How To Get A Long Distance Relationship Ex Boyfriend Back

5,236 thoughts on “The Complete Guide To Getting An Ex Boyfriend Back In A Long Distance Relationship”

Krystal

March 15, 2016 at 12:04 am

Hi Amor/Chris, my situation about how my boyfriend broke up with me is personal and I have a few questions to ask but I don’t know the e-mail address to talk to one of you about…

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 15, 2016 at 1:53 pm

Hi Krystal,

You can send your story to [email protected] and our other team member, Ms. Cheese will respond to you.

Kasey

March 14, 2016 at 7:11 am

Hi Chris/Amor!

My boyfriend of 3 years (2 years physical & 1 year long-distance) broke up with me and he blocked me on almost EVERY social media except for one messaging application.

I have contacted his family for a bit of help. I was not sure how to cope with the break-up so I talked to two of his close relatives that talk to him often (3 days after the break up). I began the NC rule and stopped talking to both of his relatives which was on March 12 . The very next day (March 13) he texted me and asked if I was doing ok. I then broke the NC rule and replied to him saying, I missed him and love him. I He said “I love you” back but he was not looking forward to getting back together since he said it wasn’t a wise decision to just come running back together. He said he wanted space to focus and concentrate on his life and his job and he told me to do the same. I asked why does he have to cut the ones he loves out of his life and he replied he is not since he is still talking and communicating with me.

I decided that it was after that message that I needed to restart the NC rule all over again today (March 14). Then, in the middle of the day, he texts “I miss you”. I am trying to figure out whether I should stick to the NC rule or text him back. Our relationship was VERY sensitive and I feel as if I do not reply, I am telling him I am getting over him and I’m done with trying to fix things.

I want to know whether or not I should break the NC rule since I do not want to make him think I do not care about him. Please HELP!

Kasey

March 19, 2016 at 7:22 am

And by third day, I mean this has been the third day since I last replied to him saying I want to try to work things out again, and if he does not want to, I would respect his decision.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 20, 2016 at 3:55 am

Yes, next step now is nc.. We don’t know if he really just wants to move on or he’s just pissed or hurt.. So, focus on nc for now..
Kasey

March 19, 2016 at 7:18 am

Hi Amor!

Thank you for getting back to me and suggesting what I should reply to him.
I replied to him with what you suggested, and he just read the message and did not reply. This is the third day (March 19) and I feel as if there’s nothing I should do besides being firm with NC. Do you think he has given up and is trying to cut connections because he is sure he does not want to try to work things out anymore? I feel like he dealt with too much emotional stress from me and finally gave up on me.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 15, 2016 at 11:59 am

HI Kasey,

YOu can ask him, if you really miss me, why are we making things complicated? If you really don’t want to be in a relationship with me, I understand that you still have feelings but I have feelings too.. I’m willing to try this again one more time but if you really decide not too, I would respect that.

If he says he really doesn’t want a relationship, then be firm with nc, let him think you are moving on because you already did your part, he should prove that he really wants to get back and not just string you along. If he pleads to get back with you during nc, then you can break nc..

Tessa

March 13, 2016 at 2:04 am

Hi,
My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for nearly a year, and have been dating for a year and a half. We had been doing very well with the distance, calling each other every day, seeing each other maybe once every two months. He has always been very loving and attentive, and we were making plans to move in together in a couple of years. Last week he called me out of the blue and said he wanted to break up because he was interested in a girl who lives in his town. He was even crying when he called to tell me. I talked to his best friend and he told me that this girl looks and acts a lot like me. He also said that the new girlfriend likes him as well, and kissed him right after she and my ex started dating. His friend told him, but my ex wanted to give her a second chance, even though he and I thought being faithful was very important in a relationship. I think she’s a rebound, and I’m worried that she’s going to cheat on him again and hurt him. I’ve started no contact, even though said he wanted to stay friends, and I’m flying to his town next month to visit some friends. I am nearly positive that he still loves me, and our relationship was healthier and more loving than any “normal” relationships I’ve had before. Should I try to meet with him when I’m there, and how can I make him realize how good we are together despite the distance?

Tessa

March 21, 2016 at 11:50 pm

Hi Amor, Yes, she cheated on him but he didn’t break up with her. After the end of nc, I have about 2 weeks before I go there.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 28, 2016 at 1:31 pm

That’s good. You can initiate contact with him if you want so that you have already built rapport before meeting up with him. You know even if you’re far away, if he’s happier being with you, it won’t matter if the other girl is near.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 13, 2016 at 7:48 am

Hi Tessa,
did you mean the other girl cheated on him? If so, you have a greater chance of getting him back.. How many days do you have left after nc before going there?

Ronna

March 12, 2016 at 4:29 am

Hi! I was studied in the UK and met my ex in my last year of degree and the first year of his one. We have been together for a year while we were in the uni and started the long distance relationship about a year and a half after I returned to Asia. Things went pretty well even we were in the long distance. He went to my country to visit me during his summer holiday but I was in the army kind of training of my own country and only able to hang out with him during the weekends. We were still lovey dovey during it tho. Last christmas I quitted my job because of some personal reasons and stayed in the uk for 3 weeks with him to spend our christmas times. We were so confident about our relationship. Until last month, he started to keep distance towards me. I asked my BFF to take care of him for me while I left the U.K, unfortunately they were being too close and my ex starts to have feelings toward my BFF since last month. I didn’t know it until he said he wanted to break up with me few days ago. My BFF told my ex that I kissed a guy (nothing more than that plus I didn’t like me) while I was in the training. My ex was so upset about it and he agrees that he mentally cheated on me as well because he has feelings over my BFF and started to compare me to her. We broke up peacefully cause he said he felt like our love fade plus we both cheated. And he will forgive me because he understands I was in my very tough times. We both decide to stay as best friends and he encourages me to move on as well.
The questions I wanted to ask do we still have chance to get back? My BFF is still keep in contact with him even she is not even interested in him! I wanted to get back to him because i still think the mistakes we made were because we miss each other too much and we turn out used the wrong way to satisfy our need. Me and him could still chat properly and happily after we broke up via Skype. But he mentioned that both of us should not have a hope to get back because it may ruin the friendship between us.
Me and him are both newbies to love, I would like to know any advices I can do to get back with him? We had so many good memories and code words between us. Would it help in the future? Or my case is a bit too hard to solve?
Thank you for reading this long comments and sorry if my english is not good enough to describe the situation.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 12, 2016 at 1:47 pm

Hi Ronna,

your English is good. basically, you have to build attraction, I think you already have rapport but you need to be more attractive for him and also to maintain good communication… don’t bring up getting back together.. just be there but not always, have your own life and share it with him… listen to his interests and be his go to girl about it… it’s like being his best friend but being the ungettable girl as well

Sheresa

March 11, 2016 at 12:58 pm

Hello amor. I hope I get a response from you.
I have all my eyes out on your site for 4 hours now reading and reflecting but I’m still quite unsure of how will mine work?

First of I met my ex boyfriend through a social video chat app. There things went so crazy well. After 2 months I flew back to our country only to see him for 4 days. Things were so good and I was so sure about my feelings towards him. I was madly inlove. Then after a month things change. His true colors came out. When he gets angry he’s really ANGRY! Everytime we had a fight he always mention about breaking up with me. I thought because he still a baggage of his past of 7 years that somehow found someone new and got pregnant on an LDR status too. But don’t get me wrong their relationship was also the same as what we’re experiencing. So anyway when he have to argue something he usually just didnt want to talk to me. But I have my own problem too and principle. I don’t wanna go to bed or let the day ends not resolving things or with a broken heart. So every time he does that he really does that, he plays games watch something or chatting with others or SLEEP and during those periods I ALWAYS send him messages hey talk to me why are u like this dont u love me blah blah and I CRY A LOT. And he sees that when he comes back to talk to me. My thought was I couldn’t sleep with thus situation how could he. Am I not worthy to him?
So anyway that ex gf issue got settled. Settled meaning I found out that they were still in contact that he still missed her esp when he gets drunk. Then the ex gf and me got the chance to okay with each other and we’re totally friends now. She’s the one I always run too whenever we fight and broke up because we have the same experience as his lovers.
Last year I went to see him for like 4 times already. The 3rd one was because he broke up and made up his decision. But then one man after i went there the 4th time. Things went off and we fought more often than before. Eventually he broke up with me noting he didn’t want any commitment at all anymore. I begged and chased for 3months i felt like there were other women involved. WOMEN. Though online and one or two in person. But yes he’s true when he said he didn’t want any commitment. He was just playing games around. Being a bachelor. Yes! Ladies where are u at? Then in that 3 months of chasing him I acted non stop of messaging him called the members of his family just to be able to talk to him bec. He blocked and unblocked me when I bugged him so much. Pointing out to him his flirting with girls that didn’t admit it that he was just having fun and no other women. Hacking his accts with the help of his siblings. I was furious and crazy and cried like a toddler even he sees and hears that often. I was in so much pain. Feeling betrayed and lost. I tortured myself. I just can’t handle myself. We talk and Not. He contacted when he felt like to or wanted to have skype sex. He was pushing and pulling me. Giving me hopes but show no good progress of him. Then I stopped.
I started to be active on social media. Get new friends and talk and laugh. Then I gradually dont feel to contact him anymore he seemed to chased a little and i neutrally answered until I met someone online that has the same experience with me and clicked but I know it was just for friends but bec of him I get to to do the NC for a week? He could see me talking to him too and tried to call me many times but my phone and skype had been on a busy mode.

Then there. HE WAS ANGRY. CALLED ME NAMES. FLIRT. VULNERABLE. EASY TO GET and even fought that guy childishly. CHILDISHLY.

Anyway i turned up with him again. He wanted me to spend christmas with him in spite of my financial issues and job issues he insisted i should be there because that’s his only hold back on me. I tried to say I cant but he got ANGRY and didn’ttalk to me for 2 days till I called his mom. We talked. We fight. Ok. I went there. Yes we were happy.

Then during that stay I found out what he has been up to for those 3 months of breaking up with me. He was having women on his skype. Flirting and even doing cyber sex. And even way back before trying to contact with other women. But NOT LIKE what I saw and learned during those 3 horrible months.

We fought for the first time in person for 3 straight nights and I even broke his phone. His family witnessed our fight. But we eventually made up.

After a month, we foght back again over silly things him playing games not paying attention to me on skype and u know he’s got ANGER issues and he’s ‘lets break up” “lets stop. I dont love u anymore. Ive made my decision” again and again wheb we fight and I got my TRUST ISSUES AND EMOTIONAL ISSUES. Tantrums i must say. I hurt myself. Break and throw things. Every fight. But it always ended up him pursuing me back. Our emotions when we fight have always been heightened already. In this period I’ve already transferred my job in our country already 3 hours by land away from him already. But still it went like that.

I got here since feb 1 (he knows that) and have surprised visited him for 2 times with 5 to 6 days stay at his home.

But during those 2 times we have always ended it with a fight. Me feeling unsecured and unwanted with relationship already and ask him by acting childish ‘u love me? U love me already? U wont leave me already? With smiles and just basically teasing him. But got irritated 4 times out of 6 tease.

We fought SUPER DOOPER.and of course me crying my heart out with kind of nagging telling him what ha had done tome before and his promises that he isnt paying attention with it anymore. I felt like the effort wasnt enough maybe because I have always put effort too much and have showed hime how much i really do love him. On the first visit that we fought there this was the time he threw 3 fists on my left thigh, even on my arm and threatened to slap my face. And it happened worse on the second time him saying I DONT WANT THIS ANYMORE balh blah same words he tells me during LDR. But as usual we ended making up and talk what to dos and what not to do next.

But on the last time the 2nd visit just 3 days ago. We had a fight for 2 straight days he even ended locking me from the outside of the bedroom and I was all up on the stairs til morning. Usually this happened when I wanted to talk to him and he just didn’t want to and went to sleep when we argued something. Morning came and I JUST BURSTED OUT. MY FIRST TIME TO SHOUT AT HIM. SCREAMING. CRYING. EVEN TRYING TK EXPLAIN MY SIDE until his mom was there and i just didn’t care about anymore. I just care about my feelings. He physically hurt me maybe because I was too pushy nagger and cryingggg out loud.

Ok. But then we ended up talking in calm stated. He tried to talk to me the resolutions right before I would go back to my work 3 hours away. Since then i have no words from him not even a call. I messaged him but he blocked me asking whats happenening and why’s? ?but i still pushed through his gmail. Even ask some friends but he mentioned to them “W already broke up so she must not care anymore” “i didnt talk to her since she left” “we’re nit okay”. I WAS SO CONFUSED and here we fo again if im at afar. Until 3 pm today he messaged stating “IM SORRY IF I MAKE U HOPE WITH OUR LAST TALK I JUST DIDNT KNOWNWHAT TO DO SO UCOULD GO HOME FIRST. LETS NOT TALK ANYMORE. EVERYTHINH HAS BEEN SO MESSED UP ALREADY. ME GETTING FRUSTRATED AND U GEETING SO EMOTION WITH WHAT I COULDNT GIVE YOU. just be strong. I don’t know what’s gonna happen. Go. Be happym talk to someone. Etc. I just cant talk to u anymore. And i responded with why o why’s and explaining him things and please talk to me something…i cried so much. Fell asleep. Decided to search and read articles about it because i just lost my HOPE ALREADY of him back, blaming myself and him too and then I GOT TO SEE YOUR SITE. THIS.

Question; based on this so long story that ive written would you think there’s a chance of getting him back when I do the NC? DO U THINK HE WOULD STILL WANT ME KNOWING OUR LATEST MEMORIES were full of fighting and violence have done already? I love him. And i still believe in him. I know he has got personal issues as human. As it molded him when he was growing up. He’s turning 28 now and I’m 26 turning 27 in November. So much has I invested and chances with this relationship. I love him with all my heart. Only he has the power of me loving someone like this.

I get now my mistakes. So is it too late to go with the NC? Or this has already ended up with so little chances of him loving missing and wantinf me back in his life? :'(

SORRY FOR THIS LONGGGGGGGGGG STORY. :'(

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 12, 2016 at 8:44 am

Hi Sheresa,

It’s ok.. I hope writing it was like a therapy for you..
To be honesy, you shouldn’t go back to him.. It’s a very toxic relationship.. You basically kept the relationship going because you chose to stay blindly…

Gloria

March 10, 2016 at 9:32 pm

Hi Chris/Amor! How are you? Hope you are doing well. I first would like to say that your website is so great that you are sharing post-breakup situations and strategies for helping millions of women going through the same or similar troubles. I’ve been reading your posts for a month and i am not even close to finish half of them! (thanks for sharing that much!). I know you heard thousands of them, but here is my story:
My ex boyfriend and I dated for 6 months and it has been 2 months since the breakup. I am generally a very picky person and was not really looking for a relationship then. But, with this guy, I clicked at the very first second we met! So, with a little bit of his push, we started a long distance relationship. The first 5 months were plain amazing, though we had a time difference (he was literally living on the other side of the world!), but we both somehow made sacrifices to make it work. We planned trips, but never happened. Because we were so busy at work that we could not even get a holiday leave. After some time, he started to think moving here, my town, to be with me. He even got a really good job offer here and was planning to move this summer. Guess looks so great so far, but i totally screwed it.
I have been so stressed because of my work during the whole relationship. Adding the long distance problems, i totally freaked out! I have been only complaining about work and my life during the last month of the relationship. He offered his help a lot of times, but since there was nothing he could do, it got worse. He started talking to me less and i said that we should break up SO MANY TIMES. At the end, he agreed to break up but he said we should keep being in contact. I said no, we cannot be friends and the next day, i texted him to ask his open address to send his gift that i bought for him (yes pretty lame). He said it would be much more meaningful to give the present to him when he finally comes here so insisted not giving me his address. Anyway, he texted me some days after then that he arrived to a new city so he could not text me (which i did not respond), then texted me again about something else (again no respond from me). Then after some days, i texted him something that (insert something cute and a bit romantic here) reminded me of him. He texted back something neutral yet not so bad after days. Then i finally told him that i still love him and miss him and asked whether he thinks we could be together again some day in the future. He said he doesn’t know and doesn’t want a relationship like that anymore and if something happens, it could be only when he moves here. I told him i agree with him that i don’t want any long distance relationship based on texting and skyping and asked him but what we will do until then. He said we have to wait. Then we did not talk until I put a profile picture with my male best friend. I think he got a bit jealous and texted me. We talked for hours, no romance, but still felt like the old times. After that, i sent him some funny texts again which took him to respond for a day or two. So at the end, i asked him if there is something wrong because I thought we were on good terms. He said there is nothing wrong, he just saw my text then (after 2 days, though he was online all the time) and he just had other concerns and had to deal with them etc (he was pretty cold and dry btw). Anway, it has been 3 weeks since we last talked and he was online ALL THE TIME, yet not texting me anything. What do you think he is thinking right now? Do you think he will initiate more intimate contact with me when he is about to come here (which i do not appreciate at all)? And what can I do about it?
P.S.: Sorry for any possible mistakes in my writing, yet i am not a native.
P.P.S.: I read your story about how you met your wife Chris, and i think it is really cute! (have to admit there, that i found it a bit close to the beginning of my last relationship!)

Gloria

March 11, 2016 at 10:25 am

Hi Amor, thank you for your answer! Yes it has been 3 weeks of nc and i think i will make it longer than 30 days, because i don’t really feel like talking to him soon. I think we were on good terms, because our breakup was not bad at all. Yet, whenever i tried to open up a friendly talk, he just seemed not interested (neutral answers). Do you think i should try reaching out to him again, maybe after finishing 45 days? Oh and a really good thing is about to happen in my life! Do you think it is a good way to open up a conversation to share the news?
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 11, 2016 at 12:35 pm

Yes, I think you should reach out after 45 days and use that recent event as a topic
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 11, 2016 at 1:33 am

Hi Gloria,

your English js great!Was this 3 weeks your nc or you just didin’t talk at all?

Serena

March 9, 2016 at 11:31 am

Hello,

My ex is a sailor from another continent we had been together for a year. It was all perfect even it was long distance, we made the plan of me moving to his country to start a life together.

I started getting ready for the move. He was very supportive in the beginning, then he suddenly turnt cold and distant 2 months ago. I tried to talk to him, but he shut himself completely. I got crazy a few times trying to find out the truth. At the end he finally told me he couldn’t do it.

He continued to stay cold and distant, and at one point, he broke up with me saying he cheated on me on the ship, but the next day he told me he he lied to drive me away. when i asked him if he still loved me, his answer was I don’t know.

I didn’t talk to him for 5 days after, and I came telling him it’s ok we take it slow and don’t making any serious plan. He still remained distant and wouldn’t make a plan of our next meeting together.

2 days ago we had a drama because i suspected that he had someone else and he told me he had been talking with several girls. He got mad at me at first reminding me we are still broken up and saying this will be our last conversation, and as we talked, he calmed down, at the end he said, we can’t stop this after all we had, we will still talk and asked me not to stop talking to him.

so my question is, I have the book, but should i go ahead with the no contact for 30 days with this case because he asked me not to stop talking to him?

Serena

March 13, 2016 at 10:02 am

Hello again, Amor,

I have started the NC. On day 3, he sent me a message, asking me “how are you doing?” which of course I ignored. I then posted on Facebook 2 nights in a row during the weekend pics of me dressing nice and ready to go out to have fun (just selfies in front of the mirror). And today, on day 5, he sent me this message,

“Are you doing ok? Take care.
Be careful and dont do any silly mistakes, or jump into the arms of who u find first.
I do care you to be ok, to be fine!
Alright!”

He has always been a jealous boyfriend (double standard kind). Should I respond to this message telling him I was only going out with girls and doing no funny business, or should I just continue to ignore him?

Thanks again for your help.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 14, 2016 at 5:30 am

nope! continue to ignore him 🙂
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 9, 2016 at 7:59 pm

Hi Serena,

yes, I think you should still do it.. because I don’t think things will get better by staying in touch with him now..

Elena

March 8, 2016 at 3:46 pm

Okay thank you. What if during this one more week of no contact he decides to message me. Should I still not answer him?

Elena

March 9, 2016 at 6:03 pm

Okay. Thanks!
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 9, 2016 at 10:59 am

you can answer, since you’re origunal plan was only 21 days

Lana

March 7, 2016 at 9:17 pm

Hi,
my boyfriend and I broke up last week. We were in a LDR for 6 months. We met in his home country, but we are both living on different continents.
We haven’t seen each other in these 6 months but always said were gonna see each other now for spring break. Unfortunately it didn’t work out (we wanted to meet somewhere). Since i already saved all the money I told him I could go visit him. He didn’t reply and after I asked him again he said he would want me to come but he wasn’t sure if it all worked out. that’s when I told him the first time that for me, either we see each other now, or its over. Because so far, that was the only opportunity to see each other.
He told me it was hard for him and that he missed me and that we have to think about it if it makes sense to see each other now for a couple days and then maybe again in 6 months.
After some messages we both decided we couldn’t go on like this.
He said he still likes me so much and that he tried it but he can’t be so far away from me. and that were constantly struggling and its not a good relationship. I agree because i really made an effort and sacrifices to see him, but I felt like he never really did lately.
He said he still cares a lot about me and he wants me to stay in his life and maybe well find us together some day. I said i also wanna stay in touch with him but I needed time to get over all this. That was the last message I sent.
I really miss him now and don’t wanna lose him and i have to think about him all the time! I just don’t know what to do! Should I tell him how I feel? Or ask him to talk about this in person via Skype? Or should I use the NC rule and wait until he contacts me?

lena

April 21, 2016 at 12:36 pm

okay thank you.
I just read the articles about the unbeatable girl and using male psychology to get your ex back. I was wondering how to text my ex now? Right now I’m on day 7 after NC and everything’s going well. I followed the instructions from this website and so far i always got very positive responses and he always made me compliments and i can see in the way he’s writing that he still cares about me. Anyway, i also implied sometimes that i also still care about him and i was wondering if that’s right? Since I’m always the one that starts the conversation (and ends it) and i think he can see that I’m trying. Because before he was chasing me for more than half a year and i was always very cold to him. I guess I’m just wondering if i should keep going how I’m texting him right now, being sweet and making him compliments sometimes (because he does too), or should i try to become a little bit (cold) like i used to be to make him chase me again?
Also the problem here is, that I’m quite sure we won’t get back together unless he’s coming to my country in January 2017 which is still so much time!
Thank you so much for all the help! I know I’m asking way too many questions.
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 23, 2016 at 4:53 am

Hi Lena,

now that makes everything different.. if the timeline is on January 17, then you just maintain being friendly and at the same time being busy.. you don’t have to be really cold but don’t always be available.. take 2 days rest from texting or in those 2 days don’t text much.. it’s better if you move to calls to in the coming days.
Lena

April 17, 2016 at 10:39 am

Hello Amor,
so I finished 30 days of NC and sent him a text. His response was very positive. Unfortunately I didn’t keep the conversation going and just answered on his text without asking him a question to keep the conversation going. So he hasn’t answered me. Does that mean I have to do one week of NC until I contact him again or can I just wait one day until I reach out to him again?
I think he was happy to hear from me and he also contacted me twice during NC. So I thought maybe it’s enough to just wait a day and ask him how he’s doing and try to engage him in a light conversation?
Also I was wondering in general what I would say if he asked me if I was seeing someone? And can I ask him at some point if he is seeing someone? If yes, when?
Thanks a lot!
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 18, 2016 at 9:17 am

you don’t have to restart nc.. if he asks you, then tell the truth.. you’re not seeing somebody right? ask him back if he asks it.. but if not, ask him when he’s in a ver good modod
lena

March 23, 2016 at 3:17 pm

Thanks for your advice!
I talked to him & he told me he didn’t have someone else & that he hopes I trust him. He was sad that I feel that way but he doesn’t blame me because it looks bad & he didn’t think about it.
He said he couldn’t be with someone else because the way he likes me is not normal & that I have no idea.
I told him that I never wanted it to end that way, that I want to believe him and I always trusted him & still care a lot about him & miss him so much but he didn’t want me to go visit him.
He said it’s not that. That we talked about this & the future & we both agreed it doesn’t make sense to see each other now if we don’t know when we’ll see each other after that. He thinks living like that isn’t good & healthy for either of us. He said we have different paths (right now), we don’t know each other long enough to be thinking about a life together. For him, we need to live close to each other to see if we have a future together but we can’t do that right now & he hates the fact that we can’t. He told me he cares about me too & misses me so much but this situation isn’t favorable for either of us right now. He thinks we have to wait and see what time has for us, & that maybe we will meet again in a different situation & will be able to continue this.
I agreed & told him I still think it’s the right decision even though it was super hard for me & I think that it’s sad because if we wouldn’t live so far from each other it might’ve worked out between us but maybe we aren’t meant to be together. He said its super hard for him too & that I won’t get rid of him that easy & he’ll still talk to me. He thinks it would’ve worked out perfectly & that maybe we are meant to be together.

At this point I’m just so confused. I do believe him that he isn’t with someone else but I can imagine that they’re having an affair or something (he’s a man after all). Because I still don’t understand why he wanted to meet up with me for spring break but when I said I could come visit him he totally blocked.
I don’t know what to think about all this. I don’t know why he still raises my hopes & if he even means it or if he just says that to make it easier for me & not hurt me too much. He always said before this even started between us, that he wanted to go to my country for a year in January 2017. So right now I’m wondering if he’s actually considering it?
Either way, I just don’t know where it leaves us right now.
I am definitively not texting him for now (maybe doing NC for 30 days), because even though I really miss talking to him it still hurts when I’m actually texting with him because everything seems normal because he makes me compliments and all that.
What do you think about that? Is he just giving me mixed signals? And do you think theres a chance for us to get back together?
I’m sorry for the long text and thank you so mch for your help, I really appreciate it!
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 31, 2016 at 11:11 am

Sorry for the late reply Lana. Only time will tell if he is true to his words because if he is he will show it.
Lena

March 22, 2016 at 8:00 pm

Thanks a lot for your advice!
So I asked him why he made it seem like it was so hard for him to end this between us when he already had someone else. He replied immediately saying that it was really hard for him and that he doesn’t have someone else and why I would think that. I sent him the screenshot of the picture and he said he thought i was gonna say something about that and that its not what it looks like. he said she likes him but he doesn’t and they’re just friends. I didn’t answer and half an hour later he texted me “I really hope you trust me here…the way I like you is not normal! You have no idea”
I was so confused at the time and answered the next day why he said these things when he didn’t even want me to go visit him. He said he liked me too much to be with someone else and that its not that. I kinda got mad at him (I know i shouldn’t have) and said what it is then? I told him about the comment and the comments she made on his picture and that i knew there was something going on between them (maybe he cheated on me?) and that i know it doesn’t matter anymore but i just wanna know the truth. Once again he said he already told me and he feels sad that i feel like this. he said he doesn’t blame me because it looks bad and he didn’t think about it but its not what I’m thinking. I told him that i always trusted him and that i want to believe him and that i just don’t think he’s honest with me and that i never wanted it to end that way because i still care about him and like him so much and that i missed talking to him. And that i just don’t understand how all this could happen when he always claims he likes me so much.
He send me a long text saying that we already talked about this and i agreed with it. that this is a complicated situation and it doesn’t make sense to see each other now, when we don’t know when we’re gonna see each other after that. That we talked about the future and that he thinks living like that isn’t good and healthy for either of us. He said we have different paths (right now) and we don’t know each other long enough to be thinking about a life together. And that we need to live close to each other to see if we have a future together but we can’t do that right now. He said trust me, i hate the fact that we can’t! And that he cares about me too and misses me so much! but that this situation isn’t favorable for either of us right now. He said he thinks we have to wait and see what time has for us and maybe we will meet again in a different situation and we will be able to continue this.
I told him that I still agree and think it was the right decision even though it was super hard and that I just wanted to get answers for closure and that I’ll miss him calling me by his nickname.
He answered that he knew it was really hard for me and that it was partly his fault and that he’s sorry and he didn’t mean to do that but that its super hard for him too. And that he’ll always call me by the nickname he gave me and that I won’t get rid of him that easy and he’ll still talk to me.
I just told him that I think its kinda sad because maybe it would’ve worked out between us, if we wouldn’t live so far away from each other, but maybe we’re not meant to be together. He said he thinks it would’ve worked out perfectly and that maybe we are. And then he made a compliment on my profile picture and how beautiful I look. I didn’t reply because it was too hard for me..
I just don’t know what to do now. I do believe him that he likes me so much and that he isn’t with someone else but I sometimes think he has an affair with that girl (he’s a man after all). But I don’t understand why he says all these things? Does he mean it or does he just says that to not hurt me so much?
Can you please tell me what to think about it? I am not going to talk to him for a while to clear my head and to focus on myself. Even though its really hard sometimes.
Lena

March 17, 2016 at 1:28 pm

Hey Amor,
so the situation has changed a lot, as I’ve discovered a picture on instagram yesterday showing him with another girl that was posted in FEBRUARY! (She posted it thats why I havent seen it earlier). She already left a comment on my ex picture in december and i kinda got worried about it but didn’t think about much longer. So this new picture is showing them together, very close at a gala (that he never told me he was going to). The picture itself isn’t too obvious but one person commented “best couple ever”. I was so mad and hurt when I saw it, since we were still together in February and everything between us went well (as i thought). But that kinda explains why he didn’t make an effort at the end of our relationship and didn’t want me to visit him. I seriously dont know what to do now! We ended the relationship saying we still care a lot about each other and like each other very much and wanna stay in touch. I just don’t understand! I don’t think he could do something like that to me! I trusted him!
I obvisoulsy don’t want him back now, I just wanna know if I should confront him and tell him that I know? I just wanna tell him how bad i feel and how mad i am! Should i do so? Many friends told me I should just leave it. But I wanna know whats going on! I just don’t understand how he could be so sneaky.
Please help me!
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 17, 2016 at 3:06 pm

Hi Lena,

Tell him when you’re not angry.. for closure.. but do it when you’re not emotional
Lena

March 15, 2016 at 3:55 pm

Hey Amor, thanks a lot for your advice. Ive been doing NC for 13 days now and he still hasn’t try to contact me yet, even though I’ve been trying to make him jealous by posting pictures of me going out with friends on social media. Should I continue NC? And also, how long should I do that? I originally planned 30 days, I’m just scared he already forgot about me!
Thanks a lot for your help!
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 15, 2016 at 4:03 pm

Yes, you should still continue. It’s better if you finish the 30 days rather than end it prematurely.
Lena

March 9, 2016 at 12:41 pm

Thank you for your reply!
I’m just worried that he won’t contact me because I was sending the last message in our last convo saying that I also wanna stay in touch with him but that I need time to get over it. What if he thinks I’m not over it yet and need more time and that I’ll contact him once I’m ready?
Sorry for all the questions!
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 9, 2016 at 8:09 pm

It’s okay!! That’s a good question… well, if he thinks you’re still not over him, you have to make it seem you are when you do bc or when you continue to talk to himm…that’s why you can’t ask to get back together or talk about feelings
Lena

March 8, 2016 at 4:25 pm

He said he was wondering what would come after. If we’d see each other now for like 10 day and then he’d be another six month without me.
Last Wednesday, when we broke up. I kinda feel like I wanna talk to him about it in person because I hate to do all this via message and I also feel like he’s contradicting himself.
I just really don’t know what to do!
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 9, 2016 at 11:48 am

but that’s how it really is, unless he can make a way so you can see each other more… if he contacts you within this week, talk.. If not, continue nc
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 8, 2016 at 3:08 pm

HI,

Why didn’t he want you to come if it’s the only time in the year you’ll see each other? When did you last talked?

Lexa

March 7, 2016 at 5:41 pm

Hi, I’m looking for some advice..Sorry It’s a bit long..
I’ve known my boyfriend for 8 years, the first 5 just as acquaintances, 1 year unofficially together, another year officially, and then 9 months in a military LDR. I had gotten back from a week long trip to see him (which he had asked me extend from my planned 4 day one), and our communication became sparse which worried me because things have been so well between us, but I figured he was taking time for himself after the trip and catching up on work. After a week of barely any talking, I finally asked if he was okay, to which he told me he’d been thinking about if we should continue a reltionship like this, or take a break. I tried to reassure him but our convo didn’t go anywhere and he went to sleep. I sent texts almost everyday after that trying to figure out what was exactly going on, and after a week he finally told me he’d call that night. He told me he really wanted to focus on work right now, and how an LDR still made him worry (he was never a huge fan of it in the first place, but he changed his mind when he went to bootcamp in the beginning of his military path because he realized how much he cared about me). I was a mess because this completely caught me off guard and I care about him so much, and he asked me to still talk to him but I told him I didn’t think I could do that. If we’re on a break, I’d really prefer to have the NC rule in play to make it truly feel like one. I know this is not because he’s interested in somebody else. This will sound cliche, but he’s not that kind of guy. Especially because he’s leaving his station in a few months and he doesn’t want an LDR…But, I think I made the mistake of texting him after we had that phone call 2 nights ago, but I just felt like I had to because I didn’t say everything I needed to when we talked over the phone. I was mainly confused after I hung up with him because I still didn’t understand what went wrong. My question is, have I ruined my chance of playing the NC card here? Especially because he didn’t respond to my last text? It wasn’t a long conversation, I got one response from him, I responded again, and then that was it.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 8, 2016 at 1:18 pm

Hi Lexa,

I don’t think so, but like what the blog post said above, it can be a long nc if he doesn’t reply after the 30 days because he’s in military and he doesn’t want ldr

Pamela

March 7, 2016 at 5:02 pm

Hi, Amor. Would like to have your opinion on this.

I think deep about myself and realised what my ex-boyfriend said about me is right. I was too immature and dependent. I rely on him for my own happiness and also rely on him to fill the void in me. That’s why this relationship fell apart.

I texted him way too much after we broke up and he blocked me on Whatsapp and text. I then used my parent’s phone to text him pretending as my parent, which I now realised is damn stupid. He didn’t know it was me.

He said he can’t like someone who doesn’t like herself and he doesn’t think it is wise to talk to me at my current state. That’s why he avoids me and he said it is for me to learn to deal with my own happiness instead of relying on him.

I finally understand what he has been telling me all this while and I’m somehow ashamed of what I did after I asked for the break up and he didn’t want to get back together when I regretted the break up the next day.

Seems like things are a mess now. He msg for one last time last Saturday telling me everything about myself that I need to learn. He thought I told people around me how he hurt me but I didn’t. I just pretended as my parent to text him. Sigh. It was a long message and what he said is right. He also said talking to him as of now will not help me.

I did not reply anything since he blocked me after sending that message. I’m wondering should I send him an email one month later to tell him that I understand my problems now and admit my mistakes and also that I pretended as my parent to message him (I don’t want him to think that I talked bad about him to others)? Or should I just leave it?

I’m not even counting the days that I’m in NC now because after everything, I feel bad about myself and I don’t think he’ll forgive me for what I did, especially pretending as my parent. Thus, I’m not wanting to get back together because I’m nobody to ask for it, though I still have feelings towards him, because I feel ashamed of my stupid behaviour after the break up.

What’s your advice?

Pamela

March 8, 2016 at 7:33 pm

I just noticed he unblocked me on Whatsapp when I scrolled thru my list just now.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 9, 2016 at 11:03 am

hmmm… if you do that, he’ll think you still haven’t moved on..
Pamela

March 8, 2016 at 4:08 pm

Thanks for your reply, Amor.

My purpose is to admit my mistakes and confess my feelings to him, regardless of his feelings towards me now, and then continue doing what I’m supposed to do in my life. Can I?

What do you think about it?
Pamela

March 7, 2016 at 5:11 pm

When I texted him as my parent, which he didn’t know, he said there is no way this LDR will work if I can’t learn to be mature about things and can’t be independent. I then asked whether he still likes me, and he replied “All I can say is, I can’t like someone who doesn’t like herself. I’m sorry.”

That means he doesn’t like me already, right?

Anyway, I don’t wanna think about getting back together because I’m ashamed of what I did. Also, I want to focus on myself at the moment. I’m just wondering.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 8, 2016 at 3:16 pm

It’s good that you’re reflecting and doing some self observation.. But self pity will do no good.. It’s okay to feel it, but don’t repeat it again and again.. Forgive yourself and then move on.. You don’t need to tell him you pretended to be your parent right now..

One good guage that you’re still dependent on him, is that you still think about what he thinks, what his opinion is, what he’s doing, etc.. It’s normal at first, it’s part of the process of moving but every time you notice yourself doing that, stop yourself.

And also, ask yourself, what’s the purpose of telling him you understand your problems at that time? What do you want to get out of that?

Lena

March 7, 2016 at 4:53 pm

Hi,
I just broke up with my boyfriend last week. We were in a long distance relationship for six months now without seeing each other personally because we live on different continents and are both studying.
We both decided that it doesn’t make sense to go on with it because we didn’t see that we would visit each other in the near future. We tried to visit each other for spring break but it didn’t work out. I definitively know that I made an effort and sacrifices for this and did everything I possibly could to see him. I even told him I would come visit him. But he said he couldn’t handle it to be so far from me and to not have me close to him. And that he couldn’t do it to see me now for a couple days and then wait 6 months again. He said that we were constantly struggling.
I just miss him so much! He was my first boyfriend. It was hard before too, because I always missed him, but I knew he was there for me and I had the hope that we would make it work somehow.
He said he really cares about me and that he wants to keep me in his life and that maybe we’ll find us together some day. I was the last one who texted and I said I wanted him to stay in my life too but that I need time to get over all this.
I don’t know what to do now. Should I text him that I miss him and that we should talk about this face to face (we broke up via message) or should I wait until he messages me?
zey

March 7, 2016 at 4:11 pm

hi..
I am in a LDR with my now ex and I have followed all your steps of the nc rule for about 2 months. There were a lot of problems and he said that he could only offer his friendship that too not as good as that the rest of his friends receive. Plus he also hinted about another girl in his life while breaking up but it wasn’t entirely confirmed that he was dating her.

Now for the first contact I have a few doubts:

1. Do the meme /random text, good times text, little jealously, compliment, I miss you all happen on day 1 of the 3-5 hour conversation or during a period of days(tide theory)?

2. I did the random text (it was on a lighter note) and good times text on day 1 of the conversation after the nc period. My ex did reply in a friendly manner but didn’t seem too interested in the conversation or too happy that I finally messaged after the break up. Should I go back to nc?

3. Will it ever be safe to ask if he is dating someone else as no friend is really willing to help me find out?

Thanks

zey

March 8, 2016 at 8:46 pm

thanks amor,

the topic did seem to interest him but it seemed more like he didn’t want to take the initiative to continue talking or talk too much or talk about anything from his side about anything at all. so it seemed a little difficult to keep the conversation on for a very long time and plus the time to reply was also a little long. i don’t know what to do..
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 9, 2016 at 5:55 pm

hmmm..list thr topics that you’re sure he’s interested in..and also i doesn’t have to be long.. especially at first… you have to end it before it gets boring
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 8, 2016 at 3:01 pm

HI Zey,

Nope not all at once, you can choose which ones you want to use.. Is the topic for the text interesting for him? You can rest for a few days, no need to go on full nc.. and also, it’s not the right time to ask if he has a new girl or how he’s feeling about the relationship… Also, focus on you.. don’t think about right now if he has a new girl.. he will say that himself if needed..

VIOLET

March 7, 2016 at 12:35 pm

Hello,

Me and my ex boyfriend together for one year and half in the same city, super close to each other. He wants to broke up right after we just started half month long distance. Initially it starts as a whatsapp/ Skype fight on NYE (1/1) this year, then all lose control, he set his mind of breaking up for real, since : he has no feelings anymore (the feeling isn’t strong enough for doing a long distance… ).

I never beed through a long distance broke up, so acted crazy from that day onwards. In-between we try to have a testing period (ofc didn’t work) both emotional and fights nearly everyday. Till 2/4 he told me this testing period is a no-go and his mind is really set. Loads of fights/arguments keep on going ….. I beg, I try as much as pathetic you can imaging which I hated actually. And in-between the nice guy long gone, only a stronger took everything so granted and saying hurtful words.

2/21 he relocates to a new city with brand new life… ( 6 hours away from me ), things are fresh and fast-paced for him.
We start to have less fights, my emotion did get better but still chaotic.

Days after, I wanted to pretend nothing happen, be a friend, at least to remain contact. Then realise it’s ofc no possible in reality, while I’m still in love. He really thought so (that I want to be friend), start to mentioned and send me the pic of this language exchange partner (a pretty cute girl, feels like a hands-on date ) that his going to meet. Again as you can imaging, I’m so struggle but also known that no matter what I say and do, he won’t bother how it will hurt me anymore ….

Then I found this website on 3/4 and start the NC right away ….
He can be truly very nice while his rational and no pressure, he said he’s happy for me I have my new life and move on ( : ( ) blah blah ….

I wonder, in my current position and after all the mess, is there much a can do ?
THANK YOU !!
(The story hope won’t be too complex)

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 8, 2016 at 1:48 pm

Hi Violet,

It’s good you’re doing nc now.. You did not tell him you’re doing nc right?

Elena

March 7, 2016 at 1:25 am

Hey amor. Not sure if you remember me… I was in the ldr for almost 2 years until my boyfriend broke up with me on Valentine’s day. You told me to do 21 days of no contact since he’s supposed to be coming here in a couple weeks. Today was the end of no contact and I did text him but he didn’t reply. I know he saw the message too since the app we text on shows if you’ve read the message or not. I’m kinda surprised he didn’t reply and I’m not sure what to do now. I kinda feel stupid and don’t want to be a knat so should I do another week of no contact?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 8, 2016 at 12:44 pm

yep, one last, if you’re not comfortable to initiate go longer and be active in social media again

Annie

March 6, 2016 at 1:41 am

Hi, i’m almost at the end of the NC rule but i was wondering – how long do you have to wait between sending out your first text message and the next one? Is it a few hours, days, weeks?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 6, 2016 at 8:05 am

Hi Annie,

it depends..if he replied and the convo went well, you can try again the next day.. and use the tide theory

Sandy

March 5, 2016 at 3:09 pm

thank you Amor for the quick answer. I had the same feeling! he connects one time a day on facebook, sometimes twice, for at most 1 hour. Should chat with him ecerytime i see him online, or leave him meaasge when he’s offline and see if he’ll answer when he finds them? i’m afraid that he may be with another girl. is there anyway to find it out, should i ask him if he’s dating someone? Actually, i’m not ready to go so far with sacrifice because i was 100% in when we were together. I’m just giving us a chance in case it may work but if not, i don’t mind.
Sandy

March 4, 2016 at 11:09 pm

Hi. I met my ex while i was traveling in Cuba. i met him on my last day before moving to an another city. 6 days later, i came back to his city to spend the rest of my trip with him(10 days). we had good time and it was so intense. he talked about engagement. I tried to make clear that it will not be easy for us since it will be a long distance relationship and specially that communication will be difficult (internet and phone calls are expensive in cuba) and 6 hours of jetlag. but he said that he’ll do it. when i went back home, i did my best to be in touch with him with emails, facebook, messages and phone calls. at the beginning he was excited, but then i found that he was less motivated. Anyway, one month later he broke up with me saying that he cannot continue in a relation like that without explaining much. I said ok. i went through one month no contact. he texted me on facebook but i didn’t answer him. and it was the only time he tried to contact me. Today is day 30, i sent him a message on facebook (sending a message is expensive for him and he’s connecting daily to facebook so i wanted to be sure that he can answer me back). He replied me back with a positive answer saying that it’s good to hear about me and hoping that i’m ok. i was online when he sent me back but didn’t talk to him. and he didn’t insist. Now i feel blocked! i don’t know when should i text him. should i chat him when he’s online or just leave him message on facebook even when he’s offline. how much message should i send him? please help me!

Sandy

March 12, 2016 at 3:43 pm

Hi Amor,

I was following tightly all the recommandations! Honestly i feel frustrated because it’s progressing slowly. and i feel that he’s not motivated about talking personnal topics! it’s me who always initiate the discussion! he’s very careful with word, even when i send him funny memory texts he just answered with laugh! the only personal question he asked me is : how are you? I feel that he has already moved on and perhaps has a girlfriend because he’s connecting too much lately! yesterday, while chating, i said something about coming back to cuba, like i have a friend who’s insisting about that! but he didn’t say anyhing, and he stpped chatting with me but still online! i don’t know if it’s really worthy! i know it was a very short relation! we spent nice moments together! i’m wondering if i should move on and forget about him! but i really want to know the real reason why he broke up with me! can i ask him and then giving up on him? or for you the reson is so obvious and i don’t need to ask him about? thank you Amor!
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 13, 2016 at 3:51 am

For me, you can ask him now.. at least you’re ready for whatever the outcome is..
Sandy

March 5, 2016 at 7:00 pm

and one more question, should i follow the Tide Theory doctrine when texting him?
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 6, 2016 at 6:08 am

Nope don’t ask him about relationship.. I think it’s better to message him offline first, so that he doesn’t feel cornered if ever he’s not comfortable talking with you yet.. yep you can use the tide theory
Sandy

March 5, 2016 at 3:10 pm

thank you Amor for the quick answer. I had the same feeling! he connects one time a day on facebook, sometimes twice, for at most 1 hour. Should chat with him ecerytime i see him online, or leave him meaasge when he’s offline and see if he’ll answer when he finds them? i’m afraid that he may be with another girl. is there anyway to find it out, should i ask him if he’s dating someone? Actually, i’m not ready to go so far with sacrifice because i was 100% in when we were together. I’m just giving us a chance in case it may work but if not, i don’t mind.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 5, 2016 at 10:04 am

Hi Sandy,

I think he thinks you’re just friends now, but in a way that’s good because you can start out as friends.. text like you would talk to a friend that you haven’t seen in a long time

NIKITA

March 3, 2016 at 1:46 pm

HI, my boyfriend of 5 years yesterday broke up with me for the reasons that He thinks that he is not what I want. we have been in a long distance relationship for the 5years. He lives in the US and I am in Kenya. he was here in Kenya for chrismas and went back to US on 23rd January. He says that I do not trust him and I always complain but it is not true. the problem is he does not listen to me when I talk and hence we always end up arguing whenever I ask him question. I really love him and want him back coz 5 years i think its worth another shot. what should I do. he said that we can be friends for now and Let God guide our lives. should I start NO contact or what should I do?

thanks

NIKITA

March 6, 2016 at 6:08 am

Hi Amor.

So if that is the case do you think the NC will work on him. He knows that I love him so much and I think he takes it for granted that i love him so much. I am on my 4th day of NC now.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 6, 2016 at 8:12 am

I can’t guarantee that it will, but I think it’s the better choice than chase him..
NIKITA

March 5, 2016 at 1:35 pm

Hi Amor.

Thank you. Thats good huh!? He had told me that he doesnt have feelings for her and he feels bad and guilt for leaving her for me 5 years ago and thats why he still talks to her. But I know that not reason enough. I also think that he has fear of commitment and I do not know how to overcome or go about it. Everytime I ask him about the future he comes up with excuses and says that We Wait and see how God will guide us. Do you have any advice for that? He hasnt contacted me yet but im hoping that he will soon.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 6, 2016 at 5:49 am

it can be fear of commitment.. or to be frank, though it sucks, he doesn’t see his future with you or he just plainly knows you love him so much like there’s no need to get married..
NIKITA

March 4, 2016 at 10:09 am

HI AMOR,
Yes we’re both active in social media.
He does not live close to his EX. because she also is in Kenya and He is in the US. They kind off broke up 5 years ago and thats when we started dating. that was before he left for US. They have been into contact for the 5 years though not physically but through phone and texting and I thought that it was nothing. He even stayed with me the whole time he was here in Kenya for Christmas though his EX was complaining and urging him to go visit her but he did not go to visit her. He has always been saying when I talk to him about his EX that he doesnt want to hurt her because she has never been rude or done anything wrong to him. He had said that he cant leave me for her but I should not rush him because he want to be gentle with her when he tell her that he has moved on for good and wants to settle down. He told her before but she said that she doesnt care . so what should I do. I really dont want to loose him.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 5, 2016 at 5:26 am

in a way, that’s good.. coz you’re still the latest he has been with… you’re still the one he’s in the habit of thinking.. don’t mention him in your posts.. but be active in sharing what yoi’ve been up to lately and your makeover.. I know that sounds kind of silly..but he has to see that you’re not going to nag him and to make him miss and regret breaking up with you..don’t be bitter in your posts..just casual posting
NIKITA

March 4, 2016 at 6:57 am

HI AMOR,

He broke up with me 2 days ago. that is on 2/3/2016.
I have not talked to him since then. our parting shot was I love you. what should I do? Should I start NC to give him time or what . I also told him that I will give him one month to think things over because his ex-girlfred still pushes him to get back with him hence that why he says he is confused. Kindly help.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 4, 2016 at 7:51 am

so, it’s not really about you… He just said that but the truth is he’s having feelings with his ex, if that’s the case, you have to be stronger coz you have to be nicer when you start to talk again, even if you’re hurt and also I think you can just do 21 days..are you both active in social media? Does he ex live closer to him?
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 3, 2016 at 2:37 pm

Hi Nikita,

when did you break up?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 2, 2016 at 5:10 pm

if he doesn’t like labels don’t call him my bf hahaha! Keep the push and pull

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