How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Fall In Love With You Again- Ex Boyfriend Recovery

746 thoughts on “The Definitive Guide To Making Your Ex Boyfriend Love You Again”

Aquarius

July 15, 2014 at 2:12 am

Hi,
I was in a relationship for just under 4yrs, and we had started looking at engagement rings…fast forward 6weeks, we had split up. I was angry as he had gone to uni and we barely talked etc. A wk later after his half brother passed away, that was it he wanted nothing to do with me. After a couple of months he told me he was engaged to somebody else…this girl was fron his previous uni 100s of miles away and he had cheated on me with her.

We didnt speak till my birtgday and anniversary a couple of months later (i instigated this…he had text me before to see how i was but said he didnt want to be with me so i asked him to leave me alone ). This led to a couple of months of us hooking up and me getting him out of a few rough patches. However he said he was in love with this other girl and did not want to be with me. I tried NC for two months…still nothing except him telling me to move on and delete everything of me and him if it makes it easier. That he loved spending time with me but he was happy with his choice. I love this guy and thought we would get married and I still want that. Is there any hope for us…or should i really try to move on as its a lost cause. ( one of the reasons he likes this new girl is because they dont argue…shes stopped talking to her guy mates and deactivated fb…whereas i would argue against this, do as I please as well as sometimes causing arguments for no reason…im willing to do all this now especially stopping arguments from me for no reason as I know where I went wrong…but please I really need help.
Laura

June 23, 2014 at 6:54 pm

Hey,

My boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago and he claims it’s because he doesn’t feel as strongly as he once did. I know what I did to push him away, but we’re in a long distance relationship and I’m having a hard time figuring out how to go about winning him back. I’m afraid if I just ease off, time will pass and he will get over me as opposed to falling for me again. How do I go about this ?

admin

June 24, 2014 at 6:39 pm

How long were you in the LDR?

Sarah

June 23, 2014 at 3:14 am

Hi, my ex and I broke up about two weeks ago but we have been spending time together, like he still doesn’t really mind hanging out with me and our group of friends or even alone really even though I’m usually the one to ask him to hang out (but i will stop this now haha). We were really good friends (to the level of like calling each other bro) for about three years before he started showing an interest in me which I was amazed at because I’ve always liked him in some way, we just have so much in common and I could always be me with him. He broke up with me and he said he just “wasn’t falling in love” with me like he expected to and we just “didn’t work.” But we were, like I could feel it, I was finally so happy to be dating this kid I thought would never ever like me as more than a friend. Another thing he brought up was that I didn’t really talk much. I have like really bad social anxiety and even though I could be comfortable around him, sometimes I just didn’t talk because we were with a group of people and I just get really nervous while talking. Do you have any suggestions or opinions on this situation? I am going to work on my social anxiety super hard now so that after the no contact period he sees that I have made progress with that. Also, how could I make him see that we can “work” again? Obviously he thought that we could before since he showed interest in me and asked me out. He kind of put me in the friend zone a little too. He said “I’m just more comfortable being friends right now” how do I get out of this horrible place??? I was his “friend” before so it’s not hard to be that for him again, it’s just hard to be ONLY a friend now that we were together and obviously had some chemistry. Any suggestions?
Abi

June 22, 2014 at 10:57 pm

Hey Chris!

I did no contact, full 30 days no slips! Starting texting my ex again! Within two weeks he already asked me if I wanted to get back together. We’ve been broken up for two months now. I played it cool told him we needed to talk first and that I didn’t think it was a good idea to just jump right back into things. He called me sobbing, told me before we broke up he started feeling really bad about himself. I know he struggles with self-esteem issues. I feel also though that he tends to play the victim. I comforted him and he said thank you for being here. Then today he did a total 360 and now doesn’t think we should get back together. However, I know he’s playing games with me because he wants me to pursue him. I fell for it for a minute then realized what he was doing. I am an ungettable and I will not be pursuing him. Should I go into more no contact? What do you suggest?

admin

June 23, 2014 at 2:19 pm

Well, then go into NC for a little longer. Cut him off for a bit.
Abi

June 22, 2014 at 11:25 pm

Also, you wrote this in one of your guides, “In fact, I think that the only way that begging ever works is if the ex boyfriend/boyfriend wants you to beg because it makes him feel better and more powerful. ” I think this is what my ex wants me to do. However, I’m not going to beg but I feel as thought this is an accurate representation of what he wants.

Janele

June 19, 2014 at 3:14 pm

He broke up with me 2 weeks ago, and said that he loves me and cares very much about me, but he just wasn’t in love with me. We both need to get our lives on track and figure some things out, but I truly believe that he’s the one. We’ve established NC until “he’s where he wants to be in his life” which could be 1-4 years.

My question is, I want to stay in his mind during our time apart. Would it be okay/good to send him a very small birthday gift & Christmas gift later this year with a small note that says “Don’t forget your promise.”? Gifts would be super small but hit on memories we had together – a salt shaker and air freshener from some inside jokes/stories we had that were important to him.

Thanks!

admin

June 21, 2014 at 7:18 pm

No I wouldn’t do this…
Janele

June 22, 2014 at 3:00 am

Thanks for the feedback, but could you elaborate as to your thought process? Why do you think I should not?
admin

June 22, 2014 at 3:45 pm

B/c it’s too strong and it is a clear indication that you are still thinking about him A LOT.
Janele

June 22, 2014 at 10:52 pm

You’re right… it’s just difficult to wait for him to contact me. It could be years, and I can’t wait that long. I can’t text him or call him – is there anything you think I could do that wouldn’t come across as too obvious?

cris

May 28, 2014 at 6:35 pm

this is a tough one and i must confess i had 2 beers before being able to think and ask this: could a degenerative disease (like MS) keep an ex-bf that still loves you (as he said) away from you?

that is because today was the world MS day and i had this status on im: “the orange ribbon opposes cruelty against animals and is a symbol for multiple sclerosis/cancer/lupus/leukemia awareness.”

PS: we both love animals and think they are much worth than humans.

admin

May 31, 2014 at 3:20 pm

I suppose its not out of the realm of possibility.

Mariam

May 25, 2014 at 6:56 am

hi,
I need your advice. in order to get a exactly good advise is to tell you about my mistakes, before coming and during relationship with my BF i had many affairs and i lied to him a lot, because of it he took revenge on me by being relationship with my Best Friend. we were in a relationship for 4 year and after 6 months we broke up and we are apart since 8 months now. he is my friend now like a friend zone you said in your article. but in your article friendzone leads on step to to get notice and go on to date with someone. it makes him angry i dint do it yet but i know because of my mistakes i have done. if i do he will no longer in my friendzone and he will be dating other just to get on me. he deleted me on fb because i am too commanding and i know he has friends(girls) but i just dont know how to cope with it. how i should give him a impression or feeling or action to add me again in fb not letting him see that i am being annoyed or commanding or angry. i jut wanted to be the only girl for him and i want him to marry me. but he put the condition on it that he will marry me unless i get hypnotized and tell every bit of truth. Honestly, i dont want him to know my bitter past i dont even remember what and how much i have done. i know the major things but little things we always forget. if i let him do it he knows the bad things then i will have no respect for my self at all. plz help me plz reply admin plzzzzz
cris

May 13, 2014 at 5:46 pm

broke a 4 year relationship (we are two very complicated, antisocial and egoistic persons that are intelligent and good looking) and 1 and a half year later of basically not talking, we started being bed-buddies. when we are together, it’s the best time ever, we watch tv, cook or have dinner in the city, but in the morning i have to go and it breaks my heart…

he did told me when we started seeing again that he enjoys not being in a relationship and not having any strings attached and i am only fun.

last year, for his birthday, i called him over and had champagne and strawberries and cream, for my birthday, we went out, and on the way back to his place, in the bus, while holding me by the waist, he even kissed my head!!! (he never did that on our official relationship)
this year, he didn’t want to do anything for his birthday and i didn’t push it, but we have a date on saturday, for my birthday.

any advice?

PS: his best friend is single (i never ever heard of him having a girlfriend or wanting to have someone) and is a hater that really believes the best of himself (he’s balding… and is not pretty or smart). and my ex never told his best friend he was dating a girl (after we broke up) or seeing me.

but he did tell his mom not to come over in the morning (because she hates me for breaking her son’s heart) since he’s having a girl over. and i have a toothbrush and moisturizer in his cabinet.

admin

May 14, 2014 at 3:55 pm

Hahahahahahaha antisocial, egotistic, intelligent and good looking.

That is one hell of a combination.

….. so is your relationship physical at all?
cris

May 26, 2014 at 4:41 am

the date was nice, but i think he may be trying to date someone new.

should i casually wear an engagement ring (it was a gift from my aunt back when me&him were together) on my middle finger (since it’s large) when i see him next time and say absolutely nothing about it?

there is a chance he’ll remember the ring, but what if he doesn’t?
i don’t wear rings everyday because i operate with chemicals and do surgery.
cris

May 14, 2014 at 5:20 pm

if you call that relationship, yes.
but how do i do to take this situation to a level of so-called normality?
or at least to make him reconsider being with me and not “being single”.

kiyah

April 29, 2014 at 3:08 pm

My ex broke up with me about three weeks ago. He said he lost feelings but still cares theb he said he wanted to fix his self because i had mentally broke him down. It makes no sense abd i wish hr would have told me the real reason. But anyways he texted ne the night we broke up but i was sleep the he kept initiating contact afterwards. He even kissed me and all that stuff when he picked me up from work. But now im just at the point where i want him to come back but if he doesn’t ill be ffine. I want to try to get him back but he barely talks to me now and i dont text him first unless its an emergency. He asked if i hated him i said no then i asked back and he never responded. Wth is up with that? He said he could see us dating in the future etc. He said he cares but i honestly dont think he does anymore. He still does things for me but i think he just is out of pity. I dont know what to do at this point anymore, any advice? Or if you need more details just ask .
Emily

April 29, 2014 at 7:05 am

I love all your articles and have read all of them! I just was really wondering if this was a good message to send my ex who broke up with me. “Hey! I saw Cinderella come on earlier. Reminded me of funny it was that time we replayed it just to see that cat run down the stairs ten million times. We felt like little kids so much hahaha hope you’re doing okay! (:” I have already sent him a message after the no contact period wishing him luck at the new school he’s attending. He said thank you and that was it, nothing else was said between us. I sent that message about 3 weeks ago and haven’t heard anything since. He posted a status on Facebook saying “I’m apologize to anyone I have hurt” and then liked a picture I posted (he hasn’t liked anything of mine or contacted me since the breakup). A week and or two went by and now he is practically dating this new girl, or they’re going to date. I have no clue what to do next. Is it too soon for that message? We have been broken up since valentines day. Please help me I really care about him and want him back. Thank you for everything! -Emily

admin

April 30, 2014 at 1:14 am

All of them?

Really?

I like the text message but find a way to shorten it and still pack the same punch.

Nami

April 28, 2014 at 3:43 pm

Hello!
My 8 months long distance boyfriend broke up with me one month ago. He told me that he doesn’t love me anymore, i should move on and after time i will be happy. I feel terrible because both of us spend a lot of money to see eatch other and he made me a lot of promises.
After he broke up with me i didn’t talk to him or chase him. I went to NC but after 38 days he didn’t send me any messages, He doesn’t delete me from facebook. I really wish to know if there is any possibility for us to get back together.

admin

April 30, 2014 at 12:54 am

Sure there is always the possibility. Ask yourself though, is he worth the effort to try to get back?

Airanisa

April 23, 2014 at 9:48 pm

It’s stupid of me to still keep my boyfriend even when he’s openly cheating on me. I love him that much. 🙁 He told me he just really enjoys her company because of the thrill of it. I know he’s bored with our relationship already. I just can’t let him go. We’re still together, but he said he won’t disregard his relationship with the other girl even if he loves me. What do I do? I don’t think I can handle breaking up with him. I don’t want to give the other girl that benefit.

admin

April 24, 2014 at 4:04 pm

Look, its highly likely you will get cheated on again.

Do you want that?
Airanisa

April 28, 2014 at 2:57 pm

What do I do then? Should I break up with my openly cheating boyfriend already?
admin

April 28, 2014 at 3:32 pm

Ultimate decision is up to you but I would if I was in your position.

Airanisa

April 23, 2014 at 8:33 am

Chris, my boyfriend is openly cheating on me and is still keeping me. He always reassures me his love but he wouldn’t leave her for me. We’re still together and breaking up isn’t in any of my options. What do I do to make him settle with just me? What do I do to make him disregard the other girl? Because I seriously hate sharing.

admin

April 23, 2014 at 4:07 pm

Yet you are openly keeping him???

Why?

He is cheating on you?

Airanisa

April 23, 2014 at 12:28 am

Chris, how do I take him back from the other girl and get him to settle with just me without having to break up with him?

admin

April 23, 2014 at 3:56 pm

I am confused… are you dating him currently?

Sally

April 22, 2014 at 11:54 pm

Hey Chris, I had messaged you previously. I may be in danger of being friend zoned. Could you please do a guide on how to get out of the friend zone?

admin

April 23, 2014 at 3:53 pm

I think thats a perfect idea for a guide!!!!

Robi

April 12, 2014 at 5:18 pm

Hi chris and as we say in frensh ” Chapeau bas”!
wanna ask you: how to get an ex Back if he’s playing smart… otherword he is assuming and knowing everystep i do and behaviors upon this fact. !!!

admin

April 13, 2014 at 4:33 pm

What does chapeau bas mean???

And give me an example of how he is predicting things.

Iris

April 10, 2014 at 11:31 am

Hey Chris!

It’s been a while! Remember how last week was my birthday? Yeah, he didn’t remember I guess, he didn’t text me, or call me and stuff. I’m a little worried about something tho. So yesterday, he met another girl online while I was there. I’m just worried that maybe he’ll be attracted to her. He kinda was saying like sexual jokes to her and stuff, here’s one thing he said “Hey ****** you’re making my boner go down!” Before he met her tho…he was like acting all cute and stuff towards me, and kinda teasing me. Honestly I’m kinda stuck…yesterday he did text me tho, he sent me a meme. Could I get some help on where I should start off? I’m like really stuck right now. Most importantly I wanna know about him and the girl he met/ where I should start off with him to get him back.
Thank you! 🙂
Heather

April 6, 2014 at 8:25 am

Alright so I admit I’ve never written on one of these things before, I’ve read a lot of your blogs and now I want to pick your brain a little further. So I was dating this guy for 3 months all seemed great then he pulled the hudini didn’t hear from him no official break up just done. Well I decided to use your no contact rule right away month later hudini makes first contact. We have talked a little here a little there for months and after about 3 months got to face to face contact. Now that were face to face he brings up tons of past memories and always seems to touch me always smiles n what not, then I don’t hear from him for days. But he always contacts first I always try to get him to come to me. Well last face to face he held my hand, kissed my forehead and kissed me, then again didn’t hear from him for days. Now he is offering to give a helping hand when I move. This has been a 6 month process so far, and I guess my question is… does it seem like I’m getting somewhere or is he leaving me hanging?
Emma

April 5, 2014 at 3:59 pm

Ok, i have just read all you advice.. Good stuff.. My ex was head over heals for me. Chased me until I finaaly fell for him.. Just after which an ex of his turns up after a few years and declares that he was the love of her life.. At which point he got confused and decided he wanted to be alone.. Because he had doubts!! The ex had spoke to him about all the good times they had had, arousing nostalgia!! She used tactics you described above I suppose.. Do I let it play out and hope that he realises that after their time apart they actually have nothing in common?! And hoping he’ll find his way back to me!! Or do I actively try to get him? I broke the general rule in messaging him first before. Now should I wait for his message? We also go to the same places so it’s very likely I will see him. Thanks

admin

April 6, 2014 at 5:11 pm

I wonder if she read this site…. God that would be horrible.

Do you think you could be happy with him if you got him back?

jay

April 2, 2014 at 9:15 am

Hi chris..
I met this guy abt one and a half month ago online. We starting texting each other every single day. I can tell that we are madly in love as he told me his feeling for gettting stronger everyday and so do i. Then one day we decide to meet and since after that he keep distance from me. Lack of messages. I felt like he only giving message coz he have too not he want. Then im asking him why, he say he was bz and confused after meeting me. Then without wasting my time, i say its ok. I back off coz i know he doesnt like me anymore. Then he answered he nvr saying that he doesnt like me n pls stop think negatively. But if that happen, he still want to remain as friend. I was very hurting whn he saying that. I dont get it what he meant? He still loving me or not? Or he just acting nicely? Should i let him go and move on? I hate to do that coz im already fall in love with him. Please do help me.

admin

April 2, 2014 at 5:49 pm

IN the moment he definitely meant it. He probably still has feelings fo ryou.

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