Exactly How To Use Text Messages To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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confused

January 10, 2014 at 11:24 pm

I am so confused and hurt at this moment, i met this man online, he is quiet older than i am, im 40 he is 61, but he acted so much younger. We talked for 4 months and it was amazing, i love him so much and he said he still cared alot for me. I went to visit him for a week the first days were great, but hes a work a holic and was bothered by the fact he couldnt work as much as he would like. This took a toll on us because i was confused as to why he was acting weird. When i got home he got really weird..Couple days later he left me an email saying that he needed to live alone, he isnt relationship friendly and although he cared alot for me he didnt want to be in a relationship, it made him feel like his work was slacking and he didnt like feeling like a bum. I miss him so much. He has had bad experiences with women, but we connected on a level that noone else could compare too. I was angry, we didnt fight leading up to the break up, i never saw it coming. Im hurt and confused and very angry, i sent several text first begging him to give it another chance, then i was mad and saying i would never speak to him again, then again telling him we could work it out… Did i ruin my chances of getting him back… Please help im so lost:(
jessie

January 10, 2014 at 6:09 pm

Hello my name is Jessie i am 21yrs old and my.husband…ex.husband is 23..we broke it off almost two months ago we’ve been together for 7 years and we have two kids and a baby on the way…we have our trust issues because we’ve both had cheated on eachother N i was the last one to do it so we split up because of it in November..i moved 4 hours away with our kids to my moms till i get on my feet since he won’t help anyways… he kept telling me “were working on ourselfs then hopefully in the future we can be together” come to find out. A few days ago he has a girlfriend…i want my family back together but he seems to b into the new girl right now I went down to his place to talk to him about “us” but he wouldn’t give us a shot N that’s when I found out he had her but they had broken up bcuz she found out i was there N once i left two days later they got back together….and he ignores me most days i try txting him but that always fails…anyways what should I do…..
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admin

January 11, 2014 at 2:19 am

Wait is he dating someone else?

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bella

January 10, 2014 at 3:11 pm

My name is bella and is desperately in need of help.
Me and my ex is in a pause and he says he is not sure how strong feelings he has for me.
We have been in a break in two and a half months now. The first month we were seen 2 times a week to talk to us about our feelings. Then 3 weeks ago I determined that we break the connector, however, I find it hard to stop emailing him.
The last email I got from him so he wrote “Relationship is nothing he feels strongly at the moment, if he does not know anything about 2-3 weeks so there is nothing that can change it.

What does he mean by that?
He said before that he cares very much about me and has feelings for me. But he does not know if they are strong enough for a relationship

Why we broke up and then took a break, was because I had made the mistake. Had lied, too strong confirmation needs (which I have under control now with the help of therapy), and met a male friend behind his back. We did nothing but only drank coffee and told him I have a boyfriend.
But he has said he has forgiven me and he knows I will not do it again ..

Please help me to decipher his strange message, my hope begins to die out

admin

January 11, 2014 at 2:07 am

What message? I am confused?

Koko

January 10, 2014 at 2:57 am

Hi. Me and my bf have met via dating website. My ex has broke my heart into million pieces and that why I sign up with dating web at the very first time, to keep myself busy and gain more confident. And it works! I found myself in love with this bf. he is so loving and caring but there are few things that I feel is lacking which are he is a big drinker( and I can’t really accept it) and yet he couldn’t satisfy me on bed. Fews months after I get together with him, my ex has contacted me back. I was so strong at the first place, I cut my ex off. But on Christmas break up my bf got really wasted till 10 am. I got really upset with him and thought we wouldn’t make together anymore. So I catch up with my ex and cheated on my bf. I felt so guilty after. I wasn’t plan to get back with either of them but my current bf start to become sweet man than ever. This made me keep the guilt with me and promise to myself that I won’t do it again. But he found out a week later Christmas and he decides to break it off. I gave he a space for couple days then I went to see him at his house… He still look so hurt and say he doesn’t wanna see or hear from me again. Yet telling me that if he is ever accept to what I have done, he will call me. I’m now on NC rule. After 30 days I’m planning to text him. Do you think 30 days is enough? And what to do after texting? Will he still want me back?

admin

January 11, 2014 at 1:31 am

I sure do. Trust me 30 days can be like an eternity.

mo

January 9, 2014 at 12:34 am

So my ex and I have been over for about a month and a half now and we have been talking everyday since the break up in Nov….around that time he said he needed some time to think things through but I pushed the issue and he said his mind is made up because I pushed the issue…then on top of that we spent new years eve ogether for my bday and stayed at a hotel for a few days and he payed for everything including the new years eve event tickets so do you think this method will still work but before he claimed he wanted to break up I broke up with him a few times so is there still hope

admin

January 10, 2014 at 1:16 am

Of course there is.

anonymous

January 8, 2014 at 9:16 pm

Hi! I have been trying to follow each of your guidelines and steps but have a hard time applying them myself. I’m sure you get tons of email/questions daily but what would be the best way to get one on one personal advice from you?

admin

January 10, 2014 at 1:13 am

Really the comments section here is the best. I get so much though that it can be overwhelming for me at times.

anon

January 8, 2014 at 3:52 pm

What do you do if you mess up. The first time I talked to my ex after NC we had an amazing convo that lasted a day basically where he really opened up. Second time he was a lot colder and I didn’t even get a chance to end the convo because he stopped answering. I feel like I messed up everything. How long should I wait and what type of text should I send next?
Amy

January 8, 2014 at 3:03 am

I stumbled on this site and I want to try get my BF back. Here is the situation in a nutshell. He was my HS sweetheart, fast forward 20+ years. He and I have been through 2 divorced and he has been separated for 6 months, trying to get a divorce but his estranged wife is being difficult. Because of family issues, with his estranged, he moved back in with her three weeks ago knowing that he was still divorcing her. New Year’s Eve I was lonely, depressed, in need of company and I texted an ex. I had no intention of really going to see him. I just didn’t want to be alone. He had plans and suggested we get together the next night. He texted me the following day and asked if I wanted to get together. I told him no. This past weekend my BF left his estranged wife and came back to me. He went through my phone and found the texts between me and my ex. He got mad, said he would never trust again. I have tried to tell him I was in a bad place and I regretted my actions. He and I still talk via email, text, and on the phone about his impending divorce, but he always throws up the fact that he will never trust anyone again. My questions are #1 – will the NC work in this case? #2 – is there any possible hope in this? #3 – after 30 days of NC, what do I say to him? Thank you in advance for your comments. I love him so much. I know I screwed up. I want to make it right with him and build a future.

admin

January 8, 2014 at 6:26 pm

NC will work.

There is hope but that doesn’t mean things will be easy.

Have you read any of the major guides on this site?
Amy

January 9, 2014 at 4:49 am

Thank you for your response. I tried the NC today, but he initiated texts this morning, emails during the day, and a phone call this evening. I tried not to respond, but he is persistent. How do I follow through with NC without making him mad or hurting any change of a reconciliation? Thank you.

Josie

January 8, 2014 at 2:02 am

So I totally understand the no contact rule, but here’s a game switcher for you… My bf (currently ex) and I have a 7 month old daughter.. I can’t really use the no contact rule considering there is a child involved…. He loves his daughter and drops by almost daily after work to see her…. How can I try to win him over if I have no choice but to see and talk to him almost daily? But wait, there’s more… Here’s another curveball. He came over last night and we ended up well… Kissing. He’s a very passionate kisser and he hasn’t kissed me like that since we started dating 2 years ago… Then when I asked him what this means… He replies with “things are to complicated to get back together right now” …. Is he using me for comfort and making me stick around by making me fall inlove with him all over again?, or is he actually sincere?. I had asked if the kiss had meant anything… He said it had and he really missed it but, If that’s the case why is he still pulling away from me? Help!.

admin

January 8, 2014 at 6:23 pm

I think he is using you for comfort. And that kiss probably meant something and confused him a bit.

Hannah

January 7, 2014 at 10:02 pm

Me and my ex havent spoke for 5 weeks now and I bumped into him accidently today but he ignored me completely like he didn’t even know me so I carried on walking down the street turned around and saw him walking behind me but I carried on walking then checked back again and he was running back away from me, I’m confused I want him back but I don’t understand what he is doing
Rebecca

January 7, 2014 at 7:37 pm

This website is great, I really needed a mans perspective. My bf broke up with me because I said something very stupid about an ex and then when my bf said “I don’t want to talk to you right now” I called him repeatedly. I got angry that I wasn’t able to explain myself or appologise. So he has left me. This seems to be more common than I thought but my question is if a guy really loves a girl then why do they leave and why do we have to try to get them back? My bf said he cant have a relatonship and needs to be on his own but I am the only girl he has ever loved. I said I would wait for him. The next day I felt like he was taking advantage so i wrote to him and said I will not be waiting and that we aren’t going to stay friends and i’m not going to speak to him again and told him not to contact me. I also was then still so angry today that I messaged him saying that he’s full of BS and that I know he loves me but is just scared like a little boy. He saw the message but didn’t reply. So I am now going to not contact him for ages. I think he is in the wrong but maybe it is me then? It seems like this is how a lot of guys would react?

admin

January 8, 2014 at 6:15 pm

Well, you basically turned into what I like to call a text gnat and most guys don’t respond positively to text gnats.

Claire

January 6, 2014 at 7:47 am

Okay, so my ex boyfriend and I broke up 27th dec 2013 and I have just recently started the no contact rule starting since yesterday 05/01/2014 and today is the 6th. I found his flirty messages to a girl via facebook and he ends up telling me he has lost feelings for me and says he needs afew months break but when we meet up for the last time (28/12/2013) he started to get teary eyes and I said why are you crying? He responded with because this is the last time i’ll ever see you but later on he then says we should stay friends? I agreed to it though its hard to stay friends when im still inlove with him which is why I have chosen to do this because it causes conflicts between our different feelings and he doesnt reply as often which made me frustrated. But I need to ask one question…. Will he forget about me during the NC rule??? And do you think his feelings will grow when I start texting him again?
henna

January 2, 2014 at 11:17 pm

Hey ..what if the NC.was more than one month ?I have been on the NC.for 5 weeks,I don’t feel like want to talk to him since he was not nice to me when we broke ..But I miss him and want him back .

admin

January 3, 2014 at 7:50 pm

Thats fine.
henna

January 5, 2014 at 1:38 am

how long the maximum period for NC can be ?before he starts moving on me completely ?
admin

January 5, 2014 at 7:59 pm

I usually recommend 30 days but I would say 90 days is the longest I would take it.

Rachel

January 2, 2014 at 2:35 am

Hey,
So I’ve been on and off with this guy for two years now and we made it official in October. There was a fairly large complication recently and now we aren’t talking. Someone I had a thing with in the past, came back to town to visit family and friends. I’m still close with him and I asked my boyfriend if I could see him and he said yes. Then he went on saying how I must have feelings for this other guy. Stupidly, I said that he was correct. I don’t have feelings for this other guy though and I just missed him for leaving town. My boyfriend broke up with me then, saying that he can’t be with someone who has feelings for another person. He said we were okay and we could be friends but later in the week he said he didn’t care if we talked. I haven’t talked to him since Christmas Eve and I miss him. I want to prove to him how much he means to me and that he’s the only one but it’s difficult because he is really hurt by what happened. I’m not sure how to fix this. Any ideas?

admin

January 2, 2014 at 6:33 pm

Have you attempted NC lately?
Rachel

January 2, 2014 at 11:37 pm

Yeah. I haven’t talked to him for about a week now. I’m planning on keeping the NC facade up until the beginning of February maybe?

Liz

January 1, 2014 at 6:23 pm

Hey the situation I’m in is kinda complicated but me and this guy started talking and everything was good and I liked him a lot, we live an hour away so we took turns driving to each other’s houses to see each other but after about two week of talking, he started to txt me less, he’s a very busy man I I was patient and understanding with that and he seemed to like that a lot, he would every now and then apologize if he was pushing me away and sadly he was but I still wanted to make it work, well we talked for a month and he came down and asked me to date him that he had feelings for me and I had feelings for him so I said yes, two weeks later I went to his house and we ride back raids with his friends and I went to a party with him at his aunts house, he justify me there and I didn’t know anybody so when we left I was short an would talk to him, he knew I was upset and we talked about it and I told him how it was, I wasn’t going to sit around and just follow you like a puppy and just wanted him to show some effort like hey babe come with me in here, but he just said I’ll learn. He said he shouldn’t have to put in effort to make me fall inlove with him which there were moments I could say I was but I kept a wall up so I wouldn’t get hurt so bad but anyway tht next morning, he was acting weird and when I went home he would txt me and I finally said what’s wrong with you and he said a lot and I replied shutting me out doesn’t help and then that’s when he broke up with me, I’m so confused cause he has a younger sister and she told me how much he likede and didn’t want to ruin what we had going on, but when he broke up with me he said ” you know what we are done something is just not right and I’m not going to lead you on” and that was that, I didn’t call him crying or anything but I wanted an hour to txt back and just said I don’t know what you mean and that I know I tryed. It’s been a week and I haven’t txted or called him at all. So I just wanted to know if there was a chance to fix this cause I’ll be honest I wasn’t really that open to him only cause I was afrade of getting hurt. But could you tell me what might have been going through his head and what should I do
Allyssa

December 31, 2013 at 4:54 pm

I am going through a break up right now where I moved with my ex of 2 years to Florida and we live together. We were arguing a lot and then out of no where he wanted a break. I was so upset crying and begging. And then I had a feeling there was another girl..We still live together mind you, and I went through his Verizon account and found texts telling this girl he loves her and shes amazing and during Christmas I went home to see my family. I found a naked picture of her in our bed. When he picked me up from the airport, we went and had dinner and drinks and he said all this BS to me, and we held each other and yadda yadda and I couldn’t hold it back and I showed him the picture. He has blamed me for this whole break up saying I pushed him away, that I’ve changed because I got a degree with my job and blah blah. I am moving out but until Feb. I cant. We fight and I still tell him I care and he admitted to me about the other girl but he says she moved away and he misses her and she treats him better…they’ve been talking for a month..we’ve been broken up a monthish…im 26 he’s 25 she’s 20…Im pretty hurt and I’ve told him that what he did bringing her to our apartment was really screwed up and he has no remorse…and I said some angry words and so did he…I know I have to move on, because he’s done some shit before but he blames me for everything saying I pushed him away.. I didn’t give him much space when he asked for it because I was hurt and we live in a 1 bedroom apartment…We have a dog together and we agreed he will keep him. Do you think he will realize, when I move out, what he’s lost once I do this No Contact and completely disappear?
Alexandra

December 30, 2013 at 8:42 pm

Hi Chris,

I love your page, is amazing. Ok here is my situation. I was leaving with this guy we were always fighting, we had our good moments but we have alot of bad moment. He didnt trusted me and I didnt trusted him. Finally one day I got tired because he did something really mean the day of my birthday and I broke up with him kicking him out of my house, his mom was staying with us and she left too. It was bad. Two days later he text me that he forgot something at my house. We called me then and was really mad at me saying that it was wrong what I did, I dont think he realized that he did alot of bad things too. He told me he didnt want nothing to do with me or know anything about me. Two weeks later his mom moved back with me, her and I are friends.Than He texted me one day asking for something he left at my house, we both have alot of pride, I told him give me your frineds address and I will mail it to you, he didnt answer. 4 days later I changed my mind and texted him saying when your passing by the house let me know and I will have your stuff ready. He answer with a ok. Two weeks after that I texted him telling him to keep an eye on his mom that I’ve notice that shes was a little sad, also told him that I knew he was probably mad she was staying with me but I was just trying to help her, no answer. Last week was his birthday I texted him saying happy birthday and merry christma, and no answer. This was all before I was able to read your site. Also I know his mom probably tells him everything I do, and I went out with her the other day to party so I dont know if his mad at that too, the other day he also came to my house to pick something up from his mom when I wasnt home. Since his nt the typical guy he has so much pride,I’m not even sure if I still have a chance to fix things. He has alot of pride and I dont know if he would ever get back with me. Any advice on what should I do?? Thank you in advance

admin

January 1, 2014 at 10:38 pm

Thanks for your kind words.

Whenever your texting him make sure it is after a NC period. Also, be thinking “how can I leave him wanting more?”

Samantha

December 30, 2013 at 4:50 pm

I have brockup wth ma boyfriend on the 28th of december. we have been together for 4 years.and now he told me that he does not love me anymore he did not tell me why but i think is becouse he is dating someoene else who is better than me and we started dating while i was at high school now dat he is working he has compeletely changed.a miss him very mch..maybe he is cheatig because of the long distance
chrissie

December 30, 2013 at 3:42 pm

I have a short question :
Should I ignore him after we both broke up because of me hurting his feelings because of a lie? He was very angry at me but now he’s asking me if “i’m still thinking about him..cause he is still thinking about me every second”
Don’t text him back or text him a short reminder im also thinking about him?
Thx 🙂

vicky

January 2, 2014 at 2:07 am

yesss if he is thinking about you then yes i had that same bullshit my boyfriend text me but you have to think do u want him back if you dont then hes bullshit if you do then yull meant to be now dont take it easy list out all the bad things youll have had and all the good if the good beats the bad u know its meant t be hope this helps goodluck

Sandra

December 28, 2013 at 4:34 pm

Thanx Melanie I finally put ny foot down n left .he’s been calling and I have no interest in picking up.

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