How To Get A Long Distance Relationship Ex Boyfriend Back

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Angela

January 9, 2014 at 2:49 pm

Hi Chris,

I left a fairly long comment about a week ago.
I tried NC rule as you mentioned, I thought it worked but it didn’t really work.

My ex sent me a message asking, are you ok? etc. I gave a day to reply with a short message.
Then, I think he got tired and.. I think he is maybe seeing someone, just started but not serious. What should I do..???

I am about to go crazy and would like to do whatever I can.

PLEASE PLEASE help me
Liza

January 9, 2014 at 3:48 am

My ex and I broke up in September and went through some drama a month later. We broke up because we grew distant over the summer since we were unable to see each other often. He went to visit me at and I just couldn’t act normally due to stress. He broke up with me as fall semester started in college. We are now about to go back to college ( 4000 miles apart ), is there any hope of getting back?

admin

January 10, 2014 at 1:17 am

There is hope but hope doesn’t guarantee success.

Amal

January 8, 2014 at 8:19 pm

& he just added me on fb now ???? should i accept or ignore ?
Amal

January 8, 2014 at 8:17 pm

Hi Chris,
my ex and i were in a long distance relationship for almost 2yrs & half , we met online & he came to see me 3 times during the 2 yrs , on oct 2013 he told me that he was goin to hongkong for a holiday & to search for a inspiration for his photograpghy project which i though it was cool, then on nov 6 2013 a girl added me on skype saying that he was cheating on me with another girl in macao , ofcourse i didn’t believe her but it turned out to be true since may 2013 he met this girl when she was travellin in europe , it was a one night stand me after that they continued talking online & they became friends , he got attracted to her then he fell in love with her , he was trying to breakup with me several times , we’ve having these arguments starting aug 2013 and i didn’t know why for some reason , anyways his new girl called on skype and we talked & it turned out he told her that he broke up with me since sep 2013 & she didn’t know he was still with me till that time , so he lied & cheated to both of us , i was heart broken , he was the first guy in my life so ou can imagine my shock , well i got pissed off & told him i never wanna see him again , after 2 days i texted him sayin i wanted to talk & let’s be friends , i acted all cool but deeply i was hurt , then i took few weeks off to deal with the pain & now we’re talkin on skype & texting as friends & his macao girl after she said she’ll be only friends with him after a week she decided 2 forgive him & take him back as bf , so now they’re togther , thankfully she’s also along distance relationship , i’m in abu dhabi , he’s in antwerp & his new girl is in macao , however after his trip to hongkong he went on another trip on dec 2013 with her to malaysia which he spend his bday there with her & that killed me but i stayed calm , i started the no contact since dec 29th , it’s been 10 days , he texted me yesterday wishing a happy new year & i replied back today wishing him the same , we talked on skype without the cam for 20 min then i told him i needed to leave , i was cheerful & happy in my msgs it was all good & ended well , after hearing he had a great wonderful time there , i feel upset & depressed , i want him back chris but at the same time i want to make sure he won’t do it again , help me please , what should i do ?

admin

January 10, 2014 at 1:10 am

ARe you going to do the NC rule?

Amber

January 8, 2014 at 5:13 pm

My bf broke up with me the week before Thanksgiving and then a couple of weeks after that my grandmother died. I am in process of starting a new job and moving into a different place. There is a lot on my plate. The holidays made it really hard with not being with the ex. I love him so very much. When he broke up with me he said he loved me but had to let me go. The distance has been killing us and but I am more than willing to work on things with us and realize certain things that I need to do differently. I have constantly texted him how I feel etc, and I know it is doing harm. Just so hard to break the habit and I am so down. He said last week he loves me, cares for me, hates to see me hurt (and hurting me is the last thing he wanted) but somewhere along the way he said he fell out of love. He also said anything I do is just too late. I have done some sweet things lately and he said it won’t change his mind. I am so broken hearted. If I initiate the no contact rule could it help to bring him around and back? Is there anything else I can do? I love him so much:( I cry so much everyday and at night I cling to my pillow so tight.

Amber

January 13, 2014 at 5:25 pm

I am going on my 4th day of no contact. It is so hard. I just want him back. There are 1200 miles between us and worry he isn’t even thinking of me. We dated two years and he doesn’t even act like we ever did.
Amber

January 23, 2014 at 3:00 pm

Hi Chris,

I went 11 days of no contact and then broke it. I was stupid and said Love you. He text back and said “Hi there I just got your message. Just been so busy with work lately. I will ttyl sweetie ok?” …I haven’t been called sweetie in a while. I don’t know if he actually meant that or had meant that text for someone else. Then I was stupid again and just continued to text and sent a picture and have heard nothing since:( I am going to try to implement no contact again. I blocked him off of facebook so I am not constantly on there looking at his profile. I have my suspicions he already slept with one his friends just a few weeks after he broke up with me and invited her out there around Christmas time…which those thoughts just hurt me so bad inside. He is always “liking” anything on her fb wall and same his. That is why I have made the decision to block both of them or at least de-activate my account for now. I just worry I have lost him forever:( I hope if I can manage no contact he can begin to miss me. Just is so hard too with Valentine’s day coming up. What are your thoughts? Sorry for my long messages.

Jules

January 8, 2014 at 10:47 am

Hi Chris,

First time I’m messaging you but I’ve been reading your website a lot. I just wondered if you had any advice about how to get him back, if we lived together but when we broke up, we now live 300 miles apart for financial reasons. Is there any hope? Thanks

admin

January 8, 2014 at 6:29 pm

Glad you are enjoying the website.

I think there is hope but it is going to take some work. What have you done so far?

Caroline

January 7, 2014 at 5:19 pm

Hey Chris, no change on this end but i’ve been reading more of your posts and the comments of people who are going through the same thing as me, i cannot tell you how much it helps. Thanks again for this.
Perplexed

January 7, 2014 at 4:08 am

Perplexed continued…

Hi Admin,

So things ended up working out and were moving along really well, we’d started talking about me going to see him (pending our work schedules, etc). He was sending me pics again and I was doing the same. This time around the texting became more sexually-inspired, and I’m ok with that but he kept telling me how he was going to be naughty in 2014 and there was very little other conversation from him so I kind of wanted to steer clear of the naughty-chat.

So NYE night we were both working and were texting towards the end of the night. He made a comment that since he couldn’t party hard he wasn’t able to relieve stress and I told him I’d help him relieve stress but he’d have to wait, and he said, “waiting is hard” (which kind of made me wonder if he was talking about the relationship or just the stress convo?). He asked what he’d see and I sent him a picture of me cleaning the restaurant menus and then asked if he wanted to Facetime later. He didn’t respond to the FT request but expressed disappointment in the menu pic. Then I was finished at work and I declined an invite for drinks with coworkers and was REALLY looking forward to getting home and finally seeing him and hearing his voice. I got home and showered, put on one of the lingerie pieces I’d bought for our meet-up (per his mentioning no one ever wearing lingerie for him and his interest in seeing me in it), and then set up more flattering lighting by my bed.

At that point it was 1.5hr after he’d mentioned needing an hour before being avail for FT so I texted him that I was getting ready for FT. He inquired what that entailed and I told him just showering and getting comfy in bed. He then responded, “I guess Ill just go to bed stressed tonight then”. I thought that meant he wasn’t going to FT with me and felt stupid so of course flipped a lid. I told him to go find someone else to play games with. He said “you must be joking” and I told him that he confused me, agreeing to FT first and then backing out of it after I had gotten ready. He said he’d just gotten back to his sleeping quarters and told me I get mad every time I take something personal. I told him that I know I get mad with every miscommunication and I’m sorry but what can I say. He then called me with FT but I was in tears so didn’t answer (wish I had). He texted me that he tried to call me but I didn’t answer…there was no miscommunication, he’s tired of one extreme to the other. I told him that it was late and we are in disagreement and I sent him a copy of his text telling me that he’d go to bed stressed. Then he said I was right and that he didn’t know what he was saying or meant and I replied with “OK” and he said, “Forget it. I’m not dealing with a crisis every time you take something the wrong way” to which I replied, “Sometimes I need things said directly. This is not the kind of conversation I was hoping to have with you tonight.” Then no response from him so I sent a series of texts telling him that I didn’t want to leave things like this, that I can’t just cut ties like this. After asking him to say something I told him that I am sorry it ended and that I really care for him and thought things were progressing well. Later that afternoon, 1/1/14, I sent him a long text, “I know I shouldn’t be contacting you like I am but please just respond. I know sometimes I get insecure and need reassurance that you can’t give me and I hate that but it seems like thats how i can get and it is what it is. I don’t blame you for being fed up. I thought things would be different now that we know each other’s limits more but things went sour again so there’s very little hope or continuing to try. But I do want to try to leave things with some sort of understanding and closure. I care how you feel and what you think really matters a lot to me. Please respond with something.” He said “It has nothing to do with you needing reassurance. It has everything to do with you saying things without thinking first.” I said, “You’re right. I do get hot headed. And last night was because I didn’t think you wanted to talk to me after I’d set everything up. It sounds pathetic but its the truth.” Nothing from him. The next morning I asked, “Do you think there is no point in continuing to try?” That afternoon he said, “This happened twice and I don’t see anything preventing it from happening again.”

I’m not sure how to respond. I mean he is right even though I really want to go back and change how I responded and just flat out ask him if he was avoiding talking to me. I decided to take a little more light-hearted approach, so asked what I was supposed to do with all the lingerie I’d bought. He replied like 20 min later, “You can still wear it.” I told him that I never get lingerie party invites (a previous joke) but that even if I did I’d have 3 costume changes to wear. He responded, “You can still show them to me.” And I responded, “I don’t want to send pics of this naughty content. Wouldn’t want to end up on GGW: The Ex Files.” Then nothing.

What do you think he’s thinking? Is it stupid of me to try this again? Is it worthwhile? Does he really even care for me if he’d let this go over that? I hate myself for screwing it up again and feel so stupid trying to rekindle it again…I fear he thinks I’m too immature and childish to be with. Please help.
nicole

January 6, 2014 at 11:33 pm

Hey Chris! So first off I want to let you know that this is the most helpful, comprehensive website on the topic of men and relationships i have EVER read!!

I sent this via email about a week ago, but decided to post it here after reading your little message in the “contact me” section ;).

It started early November, I was in Atlantic City for my birthday (I live in Virginia), when I met this guy on the way out of a nightclub. I can get a little wild sometimes *covers eyes*, and I wasnt done partying, so I invited him and his friends back to our hotel to join the ten girls I came with to continue drinking and partying. Well alcohol made most of our interaction a blur, but somehow we ended up making out in my hotel room, one thing led to another, and we were going to have sex. I told him to go to the guest shop and buy a condom because I refuse to have sex without one, and after leaving he never came back. He didnt have my number, and I didnt have his, so I just called it a loss, assumed he changed his mind and left, and went to bed. Now I am a girl that does a good job knowing what the deal is in one of these situations, I had no intention of anything coming from this, I didnt even know his name, and I didnt find him all that attractive, so I wasnt all that upset or concerned with him leaving. The next day, however, my friend told me that she had his number in case the group got separated, so I decided to ask him what happened just out of curiosity. He stated that due to the effects of alcohol, haha, he realized after buying condoms he didnt remember my floor number or room number, nor did he have my number, so he left. He apologized and was very nice, and while I intended just to text him and have that be it, we continued talking….for a month….constantly. In the beginning he would text me incessantly saying things like “I cant get what happened the other night out of my head, I cant stop thinking about you, this never happens to me etc”. As time went on, we really started clicking, and I started to fall for him. He lived in NJ, but had asked me if he could come visit me for a weekend, and even specifically requested we did not have sex because he felt at that time that his feelings were way stronger for me than mine were for him, which was true, and felt that sex would make him super attached (very unlike a man i know haha). Anyway a few days went on, and eventually he told me he loved me! He said that he felt like he had known me his whole life, and felt so comfortable talking to me and felt that he could tell me anything. This was after two weeks! I was flattered, and definitely liked him A LOT, but did not say i love you back. About a week passed, and I found that I really did love him. I have had a long term relationship before that lasted a year, and I loved him, so I know what it’s like to be in love. It took me five months to fall in love with my ex, so I was floored with how strongly I felt so fast. We continued to talk and he would constantly compliment me, and talk about how badly he wanted to be with me. We had picked a weekend for him to come and things were going swimmingly, when a few days later he dropped a huge bomb; he had to move to LA for work. He called me crying, and both of us were very upset. He told me how much pain he was in, and how we wished he didnt have to go, but we continued to talk for another week. Feelings continued to grow, he continued to tell me he loved me and that he has never loved anyone more in his life. About a day before he left, he started acting strangely. I sent a text asking if everything was ok, and he said that he had been thinking a lot about his move. I got scared, but waited for him to feel comfortable telling me. He stated that this was the hardest decision of his life, but that he needed to slow down talking to me because, if he feels this strongly now, if he continues talking to me the way he had been and finds that moving back to the east coast would be more difficult than he would like he will be devastated and in his words “wont be able to recover”. In so many words, he said that if we talk for say a year and dont end up together he’ll hurt much more than if he tries to stop now. I of course did the cardinal sin of begging him not to do it, but there was no changing his mind. Eventually, he just stopped responding all together to my desperate texts, and I told him that I would leave him alone, which he also did not respond to. That was 30 days ago. Basically, how do you evoke positive emotions to someone that you have very very little history with? In that month that we talked, we talked about EVERYTHING, and I honestly feel that he knows me better than most, but we have no memories. I’m feeling kind of stuck, and having an impossible time figuring out what I should say to him, or if it’s even worth it. What do you think? Sorry for this extremely wordy email, but I feel like all the details are important!

admin

January 7, 2014 at 6:43 pm

EVER? REally? wow that makes me feel good.

Its a pickle youy are in b/c you don’t have that history to fall back on. However, I think you approach it as using what you have to reattract him.
Nicole

January 8, 2014 at 12:34 am

So basically tap back in to the aspects of myself that attracted him in the first place? Well looks like I gotta figure out what exactly attracted him then! Haha. What do you think my chances are, realistically? I don’t mind harsh honesty.

Kellie

January 6, 2014 at 9:50 pm

Hi Chris, I am doing NC right now. I was just wondering for the long distance scenerio, would there be any books you would recommend? I was looking into Michael Fiore’s Text your EX back. Do you think it will be helpful for ex in long distance?

admin

January 7, 2014 at 6:41 pm

Well, honestly this guide is probably the closest thing to your situation but ya. I think it can be helpful.

Karen

January 6, 2014 at 9:01 pm

Hi Chris!

I broke up with my ex in summer after being together for 6 years in LDR. I broke up with him because I felt he has feelings for someone else, which I later found out is true and he is now with this person! I did NC rule for almost 7 weeks but called him before his exams to wish him all the best of luck and support him. I tried not to talk to him and ignore his emails and texts but I couldnt do it completely because I missed him! First I thought I just miss him as a friend or brother. Still I tried super hard not to talk to him and I responded to his emails only after quite some time.
The last time we skyped he told me he wants me to be happy and move on. I followed all your rules considering skype talk. I didnt tell him I love him or anything like that. When we talk he calls me baby and other nice names and nicknames and always send me kisses, etc. I play cool and cold.

So what do I do?

He is with this girl now but I feel it is not going to work because I know him and i think she is just a rebound for him. (or I wish that very much:) She has no idea we are in touch and he doesnt want to tell her.

How can I get him back when I broke up with him because of the person he is with now? Is it even possible? and if yes, how?

What should I do so he starts to talk to me first? Usually its me who initiates the conversation.

Thank u in advance for your help!

admin

January 7, 2014 at 6:39 pm

NC springs to mind but sometimes to get him to reach out first you have to leave him wanting more which means you will have to contact him first.

Janae

January 6, 2014 at 11:44 am

Hey, so he wrote me first during New Years and we talked for a while and flirted and he called me “baby” and such, so it went really well 🙂 However, he said told me he would be right back and never came back. SO, three days later (tonight) I wrote him, not expecting a response back, but 2 hours later he writes me “hey sorry I was sleeping and you should be too I know you have to get up early tomorrow 😛 Night baby” so I was glad he at least wrote, but he ended it right there :/ I wrote goodnight back, but not sure what I should do now, so I have two questions:
1) is this a bad sign seeing as usually our conversations before last around an hour to three hours?
2) How long should I wait before I try again?
Myriam

January 6, 2014 at 1:42 am

Hi Chris,

I was with my boyfriend for 4 years and the last 6 months of it were long distance because I had to move for my job. He broke up because he couldn’t stand the idea to not see me and make his life with me, said that he couldn’t get on with his life if I wasn’t there. We already had problems and he was afraid that even if I come back those problems would still be there. Anyway, he broke up and said we needed space to think and get on with life. After 3 months we got in touch and it seemed things were getting somewhere, he started contacting me again and caring. But then suddenly he stopped contacting me completely, now I came back for him (3 months later) and he tells me that he’s seeing someone and he really likes her, that he’s over me. My heart was crushed but we got to talk over Skype and he said that after breaking up with me he fell into a deep depression and that now he had to get help he’s feeling better than ever with himself and life. But also tells me in tears that he wishes he was over me but can’t believe he’s still not. I thought this was hope but after 3 hours of chatting about everything right before hanging up he asks me if I think it’s better to get back to not contacting each other or if we keep in touch. I said that it would be difficult for me to stay in touch cause I still love him and wanna be with him and he just said “yeah I understand, I guess I could just send you an email in a few weeks to see how you are” then I said I was sorry to have said I loved him cause I know he’s with someone, he replies “I’m not with someone, we’re not there yet”. I don’t know what to think. I sent a a happy new year message but his reply was very cold and ended it with a “take care.” I’m gonna be in his city at the end of the month, I’m so confused and am really scared to get hurt to see him and have my heart destroyed. I don’t know if there is hope there.
Thank you in advance for your advice and thanks for your wonderful work.

Myriam
Angela

January 4, 2014 at 7:38 pm

Hello Chris

I have very little hope but if you think there is a good chance, I am willing to try your program.

So I was with my boyfriend for about less than a year, we were in a same place for about 3 months then we both moved apart for a job. There were ups and downs throughout but we loved each other a lot that we tried to make it work by seeing once in a month or two.

But since he has some kind of ‘depression’ issue, which is not too severe since he is in medication, it sometimes wondered me that maybe this is not good for us especially for him. He was in a sad mood many times, altough it is not his fault or he did something wrong, and it was hard for me to see it. And I tend to forget that he has the issue. We talked about our long distance relationship and he assured me that he loves me to much that he can handle.

But, last month, I was little bit upset about his behavior (again, due to his ‘issue’), and he was really cold to me when we were on the phone. He sound depressed and sad being home alone in which all of his friends are out with their girlfriends. I impulsely told him, maybe this is not good for us. And told him maybe it’s better for you to find someone next you.

Then, I regretted so much.. but couldn’t say cause I felt bad and he was far away.. and selfishly hoping that he will ask me soon.

He was having a hard time and christmas came. We originally planned to spend christmas together at his parent’s place but I thought it was kinda awkward so I didn’t go. He had been contacting me and told me how much he misses me. Then, I also realized how much I miss him that I called and told him how I feel. He was totally surprised since he thought I didn’t want to be with him. And he told me that he was so hurt that he had to focus on his life and now he feels better. And even though he loves me and cares about me, he made his mind that, this relationship is not healthy for us. We have been calling and texting until I expressed my feeling as if we were still in love. But after I expressed my feeling, he was more clear about his decision. I decided to see him and talk to him during the holiday since I thought it would help, but he was even more clear.. and I ended up begging and crying. And he kept saying, sorry. And he said, this is not good for me. He told me that I deserve a better person who can be with me, as I told him before.
Then, I was so hurt, I couldn’t sleep, eat, etc. We still txt time to time but definitely, he is in less contact than before I expressed how I feel (after we broke up).

I feel like, I messed up. I think there was a chance, but I think I pushed him away even more.. I should have just visited his parent’s place during christmas and act naturally.. and his parents really like me so it could have help..I know I can’t go back but I feel so guilty, shame and stupid.. I messed up every chance I had..

Do you think.. there is still a hope?
He lives in California now for work and I live in DC.. and we were both met in Michigan and that’s where his parents live.

I think he still cares about me.. I can feel. And I noticed that he’s been really active on his social media by posting photos which he usullay didnt’ do that. And he checks out his friends’ FB and replies instantly..

You can be honest if you think he seems pretty sure. He is a very smart person, and he is.. like black and white.

PLEASE PLEASE let me know.
I would love to try anything if there is a good chance to get him back.
I am so afraid that he will meet someone else soon… since he gets lonely easily.. due to his issue.
I will go crazy if he meets someone.. he is such a handsome, smart, nice person that most girls like.. I don’t want to lose him.

Thank you for your time for reading my story.

admin

January 5, 2014 at 7:46 pm

Thats the thing though. Usually things aren’t black or white when it comes to relationships.

Are you in NC righ tnow?
Angela

January 6, 2014 at 2:02 am

We still text each other. He was in Michigan visiting his family and he is going back to California now so I will try not to text him once he is back to Cali. But if he texts me or emails me, do I completely ignore..?? for how long?? I am afraid that he will think something happened to me, then we will be in no contact at all. I am also afraid he will meet someone while NC…

About a month after we moved away from each other, he actually told me that his feeling has changed. But we both tried and we were even better. (I tried to visit him more) So having this experience makes me worried about NC rule.
You still suggest NC? For how long..??
Also, is there any other suggestion such as using Facebook or Instragram..??

Thank you!!!!

nessa

January 3, 2014 at 11:42 pm

Hello Chris,
My boyfriend and I broke up the day after christmas with our 2 year anniversary on the 30th of december. The reason we broke up is because we are hurting each other. about 5 months after we started talking I became ill and had surgery and 3 months after he moved to my city i began being depressed because nobody could figure out what was wrong with me. In that time spand he moved from home to be with me, lived with my family for 3 months because his housing arrangements fell through then lived with his aunt for 6 months and then moved to an extended stay hotel all because I wasnt ready to move out. He was getting behind and i could tell he was becoming depressed so we agreed he should go back home. 9 months later we are here, single and heart broken because Id rather stay home n chat n get rest and he likes to go to his friends house and drink. I tried to make him stay home some n have all night skype dates a few times a week and he didnt want to stay home after we got off skype. It was a mixture of controlling, nagging, neglecting, selfishness but loving time. I asked to end things countless times because i was hurting all the time and after saying no every time he called me on dec 26 to break up. We both cried and we still skyped on our would be anniversary for 15min and later that day i decided to enter the NC rule because i could see i was becoming a pesty ex gf. 4 days later he writes me on fb to tell me he is sorry. I have not broke the nc rule but I am wondering if all of the stuff in ur article would apply to us. I mean we love eachother still, we were both just being selfish…so do i still do the jealousy thing?

And before we broke up i was making an album of our life together that i was going to send him at the end of the 30 days (or not havent made up my mind) and instead of messaging him i am writting letters but not sending them. In the letters i am writting my feelings, events that happen that i would tell him about normally but cant because of NC rule, what i am working on and memories…
would it be a bad idea to send the book and letters to him at the end of the 30 days?
Because we didnt break up from falling out of love or cheating or anything like that do i still follow ur steps?
We both agreed we want to be best friends again we just need time because it hurts right now… and since the break up i have really considered the moving out detail (im 21) because i want this, i was scared before….if we get back together how long should i wait to tell him i want this?

admin

January 4, 2014 at 6:47 pm

Yes I would still follow the steps.

Cathy

January 1, 2014 at 4:42 pm

Hello Chris!!!my boyfriend and I broke up in October and now he is in Sweden and I am In Taiwan. He told me the reason he broke up with me is because he thinks i am too.far and he doesnt see a future between us. We still
talked after we broke up. I cried and tried to askhim to take me back he said no. So i started to do the no contact in december but only for 2 weeks i failed. And i messaged him .He replied and he told me he was in.a girls house an
girls house so i couldnt help but ask if he slept with her h told me yes and also.with others. He told me he text me bbone time i didnt reply so he thinks i forgot him already. I was sad and he called me we talked for an hour but he still said he doesnt want to be together. I am thinking to do the NC again.do u think its ok?
Nj

January 1, 2014 at 1:37 pm

Hi,Chris,its Nj here,so far me and my Vietnam is still keep the same speed, I mean though his travel made the distance ,but he still texted during the travel ,which is better than i first thought,anyway I hope things can get better when he got back, and today I came here is just want to say “Happy New Year “to you :),Tks!
Bsrgs
Nj
Kellie

December 30, 2013 at 9:44 pm

Hi Chris,

My two year boyfriend just broke up with me. I’m studying in the UK and he is studying in the US. He doesn’t know where in the world he is going to end up working after studying and me neither. There was no end point to our LDR. He really wanted to be single and focus on his careers. We have been doing LDR for 6 months now. He described our relationship as “empty relationship” because we only get to see each other every 2-3 months. We have broken up once before the LDR started because we were afraid of LDR but then got back together. I tried the NC rule but I don’t think it worked because he take it as we are falling apart because of distance.

I really want him back and I’m willing to do anything to get him back. I even told him I can find a job to wherever he is and follow him. He still broke up with me. What do I do? He says the passion is just not there anymore.

Thanks a lot! Looking forward to your reply.

admin

January 1, 2014 at 10:47 pm

How long did you last in the NC?
Kellie

January 4, 2014 at 12:28 am

Last time I tried it for 2 weeks…

To update the situation. We saw each other once after the break up before I went away to the UK. The passion is still there I think, he said he loves me but not in love with me. I suggested we get back together but he didn’t want to. I told him we will go on a break and re-assess our feelings in a month. So now I just deleted him off facebook and I am ready to try the NC rule again for 30 days. I am scared it will not work because whenever we are in a distance the feelings seem to fade. What do you think? Did I make a right move?

Janae

December 30, 2013 at 11:33 am

Sorry to post again, but I’d really like to know what to do :/ Just to recap, we talked on Christmas, got along great, he asked me to write him the next night, I did, and got no response, and you told me I should have waited and made him the one thinking “why isn’t she writing” but since it already happened, how long should I wait, 3 to 5 days?
Tania

December 29, 2013 at 4:56 pm

Hi Chris,
I just wanted to give you an update about how I am doing.
I am the girl that had a plane ticket to visit his ex on Christmas and wasn’t able to contact him in almost any way (no internet, no sms,…just wifi if he had).
Well, when I first met him it was a little akward because I didn’t know how to react. We went inside a room and talked a little bit while his family was celebrating. It seems like he was really repentant of his decision after a week and told me he was a stupid and a jerk. He understood that I was a little mad with him, but we got back together…and engaged! I really didn’t see that coming. Now I have to tell my family about it when I return to my country. I think your guide helped me a lot while I was an emotion wreck and it will help me a lot in the future 🙂

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