The No Contact Rule: A Powerful Strategy That Works On Your Ex

6,801 thoughts on “The No Contact Rule (The Definitive Guide)”

Bree

October 2, 2017 at 2:05 pm

so the Situation is as follows: i am 34 he is 25. i was his first gf (which i know is always a risk) and he pretty much only just started growing up because of a very protective mother. we were in a Long distance relationship for a year and met 7 times over that period of time.
we broke up 1.5 months ago, which came completely out of the blue to me. since then we were the same as before (including cam sex) and Messaging and talking all day.
he says i am the sweetest Girl in the world and his most trusted Person.
before we got together he lost 80 Kilos but still feels ugly. he says he Needs to know if other Girls want him too or if i am just one in a Million. so since we broke up we went from “i want to be with someone whos Brains i want to fuck out as soon as i see them” (i am overweight but according to him have the most beautiful face in the whole world) to “i cant even kiss a Girl if i dont want a relationship with her”… he has the mindset of a 16 years old thanks to the way he grew up…
he established the NC rule for 5 weeks almost a week ago and we said good bye under tears and told each other what we love about each other and he said he Needs some time alone to figure out if he just feels sorry for me or if there is more and so his mind can get some rest and he can find within himself whatever will make him more confident and he cant always rely on me to help him with everything.
i understand all of it, i even understand if he Needs to date someone else so he can appreciate me. i am just having a very hard time with nc, especially Weekends when he goes out…
is the nc rule of any use here or is it just an excuse to get away from me?

i am working on myself, i changed my mindset towards some things that bothered him and i already lost 13 Kilos since the breakup 🙂
thank you

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 2, 2017 at 10:21 pm

Hi Bree,

He didn’t use the nc rule..because bc means he is not contacting you with the goal of trying to get you back after it.. Check this one:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

Nastya

October 2, 2017 at 1:31 pm

Does this technique suppose that you shouldn’t even post pics and videos of you on social network? So as I herd in one source not to let him to get any news about you . Or it depends on situation?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 2, 2017 at 10:18 pm

Hi Nastya,

It would be better if you post because that’s your indirect way of showing your improvements

Bella

October 2, 2017 at 1:17 pm

Me and my boyfriend been together for 4 years and 3 months. But we broke up last week because I caught him cheating. At first I already know about that girl and he talking on the ph and met outside for once. He lied to me that he doesn’t like that girl and I believed that. That’s why I let him keep talking with that girl. But last week I found out that girl posted their photo on social media and I freaked out. And I cried and begged him to break up with her. He said he can’t do it right at the moment. He said he needed time to do it. So stupidly, I go talked with that girl and begged her to leave him. And she said she can’t. And finally I became a loser in this relationship and being left with heart broken. Before I saw this website I kept sending him emails and begged him to come back and told him I forgave him. But I get no response. Until now that girl keep posting about how much they love each other and their photos. Even now I’m in the NCR period, when I saw those posts, it’s killing me and drugged me down . I want him back. Will NCR work for our relationship to get back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 2, 2017 at 10:16 pm

Hi Bella,
Check this one:
He Cheated On You And You Want Him Back… What Do You Do?

Olivia

September 30, 2017 at 4:19 am

Hi,

I was dating a guy for 3 months – we were exclusive but not girlfriend boyfriend. I broke up with him just yesterday because I felt like he was taking me for granted. Will no contact work with us? Or it only works for couples who have been fully committed to each other?

Thanks.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 30, 2017 at 10:00 pm

Hi Olivia,

It’s not a guarantee that it will work in any situation, it only helps increase your chances..

Wes

September 26, 2017 at 2:51 am

Put me on no contact fine. What you can do so can I. Only one difference.
I’ll put you on permanent no contact walk away and never fucking look back.
There wont be a guessing game of is my ex going to contact to me and when.
Maybe you blow my phone up maybe you come knock my
door. Maybe you get a restraining order put on you real quick…
Jess

September 25, 2017 at 6:15 am

Hi Amor!

Thanks for responding to my comment, I actually wrote you back a few days ago although I want to update it as of today I broke NC for the second time after a week. (We broke up a month ago) In my previous message I wrote how with the first NC I felt great cause I haven’t contacted him until the 7th day when I sent a reminder for his portion of the phone bill I saw I was blocked which was shocking to me since a week ago he texted me about the phone bill and end it with just “okay” which didn’t need a reply back for. After having to email him about the bill, he unblocked me on his phone and texted me “hi” and “hey” two hours later he asked a question about the account which I actually did respond to and didn’t text him back when he sent screenshot of proof of payment and sent another text minutes later saying he paid it. I figured he blocked me immediately again anyways, but as of today (week later) I broke NC by sending him a picture of a cat breed we love and someone is selling to which I sent a photo & “Looks like your cat. Had to share this picture. Hope all is well with you” surprisingly it got delievered (no longer blocked after almost full out block) but he didn’t reply which made my heart sank more. Im upset at myself for breaking it but in a way I felt okay knowing he didn’t block me again afterwards and saw I haven’t reached out for a week. But at the same time horrible for having a moment of weakness and the fact he didn’t bother relying when clearly it’s harder on me than it is for him. How can I get past NC for more than a week and are my chances slim to none due to the fact I started NC a month after we broke up and how he isn’t reaching out all.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 26, 2017 at 7:29 pm

Hi Jess,

Check this one:
How To Stay In No Contact

Silvia

September 24, 2017 at 9:54 pm

Ok… the guy i was dating for 10 months ghosted me for couple of days, and Wednesday i decided to send a message saying it was over, as i didn’t hear from him… i message him a couple of times after it (ok, lots of time) but never asking to get back or putting myself as a victim… i just wanted him to come to pick his nephew gifts as i didn’t think it’s fair to the child to be affected by his decision… yesterday i didn’t say a thing, and today i just sent a message saying that i am not used to this situation, and i don’t know how to deal with it, and for all the awesome time we spent together, i just wish he could close in a friendly way… again.. no answer… do you think there’s still a chance to get him back if i follow the no contact rule? and for how long should i do that?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 28, 2017 at 8:03 pm

HI Silvia,

check this one:
What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Ghosted You

Jess

September 21, 2017 at 4:45 am

Thanks for replying. So I ended up buying the pro and I do find it helpful. Although I do have to say at first I felt good going into NC for a week and yesterday sent him a text reminder to pay his portion of the phone (it was 3 days past due) and I saw he blocked me. I don’t know when he decided to block me since our last text was a week ago asking if my mom was okay since she went to the ER (she’s okay!) so how is he suppose to see I’m not contacting or becoming a GNAT if he keeps blocking me off his phone? I just don’t understand this person anymore, we did have a rocky past month before breaking up and I know he states he’s extremely stressed with school and wants me to leave him alone but Im scared he meant it based off him almost doing a full block out. It’s been 4 weeks since the break up and one week into NC.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 26, 2017 at 7:29 pm

Hi Jess,

Check this one:
How To Stay In No Contact

Lulu

September 21, 2017 at 1:33 am

So im confused.. I wanna do this NC rule but thing is my situation is that we were together but he decided that he wants to focus on his life and such and has no times for love relationships so we switched back to being little more than friends but less than lovers.. So we are in daily contact.. Do i just stop contacting out of the blue.. Or do i tell him that I cannot go on pretending that i have no feeling for you and then start the NC rule? I think it would be rudw if i just cut him out out of the blue and recontact them after a month

Lulu

September 29, 2017 at 6:36 am

I actually started it without saying a word and he instanty stopped texting and figured that I don’t wanna talk to him anymore is that alright?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 30, 2017 at 6:01 pm

Yup that’s ok
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 26, 2017 at 7:16 pm

Hi Lulu,

You cab tell him that but dont mention that you’re doing nc

Bey

September 20, 2017 at 4:15 pm

Hey,
So I’ve been dating this guy (it’s been about a year and a half) on and off. When we first started talking, I didn’t really like him that much and we eventually stopped talking after a few months. A couple of months later, he reached out to me again and we went out a couple of times again but we just sort of fell out. After a few months (earlier this year) we started talking again but he made it a point to tell me that he wasn’t going to be talking to anyone else and that he was just going to focus on me. I still didn’t really like him that much but I continued to talk to him and I grew to like him even more. He used to ask me to be his gf but I always refused since I didn’t like him, but after I started to, he didn’t ask me anymore so I asked him why and he said that after some thought he realized he wasn’t ready for a relationship yet because it takes a lot of work. I was a little frustrated by that but I tried not to push the issue so we were just really exclusively dating but after a couple of months, I wanted a little more because I felt like it was just an excuse to not be official (he wanted me to meet his cousin and introduced me to his parents and sister via FaceTime) and I thought were doing all the things that a relationship pretty much involves so why not be official so I told him that I would give him time but eventually if we didn’t move forward I would start talking to other people and he asked me to be in one about a week later. Well we lasted about a month before he called me and told me that he didn’t want to necessarily break up but he wanted to “postpone” the relationship because he doesn’t want the relationship to crash and burn if he’s not fully being committed because he wanted to focus on his family time and his job but he also felt like I liked him more than he liked me and he doesn’t want me to get too invested and it doesn’t work out. So I said that was fine but the next day, I see him on snapchat at a party and his ex (who he was with for 5 years and engaged to) was there. That wasn’t a problem to me since I know they have the same group of friends but I didn’t like that she was so comfortable to grab his phone and post herself on there like it wasn’t a problem. I asked him about it and he said that she just took his phone and that he didn’t know she posted it and he deleted the snaps. I was starting to think that he “broke up” with me because he knew she was coming back in town but he said he didn’t know. He also said that they had tried getting back together before but it didn’t work out and that was over a year ago before I came in the picture. He hasn’t lied to me before but I find it really confusing on what to do because he’s not really an emotional person and idk how to read him. I don’t know if he’s subtly telling me to move on or if he actually wants to focus on work. He’s even said how he would understand if I wanted to talk to other people but he wasn’t going to just because he doesn’t have time. I’m not sure what I should do. I don’t want to wait for him but I also don’t want to talk to other people if there is a chance that’d we’d be back together. Should I just give up or start with no contact? I started doing no contact and have been doing it for about 8 days now. He texted me on the second day but I never replied and he’s been watching all of my Snapchat stories and I stopped watching his but after while it’s like he stopped watching mine just because I stopped watching his and he seems to be posting more than usual so I’m not sure if he’s doing this because of me or not

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 25, 2017 at 9:38 pm

Hi Bey,

Continue on with nc..focus in improving and healing yourself and be active in posting too.

Jess

September 7, 2017 at 11:10 pm

Hi there,

I’m debating whether to bother getting the Ex Boyfriend PRO book for my situation. My ex and I were together for three years up until last month before we broke up things went south over a small argument due to him starting school & being too busy to check in with me (one text wouldn’t kill him). He broke up with me because I was GNATTING him and went extreme that he blocked me for the day and I desperately wanted him to talk to me so I called & texted him with different numbers. We broke up, he stated he’s never experienced anything so annoying in his entire life and that side of me was the biggest turn off ever. He says he wants to focus on school (starts 8am – 6pm) and has no time for me since we are two hours away from each other (he currently doesn’t have a car) and weekends he’s working & wants to study and do homework on his downtime. No matter what I pleaded he states he doesn’t want to be in a relationship especially now he’s extremely stressed with school and that’s going to be his only priority. He seems very firm with that and wants nothing to do with me anymore.

That was three weeks ago, so I started the NC late and three days in I texted him asking if he can return my things when he comes to pick up his kitten I’ve been babysitting. And I saw he blocked me. I notice he unblocks me to contact me about a time and day he’s trying to get the kitten from me and blocks me immediately after. How is he going to know I’m ignoring him if he blocks me when I haven’t once tried to contact him unless it’s about my stuff? When he last contacted me I told him to contact my family member instead of texting me and he asked why was I acting this way (just straight to the point) and he’s going to text me regardless. If he wants nothing to do with me anymore and his actions (blocking) are backing up his words why would he insist to only contact me? Is it even worth getting the PRO if he seems very firm on leaving me behind while he focuses on achieving his goal? This doesn’t seem like him.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 12, 2017 at 9:24 pm

HI Jess,

yep, buy the pro, the content would give you a lot of insights.. Be active in improving yourself and in posting and make your posts public so he can still see it if he blocks you.

Dee

August 24, 2017 at 10:54 am

HELP…. Im 42 and finaly met the man of me dreams… We both fell in love with each other quite quickly, but then he went really cold, not sure if it was just coz the honeymoon period was over, but that made me feel really insecure, I did try to tell him I was feeling like this and needed reassuring, but I didnt get the reassurance I needed, and then things just went down hill, and he ended it.. I am heart broken.. I ruined it.. :(((((((
He told me he was still in love with me, and that he didnt want anyone, so I thought Id just give him some space, but 2 days after this he re opened his Tinder profile, and he has now added women on his fb.. This has crushed me, how could he do this so soon, is this just him being a man and ego boost??
I have now blocked him on fb as I dont want to keep seeing what is going on, but im now unsure that was the right thing to do as now I think he will just forget about me as he wont see what I am up to…
I am doing NC and im on day 14, im finding it really hard, and I really miss him, and worried I will never be able to make it right and get him back.. He is a very stobborn man, and you cant push him as he them goes off and wont talk..
what do I do

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 24, 2017 at 11:27 pm

Hi Dee,

how long was your relationship? When did you break up? HOw much did you improve yourself? You need to be active in posting. Either you unblock him or make your posts public.

Astrid

August 17, 2017 at 4:21 pm

I think my guy is a narcissist. I really do I don’t mean that flippantly. History tells me when i piss off and ignore or leave him he immediately just finds someone else. That being said Im intending to leave him for good (see…he’s a gd narcissist) but its painful. Why miss someone with bad character?? I don’t know but Im dying. We’re not friends on fb but we are on messenger. I can see him light up active constantly and today he has been active since 6am!!! I’m DYING to make some comment please just talk me down. Fack I want him to chase then commit. Is that too much to ask for?? not messaging has been like WITHDRAWAL.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 18, 2017 at 3:20 pm

You mean you asked him to chase you?

jasmin

August 14, 2017 at 1:22 am

Hi Amor, I really need your reply on this one…

is it possible to apply the no contact rule on a guy that wasn’t exactly my ‘official boyfriend’ but it was definitely along the lines of almost a relationship…

o for a couple of months I was seeing a guy which he showed a ton of interest until I started to allow my insecurities to seep through and pretty much what I think turned him off and ruined the relationship. He had most of the qualities I was looking for in a man which slowly made me think ‘is this really happening?’ I almost thought it was too good to be true because it was just how I always imagined meeting my dream guy.

Every so often I’d almost accuse him by asking him questions like ‘are you just using me for a physical attraction or is there more to that?’ more than just once, basically needing some type of validation from him every few weeks despite things being good and him messaging me everyday and asking me how my day was. Although he was a busy guy I know he did make the effort to want to see me by inviting me over and being hopeful about potential dates like going to a movie and he also introduced me to his friends and was wanting to meet mine as well, which he did. Towards the end what I think really pushed him was that I sent a message stating that I was upset that he wasn’t spending time with me despite myself knowing that his work schedule got more hectic with his one out of his two jobs becoming more demanding and thats when he stopped talking to me for a bit and eventually ended things.

I think my insecurities stemmed from my four year relationship that I had two years ago and was cheated on so believing that something good could happen was hard for me. I’ve let now 2 months of absolutely no contact go by where i’ve worked on myself and have become happy with where I am at but can’t help but think sometimes of how I messed something good up and was with a person that truly motivated me to want to be a better person as well. I know that I will be seeing him again at where I volunteer since he works there too and I’m just wondering if it’s still possible to rekindle something by sending a text along the lines of saying thank you and how being with him taught me a lot about myself and the kind of person i’ve been working on to become ?

Simi

August 17, 2017 at 5:29 am

Hey i need to put my story here how to do that?? I’m really in trouble and i need help regarding my situation
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 17, 2017 at 3:44 pm

Hi Simi,

Go to the bottom of the page, there’s a submit comment box
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 14, 2017 at 8:23 pm

Instead of doing that, why bot slowly rebuild rapport instead?

Ashleigh

August 10, 2017 at 8:20 am

My ex ended things yesterday after a month’s process where he couldn’t decide whether to end it or not. We were together 2 1/2 years and were due to move in together. I accepted the break-up graciously despite the heartbreak and the tears and wished him well and reminded him of the good things in our relationship and he did the same. I have never argued or begged him. His reasoning was that he didn’t “feel the same” as he used to about me but overall we had a solid and loving relationship where we used to regularly do fun and new things together.

Since it was a month in the making I have been prepared and I have immediately put the NC rule into place. I have two questions:

1 – I’m in a family WhatsApp group of his but I know when I leave the group it will come up that I’ve left. When should I leave that group? Today feels too early as he won’t have been able to tell everyone but I’m not sure when to leave, if at all.

2 – I’ve got the e-book to read but I want to check on this ending the NC rule thing. My ex is an introvert and isn’t the chattiest person. I know at some point in NC he will reach out and I will ignore him as I’m supposed to. However, I know him very well and once he gets that rejection he won’t try again, as he will think it’s what I want. Once I’m at the end of NC and I’m being the best me that I can be – is it ok for me to reach out to him? The multiple, positive messages just won’t come with him unfortunately.

Thanks!

Lea

August 14, 2017 at 12:58 pm

Hello,
So my long distance bf broke up with me saying I was not affectionate enough. At first, I implemented right away that day the NC rule saying that we should need some time apart. Then the next day, I was like he needs reassurance not ignorance so I wrote him an email telling him why I love him and asking him if he wanted to see me again when I will be in his country in Sept. It has been a week and he has not answered. So basically we are not talking but on his wish now. How can I revert the situation to take control back ? or what should I do? Thanks a lot!!!
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 14, 2017 at 9:20 pm

Restart the count and don’t reply if he measages
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 10, 2017 at 5:06 pm

you don’t have to leave the group and check this one:
How To Properly Start A Conversation With Your Ex After No Contact

Maya

August 8, 2017 at 9:10 am

Hi

I’m not really in a break-up situation, however I do wonder whether the NC could work for me.

I met this guy on a sailing trip, he was our skipper. We were a group of friends, but I was a bit of an outsider. We immediately connected, we spent a lot of time talking, laughing and so on. He revealed many personal stories, he had a difficult life (lost both his parents, he’s almost 40, has a 5yo kid and separated). We are both similar in many ways and I strongly believe he also felt this amazing connection. We spent 10 days together, stealing time alone when we had the chance. The last day on the boat we went out just the two of us, like a date, we had an amazing time and he held my hand while walking (he seemed shy and was very quiet, holding my hand was a very private and teenage-like gesture). We all spent the last night of our trip in a hotel and we were put in the same room (those around us could notice that we got really close, so they put us together). We had a great time again, talking, laughing, when we went to bed we kissed and hugged but we didn’t sleep together, as I stopped it (I was very sick this year, had 3 surgeries and all, so I’m in a strict no sex period for a while). I didn’t explain why, he told me that if I can’t, I can’t, that’s enough for him. He also made me understand that he wouldn’t have done it either and when I asked about it ( I made a comment about him not being very proactive, since he only made a move – holding my hand – the night before), he asked me back: are you in a hurry? On our way back, I slept in his arms for half of the ride (he was very protective and careful, covering me in my sleep). When we got back, some of us went for dinner. He seemed so into me, laughing at all my jokes and so on, you know, that feeling when you can tell someone really likes you. Then he walked me to my car, kissed me and told me we’d talk later.

After that, I made the mistake of writing to him first a couple of times, he’s very busy, working late in the evenings, traveling a lot on weekends (he’s also a climbing instructor), spending time with his son and so on. He did tell me that he definitely wanted to meet me again, he also sent me a text to tell me he’s really busy and definitely not avoiding me. However, last Saturday I sent him a text to tell him that this situation makes me sad and that if he feels like playing, he should play on tinder. 3 days later he replied, saying that his current lifestyle, being so busy and all, doesn’t allow him to have a relationship and that he didn’t want to make me sad, that he was going to tell me that face to face and he’s sorry he couldn’t do it. I replied saying that I don’t remember offering a relationship, that I did want to meet, laugh and all, but from that to a relationship is a long way and that I understand, all good, but it’s a shame that he takes things so seriously. My guess is that he freaked out because of my message on Saturday and decided not to give it any more time, especially since he doesn’t have much to give.

My question is, would the NC work, even though we were not in a real relationship? Is there any hope there? Will he miss me? I still think we had a great time together, really pure, felt like the beginning of a love story.

Thank you for taking the time to read this and answer my questions.

Kind regards,

Maya

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 9, 2017 at 3:13 pm

There’s no guarantee that it will work in any situation.If he’s really busy, then it’s less likely that he will miss you.

calleen

August 5, 2017 at 3:03 pm

Hi chris ,
My names calleen , my ex and I broke up 3 months ago its been a 1 year and 2 month relationship never any breaks this is the first break up we had. I need advice on how to get this back. We have lived with each other since the 2 week of dating he came to live with me. And then we talked about houses and we got one together. We fought about things alot only because he wasn’t understanding me and I quit understanding him. I gave a lot of attitude because of things and I see now yhsg I have treated him badly when we did fight. If we weren’t fighting we were the best of friends we did everything together! At the beginning of the break up we talked everyday and called maybe once a week, but when I broughy up us he said I don’t Want to talk about it, we saw each other once a week and he kept my stuff there at the house we got. I have messed up on things when I got scared I held closer and when I took things like hunting and family away he said I was being controlling when I tried to get him to understand why. But a month ago I took his (old) phone and went thru it, only reason he wasnt giving me answers about anything, we would talk here and there thru these 3 months until I did that, now its become a week and a half with no contact, and he has blocked me on facebook and Snapchat. But my number is still okay its not blocked but I don’t want to close anymore doors that I might have open he’s very mad at me and I’ve been holding to trying to fix this because I care a lot about him. I need advice badly I don’t Want to lose him at all.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 5, 2017 at 5:40 pm

Hi Calleen,
Since you’re blocked, just make your posts public
Check this one:
EBR 024: Using Social Media To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
And follow the advice on this one too:
Your Ex Boyfriend Blocked You… What Now? (Video)

Sunita

August 4, 2017 at 3:04 am

I have been talking to this guy for 4 months and he assured me that he will be dating in August. We both are in our final semesters and we agreed to wait.

Lately he has been hesistant and have been saying his mother has been trying to get some girls to date. He says that he doesnt trust his judgement with woman due to his past relationships.

On wednesday he told me that his sister and mum had set up a date with a girl. He told me that he will date me, he jst needs to get over this hurdle of meeting with the girl.

On Thursday, he was acting strange and later started argueing with me that we are very different and went we shouldnt be dating.

He later told me that he told his mum about me and our 10 year age gap and she said no, he should be dating someone older.

He told me to leave and nothing can work out between us. I wished him well and he did the same.

I do want him back. What should I be doing ?

Sun

September 4, 2017 at 3:44 am

I am in 24th day of NC. I woke up this morning and realized that he blocked me on whatsapp and fb all of a sudden !
Im going insane trying to figure out why. I know his cousin. There was a match few weeks back that the cousin kept telling me where he was going with my ex to watch it. The cousin doesnt know about me and my ex. He assumes we are friend.

Could it be that the cousin said something to my ex ?
Or because he really wants me out of his life ?
or isit his new girlfriend? whats going on ?

I am almost done with my NC this week and now there is no way I can contact him.

Please help me, what should I be doing in this case ?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 7, 2017 at 7:01 pm

what did you mean with mt nc? did you mean minimal contact? If you’re actively improving yourself and you’re active in posting, it can mean he wants to stop himself from checking your posts.
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 6, 2017 at 7:35 am

Hi Sunita,

check this one:
EBR 054: My Exes Mom Made Him Break Up With Me

Rachel

August 4, 2017 at 2:21 am

I have been talking to this guy for 4 months now. He always assured me that he will be will be dating me in August when we both have graduated from school.
Recently he has been hesistant, he says he doesnt belive in love because of his ex gfs etc. We did have a conversation of his mother picking up the girls he will be dating as he doesnt trust his choices.
On wednesday, he told me that his mum and sister set up a date with a girl. He said that he needs to jst do this and he will be going out and dating me. He needs to do this because his mother insists.
Thursday, he was acting weird all day and at night he started saying, we are different people and he doesnt believe in love etc. He later added that he told his mum about me and that we have a 10 year age gap and his mother rejected me because she wants him to date someone older.
He told me that nothing can work out between us and i should leave. I replied saying “his mother knows best and i hope he finds someone he has a connection with” He too replied in a nice way

I really like him and i dont know how to approach the situation. He has already told me that nothing can work out so theres nothing i can say at this point.

What should I do ?

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 6, 2017 at 7:32 am

Hi Rachel,

check this one:
EBR 054: My Exes Mom Made Him Break Up With Me

Melissa

August 2, 2017 at 3:12 am

Hi my husband has said he wants to separate a 2 weeks ago. I started the NC but he called me on the weekend to see how I was going. We talked about our relationship and I think he is as confused as I am now. He works away 2 weeks and then is home for 1 week and we will be living together. After our conversation I went back to NC but he txtd me twice about financial issues bills etc I only replied to the issues and didn’t continue the conversation. Do I need to start the NC again? Or does it all count?

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 4, 2017 at 5:16 pm

Since you only talked about financials that’s ok but how active are you in improving yourself and in posting?

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