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Larey
September 28, 2020 at 8:02 pm
Hey! My last relationship ended on pretty bad terms. We haven’t seen each other for 7 months now! I kept trying to contacting him even tho he told me that he never wants to talk to me again!our last communication was him saying he needs time and is not ready to be friends or hang out! I saw him last week. He was with a new women, walked passed me, said hello to my friend and pretended I didn’t exist! Two days later, I wrote him that I saw him and I would have been happy for him to say hello! Nothing Since…
Jane
September 25, 2020 at 7:50 am
So I ended it with my boyfriend a week ago, at the time it seemed like the right thing to do but it was said in the middle of an argument and I’m now regretting it. I’ve reached out to him, seen him a couple of times since and wrote a letter but he has no interest in getting back together or talking. Now reading the above I would say I’ve maybe handled it wrong in that I’ve been super desperate. If I try the no contact now will it still work?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
September 25, 2020 at 8:45 pm
Hi Jane, yes it can still work but you need to follow the NC for 45 days so that your ex gets a good break from contact with you and starts to wonder where you went so suddenly!
Veronica
September 1, 2020 at 4:32 am
I ended things with a guy I was in a FWB relationship with because I preferred to be in a proper relationship. Afterwards he always texted me first alternating between being friendly and chatty and being cold and having me wondering why he even texted. He came to my job and placed a huge order so I became forced to stay in contact with him, after I refused to play along when he would try to make the conversation more sexual he started ignoring me then after a day come back adding to or referring to the order. I don’t know what to make of it. It’s probably one of the weirdest scenarios I’ve been in.
Melissa
August 8, 2020 at 6:04 am
Hi Chris, my bf broke up with me a little more than a month ago, saying we were not compatible. I accepted the breakup calmly and he was relieved. He even said things like I can always contact him if I ever need any help and we joked a little. Overall not a bad breakup at all. No begging, pleading, cheating involved just mutual respect. He contacted me once after a week and I replied politely. Then I started NC for maybe 35~40 days I didn’t count the days. It lasted a little longer than 30 days because I was really trying to get myself into that healthy mental state where I can be sure if I want him back. I texted him the other day and he replied quite fast and very positively, asking me questions with emojis and all. However he suddenly pulled away after he asked me things about my life. I know I didn’t do anything that seems crazy and he has always been an avoidant type of guy. But I’m just so confused why would he backed off all of a sudden. Now the ball is in his court there’s nothing I can do except for waiting for him to text back. I am now in a better mental state where I am totally cool with not getting him back but I would be lying saying that it doesn’t hurt that he just ghosted me. And I was wondering why there should be no hard feelings and I did nothing desperate that he still did this? Thanks
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
August 8, 2020 at 11:11 pm
Hey Melissa, so when someone just stops replying when the conversation was going well and civil. As rude as it could seem, he could have just gotten bored of the conversation and thought – I’m done replying now. Or he got distracted by something else that was more important to him at the time. The good thing is that you know he is open to talking to you if you wanted to get him back. I would suggest that you read some texting articles before reaching out to him again
deep
July 31, 2020 at 4:16 am
hi me and my boyfriend meet on instagram ,then we also meet in real life but after a good one year somethings are been changed he suddenly start ignoring my text messages i text him but he sees and then don’t give reply . i really dont know what to do i only know that i love him very much and i cant just go things like in every breakup relationship….he always talk about other girls infront of me and then say are u jealous ..i always reply him with no but somewhere he knows that i m jealous…. 2 days ago we also slept together ,but from past 2-3 days he start ignoring me…the way we use to talk all of sudden they changes now he rarely reply…i dont have any idea…
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
July 31, 2020 at 1:10 pm
Hi Deep, I am not sure what advice you are looking for, at the moment your only choice is to follow a No Contact and keep with it for at least 30 days without reaching out to him or getting back in touch with him if he tries to contact you
Cleo
July 24, 2020 at 12:25 pm
My bf broke up with me 2 months ago. Up to a month ago we had contact but I was desperate and he called me out on it saying he couldn’t handle it. He broke up with me to focus on saving his business during Corona. I did the NC for 35 days and contacted him yesterday. He has not opened it or replied… I am really scared he ignores me on purpose because he is so done with me… I don’t know what to do. I feel like if I give him more space he’ll move on (maybe even with someone new) and then I’ll lose him forever.
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
July 24, 2020 at 10:55 pm
Hey Cleo did you reach out using one of the texts that Chris suggests in his articles? I would say that you completed NC correctly as long as you used those 35 days to focus on you and not stalked him on social media. Are you also working on the Ungettable information so that you are the best version of yourself ready for when you do have conversations with him?
Lola bergs
July 22, 2020 at 3:50 pm
Hi! So my bf of two years broke up with me because we fought a lot. I was happy we broke up because he woke me up proving to me that I do love Him and I just needed that slap. So I really want to try again and prove it won’t ever be the same. I spammed him like crazy because I’m hurt because I know he loves me but he just ended it and ignored me. What do I do? I want him to understand it won’t be the same. From today I will NOT text him for the next 30 days. But what happens if he doesn’t contact me in a month or two???
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
July 25, 2020 at 7:59 pm
Hey Lola after you have completed a 30 day no contact you can then move on to the texting phase, which you can read about in the different articles on this website
Julie
June 21, 2020 at 12:29 pm
Hi. I was really annoyed and broke up with my boyfriend, but retretted it 1 hour later and sent long texts saying sorry and How much i care, and all our memories the first few days. But he does not believe i actually care about him, and he is really annoyed and hurt. He responds really short and sometimes just leaves me on read. What do i do?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
June 27, 2020 at 9:35 pm
Give him time to calm down and then reach out, follow a NC of 30 days
Skylar Ceccoli-Eiffert
June 12, 2020 at 11:49 pm
Hello me and my ex broke up a week ago, but he messaged me four days ago saying he loved me, but I missed his call and he got pissed off when I said loved him. I texted him today asking how he is and he left me on read. He resently started following my insta and started liking my pictures. I don’t know what going on he’s giving me mixed signals.
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
June 13, 2020 at 10:01 pm
Hey Skylar, you need to follow a No Contact, for a solid 30 days
Rich
June 12, 2020 at 3:19 pm
Hi,
So last Sunday I walkout on my man while he was sleeping and sent a text explaining why I left. He hasn’t responded nor reached out since. What does that mean? I haven’t contacted him either. I really want to know how he feels. I want to send him a text today.
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
June 12, 2020 at 8:54 pm
Hi Rich, if he hasnt reached out then he most likely will be hurt upset and not wanting to talk to you right now. If you do not want to be with him then leave him be
Sali
May 23, 2020 at 10:58 am
Thank you for answering me , bt I do not think if being there method will work for me , I texted him after completing my NC , and he ignored me again, I felt bad after all what we shared this is what I get on return, I didn’t do wrong he was the one who cheated and lied and told me to move on with my life I don’t think if its TRUST issue like the way he told me that I will not TRUST him again , I think he love the other lady now and he doesn’t want anything to do with me , even though he took me to his family and his friends are telling me he really loved me so much but I can’t understand why he is ignoring me and he was the one who lied, I found it awful but being ignored for 3 months that shows me he has already moved on and forget about us , although I still want him but it’s time to let him go and move on with my life even if its hurt so much ….any advice please
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
May 29, 2020 at 6:22 pm
Hi Sali, so if he is still ignoring you then I would say that it was the OW who is not willing to let him talk to you. So your approach for the being there method is going to have to be slow and gentle if you want to try get him back. I am sorry to ask, but as you can see I answer so many, how long was your No Contact? It should have been 45 days long and then your first reach out was a text that Chris suggests correct?
GK
May 16, 2020 at 11:20 pm
Thank you for this. I was just dumped on Monday by someone I cared for very deeply. At first I was angry with him because he always said I was the best girlfriend he’s ever had. However, he dumped me because he felt rushed. I’m 28 and he’s 25. So he felt that I loved him too fast and freely and he said he had a change of heart. We ended on good terms after we spoke. At first we were ok on social media but he completely cut me off and did not contact me at all. So I messaged him once and he responded respectfully and kindly. Than I decided to remove him off everything without saying a word or responding. So I went 4 days of NC, I slipped up today and now I will start fresh. So this will become day 1. I don’t ever want him back though. I want him to regret losing the best thing to happen to him. Because I know I treated him better than anyone has not only because he said these words are before and after the break up, but because I know my worth. I’m Thankful I came across this page. Now I will wait the 30 days and save this! Thank you so much ♥️
Sali
May 8, 2020 at 10:29 pm
Hey, am on my 3rd week of NC and my ex has not reached me yet , and there is a girl who followed me on Instagram telling me she has been dating my ex for 3years and i also this was my third year with my ex too , so it’s like he was dating both of us at the same time. But we were serious he even took me to his family and introduced me as his wife to be before we brokeup on march , so i saw the lady posting photos of her and my ex on Instagram, could this mean that he has already moved on and stop loving me and forgt what we shared , will I get him back again ? Coz am still in love with him although he cheated……Help me please please
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
May 12, 2020 at 3:49 pm
Hi Sali, it sounds like your ex has a grass is greener syndrome. The first thing you need to do is 45 days of NC so great that you have done 3 weeks so far keep up the good work. You can then then start doing the being there method if you want to get him back.
Luna
April 30, 2020 at 7:45 pm
I think I totally blew it. I went nuts texting him this morning because he went silent. After 3 days of my trying to keep NC, I blew up on him. I wasn’t rude but I sure told him a lot of stuff, which totally made me look like a maniac… The best part of all of this, he not once did he engage with me! He hasn’t blocked me but won’t reply either. I don’t want to loose him but I kind of made myself look like a psychopath. I am so embarrassed of my behavior! I became frustrated with his inconsistency and non-responsiveness. I have no idea what went on between us to made him back off and not talk to me anymore! How can I get my man back? Thank you for any feedback/guidance you can provide me with.
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
May 2, 2020 at 3:05 pm
Hi Luna, you need to complete a full No contact where you do not break it after a few days at a time because it loses its effectiveness
Jessica P
April 30, 2020 at 5:40 pm
Hi there,
My ex broke up with me kind of out of no where, we were really good together and hardly fought so it blind sided me.
We broke up 6 weeks ago and haven’t spoke since (NC rule).
I’m just wondering if its past the point of hearing from him again because 6 weeks seems like a long time.
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
May 2, 2020 at 2:42 pm
Hi Jessica, yes you can start the program now it is not too long, people at times down start until months down the line
Sally
April 19, 2020 at 4:12 pm
Help me please, I know NC it’s too late coz its almost two months now , what can I do to win him back
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
April 20, 2020 at 12:20 pm
Hi Sally it is not too late to start your NC now. Make sure you stick to it and work on yourself in that time
Saz
April 12, 2020 at 2:43 pm
Hi,
Great article, but my biggest question is can the no contact rule work even if you have been the desperate ex calling/texting and getting ignored? I’m 5 days into no contact but aware that I am guilty of calling/texting and most likely scaring him off!
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
April 13, 2020 at 12:35 am
Hi Saz yes it can work as long as you stick to it for the 45 days now
Sarah Richards
April 3, 2020 at 12:20 pm
Me and my ex boyfriend have a very on and off relationship for the last 4 years. We had a small fight and he ignored me and blocked me for 3 weeks. A few days ago he reached out again after unblocking me but told me he was just checking up on me and not to take it as anything other than that. He has now blocked me again. I don’t know what to do because I wish it was easier than this and I just want things to be normal between us.
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
April 4, 2020 at 8:47 pm
Hi Sarah, next time your ex reaches out ( and he will) ignore him. Complete a No Contact but you need to take the opportunity to ignore him. As hard as that may be, and with the current times too. You need to work on your Holy Trinity and show you are focusing on yourself and not waiting to hear from him
Esther Manjia Jalloh
April 2, 2020 at 1:14 am
Hi . I broke up with my boyfriend cause he didn’t have time for me and looks like I was always making excuses for him. But I felt bad and text him the next day that it was a prank but he hasn’t replied . I have called him like five times and sent bunch of messages saying am sorry but he doesn’t reply but I can see him active on WhatsApp. We have been dating five months .
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
April 2, 2020 at 2:12 pm
Hi Esther, so I suggest that you give your ex a chance to think about how he feels and get back in touch with you when they feel they are ready. Until then focus on the Holy Trinity and stick to NC
Cheryl
March 29, 2020 at 2:13 pm
The night before he dumped me we booked a holiday everything was fine the next day but I could tell he was in a mood and trying to start a arguement he then dumped me by text and blocked me on everything told me he would get his brothers gf to give me my stuff but I went to Paris the following week and the night before the brothers girlfriend asked if she could collect his stiff and I said I wasn’t back to the Saturday and she said okay but didn’t say anything about getting it later but I think me going there annoyed him and that’s why he asked her to get it then the following Tuesday he unblocked me and said have you got my stuff together yet and I said yeah and then he said is my wallet there and I said yeah and he said ok but I left it at that but I think he wanted me to continue talking cause there was no need for him to talk to me if it was going through her so on Wednesday there I texted to see how he was and he’s ignored still to this day but o feel he’s playing games with me cause he would have just blocked me again if he didn’t want to hear from me