The Definitive Guide To Using Facebook To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

779 thoughts on “Using Facebook To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back”

Paula

October 1, 2013 at 12:14 pm

My ex and I have been broken up for about two weeks now and I started NC a week ago. Before I started NC he had told me he wasn’t taking any pictures of us down on facebook including ones of us kissing “so our child would have pictures of us together.” I can see leaving ones of us doing various things but why leave the ones of us kissing? Do you think that’s just an excuse, or am I reading too much into it?

admin

October 2, 2013 at 12:35 am

Maybe it is something subconciously that he doesn’t want to take the kissing ones down. Though, I would take it as a good sign. I mean, no guy wants to have pictures of him kissing girls if he wants to get a date with someone else.

Emma

September 30, 2013 at 5:09 pm

Hi,
So I haven’t actually spoken to my ex in person since we broke up in May.
I sent a facebook message to him middle of August, but it wasn’t an ‘i miss you’ or anything one. It was about his 2 friends liking me, so I said to him basically we (his friends and I) wouldn’t be more than friends, and that I wanted to keep things civil between us. He read it but didn’t reply. I haven’t called or text him though. Only problem is, we’re friends on facebook, and although I post on there, he hardly ever does. So if we’re still friends and he can see all my statuses and stuff, does that give him a chance to miss me?

admin

October 1, 2013 at 1:57 am

Yes, that is kind of the whole point of this page hahaha.

Christina

September 27, 2013 at 7:10 pm

Advice: My boyfriend and I have had a very happy 2 year relationship, 80% of the time we were very happy. Toward the end a lot of stress (from outside sources) started taking its toll, and we had little problems that got bigger between us. I would have liked to work it out, but we both understand that things are at work right now that prevent us from being able to have a successful relationship, and so my boyfriend broke up with me but it was basically mutual, and he wants to get back together when he finishes his college program in July/August, but doesn’t want me to wait around for him. So we are treating it like a real break up instead of a “break”, because a year is a long time.

I unfriended him on Facebook, but he’s still friends with all my family etc. I’m doing day 5 of NC, how am I doing? No contact from his end, but I guess I realize I shouldn’t have unfriended him… I just didn’t want to see his activity/status all the time in my feed.

admin

September 28, 2013 at 3:26 am

You are doing great in my opinion. Just realize that this isn’t going to happen overnight.
Christina

September 29, 2013 at 7:26 pm

Also, I would like to specify that school is not the only barrier:

Control issues (mine)
Jealousy (me)
Money problems (I have money and he does not, and his mom who he depends on lost her job)
Time problems (don’t have time to do normal couple things together anymore because he is always studying/stressed/busy)
I changed a lot for him, toward the end stopped seeing my friends so much and focused mostly on the relationship. Bad bad bad.

I didn’t let myself go. Sex was still (is still) great for both and we experiment with new things all the time. We had fights toward the end for sure but it was not a huge ongoing thing. He still looks at me (in private) or watches me walk away with that silly “you are the sexiest most amazing woman” look.

The good thing is that we talked about all these issues, and agree what we would do to change them in the future. HOWEVER, it is all tabled for now because of the school timeline.
admin

October 1, 2013 at 2:01 am

Haha I have given that look to a few girls.

A few I don’t know too….. hahahaha.
Christina

September 29, 2013 at 7:12 pm

So… my question now is, in the meantime, “waiting” for him to finish school, what should I do? He says he loves me (it’s mutual) and that “He just can’t right now”. He says don’t wait for him. He says I’m the love of his life and he still wants a future with me, but he’s definitely making sure it’s clear we’re not on a “break”, we are broken up. However we had a very beautiful goodbye kiss and goodbye moment etc. , and parted on very good terms. We don’t have other romantic interests and he said even if he did he doesn’t want a relationship right now. I don’t want to “get him back” before he’s ready, so what should I do? Play it cool? Do my own thing? Ignore him? I am doing no contact, because I think it’s good for him to know that I am not desperate and needy, and it’s good for me to have some space too. I really miss him, and I know he really misses me (because when we “broke up” he said he was going to miss me so much).

What is my next “move”???
admin

October 1, 2013 at 2:00 am

Just go in NC and focus on YOU! haha
Christina

October 2, 2013 at 2:47 pm

Okay, so… I am on day 9 of no contact and my ex sent me a message on facebook (now I know he knows I unfriended him… :/) asking if he could call me just to see how I am and see if I am okay. (I live in a foreign country (we live in the same city) and just moved to a new apartment, so he has realistic concerns) Do I maintain NC? He could always check with my family, or see my FB… to see that I am alive and well.
admin

October 3, 2013 at 1:23 am

I would maintain NC BUT if you feel it will be for his peace of mind you can go ahead and accept the call.

Paula

September 27, 2013 at 12:49 pm

I deleted my ex too but I think a smart idea would be to set your profile to public,what do you think?

admin

September 28, 2013 at 2:57 am

I agree!

Nori

September 24, 2013 at 7:58 pm

Hi Chris,
thank you for these great advices! I’m on NC for 15day,and a question just came into my mind.. Should I be online on facebook chat,or if I’m offline he’d be more curious about what I’m doing?
Thanks in advance,
Nori

admin

September 25, 2013 at 1:16 am

I don’t think it matters either way.

Jeianne

September 23, 2013 at 8:25 am

I wish I had read this before I deleted my ex from facebook and instgram. We do have a lot of mutual friends, though, like his family; parents, siblings, grandparents, cousins. Does that count for anything?

admin

September 24, 2013 at 2:30 am

Haha it does!

Lauren

September 18, 2013 at 3:05 am

In a moment of anger I deleted my ex. Partially because I wanted to beat him to the punch. Now what do I do?

admin

September 19, 2013 at 1:35 am

Try not to dwell on it too much. Wait till you finish your NC period before you add him back.

S.Mary

September 17, 2013 at 2:52 am

Hi Chris !

Whats the policy on whether or not we should like each others statuses and pics ? So far he has liked a lot of my stuff but I have not responded in kind.

Not sure if doing so would be considered breaking NC or not.

Thanks !

admin

September 18, 2013 at 2:51 am

Don’t like any pictures or respond to any likes for your pictures from him.

Lana

August 31, 2013 at 11:27 pm

My boyfriend and I broke up. He technically did, I guess, but it was a mutual decision. We talked and said we wanted to be friends, but we both needed some time before we were ready.

After having some time, I decided I wanted to get back together with him, and I found your site. It’s been 12 days since we’ve talked (I’m in 30 days NC right now). I have a concern though: We met on a dating site. Before I decided that I wanted to get back together, I had gone on the site as a way to kind of help myself remember that there are other guys out there. I have no intention of dating anyone anytime soon. He hadn’t changed his relationship status on facebook for over a week. I then saw that he checked out my profile and later the next day, he took his relationship status off. Obviously, he saw that I was on there. I’m concerned that by him seeing that, I have potentially hurt my chances to get back together with him. It’s been 12 days and he has not contacted me either. Can your strategy still help me?

admin

September 1, 2013 at 4:46 am

I think it can! I wouldn’t lose sleep over it if I was you.

Oh, and you might want to check out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO. I think it could be really beneifical for you.

Shaikha Nazmul

August 16, 2013 at 12:44 pm

What if I already have removed him from Facebook. So in this case how can Facebook help me? I need help and an advise badly. 🙁

admin

August 17, 2013 at 3:20 am

Ok, don’t sweat it. After the NC rule you can add him back. However, it seems as if Facebook won’t be able to help you at this stage.
Shaikha Nazmul

August 17, 2013 at 5:34 am

Not really..I didn’t block him. And my sister and my best friend who is also his class mate is still in his Facebook 🙂 He didn’t unfriend them yet nor did they! I can use their Facebook as an advantage….Like uploading pictures with them??? This wont look desperate even,isn’t it?I do love him and want him..but I don’t want to look desperate myself..don’t want to lose my dignity by begging…I just want to make him realize my worth which he took for granted…and I know he stalks my sister and my best friend’s account right now -_- and why is news feed for…All I need is a guide I can trust…Its you Chris! 😀
admin

August 18, 2013 at 3:34 am

Thats actually not half bad! Using your friends account to upload hot pictures of yourself.

Joan

August 13, 2013 at 10:47 pm

Hi Chris!
I’ve been reading the posts on your website for hours; amazing advice, thanks for all this. If only I found out about your page before I made all those huge mistakes after breaking up with my boyfriend who I was together with for a year and a half. We had a big fight and I left him. The next day I sent him an email saying I was sorry, but he responded with a breakup message saying that he couldn’t meet my expectations. I didn’t respond to that and deleted our photos together on Facebook after one week. He reacted to that with a status update: “7 days.” I wanted him to come back to me since it was always me who apologized even when I wasn’t to blame for previously. This time I wanted that he made an effort for our relationship, but he didn’t contact me in any way. I waited for another week and then unfriended and blocked him on Facebook which I still regret as I wonder what he’s up to. A couple of weeks later I texted him that I missed him, and his reply was that his life was a bit complicated at the time. Although I blocked him on Facebook, I was still following him on Twitter and from his tweets I got the impression that he still thought of me but that he was decided in not turning back to me (like the picture of a ship with the lines “Harbors are safe but that’s not what ships are made for” – he called me his “safe haven” once or twice). But after several weeks I learnt that he has a new girlfriend and that he fell in love with her. Our common friend asked his permission to tell me about it as he (my friend) felt uncomfortable seeing that I thought all the poems and songs that he shared were for me. Now it’s been about a month since they’ve been together and I feel hurt and almost humiliated but I can’t help but think that it’s a rebound relationship and he will miss me in the end as we were very happy together except the 5 or 6 arguments we had in the 1,5 years we were together. Now it goes without saying I’m in a NC period and I won’t contact him if he does not contact me. But do you think I should forget him or do I have a chance of getting him back? Would it be silly if I unblocked him on Facebook for example after a 1 month NC period? :/

admin

August 14, 2013 at 3:04 am

I would say that you shouldn’t unblock him just yet. Wait till after NC and after you have built some rapport with him.

It is always tough when people ask me if they have a chance. I always respond the same to them. Yes, you have a chance but a chance doesn’t guarantee success. Nothing can guarantee success all you can do is improve your odds. I believe in being realistic about everything.

Right now, you are in one of the toughest positions. Essentially if I were you I would focus only on what I can control and nothing else. No use losing sleep over stuff you cannot control. Luckily, I am always around to answer your every question 😉

jasmine

August 5, 2013 at 4:06 am

* i met he didnt work on the things he was advised
jasmine

August 5, 2013 at 4:03 am

i broke up with my boyfriend for the 4th time. we have a child together. he was so perfect but after my child was born we went through child custody stuff, but we ended up back together. but the problem is that we he changed. wasnt perfect anymore. he works all the time, which i understand, but he would go to bars after work hang out with his friends while i stayed home all day taking care of our son. we dont hold hands anymore, he doesnt tell me stuff anymore, i have to find things out other ways, its pretty much like we werent in a relationship but we were. just didnt act like it. i would get angry because it seems he would rather hang out with his friends more than me, any ways, the day after i broke up with him, i saw on his face book, his boss saying he needs a better woman, and my ex said hes going to be single for awhile until he he gets back from deployment, which he doesnt leave until several months from now. i dont know how to process what i read. before i brome up with him, we saw a relationship councler, but i didnt help because he did work on the things he was advised to work on. after awhile i got tired of our relationship being this way, we got into a huge fight and broke up with him and said really mean things like he was a mistake. i left the next day but i left him a note on his bed appologizing and said i didnt mean the things i said, that i was angry and maybe in the future we can get back together.since then i havent spoken to him except concerning my son but i found those post on his facebook. everyday he would text me to see how me and my son are doing

admin

August 6, 2013 at 2:46 am

So how can I help you? Ask specific questions.
jasmine

August 6, 2013 at 8:02 pm

is it still possible to get my ex boyfriend back after breaking up with him the 4th time. I haven’t texted him since I left him. just only when it concerns my son, but recently ive been posting how much fun ive been having on facebook and he texted me last night asking how everything is going and I told him my sons doing fine and hes said that’s good, how was your night last night? and I didn’t answer and he texted again asking if I was busy and I still didn’t reply.
im just wondering if I still have a chance getting my ex back after the 4th time, and if all the stuff his friends are saying on facebook about me is going to ruin my chances?
admin

August 7, 2013 at 3:12 am

Hahahhaa…

History is in your favor so yes. It is possible.

Tash

July 30, 2013 at 7:08 am

Hiya,
Just after he broke up with me, i put some status’ up on my page. the first one being “Isn’t it funny how you can smell the bull**** before they have even spoken, some people are so predictable” – Nothing to do with him at all, this was to do with a phone company. Yet my ex text me saying “your status isn’t about me by any chance is it?”, as tempting as it was to say “if the shoe fits..” But i didn’t. And the other was meant for my friend’s page saying “it didn’t take you long did it”, He then text me saying “have i done something wrong?”
Ever since i told him neither were about him, he hasn’t really messaged at all about anything? I haven’t bothered messaging him since he did about these so… does this mean something? :S I don’t understand the male mentality :/

admin

July 30, 2013 at 6:07 pm

That’s actually a really good thing! It means he is stalking your page and still cares about what you think.

Are you doing the NC rule?
Tash

July 31, 2013 at 12:02 am

I messaged him the day afterwards as he kept liking things and then quickly taking it off so i just said “you can like things you know, i don’t bite xxxxx” and he replied with “Thankyou 🙂 xxxxx” And then i realised on his page he put up something about a funeral he was going to that day… so i text just wishing him best wishes as it was a close family friend he was going to a funeral and he text back and then i text him saying “well if it means anything we will be thinking of you, much love xxxx” and he text back saying “of course it means alot, i have to go now as the hurse is here much love too xxxxx”. i didn’t message back and then that has been it for the last 5ish days? I’ve not messaged or anything and he hasn’t either… His friend thinks hes an idiot and said hes spoken to him about it all as the break up was him basically saying he loves me so much, i make him the happiest hes ever been and i’m perfect for him, its the last thing he wants to do but hes going with his head not his heart because it makes more sense… I’m leaving his things with his friend and not telling him as his friend thinks it would be a good idea, his friend said if i say nothing to him and let him make the effort then it might give him a bit of a kick?
admin

July 31, 2013 at 2:36 am

Your friend is smart 😉
Tash

August 1, 2013 at 9:06 pm

Hmmm that makes sense.. Thaankyou for your advice. Oh and he text me yesterday 😉 I haven’t replied or even attempted to write back 😀
admin

August 2, 2013 at 2:26 am

AWESOME!
Tash

July 31, 2013 at 8:20 am

If it’s okay, There is another thing i want to run by you, why would he say all those things and then break up? Then insisting that he still wants me in his life. But then he’s acting like he is?
admin

August 1, 2013 at 5:07 am

The only thing I can think of is that he is just emotional and just makes decisions based on that. So, when you have someone like that you get a lot of contradictory actions.
Tash

July 31, 2013 at 12:07 am

Oo and to answer yes i’m trying the NC rule. When we have been in contact the last few times he’s used my name in texts which he never has done before and been blunt. So after that message for the funeral NC. I’m also trying hard not to actually stalk him on fb >_<. As he seems to be just getting on with his life like normal.. i feel as if seeing his status', hes not even thinking about me?
admin

July 31, 2013 at 2:36 am

He is thinking about you. Maybe not every moment but he is thinking about you I would bet.

Linny

July 28, 2013 at 5:07 am

how should i feel if he blocked me from seeing anything on his facebook after the break up the three weeks later unblocked me and still has all of our pictures we took together up? should i delete all of our pictures from my albums?

admin

July 28, 2013 at 5:25 am

Delete most of them but leave the best ones. Don’t take it personally if he blocked you from Facebook. Guys do that sometimes after a breakup when they are mad.
Linny

July 28, 2013 at 7:46 am

what do you mean by the best ones? like us kissing? lol i have plenty of PDA ones so idk if that would give him a mixed signal that im still pining over him?
admin

July 29, 2013 at 3:09 am

Sorry, I should have been more specific. Not ones of you kissing just one where you are close together and not kissing.

Angela

July 18, 2013 at 5:42 am

I deleted my ex right after he dumped me because I didn’t want to see him with another girl if he dates someone else. A few days ago I looked him up because not talking to him and not knowing what was going on started to bother me I noticed he blocked me after I deleted him. Does that mean he is offended that I deleted him and does that mean he cares? I realized that I would like him to be in my life even if were not together. Idealling I would want to be with him but I feel that if I can’t have him I would like to be his friend and still have him in my life what should I do?

admin

July 19, 2013 at 1:47 am

I think he was hurt that you unfriended him on Facebook.
Angela

July 19, 2013 at 3:57 am

Why would he be hurt he was the one that ended it with me why could he care?
admin

July 19, 2013 at 8:32 pm

Hes upset that you unfriended him b/c he probably didn’t expect that from you.
Brittney Grey

October 4, 2013 at 5:02 pm

Hey so my ex and I are not talking but he still likes my posts on Facebook even though we are not friends. I took him off when we broke up out of anger and I just really did not want to see anything about him on my news feed.I looked to see if he was following me but he wasn’t and One of my friends suggested that he may have put me on something called an interests list. Anyways we haven’t talked in over a month but yet he is still liking my posts…I’m just so confused why he still is doing that when he doesn’t speak to me (I don’t speak to him either) but my question is do you personally think that is a sign that he wants me to speak to him? Or that he is just trying to be friendly? I haven’t liked anything on his Facebook in over a month and it’s private so it obviously makes it impossible to do so. I thought about sending him a friend request after he liked a post of mine last night but I don’t want to look too desperate in getting in contact with him.

Sorry it’s so long just wanted to get the details in!
admin

October 5, 2013 at 4:26 am

Yes it is a sign he wants you to talk. Thats my opinon anyways.

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