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shiksa
April 11, 2015 at 1:34 am
Hi Chris I just did 30 days no contact rule …don’t think it’s work out. .he never text me or even call
Connie
April 5, 2015 at 10:13 pm
My bf has ended our relationship several times after 2years. He recently said he’s walking away. However he won’t remove me as a fb friend.
He’s borderline controlling and then not.He’s stopped controlling and accusing me of cheating. Yet he does play mind games. He’s kind and gives me what I like but as soon as I’m comfortable with us he plays a mind game.
He was bad with the mind games but chilled out after I put my foot down. Each time I put my foot down he says I’m dramatic and threats breaking up. But each time I take him back he makes changes.
I’ve asked him each break up to delete me and he won’t
Isn’t it normal for the guy to delete you off if you split up?
I’ve changed my profile pic back to a close up of me. I had a pic of us both for 2years.
What’s does it mean when a guy ends the relationship but won’t delete you?
My bf only has a small group of Facebook friends most portion is family
Natalie
March 28, 2015 at 7:27 am
hey chris, so I just broke up with my boyfriend for the second time in our almost two year long relationship. Both were for the same reasons we argued to much and he didn’t feel the same way about me any more. This time he said he doesn’t love me anymore like that but does still love me. It wasn’t in his nature to argue he said. I’m pretty devastated, even more so this time cause I went back into the relationship hoping for the best but we fell into old patterns again especially cause I was unhappy in my life and I would sort of take that out on him in our arguments. Last year we got back together after two months and I moved back in with him to help him out as his roommate left him. We were gonna make this temporary and if things went well we would continue on but if they didn’t I would move back out and we would work on our relationship from there. Obviously we never got this chance and I’ve had to move out and back in with my dad. Pretty devastated again as I feel like we didn’t try all alternatives like counselling and me moving back out. The reason for breaking up is sadly the exact same and he doesn’t think we work well together. I love him a lot and was looking forward to our future two weeks before we broke up we booked flights to hawaii together. I still love him and want to give it a shot but this time sadly I feel like it’s done. Do you agree ? Also his behaviours after we broke up are exactly the same he’s deleted me off facebook (2 hours after I moved out of our house) and changed his profile picture. I have a feeling he’s won’t want to stuff me around like last time getting my hopes up and so on. Am I silly for still having hope and thinking his actions like deleting me off fb mean anythjng ? I am going to try and move on this time like I’m still just as devastated obviously.
Are third chances possible ? He said he loved me like he’s never loved anyone but I don’t know what to think anymore so I was hoping for your professional opinion
Natalie
April 1, 2015 at 2:29 am
????
Portia
March 15, 2015 at 11:38 pm
I have a question. .Me & my Boyfriend never broke up but everytime he asked me out I could not make it 3 times in a row..The 4th time I finally said yes..So after that he left it up to me to do the calling just because I did not accept the 1st 3 times but O did the 4th time. Then I would call and he would not ask me over any more.So I did the N/C for 30 days. Then he did everything he cpuld to vet my attention on Facebook. When I did not respond because it was only 3 weeks not 30 days yet. He started firting with other girls that gave him complements. Then suddenly started delected things from my Facebook page thT he had posted and his Pictures from my Facebook a d I box.What does thT mean deleted things from my page and inbox? ….Then when tbe 30 days were up I called him and now he camceled just like I use to do in beganning of our relationship. So should I keep calling so he can get tje chan e to say no 3 times loke I did or should I put him on the N/C or should I juzt forget about it
admin
March 18, 2015 at 6:49 pm
You stood him up 3 times he may have felt slighted a bit.
I think you need to be better about building attraction so you don’t get stood up.
Helen
March 5, 2015 at 7:10 pm
So my boyfriend dumped me about a week ago but hasn’t unfriended me on FB. We dated for about three months but totally in love. He pursued me for a year and I finally gave in. I’m thinking about going on Match.com to make him jealous (he’s a member and I know he’d see my profile). Is this not a good idea?
jennifer
March 5, 2015 at 12:36 am
The guy I’ve been seeing off and on for 2 yrs just deleted me from his Facebook after a big fight this morning where we both said really mean things, me especially. He’s never done this before. In the past we’ve always remained friends on our breaks on Facebook and just entered into NC. He would usually contact me after I posted a hot pic of myself within a month.
Not sure what to do now that he deleted me as he was always getting my news feeds and I followed your advise to the T but now he won’t. My profile is private should I make some stuff public? Is it even worth it if he unfriended me by his own choice? Maybe that was his way of saying he was done. He hasn’t blocked me yet.
admin
March 7, 2015 at 5:26 pm
Is that how he broke up with you?
He just deleted you?
juli
March 1, 2015 at 10:45 pm
hey, what i a deactivated my fb right after we broke up. and then he deleted me from isntagram and telling me that he can’t look at my stuff. Im scared that if i reactivate my fb he will delete me from it. what should i do
admin
March 2, 2015 at 9:30 pm
Don’t reactivate until you text him after NC then.
Bri
February 25, 2015 at 4:04 am
So I have ended things with my long distance ex because he ignored me out of the blue and didn’t respond to my phone calls or text messages for an entire week! Things were great between us and both of us were really happy when we were together. Made future plans together, he told me he loved me, would come visit me every weekend etc. We dated for about a month and a half and were best friends over the summer as well.
I really want him back, I think about him all the time. after I told him this isn’t working out he still didn’t respond so that’s when I initiated no contact.
It’s been three days since and his best friend who he calls his brother messaged me on facebook today,(He has my phone number don’t know why he didn’t text me)just asking basic things like hey how’s it going? how is school? and that’s about it. I told him things were good and school has been great i’m doing really well. I said nothing else and that’s where the conversation ended. His friend never messages me out of the blue like that so I thought it was suspicious. Just want to know your opinion about how I should handle this and if the no contact will work with my situation since technically he ignored me before I ended things.
admin
February 25, 2015 at 9:36 pm
You should check out the LDR posts (long distance posts.)
Tiffie
February 24, 2015 at 6:38 pm
On Day 10 of no contact, my ex called me. I didn’t answer. The next day I check FB and he deleted me! I know he deleted me some time after that phone call. Please tell me what this could mean.
Jessica
June 11, 2015 at 7:16 pm
This is exactly what happened to me. on the first day of NC ( 1 week after we broke up) my ex called me then text me about 3 hours later when I didn’t respond to his phone call. I ignored both. I had placed a lot of pictures of me being very active over the weekend. when I checked my FB he had unfriended me. I can only assume he is throwing an tantrum…. but I am not sure how to read this…. I was very good for that week after. I didn’t call him once. I only text him 3 times. although I responded to his texts. then that monday (june 8, 2015) I stopped responding and he unfriended me on FB. this whole situation is agony.
admin
February 24, 2015 at 9:57 pm
It means he is obsessing over you.
He isn’t getting his way and is throwing a tantrum.
Tiffie
February 28, 2015 at 11:59 pm
Hey, Chris. I did something bad. On Day 15 of NC I texted him telling him that I got his call earlier in the week, that I want to have some kind of friendship with him in the future but I need some time to move on after the breakup, “thanks for reaching out,” “hope you understand,” etc. I don’t know why I did it… to keep the door open in the future I guess! :-/
His response was “I don’t believe you. And it’s not fair. I need to tell you something very important and you couldn’t even answer.”
To me, that sounds like he is still having a tantrum. I could be wrong. But I’m wondering if you think I blew my chances with all of this.
Thanks.
Val
February 24, 2015 at 5:57 pm
Hey Chris!
I followed your tips about how to make the best profilepicture. And I must say … you are ABSOLUTELY right!! I did the backlighting, friendly stare in the lens, nice color sceme, etc. The whole shebang!
My god! The men went wild! So girls listen to the manwhisperer 😉
My ex and I aren t friends in facebook but when he browses and sees that pic he will surely know what he is missing!
Thanks so much!
admin
February 24, 2015 at 9:56 pm
Hahaha I am totally saving this comment for proof that people who listen to what I say get results!
Jennifer
February 24, 2015 at 2:12 am
What if you already deleted your ex before. Should I change my wall to public or is that a little obvious. It’s pretty much always been private, but because he is not a friend, he cannot see anything. At this time, we have 3 mutual friends, but they were his friends and just recently became mine and 1 friend was mine but became his (they don’t really talk though). He’s blocked me on everything except facebook, so could that mean he’s leaving it open just to check up? Also, because of religion, our divorce takes 3 months to complete and we don’t date, nor are we allowed to look during that time, so how can I make him jealous?
admin
February 24, 2015 at 9:30 pm
No, I wouldn’t do anything to interfere with NC like adding him back but making your wall public isn’t a horrible idea.
Hannah
February 20, 2015 at 11:31 pm
What to do if you unfriend your ex boyfriend and he is mad about that? He doesn’t want to talk to me anymore or accept my friend request.
admin
February 22, 2015 at 4:16 pm
Honestly, itll blow over in the grand scheme of things.
Jennifer
February 20, 2015 at 2:23 pm
my ex is in a new relationship soon after we broke up, and he’s been aggressively posting status updates and photos of them together. I did exactly what you said, NC and having an active social life with my girlfriends, yet he deleted me on facebook. Why did he do that?
admin
February 20, 2015 at 11:57 pm
Could his new relationship be a rebound? How quickly did he move on?
jenny
February 19, 2015 at 2:56 am
Hey chris..
I hv had an on and off relationship for past two years. We always patchup to split again..he is my first love..a nice guy..but he doesnt trust me..I cant hangout with other male colleagues or evn chat with them ..he broke up this time accepting he is too orthdox for me.. I miss him..I love him..bt I knew I cnt do anythin about it..so I let go..ysdy he hd a bad day so he msgd me..I replied back..but by then he had deleted his account..it always him who initiated the breakup..and it ws him who always found his way back..but sometimes I just feel incapable to meet his ideal girl image..It breaks me everytime he rejects me..I love him a lot..can you please tell me where I am headed?
admin
February 20, 2015 at 11:08 pm
May I ask how old the two of you are?
Tiffie
February 16, 2015 at 6:58 pm
doesn’t it defeat the purpose of NC if they see you on facebook and know what you’re up to?
admin
February 16, 2015 at 11:57 pm
Not if it makes them miss you more!
Tiffie
February 14, 2015 at 6:13 am
Do we wait until our 30 day nc is over to start posting, or before then?
kacy
February 9, 2015 at 7:52 pm
Hi
My ex broke up with me saying that he won’t be able to take care of me financially. Both our families were against us. So he told I love you but I want some peace as he is also struggling with his career. No contact since october 2014?.Is there any chance of getting back together? Why he did so?
admin
February 10, 2015 at 3:38 pm
Sure there is.
Have you attempted contact at all since october?
metallic.girl
February 8, 2015 at 5:24 pm
Hi please respond to my message on ur facebook page. It’s very important and urgent.
admin
February 9, 2015 at 4:40 pm
When did you leave it? I have like a million…
Kaitlyn
January 8, 2015 at 10:18 pm
Hi,
My boyfriend of four (almost five years) broke up with me about two months ago. For the first three years we were doing really well. Then his lack of boundaries with his female friends became an issue and we broke up for the first time in 2013. We had a failed reconciliation in 2014 due to complications with his rebound relationship. We would constantly argue about it and it consumed our relationship. So now we are separated again and I’m trying to find out what to do from here. This site has been very helpful in changing my mindset and giving me strength, but I’m losing hope that a positive and permanent reconciliation is in our future. I’m a few days into NC and looking for some advice. Thanks!
Ashley
January 6, 2015 at 8:31 pm
Chris, I’ve implemented the no contact and its been almost two months since he’s broken up with me. We said “hi” when we ran into each other a few weeks ago. He sat down directly next to me at a friends dinner party, but said nothing. When he broke up with me, he said he did not want to lose me out of his life… Is it safe to assume that he just doesn’t know how to talk to me now? That he’s feeling awkward? I would love to start a conversation with him, but I honestly have no idea how to start? I feel awkward and I can’t find a simple question to ask him that doesn’t sound lame.
One question I also have that relates to this post is: is it okay to “like” a status update or photo he’s posted every once in a while?
admin
January 7, 2015 at 5:30 am
I think the situation makes him uncomfortable and he does feel awkward. I think initiating a nice polite conversation would be great!
Aren’t you texting him at all to break the ice though?
Ashley
January 7, 2015 at 4:06 pm
I honestly can’t think of anything to text him.
Maybe I’m thinking too much about it… Having gone that month or so without talking with him, texting him now just seems like it would be weird. I think I’m also hoping that if he feels so weird that he would initiate contact.