How To Get A Long Distance Relationship Ex Boyfriend Back

5,236 thoughts on “The Complete Guide To Getting An Ex Boyfriend Back In A Long Distance Relationship”

SML

February 7, 2014 at 2:24 pm

I agree with you…Personally, I have had my “crazy times” but have always been quite mature, even as a teenager. Besides age, there is also personality – and that’s a biggy! There are people who are older who are much more vulnerable, less confident and many times take the wrong turn out of despair. It’s all about living and learning and finding out which path is best for us – Serenity is key 🙂 On another note (back to reality on this end!) I’d like to know of your advice regarding how to keep up the communication flowing… We’ve been texting once a day, I’ll reply, the next day or at the end of the day he’ll reply…Seems like there is a set rhythm that has wordlessly been established between us… The thing is that the ball is in my court at the moment and I don’t know where to take it from here… He asked no questions, there isn’t really anything to “get back to him”… I would love to get some advice on this, need to clear my mind! Bah!
Mary

February 7, 2014 at 2:15 pm

I need your help!!! My BF proposed me once but i didnt accept that time due to some bad situation. After 1 and half years, i proposed him but he said that he needed some time. But i know that i too love me. Since he asked some time, i didnt contact him for few months. Then i contacted him through chat and he gave his number to text him so that he will call me from his number. Similarly,i sent him 3 messages to call but he didnt call me. So, i scolded him in anger badly for not calling me. After that, he didnt even call or text me. Blocked my number and e-mail also and told that he wanted to be alone and not to disturb him and also said that he already engaged with one girl and he is going to marry. I got angry and scolded him for that.I was unable to call him since he has blocked my number. After some days, i came to know that he s not engaged with any girl and his parents are seeing bride for him.. I got too much hurted..I cant understand why he is doing like this. We r in long-distance relationship. In this situation, what can i do? How to get back my ex? Could u please help me?
Madi

February 6, 2014 at 5:24 am

I need your help! My LDR ex boyfriend of a year and I broke up 3 months ago and we hadn’t spoken until a few days ago. Shortly after our break up I found out he had a new girlfriend, which really hurt, so I had no intentions of talking to him. Well just before we started talking again they broke up. I was the one who contacted him because he’s in the military and I’m thinking about joining myself so I had some questions for him. So from there we started having a regular conversation and out of nowhere he sends me a text that says “Is it wrong if I miss the sex we used to have?” This completely threw me off guard. Later on I asked him if the sex was all he missed and he replied with “No, I miss the conversations we always had. I miss always having you to talk to.” I’m not exactly sure what to think of this situation. Is he just being a typical sexually frustrated 21 year old or does this mean something else? I really miss him and want our relationship to work out but I can’t even tell if this would be a possibility for us.

admin

February 6, 2014 at 6:04 pm

I think there is some truth to what he said.

SML

February 6, 2014 at 1:31 am

Hey Chris,

Want to give you my update and know how you think I should proceed… Last time I wrote, I was waiting for a text reply from my ex. Funny how life works. An unexpected incident came up where he HAD to communicate with me because of a situation that depended on him getting in touch(good reasons, nothing bad) and wrote a long email letting me know about the situation, however besides that wrote that he had been told that I had written him a message but he had never received it, asking how I was, what I had been up to,etc. We swapped a few emails (not many). Also, I didn’t wait until the next day to reply after my second email to him. When he received my email he asked questions about my friends (funny, only guy friends) and about a meeting I had mentioned related to work. After that, due to another unexpected situation(this one bad), he got in touch with me and has been texting with some frequency ever since. Funny because he replys quicker and his messages are really long and explain a lot of detail. I feel far from being “brushed aside”. However, today he messaged me but left no questions open, so I’m wondering what I should do from here on…I still find it difficult to understand if this is a good or bad thing, or what to think. Lately I was told some “inside information” that he asked if I had gotten over him already…my “source” told me that she gets the feeling that he thinks I’m with someone else… Knowing this makes me feel a little “stronger” because I feel like I’m not the only fragile piece in this story, however, I remain confused and don’t know how to proceed. I’ve noticed that you’ve been asking people for their ages lately – interesting. Maybe you could write something about that, how love works, heals and hurts during different stages of our lives. Of course the common denominator is PAIN – but it seems like people deal and heal with this in very different ways. I’m almost hitting 30 by the way:) Looking forward to hearing from you!

admin

February 6, 2014 at 5:51 pm

I have been asking a lot of people about their ages because I am curious to see how more mature relationships unfold as opposed to less mature ones. Someone in their thirties tend to be much more serious about their relationship I am learning. Not that there arent younger women who aren’t but women who are in their thirties looking to settle down are really special. I admire how they try so hard.

Paula

February 5, 2014 at 10:01 pm

Hi Chris! I’ve been reading your page for some advice and well let me tell you my short story…I met this guy through an online dating site, he would go there to pick up girls and he started texting me and noticed that I wasn’t as the other girls he had met before (at least that’s what he told me), we clicked and started seeing each other. Since the beginning I noticed that he would go out with 2 girls at the same time and was so used for girls to look for him (constantly) and beg for his attention, so I was very clear with him that if we would stop talking I would just stop and wouldn’t beg for him to come back and I wouldn’t even bother to be chasing him; after I told him this he cut communication with other girls to be only with me and would tell me to please don’t stop talking to him because he wanted to be with me. Two months into dating he got a promotion to move out of state and he suggested for us to continue the communication because he wanted to pursue something with me.
A week after he moved I went for a weekend to visit him and I noticed that the interaction had changed and that his friends had a big influence on him, but still he was very attentive and I could feel that he cared for me. After that we continue texting and he would tell me that he “loved me”, “Luved me” and “Wuved me” but whenever I would tell him that I “loved him” he would just stay quiet or tell me that I was joking. I noticed that he would get a bit insecure if I would go out with my friends and drink because according to him he couldn’t protect me and didn’t know if I was safe.
One time he got upset at me because I wouldn’t check on him or tell him what I was doing, he told me that “he expected more from me” and made me feel really bad about this and I decided to improve my communication with him and started to text him and call him more often but he would cut me off. After this I noticed that he stopped initiating conversation and I would have to look for him in order for him to communicate with me. We planned for him to come and visit me at the end of January, a week before the visit he got upset at me for the same reason, that I wouldn’t look for him, but he apologized the same day and told me that he only wanted to be with me.
When he came, the first couple of days the interaction was fine, we laughed and talked (not like before but something good), the last couple of days it was very awkward to the point that we didn’t communicated, I would look for his attention and would do everything possible to make him feel comfortable. The very last day as I was driving him to the airport I started to tell him that I felt that things had changed and I wanted for us to communicate more, to what he told me that that’s why he wanted to move to a city closer for us to see each other more often. As soon as he went back things stayed the same, me initiating conversation and he would be very short.
The last day we talked I called him and he cut me off and told me to text him as soon as I was home, I got disappointed because even that I was reaching out to him he would cut me off. I told him about my disappointment and that I expected more from him to what he answered “whatever”. After that it has been a week and a half with absolutely no contact. I am getting worried because I don’t know if at this point we will get back together. He is very stubborn and so used for girls to throw themselves at him and stalk him…but I’m definitely not like that…Do you think that it’s too late to rekindle the relationship? Do you think the NC would work? What should I do? I would appreciate your response.

admin

February 6, 2014 at 5:43 pm

How long did you two date for?
Paula

February 6, 2014 at 6:39 pm

Btw both us are in our early 30s and have stable careers, both of us very ambitious and had/have a very good intellectual connection.
Paula

February 6, 2014 at 6:29 pm

We dated for 2 months in person and 2 months long distance.

Sofia

February 5, 2014 at 9:04 pm

I know that what I did was so dumb, but since this a LDR I’m terrified of trying no contact. I’m scared of the whole ‘out of sight, out of mind’. Do you think I’ve ruined my chances with him? and why did he react like that?

admin

February 6, 2014 at 5:42 pm

I don’t think so.

Laura

February 5, 2014 at 8:06 pm

Hi Chris,
Your advice is wonderful!

I have a quick question though about the NC stuff. What if they don’t contact you during the NC time and do you need to specifically say to them NC?

Summary: met traveling, did a long distance (Auz to the US – he pushed to do it) for 5 months. Me working crazy hours at a stressful job + 18 hour time change + he realized he couldn’t move for financial reasons (i realized i could move but by the time i mentioned it, his mind was made up) = he had doubts and broke up with me 3 days before my flight to see him. He was crazy about me before (flowers, talking all day everyday, met his friends and fam, we had wonderful times when we were together that he would plan etc).

The break up was via text and after about 1.5 weeks of miss-communication and was very sudden and cold. After 2 weeks I asked him what had happened and he told me it was communication, I replied that I’ll leave the communication open but I’m respecting his decision.

We haven’t spoken since. It’s been almost a month now and the only thing that shows any interest is that he’s been checking our old texting app. All day, everyday. He may have added someone else on it now though so I can’t rely on this.

He’s very stubborn and his mind seems made up regardless of how much he was in love with me before (he was talking marriage, children, told his parents… whole nine yards). Given that I didn’t specifically say no contact, should I wait for him to come to me, or when the month is up should I message him even though he hasn’t contacted me in any way shape or form?

At the end of the day, if there’s anything I can do to get him back I will because I really felt he was the one. But I know that I need to be smart about this so advice would be greatly appreciated 🙂

admin

February 6, 2014 at 5:38 pm

Have you read my NC page?
Laura

February 9, 2014 at 8:19 pm

Yup and I have a quick question about the 30 day NC:

Would logging onto a texting app count as breaking the NC?

It’s an international texting app that shows when you log in. During the relationship I was the only person he had on the app (I got him to download it for our LDR). Since the break up he’s been constantly logging on n tries to be online when I’m online (I’ve never talked to him). I have other friends on it and he very well could as well so this may be all circumstantial.

After reading your blog I deleted the app and I’m trying to determine if the 30 day NC would be from the last message or from the last time we played log-in-to-the-app-tag?

Help?
admin

February 10, 2014 at 5:45 am

No it wouldn’t count. As long as you don’t talk to him your fine.
Laura

February 13, 2014 at 7:56 pm

As well, thank you so so much for any guidance. Relationships play with your emotions so you can’t think clearly and it’s so nice to have help.
Laura

February 13, 2014 at 7:52 pm

Ok. it’s been 34 days of NC (my life has kinda fallen apart so I’m trying to get back on my feet first before I contact him (I lost my job that I had originally told my ex I would not move because of…. about 3 weeks after my ex broke up with me… ironic ya? lol)).

The ex has not messaged me or contacted me in any way shape or form, just logging on to the texting app (I stopped logging on 8 days ago). His friend got married a few days ago and in the pictures he looks wasted and he recently updated his fb profile pic to him drinking at the alter by himself. He’s still on my friend’s facebooks but I deleted him from mine.

Question 1: I’ve done the NC but there’s no chase. Any ideas for how to make a chase when he feels like it’s never gonna work because he can’t move (I can especially now that I lost my job, but you can’t start talking to an ex with that :S)??

Question 2: He said that the main reason was that we weren’t communicating. How bad is it then that I just go and implement a NC after he says that?

Sofia

February 5, 2014 at 5:03 pm

I really need your help again. I think I’ve made a huge mistake, I broke the NC and I sent him a nude pic (it was always part of our phone sex, he always loved them and asked for more so I figured it may help somehow. Apparently men don’t think about sex all time like the popular belief says), the result was totally the opposite of what I thought, instead of seduce him he told me that I don’t have any respect. I know I’ve been so wrong… I don’t think I could be any more desperate right now. I asked him for forgiveness and he told me ‘one more message, just one and I block you forever’. So of course I haven’t contacted him in any way, except for this morning when I sent him an email saying how sorry I am once again (I noticed he checked his whatsapp after that).
I want to ask you if my mistake could have ruined my chances to get him back? will 30 days of NC help to fix this or is it a lost cause now?

Sofia

February 5, 2014 at 7:48 pm

any help please Chris? should I give up after this? =(

Loulou

February 4, 2014 at 7:49 pm

Oh and should i ignore the best friend ? i have tried to avoid doing that, but i cant read her or her intentions.
Im sorry, im just really confused. My ex really loved me. Ive been keeping myself busy improving aspects of my life that im able to change, but work was a major issue, and im not able to change it to work in my profession at the moment, i am working towards it but it is taking me a long time. But that should not matter if you love someone right?
Loulou

February 4, 2014 at 7:41 pm

Hi chris
This is what i posted before
Its been a while and alot has happened, none of which is good unfortunately.
Our break continued for a month and a half, howver he kept contact, infact he was contacting me more and more. He wanted to skype starting from the day he forgot my birthday, (he usually is bad with dates though), kept saying he thought he still had 10 days and that he had asked his best friend to get me a new phone, and even though we were still talking, he did not. We started having more serious conversations after he had started saying he misses certain things, but there was still no emotion and no flirting.
We spoke about our options breaking up, me moving to him or continuing long distance. The last option was clearly not an option anymore. In the same conversation he even said to me i know that i want you as my wife, and i knw i want to have a family with you but i dont think im ready yet.
My. Next conversation with him i said that i was willing to move to him, but i would not move there without a job and that i would live inmy own apartment since it is an arab country and we are not married, he smiled said that he would pay my rent and there is no way he’d not live with me. He then asked about an exam i am still going to sit in april, saying i wont come between you and your career. I told him i will still sit my exam and i deserve for him to be supportive and continue long distance until i move to him. He agreed said i deserve the whole nine yards and that right now i was only getting 2.
He still wanted to think about things, saying that he could come to me when he takes his next leave from work which was in march(i said no as my exam is in april) plus he was going on holday in a week, on a trip i was supposed to be going on, to see his step brother and his family then to another country with a married couple that he sees everyday where he is!
By xmas eve i was still talking to him, i even sent him pictures of a place i had visited that he had always wanted to go to, he only commented on the views and not me, so i questionned this, he said he was not giving that side of him, i askedif i was just a friend to him he said no, im just being honest because we dont know whats going to happen yet. I asked if he wanted to end it he said god no stop saying that! He said we cannot remain texting and skyping though until after my exam (Which i didnt get because i had offered to move to him) He said he was willing to come see me in march, which wasnt an option as i have an exam in april. He said he wanted to think further and he wanted to find a resoloution.
I got so angry that night, tired of the state of limbo, i broke up with him via a text.
I said it wasnt working out and that i didnt see that he was offering me anything, considering what i was going to give up. I told him he was confusedand didnt knw what he wants and that that was not what i want from a guy. Told him to respect my decision. (Basically i tried to make it seem he lost me, even though i just wanted him to wake up!), i also deleted him at this point from my bbm.(childish but he had done this to me before and i felt like i had lost him for good)
He replied when he woke up:
I will respect you (my name)
And i still love and care for you very much. I will not consider this the final end, but i understand you cannt stay in this state. I wish you the best of luck but know what we had and can have please. Merry xmas gorgeous

Im sorry i have gone into so much detail. A month of no contact has passed now and he hasnt contacted me once! His best friend asks about me. She actually spent newyear with me coincidentaly and tried to show me pictures of him on holiday holding babies (he had asked her to do this). But i was at a party with my friends dancing with the girls and guys( which she tried to stop me dancing with) acting like i wasnt bothered.
His best friend still talks to me, but no sign of him.
What do i do? I know ive made the right decision, otherwise i would still be in limbo right now.
I know hes not been seen with any girls. Why isnt he trying to contact me?
His best friend calls and tries to find out where i am, she also asked me a very personal question which was about how i felt about other men now physically? She said she was just curious and definitely would not tell him, but i cannot see how.
I have just come back from a vacation, to feel better about myself.
We havent spoken since xmas eve, nor has he reached out. I feel this time he has to make contact first, since he was the one that was confused. I miss him so much. I told myself if its meant to be it will be. But how can a man that loves me not have contacted me til now? I would really appreciate your advice chris, what do you think i should do?

admin

February 5, 2014 at 6:31 pm

You know, sometimes you have to take the reigns and contact first after NC.
Loulou

February 5, 2014 at 9:35 pm

I know, i always have contacted him first. But this time he was unsure. And he understood he couldnt leave me in a state of limbo. But he hasnt reached out to show hes even thinking of me. Under the circumstances dont you think he should be the one showing me he wants me, misses me and loves me like he said?
What do you think of his break up message? How do you read the situation?
Loulou

February 6, 2014 at 11:49 pm

How do i know if hes missing me or anthing?

Rebecca

February 4, 2014 at 6:54 pm

Hey Chris,

I am 5 days into no contact and my ex has been calling and texting saying he wants to ask me a question all day and when I haven’t responded he said he doesn’t care anymore and have a nice life. Should I be worried or is this a normal response from a guy that’s being ignored? He’s used to me dropping everything for him, we’ve only been broken up for a week and a half.

admin

February 5, 2014 at 6:31 pm

Pretty normal actually.
Rebecca

February 7, 2014 at 1:17 pm

He’s definitely going crazy. He’s sending me angry texts and contacting my friends acting really upset. I changed my Facebook to single and followed your advice about the profile and he deleted me but then sent another request this morning…should I accept it and keep ignoring him or just ignore it all? Today is day 8 of NC.

Loulou

February 4, 2014 at 1:18 pm

Hi chris
Sorry to keep bothering you, but none of my posts are appearing. Im not sure if it is an error or what it is, please help!

admin

February 4, 2014 at 5:53 pm

What is your question?

Kellie

February 4, 2014 at 8:57 am

Hi Chris,

I have done the 30 day NC and have received positive response in the first text, we are talking again. Approaching the end of NC he messaged a mutual friend and told the mutual friend he still has feelings for me but he doesn’t want to get back together. He thinks its comforting to keep talking to me.

I don’t want to keep talking to him and help him in the healing process. Should I go back to NC? or continue the rest of the guide? I want him to somehow realize that we should get back together…

What should I do? I think by talking to him, all my personal healing over the last 30 days has gone to waste.

Thanks a lot!
Kellie

admin

February 4, 2014 at 5:49 pm

Well, then you are going to have to find a way to make it so that he has no chioce but to get back together with you.
Kellie

February 4, 2014 at 6:03 pm

Thanks for your reply Chris! I really appreciate your help. Do you have any suggestions in how I can achieve this goal? What are your recommendations?
Kellie

February 11, 2014 at 10:02 am

Just following up with my previous question. I’ve been back in NC for about a week now, he never tried to reach out to me. Should I try sending him the remember the good times text and try to engage him in a conversation?

Loulou

February 4, 2014 at 1:01 am

Hi chris
My messages dont seem to get posted, but i dont understand why?
Please id really appreciate your advice

admin

February 4, 2014 at 5:35 pm

That is strange?

What is your question?

abbey

February 3, 2014 at 4:10 pm

Hello, my name is abbey. I just broke up with my boyfriend. Here is our story. We met in london last june 2012. We were happy despite of some ups and downs, we manage to solve it together. Last sept 2013, I needed to go back to my home country becoz of visa matters. That was the start of our problems. Long distance relationship. Before I left london, I asked him that is he prepared for the struggles while im away. He said, yes. So months have passed, our relationship begun to deteriorates. He doesnt call me or text me often. He always say that he is busy. Just last week, i was so angry becoz he told me he will call but he never did. So, we broke up. Sadly, it was my birthday thats why I was angry becoz he promised to call but never did. I tried to call, txt or email him but he is ignoring me. I applied the NC rule. I never contacted him since friday. But im really worried that I might lost him forever. Becoz of differences and he is a very stubborn man. I would appreciate if you give me some advice. I really loved your writings and enjoyed reading some of your tips and warnings..thank you.
Shanique

February 3, 2014 at 3:33 am

Hi I like your article. I will try it out.. Wish I would have found it earlier though.

This is my story. I have known this guy since 2010 that was the first time we met. We chatted online all the time when he went away and he called anyways he came to visit again a year or so after we hit it off and started dating. Believe me he is an awesome guy treated me well when he is with me. I did something terrible I was going through a lot in terms of family and all he did seem to get it so I stated talking to another guy at the time we were never together just friends. I just needed some one near me to talk to. Because things weren’t going the way I expect with my current boyfriend at the time when he wasn’t with me. So I posted. Pictures of me and that guy on a social website for him to see and he saw it but he didn’t even say anything crazy right.. I felt bad a few months ago and apologise to him apparently he did not see it or he hatedd me. Now a few days ago I sent him a message and he replied I was so glad I screamed. We chatted about what happened in terms of him travelling to see me and he spend a lot of plane fare. Then he asked me about the guy and if we are going good.. My response was. “somewhat. But he is no you” then that was it he asked if the family is good and if I was ok and he stopped messaging me after my last text. Hmm when do I go from here.
D L

February 3, 2014 at 1:06 am

Hi,

My boyfriends of almost a year broke up with me via email a week ago. We dated in person for a while before I had to move to another state for work. He is 27 and I am 34 also a divorcee. We had a very intense relationship. He asked me to marry him several times. However the long distance and my trust issues were causing problems. I finally agreed to marry him although he felt our fights were a problem. I did behave in ways that were hurtful and disrespectful to him. I feel badly now even wrote him an apology email before the breakup. We agreed to marry last December but I pushed him to tell his parents about my past. He was hesitant at first but later agreed to do it. His parents were dead against us owing to the age difference and my marital status. We are Indians by ethnicity. They put a lot of pressure on him and he slowly started to drift away from me. I retuned home and called him several times and texted. He’d only respond to the texts. Finally, he wrote me the break up email. In his email he stated that he was missing me a lot and that I was his outstanding love. However, he was unable to handle the situation and had to say bye. I did not respond to his email. He texted me four days ago asking “how are you, name”. I did not respond to this either. I am devastated though. He said he couldn’t ever leave me. I really deeply love him. He was the first guy I ever agreed to marry wholeheartedly. What should I do?
Alan

February 3, 2014 at 12:47 am

I know this is different for guys, but I’m in a similar situation. My ex-gf was an acquaintance that I reconnected with at a wedding that we were both in last summer (we also attended the same college). After a couple months of daily communication, we began dating last fall. We lived 4 hours apart, her in a larger city A and me in a smaller one B, but we drove to see each other frequently, and she also came an hour closer to where her parents live (city C) on a regular basis. She is in the last year of an inner city teaching program, also in grad school, and is looking for a job for next year, so is very busy. Our relationship got serious fairly quickly, and we spent time with each other’s families around the holidays. She told me she loved me, and that she had never felt so comfortable in a relationship before. I am looking for a new job away from my hometown where I live, and we were talking about me getting a job near where she wants to be next year (she was talking about near her parents, but she also dreamt of living in another city D where she had lived as a kid). After New Year’s, which we spent together, there were on-and-off gaps where we just didn’t talk as much, as far as random daily texts and a couple days where we didn’t talk on the phone, and no FaceTime/Skype. Two weeks later, she went to the city where she had lived as a kid over her birthday weekend. The day before I was to go visit her the next weekend to celebrate her birthday, she abruptly broke up with me over the phone.
Her reason for the breakup was that she was so busy with the last semester of her program (it was limiting our time together some, but it was manageable), and visiting the city D she had used to live in made her realize that it was home, and she was looking for jobs there again. She said that over the previous couple weeks, she didn’t feel the same way about me, and her heart wasn’t in it. She said she had to figure out her future alone, and learn to stand on her own and not use me as a crutch. I didn’t react well to this, and told her I was willing to jump through hoops to make our relationship work, and that seeing her was the only thing I had to look forward to. I texted her that night with basically the same thing, plus told her that she was the “one that got away” from me since we’d first met (which is true). It’s been 10 days with no contact (we only actually dated for 3 months, so is 30 days too long for NC?). I’ve had time to reflect and see things from her viewpoint, and I think she was scared about the future and worried she didn’t have time for a relationship. Maybe I was getting clingy when she had commitments this semester that cut into our time together? I’m unsure what to do. Also, my hometown B is within reasonable driving distance of A, C, and D, and I’ve always been open to moving to C or D with or without her.

admin

February 3, 2014 at 6:04 pm

May I ask her age? And your age?

sov

February 2, 2014 at 5:50 am

I met my guy as a friend and have known him for 6 years but never really spend time with him. The first time we actually sleeve time with each other was last year in july for about a week. After he left for abroad, we developed feelings for each other and stated dating in nov. After a lot f misunderstandings, he decided to let go because of the distance and some misunderstandings jus recently. But I know that he isn’t done and nor am I. We still have to spend that quality time together. And I really like this guy and wanna set things right.
Sofia

February 1, 2014 at 10:56 pm

btw, this isn’t relevant but your site is like a therapy for women. The girl, his coworker is really unnatractive, and I’m so not :|, maybe my ego is bruised and I’m arrogant for saying this but is the truth. I know that it’s hard to compete with a girl he sees everyday though

admin

February 2, 2014 at 6:37 pm

Totally sounds like a rebound. The unattractive girl.
Sofia

February 2, 2014 at 8:46 pm

official since february last year. And yes, she’s average to ugly tbh, while he always used to tell me that I look like a model, called me his blonde angel etc, maybe this is a shallow thing but it caught my attention because I’m not used to guys rejecting me. But he told me he’s in love with the ugly girl and they have started ‘something’. The last time he told me he loved me was two months ago, I don’t understand how he lost all his feelings for me just like that, that soon. He was really intense during the whole relationship even though it was long distance, he even told me ‘I don’t want you to be touched but anyone besides me, wait for me pls’ so he even asked for exclusity and patience. He had lots of chemistry and I truly love him. I really do. I remember he used to dedicate me songs such a chasing cars. Memories these days are killing me.
The situation right now is like this: I’ve been a text gnat and mail gnat until friday, he told me ‘leave me alone’ and ‘stop’ and ‘if you don’t stop I’ll block your number’, he’s making me feel like a pycho while I’m wrecking my mind thinking the best texts to win him back.
I started no contact yesterday, I noticed he open his whatsapp but isn’t online, makes me wonder if he checks my last connection?.

Two questions: even if she’s ugly and all and you think is a rebound, why would he look for a rebound when he’s the one he told me he wanted to end it? and two: will no contact make him miss me?
admin

February 3, 2014 at 5:57 pm

He has definitely checked his whatsapp.

No contact may make him miss you. However, it might also serve as a way to weed out the rebound.
Sofia

February 2, 2014 at 9:12 pm

I would like to add some details I forgot. He seems like he wants to hurt me on purpose, for exampe, I asked him how he was doing, how was work, and he replied ‘I’m good, I’ve started something with the girl I like’, when I asked him if he has still has feelings for me he replied ‘my heart is all for someone else right now, I’m sorry’. He also threatens to block my number often yet doesn’t do it. He even told me once ‘I don’t want to block you, I wan’t you to stop’. I don’t understand why he has all this anger towards me all of sudden, I mean he was telling me how much he wanted to be with me and that he loved me two months ago. How can he switch his feelings like that?
help, what do you think? why is he behaving like this? is it over forever? will NC work?
and thanks again for having such a helpful site

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