Exactly How To Use Text Messages To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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melly

February 24, 2014 at 1:50 am

Hi Chris, just wondering how long should we text our ex from 1 text to another (from first text to good old times’ text)?

melly

February 26, 2014 at 11:03 am

I’ve got another question as well beside the length between each text (my first comment); what if there’s no romantic movie coming up in the cinema? any other choice for movie type?

Heartbroken

February 23, 2014 at 2:02 am

Me and my boyfriend were together for 15 months. We have been through so much together and had always stayed together through every single obstacle we encountered and stayed together through every crazy fight because we were so inseparable and unbreakable. We would never even go 3 hours without talking and talked every second of the day for the 15 months we were together. The day the “breakup” started, we got in a fight, and he ignored me for the whole entire day until the very next day, although I was crying so much and was depressed and skipped school and couldn’t eat and cut myself, he still did not care. When he finally texted me back he told me he was just not the relationship type of guy anymore, and that his feelings for me weren’t the same anymore. That day I stayed home from school and waited for him to pass my house when biking home from school, and my mom saw him and made him come in. He was very mad at me and told me to move on and I was crying my heart out. He knew I was so hurt and that night we talked things out finally after me begging for another chance. The next day things went back to normal and he biked to my school afterschool like usual(we go to different schools now because he got expelled) Things were going good I guess and we had lunch and then he started getting silent for a very long time, I knew what he was thinking, when we were walking home, I finally cried and said “You don’t love me anymore huh you don’t feel the same anymore” and he had to be honest with me and said that he didn’t feel the same anymore and was thinking about it all day and didn’t want to hurt me so he pretended to want me again but he said he couldn’t pretend anymore. Ever since that we still talked but not as much and I was so depressed and couldn’t even eat and skipped school and that continued for 2 more days and then I just stopped texting him hoping he would miss me. And he still never said a word and it’s been a whole day. That’s crazy because we never go 3 hours without talking so it’s very hard for me. He broke up with me. He said he doesn’t want to be in anymore relationships until he is out of highschool, he doesn’t seem sad and is enjoying his single life being free. He’s been adding girls on facebook and instagram while I’m suffering missing him so much. Do you think we will get back together? He said he still wanted to be friends but when I stopped texting him he stopped texting me too. If i do the no contact rule will he miss me and want me back? Its so hard to not text him
Please help

February 22, 2014 at 9:28 pm

Hi Chris. My ex broke up with me & we ended on bad terms, it’s been over 5 weeks NC, he never reached out to me & I haven’t reached out either. It’s driving me crazy & i want to reach out now, but heard he just went away on vacation to the dominican republic & won’t be back for 2 weeks! Should I contact him while he’s on vacation or wait until he comes back?

admin

February 24, 2014 at 6:14 pm

Wait until he comes back.

Rose Marie

February 21, 2014 at 6:05 am

Question, after we send the text that we saw someone who LOOKED like them, and that that person looked amazng, when he texts back that that person was NOT him, how should we respond?
Ruthie

February 21, 2014 at 5:30 am

Hi! Need a opinion from u. My ex dumped me, said he lost his feelings for me & said if he were to try to make it work like i asked, it would just end with me getting hurt. I asked him if he was cheating & he said he wasn’t but that he doesn’t know if he would so he needs to end things, but when we first met he claimed he didn’t lie or cheat. I want to talk to him again, but is it worth trying to work out when he said he doesn’t know if he’d cheat?
jessica

February 20, 2014 at 4:35 pm

hey I was just wondering what i should do to get my ex to talk to me so i can explain what really happened. Because he had a bunch of underaged girls that wouldnt leave him alone so i said something trying to protect him because they started threatening mine and his lives and now because of that he thinks i lied to him when i never did and he wont talk to me
Joy

February 20, 2014 at 2:32 am

if i break the NC rule…should i go back to the start by counting 30 days with no talk again? and what’s the best first few words to say after that period?
Allie

February 18, 2014 at 4:37 am

So me and my ex have been on and off for almost 6 years now and we have been constant this last year. whenever we broke up I dated but he didn’t and this time we broke up because he cheated. I know He feels like he doesn’t know what else is out there like I had to chance to, so I gave him space like the 30 rule says and he actually texted me and said he misses me and thinks about me and isn’t over me…but he has a new girl friend and actually tells me they have nothing in common and their relationship isn’t anything like ours and he doesn’t feel comfortable around her and I thought that was a sign he was going to end it and we ended up meeting up and we kissed but he is still with her and continues to ask me to hang out… HELP what do I do?!

Jessica

February 19, 2014 at 1:13 pm

Have him dump the girl. Now he is cheating on her with you. Which isn’t fair for her. It hurt you, don’t you think it will hurt her?

Missy

February 17, 2014 at 10:46 pm

Chris, first off, thanks for this guide. Quick question. My ex wanted to take a break from our relationship to sort things out, then 3 days before my bday he decided that he definately didn’t want to work things out & said i would just end up getting hurt cause he didn’t feel the same for me anymore & he knows it would never work between us. We got in a fight, he broke my heart & he knows it but I never heard from him again & it’s been past 30 days. I never contacted him either. Isn’t the fact he never bothered to reach out for my bday or v-day a bad sign? it really seems he never cared for me at all. should i even try?

admin

February 18, 2014 at 7:08 pm

I am coming out with a new guide soon that I think will really be of benefit to you.
Missy

February 19, 2014 at 3:02 am

When will this new guide come out & what will it be called?
admin

February 19, 2014 at 7:11 pm

How to get your ex boyfriend back Version 2.0

I hope to have it done by this weekend.

Tan

February 17, 2014 at 1:36 pm

I just contacted my ex using one of the text messages above to remind him of how I often enjoy listen to him sing while we were dating. And like most advice, he gave a neutral response and I ended the conversation saying I was busy so talk next time. A lot of advice given was that I should be the one ending the conversation so that he would want to chase. I understand it may not be today and could be a few days or so, but the thing is, what if he doesn’t? It sure doesn’t sound right to keep sending him messages “occasionally” saying positive stuff because I’m sure he’ll be wondering what am I trying to achieve here. And I have a feeling that if this continues, he would think I’m contacting him with a hidden agenda. What should I do? How long should I wait? And what should I send next?
Jamila

February 17, 2014 at 10:12 am

So me and this guy never really dated, but we would text each other 24 hours everyday from morning to night and then there were some problems with our texting because I wasn’t receiving his txts and he wasn’t receiving mine so we stopped talking for like a week until I finally snap chatted him and he spthought that I was ignoring him and stuff but I wasn’t! So I told him about my. Situation with the texting so we were just snap chatting each other for now. Then one night I slept over my cousins house and she wanted to know if he was playing me. So she texted him off of her phone and see what his reaction would be like and stuff just to see if he’s just the way he is with other girls too. Let’s just say it ended on a rough note, but he never knew if I knew about the texts with my cousin or not and then the next day he completely cut me off and now it’s been over a month since we haven’t talked and I really miss him and I just kinda wanna start over with him but idk how to make the first move……
Mya

February 17, 2014 at 5:04 am

Hi Chris. Wondering if I have a chance because my ex has serious issues with conflict & tends to run away. He broke it off with me cause he said he was turned off due to our recent arguments & that it’s a switch within him that just turns him off & said he’s always been like that & that once this switch turns off he has never been able to turn his feelings back & that he usually just changes his number on girls when that happens. He didn’t change his number on me, but he did act very heartless during the breakup. It ended on a bad note & I never heard from him again & he blocked me from social networks. I did NC for 30 days and then I sent a text but he never replied. And advice or feedback would be appreciated.

admin

February 17, 2014 at 7:45 pm

Well, try again but this time with a better text.

Ange

February 16, 2014 at 11:53 pm

Three weeks ago after we met up, my ex said he thinks a lot about our break up and blames himself. I should have taken that opportunity to ask him what he blames himself for and what he would have done differently but I didn’t.

Now I’m trying to text him back. Is it weird to go from a nice “memories” text to a few days later asking him what he would have done differently? After all, the point of the text psychology is to make him think of positive messages right? I’m just so curious though.

admin

February 17, 2014 at 7:43 pm

I don’t think its weird at all.

Need Help

February 16, 2014 at 9:50 pm

My ex who initially said he wanted to marry me, broke up with me cause he thinks we argued too much & it turned him off to the relationship. he said i’m not “the one” & that it would never work out with us. He was cold, unapologetic & distant during the breakup too so I hung up on him. He immediately blocked me on facebook. We never spoke again but I really want to talk to him. I did NC for 30 days & did not hear from him. After 30 days NC I sent a friendly valentine’s day devotional to him since we’re both christians, he never responded. what should I do now?

admin

February 17, 2014 at 7:39 pm

Wait a few days and try with a much more compelling text

savannah

February 16, 2014 at 8:08 pm

So my boyfriend and I dated for almost a month and a half. Things were going so well, he is literally a male version of me personality wise. He told me all the time that I’m the best thing that ever happened to him and he didn’t know how he ended up with me, and that he was so lucky. Then one Friday he finally said he loved me when we hung out that night. That Sunday we spent all day at his house we had such a great day. After I left that night and had been home a few hours he said “we need to talk” of course I knew what was coming..Then he said “you’re too good for me” obviously I was confused and asked him what that was supposed to mean. He then said “I’ve stopped doing the things I enjoy because of you” I was so baffled and had no idea what he was talking about. It literally came out of no where. Then he finally said “I want to take a break.” What? I was calm and collected and didn’t go crazy on him but I still had no idea what brought this on. He later blocked me on Facebook and deleted any trace of us instagram. A day or two passed and he posted a picture of himself saying he didn’t use instagram as much anymore. That same day I put a Happy picture of my friends and I on instagram and a few days later he posted another picture saying he would no longer be using it. It’s been a week with NC. What is the deal?
Joy

February 16, 2014 at 12:43 pm

i drunked text what should i do? :(((

admin

February 16, 2014 at 6:33 pm

Don’t break NC again.
Joy

February 19, 2014 at 10:01 am

so i will count 30 days again?

mara

February 16, 2014 at 2:44 am

so my ex boyfriend who broke up with me (over 6 months ago) messaged me the other night….. asking if i was around…. and i told him i was, so he told me he would text me in 30. i got a text from him 30 min later saying to go to my mailbox, so i went and found roses and a card, and chocolates. I texted him saying thank you and then he never responded, since then he’s been silent, so i texted him today asking what that was all about and he said he just wanted to be nice. Why did he even do that if he has no intentions of being with me?

admin

February 16, 2014 at 6:15 pm

Wow, that was really nice of him.

Have you been able to reach him?

nisha

February 15, 2014 at 11:50 pm

My boyfriend and I agreed on breaking up, but it feels like he broke up with me. He said that he couldn’t forget about his last girlfriend so he didn’t want to continue the relationship; however, I feel like there’s more to it than that. All other reasoning and details aside, he broke up with me because he fell out of love with me. At least this is what I have concluded.

I want him back, and I want to have a conversation about the thoughts and concerns I have had about our relationship. How could I start this conversation? We are still talking, but I want to talk to him on a deeper level than just “this is what’s going on in my life.” What can I do without seeming needy or like I want to get our relationship back? Without repelling him away?
CaptainClueless

February 15, 2014 at 11:40 pm

I dated my ex man, who was in the service at the time. He was deployed shortly after we became serious. We chatted and kept in contact constantly. But he was always jealous out of fear. He never dated anyone while being in the service and I didn’t know how to handle it, nor did he. I couldn’t get why he didn’t trust my judgement and we began to fight over it. He was it. We planned a life together. It was beautiful. And we broke up over a year ago. I know that’s crazy. November of 2012. We began to talk every now and again, neither of us have moved on. I was the first person he ever loved. He became apparently according to himself and his best friend very angry and standoffish. Very stoic. I just have can’t seem to move on, I’ve tried. A crazy obsessive boy hacked my Facebook and put us in a relationship, that I discovered and put down mere hours later. He saw it tho and grew distressed over Facebook. The whole “be happy with your life and bye forever” type of thing. I quickly and vaguely informed him. We now talk periodically, he’s very angry and no longer optimistic. But when we talk we obviously click. And he understands that. “It’s like nothing has changed.” Then he will grow scared and formal at the end. When obviously the answer to both of our situations is to understand that we didn’t know how to handle it and to try again differently. I love him so much. But sometimes I write and he doesn’t right back. I just want us to be happy again. And I have no clue how to talk about it with him. Or anything.
Help, please?

admin

February 16, 2014 at 6:14 pm

Wait, are you serious some guy hacked your facebook.

Heartbroken Girl

February 15, 2014 at 6:22 am

Great site, please help me. My boyfriend & I were together about 4 months, he broke up with me exactly a month ago, no contact since the breakup. When we were together he would constantly say he wanted to marry me although I don’t believe he loved me, he never said he did & I’m not sure if he’s ever been in love cause one time I asked him & he acted like he wasn’t sure if he had been. He’s 33. We had a lot of chemistry, we had the same goals & both serious about our christian faith which is important to both of us. We even discussed getting married this august. Then he just completely switched up
during the last month, starting acting different towards me & when I confronted him he said he needed a break. He said it was cause we had been arguing & he said he can’t deal with conflict & that it’s like a switch that just turns him off to the relationship & that he tends to change his number on girls due to that. At first he said he was gonna try to work it out with me but then he just started playing a lot of games with me for about 2 weeks & eventually said he knows its not gonna work out & that i’m just gonna get hurt if we try to make it work. I fought to work it out but i think it just pushed him further away. He became really cold & distant towards me. He believes when you’re with the right person the relationship will be completely effortless & since we had some disagreements he said
a marriage wouldn’t work between us & that i’m the wrong person for him. He thought we argued too much & although we did argue, it was not excessive (although to him it was cause he has a real issue with conflict). We never even fought when we were together, just on the phone sometimes. Funny thing is he hates conflict but he honestly started a lot
of it cause he has a lot of quirks & needs things his way & doesn’t like to compromise so it did create issues here & there, but i compromised with him & was really good to him, but now he only sees the arguments. He would use his past relationship as an example cause they never fought, though she cheated on him the whole time they were together, smh. He was also constantly listening to his divorced friends who would give him bad advice & he would believe it cause he has really strong fears of having a miserable marriage & it ending in divorce & he tends to overthink things a lot. Anyways, fast forward to the breakup: he said he wanted to make it work & then the next day he switched again & said there’s no point making it work cause he knows it’s not gonna work out & that i’m just gonna get hurt. I asked him why he kept saying i would get hurt & asked if he was going to cheat to which he replied “i don’t know” which was a huge blow to me, cause he used to say he would never cheat & that he isn’t like that. I realized that moment I had to stop trying to fight for the relationship cause it was truly over, he didn’t want me anymore. He was so different from the man I fell for, he was so cold, cruel, & heartless towards me during that convo so I broke down crying, told him off & hung up. He immediately went & blocked me from facebook, so then I sent him a long text that night telling him off
some more. He never responded but unblocked me from fb the next day & disabled friend requests (not that i would send him one). I looked at his facebook recently & by the looks of his posts he seems very happy & carefree, like I never mattered. He even posted shortly after we broke up a snarky comment that when you’re with the right person being happy together is effortless. It hurts cause I thought we were happy until he switched up. Anyway, whether it was meant to be or not, I still didn’t deserve to be treated that way & don’t understand why he was like that with me. He acts like I meant nothing to him. I have a lot of pain as to the way he ended things. I have strong feelings for him though I’m not sure i want to get back with him or if that’s even possible cause he seems very firm & sure of his decision. But either way I do want to make amends & gain some sort of closure & maybe even become friends. He is the first man I have truly opened my heart to in years & he knows that yet he betrayed my trust & doesn’t even care that he broke my heart. Oh & he broke up with me 2 days before my birthday too & never
reached out for that either! He went from wanting me to be his wife to throwing me away like a piece of trash & not looking back and I don’t understand. I honestly did nothin to deserve that & hate that things ended on such a sour note. I never heard from him since then & nor have i reached out until now, 30 days later. Since our 30 days landed on valentine’s day I sent a casual text to all of my friends, including him, with a valentine’s day devotional. He didn’t respond & that really crushed me. What do I do? I really want to speak with him, but it seems I am nothing to him. Even if he was honest about the arguments driving him away, how can all of his feelings just switch off for me? He doesn’t seem to care at all. We went from talking every single day for hours to no contact & it doesn’t seem to effect him in the slightest way. And why did he have to be so cruel during the breakup? It makes me question if his feelings were ever genuine. Please give me feedback/advice. And please tell me what to do since he hasn’t responded to my text. I am deeply hurting & want to speak with him. Thank you.

admin

February 15, 2014 at 6:21 pm

How long have you been in NC?
Heartbroken Girl

February 15, 2014 at 7:35 pm

30 days exactly, then i sent that text. what do i do?

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