The Definitive Guide To Using Facebook To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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Louise

July 1, 2016 at 8:58 pm

I told my ex I have a date with somebody and he replied with good luck. He has since mentioned it and I regret it deeply. I’ve been in no contact for 6 days do I have a chance of getting him back? Or have i don’t too much damage

Louise

July 1, 2016 at 10:10 pm

Can I also add after texting him to get back with me multiple times I accused him of using me for sex and that he wasn’t very good at it. I apoligised within minutes I was just so angry I think I’ve overstepped the mark and have no chance of gettin him back.
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 3, 2016 at 2:36 pm

relax.. since you apologized he knows you’re just angry

Anonymous

June 28, 2016 at 8:56 am

Hi,

My boyfriend broke up with me last Sunday, he said I deserve better and that he doesn’t make me happy which is just an excuse for something he’s not telling me. (I think) i begged and begged for him, cried and pleaded for the first three days, to which he agreed to see me so I went out to breakfast and he hugged and kissed me and we talked for hours, we both cried upon leaving, he was very upset but still didn’t change his mind. After that, I stopped, and I’ve begun no contact because I came across your website. I’ve been doing no contact since Thursday essentially, and I’m really struggling. Everyday I am so close to contacting him. I have not heard anything from him at all, not a single message or any thing. Do you think I have any chance at getting him back? He is all I want in the world, and really am desperate to get him back!
Please help!

Anonymous

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 29, 2016 at 11:13 am

Hi Anonymous,

make him want you back by improving yourself.. are you now?

Nat

June 19, 2016 at 4:10 pm

Hi. My boyfriend broke up with me 6 months ago beacuse he find out that I sent nude pictures to other boy. I did that because I saw many things of him flirting but he never accepted it. I just wanted to stop suffering by making the same. After that, I begged a lot and cryed. Also I had lots and lots of sex with him, but he always told me that he loves me, but after what I did he can’t never be back with me. It has been almost a week that I don’t talk to him. What can I do? He’s the love of my life. Almost three years together. All my life plans where with him included.

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 21, 2016 at 6:31 pm

Hi Nat,

Correct me if I’m wrong, You flirted with another guy because your ex was always flirting with other girls?

Hmm.. You have to start to do active nc.. YOu have to start the count right after you read this because, I think you have started the activities to heal and improve before this right? and you should read this posts:

EBR 030: What To Do If You Sleep With Your Ex Boyfriend

Nikki

June 2, 2016 at 8:25 pm

Hi,

So i broke up with my boyfriend about two weeks ago. I did not know about this no contact rule and sent him several messages. Our contacts are basically through facebook because we are having a distance relationship. I notice he keeps liking my previous posts and tagging me into photos and send me some facebook messages. I did not post anything on facebook recently. Do you think I should? Both of us are Admins of a cultural group on facebook. After breaking up with him, I stopped posting on it. Do you think I should start again?

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 12, 2016 at 8:38 am

Hi Nikki,

why did you break up with him? You said he keeps sending you messages? Have you read those messages?

Jeanette

May 31, 2016 at 8:48 pm

Hi,
An male friend/lover hasn’t initiated a text conversation since the end of March. I’ve texted him three times to see how he’s doing. He responded in a timely manner each time but didn’t keep the conversation going. His responses were that he’s under pressure this time of year, he’s been busy ( yet I see him on FB a lot). He’s also proceeded to like almost all of my fb posts, and pics. I really don’t know how to handle the situation. I’ve been doing no contact on him, but he doesn’t seem to realize or care. I haven’t contacted him in three weeks and I haven’t liked any of his posts on fb. I have chat off so he can’t see when I’m on fb. Any help as to what to do next would be great.

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 1, 2016 at 1:47 am

Hi Jeanette,

you were not actually together? You said he didn’t like your posts, so I’m going to assume you’re active in improving yourself. Try to do a little jealousy moves now

Unsure

May 31, 2016 at 7:23 pm

I did NC for about 7 weeks and in the middle I unfriended my ex. I tried to text him following the texting guidelines for about a week, but he seemed pretty uninterested so I am doing NC. I feel like if I friend him again on fb, it is obvious I am still pining. He is not someone who would ‘like’ posts often. Technically, he can see me on Instagram still but I don’t know if he is actively checking that–I know from mutual friends he has noticed that I unfriended him though. I think it shows he at least actively searched for me, since there’s no other way of knowing if you’ve been removed. Is fb really going to help me in this situation? I don’t want to add him back randomly.. what do you suggest I do?

Unsure

June 1, 2016 at 9:03 pm

I think since he knew I unfriended him it would be unlikely for him to notice anything if I switch to public. What would be a proper time to re-friend him… or, what would give me a good probability of having him friend request me instead?
EBR Team Member: Amor

June 12, 2016 at 3:29 am

because we don’t know if he’s checking your posts or not, so it’s better to keep your profile public instead.

Pick a current event topic that he’s interested in, so that it’s more natural..
EBR Team Member: Amor

June 1, 2016 at 1:24 am

Hi Unsure,

if you didn’t block him and you don’t want to add him back yet, just adjust the settings of your posts in Facebook that it can be seen by public, not just your friends.

confused

May 28, 2016 at 5:38 pm

its been almost 2 weeks since my fiancé left me, he said i was too jealous and he needs time, time to reflect. he is mad at me but is very hot and cold, on some days he will text me and encourage me to continue my positive changes, other days he is mad at me that i need to give him his money that he saved up for our wedding , he said he needs the money because he is having a hard time right now. i told him i was going to give it to him soon, maybe next week when i can cash it out. but was really mad at me, i made a mistake and try to convince him to work things out he resisted, he said stop talking about other stuff and that he needs his money. i felt he was being so rude so i just stopped texting him wednesday afternoon. today is saturday afternoon and i have not text him since then,. an hour ago i posted a video of me and my son on my son’s fb and he liked it within 5 minutes. an hour after he texted me to encourage me to continue with my workout routine (something that we did together everyday before)… I have not responded to his text… why is he being mean then semi nice. is he just tying to get me to text him back so he can ask about his money again? i told him i would give it to him soon when i can cash it out.. or does he geniunly miss me? it’s only been i guess i can say around almost 3 days NC, i’ve tried the NC before but had only lasted 2 days, this time would be the longest so far… should i just ignore his encouragement text to stay on track with NC or should i reply something to him?

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 30, 2016 at 2:16 pm

Hi Confused,

You’ll have to do a limited nc..You need to assure him that you’ll pay him.. update him but only talk about that..

Nichola

April 30, 2016 at 4:30 pm

My boyfriend left me & moved out less than a week ago. We text very briefly afterwards, and now I am on the 2nd day of No Contact. My facebook account is closed as I rarley used it but I know my ex is on there.. should I re open my facebook so I can show him my life without him during the NC period or wait until the end of the time period to reopen it? Or do I create a new more interesting profile & create it public as he may look for it? I worry if he see me back so soon with my old profile he will think I only do it to try win him back and that it could ruin any chance of us getting back together.

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 1, 2016 at 2:20 pm

HI Nichola,

it’s better if you open your old account and proceed to posting your activities there.. as long you’re not messaging him and you’re not captioning your post related to the break or to him, you’re good.. make it seem like you’re moving on..

May

April 22, 2016 at 3:51 am

I love this post. I am using Facebook techniques. However the reason we broke up is not because we don’t love each other. It was because of the long distance relationship since he lives in UK and I live in Singapore. I am now doing No Contact Rules. However, he still likes my pics on facebook. I must admit – I have other guyz coming in my life after the break up. I just received a bouquet from one of the guyz who like me . I posted on facebook by saying “I love roses” without indicating who gave me and stuff.
Is it a good move of making my ex jealous ?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 23, 2016 at 10:36 am

Hi May,

yep it is!

Alice

April 10, 2016 at 2:45 pm

I’m really taking this to heart. I haven’t changed my profile picture but that’s because it’s one that shows me in working and used for a lot of my job applications as well. I’m putting up status’ of when I go out with friends and do so great stuff and about to change my background picture to when we were doing delayed photography and we spelt out my name with sparklers. Totally cool. And the only reason I don’t take photos is that my camera is of very low quality and just makes everything in the photo look terrible – especially me!. The only time I deviated from the positive and I’m enjoying life social updates was when I asked for advice on a subject at uni. The thing is I don’t know if this is going to work. My ex is very private on his Facebook. And when I mean private I mean PRIVATE! Total control over who sees what, no one is allowed on his wall, no one can look him up without him adding you as a friend first, has the highest security measures in place so you can’t even see if he’s viewing your pages, does not like or message anyone or on anything at all and does not allow tagging unless its him who does it. Honestly, I think he only uses messenger on his phone so he won’t see my Facebook at all. So, even if I go out with girlfriends or some of my male friends I can’t even tell if he’s caring or not. There are only 2 people we have as ‘mutual friends’. One who is more my contact but has ended our friendship (glad it’s over to be honest. Very poisonous relationship) and the other who is his friend and I only speak 5 words to every week due to classes. So its not like I can use them to sneakingly send him information or even fathom them sending information to him. I’ve got 8 more days left of no contact and am feeling so much better than I was 3 weeks ago. Never thought that would happen. Now the only reason I’m crying is due to stress!

Anyway… kinda ranting there.

There is nothing really more I can do to try and prove I’m doing well without him is there? Just seeing what I can do to get a final boom on my ‘I’m-enjoying-being-me’ month to post on Facebook.

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 11, 2016 at 6:41 am

You’re doing great Alice! Just keep it up so no worries!

Holly

April 8, 2016 at 11:01 pm

Life is too short to spend SO MUCH TIME on the Internet (FB and other social media debacles) when most people have lost touch with the world and reality. Go out and actually EXPERIENCE what real life is like……jeez….FB isn’t real life.
Olivia

March 30, 2016 at 12:09 am

Update: No contact worked.
30 months to the day after I initiated no contact (with someone I never thought would have the balls to contact me after he ghosted on me) he did. I was skeptical because not only was it a short relationship , but we also were intimate and it was long distance and he has some issues and When he ghosted. everything pointed towards this guy just isn’t that Into you and he’s a douche. I thought I’d never hear from him again.

I took the advice of the moderators and the website and just ignored him liking my fb posts about my personal achievements over the last month (it was difficult and infuriating ) . I took the high road and didn’t really react to anything and just pretended he didn’t exist basically.

I haven’t responded to him contacting me because the one thing no contact has given me is distance and clarity . I still have feelings and emotion but I’m not ruled by them anymore so I’m not chomping at the bit to talk to this guy at all. and I think I can wait a few more days to respond to this fool. To be honest I don’t even think I would want him back now!
It’s funny because I know he’s talking to another girl yet still contacted me. So No contact works even if they replaced you with a rebound.

When I do respond I’m just going to act like nothing happened and be nice and short .

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 3, 2016 at 7:01 am

That’s good Olivia! Thanks for giving us a feedback.

Deb

March 28, 2016 at 1:06 am

Chris, my previous profile picture of us is still shown under the “recent photos” of my ex-boyfriend’s page. Should I delete the picture altogether? Should I leave it as is so that he still sees it when he checks my/his page?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 3, 2016 at 4:08 am

Hi Deb,
sorry for the late reply. Don’t delete the picture. It would really be hard with ldr. You have to have time, money and a plan for it to work. If you’re going to try nc, you should start being friendly after but don’t mention about the option of getting back together. YOu would appear to be waiting and chasing.

Abigail

March 24, 2016 at 5:25 pm

Hey Chris, I made a mistake of messaging him a few days and then it ended up turning into a call, at first it seemed like nothing happened and that we were still dating, then he got angry when I asked if he was feeling better (happy) then he said i got to call you later. Then after the call we started messaging back and forth joking around and then another call started. He continued the joking around and then I asked him what is with all of the mix messages lately? he got angry and said ” How am I the one sending mixed messages when your the one who keeps coming up to me and saying hi, two days ago you were angry with me and now you want to talk to me?!” …. You see he broke up with me because he said it felt more of a long distance relationship (But I saw him all the time during school and when he was free but he would ditched plans for his buddies) At first he asked for a break and I didnt give him a answer right away because I was questioning him what was the reason then later that day I said “I’m willing to give you the break you need we can meet up next week and go from there” then he said that he doesn’t want a break and I asked ” so are you breaking up with me”.. (this whole conversation he was balling his eyes out and i ended up comforting him) he said ” i think so… Im so sorry im sorry over and over again” he also said he started to lose feelings for me and didn’t want to continue if he kept losing feeling for me and i kept getting more and more attached. Right away after he said ” i think so” he kept saying ” lets just call it a break lets just call this a big break.. i dont know how long but lets call it a break” . three days later I dropped off his stuff at his house and he was angry and defensive but his eyes would start to water during the conversation and it ended with him hugging me and saying that he still loves me and cares for me, itll be okay. … so on the weekend of that week that whole messaging thing happened and was wondering if there is a chance that the break up was a mistake to him, or if its a break to him, and why would he pretend like nothing is wrong and then get mad the next on Facebook messaging but act the way he does in person. is there a chance of getting him back through Facebook?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 1, 2016 at 3:04 pm

HI Abigail,

Have you talked everything through now?

Jennifer

March 22, 2016 at 8:37 pm

After starting no contact I unfriended my ex on facebook.
I talked with a friend and he said it made him went crazy after his ex had done that. And since I was so mad I unfriended him.

I now have some nice pictures and videos that even other people posted on my board. Someone even posted a “<3"
I also know that he still "likes" the page of my sports-group, which recently posted a video in which I was in

Is there still hope for using facebook?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 31, 2016 at 11:17 am

HI Jennifer,

I’m sorrry for the late reply I’ll check on Chris if there are any other way than credit card. You can try to reply the next day with the cliffhanger text and do what you used to do. I hope everything goes well 🙂

Sarah

March 22, 2016 at 3:36 pm

Hi, do you mind if I ask you a question? I was in a relationship with a guy a year and a half ago. I ended up breaking it off and deleted him on facebook. I’ve pretty much been regretting it ever since. I’ve dated some people here and there but none of them come close to the first guy. I just found out he’s single again (he was in a pretty serious relationship) and I’d love to start up a conversation. Would it strange if I add him again? Or should I just send him a message first to see if he even replies?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 31, 2016 at 9:37 am

Hi Sarah,
It depends, adding him and then doing nothing can just leave him thinking or maybe he’ll just shrug it off or message you after that. If you message him first, then it will depend on what you sent as first contact. The simpler the message, the less awkward it will be.

Emily

March 18, 2016 at 10:28 pm

Does it mean anything if he liked my profile picture that I just changed. I have been no contact and he did this on day 28.

Emily

March 22, 2016 at 12:47 am

He liked 2 more. So that makes Wednesday, Sunday and Monday. Could he just be messing with me/trying to get my attention/feels bad and wants to be friends/or could this be his way of reaching out? If he wants to reach out, why not send a text message?
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 19, 2016 at 4:13 pm

we don’t know what it exactly means but that’s a good sign

Grace

March 14, 2016 at 10:47 pm

Hi Chris, my fiance and I broke up recently, before that Ive been depressed and acting unlike myself, ive said some hurtful things to him over the course of the past 3 months (since being unwell) and acted a bit off the rails and self destructive. This is because he cheated on me when I was pregnant with our son and Ive never gotten over it, he also acted hot and cold most of the first part of our relationship, then soon as our baby was born, he seemed to calm down and had been making an effort to fix things (like proposing/ not hanging out with negative social people). We had a trial seperation about a month ago but were still in contact, aiming to make things work, its since fizzled out as I need time to heal and access therapy. Last week we called it quits (he gave up). Before then he was literally begging for my forgiveness. He is now back on facebook, going out with friends and adding loads of girls on social media. I started no contact yesterday. Ive posted a picture to facebook of myself and some guys liked and commented. Today he attempted to log onto my facebook, and immediately blocked me soon after, and unfollowed me on Instagram and blocked me on whatsapp. Im a bit confused to say the least and trying not to obsess over what he is thinking about me now. What is the best course of action for me now? And what can I expect? I really want an amazing future with this man and I am willing to go through whatever it may take NOW to have that THEN. Thankyou so much for your advice, this site is great 🙂

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 15, 2016 at 1:45 pm

Hi Grace,

He’s being stubborn and I think he didn’t expect you to post that pic and get hurt by likes of other men. So now he blocked you to not see more of it.. Just continue on being silent post your activities but don’t post things that he can use against you like jealousy posts. Just casual activities of being happy, or your activities with your son, coz even if you’re blocked he may still be checking that through a friend. So, let him cool off while you’re making the nc time for yourself.

Olivia

March 14, 2016 at 2:13 am

Sorry for posting twice but is them reaching out and liking your photos or watching a snapchat considered them reaching out? I know that no contact consists of us not liking or watching their stuff but how does it apply to them? Also how do we define the line between posting things and what no contact is for us? I want to be mysterious and not give him a window into everything I’m doing but also use social media as a leveraging tool to get him to wonder and
Come back to me. Am I limiting my posts to profile
Photos ? And a few updates with photos once a
Month? I don’t know the protocol

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 14, 2016 at 3:59 pm

Hi Olivia,

It’s ok that you posted twice. Him liking is a good sign even if he’s not messaging you.. it can be his way for you to contact him… but don’t because you’re in no contact.. YOu just post photos of what you’re doing and nothing about relationships and about him. You’re making him see that you can go on in life happy despite of what he did and make him see what he’s missing. Post activities, your “look” before an event, improvements.. Just basically anything about you as long it’s not too personal..

Olivia

March 13, 2016 at 6:21 pm

I’m wondering if these social media tactics work for
Someone you were just casually dating ?

My story is a bit different where a close friend (of
Four years) confessed a few months ago he has had a thing for me for years. I suddenly saw him in a new light and we started talking daily (we did hook up during this time) this is also long distance however I’m moving back to his town soon (he knows this). One day the communication began to dwindle and he began to pull a slow fade . I knew what was impending and tried to stop it. I revently went to visit his town (he knew I coming and we made plans) turns out he canceled on me at the last minute. I was pretty angry. While he apologized I never responded, and basically went no contact because I refuse to accept that poor
Treatment and we have not spoken since . So there was never really a relationship or a break up.
The odd thing is he continues to like all of fb profile
Photos and some
Photos our mutual friends put up of me. And he aggressively views my snapchat stories. I don’t get it. Have I been re friend zoned ?
Does he hate me? Does he still like me and want my attention? I’m in no contact and I am
Two weeks in and am doing fine, but how do I use social
Media to get him to miss me and contact me if he already is liking my photos? He isn’t liking any photos I put up of
Myself having fun or looking fabulous just profile
Photos. I should add that he’s incredibly scared and
Nervous around ap much so that it is a social
Anxiety for him. To compound that our dynamic is further complicated by us being such close friends for years and me being the one girl he actually confided in.

So how do I even start to use social
Media to get him to reach out?

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