154 thoughts on “The Complete Guide To Understanding Your Boyfriend”

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   Beth

   August 12, 2013 at 2:55 am

   So far, your plan is working well for me. 🙂 I finished NC over a month ago, and have been following your plan ever since. Now he compliments me every day and texts me about all kinds of stuff! I’m into the “inspire jealousy” part, and I know he’s thinking about me every day. Lately, he initiates most of our contact and I’m starting to wonder if he’s read your site, too!
   If we do get back together, I’m concerned about communicating effectively. He feels things deeply but doesn’t like to talk about it (surprise!) and I was not expecting our break-up. Will your new ebook address this? How to help your man feel comfortable about opening up? Thanks in advance.
   Best part is, because of NC, I am casually dating two other men, and the reminder that other “fish” find me attractive is a real confidence-booster.

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   admin

   August 13, 2013 at 2:03 am

   This is AWESOME. Do you mind if I use your comment for proof that the NC rule can work and the stuff I am saying can work?

   The new ebook doesn’t address that I am afraid to say. It is just about how to get your ex back. HOWEVER, once everything is live I am planning on writing an add-on to the ebook that covers exactly everything you are asking about there.

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   Beth

   August 13, 2013 at 7:20 pm

   Feel free to use my comments. I’m in a good place emotionally and your site has helped me here. This break-up was tough on me, I felt the loss more deeply than ever before. But even if I don’t get him back, I know I’ll be ok. 🙂 Because if I can feel this for any man, I know I can inspire a man to feel this with me, too. Thanks again. I look forward to your ebook. I’ll let you know when he asks me out. 😉

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   admin

   August 14, 2013 at 2:37 am

   Beth YOU ARE AWESOME!

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   Beth

   August 15, 2013 at 4:41 pm

   Thanks for noticing 😉 So are you!

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   admin

   August 16, 2013 at 2:30 am

   We should just fill up this entire comment thread complimenting eachother!

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   Rukia

   August 11, 2013 at 10:38 am

   Good piece of work

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   admin

   August 12, 2013 at 2:23 am

   Thanks!

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   anna

   August 10, 2013 at 9:13 am

   it will be five days before my nc is over. He has not contacted me at all and seems to be out having lots of fun. then i hear from friends of friends that he feels like our relationship wont work and he has moved on because he feels we fight too much. do you think our relationship is still salvageable even though he supposedly misses me during the time we are apart?

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   admin

   August 10, 2013 at 7:46 pm

   It could be that he is out having fun to not have to face the heartache and pain he is feeling. In all honestly, that is exactly what I would do.

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   Anonima

   August 10, 2013 at 8:51 am

   Now that you’ve admitted to being single, I’m sure you’ll be stormed by admirers wanting a sensitive boyfriend – you better run!

   Just kidding though. It’s a very good article that’s surely helped me see some things much clearer. It was a bit painful to read about the relationship part, but I managed. 😉

   I also want to thank you for making this website and helping people for free. This might require a little story, but in my home country of Denmark, we have a very Scandinavian mindset. It differs greatly from the American or French mindset in that we are brough up being told that we are in no way better than other people. Therefore, through having this seeping deep into our bones every day, it is kind of a taboo wanting to get one’s ex back. You have to accept the defeat and move on, or else you’re pathetic or – in worst cases – friends will tell you to seek a psychiatrist because wanting an ex back is not the norm. I’ve been on both the giving and receiving end of this perception, and it’s incredibly painful when you just love your ex and know that you want a life with them.
   I have never seen you being condescending when you reply to comments, no matter our stories. You tell us to have legal excuses for wantinh our ex back, but I’m sure you know that the majority of us skip that part and just focus on the wanting back-drive. But you don’t judge us. And for that as well as your untiring help and positive attitude mixed with the truth that nobody else dares to tell – thank you so much. No matter what happens between the ex I love and me, you have taught me a lot of things about men, relationships and myself. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
   I wish you all good luck in your life and aspirations.

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   admin

   August 10, 2013 at 7:45 pm

   This has to be the sweetest comment I have ever received!

   It is comments like this that make me wake up every day and work on making this site what it is! I take great pride in the fact that the content I produce is top notch and completely free. I do plan on adding a paid ebook in the near future but I really poured my heart into it and made sure that it is worth every cent someone would pay for it.

   Do you need help with anything in particular?

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   Mandy

   October 13, 2013 at 8:17 am

   hey Chris , it’s me , that Mandy seeking your advice on another post , I just read this post and some comments also and I tend to agree with Anonima , in your approch to women here , and yes I find it fascinating , how you never tell a woman , just leave the guy alone and move on with your life , or you deserve better , even if it seems like the best answer “if you asked me” but you still manage to convince her with the NC , which also I find is a great tactic , because , if it was applied like you advice , I bet in 80% of cases the women in question will end up saying “I am better off without him” . or at least , you can accept that it’s O.K to love him and not to be with him , because the new “enlightened ” you deserve a fresh start with someone new ! if he came back during the process , you can only date him as a new potential boyfriend and never build the new relationship on the wreckage of the former relationship you had together !! in my opinion 🙂 .. and yes Chris you’re amazing , the least to say .

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   admin

   October 13, 2013 at 10:32 pm

   Oh… THAT Mandy…

   jk jk hahaha.

   😉

   Thanks for the kind words.

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   Anonima

   August 10, 2013 at 9:49 pm

   When you do publish the ebook, I’ll be first in line to buy it, no discussion here!

   Anyway, I have already asked you several questions, and you’ve really helped me get better and see things more positively. For the moment I’m on my tenth NC day and I feel amazing. It’s my second attempt at NC, the first one I broke when my ex suddenly asked me out. (He wanted to be FWBs, I declined and started a new NC.) I’ve started working out with a friend, and my body hurts, but I’m happy. And it’s greatly thanks to you too – so I just wanted to tell you that I’m very grateful for all you’ve done. 🙂

   Maybe I’ll be back when I get in contact with him again… We’ll see. But once more THANK YOU SO MUCH. You’re amazing.

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   admin

   August 11, 2013 at 3:36 am

   The E-Book I am hoping to have out in a week or two. It is a big deal for me. I finished it already I am just formatting it (and thats tougher than I thought.)

   Keep going with that progress. Pretty soon it will be me having to defend you from all the guys crawling over themselves just to talk to you 😉

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   Maxie

   August 10, 2013 at 3:06 am

   Thanks for the great article. Really good to see how a relationship comes full circle. My question is (of course lol) in regard to an ex.

   If my ex broke up with me 6 months ago due to personal issues and fighting and NC during that time do you think it’s completely over and i should just move on?

   As far as I know he still hasnt rebounded and just works and hangs out with his buddies…He has spoken about me with friends.

   Is 6 months too long to reconnect, or do you think he could be starting to miss our relationship by now?…Things ended pretty badly and he was too scared to talk to me.

   Any advice would be so awesome.

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   admin

   August 11, 2013 at 2:54 am

   I don’t think it is too late to try.

   I would take things really slowly. Have you read the other monster page on this site? I did my best to go through every step of the ex recovery process.