaceful breakup to me snapping at him, telling him that he wasn’t considering me at all, giving me hope just to break up with me again and that he was going to lose me for good. He apologized profusely telling me that he didn’t know why he did that and he was so sorry and was trying to tell me that he just needed space to think. Since then, we have not spoken. I have seen him at work and he ignores me and I ignore him. Last night, someone told me that he was telling them how he broke up with me and that its over. Due to him not giving me a definitive answer about whether or not he wanted to end things I texted him after work (ignoring him in person) telling him in a very emotionally charged way that “it was nice finding out through someone else that we are done rather than you telling me yourself, you told me you wanted space. thought you had more respect for me never speak to me again.” He completely ignored me. We have not spoken since. I am devastated because although it was not a long relationship I was falling for him. I have no idea what to do because on one hand, I know he felt as though I didn’t value the time he gave me because I was always emotional and that I was being way too hard on him the entire relationship, so he felt way too much pressure and that is why he backed off. But… on the other hand I know he is treating me like this because he thinks I am needy. I want to do a no contact rule but as of now my last message to him was very emotionally fuelled and makes me look even crazier. I’m worried he won’t come back and I see him 3 nights a week at work. Please help

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 7, 2016 at 6:26 am

   Hello,

   this is what you should read and follow. Click on it.
   EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

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   Amanda

   September 6, 2016 at 3:39 am

   Hi Amor, I don’t know the exact dates as to when he is leaving. As his company mails the dates one month prior to his sail. And it a been like 15 days and still no talk. And I just texted him once to wish him bday. That’s It. I don’t know what to do

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 7, 2016 at 5:43 am

   Hi Amanda,

   you have to start count after this. Start to make and do a new routine. He has to see that you’re being independent now. That you have your own life and you won’t chase him anymore. Improve yourself and maintain that routine even after the no contact period. Do 30 days.

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   Veronica

   September 5, 2016 at 10:19 am

   Here is my situation and any guidance would be greatly appreciated – this site is great and I think it’s wonderful how you help people going through this tough time.
   I met my ex online and within a month he told me he loved me. He broke up with me a week later, saying that he would just hurt me and we would become unhappy like his other relationships (the other two women he loved cheated on him and it seems he hasn’t let these wounds go) and that it was too hard and issues so early (due to long distance). I’m also fairly certain he lied to me about is whereabouts a few times when we were together- within a week he had a car accident and two medical emergencies on days he was meant to see or FaceTime me. I didn’t do no contact immediately (did not see this site until later) and essentially he knows how hurt I am because of the breakup. I then did no contact for about 9’days and messaged him. Since then he has been incredibly rude and cold – saying things like he forbids conversation of our relationship and anything in the past, and that our conversations were in the past. Incredibly hateful words. This is not the person I fell in love with and I’ve gotten clingy with messages given the hurtful messages I’ve received. I’m not sure what to do at this point but would really appreciate your advice.

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   Veronica

   September 7, 2016 at 1:20 pm

   Thanks Amor. Should I restart no contact for thirty days in this case?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 8, 2016 at 11:18 am

   Yep!

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   Veronica

   September 6, 2016 at 9:02 pm

   Hi amor,

   Just to clarify, not sure that changes anything – we met twice in person. Spent a whole weekend together the second time and it was a week later he told me he loved me.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 7, 2016 at 10:47 am

   Oh.. yes, it does make a difference! There is a memory that he can miss about you. So, now it can be that things were moving too fast for him

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   Veronica

   September 5, 2016 at 10:24 am

   Any insight on why he is exhibiting this behaviour would be really helpful too… Not understanding why something is happening is probably the worst part.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 6, 2016 at 11:24 am

   Hi Veronica,

   first, you havent met him person, so there’s a bf possibility that you dont know the real him and now you’re seeing the real him.. focus in improving yourself now.. restart no contact and do 30 days

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   devastated

   August 31, 2016 at 8:28 am

   So I met my ex a a couple of months ago through online dating site,. He had just been out of a 6 years long relationship (which according to him was preety bad) they used to have arguments everyday and she was really controlling which annoyed the hell out of him. So everything was okay when we started we were really happy together. although the only thing I didn’t like about him was that he was never upfront about his feeling. he told me a few times he was falling for me. and would address me ‘girlfriend’ to everyone. he introduced me to all his family and friends. He was such a nice lad, it was too good to be true. Although he wasn’t a text or call person so he would take really long to reply my texts (he had extremely busy work too) but anyways. long story short, I started getting really clingy. you know it made me mad if he didnt reply my text, and since he was very conservative kind (he never initiated kiss or anything unless I did it) when asked he’d tell me that it was just his personality. so one day, we had a big fight(I was really rude to him) about the same issue. when I apoloziged he told me he needed space. and after a few days he broke up with me. (reason was he wasnt ready for another serious relationship right away esp not the one exactly like with his previous gf) it was so much to take. I asked if we could still be friends (Which I dont want to) but he agreed to it. He hadnt blocked me or anything. I found out about this site. Thought of using NC like chris said in his podcast (what to do when your ex just wants to be friends) But then he texted me with a “hey” a week after our break up. I just couldnt help myself. I took it as an invitiation to get back to him.
   I BROKE NC!!! 🙁 but i could see that he clearly wasnt up for a relationship. (he was just talking as a friend you know) he just disappeared half way through our conversation I went bad shit crazy and texted him like crazy and called him non-stop..
   He never replied and now have blocked me from EVERYTHING (every social media possible)
   I dont know what to do. please help!!

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   Devastated

   September 28, 2016 at 1:57 am

   Hi Amor,
   I have been in no contact for almost a month now.And I think I am moving on preety well. But the thing is, I didn’t realize but we’re still friends on snapchat, He views all of my stories but hasnt deleted me yet. and also sent me a snap a couple of weeks ago which I didnt reply to. Everything was going preety well but now that i know that he keeps looking at my snaps. i cant help but keep posting stuff and expect and wait for him to see it. I dont think this is healthy since i want to move on. i would eventually want to talk to him but not at this stage.
   I dont know what to do. I mean should I block him from snapchat?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 29, 2016 at 5:57 am

   if your goal now is to move on, yes, you should block him

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   Devastated

   September 2, 2016 at 3:14 am

   I dont think i can tbh. I have left several messages and he didnt reply.
   And worst of all. I dont have any source to talk to him(since he has blocked me from everything) and I dont want to be creepy anymore. I dont think anything i say at this moment can change his mind.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 2, 2016 at 3:51 pm

   Then that means no contact is the better choice..

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   Devastated

   August 31, 2016 at 8:16 pm

   But what if he gets over me in that time. And he has probably decided that he would never talk to me.
   I have made such a low impression of me on him.
   I even texted his best friend like multiple times. I am so embarrased. But since it was my mistake(at least most part of it) and I still love him a lot. For all I know(even tho he’s blocked me) he’s a good guy.
   I fell for him head over heels for his confidence, how outgoing and lively he was, and how everything used to seem unimportant when i was with him.
   It was special.

   What if he tells me he’s moved on and to never contact him again after NC. Or worse, doesn’t response at all?. 🙁

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 1, 2016 at 12:26 pm

   the question is, if you keep talking to him now, can you influence the way he thinks about you? or would he think you’re just chasing him?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   August 31, 2016 at 3:04 pm

   HI Devastated,

   restart no contact.. and do 45 days

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   Kylie

   August 30, 2016 at 6:42 pm

   My boy friend and I have been dating 7 months. We are older, I’m 40 and he’s 50. We took it slow, he was definitely more interested in me in beginning than I was him, but he kept winning with me. We go on dates, he always calls or texts everyday. I nicknamed him “My Gentleman”. I rarely initiate calls or texts and let him set pace of our dating. (Except sex, which I did not agree to for first couple months, and he respected that). We never fight or argue. A couple times I set boundaries about him not calling when he said, in a pulling back type way and saying I don’t like it when… It makes me ….and he always made things right. I admired him, appreciated every little thing he did for me, and respected him. Maybe I put him on too much of pedestal, but I told him it was only cause he super deserved it.
   The problem is at about six months, I felt like our relationship was not moving forward. We were still only seeing each other once a week, maybe a brief 2nd time. I admit it is hard with my two younger children, but we live a mile apart. I started fearing he was an avoidant, emotionally shut off guy, even though outgoing, sweet, and caring. He would text saying he was exhausted, or tired from work in the evenings but sent very sweet romantic texts and telling me about his day. I Just got this gut feeling he was keeping things from progressing and we weren’t progressing into the more vulnerable, open emotionally stage. It did make me feel more insecure and I wanted to feel closer to him. I did feel like slowly he was opening up more, but just started wanting to see him more. Sorry, I’m a girl, I like contact and closeness. I am definitely not the suffocating type.
   When I told him I wanted to see him more, I made it clear I respected his independence and wasn’t clingy type, but did make it clear I wanted to be in r/s that is going forward. He agreed and said we wanted same thing.
   At seven months, there wasn’t a real change, so I just told him In a calm, nice way I needed to see him more( which was out of my comfort zone because I’ve never had to ask for mans attention), that I didn’t want to be just a one night a week type r/s, I needed to feel his masculine presence, and not every day, but twice a week would be nice. I told him I loved him, there was no one else, but I needed this. He said we would talk about it, said we’d see what we can do, then he didnt text the next two days, or come over for dinner after work the second night of not texting/calling. I could tell he was pulling away, I did not call him. The next day he sent text apologizing. Said he was just going through some crap and hopefully we could talk soon. I responded with brief, friendly text blowing it off cause my gut told me he felt pressured or overwhelmed and I was just going to give him some space. Didn’t bring up talking. He texted back again that evening. I didn’t respond but he didn’t ask me to just said he wasn’t feeling too well, relaxing after work watching football. (was doing Bob Grant’s bonding code where if he pulls back, you pull back). He didn’t text next day. Then day after that, I ran into him at Starbuck’s. He came up and said hi to me and that he was on his way to work and that we would talk. I asked him if I could just talk to him real fast outside. I didn’t want to wonder and wait for him to call anymore. When he came outside I told him I feel so disconnected from him and don’t like feeling this way, and that I don’t want to put pressure on him or r/s. That was never my intention, and I wasn’t trying to criticize him, that I had so much respect for him. He told me he has so much going on, and I needed to concentrate on spending time with my kids (which I totally do) and that he didn’t think he could give me the time I needed. I told him maybe we should take break and again I don’t want to pressure him, wasn’t saying my needs are more important than his, but that I feel like I should be able to tell my boyfriend of seven months how I feel. I did say there wasn’t anyone else, but if I was going to be in an exclusive r/s I needed to spend time with that person or else I wanted to keep my options open. I don’t think I said it threatening. I was calm the whole time. He got quiet and just kind of looked away and nodded. Said he had to go to work, hugged me and said we would talk later. I hugged him and said ” I do miss you”. Was this too clingy?? Did he pick up insecure vibe, which we both have our own fulfilling lives, or is this emotional unavailability?
   So confused!! He was calling, texting every day. We had a great chemistry, mutual respect. I could tell he’s different now.
   Do we have a chance???

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   August 31, 2016 at 2:12 pm

   Hi Kylie,

   I think you were right.. He was disconnected and you just stated it.. I’m not sure why though..If it’s really work, then it would probably be like that always.. If that’s not how you want it, you have to accept it. If he lost attraction in you, then you have to improve yourself and start to be more active having your own life.

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   Amanda

   August 24, 2016 at 10:02 am

   Hi, I was in relationship for 6 months and it is long distance. He is in merchant navy and I’m still a student. We were having a very healthy relationship in the beginning 4 months. After that things got a bit of tensed between us. I became more and more insecure for him and he freaked out. I became clingy. I went to his house and even got drunk and called him up. But even after all this with some friends help. We were together. After this the two weeks were completely awesome for both of us. We spend a lot of time together. We laughed and had fun and outings. But due to a minor fight I again went back to my old ways. I called in the middle of night to tell him I was in his city to meet him up after 6 hour travelling. When he clearly asked me not to do any of this thing again. He refused to talk to me. And said he just cannot tolerate me anymore. And he broke up. He has even blocked me from everywhere and is not talking to me at all. It’s been three days. And in sometime he will leave for sail. During that time I cannot contact him at all. It a been 3 days since we broke up. I don’t know what to do?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   August 28, 2016 at 1:04 pm

   hi Amanda

   when exactly is he leaving?

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    just another hopeless lover

    July 24, 2016 at 7:25 pm

    Hi I hope you can help…

    I really heartbroken over what has happened to me.

    Me and my boyfriend were together for 6 months, but a week after day he broke up with me due to my retsriction at home and that I was lying to my family about us when i went to see him ( culture issue, I am not alowed a boyfriend ).
    I am nearly 30 he’s just over 30.
    We had an amaizing connection and I fall in love with him in the 6 months. When we broke up it was ok we both agreed that if i moved out and became indipendent we would give it another go. I cried but didn’t fight.
    It took me about four months to find a decent place to move out to, moving out of family home is a big step so i didn’t rush.
    in that four months I made a mitake we kept in touch pretty much everyday, we got into fights over that he said I needed to stop but the fear of losing him won over me.
    we fought about 4 times and overtime he would ask me to move on and forget about him but at the end of it he would calm down and say he would come see me when i have moved out.
    anyway now I have moved out three weeks ago and wanted to see him, but he got into an argument again but then was oaky and met up with me two Sundays ago it was short he asked me to go away with him to another city where he was going for work but it didn’t work out.
    he got angry at me again because i called I’m few times, He told me I don’t listen to him and that I have put him off and that he don’t like me anymore.
    He said I am not in love with him I am obsessed. I will be honest I did sort of cross the line on texting, whenever he got angry I just sent him a lot of texts trying to make it better which was wrong.
    I love him so much and I know we have something special. Now my question is do i have any chance or did i blew it all up ? will NC work for me or I should just work on letting go of him. please help..

    Thank you

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 27, 2016 at 2:00 pm

   Hi Just another hopeless lover,

   I think you should work on yourself first.. because you appear like you just moved out because of him, which shouldn’t be.. and then now that you’ve moved out, you’re chasing him.. so do nc, distance yourself and start to be independent so you’re less emotional

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    Frustrated

    July 23, 2016 at 12:30 pm

    This last week my bf has been really sick, stressed about work and jet lagged. I was basically letting him be earlier in the week and we weren’t talking all that much. Anyway, a really close family friend/godbrother contacted me late in the evening and said he was randomly in my city (Im originally from another state) and was here until 12 before he would drive with some friends all night to another city… Anyway, long story short, I didnt think to tell my bf about this (because it was late and I was caught up in excitement/surprise). I ended up posting a picture on social media so my family would see (also sent them photos) STUPIDLY… with the caption that explained who he was (my godbrother). Anyway, my bf saw it and was furious with me for not telling him my plans the night before, and now he wont talk to me and resolve it. I called and texted yesterday (both only once but now i feel stupid for both), and from now on Im going to give him space. I am just really frustrated because I made one stupid mistake not to send a quick text and tell him what I was up to (in my head at the time I was trying not to bother him). Anyway, what should I do?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 23, 2016 at 2:43 pm

   hi Frustrated,

   i dont think it was wrong.. you didn’t intentionally hid it from your ex..so just let him to cool off

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    Jan

    July 18, 2016 at 11:47 am

    Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and 2 months. We were great at the beginning, have a lot in common and had a lot of laughs together. But the last 3 months was tough on us because I was getting clingy and wanted him around. It was getting too much for him but I didn’t realised it until it was too late. And also I am 24 and he’s 21. He thinks we are going on different path in life as well even though I told him it’s not that far off. I have a feeling that he’s just finding all the excuses to tell himself and me how we are not meant to be. He broke it off with me and I told him to reconsider because I know I was wrong and we would work this out and he did. But few days later, he received a scholarship that he didn’t tell me about and he is going away for a year to China for studies within 2 months time.

    He told me a lot has happened and he going away is not helping as well. He said he can’t do long distance relationship. And I was devastated. He said if he comes back, if we still love each other, we might resume things. But I am not sure if he is just saying that to make me feel better? We had sex the day he left me as well before he break up with me. He was crying. And saying how he love me so much and he don’t understand why. He want to stay but he can’t. He said we should keep in contact and stay friends. The next day, I told him that I can apply to go to China to study with him as well but he said no that he want to be independent and grow by himself.

    We have been messaging each other ever since our break up. And we hang out 6 days after we broke up and had sex again. And he freaked out and said we should never meet again one on one because he want us to move on. And also just today after 2 weeks of breaking up, I told him I understand about why we broke up and we can still fix things since he is still in love with me but he said he don’t want to get back together. Is there a plan where I could do to make this work out? Should I start the NC rule when he is leaving within 2 months time? I don’t want to regret losing him. And how can I show him that I am different when he is in China?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 19, 2016 at 7:04 pm

   Hi jan,

   I hate to say it like this.
   but you already lost him..why? because it’s clear that he has made up his mind.. you asked to fix things and you even pointed out that he’s in love with you but he directly said no.. so right now, he’s doing things with you but with a mindset of not getting back with you..

   do nc, because being present is just letting him enjoy something he doesn’t deserve

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    Confused

    July 13, 2016 at 10:11 pm

    Hi. So I met a guy online, he lives 2 hours away. We talked only by text message for the first couple months before we finally met, we texted everyday all day. The first time we met was better than I expected and I ended up spending the weekend with him. We instantly connected and everything felt perfect. After a couple weeks he started sending me messages saying he missed me with hearts. he started planning the future and making plans with me, he seemed to be more into it than me and I thought that it was sweet. I really thought that I had finally found “the one”. We told each other everything. 2 years ago he had broken up with his ex with whom he has 2 kids with, and the way of dealing with it was by drinking- he said he had went to detox and had got control of his drinking. After a month of dating he would make plans with me to do something on a weekend, and then just disappear. The first time upset me but I didn’t say anything, but the next time he disappeared for the weekend I sent him a text telling me that it hurt me and that I didn’t care if he has other things to do on weekends, I would have just liked to hear from him so that I could change my plans from seeing him to doing something else. Anyway not long into dating him he asked me if i wanted to meet his 2 kids, i said i did but that I think we should wait to make sure so we don’t confuse the kids. Well a couple weekends ago I finally got to meet them, they spent the weekend with us- it went so good -they cried when they had to go home because they wanted to spend another day with me. Well then the Monday after, I could sense that he was pulling away. He usually sent me a morning text every morning and he stopped doing that. I thought that we had a perfect weekend with his kids so I couldn’t figure out what was going on. I continued with texting him, and calling him but then he quit returning messages. I sent him a message asking him to let me know what was up and if we were done. and he didn’t respond.it was over a weekend so it wasn’t the first time that he didn’t respond to me. when i finally heard from him he sounded sad ” you are a great girl. you don’t deserve me. my ex is being a B****. I need alone time to figure things out. I like you, we can still talk but i am really screwed up right now.” So of course I couldn’t respect his wishes and I wanted to know what was bothering him so I could help, so i tried sending him text messages and calls- and he just disappeared. Today I sent a text basically apologizing for all the other texts I had previously sent that I didn’t mean to be clingy, that I was just concerned about him. I told him i would give him his alone time. It was just about 2 weeks ago since i last talked to him when he told me he wanted alone time- I know he was some baggage, and has a bit of a drinking problem. But I still want to hear from him and be a part of his life, I really liked him. But if I haven’t heard from him now, should I assume that we are broke up?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 14, 2016 at 6:33 pm

   Hi Confused,

   from the looks of it, you are broken up..do.you an idea what the reason could be and are you going to start active no contact/

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    Lisa

    July 8, 2016 at 7:20 am

    A bit of a complicated story. We dated for 3 months & he broke up with me 3 months ago. I know that may not seem like a long time but we were inseparable & spent most days together and texted many times a day. We were All in right from the start & it was very intense. I love everything about him. A week into dating in January he told me he ordered me tropical shorts because he wanted to invite me to a wedding in Portugal in May. 10 days into dating I had to ask his take on kids because I was going to be starting my 6th and final round of IVF. He told me he never planned on having any because he had an abusive childhood & figured if he traveled/ was in love he would be happy. I broke the news about the IVF to him & a few days later he decided to drop bombs on me as well by telling me that he had bipolar 2 and a very intense abusive childhood incident. he only got the cool girlfriend that he adored for a few weeks before he then got IVF girlfriend for 5 weeks. he was nonstop loving & very supportive & never acted freaked out by the process. Even though deep down he really was. He was the best boyfriend I’ve ever had & I’m 42. The day of the IVF surgery after we spent 12 hours together, he admitted to me that the day before he was very sick all day & had to leave work. He said he was distraught the child could not have his genes. I thought that meant in only 5 weeks his mind was changing. On St. Patrick’s Day, even though he was half asleep, I asked what he thought of us & he said it’s comfy. It bothered me & the next day I asked what he thought of us and he said his heart was very happy, he loves spending time with me but his head said maybe we shouldn’t date because he didn’t want a kid. He told me he broke up with his last girlfriend because she wanted to kids and to move to Ohio. But she was much younger & a baby didn’t look like it was in the near future, so he stayed together with her much longer. I had tears in my eyes,& he ended up going home at night. The next day I acted like everything was normal & after watching one basketball game we spontaneously went to my first Bulls game. It was a very fun night & the next day I made him a beautiful brunch & it seemed like everything was fine. That Monday he got demoted at work but then Thursday he sold a commercial & we went out to celebrate. The minute I walked into the restaurant he still had starry eyes looking at me. We had the most incredible night. The next day we went to dinner & went back to his house. We were talking about normal stuff and then I made the mistake of asking a deep question again. He also found out that day he was going to have to leave town for work for 12 days. I asked if he had any fears of turning 40 & then he said I’ve been looking at you and wanting to say maybe it’s not a good idea for us to date. I want you to find someone who shares your dream. He knew I put my heart & soul into the IVF. we started drinking to get through what turned into a 4 hour conversation as I was crying hysterically. I didn’t realize he was 100% breaking up with me. He had to drive 6 hours early in the morning and said I can drive you home in a few hours if you can wait since we’ve been drinking or I can get you an Uber. I admitted to him that I had been planning 2 surprise 40th birthday party for him and had been speaking with all of his friends on Facebook. I made the mistake of saying some of his friends were not being cool about his birthday & his friends mean The world to him. I stayed in bed with him until he fell asleep & then I wrote on his mirror in lipstick that while I never said it out loud I loved him and I didn’t care about tomorrow I just cared about now and for us to continue being happy. I also left him a note. He sent me a text when he arrived in Iowa saying thank you for the sweet note & he was sorry he threw a water bottle against the wall out of frustration. I texted back that night & the next day but no response. 3 days later I texted that I really need to talk to him because I knew he was leaving town for 12 days. He said he would try to give me a call if he got out of work in time because his flight was early the next morning. He didn’t call. I had spent the whole day preparing to speak to him. I decided to take a spontaneous vacation so I wouldn’t cry for 8 more solid days. 5 days after the last text I said I needed to speak to him before I left on vacation. He said he just landed & would call in a few. We talked for 2 hrs. I told him how I felt & he said he thought about me yet never reached out. He said he was sad he realized he wouldn’t meet a woman in the Midwest as they all want kids. I said i would love it if we could get dinner the day I got back & he said he would like that too. It was in that conversation that I realized he had broken up with me because he was in LA & I said I was going to be connecting in LA & I wanted to see him & stay with him for the night. He knew I needed to break up the flights to Hawaii because of my bad back. He said he didn’t want to give me the wrong idea of me staying in a hotel with him because we were not dating. He also explained the comment he made the night of my IVF surgery saying any man would be jealous because it’s like I’m having a child with another man since I had to use a donor. When I got to maui, I sent him a text, and woke up the next day to a cute text from him. I then hit him with way too many texts, I think trying to prove that I was in my happy place and I was OK. I texted 2 days later, sorry about all the texts, catch u next week when I’m back. As in I’ll give u space. 5 days later I sent a text to see if he made it back ok. The text went to green vs blue on an iPhone. I didn’t know if he got it. The next day before I left I tried sending a text & the same thing. I tried calling & it went to voicemail. I got home & texted but nothing. I tried calling & right to voicemail. I had thought we were having dinner the day after I got back but I could not reach him. I finally figured out he had blocked my number. I wrote 2 heartfelt cards & left them with a gag gift in a big bag on his door that said Maui. I didn’t hear from him & 2 days later, I went back to his place with a bag of some birthday gifts to leave at his door & was dressed wearing a very sexy Hawaiian dress. The bag was still on the outside of his door. he lives in a condo building so it looked very weird, but his dog was inside and his dog is like his child. I thought he was having a bipolar episode & I was extremely scared because I thought that he was laying in his home passed out on the floor since the dog was inside but the bag was on the door making it appear he had not been there in 2 days. I knew he would not leave the dog. This is where things started to go very bad. I panicked & needed to know he was OK. I wrote his mom on Facebook but we were not connected so I didn’t know if she got the message. I did something even worse. I used a spoof card which is a calling card that will display any number when you call. I was desperate to know he was OK. I called his best friend Who initially answered but couldn’t hear me & then hung up. I called back a few more times displaying my ex-boyfriend’s number so his friend would pick up. I also talked to the neighbor who said he would never leave the dog and it seems strange. I waited for 2 hours & eventually he got home with the best friend & his wife. They all looked surprised to see me sitting by the door. The couple left & we caught up as we had not seen each in 3 weeks. He acted weird at 1st that I was there & eventually as I was trying so hard to be flirty, we had sex. After when we took the dog for a walk, I explained how I was so confused by the bag & needed to know he was OK and to please apologize to the best friend & was crying too. He said he would explain the situation but I don’t think he ever did. He apologized for blocking me like a 15 yr old. After I had worked so hard to plan the surprise birthday parties, including a trip to New York since we never got to travel together, they didn’t get to happen. I asked if I could take him out for his birthday the next day & he said he had dinner plans but I could take him for drinks before. The next morning we sent cute normal texts, but then he sent one saying thank you for the well wishes but he put the events of the last few days together, & what I did was police activity as he believed I broke into his building. It’s a locked condo building. I didn’t break in, I don’t know how to do this. People with bipolar are paranoid, I ran out of the store where I was getting balloons blown up & talked him down. He said he didn’t want to remember his 40th birthday as the day I thought he was dead. His mom called out of concern & said she was going to come visit & the neighbor sent an email out of concern. He was quite upset. And more so, the best friend told him he was very upset that I had called with it displaying his number. I apologized & thought everything was OK and still made a nice birthday for him and we went for drinks. I brought balloons, my suitcase from Maui was filled with gifts & I made a big fuss. When I went to say goodbye, I tried to give him a quick kiss & he gave me a High five. This was upsetting as we had sex the night before. I tried again & asked if it made him uncomfortable & he said yes. I cried in the uber. 4 days later I took him for a very expensive dinner to celebrate his birthday. I got my make up done, wore a pretty dress and tried very hard. We had a very fun night, but when we went back to his house nothing happened. He said he wanted to be friends & maybe catch a concert every few months & have dinner. Maybe in June as it was end April. I mentioned my favorite band was playing in a month & he said that would be perfect. 4 days later I said I had some stuff for him because he was hardcore dieting & feeling bad about himself. He was depressed from the bipolar. We took a long walk & spent 3hours & had a nice time. I went to say goodbye & only went for the hug & he kissed me on the cheek. 6 days later we hung out again May 1st. We were only supposed to take a dog walk and I knew because of the diet I offered to bring over some burgers. He said he would make dinner and we didn’t end up taking the dog walk but Hung out for 2 hrs. When I came over He said I looked nice & was all dolled up. He looked at me with the starry eyes again. We talked about the concert that was in 3 weeks & he said he was really looking forward to it. I waited 2 days to send a thank you text for dinner. The day after that I invited him to an event & he texted back right away he was stuck at work. Because of his diet, I knew there would be nothing he could eat at work, so I offered to bring him juices. I asked if he could take a 5 minute break to get them and no response. An hour later, I sent another text saying I could bring them by & nothing. 2 days later I sent a text asking a question & nothing. Later that day I sent a text & it went to green again. It was Mother’s Day weekend so i didn’t want to think if he blocked me. I waited 5 days & thought I was being good on not texting. I then realized he blocked me again. I sent an email asking was it the juice texts? Why was he upset? Then I did something dumb again. My knee jerk reaction as I was confused was that I went to his place again. But he wasn’t there. I had a bag with a few of his things & sat there & waited. By sitting outside his door, it made his dog bark. I finally left as I still deep down hoped he would go to the concert which meant the world to me. Friday the 13th, oddly when I went to login to Facebook, it logged into his account. He doesn’t really use it but he must’ve on my iPad. I thought it was a weird karmic gift. I looked in his email & he wrote 2 guys that Monday, sorry I don’t have Facebook IM on my on my phone, a crazy girl is stalking me. But I had not gone to his house until Tuesday. So I had not done anything at that point & was very hurt. On occasion I work with people where he works & felt I had an excuse to go there. But he had left early. I told A friend that’s an ex, that I wanted to talk to him & was going to go back to his house. Any other friend would’ve said don’t do it, it’s a bad idea. But he said i think you should & I wasn’t clear headed & went. Again with a bag of his things, but he wasn’t there. I should’ve left it with a note, but I waited. Thus made his dog bark again. This was the biggest mistake as it was the straw that broke the camels back. His neighbors must’ve said that night, there was a girl here twice this week & your dog was barking. I then went to dinner with a friend that’s an ex, and when I came home, the doorman said, your ex left 2 big bags of stuff for you. I prayed it didn’t have a mean note. He gave me back all these nice things I had given him. They were things I got free from work like expensive vitamins, but he could’ve thrown it out vs returning to be spiteful, And was beyond shocked when i read it. No man has ever written me an FU letter before. He said he was going to try & give it a shot to hang out once every 2 months. But then I started texting daily, which wasn’t true week 1 of hanging, but was almost true the 2nd week we hung as friends. He claimed my texts were manipulative & demanding saying I would be at his work in 5 minutes but he misread it as I asked if he coukd take a 5 min break. He said what I was doing was beyond police activity as he claimed I broke into his bundling, but when I went there, someone was coming out of the bldg. the part of the letter that hurt was saying I had no regards for his feelings, as he was non stop making me feel awful hurting mine. And the night I took him for the fancy bday dinner, he told me he had no emotions, which I assumed was from his meds. He said I obviously wanted things to be the same & he didn’t. And it was never going to work, especially amongst his friends & family. The letter was so painful. He said he realized we were 2 different people. I understand he had reasons to not trust me as I called the best friend with the fake number & the night before this letter fiasco, I was with a. Friend & used her phone to send him a text. I guess I thought it wasn’t obvious it was me but I guess it was. After reading the letter & crying so hard to my ex I had hung out with that night, I wrote a letter back. But everyone said I couldn’t send it as it would fall on deaf ears. I waited over 3 weeks to send it & mailed it with a few of his things, but the letter was 5 typed pages & long. Some apology & some saying I would obviously never do anything to jeopardize going to the concert as it was important. But also that he failed to communicate. If he had ever once said, I don’t want to chat this often, or see u in 3 weeks at the concert, I would’ve left him alone. Since the few times we hung as friends, we had a nice time, I had no clue, if he didn’t want to see me, he wouldn’t have made me dinner & could’ve said he was busy. It was mixed signals & I didn’t know. I included some pics of us I printed as well, which I know I shouldn’t have. I didn’t hear. A week later i sent an email that was too long, asking if he got it as I sent to the wrong zip code. I asked if we could have the chance to try hanging as friends & catch uo so I could hear about the trip to Europe I didn’t get to join him on for the wedding. I thought it had been 6 weeks since we had seen each other. I was hoping he would forgive me. It felt like he forgot about me so quickly & if you could’ve seen all,the texts that were so romantic & poetic, he did greatly care for me. I had seen him twice on a dating app & knew he blocked me on the original dating app we met on, blocked me on Facebook. Another reason to not trust me was he found out I was in his Facebook. I have never done any of these cliche psycho ex things in my life! I’ve never adored anyone like this & it’s been so painful. I emailed him 3 weeks ago & no response. I did one last dumb thing. I had been wanting to apologize to the best friend for ages as I figured he never explained the night I called. Despite it was 2.5 months ago, I wrote an apology letter saying I had never dated anyone with this illness & please understand I believed his welfare was in danger, needed to know he was ok. I put it in a bag with some treats for him & his wife & dropped it where they work. This friend means the world to him & always wanted to apologize but a friend said it will look like u did it only to get to him. I had not thought about that. I’m sure I was the laughing stock last weekend. Besides that I still care for him, here is the reason I need to reach him & have no clue how as I read your desperation part of saying it’s an emergency does the opposite effect. I spent 2 yrs doing fertility treatments & was convinced my destiny was to have a baby, a dream girl. But it wasn’t until after he broke up with me, that I realized that maybe my dream was a partner. He only broke up with me because I was already dealing with a surrogacy agency & he felt a baby would arrive in a year & he wanted me to meet someone who shared my dream. But I can’t stop thinking & it’s greatly affecting my life & the biggest decision I will make in my life if I’m going to have a baby, if I had decided while we were still dating, if I had any doubts then on the kid, I don’t think he would’ve broken up with me. While all my friends said I dodged a bullet when he did break up because he’s bipolar, it didn’t feel like it. When we dated, he never showed it & I thought the meds controlled it. But after we broke up & hung as friends, I did see the up & down. It kills me that may 1 he has me over for dinner & we had a great night, & 3 days later, I sent the juice texts because I’m a very nice person & not like he thought I was trying to be manipulative to get him back. He did so many nice things for me during the ivf, I wanted to help him when he was depressed. But now that I cannot speak to him, and debating not having this baby, I am depressed & stuck in life & thus decision. I wonder if he knew if he would care as I need to know if I had said before he broke up with me any doubts on kid, if we would still be together. Sorry this was long, but how can I get him to respond? I have no clue what to say? I can’t text over your suggestions as he blocked me. But I do feel it’s urgent. Yet u say I can’t pull the desperate card. Please help.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 8, 2016 at 4:17 pm

   Hi Lisa,

   I just want to make sure. is the ivf successful and are you pregnant now?

   You need to be in therapy for your depression..

   I’m not sure if you did those because of hormones or because you are insecure and the relationship ended in honeymoon period..

   but either way, stop chasing him.. I don’t like being harsh, especially if you’re pregnant but you need to read back on your comment..

   You looked like a psycho obssessed stalking ex girlfriend which can be because of hormones but even if it’s that, you have to be aware now that you have stop being like that ok?

   Love yourself. A child or a partner is the best companion in life and a we all need core relationships but you need to learn to get love from yourself because it’s not true love if you just want to stay in the relationship just to feel loved..

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    Juliet

    July 7, 2016 at 4:19 pm

    How do you go to No Contact zone when he is not even talking to you at all since a few weeks already ?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 7, 2016 at 6:01 pm

   HI Juliet,

   no contacts purpose is for you to heal and improve. That’s the more important aspect of it. If he’s not talking to you that’s ok but you need to improve yourself in health, wealth and social aspects of your life before initiating contact with him.

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    Tara

    July 2, 2016 at 7:24 am

    Hello,
    I’m in a strange situation, where I have forgiven my boyfriend for cheating on couple occasions (he travelled to a different country for 3 weeks to see a girl he was dating prior to meeting me and he has opened few online dating sites on few different occasions) and after everything that occurred and all the compromises I’ve made, he brought up to my attention that if we ever get married, he wants a prenup. This man is 10 years older than me, was married and has a child. He didn’t tell me about his daughter till 2 months into our dating, till I cornered him when I started questioning things. He’s cheated in his previous relationship as well and his excuse was: he never loved the girl. His excuse in this relationship has been ‘peer pressure by friends’ and the fact that I disrespected him on few occasions and told him he’s got baggage, and he’s cheap (which also relates to the prenup he proposed and many other times he fought or argued with me over things I never thought would be a financial issue in a relationship)- he’s well established but doesn’t spend (wants to eat at home oftentimes, and doesn’t want to go anywhere oftentimes)- he also has argued with me over spending money on food (which I’ve never spent any money when we went out); he mentioned other girls he dated usually do half/half or offer to pay when they’ve gone out- He also has said on many occasions that I need to cook and clean for him, and since I don’t do much cooking, that will become problematic down the road (has asked me to help him clean his house and even to collect his garbage on few occasions).
    Having said everything above, I’ve dearly loved him and now after I pushed him aside, he messaged me stating that he’s giving me some breathing space and he’s not trying to get rid of me. He’s still on the dating app although he claims he’s not active.
    We’ve spent a great amount of time together in the last 15 months (met almost every day) and he has done certain things (cooking) that he hasn’t done for his ex wife.
    Please advise on how I could make him come after me (may sound foolish, but it’s hard to get over a 15 months relationship which looks more like a 4 year relationship due to the time we spent together), and hope he’s changed and has made some compromises.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 4, 2016 at 1:33 pm

   Hi Tara,

   stop chasing him and prepare to lose him.. if you really want the proper person to stay, you have to be firm on what your standards are.. if he really loves you he will change, if not,.let him go so the right person will.come and stay

17. 

    I want another shot

    June 29, 2016 at 4:44 pm

    Hello. First of id like to say i really appreciate this article; it has helped a lot! I especially like that people are able to write down their personal experiences and get theyre issues answered.

    Heres my story
    My ex and i dated about 5 years ago we were teens (16- 18)and REALLY in love, but looking back maybe it wasnt healthiest of relationships. I say that because it was one of those relationships where two people were dependent on each other. Anyway to say the least, i broke his heart because i lied to him about a lot of things(guys dated etc), and when i told him the truth he was over me.The break up was a disater. I was a clingy, begging mess… However many times he’d take me back, say i love you, and broke up a few days later. This lasted for
    maybe 2.5 months after our initial break up.

    5 years later im still in love with him… Yes ive moved on and dated but ive never really let go. Out of the blue i got a message on fb daying he requested to message (b/ we are friends).He texted me last month just to catch up and suggested that maybe we could be friends. I was way too optimistic about this, and i feel like i came across as too nice and to open to him. Looking back on out texts, he kept things pretty light and i was almost like an open book :/ we talked about school and our careers. The issue was that right when my ex contacted me, i was recovering from a freah break up. I saw the ex im talking about as the light at the wndnof the tunnel :/

    Toward the end of our message thread, i asked him what made him want to contact me again. He read the message, but didnt reply for several days(about 3 wks actually) i noticed because i was so embarassed, and assumed i was pushing to hard with the question. Seeing that he didnt reply, i followed up with another message saying ” nvm” and ” that was a silly question”. A few hours later he read the message and said sorry he was busy traveling for work etc. i told him that it was fine and i understood. Its been over a week since i heard from him :/ i feel embarassed b/c i maybe have cared more then he did. I guess that was silly of me. Do you think there is any way to recover from this and get him back into my good graces? Am i waisting my time? Or am i over reacting? Lol what should i do?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 1, 2016 at 8:59 am

   HI I want another shot,

   I think there is a chance, since you already started talking.. it was just not done right. So, I think you have to work on your topics first and improve yourself as well while you’re building rapport with him.

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    hannah

    June 26, 2016 at 9:15 am

    hey so i have a crush on a boy, we have known each other for 4 years but we only recently started speaking about a month ago. he had a girlfriend for about a year but 3-4 months ago they broke up. a month ago we started speaking and he was being really flirty, we texted everyday probably for about 3weeks and he was always saying how pretty he thought i was and stuff like that, his friends always told me that he spoke about me but for the past week he hasn’t been replying to any of my messages and he has been reading them all so i constantly message him hoping he will reply but he doesnt so i now feel so clingy and i think thats the reason he doesnt like me anymore, it was my birthday 3 days ago and all he said was HB and he made his friend say it over text, how do i make him like me again (we have a class together tomorrow at school) we are both in year 10 and both 16. thankyou! xx

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   June 28, 2016 at 12:28 pm

   HI Hannah

   are you in active limited no contact now?

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    Evet

    June 24, 2016 at 1:18 pm

    Hi Cris.
    I am a boyfroend for two years s and a half month. We’ve been into ups and downs and we always tried to fix things. Recentkly we fight because I complained that there are times that he just dont feel like texting me. He told me that I Am the reason why he is losing his friends. Yes I admit it that before i asked him to distant himself for a while with the girl I got jealous with, yet when we talked aboit that that he dont need to do that anymore i mean it. Yet recently he told me that he’s suffocated. What should I do? I knew that I gave him the freedom to be friends with the girl again but still an issue. Am i at fault? I Dont know what to do. Pleade give me an advice. Thank you. I dont wanna lose him

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    SARA

    June 17, 2016 at 7:39 pm

    I have been seeing a married man for a year now. In the beginning things were great! But in November 2015 his wife found out about us and they instantly started to go to marriage counseling. At things were wierd between us and i asked him if he wanted to still see me…well its present and we have still been seeing each other the whole time and they are still going to marriage counseling. They are about to close on a house in july. so he is still with his wife : ( Recently all him and i do is fight. I am constanlty wanting to be with him and want him to leave his wife for me. Which i shouldnt do but I do love him! Well we are fighting alot now b/c i hardly get to see him and he has been trying to get things ready for his new and old home before the closings. And with her finding out we cant do anything as much as we used to b/c she tracks him with his phone gps. I really want to be with him and im always telling him i love him and i miss him. I feel lately he just doesn’t seem interested in me. I asked him and he said if he wasnt he would have been gone by now and that he does love me. Just seems like it doesnt though not sure if its b/c of the house and then us fighting all the time. But i have issues with him sleeeping with his wife and yes i know she is his wife but i asked him “do you want to have sex with her?” and he said “no i dont!” I said then why do you continue and he responses with b/c i married her! I just dont get it! he is going to marriage couseling but he is still seeing me! I asked him if he is happy or settling and he said settling. I just feel he stays married b/c of the history they have and bc he is used to her and finances. I might be wrong….i want to have a chance with him and i feel im losing him! Please help me! Id do anything for this man! How do i get him to chase me again? pursue me again? He comes by my house every morning before work just to see me so no its not about sex! He just wants to see me and kiss me and hold me! I do work with this man so i do see him off and on during the day at work but after work i cant talk to him b/c his wife made him block me so he has been sneaking around that. unblocks me during the day but then blocks me in evening….really sucks b/c he is my best friend and i miss just talking to him like i used to before she found out. What can i do to win his heart?

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   SARA

   June 20, 2016 at 12:18 pm

   So do you think he will ever leave her for me? i spent time with him this weekend and he were just laying there and i asked him what he was thinking and he said you perfect. I said no one is perfect and then later i asked him again why he was looking at me and he said bc you are really amazing and i love looking at ur beautiful eyes and smile and i wish we would have met before.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   June 21, 2016 at 8:05 pm

   nope.. that’s why I said you should leave him.. He’s being consistent on just using you.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   June 18, 2016 at 11:21 am

   Hi Sara,

   leave him. The only time we advice yo hold on to this kind of relationship is if it’s clear that he’s gettung divorced or is already in the process of divorce.. Right now, you’re the one that’s losing here.. you’re losing your self respect and him losing it for you because basically he’s just keeping you for the feeling of desire