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494 thoughts on “Getting Him Back After A Year (Or More) Apart”

  1. Ms. TIna Marie

    September 17, 2013 at 10:43 pm

    He didn’t block me on Facebook , and when I left about 3 weeks ago now; NC what so ever. Now he messaged me on Facebook and asked “Can I have Kylie tuesday”. That was all. He probely went to his lawyer and they told him to ask to see her so I can’t say he didn’t show any concern for her, but how do I act when I have to see him, and how do I resent myself and when and how do I text him? Please advise me so maybe one day he can look back and see that I didn;t give him any troubles, and maybe give us another try.

  2. Ms. TIna Marie

    September 7, 2013 at 2:53 am

    I invited Matt to Siblings B day Party. Family Loved him; Were Impressed with Him and I’s connection. He never ended up leaving and spend the night for 2-3 months. He would talk to my mom for hours about things; Felt that connection.
    Few little things that puzzled him; He called his Mom and Vented. She told him there were more Issues out here and he should be Careful
    He took it as a Grain of Salt and Continued on. My Mother n I got into a Argument and I ended up Leaving the restaurant to cool down; Family left and claimed they didn’t and that they looked & couldn’t find my sis or I. I called Matt/Linda up and told them what happened/ THey took us home 10 minutes after curfew. My mom was hurt and Upset and denied having 2 daughters that were late and Matt/Linda fought with my parents for Locking us out previous nights we were late for curfew. Mom got upset with all the fighting; Told me to get my scrubs and get out.Dad told me it was a Cool Down period, and We hugged and Left
    Never heard from them for months, and when they finally did; I was hurt and Bitter still and I told them to screw Off and Leave me alone. Linda/Matt were there for me in the beginning and just got used to me not wanting anything to do with my Family and didn’t want me to talk to them. I started to and I had other feelings but after talking with Linda she would make me think differently about forgiving my family and so would Matt. My family would call and I would at the time not want to talk but was then afraid later on that I did and Matt and Linda talked so bad about my family I didn’t want to upset them or Matt by saying I wanted to talk to them again.Found out i was Pregnant. They became more protective and there feelings got worse for my Family.Went thro my delivery and had Daughter in April w/o contact with Family.Started feeling bad for my parents/Family. Snuck around to see them.
    Matt/linda had nothing good to say bout me and over time Linda would nit picked everything i would do with my daughter and tell her son everything i did wrong. He would get upset with me and then i would go back to his mom saying she is making my Fiance think bad of me as a partner, n as the mother of his child. She took it personally and he sided with her. He told me i should be more grateful for what she did for me, and I continued to stick up for myself when she was wrong about what she was saying about me to him. I ended up getting fed up and I knew they didn’t like my family but I took my daughter and Left there house. HIs mother had been trying to tell him to give up his rights as a father to protect himself emotionally but I don’t know whether he will or not. I left and he was hurt but his mom talked with him before I left probley telling me I was just trouble. I don’t know?…We haven’t spoken since, and he defended me on Fb. He usually has blocked me before and I recently just de friended his Brother also. Is it savable or is it gone. How long do i wait to contact him or will this not work considering he is a Momma’s Boy kinda? Need help and I really love your advise. Happy to hear it was worked out for so many. Great Job .:)

    1. admin

      September 7, 2013 at 11:45 pm

      Have you tried anything like the no contact rule before.

      You might want to check out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO for the full rundown.

    2. Ms. TIna Marie

      September 8, 2013 at 2:31 am

      I have never tried the NC rule before and what is the Recovery PRO? Do you think it will actually be mendable with time or do you think since he is living with his mother the results will vary?

    3. admin

      September 8, 2013 at 4:32 pm

      The living with his mother things is kind of… weird I guess but I would say you can still improve your chances a lot.

      Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO is the E-Book on this site. It has already helped a lot of women.

    4. Ms. TIna Marie

      September 11, 2013 at 2:21 am

      Any advice for me? I really am starting to feel hopeless. I have a child with him so I really want it to work but understand he is bitter, and needs his space. BUt i still need advice?.. Please help if you can?…

    5. admin

      September 12, 2013 at 3:03 am

      Actually, you can just ask me anything you want (one question at a time)

      Anything you need help on or have fears about just ask and I will do my best to answer. It really works a lot better that way.

    6. Ms. TIna Marie

      September 10, 2013 at 2:13 am

      He really is one to hold his mom’s and his feelings against people. When they talk to each other and are there for each other; It is very hard for others to tell them collectively differently. His mom makes a lot of false judgements and he is very protective of his mom; so how can i go about texting him when she is so much involved. I love him a lot but his mom was the major wind in our relationship and he still doesn’t see that. He works at a Best Buy and how would I start off my text or how would I know when he is less bitter. I really need your advice and I still haven’t contacted him but I have fought many urges to. I will be buying the Ebook very soon but i have to wait for my next paycheck. -TIna

    7. admin

      September 11, 2013 at 1:38 am

      That is just crazy to me. That a mom controls the way he thinks like that.

    8. Ms. TIna Marie

      September 8, 2013 at 2:43 am

      I ended up packing and Leaving 6/7 days ago. HIs phylosophy was if I didn’t want to live there with him; he would move on and not chase me or beg for me to stay. I don’t know what to do and ever since I left; I haven’t talked to him. No contact what so ever. How long should I continue the NC rule and when would you say is a good time if ever to see where his head is at?…

    9. admin

      September 8, 2013 at 4:32 pm

      30 days!

  3. Alicia

    September 6, 2013 at 9:40 am

    Dear Chris,

    Me and my BF were together for 1 1/2. During this time we were happy and in love 80% of the time but we both cheated on each other the other 20%. We broke up when I moved to another state and I found out he was still cheating even after we had broken up and then decided to get back together and change. While we were breaking up he told me he was going to propose but I said something that changed his mind. That was it 3 months later I called him we talked and he wanted me to move home I couldn’t so we decided to say goodbye. Fast forward 5 yrs later and I think I made the worst mistake of my life! I can’t stop thinking about him. My family still lives in town and they tell me when he sees them he’ll ask about me but he has been with someone for 4 yrs and she wants to get married and he doesn’t. This , to me, sounded like a whole lot of info he have out I assumed he was atleast “unhappy” with his relationship so I reached out before reading this!!! Asked him out he said sure then shortly called back and canceled! I was devastated I asked why he said I’m with someone I said ok he said will this be the last time you call me? I said if that’s what you want?!! Yes!!!! All I could think was yes?? YES!!! That was 6 months ago I’m going home around the same time and I was wondering should I try again or in my case is it really too late!??? Please help!

    1. admin

      September 7, 2013 at 1:46 am

      Maybe you should give it one last shot.

  4. S. Wells

    August 15, 2013 at 10:58 am

    Hi Chris:

    So, my ex and I have been seperated for quite a long time, and “if” I text him, its always a one word response. He has said things like, it’s refreshing not to have to deal with non sense, even though I know it wasnt all me- and that so much has happened that he doesnt know if we can recover, blah, blah, blah… yet he will text me randomly at times which confuses me…. because if you arent interested, then why bother… Anyway, my question is, do you think that implementing your direction will work? And do you believe that I should cut the communication for a period since we have been in contact since the breakup??? Sometimes I think that he does things that he knows upset me and then when I react then all of a sudden he saying “don’t text him anymore”….. What are your thoughts??

    1. admin

      August 16, 2013 at 2:14 am

      I can’t guarantee success on “my direction” I can say that if you go here you will find a lot of people who have found success.

    2. S. Wells

      August 16, 2013 at 5:03 am

      Ok… but what are your thoughts on this back and fourth since we have broken up?? I believe that some things that he says are intentional as to hurt me, or upset me, but then out of theblue he will be this completely chipper person and start texting again as if he wasn’t rude and short days before…..

    3. admin

      August 17, 2013 at 2:49 am

      I have had a breakup like this where I acted like him. The really nice comments and then out of nowhere I turned into a rabid jerk. Hey, it is the truth and I am not proud of it. The truth was that I was frustrated at myself more than anything which is why I acted so strange.

  5. Christine

    July 14, 2013 at 8:04 pm

    Dear Chris,

    Me and my ex boyfriend have been broken up for over a year now. I hope to one day get back together but for now I’m currently in the “waiting” process unfortunately. I’m trying to re-establish the bond we had, but for numerous (but understandable) reasons, I get prevented. He naturally distances himself to not get too attached to me (and he randomly flirts, which makes it awkward, cause he is trying to date a new girl which confuses me a lot sometimes). Our breakup was mostly due to the fact we just were drained out emotionally due to fights that were small but grew in number. However, recently we have conversations that make me feel like our bond can be reunited one day. However, how does one feel okay with being patient with this? I feel like I wanna just tell him how I feel but its the wrong time cause of the “other woman” so to speak. And the fact he distances himself from me naturally doesn’t help. I just want us to get back on track so to speak. Any advice with this? I feel like its fixable, but it will take a long time, which I naturally understand. Is there a way to make him less distant though, or is that just something I’m going to have to wait out as well? We had a great bond before that was very strong until the breakup occurred. I don’t want to loose it but its been very hard on me and slow going.

    Thanks for any advice you may have 🙂

    Sincerely,

    Christine

    1. admin

      July 15, 2013 at 7:42 pm

      I think the way to make the bond closer is to control your conversations better. Make sure you always end the conversations first and make sure every text you send has depth to it.

    2. Christine

      July 14, 2013 at 8:05 pm

      Sorry, I thought my first comment didn’t go through, so I wrote this one. You can ignore or delete this one and reply to the other one. I apologize.

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