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Kelly
December 28, 2013 at 3:41 am
Hi my ex boyfriend and I are now on talking terms (his idea- he told me he agrees that I deserve the respect for us to talk a few times a week and we could let things flow and see where things go for us in the near future) but he is giving me mixed signals. He’s much more friendly now but sometimes he takes 3 days to respond and next minute he’s super friendly and joking with me and agreeing with me that we wanna talk and see if we could get back together. We were together for 2 years and broke up a month ago. What do you think? Do I have a chance still or what do you suggest? You have given me amazing advice before and reading your articles has helped me in toning down my responses and I am trying to take things slow but I hate these mixed signals , I just want him to be straight with me on what he wants. I miss him and want him back.
admin
December 28, 2013 at 7:52 pm
Glad you are on talking terms.
I think you have a chance.
Kelly
December 28, 2013 at 9:53 pm
What about the mixed signals?
Sandra
December 26, 2013 at 1:43 pm
Hi I was with my ex for 9 yrs and have 2 two with him the problem im having is he says he loves me but not in love . We talk ans sometimes.txt but it’s very brief and short.
He’s in a New relationship and continues to go back and forth all the time .
What can I do to get him to.come back
Melanie
December 27, 2013 at 5:16 pm
I say move on! If this guy has not cherished 9 years with you and two kids he never will! You have to value yourself as a person and love you and your kids enough to stop him from going back and forth, the reason he is walking all over you is because you allow him to. Focus on your self esteem and your children never settle and always strive for the best things in life! Remember love does not hurt
Emily
December 25, 2013 at 10:07 pm
Hello Chris. Me and my boyfriend broke up at July and I have been doing the NC rule for about three weeks and he was the first one who tried to contact me. So ever since that time I have been takling to him(not too much though)and I just wanted to let you know that yesterday he called me and said he took me for granted without supporting me emotionally and blah blah blah. At the end he really wanted to get back together and I had the courage to reject him. We didn’t get back together but this is such a happy ending for me. I no longer care about him and don’t feel anything when anyone mentions him. I feel like I’m free from his chains. The first week when we broke up, I was such a mess while he was out there enjoying his free life with other girls. But now it’s the other way around. Reading all of your guides were super helpful and I got to understand the male point of view. So thank you Chris. I wish the best of you 😀
admin
December 26, 2013 at 6:16 pm
Aww!
I hope you really did get something out of this.
Emily
December 27, 2013 at 6:40 am
I have learned alot from this acutally. After I have sucessfully completed the NC rule(it was hard though) he was the one who chased after me and ever since that day I had total control over him. You were absolutely right about guys wanting what they can’t have. It felt great to see him begging because that’s how I was when we broke up.. While I was on the NC rule, I spent alot of time with my friends and family and they were the ones who told me how he wasn’t worth it and I deserved better. And because of spending so much time with them, I finally got that fact through my brain and realized I don’t want to waste my time on him anymore. I can’t be any happier right now. I’m free from him 🙂
admin
December 27, 2013 at 7:35 pm
YAY FREEEE!
Patti
December 23, 2013 at 4:08 pm
I have a unique situation. My ex and I broke up, I just found out for sure last night that he was at the very least emotionally cheating on with a girl we work with. We all used to work at the same hospital. She has resigned because otherwise she would have been fired for patient abandonment and sleeping on the job. I have been off from work since February due to an injury. So this relationship started during the time I have been off from work. I have had literally no contact with him since September 11, up until a couple of days ago. The girl he is with created a fake facebook account and messaged me asking about my relationship with him. I know it was her because she used her first name and the city she lives in was posted. She used a different last name but I still know it was her because, the first name, city and subject matter. I should also tell you that nobody knew for certain that we were dating at all from work, we were together a year and a half. I sent him the message and asked him about it. He said it was creepy, I said yes I agree. He pretended not to know who was texting him, he denied even knowing a “Nancy”, I like really? Even the one that lives in such and such on this street? You don’t know her? No response. Then the next day she Tango’d a pic of the 2 of them with another guy to me with the caption “happy, happy, happy”. So again, I sent the pic to him saying is this the “Nancy” that you don’t know? Nothing again. Why the hell is this chick doing this? We were friendly before, but now I think she is trying to rattle my cage. What is she trying to do and am I going about it all wrong?
Patti
kirin
December 23, 2013 at 2:16 am
So my boyfriend just broke up with me after we were togather for a year and 9 months so I came out of knowhere I thought we were good bit he said that he felt like it was a friendship and didn’t feel the connection but he said he cares for me still anf stuff and he wants to be friends and me being stupid I sorta agreed he wants to see if he can maybe find that connection again and I was willing but I know that if we be friends he is going to be like ” were good as friends so we should stay freinds ” and then he moves on but I don’t want that to happen and its sorta hard to do your nc rule when you he is friends with my friends and we have 2 weeks off right now but when we get back to school were gunna have like 5 classes togather I don’t wanna lose him he was my first for everything and my everything and I don’t know what to do he was my other half without him im not me I feel akward walking around my school with out him. It sucks cause this time last year we were all lovey dovey. Its suck that he did it right before the holidays and my birthday just makes me super depressed and I would do anything to have him back in my life. I will wait for him but I know I won’t be able to wait for foever.
admin
December 23, 2013 at 8:14 pm
Are you going to attempted the NC rule?
kirin
December 26, 2013 at 10:03 am
Yea I’ve already started
Sarah
December 22, 2013 at 10:06 pm
My ex and I broke up Jan this year because of long distance. Went NC for four months until I broke and asked him how he is. Got back together for 2 until he told me he couldn’t give me what I want because he’s too young for a serious relationship. He wanted to sort his life out first (we’re 21).
Went NC for a few weeks until I wished him a happy birthday. Went NC again for about a month and a half until he messaged me on our religious holiday. Then we had a tiny conversation. I didn’t reply to his last message and went NC again. It’s been about three/four months.
I want him back again.. so much. i don’t know what to do. I’m tempted to send him an ’emotional text’ even tho you said it’s not the best idea. I really have no idea what to do :. I don’t know if there’s any hope whatever I do…
admin
December 23, 2013 at 8:01 pm
Emotional texts can work but only if you are on a level where he will respond positively to it. I don’t think in your case you two have reached that level yet.
Sarah
December 24, 2013 at 1:50 am
Thanks for the reply!
How do we reach that level?
admin
December 24, 2013 at 6:46 pm
Have you had any really gripping conversations yet?
Sarah
December 25, 2013 at 9:29 am
No. We haven’t really been in touch. Just those two times I detailed. I guess because I don’t bother continuing the conversation. I hate when he speaks to me like we don’t know each other. So I just didn’t bother. Felt like what’s the point.
He hasn’t been in touch since either so perhaps he’s just forgotten about me… Should I get in touch?
admin
December 26, 2013 at 5:56 pm
I think you should.
Sarah
January 1, 2014 at 4:39 pm
So I did.
And we had a really nice conversation actually that lasted from Christmas to NYE. We had a really deep conversation and it was great… NYE I apologised for being a cow to him just before we split. We had a joke about it… then he randomly called me quarter to midnight because his friend had popped to the bathroom and he had a spare two minutes. It was a short conversation but it was fine. Then he messaged me a generic NY text… and I just said to him ‘let’s snapchat…’ and he turned cold and declined.. and so I said okay suit yourself.. and he just turned completely cold… He just responded with a two word message and I haven’t replied.
I have no idea what happened?!
Scarlett Bermudez
December 22, 2013 at 8:50 pm
So me and my ex broke up because of so many drama at my school especially my best friend told my ex bf I cheated on him which it wasn’t true people told me that he was so heartbroken and I try to fix it but I text him only 3 times btw that was on between September to October we’ll yeah he had a gf on October 31 which my ex best friend told him that he needed to move on which I was so mad at her and she say she didn’t meant to say anything about it that I cheated which is not true so since I tried to tell him that I would never do that to him and I did the nc rule so after that pass I text him and he seem very calm what should I do next?
admin
December 23, 2013 at 7:53 pm
Were you able to successfully complete the NC rule?
anna
December 22, 2013 at 3:05 am
Me and my bf broke up 6 months ago, but im not over him. hes in love with this new girl. we talk everday on the phone and via text. he gives me mixed signals. and I ike this guy and he likes me but I told my ex that I didn’t know if I still liked him. and he said he doesn’t want me to be with the guy unti ik im over him. I was wondering what I should do? I know I stil love him but idk what else I can do,
admin
December 22, 2013 at 7:44 pm
Well, NC is usually ideal
Liz
December 22, 2013 at 1:49 am
My boyfriend and I just broke up after an inconsistent 3 year relationship. only 15, so I feel like I could be pushing it, but I really do see myself being with this kid. I know that he really does care for me, and has seen himself with me in the future. lately, all we do is argue (mainly because of trust issues), but I do it because I care! I feel like there’s a lack of communication and that fuels our arguements, as most of them take place over text messages. I don’t think it’s healthy that we fight so much, but I think that I care enough to pull through. after all, this could just be a rough patch? a test? we’re texting now, and he’s supposed to come over so we can talk.. I just don’t know if I’m making the right decision. should I give up or just let things die?
Abby
December 21, 2013 at 4:31 pm
My boyfriend and I would’ve turned 2 months next week. We had a really good relationship to begin with, he is everything that I want in a guy. He is so smart and motivated. We took finals this past week and he bombed one of his tests with an 82 but a semester average of 89, to him that is not acceptable. I can tell he took this very hard resulting in him breaking up with me because he believed he was getting distracted and then he claimed the relationship was dying itself, now I’m not sure if he meant that last part because he always says things he doesn’t mean just to get a reaction out of me then he later claims he was kidding and means the total opposite of what he says, besides that he said that we should take a full month of no communication and wait until we see eachother again while he gets all his stuff together and he said if we are still feeling it then we should get back together but if one of us is and the other isnt then not to bother because its pointless and we might hurt the other person I’m trying not to be sad and I don’t want to give my hopes up if things don’t go as I want. But I don’t want to wait a month just for him to say he doesn’t love me anymore, If anything I know I wont be over him in the next month. I’m only 16 but I really do love him and weve done things and said things that we have never done with anyone, I was his first I love you and first time for pretty much anything I just want to be with him, hes perfect and the idea of him with anyone else kills me
admin
December 22, 2013 at 2:33 am
Have you done NC yet?
Abby
December 22, 2013 at 6:36 am
I don’t fully understand what NC is but I’m hoping that if I did know it could probably help
admin
December 22, 2013 at 7:49 pm
https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-no-contact-rule/
Alyssa
December 20, 2013 at 2:46 am
I’d been with my ex for 2 years before (sorry for the shock, I’m pretty open about it) i was very close to being raped by a school teacher of mine. This has all been dealt with now but the problem is when it happened I don’t know what to do so I told 2 friends of mine. Turns out they didn’t like me very much and had a thing for my boyfriend (which I didn’t know till recently) and they told him I cheated on him. When I managed to tell him the truth he didn’t believe me as he is very good friends with these girls and refuses to believe otherwise (he is pretty easily manipulated as he WANTS to believe the best in people) it’s been 6 months and of course when we broke up I was texting and calling him trying to get him back and it didn’t work (obviously) so it’s probably been about 4 months since we actually last had some ‘words’ said between us. I sometimes will see him
Around when I’m out with friends since we have some of the same friends. My friends immaturely (seeing how depressed I was) tried texting him without me even knowing. He didn’t reply to any of them and he’s blocked me on Facebook. I think I will do the NC starting AGAIN today but this time not even talking about him or anything. Is this the best thing to do? Then after a whole month start doing the texting thing? I’m definitely buying this program! I really appreciate your help. It’s actually the most helpful thing I’ve found in 6 months!
admin
December 21, 2013 at 3:29 am
I think NC is ideal for you absolutely!
But I want you to do something for me. Don’t use this NC to focus on him. Use it to focus on YOU!
Alyssa
December 20, 2013 at 2:59 am
P.S sorry for the long comment haha. I’m working extra hard because I know in my heart that we’re meant to be together even if it means being apart for a little while. I hope I’m doing the right thing. I’m 17 by the way.
Laura Sofia
December 18, 2013 at 11:50 pm
Hey…and thank you for taking time to write all this and comment..really appreciate it.
I ve known my husband since we were 17 yrs old wd met on the net we come from diff.countries anz cultures but we fell madly in love and have ben married for 9 yrs we re both 31. We just had a son 1.5 month ago. During the last year he waz distant and not like himself bug i thouhht he had a depression and i tried everything..untill in aug 2013 pregnant in my 7th month i found oug he has an internet relationship with anoyher girl who lives far far away but thag he did actually a meet her in real life when he travelled alone in apr.2013… since then i m on a roller coaster ride…i cant believe that the love of my life my best friend would do something like this to me and to ouf then unborn child….so we re fightinc and not fighing all the time and he said the other day he might be in love with her az well…that cuts me like a knife..i couldn’t take it..we live separately for the moment i m back in my country….. i guess what i m asking really…is do u think i have a shot in winning/texting him back? …
admin
December 19, 2013 at 7:15 pm
Have you read my guide on getting your ex husband back?
Caitlin
December 18, 2013 at 9:14 am
My ex and I broke up two years ago after a eight year relationship. I always thought that by giving it time I would move on but no matter what I do I can’t fall out of love with him. Since the break up we have had a strange sort of relationship/friendship complete with fights, periods of no contact, hook ups, friendly conversations, new relationships. Currently we are actually in a good place in our friendship. We hang out all the time and we are closer than ever. I know I should be happy with how things are but I am still so in love with him and want to with him always. Recently he’s been spending close time with a new girl and it is breaking my heart to hear him talk about it but I’m terrified if I say anything it will scare him away or he will think I’m to emotional or whatever. I know it sound like I’m a typical ex but we were together so long and have so many great times together that I can’t bring myself to give up. My question is pretty much does my situation sound likea lost cause? Would your methods work after two years? Should I disappear with “no contact” for a month? Do you think I even have a shot to get the love of my life back?
admin
December 18, 2013 at 6:57 pm
I think you have a shot but it won’t be easy.
Caitlin
December 19, 2013 at 9:54 am
So should I proceed with nc even though we are friends that hang out?
admin
December 19, 2013 at 7:43 pm
Maybe LC..
Jessica
December 18, 2013 at 3:41 am
I was dating a guy for about a year and it seemed like a dead end relationship. We broke up and he came back a month and a hf later expressing his feelings to me that I’d never thought to see in a million years. I let him take me out and it was great. It was a wonderful night and brought me back to what I loved about him in the first place. Love was definitely in the air. However, soon he started going back to his old ways- not communicating, not including me in his life, making me feel last priority so I freaked out and sent him a really emotional text message about how I can’t do it anymore if this is how hell act again. NO RESPONSE what so ever. I feel like a fool and was so mad at myself for letting him in my life simply for him to pull this shit on me again. Anyways, next day I apologize for approach my frustration in the text message the way I had and all he says is “hey no problem”. I felt good for apologizing as it was out of character on my end but horrible with his response after I was being the bigger person. It truly felt like a slap to this face. So ok,
typing all this makes me realize how inconsiderate he is lol. It’s been about 2 weeks and he hasn’t reached out to me and I haven’t him, but say he does come back, should I use NC or just respond with my positive attitude to show him what he’s lost?
admin
December 18, 2013 at 6:40 pm
NC is what I vote.
Joe
December 17, 2013 at 3:07 pm
After 4 months of ignoring me/my apologies/and attempts to just be friends, the guy I had been seeing finally responded. He replied, “What’s up” I seen you called last night, I was sleep… I had a long day. How goes it” I responded and we just texted very general things how we are doing, how work was. He asked questions and kept the convo going. I was the last one to text and the whole exchange lasted about 3 hrs. What do I do now? I don’t want to mess it up. We live states away but I’m planning on moving back to where he is.
admin
December 17, 2013 at 7:09 pm
Well, Nc seems smart at this juncture.
Joe
December 17, 2013 at 3:09 pm
Sorry…my name is Jill! Stupid auto correct : )
admin
December 17, 2013 at 7:08 pm
I think im going to call you joe though 😉
Alisha
December 15, 2013 at 9:56 pm
So this is the imaginary conversation in my head.
I have a confession
*wait for response*
I know you told me to never talk to you again but I have to tell you that this past month has literally been hell for me. Anthony when we first met I never thought you would become such I huge part of my life. I love you with my entire heart and not having you in my life kills me more and more everyday. Anthony you are my world. I have had a lot of time to think about what I have done and I know I messed everything up big time. And I can say with 100% confidence that I will NEVER mess up again. Anthony you are my second half and I love you more than you know I need you in my life. If you were to give me another chance so I can prove to you that I really have changed there is nothing for you to lose. I know you don’t love me anymore but I want to change that forever.
*wait for response*
Okay goodbye
admin
December 16, 2013 at 6:26 pm
…. that is way too long of a text. Way too emotional. It needs to be less… emotional if that makes any sense.
Sara
December 14, 2013 at 1:42 am
Can u please email me? I really don’t want to talk about the problem here… Thank you!
admin
December 14, 2013 at 10:24 pm
I am sorry but I no longer answer emails.. it was taking too much a strain on my time. I am strictly answering comments now…
mitch refil
December 13, 2013 at 9:29 pm
we broke up last week and he said to me this is our last break up and he would never comeback to me again and he said he want to go back to her x girlfriend…what should i do??i cant use nc for 30days coz this girl also told me that she can do everything to comeback my x to her….im scared and i dont know what should i do i love him but im shy to call or to txt him again coz i know he would ignore it..
admin
December 14, 2013 at 9:59 pm
Why are you shy about it?
Ky
December 12, 2013 at 10:03 pm
I had been seeing this guy for 3 months when he finally decided to tell me that he wasn’t in the place for a serious relationship because he was too busy with work. Things had been going really well up until that point and our best friends are still seeing eachother. It has been a month and a half since he broke things off, and i have found myself missing him alot lately. I dont know how to address him now that I want to speak again. Help.
admin
December 13, 2013 at 7:13 pm
Well, I assume you have been in NC throughout this whole point?
Anna
December 12, 2013 at 4:38 am
We all have that first love that we can’t get over will me and my ex ended on a bad note 2 years ago and as soon as we ended he stated dating a new girl almost for a year. Then after they broke up he’s been texting me every now and then but whenever he texts me it turns into a really boring conversation with him replying “yeah” or “yup” leaving me trying to continue the conversation. Which later leads to him wanting to talk sexually later in text but if I say no he’ll go back to “yup” It gets annoying iv asked him before if he would like to get together but he only replies he think he does which I don’t get. but I want to try to work out again with him. What should I do?
admin
December 12, 2013 at 7:16 pm
When was the last time you talked to him?