1,382 thoughts on “The Male Mind AFTER The No Contact Rule”

1. 

   Sam

   April 10, 2017 at 1:11 am

   I have been dating this guy for three and a half years and I always felt loved and cared for. I am a student and he is working currently and takes care of all my expenses. But since the last three years he claims he has never found me attractive physically. I am ready to try out on weight for him but he said many hurtful things and stopped talking to me completely. He is the first guy with whom I have slept and it’s really difficult to forget all the great things he has done for me. I decided to follow the NC and it’s been a week and he only texted me twice asking “are u okay?” I usually called him 50 times a day and he would receive the phone only once and would always shout at me or be rude since the last three months. He is not seeing anyone else but he does like pictures of woman who are physically sexy. I am at such a loss I want things to work out so desperately but I don’t see anything from him.

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   April 10, 2017 at 8:06 pm

   for me you should move on from him. He sounds emotionally abusive.

2. 

   U

   April 8, 2017 at 3:59 am

   Hi amor,

   I have completed 30 days NC and have initiate contact text message.
   First contact, I text him about new fishing spot which he likes fishing. Around 10 mins later he replied, “hi how are you..”
   I replied, “I’m great! 🙂 sorry i have to go, i have a meeting. Continue the convo later.”

   Yesterday I sent second text message, “hey, are u still jogging routinely? There is trail run will held next month” (and I sent the pics about the detail)
   He read it but replied after 6,5hours later, he said “the trail run is 12K, i can’t run that far (insert bittersmile emoticon)”
   Then i replied, “haha there’s family run also only 5K. How is the trail run usually?(i ask because i never join trail run before). Our mutual friend also want to join but not confirm yet.”
   He only read it, not reply. So i cant end the convo in high note.

   My question is :
   Is that all neutral respons from him?
   Is it because he still angry or cant hold his feelings, so reply like that?
   Can you please advise what should i do next?
   Today i’m not contact him, because its full moon period.
   Should i contact him tomorrow and what kind of text?
   Your advice is really appreciated.
   Thanks! 🙂

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   April 9, 2017 at 4:38 pm

   it’s neutral.. It looks like it’s just a boring topic for him.. use a a mkre interesting one next time..

3. 

   Mary

   April 2, 2017 at 10:27 am

   Hi after the four week no contact rule my ex actually sent me a text. The text said he had an upcoming event and wanted me there with him. I have not responded it’s been two days, and I don’t know how to respond to that statement. Any advice?

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   April 3, 2017 at 1:16 pm

   Hi Mary,
   ask him how he’s been, and what and when is the event and then after he tells you what it is, tell him you’ll update him later on if you’re available.

4. 

   Leah

   March 30, 2017 at 9:47 pm

   Hi Amor,

   Its almost been a month of no contact now and i am getting ready to send my first text. I have been doing everything to work on myself but I still feel very emotional and find myself crying now and then. Does this mean that I should extend the no contact period to 45 days because I am still emotional?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 31, 2017 at 6:38 pm

   Hi Leah,

   not really but if it’s to a point that you can’t communicate positively, and stay calm, extend a week..

5. 

   Yolanda

   March 30, 2017 at 2:31 pm

   My ex broke up with me August 2016 we were still seeing each other and having sexual relations like we never broke I constantly would ask what are we and he continues a reply he don’t want a relationship right now and if I do then I should start looking for one how would this 30 no contact rule Will help me what should I do

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 30, 2017 at 7:37 pm

   Ho yolanda,
   check this one:
   Sleeping with Your Ex Boyfriend… Does It Work?

6. 

   Marina

   March 28, 2017 at 10:59 pm

   My ex boyfriend and I were at our almost 3 year mark this October. We moved in a year 1/2 later after being together. After his deployment which was only about 4 months. Once we moved in I caught some girl on his phone he claimed he got from a amateur porn site. I started getting very insecure because I have found this three other times before. It’s always been one girl and it’s a lot of videos and pictures of that specific girl . So as time went by I started to realize I became a very mean insecure woman. I started to question myself a lot whether I was giving him what he needed as a partner and his women. You got to the point where The last time I lashed out he told me that we were throug. I tried to make him dinner show him love and comfort him the three days. It wasn’t working. So finally I burst out in tears and I asked him what he wants me to do because I want to work on us. I want to fix my insecurities and I want to become a better person for this relationship. He told me he thinks that I should stay with my folks for a bit. I cried and I said OK. I went to straight to the bedroom, he slept on the couch the next morning he left to work I got up and packed all my stuff and I haven’t heard from him for a week and a half now. I never called after I had left I never sent him anything after I left. There has been no contact whatsoever since I have left. As last week went by once it hit Friday he started commenting and his buddies pictures and statuses on Facebook. Now that we’ve hit this week he’s liking girls pictures all over Instagram but yet has not contacted me yet. I’m in a sticky situation because I love the man I would like him to contact me but he doesn’t seem to want to. Thank you so much for your help!

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 29, 2017 at 1:59 pm

   Hi Marina,

   Start the count of no contact rule after this.. Do at least 30 days..

7. 

   Rachel

   March 25, 2017 at 2:58 pm

   I just completed the 30 days no contact rule with my ex. I got an angry response and I’m not sure where to go from here. After I texted him my interesting text he said, “Why are you all of a sudden talking to me?”

1. 

   CB

   April 2, 2017 at 8:07 am

   To Rachel
   I would not reply to a text like that.
   He let his emotions out, and that is a Good thing. He showed you vulnerability/weakness.
   Which means that he will have regrets about his tone, if you just keep quiet and don’t respond to this oneliner.
   He will ponder, and then text you again, or call. He obviously still has feeelings for you. 🙂

2. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 26, 2017 at 1:55 pm

   Hi Rachel,

   what was the text and how did you reply to that?

8. 

   Allie

   March 17, 2017 at 2:48 am

   My ex broke up with me about two months ago after a year of dating. I begged for a week or two while he acted hot and cold. Then I found this website and went NC. He tried to talk to me basically everyday or every other day. Just “hey how are you?” And even asked to send him pictures of us. I knew he misses me and during the third week, I felt strong enough to drink again. Unfortunately, I drank way to much and made an idiot out of myself and cried over him and someone called him and he picked me up and brought me home. I woke up later confused and angry. I saw him later that night at another get together and told him thanks for taking care of me, I tried to play it cool but I knew deep down I ruined all my hard work and I had to start over. You could definitely tell he thought differently of me now…ouch, so I asked that he just leave me alone. I restarted no contact and he doesn’t contact me NEAR as much. I’m on day 18 and he’s only attempted 3 times. Once for my birthday, then asking if something was true about a friend, then claiming I cheated on him…. I’m not sure if he is just trying to find excuses since I told him to leave me alone or he truly doesn’t miss me and felt the need to say those things. Does it seem as if I ruined everything? Does no contact ever work after a first failed attempt?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 21, 2017 at 2:42 pm

   Hi Allie,

   nope..those are good signs..for now, just keep improving yourself and being active in posting..

9. 

   Lorenza

   March 13, 2017 at 9:34 pm

   Hello!
   I was dating for 3 months this guy.. he loves in Nyc and I live in Mexico..
   We knew each other for 6 years.. he always liked me but I always saw him as a friend.. he is jew and Im not.
   Then on november we saw each other and he kissed me I was in shock.
   And it all started.. we started talking everyday ALL DAY on the phone.. texts.. somedays facetime.. everyday! He was very excited, telling me he missed me, he liked me..
   We were already in our cities.. then on january Cos I had this tumor on my ovary I was getting a lot of hormones and We started fighting for little things. I was very sensible.. I was afraid because I am not a jew.. and I started breaking things off a lot when I got scared.. and he never let me do it, he stayed and stayed.. one day after one big fight I told him my situation about my hormones and he understood..
   Another month passed.. and it was the same he was a little complicated instead of doing some things to have me just happy.. He stopped the calls..! Only text.. everyday all day.. and everything can get misunderstood on text thats why I asked him to called me better and he was like a little kid.. because I told him he didnt do it..
   And the same continued happening.. but we loved very much each other, we holded onto each other we couldnt let go even with our discussions..
   Finallyon february que went to mexico to visitme.. he said the fights were happening because we missed each othe a lot.. 3 months without seeing each other!
   When we saw each other it was like a movie.. we were the most happy couple ever! He couldnt stop hugging me kissing me.. we didnt fight.. we talked about seeing esch other exclussively.. very happy
   But the 4th day he was weird, he wasnt nice with me over text, we said the day before we were going to and have dinner with his brother and his girl so I could meet him.. he was serious..
   And we started fighting.. long story short we didnt see each other.. I broke up with him even thougj we didnt were boyfriend and girlfriend and told him that I didnt want to hear from him that I was very sad and dissapointed.
   The next day he texted me a long long text:
   I think this is not going to work, I love you, but I dont think Im the right guy for you.. I love everything about you, but there is too much drama.. Im not gonna be in for this.. I hope we can be friends..
   And I replay:
   Thats fine, I dont think you are the man for me either.. You were so defensive all the time.. this is the end and its not the end of the world.. wish you the best, take care.
   And that was it
   I applied the no contact rule.. he started liking photos on my instagram.. I ignored him..
   And after two weeks of no contact.. he texted me: do you still hating me?
   And I didnt reply
   I really want him back for good.. I really want your opinion

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 15, 2017 at 4:57 pm

   Hi Lorenza,

   if you’re improving yourself, that’s good keep it up and keep being active in posting.. After 30 days, initiate contact and slowly build rapport slowly and continue improving yourself too..

10. 

    Vee

    March 10, 2017 at 7:31 pm

    Very interesting read, thank you. But like most articles on NC, there’s never really a mention of the benefits of NC, if the EX is dating/seeing someone else. Thoughts?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 14, 2017 at 4:25 pm

   Hi Vee,

   if he is with someone else, then all the more that you should do nc to focus in improving yourself..

11. 

    Jennifer

    March 9, 2017 at 6:52 pm

    So, to complicate the matter, how do you do the 30 days no contact if there is a child involved?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 10, 2017 at 7:14 am

   Hi Jennifer,

   try it first, if it doesn’t work out, move on..Check this one too:
   Get Your Boyfriend Back If You Have A Child Together

12. 

    Pheonix Lauren

    March 9, 2017 at 10:56 am

    I was in an almost relationship with this guy for about 2 months. Things were very quick at first and then very stagnant towards the end. I was just out of a long term relationship so I didn’t wanna rush into it but I also didn’t know how to friend zone him. He got confused with the mixed signals and finally gave up putting in any efforts. He told me he needs time to think without giving any reason or trying to sort things out. I tried talking to him once, even said sorry for the things I didn’t know I did wrong. I had never felt that kind of rejection in my life before and I have never had someone treat me so bad. I completely shut him off and went for 60 days of NC. Now, after 2 months, he adds me on snapchat. I really do like him and want him back but I also know my worth. How do I make him work for me without having to put in any efforts whatsoever?

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 12, 2017 at 11:20 am

   Hi Phoenix,

   you can’t control other people.. You can try to build rapport, just don’t chase.

13. 

    Sara

    March 1, 2017 at 7:01 am

    I wss dating a guy who lives 4 hours from me. for 8 months. he would come to see me and vice versa. I caught him liking girls pics on fb which i see as flirting. he promised he wouldn’t do it again but i recently found out again. he promises he”knows these people and isnt trying to flirt. I said some very nasty things and told him to lose my #. we have broke up and gotten back together several times in the past. i called him when i found out and he got very angry at me and hung up that is when i texted him telling him to lose my #. He never responded to my breakup text and we havent spoken for 4 days. we have only ever gone 2 days without speaking.. never this long. i am missing him and wanting him to come back begging and apologizing …. will it happen

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 1, 2017 at 8:38 pm

   Hi Sara,

   We can’t guarantee that nor that we can guarantee that nc will work. It can only help increase your chances. Do you want to try it? I think you need to do at least 21 days.

14. 

    Samantha

    February 22, 2017 at 4:35 am

    My first ever situation where there was sex without commitment. We live two states apart but he comes to my state for work every so often. We met last spring and during that time he stated he wasn’t looking for a relationship, had his heart broken three years prior (caught his ex wife cheating on him), yet would tell me things like “I could live with that” (after asking my interests/hobbies etc), “I want to make an honest woman out of you”, “if you come hunting w/me and my Dad in AK and you kill a moose I’ll marry you” and opening up to me about personal things he said he’d only told his ex-wife and best friend. After six months of this and texting a lot, I told him, again, I wanted more, I tested this for the first time and can’t do it. I want a committed relationship. He helped me move three months ago, but tried to initiate sex after but I stopped it. He tried via text the following day wanting to “make out” haha I said no….he called and said guess we’ll just have to be friends….I said I guess so since all you want is sex with a woman…he said no that’s not true, it just wouldn’t work with the two of us…I said how do you know if you don’t try?….he said ‘trust me’…then mentioned excuses as to why. He told me to delete all our texts and I said I’ll talk to you later and I hung up. He texted that he had just deleted all our texts and sent a screen shot of doing so. I didn’t respond. I ridiculously broke down in tears for hours after that….
    Three months later, no contact from either of us…he texts Happy Valentine’s Day
    I never responded…completely shocked…confused…why would he send that? Guilt? Interest in sex even though he knows I want more? Change of heart? Player filled with ego? etc etc etc

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   February 22, 2017 at 10:48 pm

   Hi Samantha,

   whatever the underlying reason is, the question is, do you want to try to build rapport?

15. 

    TZ

    February 19, 2017 at 6:37 am

    hey, my ex and i had a good relationship (at least i think in that way) for one and half year. in between, we had few conflicts, he was the one always wanting to get back together, he believed we were prefect for each other, only one thing, he thought i was a bit stubborn and push. last April, i was upset with him over one thing, we stopped talking for a week, then he wanted break up, i was a bit emotional, but agreed, i thought he will come back as usual, however he moved on. (i did not know, as i closed myself for almost 3 month, in the end, i could not held anymore i went to counselling, he suggested to go to counselling during first few conflicts). i contacted him, apologised to him, and wanted him back, but he told me he has a new GF who he loves, i gave up after few attempts, but he on and off contacted me, and i know his new GF is divorced woman has a 15 years old daughter who is a international student in here, also his new GF 4 years older than him, he told me he loves her and will help her to stay in this country (his new GF was a international student, after her daughter study in here, she is holding carer’s visa). i deleted all his contact details, however, every time he contacted me, i added him back again. until 2 weeks ago, he asked me a favour to help him to rent his place like i helped him when we were together, during advertising and inspection in that week, we had more communications, i asked him why you did not ask your GF to help, he told me no more GF, I did not ask any more, i felt he was hurt while he was talking about his GF. few days later, his place rent out, he called me, thanked to me, he even offered to help me to paint my new house. he told me they back together, i was told the reason his GF break up with him because he wanted to do financial agreement before letting her and her daughter moving in, his GF felt he loves her house over her. that day we chatted as friends, he told me his GF does not work, but spent lots of money on her daughter international study fee, rental, new care etc..), her parents are poor. he was wondering where is her money from, but he never asked. his GF from Korean. he said he will help as much as he can. if the relationship go well, he will sponsor her and her daughter, if not, he will back to market. after he told me they back together, i refused his offer and i asked no more contact, he asked why, i said only contact me if you two broken up. after that conversation, i deleted his contact methods again. one day after i messaged him wanted to ask him to reconsider his decision to let her move in as he does not know much about that woman, i asked him to contact me when he is free, but he did not until now. i knew i should not contact him any more, but i still hoping he can come back to me. was wondering does no contact rule still work in this case?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   February 20, 2017 at 8:00 pm

   Hi Tz,

   the danger in your position is that you told him to contact you if they broke up, it’s like you’ve let him know that you’re his back up plan.. Honestly, it’s a small chance that nc would work because you’ve been ignoring him before and then talking to him again later on.. The only thing I think that can help is if he sees you’re the better option and if he knows you’re not always there.. That you’ve moved on and if he wants you back, he has to put extra effort that he’s not going to treat you as a back up plan.

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    Lala

    February 16, 2017 at 3:36 pm

    Hi.. i was together with this guy for 6 mths. As he is a divorcée and his ex wife cheated on him.. since the start he told me he cannot promise me anything. However he brought me to meet his family, which he nvr did after he divorced.. even when he had other flings… i have met all his close friends, he also initiated to meet my parents when we were 2 mths in the relationship. He nvr acknowledged any gal as his gf on social media.. i was the only one… but i always break up with him, almost weekly.. because of his drinking habits.. bad influences… his friends, all of them, although married, still visits prostitutions. They also ask him along.. he is included in the groups chats.. even tho he never reply, he claimed.. i saw his phone messages, not sure whether he did reply.. he did deleted his ex’s msg before to refrain me from finding out…

    I found out he reactivated his tinder account even before we broke up.. however i was using it all the while as he cannot commit to me.. although he spends all his weekends with me, he gave me the password to his phone, did not mind me using or lookin through his phone…

    Now we broken up for a mth. During 2nd week, he added me at facebook.. and liked my pics… we did chat abit on the third week on fb msg

    He says i need to move on and i deserve someone whom i can marry coz he cannot give me promise. However he keeps givin me kiss emoticons… and ask me to look for him for a drink if im bored..
    Im not sure he just want sex, or he really have feelings for me…
    Should i move on? Or do the no contact? Or should i meet him?

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   February 16, 2017 at 8:52 pm

   Hi Lala,

   try the no contact rule first, if it doesn’t work, then move on..

17. 

    Damaris

    February 13, 2017 at 7:45 am

    Hi. I’m desperately in love with a guy for two years. We started off coworkers and then as friends. I developed deep feelings for him. He would spend time after his shift with me. We had thousands of text messages together. He would come to my house and we would snuggle. Eventually we became intimate after he kissed me one night while cuddling. After we became intimate, he became withdrawn. He would stop texting me, sometimes for weeks and months and then would come back. I never confronted him about abandoning me. He said he didn’t want our coworkers to find out about us. He told me one night that if we weren’t coworkers that he would date me. Needless to say, he would come back to me after being gone for so long and we would be sexualidad again and then he would be nice for a few days then ignore me again. In November he made a move on one of my friends and told me that he only wanted to be friends with me and nothing more, that he didn’t lIke me “in that way” and I accepted it even tho I was deeply hurt. My friend saw how hurt I was and confessed to me that my guy and her had kissed. She then sent him a text and told him she never wanted to see him again and cursed him out. He came over that same night in a panic because he thought she had ruined our friendship. I reassured him that my lover was unconditional and he cried and seemed to feel deep remorse. He starte being nice to me again and even tried to kiss me once bUT I told him no because he is not my boyfriend and he said that never stopped me before and I said well I’m not giving you boyfriend privileges anymore. I thought this would make him want me more. But now he decided to pick another girl over me again and she lives 13 hours away. He went to see her on Thursday and texted me while he was driving there and I ignored his texts. He texted me today when he came back home and I ignored it again. A few hours later his relationship status changed in a relationship with her and my heart is completely destroyed. I immediately texted him “goodbye tyler” and I unfriended him and blocked him on Facebook. I am destroyed emotionally. I don’t know what to do because he will be at work tomorrow and I know I have to ignore him. I don’t know what to do. I feel so lost.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   February 14, 2017 at 1:37 pm

   Hi Damaris,

   check this one:
   EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

18. 

    Samantha

    February 13, 2017 at 3:03 am

    Not so long ago my ex has told me he has started to date someone else . Now me and him broke up almost a year ago but during that time we had kept in contact , calling , texting and face timing . At first we tried to get back together but realized we both still had issues we needed to work on . So as time went on I still kept contact with him . I worked on my issues which is being more intimate with him , posting things on my fb and such about us . Pretty much being a person who I use to be when me and him first dated cause that was the person he missed most . We would talk about our future , getting married , having kids ya know the whole shebang . .Now me and him had gone through a lot of ups and downs and never gave up on each other . So I thought that when we had time to fix ourselves that not seeing each other physically would be a good thing . But I had a down fall whenever he wanted to make time to hangout I had no time and when I did for him it was the same thing . Now since every attempt was bad I just face timed him a lot . I still was in love with but couldn’t tell him cause every time he asked I hesitated. So after Christmas I was gonna make a plan to surprise him on Valentine’s Day with gifts and me wanting to be back with him cause if he didn’t still have feelings for me he would have never kept in co fact with me cause out of all of his ex I was the only one he kept contact with. Plus I will never forget when he told me that being with me he had butterflies. Well not so long ago of not talking to him for a week n half due to family issues I called him and later the next day he told me was seeing someone and he said he had sparks with her and such . I was left heartbroken and decided to email him how I felt in 2 messages. Now before I did that he told me I was too late cause of my timing and that his reason was that he always asked me why I was still talking to him a lot, was I guess my shot in me finally saying I love him me want him back . Now I asked him to take me back but his response was he wanted to give her a chance and if they break up they breakup . After pouring my heart to him in my emails . Would the no 30 days work or would it be a waste of time ?

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   February 14, 2017 at 11:52 am

   Hi Samantha,

   there’s no guarantee that it will work but right now it’s your only choice instead of chasing, if you don’t want to move on..

19. 

    Angel#17

    February 11, 2017 at 9:44 pm

    Hi
    Me and my ex dated for a year and just about 1 month, we fell out sometimes but we managed to sort things out ,however 2 weeks ago ,we were talking about having children in the future and he said he didn’t think he wanted any anymore in the future , we used to talk about the future a lot , and he even asked to move in with me this summer , but he was stressing about work and finances ,so he said he doesn’t know if he’s financially capable of looking after children .I got upset and I told him that if he wasn’t certain of what he wants in the future then we should break up, but felt bad saying that , so I took it back , however he said he didn’t want a relationship anymore as he doesn’t feel the same way, he said he didn’t love me anymore , I am also at university in my last year and his always worried that he might be distracting me. Anyways we met the following day and we discussed the issue , and we both cried , I haven’t seen him cry like the way he did that night that’s why I find it hard to believe he doesn’t care anymore , that night we both agreed to take 2 weeks break instead of breaking up , however he changed his status on fb and I messaged him concerning that and he said he wanted to be single ,bare in mind we had only been on a break for a day , I’ve texted begging him to come back and it’s been 2 weeks now,I feel like I’ve lost all my dignity trying to get him back , I’ve sent him messages reminding him of what we had and told him I missed him , he never replies , at one point he decided he wanted us to go for a drink but he bailed out on me last minute , I’ve decided to go no contact with him for while ,but am not sure if that won’t push him away , I love him dearly and I still believe he does too , what should I do

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   February 13, 2017 at 4:38 pm

   Hi Angel17,

   you cant push something that’s already away.. so, your best step is to gain your dignity back by improving yourself and also to increase your chances of making him regret leaving you..

20. 

    Tiara

    February 9, 2017 at 2:31 pm

    I broke off wid my bf on 11 January. N didn’t talk to him for 22 days. Wen I went back to talk to him, he behaved like he too wants to talk but the next hour, he started being really angry. His main point is how cud I leave him for this long. He says he suffered alot n is stronger now. He will talk to me. But doesn’t want a relationship. He wants to focus on life. He is so angry. Wat shud I do now! I M feeling desperate. I cried alot, he is talking but it’s not normal.

1. 

   Tiara

   February 10, 2017 at 6:31 am

   What do i do now? He cares for me. He wants me to listen to all his anger. He is trying to break me down n make me feel bad for not talking for so long. How do i respond? Keep on listening? N not ask him to come back? If I leave talking again, he will get more angered.

2. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   February 10, 2017 at 5:52 pm

   no, just let him be angry.. You know if he really isnt affected at all, he wouldn’t be angry.. he just wouldn’t care.. it can be ego too, to try to get even but either way, the better action is to ignore the angry messages..or just say you apologize for making him feel that way because it was not your intention, you wish him the best but it’s not healthy to keep fighting each other

   and then ignore..be proactive in your life.. one sincere apology is enough.. After that, if he’s still angry, dont take it.. It’s like he’s reading you this essay named angry, and then handing the paper over to you.. Don’t take it. He has the freedom to be angry..that doesn’t mean you have to share it.. Let him cool down while you take the high road..

3. 

   Tiara

   February 9, 2017 at 8:33 pm

   Break up was tough, I was all time thinking about him. I broke up coz he was being insensitive towards me (he is into a new job and really busy) may be I over thinked. I thot he doesn’t want us. He tried to call me multiple times the day I called it off but I didn’t take any of his calls. He stopped calling the next day but kept on updating real sad quotes on WhatsApp. I got convinced he wants us n so I called him up. I told him I thot he didn’t wish us together. He said I M an over thinker. He sometimes acts normal but d next moment he makes me feel like he is really hurt n stronger now. He keeps on repeating somehow that we r not together but just talking. He still updates on WhatsApp, but now angry ones. Yes, I understood I need to stop overthinking n give him more space n improve understanding. He says he wants time to get over whatever happened. He says “you shud have called me up n abused me, but how cud u just leave like DAT!”

4. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   February 9, 2017 at 9:41 pm

   Yeah, since he’s angry, it’s not the best time to try and build rapport. But it’s a good sign, it can be that he just wants to get back at you but he still cares.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   February 9, 2017 at 7:40 pm

   Hi Tiara,

   how was the break up? What happened, how did it go and why did you broke up? And did you mean you had a talk of getting back together on the first contact? Did you ask it? Or did he just bring it up? For now, rest from initiating for a week. Also, did you improve yourself during the no contact period?