Using Male Psychology To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back- The Complete Guide

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Kat

April 26, 2015 at 9:11 am

Hi Chris. First of all, i am not an English native speaker, i am sorry for my bad English.
My story is long. Me and my ex first met on a dating site, we never met in person but we both were very serious about our relationship. We started talking in last March and fell in love with each other 2-3 months later. My ex decided to buy a plane ticket to visit me in last October but i canceled his flight because i did not know when exactly my exams were and i had to help my cousin on her wedding while he only had 8 day -off. After that, he started being distant, and we often had fights as a normal couple do. I often threatened to leave him when i got mad…although he asked me to stop threatening and made me promise not to do that again but when we had fight, i kept making that mistake. In this March, he booked a ticket to NYC without telling me, he lied to me that he was in a club but actually he was in a plane. When he arrived to NYC, he told me, i got mad and asked him to stop talking for 5 days ( but i came back right away, i just asked…). But after that, he was very angry and went out for a date with other girl. When he came back to his home, we were still normal but he blocked my Facebook, i made a second account and saw his new profile picture with his new girlfriend, i started begging him to come back, i was needy and cried a lot, i let him know that…we officially broke up in march but still talking to each other as friends. i still love him a lot but he does not want to come back, he broke up with the girl he met on his vacation. and now he came back to 6 -year ago girlfriend, he has trust issue, before me, he was in a 3 year relationship with a girl but she left him. he said i am like her, acted like her, so i will leave him soon but i never want to , when we had fight, i just threatened him to leave… several times… he falls in love with girls so fast. Do you think it is a rebound relationship? he has a fear that all people he meets will leave him, the biggest mistake i did is threaten to leave, i made him sad, fear and cry….i really love him and really want to get him back, do you think i still have chance? i am looking forward to hearing from you soon, thank you 🙂

Chris Seiter

April 30, 2015 at 4:51 pm

I think it has a strong possibility that it is.

Charlotte

April 24, 2015 at 8:15 am

Sorry I just want to add that he is already at a point where he would like to make it work (but is a little scared) and I have been very available to him. I’m thinking because he’s already ‘seeing me’ do I just be less available and let him chase me
Charlotte

April 24, 2015 at 12:36 am

Hi Chris
Me and my ex have been broken up for nearly 3 months now the longest we haven’t spoke for is around 3 days. We have been off and on seeing eachother. One time we started to get on well and he blew cold. This time I acted a bit needy and we had an argument to which he said has put him off and he’s gone cold again. We are going round in circles but we get on great when we’re together! Should I go NC?

Chris Seiter

April 24, 2015 at 10:47 pm

You definitely should.

Perry

April 19, 2015 at 7:11 am

Hi Chris,thanks a lot for all very useful information on your website.I have to confess that i have done the no contact rule for2days then i break it because my ex texts me.I took 1 day to response with one word response so he doesn’t text me back just like you said.So i start the no ct period over agian.But my mind keep wondering that what its feel like after recive a one word response and what about my chance of getting him back now?please tell me,thank you

Chris Seiter

April 20, 2015 at 9:22 pm

Well, you are going to have to last longer than two days haha.

sophia

April 18, 2015 at 8:36 pm

Hello Chris
My boyfriend and i have been on an off for a while. I still love him and he still does but the thing is there has been so much “drama” that he has decided after a long break that it was best we seperated. He says he has made up his mind and won t change his mind no matter what. I haven t answered yet. I don t know what to do to get him back. thanks for your help.
pt

April 16, 2015 at 8:12 pm

Hey Chris,
Just finished 30 days of NC about a week ago. Texted my ex the other day suggesting a fun outing “as friends” this weekend- he replied immediately and said it sounded fun. The text ratio was more than the ones I was sending and he said he was glad to hear from me. The weather is bad this weekend so our plans got derailed. I acted fine and suggested a rain check for another weekend. We made some small talk and he wished me good luck on an upcoming marathon and sent a smiley face and then texted to keep him updated. But, he made no suggestion to make alternate plans for this weekend or any other time. I didn’t respond and left it at that.

Should I continue texting over time or do you think he is not interested?

Chris Seiter

April 20, 2015 at 8:16 pm

Congrats on making it through the 30 days.

You definitely should continue texting.

You are going to have to slowly build attraction up.

AMY

April 13, 2015 at 8:12 pm

I have been reading your site for about 2 days and I read your thoughts on cheating. And I have a scenario that I would like your thoughts on…..My boyfriend and I were going out for 9 months. I have an amazing job making decent income and I am very independent. He, on the other hand, was just coming out of jail after about 2 years, didnt have a job, no income, no anything. We met and I instantly fell in love with him….He moved in with me after about 3 months. For the first 6 months everything was amazing. He complimented me….made me feel special and amazing and then BAM….nothing. I could dance naked in the middle of the room and he would probably tell me to move so he can play the Playstaion 4….Okay maybe I am exaggerating a little. We had LOTS AND LOTS of sex, however then it was back to kind of ignoring me. Not complimenting me. Not NOTICING me….So I sat him down and told him that things are different. That we arent communicating. You arent treating me how you used to, etc….He said that I was crazy and that wasnt true….For about 3-4 weeks I wrote him letters, sat him down, told him how I was feeling….unloved, unwanted, etc…..he did not change. This is when the cheating happened. He was so unemtionally unavailable and I TOLD him over and over that he was but he failed to listen….My question is this…after telling the person over and over and over (with no cheating) that things are not right…and then that person finds comfort somewhere else (not that I am saying it is right)….can you forgive them…..I know that you said one time cheating and you are DONE but with my scenario….do you feel the same? Id love your thoughts.

Chris Seiter

April 16, 2015 at 4:18 pm

Did he cheat on you?

Ummm I think that its very difficult to forgive any cheated but this is one of those scenarios where I can definitely see your point.

Nevertheless, you should have probably broken up with him first before you cheated.

Kris

March 29, 2015 at 3:09 am

Hi, I have been friends with this guy since October after meeting at a house party. I recently found out I was the reason he had stayed at the party. After the party he accompanied me home an we had a chat but I had a boyfriend at the time and even talked about the relationship, at the beginning of getting to know him he never crossed my mind as a possible boyfriend whatsoever so you can imagine I never played the ungettable girl, as a matter of fact I have cooked for him on more occasions, been there for him when he needed me and so forth and we got intimate but nothing major. The problem is I broke up with my boyfriend and eventually told this guy I like him and I do but I had a chat with his mate two days ago and he told me about how liked me and all that and I do like him as well an would really like to get him like the girl he met at the party.

admin

March 29, 2015 at 2:09 pm

This is confusing to me.

So you broke up with your boyfriend because you like someone else but the someone else doesn’t like you back?

Bec

March 25, 2015 at 11:27 am

Pls advise me chris !!
1 yr ago met an amazing guy online we had an amazing 2 months together then he decided he wasn’t ready for a serious relationship as he was recently separated
6mths after he sent a flirty text I responded positively back but no response afterwards
Recently he contacted me again so 1 yr after first meeting him, he told me he was wrking interstate we facetimed and sent lots of texts and he told me how much he missed me and wanted that connection back blah blah
Then we had date night 2 mths after his initial contact with me again. We were both very excited had a hotel room lined up yes I know that was a mistake as we moved too fast yet again and I gave too much of myself up too soon I see this now:(
So obviously too hard too fast was our problem here and he went back to wrk sent me a few texts and one ph call then it slowed down and I know he was wrking 12 hr days etc. I sent my last message a week after hearing nothing from him saying hi how was he and when was he coming down next- no response. So that was 2 weeks ago. Obviously a lot going on for him now but he is back from overseas wrk in 1 yr and we have so much potential .. There was no official “breakup ” so unsure wat to do. I’m doing NC for 30 days but don’t want to appear needy when I text again saying “Heyyyy me again ” and it can’t be casual cause that’s just werid or too deep that’s werid too! So lost!
Pls help me from my madness !!? ;))

admin

March 31, 2015 at 7:57 pm

Well, I think right now it would be a good idea to prepare a text message better than “heyyy me again.”

pupsaloompa

March 22, 2015 at 12:21 pm

Hey Chris!
I broke up with my ex three weeks ago, and for the first one and half week, I pleaded and begged him, until I decided to use NC rule and be more focus to myself. Today is the 11th day of NC rule and he’s not contacting me yet, although at the beginning he suggested to be friends, and kept nicely responding me before I decided to NC.
During the NC, I decided to join a dating site for a distraction and I read that it’s important to hve a new date just to give myself a chance and to my image that I’m moving on. But surprisingly, I found his profile on this dating site as well (and maybe he found mine already). I was sad and panicked and afraid he’s moving on already. What should I do? Should I continue my NC?

admin

March 22, 2015 at 5:52 pm

Continue NC and don’t fret too much about his dating site.

You have an advantage over any girl he would date in that you have already gotten him before.
pupsaloompa

March 22, 2015 at 12:27 pm

And ah, I’m 100% sure that he just registered himself there coz he didn’t know abt this site before we broke up, while I was already a user before I met him and reactivated again. Any psychological reason behind that? Or he’s already truly moving on?

Anne

March 20, 2015 at 7:48 pm

How to know if your ex who you are talking to again only uses you as a friend/ a-girl-he-has-til-he-finds-someone-else, or if he is actually attracted to you?

He is rather officcial in his texts. It is very difficult to just chat with him (i feel he gets a bit blocked easily), it often takes him a long time to answer (have been trying to balance it from my side), I haven’t been out on a real date with him again, he hasn’t even hinted about asking me out for real.

At the same time he has made me a very cautious booty-call (was just fishing for my response while he was drunk), his friends like my stuff on facebook, hr made me a present for birthday, and he keeps me updated with good news from his family.

I don’t want to be just friends with him. I want him to be attracted to me. How do I find it out?

admin

March 22, 2015 at 4:31 pm

I would say read this article,

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/warning-signs-that-your-ex-boyfriend-wants-you-back/

Dipita

March 18, 2015 at 3:47 am

CHRIS IF YOU COULD PLEASE HELP!!!
My ex and I had been dating for 4 years until he broke up “forever” two days ago. Two yrs ago he left for UK and even the long distance was amazing n we used to cry to each other often when we both missed each other like crazy. But last year, I flirted with a guy just to see if I got his attention n then a lot of people told him I was dating that other guy. He was heartbroken. He said there was no reason he should stay loyal n slept around and did enjoy himself(I only found out recently). He blamed me so I went crazy apologising n we got back after a lot of drama. Last year we went on n off because he kept telling me we should both try to move on n if we couldn’t, that would mean we were meant to be. He would break up with me, sleep around n come back. He always tells me he loves me but still sleeps around n flirts like a desperate meatloaf. He was never this way before I made the mistake but now he really seems to be having fun. Oh and there was this girl in his area in UK who he fell for, for a while n also told her he was crazy about her! And he still told me he loves me! ! Im devastated n clueless.

admin

March 21, 2015 at 2:56 pm

Then he is treating you like crap.

Esepcailly if he is telling you one thing and then doing the exact opposite of what someone who would feel that would be doing.
Dipita

March 25, 2015 at 7:22 pm

Sorry chris I had just gone through every article on the site so kinda lost this page I originally commented on. .n so put repeated ones on other pages!! You think I should try getting him back or is it because he is in party phase that he is acting like a jerk??

good or bad ?

March 10, 2015 at 10:37 pm

hello chris
so i have some good news or bad i dnt know help me out please
my bf broke up with me out of the blue i started following him and so on the first month and the second month followed me once because he was jealous and we had a fight we stoped talking for 1 month and 10 days . and he started posting pictures of him and some girls and he posted a picture of him and a girl on whtsapp so 5 days after he posted it i talked to him i called him by his name and i vanished for like 2 hours .
he replied immidiatly saying yess and after 10 min he sent me question marks and i did not reply later in 2 hrs i told him
me : i just want to ask you about a book i left at my friends can you pick it up for me and give it to someone to give it to me ?(she is in his university and its too far from my place to get it and he knows that ) he replied immidiatly alwasy saying yes i will try , i dno iam traveling in 6 days so i dnt know ( i dno y he said he is traveling i did not ask him and he can give it to me iam so sure before he travels
so i told him okey try ur best befor u travel cuz i need it i have an exam so he said i will try and btw i have ur necklace i want to give it back to you is it a bad sign ????? what do you think ?? i told him okeyyy great he said okey tell you frnd to meet me anytime in university and i will give ur book to someone to give it to you

what do you think chris is it a bad sign tha the want to give me back my necklass also ? or was he testing me if i would sa no keep it
2-do you think its a good sign that he replied
3-y did he told me he is traveling ?

admin

March 13, 2015 at 7:03 pm

Not a bad sign. Seems like a normal thing for an ex to do.
good or bad ?

March 13, 2015 at 11:53 pm

i did exactly what you said after the NC and i vanished for 2 hours and he started sending me ” ????” and i asked about my stuff and he mentioned the necklace i did not demand it he said he want to give it back to me but he did not

1-should i text him again or what ?
2-i dont know how to make him speak again to me without me asking !
admin

March 15, 2015 at 4:25 pm

Yes, still text him.

The idea is to slowly build attraction here.
good or bad ?

March 17, 2015 at 5:46 pm

he did not return my stuff back and i asked for it twice i dont want to sound clingy .. i feel like he does not want to give them back
why do you think he does not want to give them back ?
and why he is acting so i ased for it twice and he answered in a positive way . do you think he is doing it on purpose so that i talk to him again ?
good or bad ?

March 13, 2015 at 6:01 pm

okey some update
he talkd to me in the morning saying hey how are you today i cant go yo ur frends place today iam too tierd i cant get out of bed i did not sleep well at night and if i could i will tell you so u can contact her and make sure she is at home
an hour later he said fine she talked to me
i said okey talk with her and you guys decide when to meet to get my book he immidiatly said yes oke
and itss been days my frnd told me he did not contact her and he did not contact me neither nor gave me back anything !!
what do you think chris bad sign ??
is he playing with me to make me sweat and talk to him again ?
or do u think he does not want to give me back my stuff
admin

March 15, 2015 at 4:14 pm

Probably a bit of both…

I don’t think its a horrible sign though.

Rachel

March 3, 2015 at 7:23 pm

Hi Chris,

I was wondering if you could help. I met a guy through a dating site hit it off instantly talked for 2 weeks daily prior to meeting. We then dated for 4 weeks it was perfect, I met his family went, seen him play sport etc which he was really involved with, he told me he was in love with me. I panicked about the 3 year age gap due to outside influences as well as my own insecurities due to childhood issues. In this period i hinted at just leaving things then later broke up with him. This was due to fear and i retracted it but he said no as he was hurt and after his last relationship he wasnt going through that again etc. I have tried apologizing etc he then text me on a Saturday all night, i text him on the Monday telling him how i felt and that if i didnt hear from him I would move on. I have heard nothing since is there any chance. I have really fallen for this guy but i think I have blown it?
Anne

March 2, 2015 at 10:46 pm

Hi!

I need some advice. We started to talk again. Now what?

The story. I broke upwith him during a fight 8 months ago. To my surprise he also wanted to breake up. I was needy, he was not commited enough. So, we both made mistakes.

Kept being in close contact for months. He told me he likes me a lot but he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me. That he doesn’t know what he wants. Lately I decided I do not want to be an occatsional hookup and moved to another place and didn’t contact him at all. I have turned my life around. And I wasn’t a bad catch to start with. The biggest problem with being single now is that a lot of my male friends are now asking me out (and I only like them as very good friends).

Anyways, i had my birthday the other day. My ex called me (he is usually a text kind of guy). Asked me out for a beer. He had actually made a reservation to a nice restaurant, had bought me a gift (a book that is very hard to get and that I love). And he looked a bit worn down. It was nice. We talked about our work, friends, travels. Not even once about relationship. There were times when he looked away all sad while talking to me. I had to be home early senI cut the evening short.
Sent him a text today saying that the book is really good and thanks for that. (It is a good book!). But then he was playing me a bit. It took him hours to respond. But it was a text thanking me for a nice evening.

So, what I get from that… Am I right that he still likes me and wants me? I mean, he went through all this trouble with the book. And he didn’t look his best (and he is a very handsome and confident and outgoing guy usually).

But this late extremely late text makes me cautious.

I guess I have a chance? But how do I proceed? His sad eyes – would it be because he has some negative feelings towards me, or he is just afraid to try and loose?

So, I am now trying to take it easy and continue with my life. Although the first time around our relationship had an extremely fast start (date, kiss, bed, moving in all in one night) and was beautiful for a year; I think that this time around I want to do a proper dating before going into the bed with him. Don’t want to become friends with benefis. And I want an everlasting relationship, not just dating.

But any suggestions? How to build up his confidence? I am a bit straight forward and cannot play stupid. How to really make him crave for me? Should I just wait for him asking me out again? How many times?

I guess I will follow my intuition but could need some peptalk. 😀

admin

March 3, 2015 at 9:42 pm

If he asks you out again take him somewhere exciting or suggest an exciting date.
Anne

March 8, 2015 at 3:05 pm

Hey!

So, I waited a week. Finished a book he once borrowed me and texted him that I finished the book and could give it back to him now. And as I own him a taco we could meet up for a lunch. Yes, i know, not so interesting but I felt that asking him out for an actual activity was too big of a push.

It took him TWO hours to answer! He was rather official in the text. Polite and nice though. Told me that we could go to this one taco place next week (it was on friday). So the next morning I texted him back that yeah, great, next week is ok.

And that’s it.

I feel like we are playing some sort of game. Both making each other wait and boil. But shit, what do I do? Put on my nicest outfit and biggest smile while meeting him after work?

His a stubborn and very closed guy. Doesn’t open up easily.

Any good tips?
Should I look my best or keep it simple?
Should I cut the meal short or try to get us go out for deinks later?
If he should get all closed up and sad during it, how should I react? Tell a funny story? Change the subject? Leave?

Should I thank him for the nice time during that evening and say that we should do it again? Or just leave after we have eaten?

Agh, so many questions.

I don’t really want to manipulate him into a relationship with me. I actually only want him if he wants me. For real. And I need to feel him wanting me in order to still feel attracted to him. So, I mean, I don’t really want to play a game.

But I know that a little advice would be good, so that I won’t screw things up. Guys are different. 😀
admin

March 13, 2015 at 3:18 pm

I like the taco idea actually.

You got yourself a meet up and thats a positive sign.
Anne

March 13, 2015 at 7:35 pm

Yes. Feeling positive actually.
There were also small signs indicating that he was still interested in my dating life. Showed him something in my phone and my texting app was opened. Just for a fraction of a second I could see him frowning and going through all the names I have been texting to. I mean, he wouldn’t have done that if he didn’t worry.
Also, both times we went out he bought us second round of drinks. If he didn’t want to be with me he probably wouldn’t have extrnded the stay.

So, I ambfeeling very positive.

The unusual behaviour from him is though the fact that he hasn’t tried harder or drunk texted me now. For a long while after our breakup we were each others boody call. (Yes, we both invited each other over.)

Now there is none of that. It makes me happy, seeing that I am not just a boody call. But at the same time I miss having that kind of “power” if you could call it like that.

Now we are both completely free.

Hope this will grow into something more meaningful. That we reconnect in a personal level and actually take the time to start dating again, start inviting each other into our lives, make an effort to do things together and eventually have a beautiful and rimantic relationship.

Ah, one more funny thing. He mentioned that he is buying a house – that could accommodate a family. … And now I find myself wondering if he actually meant me.

Our relationship was very freespirited, no kids, no dating (no cheating either). Why I broke up with him was the fact that I could see him as the father of my children but I couldn’t see him in the same page with me. I told him that a while ago.

And after the breakup he started drunkcall me and say hiw he would like to have a child with me. But he didn’t want to be with me at the same time.
So now that he has had some time to reflect, I know he has changed his mind.

His a smart guy, with a rough past. I understand that he was scared. But I know that We have a very special connection. He knoes that and has told me several times. And our friends haver told us that.

So, now I am excited to see how my life will continue. Is he really the one? Are we really meant to be together?

Of course I made a lot of mistakes in the past. Had to grow up fast now and take the full responsibility for my own life. I was never a pushiver but the last year has really changed me.

But any further advice? 🙂 Should I ask him out again or wait for him to ask me out? How often? Once a week? Less? More? (Btw, there is no texting in between).

Always good to get aome feedback! 🙂
Anne

March 17, 2015 at 5:27 pm

Ok. So I am getting more and more confused.

Some days ago started texted again. Been stable, I think we have been texting daily.

But what is going through his head? I went in this surfing trip one day. Posted some pics online. Next day met a boyfriend of my friend. Found out that my ex and him are going surfing in the weekend now (they did han out a few times while we were dating but not much).
The same weekend he texted me a lot. Said they had loads of fun and out for drinks and that I should join. Well, I was occupied luckily. But his texsts ended up being a very much around the corner booty call. Not an actual invitation and nothing was said but he clearly wanted to meet up with me at his place.
The next day he sent me a text asking about this other place I recently visited and told him about while we met. Was kind of hoping that he will ask me to join (would have been a perfect date place) but he never did. He did go alone I think.

But what is going on? Why is he doing things that I am doing now? But nit with me? And he has a very clear blockage of asking me out. I know it will change and he will overcome it and actually admit himself that he wants to ask me out again and will. But until know he is just fishing and hoping that I am running to him. Am I right?

So I just need to wait and stay strong and wait for him to make a move?

I have been asked out by another guy wo is really nice. But want to give my ex a chance and not do the flirting game with two guys at the same time.

Wish I only knew the result 😀
Anne

March 11, 2015 at 6:52 pm

So, I was just out with him.
A small summary. Broken up months ago, moved out more than month ago. He asked me out in my birthday after weeks of not talking. Had me a present. He was a bit sad and nervous. A week later I asked him to meet me for a burger. Gave him bak an old book. He was supposed to bring one of my items. Was auper nice! He was happy. I felt good. No flirting though. He did make a joke about how I still own him for sex. ??? And he forgit to bring my item. Left after drinks.

Not sure weather we still have it going on or not. I am getting tired though. I care about him tremendously but would like a man to try a bit for me, 🙂 But what do you think? We atill have a chanse? Hoe should I proceed?

Or just move on? I have a row of guys waiting 😀 But not the kind of girl to jump into the sack with just anyone.

Sam

March 1, 2015 at 5:40 am

Hi Chris! Well, maybe i need a male opinion here… I started the NC recently, and today, on day 7 – no contact from both parts – we met at a friends birthday at a bar. I knew he would be there and even thought about not going, but I really like this friend, so I went anyway. I said hi, he said hi, I sat with some friends and then, he came and sat next to me, asking if I wanted to share a burger, etc. We talked for like 2 hours. About a lot of things. His soccer team he loves so much, his family, his job, his health, my life, my job, etc. We had fun, actually! It was a good catching up talk. Then, I paid my bill and said I had to leave. I decided since I did not have the initiative to talk to him, I did not break the NC. But since he was so willing to talk, I could not be rude, and it was fun. Do you think it is a good sign? Should I have left earlier or something?

tks
shravya

February 26, 2015 at 1:54 pm

my ex is kindoff egomaniac..he’s been ignoring me since a year..even i hav equally ignored him.. he hurt me a lot..yet i love him… how do i get him back? he’s blocked me on fb (only source of contact) 🙁

admin

March 1, 2015 at 6:18 pm

What makes him an egomaniac?

Marie

February 25, 2015 at 10:01 pm

My ex and I broke up a few months ago, but we live in the same household with a few other people and therefore made the decision to be friends. He’s been seeing this other girl for a while, but they aren’t officially in a relationship. She’s been messing around on him behind his back and admitted to him that she doesn’t know what she wants. She’s driven him to the point of wanting to kill himself. The other day he told me that he wishes he wouldn’t have fucked up with me and that he still has feelings for me. He cuddled with me that night, and I only let him because I was afraid he was going to do something stupid. We ended up talking about our relationship, and he asked what’s holding me back from being with him again. I told him it’s all this stuff going on between him and this other girl. She’s already hurt him once before, but she’s doing it again. He told her to take a week to figure out what she wants, and he said that if she decides she wants him than he’ll most likely go back to her. I talked to him today and he denied ever telling me has feelings for me. He denied most of what he said the other night and cut the conversation short. He usually does this when he doesn’t want to admit to something. I do want to go get back with him, and doing the no contact rule is so hard because we live together. I want to try to reestablish his attraction towards me too, although I do realize that walking away is another option if that doesn’t work. What should I do? And how can I reestablish a strong attraction to me? Can I steer him away from this other girl?

admin

March 1, 2015 at 5:55 pm

You sure can!

I would check out my podcast on what to do if he has a new girlfriend.

Dee

February 22, 2015 at 7:42 pm

hi chris,
my ex and i broke up around 10 months ago. we dated for 4 years. everything was fine and normal. n i guess the reason for break up was that he lost interest and was effected by the grass is greener syndrome. so yes the mistake i made was going mad at him and being clingy. he did come back to me after a couple of days, but i dint accept him saying it wouldnt work. i guess i made a mistake saying that. i love him i truly do. but i was sure he would change his mind and hurt me again. quite some time after that he stopped contacting me. that made me miss him n i started contacting him n ended up being clingy. after that he blocked me out n stopped responding to me. we even made out a couple of times after the breakup. i guess that was a mistake, ketting him have me. n now its been quite sometime and he hasnt bothered to contact me. he just doesnt care because i recently met with an accident and he dint show up o talk to me after i was discharged though i contacted him a number of times. he picked my call up and when i told him about the acciednt he replied asying that he was busy with his friends aND hung up. n today i missed him so much that i ended up calling him up a zillion times and he called me back after an hour saying he was out with a friend n told me to not call him up n “trouble” him. is it possible for him to be dating someone o have a rebound after 10 months?and what if he is dating someone now. this question haunts me. he falls under the “bad boy” category but he was a angel to me for the past 3 years. i know he loved me. n i did try the no contact period inbetween which i even took a vacation to a place which would drive him crazy out of jealousy, but surprisingly NOTHING effected him. n now he’s been avoiding me completely. i feel beaten up. with him in my life i felt everything was together. now its just falling apart. i wonder if he will ever come back. n he is a very selfish guy. n he has been very rude to me lately. very rude. its painful for someone so close to just become a completely new person. infact inbetween our relationship we had broken up for a couple of months because he liked someone else. but it dint work out i guess so he came back to me like a puppy n i accepted him.but this time when he came back i thought by accepting him i would be giving him freedom to hurt me again and again n take advantage of my kindness and weakness. i’ve grown too much on him. n also can you please tell me how to appropriately BEGIN the no contact rule. thank you

admin

February 23, 2015 at 9:22 pm

Just go right into the NC rule. No warning or anything.

sabrina

February 22, 2015 at 2:53 pm

about the silence treatment.
i would often disappear for up to 4 days untill he would call me. towards the end i was feeling neglected and thought that if i wouldn’t call him he would miss me and reach out..
anyway when we were together it took him 4 days!! so i’m quit terrified when it comes to thinking about how long it would take for him to miss me ater he has rejected me as a partener… is there any corolation ? could it be that he was used to me and took me for granted and that’s why he didn’t call me daily and now that he brok up with me it’s a different set of rules?

p.s i’m in nc for 23 days and still nothing from him…
what do you think chris?

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