Using Male Psychology To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back- The Complete Guide

508 thoughts on “Using Male Psychology To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back”

Isabelle

April 18, 2014 at 7:17 am

My boyfriend left me a month ago, I now know why. But at the time I didn’t, so I begged and begged for him back, I pleaded and done everything I shouldn’t have. Upon reflection, I feel so ashamed but at that time it felt like the best thing to do. After ALOT of begging, I went into NC. I kept that for 10 days, then I gave in and begged again:/ huge mistake I know. I’m in NC now, started afresh and it’s been a week. I really don’t know what to do, I know that he thinks of me as a crazy, over emotional psycho! How can I change this?? He hasn’t tried contacting me once since he dumped me and it seems like he really doesn’t care. PLUS, we were in a LDR so there’s no way of him knowing that I’ve changed or how I’m doing. It feels like he is just trying to block me out and forget about me.

Isabelle

April 18, 2014 at 7:26 am

( the reason he left me because I was insecure and very jealous. I realise this now but at the time I had no clue )
admin

April 18, 2014 at 3:48 pm

You might have to work on rebuilding some trust.

Juliana

April 18, 2014 at 4:57 am

Hey Chris,

I have been following your advice (obviously). After NCR I contacted him and received a good message back. Then I contacted him back asking if he just wanted to hang out.. but he was at his cousin’s wedding but replied “maybe some other time” and then a minute later said “if not for the wedding than I would have”. I thought that was good.. he wouldn’t have said that if he didn’t mean it. But he did not ask me to hang out after that. Also.. now we are the godparents for a mutual friends baby which should be interesting. And the day before he left for the mens world hockey championships.. we talked all day and he told me he was going to be on tv stuff. SO, judging by his responses, etc.. do you think he is slightly interested in me still?

admin

April 18, 2014 at 3:42 pm

Hmm… I think he is a step above neutral but not totally obssessed with you yet.

You can sway him if you push the right buttons though.
Juliana

April 18, 2014 at 6:18 pm

okay thank you for the replay back.. fyi: i know he was thinking of me.. before I asked him to hang out he told our mutual friends that he had been wanting to hang out with me.. but was not sure..

p.s happy easter
admin

April 20, 2014 at 2:16 am

Happy Easter!

SA

April 18, 2014 at 4:23 am

So i noticed my ex was listening to a “love” playlist he made for me (when we were in a relationship) on spotify…. We haven’t talked for a week since I implemented NC.
A day ago he unfollowed my instagram…
I want to think its good sign, but since I haven’t done anything, i don’t know what to think.

Could it be about another girl?
What do you think?

admin

April 18, 2014 at 3:39 pm

How is that a bad sign???? No, if its a playlist he made for you its probably thinking of YOU!!

Amy

April 17, 2014 at 11:23 pm

Chris, I just wanted to say thanks. I found your site months ago and tried no contact… lasted about four days. Lol. But this time I’m midway through (almost two weeks) and I know I’ll make it all the way. Who knows how it will end up, but I have some sanity and clarity back, and the pain is starting to go away. No contact is like ripping off a bandaid, it hurts so much in the beginning it’s almost excruciating, but you’ll get over it faster in the long run. I wasted months limping along and feeling terrible about the relationship, and if only I’d persisted with NC the first time I’d be in a different place right now.

What helped me a lot was the iPhone block feature. I blocked him for the first week, which kept me from seeing his texts, calls, or whatever he tried to do. It also prevented me from getting upset if he DIDN’T try to contact me the way I expected. It was really a godsend. The person you block doesn’t know they’re blocked, so you don’t have to deal with all that drama. For all they know, you’re reading their texts and ignoring them. And it helps with the constant checking of the phone if you know they can’t get through to you. It’s a nice buffer from reality until you can cope better. It feels protective.

No contact sucks, but it’s sooooo critically necessary and I’m glad you’re hammering on it. Here’s proof: I found out today that my ex is dating someone new. It felt like a body blow and I had to hide in the bathroom at work to cry. But that initial feeling didn’t last long. It still hurts, but I’m ok. I’m convinced that if I hadn’t been NC for two weeks and we were still trying to be “friends” I would have been hysterical right now. So it’s already helping. The only change I’m making is putting him back on block so I don’t feel like I’ve been punched if he does try to text or call.

So again, thanks for writing these guides. It does help people!

admin

April 18, 2014 at 3:26 pm

I am so sorry he is dating someone new… I know that can be incredibly tough but you know what. You have the perfect attitude about all of this. I am serious. People like you tend to do well.

Anisha

April 16, 2014 at 4:26 pm

Hi Chris!

So I met my man on a dating site, we live in two different parts of the world but we got close really fast, sending emails constantly, exchanging pictures and skyping almost every evening- As I am from his country and had previously made plans to visit there (prior to meet him) he was extremely excited about spending time together- which happened earlier this year.
We had a lot of fun and he surprised be with countless gifts and affection the entire time- we agreed we had amazing chemistry, and we talked about my plans to move back to our home country.
When I got back to my present city we still kept in touch with him first asking me to move in with him- he slowly started talking about us moving too fast which we agreed to slow down on but he started to freak out more and more over the weeks
a few days before I was to move (my plans have changed since but he doesn’t know due to the NC rule) we were talking about some picture I sent (which he loved) and he discussed being extremely busy which I accepted and said I hope to see him at some point- he got extremely edgy and suddenly told me to delete his number and never speak to him again
I tried to ask what I did wrong but no response…
I am currently in my first week of the NC rule but I worry about how to handle things when we’re in the same city- is it his nerves or something more dire thats going on? He asked for a few things from my present city so I am at a loss as to what I should do when I do arrive (which is in 2 weeks)
Any help would be greatly appreciated… I’m extremely confused right now!

admin

April 18, 2014 at 3:18 pm

He probably got freaked out by the commitment.

ritu

April 16, 2014 at 3:58 pm

Hi my problem is a bit confusing.i really need ur expert advice. My bf is vry controlling. I mean he doesnt stop me frm going but like he do everything his way. Like talks to me whn he wants, he meets whn he wants, he doesn’t takr me out for dinner or anywhere its been 2yrs, he gets physically involved when he likes. He doesnt even care. Its all abt his satisfaction. It feels as if m nothing. He insults me evrry other day. Yrstrday also it happened. I was hurt but nvr said anything. He didnt called me whole day. I found a missed call in eve . i called bck like 4 times he didnt responded. Didnt replied to my texts. Den he sends me a msg “dont come tonight” and swtchs off his phn. Whn i saw him at nite i said call me but he refused and said go away dont talk to me here. Every1 knws me. Den he insulyed me very badly . he turned his bike and went away. I was standing dere on a road. It was so insulting. I nvr said anything. He did everything according to him. I cook for him and i did his MBA assignment. Supported him financially. Whnvr he needed me, i was dere wid him no matter wht he did. But agn he did dis. And walked away.

Plz chris, will nc help me? M feeling so insulting. Crying because i never said anything to him. Even when he ignored my every desire. I kept doing gud for him. Plz advice will it help me.

N.M

January 4, 2015 at 4:45 pm

Re the post above thisis the biggest problem i have.
That he wont even Acknowledge he’s been rude, that he behaved badly , or hurt me, forget about apologising. He just pretends nothing happened and then wonders why I’m angry all the time.
If you break off a conversation n say you will call back, not once but hundreds of times, instead just disappear till the next time, is it wrong on my part to expect that he atleast ‘mentions’ he was to call me back but something got in the way? And the same when he has been rude, hurtful?
Does he not ‘know’ he hurt me , to pretend as if nothing happened?
For eg he will plan a night out with friends but ‘forget’ to tell me, instead just disappear, n if i try calling him, he keeps disconnecting, later claiming there was too much noise, when for all I know he could be with anothe girl?
Is that not the height of selfish self-centred behaviour?
Btw this is 56/28
Would love to hear your take on this.
Miha

April 18, 2014 at 3:06 am

I’m not Chris but I tell you don’t accept to be treated like this- do NC and then/meanwhile see maybe a new perspective comes up to you… he is not the only man there- you may find other men that are better educated , belong to strongly built families ,that will respect you and care for you !
admin

April 18, 2014 at 3:36 pm

🙂 Love it when people comment on other peoples situation like this.
ritu

April 21, 2014 at 12:45 pm

Thanks miha. Really appreciate ur advice
Miha

April 21, 2014 at 3:19 am

Yes I am too opinionated I know…

Sun

April 16, 2014 at 2:05 pm

All are quite helpfull but how can you be an ungeatable girl or make him miss you/want more if he’s the one who’s late at responding, end the convo out of nowhere or answers half of the times?? can he be doing this on purpose???
Em

April 16, 2014 at 2:32 am

Should I say happy birthday to him I mean we have been in no contact for 6 months and he didn’t say it toe what do I do?!?

admin

April 16, 2014 at 4:20 pm

6 months???? wait a minute why that long?
em

April 17, 2014 at 10:04 pm

well our break up was six months ago and we haven’t spoke to each other really in 5 months but when we broke up he blocked and unfollowed me the maybe two months after the break up he followed me back we just haven’t talked what should i do? please help

k94

April 15, 2014 at 9:03 pm

I have a funny wondering about moving out of the friend zone with an ex, I have read relevant guides about friend zones and about getting an ex back after a year+ as well but my situation is a little stranger than that I guess.

This isn’t even about the same ex that brought me to this site originally half a year ago…

The guy its about is one I met when I was 16. So we have known each other literally YEARS. 6-7 give or take..
We did date when we were little. It was silly. It was on and off. Oh how he broke my feeble teenage girl heart 😉
We have kept In touch on and off through the years. I’m at this comfortable stage where I know I will always have a soft spot for him, but I also wouldn’t really get jealous if he were to be with another woman (over the years I’ve seen him with one or two- I’m used to it). I’ve always sort of thought about him even during the times we were moving in completly different circles, but we’ve always found a way back to one another. Odd bumping into each other scenarios..to sending one another a strange fb inbox. -he was drunk one recent new years and told me how I’m the most beautiful girl he has ever met but he doesn’t want him telling me that to ruin our friendship. (N’awwww 😉 this was 2 years ago now though).
Currently, thanks to Snapchat, we’re back to regular contact and have been for a few months.
I’ve recently visited my home town and seen him on a few occasions while I have been down there.
One night a big group of our friends went out for a few drinks and me and him somehow ended up together for most of the night.. He was putting his arm around me. When I suggested he should go and spend time with his buddies rather than stay with me he still chose to stay. He was resting his face near mine -I had to dodge opportunities in case he was planning on kissing me… He held my hand on our walk home..and then when we both split to our own houses he texted me about little things that were mentioned during our time out.
We also have this system with being each other’s ‘cuddle buddies’ to help me sleep better. (Wow. This is cringey).
I also found out from his friend that “he likes me but doesn’t want to ruin the friendship”
Overall, we never argue. We are now adults unlike when we first met, so most of his behaviour I cannot judge in the same way now to predict what it would be like if anything did happen.
Other than the good stuff, he is slightly inconsistent with his affection towards me, I feel that at times I have to reach out to him. He is so laid back that he is more than OK to not contact me all the time…
Which leaves me to contact him if a few days have gone by…
However He always responds to my texts.
But Im a little thrown by his lack of initiating the conversation, the fact that he goes In and out of phases of being more invested in me than other times worries me. He could be a bit of a commitmentphobe.

But overall, what is a good way to kind of get out of the friend zone? Or is it even sensible to? How would I go about to test the ‘romantic’ waters to maybe give him the incentive to chase me a little?

admin

April 16, 2014 at 4:17 pm

Hahaha I laughed when you said “cringey.”

To make him realize that you could leave his life forever.. men want what they can’t have.
k94

April 18, 2014 at 10:07 am

You’re probably right :’) its that chasing after a fantasy that once gotten wont have the same desire for. Pff.

Sara

April 15, 2014 at 2:59 pm

I ask my ex’s roommate (who’s also my friend and his) about him and he said He asked my ex if we were officially over and he said yes. He also asked him if we’re done forever and he said “yeah”, then quickly changed the subject.
Whenever I ask him, he just said “you have to be patient. I can’t promise anything”….

We’ve been broken up a few weeks now, I’m doing NC

But I just don’t know what’s going on in his head…

Sara

April 18, 2014 at 1:22 pm

Thoughts?

lizzie

April 15, 2014 at 8:49 am

We split up in january, I tried all thevtjngs I wasnt supposed to in feb. I applied 30 nc once I discovered your website. He ignored me. I applied nc again then contacted him, hes ignored me again. Clearly I should get the message. Is he still angry? Or just really rude and ignorant. If he didnt have feelings he could have given a one word reply. Silence makes me think I still got a reaction

admin

April 15, 2014 at 4:22 pm

What are your texts to him looking like?

Deli

April 15, 2014 at 8:09 am

Hi Chris. I read most of your posts. Loved them! But I want your opinion on my situation.
My boyfriend and I were together for 2 years. Now he’s moving across state (his choice). So I panicked because I didn’t want us to be separated. We used to be in a LDR before. I was afraid to do it again. Last week I started a fight with him regarding his leaving. I could’t control my frustration so I boke up with him in the middle of the argument. He also got super angry and frustrated and broke up with me, while saying a lot of hurtful words. I immediately regretted my action the next day. Since I really wanted to make things right but didn’t want to beg. I called him the other day and apologize for starting the fight and not being understanding of his decision. I also told him I wanted to enjoy the time with him when he’s still here. But I didn’t ask him directly to get back with me. His answers seemed plain and emotionless. He said he appreciated my apology but instead of agreeing to my request, he said he wanted me to go over for dinner next weekend since he had promised to cook for me awhile back.
While I’m glad he still cared about an old promise, I don’t know what to make out of it. Is it a sign that there’s still hope? He still wants me or he just wants closure? Should I even go to the dinner? If I go should I talk about getting back together then or later in the future? What do you think?
Thank you!

admin

April 15, 2014 at 4:22 pm

Was there ever a plan to be together with the distance?
Deli

April 15, 2014 at 5:20 pm

To be honest, I didn’t give him much a chance to talk about his plan with me. I was opposed his decision the entire time. When I first heard it I was confused and thought I wanted out. So whenever he talked about any plans regarding his leaving, I acted like I didn’t want to listen to it.
We used to be in a LDR before so it wouldn’t be new for us. He said that he wanted me to go visit him and that he still want me to be part of his life and things like that. But I didn’t give him much an answer back then. It seemed to me that he was unwilling to have me disappear from his life. He didn’t demand me to still be with him after he moves away, neither did he talk about ending it.
admin

April 16, 2014 at 4:09 pm

You probably should have talked to him about your concerns..

miha

April 15, 2014 at 3:58 am

My bf and I have been since December 2012 for 3 months together then he left ( we drove together) to the state where he got his previous job back and where his family is ; since then in 2013 we lived on 2 different coasts me flying there 3 times, we being out of country together on vacation and him flying here for 3 times 1 time in my town and 2 times meeting where he was sent with his job; last time he came was this February ; we started to have tensions in our relationship because I am the kind of woman who wants a lot of attention and the long distance made me feel insecure and i started acting jealous for stupid reasons ; when we were meeting I was bringing the subject of him coming back until i finish my school then we
could go there together;me being enrolled in a program here ( that I tried
to transfer there but I did not succeed); he was saying that I m not
positive – how can I be positive if the reality that so long distance was
separating us and my program finishes in 2015 in may; so I made him
pullaway ; we couldn’t t see each other for Christmas and new years eve ,
on my birthday due,he said to reasons like his son coming there ,his job etc
I got upset and frustrated about it that made him more distant and pull
away instead of understanding me .
Now

He came last time on February and our relationship didn t go well . We continue to talk ,him telling me he loves me … until Valentine s day when he acted very distant ,since then I called him almost allways for another week or so, February 25 the was the last day we spoke ; I e mailed him 4 times called him maybe 6 but he didn t get any response, last time we talked he told me that we son t get along ,I told him it s the distance that things will get smoother if we would be together . I did NC sinceMarch 16 , but I called 2 times his father and e mailed his father once or twice , last time I sounded probably sad , his father told me he hash t heard from him since 3 weeks ago but he knows that he is moving in a house closer to work . I feel hopeless, I told his father I think that I would move to him because I felt distance was not good for us and school was not making me happy( I could wait until make a transfer there ,take some online classes)
I felt that he wanted to break up last time and he was disapointed that last time he visited we couldn’t t get along again because I was mad at him ‘jeakous with no reasons and had frequent outbursts
I don t know what to do now,after I found out he is moving I got distressed thinking he is in a house that can be rented to other people and there is no intimate place for us to be ,if I would get there. I feel like I have fear of being rejected by him and I would not initiate contact, what if he will not contact me again ? I was OK before went out with friends , concerts but after his move I got upset, I can t focus and feel

admin

April 15, 2014 at 4:17 pm

Have you tried NC yet?
Miha

April 18, 2014 at 1:31 am

I did the NC -today it is exactly 1 month since I haven’t contacted him; I wanted to call him at work at the end of the shift to see how he is doing; i think that would have more chances of a response than the text
Miha

April 18, 2014 at 2:46 am

Thank you for your support and the time you share with each of us! It’s good to have a forum like this where we can come in blue times…
Miha

April 18, 2014 at 2:48 am

You worked a lot and gathered a lot of material for us!Thank you
miha

April 15, 2014 at 4:09 am

I’m adding to the previous message : I suffered a lot since he hasn t spoken to me and now the N C will finish and don t know what to do, I could ask him about a pair of blue jeans that I believed I left them with him but I have the fear that if he will not answer I will suffer too much, should I then just talk to his father ?
miha

April 15, 2014 at 4:21 am

Last time on the phonefebruary 25 the , I asked him if he gives up on me he said no I asked him if he loves me he said yes and if he will call me and he said yes
But no word from him yet
He just told me at that time that we are in friction almost all the time and to be honest with myself , and that he doesn’t t see a future for our relationship
Since then I e mailed him told him to come back I anted to say to come back in the relationship, that distance is acting against us etc to forgive me and give us another chance -…then question Is the one above

S

April 15, 2014 at 3:11 am

This is going yo sound pathetic but…

I had to go to the ER because i busted my knee. I wrote on facebook to a group of friends that i needed their help getting back to my dorm. I KNOW my ex saw it. But he didnt text or call even though he lives in my dorm and knows where the hospital is (its literally a minute from my dorm).

I came back and i saw he went to the gym because he took a selfie….

I just want to know why the hell didnt he do anything?

For the record, been broken up for three weeks. Been om NC for a week and the couple times i’ve seen him around I dont wave but he does.

But seriously, whats his problem?

admin

April 15, 2014 at 4:16 pm

You are broken up… Right?

Ashley

April 14, 2014 at 6:43 pm

Hi Chris,
I just want to say thank you so much for helping me through my break up. I will be honest i don’t have a lot of experience dating guys and so some of your posts have really put things into perspective for me. So i have a question. You say that after 30 days we should contact them right, but what if after 30 days we don’t feel like its the right time yet? I have come to realize that the reason we broke up (well partly) was because i basically became an emotional burden to him. The last 3 months of our 8 month relationship i was depressed and unhappy with problems at home, work and just some other stuff. He was pretty much the only thing making me happy and i realize that in part probably pushed him away. Anyways so its been 6 and a 1/2 weeks since we broke up and im on NC of 20 days. He hasn’t contacted me at all, which actually doesn’t surprise me because i think i made him mad when i said i was deleting his number, etc. Anyways my point is that even though i have become happier in regards to my self-esteem and confidence and i’m also out of the crazy house that was probably #1 cause of my depression. I still haven’t found a better job and ive been looking for months. I feel like if i contact him while i still have the depressing job, that he won’t think i’ve made changes to my life. So i guess what im wondering is should i be 100% happy and have a new job before i make contact even if its alot longer than the 30 days?

Sorry for the long message and thank you for reading it!

Miha

April 18, 2014 at 3:23 am

It is true that you will be happier and more confident with a more satisfying job but is it not the role of your boyfriend to be a support for you in the times of trouble? He should support you whenever you feel depressed or frustrated with life
admin

April 15, 2014 at 4:11 pm

Yes you should aim for that to happen 🙂

abby

April 14, 2014 at 5:49 pm

hi, chris..
since this is about male psychology i want to ask bout.. why my ex always talking, enjoying, laughing with his friends(girls) while we were fighting before the break-up. is there anything about feeding the ego?? or was he just wanted to feel something that is doesn’t have between me and him? thank you. nice guide by the way.. and this is my fav!! hope u could explain more about them.

admin

April 15, 2014 at 4:09 pm

Definitely! He probably feeds off of that admiration from them.
abby

April 16, 2014 at 12:21 am

okay. since we’ve been break up, he still contacting his friends(girls). is that mean that he would date one of them? is feeding his ego kind of thing is a douch? thank you.
admin

April 16, 2014 at 4:17 pm

Feeding his ego probably… why didn’t he date them before?
abby

April 18, 2014 at 12:10 am

because he is a super committed person. i used to feel jealous towards them and he’ll get angry. he said that that is nothing to be worry about. i feel so jealous because he always help them. and one of the girls is always need a help from my ex. and my ex always help her. and accompany her such as called her if she has a problem. he never did that to me. that hurts the most (and also sharing his story with them while we were together and fighting). and that starts the fight and me trying to make him jealous until we broken up.

Erin

April 14, 2014 at 3:47 am

Hey Chris!
So my ex and I broke up back in October. I completed the NCR and he seemed happy to talk after that even though I knew he had started seeing someone. I have bee trying to follow your E-Book but it has been hard to sick to based on his reactions of not always responding, or being super talkative one day and then not so interested another. However, he is still dating this girl and I am still trying to implement your guidelines as I have hope! I guess I would just like some help on how to get/keep him intrigued in a convo long enough so that I have the chance to end it first to gain control, as he always seems to beat me to it by saying he is going to bed.
Any help appreciated!!
Thanks

admin

April 14, 2014 at 5:35 pm

I gues syou just need to figure out how to end conversations quicker.

Sydney

April 14, 2014 at 12:30 am

Hey Chris,
I am extremely confused about my ex and his actions. I already told you about this part, but a few weeks ago I found out he was seeing another girl at the same time he was still sleeping with me and hanging out. I told him how I felt about him and told him if he had feelings for me then maybe we could try again, but if he wants to be with the other girl then we have to stop sleeping together. He chose the other girl and also agreed that we can’t do those things anymore. He said we could still talk as friends and I told him, that I’ll always be his friend, but right now it hurts too much. A few days later, he texted me and asked me and my friend to meet up with him and his friend (it didn’t end up happening). Several days after that I texted him, and he didn’t respond. Two weeks went by and I asked him if he wanted to watch the walking dead finale with me. He said he didn’t have a way over and apologized, I told him it was okay, it’s just more fun watching it with him and he said “i know I feel the same”. The following Thursday was his birthday, so I texted saying happy birthday, but he didn’t respond. A week later, he texts me and we start talking and everything feels like the way things used to be, we were even joking around, then he asked if I wanted to hangout with him that night. I said yes and he said “okay 🙂 do I get to kiss you?” I didn’t know what to say since I’m pretty sure he’s still with this other girl so i said maybe. He came over and we hung out and played some video games then he pulled me into him and kissed me. We ended up kissing for a long time and some other things happened, then we laid in my bed cuddling and talking and laughing and everything was great. I texted him the following day and he didn’t respond. I haven’t heard from him at all.
What is he doing? I am so confused I have no idea how to proceed. He texted me, he asked me to hangout, he asked to kiss me, he did kiss me, we have a great night then he ignores me the next day and stays silent. I really don’t know what to do now! Do I just not text him at all for a while? Why would he kiss me if he chose another girl?? I appreciate any insight and advice you have because I just don’t know what to do 🙁

admin

April 14, 2014 at 5:31 pm

Hmm… sounds like he has second thoughts when he is away from you. Did you try texting him the next day after the kiss at all though? He may have been waiting to see if you said anything about it.
Sydney

April 14, 2014 at 6:08 pm

I did text him the next day, nothing about the kiss though. He asked if he could download something at my house that night, but my internet wasn’t working, so the next day I told him if he still wanted to download he could come by later and do it, but no response from him.
I just don’t get it. One day it seems like he wants me then the next he’s acting like I don’t exist?

Sarah

April 13, 2014 at 10:28 pm

Hi Chris, love the site!
But I’ve a bit of a pickle.
So my ex and I were together three and a half years (2 long distance while I studied). But we were an affair (him and wife were only together for their business etc, even separate bedrooms and yes I witnessed this!) but he left his wife and the home, business everything in September. I told him before he did that if he did we’d have to “separate” for a bit to let the divorce happen and dust settled, he agreed. But when the time came he wanted to come down to me a month later so I said not yet. He asked for a black and white answer about where we stood so I said we’re not together right now let’s meet at Christmas. He cried but knew deep down I was right. A month later he was with someone else.
Unfortunately I’ve texted him sines Christmas some emotional about us and some normal chatty friendly texts.
Have I blown it or do I still have a chance?
Can she still be a rebound?
Thanks, Sarah

admin

April 14, 2014 at 5:28 pm

How long has he been with her total?
Sarah

April 14, 2014 at 10:33 pm

4 months, but they’ve just moved in together … Bit quick or am I just being hopeful hah?
admin

April 15, 2014 at 4:14 pm

Hmm… it is quick but unfortunately its not a good sign for you either.
Sarah

April 16, 2014 at 6:49 am

True! He says he still has a love for me but was really hurt when I broke up with him and regrets not working out or being more patient with me to make my mind up. Do you think I can re spark that connection again and should I do 30 days NC or less or more given we’ve spoken since the break up? Like at Christmas he ignored her and kept calling me gorgeous plus all the old nicknames and he even said “love you ” and we hugged etc but then I mentioned getting back together (too soon) and he said no and since then he’s just retreated completely into his shell and her arms :-/ I want to respark the connection slowly but let the end result be his decision
Sarah

April 13, 2014 at 10:35 pm

Before we split he also commented he’d tahrs be in a relationship than not so maybe she’s just a companion but I mean he cried – in public – over me

Sofi

April 13, 2014 at 9:59 pm

What does it mean when you see him and all he does is wave? And doesn’t try to engage in a conversation?

But seeing as we used to be best friends… is it bad that now we’re like strangers?

Been broken up for 3 weeks now and I’m doing NC, but should I be worried?
Or is this normal for him to not want to talk to me right?

admin

April 14, 2014 at 5:27 pm

Hes trying to be nice but scared to talk to you.

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