The Definitive Guide To Using Facebook To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

779 thoughts on “Using Facebook To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back”

Aly

December 6, 2013 at 7:38 pm

Its been two weeks since he broke up with me and we dont talk to each other since then, but I realy belive that he loves me and cares about me, but thinks that if we get back everything is going to be the same.
I realy changed my old habits that made me push he away, and Im ready to start again, but how can I show it to him?
I though he would come talk to me, but nothing happend.
I want to talk to him, and Im afraid to wait 30 days. Im running against time, because I belive we can be together in the New Year’s party.
Do u have some tips to me? He lives in a town 2 hours from here, and facebook and text messages are the only thing I can do.

admin

December 7, 2013 at 7:25 pm

You might find it helpful to check out the long distance relationship guide.

dee

December 6, 2013 at 6:27 am

Hi again…you gave me sound advice a couple of months ago….no contact you said!!..well could I do that?….nooooo. I could manage a week at most!.
Anyway about two weeks ago my text to him incited a monster text fight…btw we havent spoken, he broke up via text and unfriended and blocked me immediately.
At the end of the fight I got a half hearted “sorry for everything”.!
Fast forward to last night….low and behold..a facebook friend request !! WTF!!
What does this mean?
A. Hes messing with my head
B. He thinks alls well and we can now be friends
Or C. He wants me back
???
What do you think???

admin

December 6, 2013 at 8:00 pm

I don’t think its ever that black or white…

Why did you only last a week you think? I think your too reliant on him and that is not always a good thing for getting him back.
dee

December 8, 2013 at 1:40 pm

I couldn’t last longer than a week because he screwed with my head. He broke up by vague text never actually spelling it out or saying it was over. Hw refused all calls and 99% of texts. He has never spoken a word to me since the bizarre dumping two mmonths ago. I was sent crazy. Im moving on fast though but still would like another chance.
But….I did the right thing and didnt respond to his facebook request. That was only three days ago. Today he cancelled the request and blocked me again. I cant win. Now Im a mess again.

Vikki

December 6, 2013 at 1:10 am

I wish I found this a few weeks ago, I already deleted him! 🙁
delyth james

December 4, 2013 at 5:47 pm

Me again . Ive not heard off him and its been three weeks . Ive not text him either but not done anything for me . Ive bn staying in doors and getting upset. He said three weeks ago he feels I want narriage and kids now but hes not ready . Honestly do u think ive lost him for good . Im scated he will never contact me again . I cant stop thinking about him and the fact he liedand led me on for a year and half .

admin

December 5, 2013 at 1:24 am

Have you read my latest guide?
delyth james

December 5, 2013 at 7:20 am

What latest guide . No I havnt. I did bbuy yoyr ebook but cudnt read it . . Have I lost him for gd . I dnt know wat to do
admin

December 5, 2013 at 6:57 pm

I remember. I refunded your purchase actually.

Either the latest guide on trust or the guide I am working on now which will come out pretty soon.
delyth james

December 5, 2013 at 11:45 pm

Will ur new guide help my situation . Im stuck I dont know wat to do dont want to push him further away
admin

December 6, 2013 at 7:42 pm

I think it will be insightful but it may not match up perfectly with what your situation is.
delyth james

December 6, 2013 at 10:52 pm

So shall i cobtinue with nc . As ive been advised by another website ti send a no contact tect. The guy who advised this is steve Williams ( how to get ur ex bavk ).
admin

December 7, 2013 at 7:40 pm

I am not familiar with Steve but I say do whatever you feel is right!
delyth james

December 8, 2013 at 11:30 am

What would you advise. I need a plan . Its been a month of no contact x
delyth james

December 9, 2013 at 10:38 pm

Saying what . Im not ready for text it says on uour website 30-90 days x
admin

December 8, 2013 at 7:09 pm

Looks like its time to contact him via a text message.
delyth james

December 6, 2013 at 4:49 pm

I really need your help like kai . I dont know what to do
admin

December 6, 2013 at 8:13 pm

Dont be so reliant on him. That is the biggest problem I see. You aren’t putting enough stock in yourself.

Cassie

December 4, 2013 at 3:45 pm

Hey,

so I just noticed my ex all the sudden changed everything on his facebook. untagged photos with me, changed his profile picture, finally took his relationship status down, it’s been almost 2.5 months, and im wondering if this may mean is struggling with moving on? missing me? thanks!

admin

December 5, 2013 at 1:20 am

It may mean that. Is he usually active on Facebook?
Cassie

December 5, 2013 at 4:17 am

no. he normally doesn’t care about fb or do anything on it whatsoever. actually I think he kind of even dreads it. he doesn’t even untag unflattering photos. i was the first girl who asked him to “fb offish”. which direction does that push you? and if in a favorable one for me, what next moves do u suggest?

thanks!
admin

December 5, 2013 at 6:43 pm

I think its positive then!
Cassie

December 5, 2013 at 7:54 pm

Thank you 🙂 You’re great 😉

Do I let him mull it over/work it all out now…do you think he may arrive at all the right conclusions himself?
admin

December 6, 2013 at 7:17 pm

At this point yes!
Cassie

December 7, 2013 at 10:16 pm

thank you 🙂

at this point should I break no contact at all? Ive read in some of your other answers that going without communication/contact too long isn’t a good idea. though it’d be nice if he did it. also, before he changed his facebook, i texted happy thanksgiving to no avail.

I feel like it could be brewing in a positive way 🙂 but want to handle it correctly.
admin

December 8, 2013 at 6:43 pm

I think breaking NC is a decision up to you but I don’t see a lot of successes with women who break it way too early.

Liz

December 3, 2013 at 3:41 pm

Is there any way you can shoot me an email? I’d like your advice but prefer it wasn’t a public post.
Thx

admin

December 3, 2013 at 8:09 pm

Unfortunately I don’t answer emails anymore it was too much for me.

Tina

December 1, 2013 at 11:36 pm

Hi Chris,

Thanks for the article. I have a bit of a problem because he deleted me. Is he over me already?

We broke up almost 2 months ago. I’m not sure who initiated it. In my version of the story, he’s the one who broke up with me. The thing is I felt he was ignoring me and so distant while I was staying with him while I was looking for a new apartment (we never moved in together, I just moved out of my old place so he insisted that I stay with him until I find a new place). I did for a few weeks. We never really fought, but he just got cold, so I told him how I felt about that. One night he didnt come home and didnt call to let me know. I felt it was a sign I needed to leave his place, and I did. I left him a note, he texted me and said he needed time to think. We didn’t break up yet at that point, but he rarely texted or called. For over a month, I lost patience, I went to his place to pick up all my stuff that I left there. I told him this means I lost hope in our relationship ever working out. Then he called and said a lot of confusing things, bringing up his ex and how our situation reminded him of her (he got me pregnant and I miscarried; he got her pregnant when they were together but she had an abortion). So I guess he broke up with me.

We didnt talk for a few weeks until I texted him about some paperwork that I left at his place, he responded normally, but after a few text exchange our relationship came up again and I told him I didn’t want to hear his excuse. He said ok. I somehow couldn’t believe it that he didnt care at all about my miscarriage and couldn’t have the courtesy to call or text to ask how I was doing, so I thought maybe he thought I lied about the pregnancy (I told him about the pregnancy after I decided to leave his place). Because I still cared about what he thought of me, I wrote him a message on Facebook explaining him my complications that led to a miscarriage. I didn’t expect a response from him because I made my message sound like its my final words to him. I saw that it was read day later. Then about 10 days after that he deleted me. I just don’t get how he could be so cruel. I post a lot on Facebook (I have thousands of followers) but never anything about our breakup to bother him. Does this mean that he’s moving on? Does it mean he doesn’t want to have anything to do with me again? Is there a chance of us getting back together?

admin

December 2, 2013 at 6:53 pm

No it just means he is going through the regular breakup stuff. I wouldn’t be shocked if you got a friend request in the future haha.

Mamypoko

December 1, 2013 at 9:43 am

We broke up 3 weeks ago. we are long distance. (I live in Thailand and he lives in Norway ). We met in Thailand and I also went to Oslo to visit him and his family. Problem is I am a super jealous and he thinks I’m trying to control his life ,he still have some feeling to me at the moment. And he’s coming to Thailand in January for short trip and mayb meet me. We still chat on fb everyday but that’s it, nothing special. He claimed that he want to be alone for now, working and playing games with his clan mates then I read your advice, I want to try NC because I think I still have some chance to get him back. What do u think? Do u think is it possible to renew?

admin

December 1, 2013 at 7:00 pm

Sure! and I think Nc is a definite must. Have you seen my LDR guide yet?

Roz

November 28, 2013 at 6:39 pm

Hi!
I’m past 30 days NC, sent the 1st text, got a positive response and cut the convo. How long do I have to wait before I can add him back as a friend on Facebook? I deleted him a week before I started NC…
Also, how long should I wait before getting in a conversation with him? I know I’m meant to take it slow 🙂 Is 2-3 days between the steps long enough?
I’m excited 🙂
Thank you for your blogs! 🙂

admin

November 29, 2013 at 2:01 am

Well initially 2-3 days is what you want but you slowly want to have more frequent conversations.

confused

November 24, 2013 at 11:46 pm

I new my ex in high school. We lost contact once we went off to college. Then beginning of this year we bumped unto each other on the metro and never exchanged numbers. Then Several months later he connected with me on FB and asked me out. We talked every day and had wonderful times going out with each other. We talked about the future together but then an ex called him saying she had his baby and things went down hill from there. I was trying to be understanding but he thought i would intentionally upset him but he was stressed..then right when everything seemed to be getting back to normal and he was going to come over and see me (his idea) the next day I have not heard from him since. I sent several text messages but i stopped. He keeps liking my FB statuses even though I have not heard from him in almost 2 weeks. Why is he doing that? Why not talk to me but yet still like my posts?I call him my ex as we never exactly broke up by saying it and im hurt but i am not going contact him at all. you think he likes things to get under my skin or to let me know he is still there ? so confused.. what to do?

admin

November 25, 2013 at 7:40 pm

Maybe he is likign them as a way to kind of tell you that he wants to talk.. Or maybe he just likes what your posting haha.
confused

November 26, 2013 at 8:35 am

I know, whole thing is just ridiculous. The posts he likes, no one else does and they are about how well I am doing with school or how I am feeling. Nothing particular . I just find it odd that he wont talk but still finds the need to do that.

anonymously_yours

November 21, 2013 at 1:16 am

A cheating ex-boyfriend just blocked me on all social network. What does that mean?

admin

November 21, 2013 at 3:51 am

Did you tear into him after you found out he cheated?
anonymously_yours

November 21, 2013 at 6:31 am

He was asking for a break up. He confessed he had cheated. I asked for explanations he ignored. He said he doesn’t love me anymore but there’s no someone else. Said it was him not me. From a guys perspective, why do you think he’s doing all these?
admin

November 21, 2013 at 7:37 pm

Did he tell you how many women he cheated with?
anonymously_yours

November 21, 2013 at 7:40 pm

Yea, he said he slept with 2 women
admin

November 22, 2013 at 7:07 pm

Do you think it was a one time thing or he will continuously do it?
anonymously_yours

November 22, 2013 at 7:15 pm

He said he’s done it to his previous ex. But when he confessed and break up with me, he said he doesn’t want to do it to me at least. I don’t know what he meant by that. He’s been focusing in church and in school. So I guess he’s willing to change?

Maya

November 19, 2013 at 7:10 am

Thank you so much for the post, it really opened my mind. I’ve been in no contact for almost a year, he never contacted back me either. do you think that’s too long and there’s no hopes?

admin

November 19, 2013 at 7:07 pm

Your welcome.

And no there is still hope just be patient.
Maya

November 20, 2013 at 3:41 am

Do you think I, the dumpee, should reach out first after I’ve worked on myself and become my bestest self? btw, what you’re doing is amazing and I know it comes from the heart because you’re so active on this site, answering every single question and more. I really respect that. Your works are also very detailed. I know you’ve put a lot of effort into it because it is more helpful and informative than any program I’ve had before. thank you.
admin

November 20, 2013 at 5:43 pm

I think the ideal way is for him to contact you but I have learned through experience that in the end just communicating with him is what matters. So, its not good to have pride about it.
Maya

November 21, 2013 at 2:50 am

hmmm wow I see.

Sammy

November 18, 2013 at 10:40 pm

My Boyfriend of nearly two years split up with me 3 days ago. I was a text gnat and in my hurt and anger have unfriended him on fb. I have since sent a request to be friends again (which he hasn’t accepted).

I sent him a message on fb which he picked up and never replied to and I sent another that he has since not seen.

Now as of yesterday he I have had NC and intend to stay that way. However, he has not changed his fb profile picture of me and him. Is that a good sign? Especially as he has seen my message after he broke up with me. Also do you think that he will friend me again?

My FB is closed so he can only see minimal details of me and nothing on my timeline. Should i regularly change my profile picture incase he does tart stalking?

admin

November 19, 2013 at 6:21 pm

I don’t see the harm as long as your new profile picture looks really good.

meriem

November 18, 2013 at 3:44 pm

my boyfriend left me 6 months ago because we had too much fights i admit i’m too controling and too jealous and eventhough he loved me too much but he just can’t stand it anymore so he dumped me i begged him and cried for long.then i tried some tricks thet i learnt here and there he was about to get back with me so many times but when we get close again i accidently start a fight because of a coment of some girl on his facebook so he changed his mind again and swore that he will not come back and tell me go and find someone else he said he still love me and i know that because he is not over me eventhough we fight and w’r apart fo 6 month now but we are in contact and now i’m triying no contact it’s 16days now and i didn’t hear anything from him.what do you think does he find someone else or what!!

admin

November 18, 2013 at 7:16 pm

Do you think he has found another girl?
meriem

November 20, 2013 at 4:18 pm

yes i think so because in the last month i felt that he is no longer intresting in me he said don’t call me let’s just talk in facebook i said yes in the beginning but then he did’t show up for 3 days when a asked he said i’m busy and kept it like that 2 times a week just in facebook and when i called him he ignore my calls at first and then answer but he did never call me like before and sometimes i find his phone busy when i asked him is there anyone else or did he start dating he swear that non of this is hapenning but i didn’t believe because his actions changed and now i’m on my 18days no contact and he didn’t call nor text before when i went no contact he called me after 2 or 3 days.what do you think!!
admin

November 20, 2013 at 6:07 pm

What do I think about what?
meriem

November 20, 2013 at 6:45 pm

i mean about the whole situation if there is another girl in his life now what do i do to get him back! or it’s just too late!!
admin

November 21, 2013 at 6:00 pm

Is the other girl a rebound?
meriem

November 21, 2013 at 7:07 pm

i don’t know he said no but according too his actions i knew that he was talking to other girls.aahh today he called me 2 times and i didn’t answer what do think it’s a good sign right or not!! i think he start feeling that he’s loosing me that’s why he call me today eventhough he just texted me last night
admin

November 22, 2013 at 7:08 pm

I think its more of a neutral sign.
meriem

November 22, 2013 at 7:10 pm

what should i do now to know the truth!!
meriem

December 4, 2013 at 1:38 pm

i think he is triying to make me his friend what should i do should i ignore him when i found him on fb to make him call me or what i’m really afraid that the 30 days didn’t work out because he doesn’t tell me i miss you or i was worry about you or anything ge just talk with me about his problems that’s it.what do you think!! i need help because i’m so afraid to blow it up again
meriem

December 3, 2013 at 6:43 pm

so today i was about to reply on his msg on fb and gess what he was there i said hi and in my mind i was gowing to make it a short conversation as i could but he started talking to me about his problems with his family and i couln’t leave until we finished talking and when i told him i should leauve now he said ok take care he didn’t even try to make me stay a little more is that bad or good what do you think!!
meriem

November 30, 2013 at 3:46 pm

i have 2 days left and my 30 days is over it’s on monday and i’m so afraid that he forgot about me and move on because i feel like it’s been forever i’m gonna send a msg first what do you think it’s better or should i just call him!!
meriem

November 27, 2013 at 9:11 pm

he did not call or send any msgs anymore what is this is that a bad sign!!
admin

November 28, 2013 at 5:15 am

Initially its not great but its not horrible just give it some time.
admin

November 23, 2013 at 6:50 pm

What do you mean?
meriem

November 22, 2013 at 7:27 pm

and if this is a neutral sign what is the good sign!!
admin

November 23, 2013 at 6:53 pm

Its not good but its not bad.. it’s just neutral.
meriem

November 20, 2013 at 7:01 pm

oh now he send me a msg in facebook sayin i hope you’r doing just fine it’s a good sign right!! what should i do now reply or keep hiding until 30 days!!
admin

November 21, 2013 at 6:04 pm

Complete your 30 days.

Sue

November 15, 2013 at 1:07 pm

Hi Chris,

I messaged my ex on facebook congratulating him for completing his last year of uni. Its been 3 months no contact and he hasn’t replied. Did I take the wrong approach?

admin

November 15, 2013 at 8:10 pm

You may have been in NC for a bit too long.
Sue

November 15, 2013 at 9:29 pm

So, is there anything I can do? Or have I blown my chances completely?
admin

November 16, 2013 at 8:40 pm

You haven’t blown your chances completely but I really think the smartest thing for you to do is to look inwards and see how you can improve yourself to become better from this.
Sue

November 17, 2013 at 2:07 am

Improve myself as in improve other aspects of my life before I think about reconnecting with him?
admin

November 17, 2013 at 8:06 pm

Yes mam. Self improvement is key and you may find you migh tnot even want him back anymore.

anonymous

November 14, 2013 at 10:05 pm

How can I make my ex boyfriend jealous and back to me if he blocked me of Facebook? We broke up few days ago, he said he’s not happy anymore that he has no faith in our relationship anymore. I deleted him first on Facebook because I was hurt then the next day I found out he blocked me because my friends could still view his profile. When he was breaking up with me through text, I asked him for reasons and explanations but there were no answer, I even called him nonstop. The next day I told him to call me, but he didnt. Then I texted him, “if you talk to me sooner , the sooner you’ll get rid of me.” and bunch of messages asking for reasons and explanations. Few hours later he called me back. He said he doesn’t love me anymore, he”s not happy anymore and he doesn’t know where our relationship is going (no more faith as what he said). While listening to him, he said that he’s not the guy for me, because I deserve someone much better. I argued, then he said, he can’t be the right guy for me because he cheats. I was shocked to hear that. He said he wasn’t supposed to tell me about the cheating part, but I urged him to tell it. He said slept with two different girls. His reason was 1) because we dont see that much often; he always say he’s busy and all with school stuff. 2) he likes the pleasure he gets doing it. He also confessed that he cheated with his girlfriend before me. The last thing he said was I should forget about him and move on. with this kind of situation, is there still a chance that we could get back together? or should I just move on and totally forget about him. Yeah, he cheated but I love him still and I do believe that he needs help with himself.

admin

November 15, 2013 at 5:48 pm

May I ask you a question. If he cheated on you with his ex why do you want him back?

He sounds kind of like a jerk to me.
anonymous

November 15, 2013 at 7:11 pm

He didn’t say he cheated with his ex. He just slept with two different women. He said that’s how he is because of the pleasure it gives and he couldn’t understand himself. He said he loved me at some point and tried to control himself but because we don’t see each other much often, it happened. We always fought but we always talked about it. On our last fight we talked about having more communication and affection and we’re on the process of that. But on the day he broke up with me, he said he’s been thinking of us lately and he doesn’t know where we’re heading, that he has no more faith on us anymore.

I don’t even know why I want him back. I just have this feeling that he is so lost and needs help. I want him to find himself again, and I know he can;t do it by himself, I just want to be with him to support him.
admin

November 16, 2013 at 8:02 pm

Well, I think it is also ok for you to look out for yourself. Do you think getting him back would be best for your life?
anonymous

November 16, 2013 at 8:54 pm

Well… Right now, because it is so recent, yeah I want to get him back. A lot of people say he’s worthless and all but I don’t understand myself why after everything he did, I still want to be with him. But I’m not sure he wants me back. He said to forget about me and move on. I really love him so much, he became my bestfriend and all. before he would get say things like i motivate him in school. He said he tend to get peer pressured most of the time and he cant control himself. should I believe him when he said he wont get into relationship after me? I have this feeling that he is just as lost as before. I dont know if he still wants me back.
admin

November 17, 2013 at 7:07 pm

Well then that lends more credence to the theory that you need to be more patient I suppose.
anonymous

November 17, 2013 at 9:15 pm

He said when we broke up that he has been thinking about us lately then he decided that we should end it.. He said he just doesn’t love me anymore. There was no other woman, and it was him not me. He even said he lied about his feelings later. He mentioned he cheated and ending our relationship be better. Does that mean there’s no more chance in getting back together?
admin

November 18, 2013 at 5:54 pm

No it doesn’t mean that but you are gogin to have to be patient.
anonymous

November 19, 2013 at 6:16 pm

Isn’t that understandable? I mean that was the day of our break up. I was asking for explanations that he couldn’t say. He just said that if I think through it, he knows I wouldn’t want to be with him.
anonymous

November 20, 2013 at 6:29 pm

That’s what I don’t understand. Because of what he did, he thinks of himself as “monster”.
admin

November 21, 2013 at 5:57 pm

Either that or he is being over dramatic..
admin

November 20, 2013 at 5:10 pm

How would he know what you are thinking though?
anonymous

November 17, 2013 at 11:03 pm

I don’t know what to do.. My mind has been over the place since the breakup. What do U suggest on doing?
admin

November 18, 2013 at 6:06 pm

First things first, focus on getting your mind in a more logical vs emotional place.
anonymous

November 18, 2013 at 7:03 pm

thats what he said when he was breaking up with me. He said I was just being emotional at everything thats why I think we can still make it work. By him saying that, does that mean he really doesn’t want to be with me anymore?
admin

November 19, 2013 at 5:44 pm

Well, I constantly talk about the dangers of being overemotional and it seems this was your exes biggest beef.
anonymous

November 15, 2013 at 7:26 pm

He said he won’t get into any relationship.. he also reasoned why he want to break up is because he doesn’t want to cheat again on me.
admin

November 16, 2013 at 8:20 pm

I think he is just telling you a line.. But its ok he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings again.
anonymous

November 16, 2013 at 8:57 pm

i dont get it.. He’s just telling me a line? He was lying when he said that?
admin

November 17, 2013 at 6:59 pm

It’s possible but maybe there is more to it that you don’t know yet.
anonymous

November 17, 2013 at 8:00 pm

Yea, thats what I’m feeling too.. But could it be that why he broke up with me was because he was guilty of what he did?
admin

November 18, 2013 at 5:40 pm

Its very possible it could be.
anonymous

November 14, 2013 at 10:10 pm

It was our second time getting back together. We broke up the first time because he cheated and change of faith. To me, that was understandable, he regretted what he did and wanted to change. But after he got out of the church, he came back to me asking to be friends and saying he has feelings for me still. We got back together, telling me he still loves me and misses me. He also said that he might make mistakes again (sleeping with other women) but he’ll make sure not to because that’s how much he loves me. Now I’m confused. I don’t know what should I feel anymore.
anonymous

November 14, 2013 at 10:30 pm

what do you think is his reason in blocking me?
admin

November 15, 2013 at 5:49 pm

Did you turn into a text gnat on him? Maybe he is just upset about the whole breakup.
anonymous

November 15, 2013 at 7:15 pm

I did turn into a text gnat the next day because he didn’t give me a clear explanation about our break up. I just couldn’t accept the fact that he broke up with me through text. I even turned into a call gnat. When he called me back, that’s when he said he doesn’t love me anymore. I deleted him first on Facebook then the next day I found our he blocked me.

Why would he be upset? he was the one who break up with me…
admin

November 16, 2013 at 8:06 pm

Probably why he blocked you then.

Men have this weird tendancy to become the victims for everything.
anonymous

November 16, 2013 at 9:03 pm

What can I do for him to unblock and talk to me again? I’m on my 3rd day of nc. And it’s really hard. I think of him every time, when I wake up and before I go to sleep. Do You think he thinks of me as well?
admin

November 17, 2013 at 7:03 pm

I am sure he does but maybe not with the same intensity that you do to him.
anonymous

November 16, 2013 at 8:56 pm

I don’t know what to do for him to talk to me again.
admin

November 17, 2013 at 6:59 pm

What have you tried so far.
anonymous

November 17, 2013 at 8:00 pm

I haven’t talked to him since break up. I’m in nc for a week now, but I don’t know if it works for him. Since he was the one who break up with me. He even said he doesn’t love me anymore that he doesn’t see us being together in the future. He also said he change his feelings really fast. Is that really possible? Or do I still have a possibility getting back with him?
admin

November 18, 2013 at 5:45 pm

There is a posibilty and you are still so early into it.

You might wanna check out PRO if you need extra guidance.

Anna

November 14, 2013 at 10:30 am

I absolutely adore this site, thank you for everything! I have one little thing to add to this post if you don’t mind. As you know your profile picture is one of the most important things, so tying in with the Ungettable Girl theory might I suggest trying a profile pic that communicates that you are Ungettable. Perhaps try a close up photo of yourself looking over your shoulder and smiling, not grinning, but in a sweet, demure way that says “You can’t have me, but I might give you the time of day if you seem worthy”. Soft lighting, non threatening attire and background. This leads him to picture you walking or turning away from him, but smiling back and willing to give him another chance (:

admin

November 14, 2013 at 7:47 pm

Hey I think you are SPOT ON!

Veena

November 14, 2013 at 9:50 am

Hi Chris,

Thank you for your great advises and pretty realistic ones too. I just want to know why my ex who broke up with me and went on a few rebound relationships and got married is trying to get my attention now especially after having spoken about us history and we decided to move on. He inboxes things we used to laugh about and songs we used to listen to and “just hope you’re well and happy.”

Thanks Much in advance!

admin

November 14, 2013 at 7:44 pm

That is good though right. It means he is thinking about you.

JhoEn

November 14, 2013 at 5:31 am

I am on LDR. 3 months ago my bf broke up with me And deleted me off fb for a reason that he cant handle the distance anymore and that he has a lot of concerns about me… I did beg during the break up but after a couple of days i showed him that i respect his descision eventhough i am completely broken! I did NC but after two weeks he sent me message on fb then it become a week then he kept messaging me telling me he wants me back.. We decided that yes maybe we can give another go but we need to talked in person about our concerns… He said he will come to my place as we live in different state.. But it didnt happened coz hes got a lot of reasons.. Two weeks ago i went to sydney for my friend wedding and to meet him as well to talked about us but unfortunately he told me that we cant work out for the same reason that were too far aaway… The thing that i dont understand is he kept telling me that he loves me completely but he just couldnt find anyways to make us work.. Its confusing because i am willing to move in sydney.. I thought that the main reason maybe hes really not into me anymore but he just couldnt tell me honestly… Its been a week already since the last time i spoke to him and he said that we will always be friend as i asked him and that he will catch up with me if i go back there.. I decided to keep the NC. Its weird coz he hasnt taken me off his fb yet.. Is that a good thing? Would it be possible that he still checking my page? I wonder if he still thinks of me or doesnt care about me at all.. Is there any possibilities that he might want to get back one day? 🙁

admin

November 14, 2013 at 7:35 pm

100% he is checking your page. He is very curious on what you are up to I am betting.
JhoEn

November 15, 2013 at 2:08 pm

I am still confused 🙁 do u think im right that the main reason of why he cant find any ways that we will work out is because he just doesnt love me at all?!! Or he might have another woman? But why kept me on fb?!! He is very nice on the first 5 months but suddenly changed 🙁
admin

November 15, 2013 at 8:13 pm

Its hard to say. What does your gut tell you here.
JhoEn

November 16, 2013 at 8:27 am

Im not really sure.. I have asked my guy friends as well and they even said they dont understand him… I couldnt think of other reason why he cant find anyways for us to work when i am willing to move closer to him? Unless he is not ready or not loving me anymore?? Cause if its about another woman then he shouldnt kept me on his fb? He had deleted me 5 months ago while he is on the process of breaking up with me… Funny how he still kept me… Do u think there still a chance that i can get him back?! 🙁
admin

November 16, 2013 at 10:05 pm

Of course I do!

Tell me specifically your gameplan right now.
JhoEn

November 17, 2013 at 4:14 am

I want him back.. I love him but i cant go on begging him anymore. I respect what he wants even if its too painful.. I will just continue the NC rule thats all i can do.. I can see him online all the time but he hasnt contacted me.. Its gonna be his birthday on the 5th next month and im thinking of contacting him just to greet.. Thats gonna be exactly 30days of NC so should be alright 🙂
See i have been reading this site almost everyday now since i discovered this. And not being so arrogant but i would consider myself as an UG.. Guys often tells me the more they cant have me the more they want me. But im such a reserved kind of person… U might think am a boring one but i have a good social life.. I know how to balance things aside from being a fulltime mum 🙂 im the aloof kind of girl i just want to protect myself from getting hurt.. I dont chase man they chased me.. I dont fall inlove so often but if i do i always gave too much. I look after my man too much… To the point that i end up being taken for granted.. Maybe thats the reason why he is withdrawn? Because im always there? No challenged anymore? But i only do that to the person i love though?
I think ex and i would get better if we live in the same state where we can be together most of the time… But i just dont understand because im actually willing to move there….
What am gonna do?!
admin

November 17, 2013 at 8:22 pm

We have an UG in the house!

I think you are very smart about how your approaching the situation.

Everything you said about always being there, no challenge I think that all reigns true.
JhoEn

November 18, 2013 at 9:38 am

Im actually improving thanks for this site! 🙂
Before i hide him on fb so i wont see him online. Coz it hurts But now i can managed seeing him online and not talking to me… Doesnt affect me that much now.
Prankly i dont need to hit the gym as i have good body shape but im doing it to keep myself busy.. Done some new hairstyle.. Nightlife as usual but not much like before.. Posting some happy thoughts on fb for him to know that im ok without him (deep inside not though haha)
Im not perfect.. Nobodys perfect… But mistakes can be forgiven if you love the person completely especially if its just a minor mistakes right? I used to tell myself that i am not good enough for him but this site actually made me realized that NO.. I am too good for him just like what everybody said… Lots of guy was so jealous of him for having a girl like me even his own brother told me that, now he should regret for letting me go (do i sound so bad and bitter? 🙁 ) i dont know why i still want him back though? I called it love my friends called it stupidity haha
So u think a call on his birthday is a good idea? How about a card? Or maybe just a text? Or a just greet through fb?
Arrrgghhhh! Why love can be so hard and complicated
JhoEn

November 23, 2013 at 1:31 pm

Like.. Happy birthday! wishing you all the best. Take care. I love u i still want yoou back hahaha
Seriously last sentence is not included 🙂
JhoEn

November 22, 2013 at 12:43 pm

He is very unpredictable though so i have no idea.
But the last conversation we had 2 weeks ago was we both agree that we can have a conversation as normal friends. And he said that we will always be friend and that there is a reason we came together and met and anything being friends and caring about each other is important. He even said that he would catch up with me if ever i go to sydney.. But i chose to keep the NC…
So i supposed a greeting would be fine? What do u think? 🙂
admin

November 22, 2013 at 8:17 pm

What type of greeting?
JhoEn

November 21, 2013 at 12:35 am

Really? How come?!! Would it push him away?!
Its just a greeting though..
admin

November 21, 2013 at 6:46 pm

It may.. I guess here’s what you have to do with things like this. Put yourself in his shoes and try to predict how he will react to it?
admin

November 18, 2013 at 7:06 pm

I am so proud you are improving. That is relaly incredibly.

I don’t think you should call or text him on his birthday though.

Carly

November 14, 2013 at 4:39 am

Chris,
My ex and I broke up about a week ago and he suddenly liked on my photos. Weve been in no contact since the break up . Did he break no contact? What does this mean?

admin

November 14, 2013 at 7:24 pm

You can only break NC if YOU contact him.
Carly

November 14, 2013 at 8:38 pm

Why do you think he liked my photo? Does this mean he misses me?
admin

November 15, 2013 at 5:27 pm

Know it means he likes the way you look most likely.
Carly

November 16, 2013 at 10:12 pm

I just think its weird since were not talking that he would do that. It kinda gives me hope something can happen again
admin

November 17, 2013 at 7:09 pm

Remember, the name of the game is to try to remove emotions a bit and be more logical.

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